1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,000 How important is it to have friendliness between the couple in a marriage? 2 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,000 It's very nice to see that picture over there. 3 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:13,000 It's amazing how much we show to the camera as our smiles 4 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:18,000 and what goes on behind the closed doors is a completely different picture. 5 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:24,000 So it's useful and it is wise to take some counsel from the ancient Vedas 6 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:27,000 and see where they go with this kind of concept. 7 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:31,000 And what's the difference between friendliness and love? 8 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:35,000 We shall see this with a good case study towards the end of this. 9 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,000 But first let's examine the principles of Graha-Maitri. 10 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:41,000 So what does Graha-Maitri mean here? 11 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:47,000 The principle of Graha-Maitri is to evaluate the level of friendship 12 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:52,000 and harmony between the moon signs of the two individuals. 13 00:00:52,000 --> 00:01:01,000 Graha means planets in Sanskrit and Maitri means loving kindness or benevolence or friendliness. 14 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:06,000 So it's the friendship factor between the couple going forward in marriage. 15 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:14,000 The moon sign reflects the person's emotional nature, personality and overall compatibility with the partner. 16 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:17,000 The compatibility of the moon signs is important 17 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:22,000 and it reflects the level of emotional understanding and harmony between two individuals. 18 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:27,000 Well, this is what we need going for a long lasting happy marriage, isn't it? 19 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:29,000 That's what everybody looks for. 20 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:33,000 The compatibility between moon signs of the two individuals 21 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:37,000 is determined by the distance between them in the zodiac. 22 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:45,000 The principle of Graha-Maitri takes into consideration the large of the moon signs of the two individuals. 23 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:49,000 The relationship between the large of the moon signs is important 24 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:54,000 in determining the level of compatibility between the two individuals. 25 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:58,000 In Vedic astrology, each zodiac sign is ruled by a planet 26 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:02,000 and a position and strength of the ruling planet are all significant factors 27 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:07,000 in determining the overall compatibility between two individuals. 28 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:11,000 The relationship between the large of the moon signs of the two individuals 29 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:15,000 can either enhance or diminish the level of compatibility 30 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:18,000 indicated by the distance between the moon signs. 31 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,000 So what are we saying here? 32 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:27,000 Friendliness as per Vedic astrology is determined by what the planets are friendly with each other or not. 33 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:30,000 It might not even be you as the soul. 34 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:34,000 The soul has absolutely no preferences in the matter 35 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:39,000 but when you take form in this 3D world on this earth plane, 36 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:42,000 all these factors of the planets in the nakshatras 37 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:48,000 all seem to be giving a propensity, a sort of a leaning towards one kind of way. 38 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,000 I feel this kind of a thing is the right way. 39 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:53,000 I feel that kind of a thing is the right way. 40 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:58,000 And that creates the difference, the rub so to speak. 41 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:01,000 So now let's see how it is calculated. 42 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,000 Again, I have stuck in the chart there 43 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:09,000 ensuring the moon position and positions from the moon as it is studied just for reference sake. 44 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:12,000 So how is grahamayitri calculated? 45 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:21,000 If the moon signs are located 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th or 12th from each other, 46 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:25,000 they are considered to be friendly and 5 points are assigned. 47 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:30,000 If the moon signs are located 1st or 10th from each other, 48 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:35,000 they are considered to be unfriendly and 0 points are assigned. 49 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:41,000 If the moon signs are located 11th from each other, one point is assigned. 50 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:46,000 The presence of malefic planets such as Saturn, Mars or Rahu 51 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:51,000 in the 2nd, 4th, 7th, 8th or 12th house from the moon 52 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:56,000 can reduce the compatibility score by up to 2 points. 53 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:00,000 The presence of the benefit planets such as Jupiter or Venus 54 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:04,000 in the 2nd, 4th, 7th, 8th or 12th house from the moon 55 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:09,000 can enhance the compatibility score by up to 2 points. 56 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:15,000 The aspects of other planets on the moon signs can also modify the level of compatibility. 57 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:20,000 For example, if the moon sign receives a favorable aspect from the benefit planet, 58 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:25,000 it can enhance the score while a negative aspect from the malefic planet can reduce the score. 59 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:29,000 In Parasharalaite software, 60 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:33,000 Grammar 3 score is calculated placed on the placement from the moon 61 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:37,000 in the 12 houses like we saw before. 62 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:41,000 The software considers placement of the moon in the same house as a positive factor. 63 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:45,000 While placement of certain houses, just 6th and 8th and 12th 64 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:49,000 can reduce that compatibility score. 65 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:53,000 So we have the software, we don't have to go into detail calculations here. 66 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:57,000 It regulates everything for us. 67 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:01,000 Now let's see the curious case studies we were talking about. 68 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:05,000 This is case study number 1 where the Grammar 3 which is indicated in a rectangle there 69 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:09,000 is full 5 points. 70 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:13,000 So they are friendly to one another. 71 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:17,000 Their behavior towards one another behind closed doors is of a very friendly nature. 72 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:21,000 They are cooperative with one another. 73 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:25,000 They work out things together in a friendly manner. 74 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:29,000 But the same couple 75 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:33,000 we will examine a little more here. 76 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:37,000 The same couple Bhakut's score was 0. 77 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:41,000 So the love fades with time although they are very friendly in nature to one another. 78 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:45,000 So this begs the question what is more important to you in marriage? 79 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:49,000 Is the long term friendliness more important or should 80 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:53,000 the love be there? Because these two are separate. 81 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:57,000 As you can see these compatibility examines 82 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:01,000 different aspects. It does not put love and friendliness 83 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:05,000 in the same box. Yes, they are two separate aspects. 84 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:09,000 You can be friendly with each other and yet not have any love with each other. 85 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:13,000 You see that's the first point we see over there. 86 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:17,000 Let's see the second one. Now here in the second one 87 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:21,000 we see the grahamayi 3 score is very very less in this 88 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:25,000 couple's match. Out of 5 they only get 0.5. 89 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:29,000 So they are not very friendly with each other. And this the couple is always 90 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:33,000 getting on one another's nerves. They are constantly quarreling. 91 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:37,000 Although they don't have a Bhakut score they get full points. 92 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:41,000 So love is there. But these people are always fighting with each other. 93 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:45,000 Constantly arguing, having battles behind closed 94 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:49,000 doors. You see what I am saying. So grahamayi 3 95 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:53,000 gives a very important principle whether these couple will have 96 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:57,000 an argumentative and antagonistic approach towards one another. 97 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:01,000 Or are they going to be friendly with one another? 98 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:05,000 What's the point if you look at this scoring system? 99 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:09,000 What would be the point in having all the love in the world and no friendship 100 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:13,000 at all? This brings a very curious question 101 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:17,000 to evaluate, isn't it? For us when we look at relationships what are we trying 102 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:21,000 to accomplish? What is more important? You need to think of friendship 103 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:25,000 within a relationship and love within a relationship as 104 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:29,000 two separate aspects. Just think about it. Just 105 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:33,000 ponder about it to begin with. Because this is where the wisdom of 106 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:37,000 ancient Vedas is coming into picture. 107 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:41,000 What is friendliness and what is love? From a 108 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:45,000 secondary aspect, from a sociological perspective. 109 00:07:45,000 --> 00:08:13,000 In the next one we'll examine another deeper aspect meanwhile take care be safe.