How important is it to have friendliness between the couple in a marriage?
It's very nice to see that picture over there.
It's amazing how much we show to the camera as our smiles
and what goes on behind the closed doors is a completely different picture.
So it's useful and it is wise to take some counsel from the ancient Vedas
and see where they go with this kind of concept.
And what's the difference between friendliness and love?
We shall see this with a good case study towards the end of this.
But first let's examine the principles of Graha-Maitri.
So what does Graha-Maitri mean here?
The principle of Graha-Maitri is to evaluate the level of friendship
and harmony between the moon signs of the two individuals.
Graha means planets in Sanskrit and Maitri means loving kindness or benevolence or friendliness.
So it's the friendship factor between the couple going forward in marriage.
The moon sign reflects the person's emotional nature, personality and overall compatibility with the partner.
The compatibility of the moon signs is important
and it reflects the level of emotional understanding and harmony between two individuals.
Well, this is what we need going for a long lasting happy marriage, isn't it?
That's what everybody looks for.
The compatibility between moon signs of the two individuals
is determined by the distance between them in the zodiac.
The principle of Graha-Maitri takes into consideration the large of the moon signs of the two individuals.
The relationship between the large of the moon signs is important
in determining the level of compatibility between the two individuals.
In Vedic astrology, each zodiac sign is ruled by a planet
and a position and strength of the ruling planet are all significant factors
in determining the overall compatibility between two individuals.
The relationship between the large of the moon signs of the two individuals
can either enhance or diminish the level of compatibility
indicated by the distance between the moon signs.
So what are we saying here?
Friendliness as per Vedic astrology is determined by what the planets are friendly with each other or not.
It might not even be you as the soul.
The soul has absolutely no preferences in the matter
but when you take form in this 3D world on this earth plane,
all these factors of the planets in the nakshatras
all seem to be giving a propensity, a sort of a leaning towards one kind of way.
I feel this kind of a thing is the right way.
I feel that kind of a thing is the right way.
And that creates the difference, the rub so to speak.
So now let's see how it is calculated.
Again, I have stuck in the chart there
ensuring the moon position and positions from the moon as it is studied just for reference sake.
So how is grahamayitri calculated?
If the moon signs are located 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th or 12th from each other,
they are considered to be friendly and 5 points are assigned.
If the moon signs are located 1st or 10th from each other,
they are considered to be unfriendly and 0 points are assigned.
If the moon signs are located 11th from each other, one point is assigned.
The presence of malefic planets such as Saturn, Mars or Rahu
in the 2nd, 4th, 7th, 8th or 12th house from the moon
can reduce the compatibility score by up to 2 points.
The presence of the benefit planets such as Jupiter or Venus
in the 2nd, 4th, 7th, 8th or 12th house from the moon
can enhance the compatibility score by up to 2 points.
The aspects of other planets on the moon signs can also modify the level of compatibility.
For example, if the moon sign receives a favorable aspect from the benefit planet,
it can enhance the score while a negative aspect from the malefic planet can reduce the score.
In Parasharalaite software,
Grammar 3 score is calculated placed on the placement from the moon
in the 12 houses like we saw before.
The software considers placement of the moon in the same house as a positive factor.
While placement of certain houses, just 6th and 8th and 12th
can reduce that compatibility score.
So we have the software, we don't have to go into detail calculations here.
It regulates everything for us.
Now let's see the curious case studies we were talking about.
This is case study number 1 where the Grammar 3 which is indicated in a rectangle there
is full 5 points.
So they are friendly to one another.
Their behavior towards one another behind closed doors is of a very friendly nature.
They are cooperative with one another.
They work out things together in a friendly manner.
But the same couple
we will examine a little more here.
The same couple Bhakut's score was 0.
So the love fades with time although they are very friendly in nature to one another.
So this begs the question what is more important to you in marriage?
Is the long term friendliness more important or should
the love be there? Because these two are separate.
As you can see these compatibility examines
different aspects. It does not put love and friendliness
in the same box. Yes, they are two separate aspects.
You can be friendly with each other and yet not have any love with each other.
You see that's the first point we see over there.
Let's see the second one. Now here in the second one
we see the grahamayi 3 score is very very less in this
couple's match. Out of 5 they only get 0.5.
So they are not very friendly with each other. And this the couple is always
getting on one another's nerves. They are constantly quarreling.
Although they don't have a Bhakut score they get full points.
So love is there. But these people are always fighting with each other.
Constantly arguing, having battles behind closed
doors. You see what I am saying. So grahamayi 3
gives a very important principle whether these couple will have
an argumentative and antagonistic approach towards one another.
Or are they going to be friendly with one another?
What's the point if you look at this scoring system?
What would be the point in having all the love in the world and no friendship
at all? This brings a very curious question
to evaluate, isn't it? For us when we look at relationships what are we trying
to accomplish? What is more important? You need to think of friendship
within a relationship and love within a relationship as
two separate aspects. Just think about it. Just
ponder about it to begin with. Because this is where the wisdom of
ancient Vedas is coming into picture.
What is friendliness and what is love? From a
secondary aspect, from a sociological perspective.
In the next one we'll examine another deeper aspect meanwhile take care be safe.