Relationships, husband and wife or boyfriend or girlfriend, have you ever had a situation where
one wants to go out and shop and do all kinds of fun stuff while the other one wants to calculate stock market investments and how to invest and multiply money or the other way around?
Why are we speaking about this? Because elements in relationships is a very ignored kind of aspect in astrology and I come across this all the time.
So we will first understand elements in relationships and then towards the end we will take case study in the two couples that have come to me for consultation.
So I advise them first to understand each other. It's not a question of who is wrong and who is right.
It's never a question of who is wrong and who is right. In this creation there is nothing like that.
There is only different perspectives. There's only different ways you approach or what is dominant kind of approach you have in terms of your drives.
So let's understand elements in relationships. The elemental strength in a chart is determined by number of factors in Vedic Astrology and it is quite complex.
And I use a software called Parashara Light to determine the elemental strength in two charts of two people who are in a relationship.
And I have couples typically coming to me all the time for whatever reason anyway.
So the elemental strength in the chart is determined. The software determines what?
Number one, the ascendant sign, which sign is rising on the eastern horizon at the time of birth? That's the ascendant sign.
Then it calculates the placement of planets in different signs and houses of the birth chart.
And then the software counts the number of planets placed in each sign and house and adds up their elemental strengths.
So by zodiac signs we saw in the earlier video in this series, the fire sign areas Leo and Sagittarius, the earth sign, stars, swirl, go and Capricorn,
the air signs Gemini, Libra, Aquarius, water signs, Cancer Scorpio and Pisces.
So the elements associated are Mark, their fire, earth, air, water. We are just dealing with four elements here.
But see how complicated it can get. The elements associated with each planet, each planet has also got an element associated.
Those are listed over there. The sun represents the fire element, the moon, the water element, the Mars fire element, Mercury earth element,
Jupiter ether element. So we're not going to be bothered with ether much here. Venus the water element, Saturn the air element,
Rahu or the north node of the moon represents the air element and Ketu the south node of the moon represents the earth element.
Okay. Now the system in Vedic Astrology called Shadbala or the sixth strengths of the planets, six different kind of strengths of the planets is used to calculate the predominant elemental strength in your birth chart.
So the software calculates the predominant elemental strength by comparing the total strengths of each element and determining which element is the strongest.
It does so by using the system of Shadbala or six factors. First one is called the Stanbala or the positional strength of the planet.
Bala in Sanskrit means strength. Stan means the place, position.
Dikbala or the directional strength of the planet. Kalabala or temporal strength of the planet. Cheshthabala or the emotional strength of the planet. Naissargika Bala or the natural strength of the planet.
Drikbala or aspectual strength of the planet. Once the strength of each planet is calculated, the predominant elements are based on the element associated with each planet.
For example, if a chart has a strong sun and Mars which are both associated with fire, then fire would become the predominant element for that person.
Now, going into each one of these six factors would become very complicated and there are lots of other channels also which might beautifully explain this.
I am just going to stick here to the case study and how it impacts you.
So how do elements determine the personality traits? That's the aspect we are talking about.
Elements affect a lot of things including physical health but here we are speaking about personality traits only and within relationships.
Within a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, human relationships, intimate relationships only.
So the fire is associated with passion, energy, ambition and enthusiasm.
People with a dominant fire element tend to be confident, courageous and assertive.
They are often natural leaders and enjoying taking risks and pursuing their goals with intensity.
They tend to be adventurous and daring with the love of risk taking and a desire to explore new frontiers.
This is the energy that fire provides in a personality.
The earth element is associated with stability, practicality and groundedness.
People with dominant earth element tend to be reliable, responsible and hard working.
They are often practical down to earth and focused on achieving tangible results.
They tend to be patient and persistent with a strong work ethic and a practical mindset.
That's the earth element.
The air element is associated with intellect, communication and adaptability.
People with a dominant air element tend to be intellectual, curious and social.
They are often excellent communicators and enjoy learning new things and are exploring different perspectives.
They tend to be quick-witted, adaptable and with the love of learning and a desire to explore new ideas and perspectives.
Water element is associated with emotions, intuition and sensitivity.
People with dominant water element tend to be empathetic, empathetic, empathic, nurturing and compassionate.
They are often intuitive and creative and may have strong artistic or spiritual inclinations.
They tend to be intuitive and imaginative with a natural ability to tap into the unseen realms of psyche.
Now you have to remember one thing here.
These four elements are all present in every person, in every chat that I have seen.
It's just the dominant element we have to check for, the first and the second dominant element out of the four.
This will be the dominant play of what kind of person they are, what they tend to like and how they approach any subject.
We approach subjects with a certain color, with a certain desire and certain kind of approach, really.
This is all about approach.
We can approach with any number of these kinds of energies when we are addressing various issues in our daily life.
Now we shall see some case studies here.
Two couples that came to me for consultation and their case study and how different it can play out.
This is case study number one.
Before we go further, I have to give a disclaimer over here.
You have to see both sides of the coin.
The husband came to me for consultation.
He is having N number of difficulties with the wife in communication and said, she is always arguing with me like this.
She is always fighting for this.
She is always very dominant, etc.
But I have not seen the wife side of things.
Neither have I met this person practically.
So remember, if you are going to evaluate relationships, the best two people to do so would be the people involved, the husband and the wife.
They have to do it between themselves because it is an intimate relationship.
It is all about emotion and connectivity we are speaking of.
So outside people cannot come and step into a relationship and start evaluating and giving their own wisdom.
It should never be done that way.
This is why I suggest people should study their astrological charts or if given something, share transparently to make things work.
My feeling is if the husband and wife understand each other better by being transparent in this way, oh, he thinks like this.
She thinks like this.
Okay, fair enough.
Different people are different.
It is always that way.
So let's see what we can work together.
This is where I approach relationships from.
But in any case, this is the husband who came to me saying he is very, very having lots of fights with his wife.
He is having lots of differences, arguments, you know, on a daily basis.
They're almost on the verge of divorce.
The husband, as you can see, let's see the predominant elements there.
This I have taken a screenshot from my software of the husband's chart and the wife's chart.
Now the husband, as you can see, is very dominant in earth sign.
This fellow is very, very practical.
He wants earthly results.
Go back and see what the earth wants it as, right?
What it desires to see.
He's got an average score of air, very less fire and water.
Yes.
The wife, on the other hand, has a lot of fire.
Earth element can be well matched between husband and wife.
There's wife is slightly above average husband is very practical in nature.
But where it kind of takes a beating is the air element and the water element between the two.
You can straight away compare.
It's a simple graph.
The average line depicts the average strength which should be there.
Ideally speaking, the average strength should be equal in both the charts.
Correct?
But we don't live in an ideal world.
So the dominant element difference that is coming is the difference of fire.
First, let's take the fire.
The husband has got very less of that going on.
So this person is not very fire energy driven.
This person is not that, what that drive of passion in him.
Okay.
Not that kind of aggressiveness.
The wife, on the other hand, is very aggressive as you can see because the fire is dominant.
Then you have fire element playing out like this.
It better be matched with some degree in the fire of the two charts.
Otherwise it's going to be a dominance match.
Who is more dominant?
Right?
The earth element on the other hand between the two is okay.
It's quite well matched.
The husband has a lot of it far above average.
It covers even the elements part of that.
And the wife has some degree above average.
So earth element is not an issue.
Another issue will come is the air sign.
The wife has very less of it.
So it's not so much interested in ideas and communication and socializing and all that kind of thing.
It doesn't.
It has no need for it.
The wife has no need for such a thing.
Whereas the husband here has got a lot of air sign.
So he's more next to the earth air is dominant.
So this person would probably want more of discussion of ideas.
How do we do this?
What do you think about this?
What do you think about that?
That's the air sign.
Lastly and most importantly the water sign because it's an emotional connect.
We are talking about moksha type of energy.
So the water sign in the husband is very less.
Whereas in the wife it's just touching average.
She's got a good water strength.
So wife wants to feel a lot of emotion.
The husband doesn't.
Husband does not have much of emotional content and know the husband very well.
So we can see how this plays out.
Yes.
Let's see couple case study number two.
This is another husband and wife who came to me.
They are a younger couple.
The other one was a little older couple.
This husband and wife don't have kids yet.
They are a younger newly married kind of a situation.
Now the husband here has got quite a good emotional strength.
He has got a good emotional strength and above average emotional strength.
Quite a bit of fire wants to achieve ambitious.
And he is a leader in his field of work also.
He is doing very well in career and other matters.
Leadership qualities are good.
So you can see that by the fire.
And earth between husband and wife is not so well matched.
The wife is extremely practical like the husband in the previous one.
Why I have taken these two examples is because it's not necessary that the husband is one kind of person.
All males are one kind or men are one kind and all women are one kind.
It is never that way.
In this case is the wife who is extremely practical.
She's not got much of fire.
She's not a very ambitious kind of a person.
You can see other characteristics as well before you evaluate.
She's got less of air element also.
Not much of an ideas kind of a person.
Not much of a thinker.
Now I know both the husband and wife in this particular case personally.
The earth is very dominant in the wife.
Highly dominant.
So this one is very grounded, very practical.
Very looking for practical side of life.
And the water in the husband is very dominant and the wife also it's above average.
So they're very well matched emotionally because they're emotional compatibility.
The water is very well.
Both are above average.
Husband is slightly more emotional than wife you might say.
The air element is kind of on the less side for both of them.
So that's also okay.
The earth element where the husband lacks practicality.
The wife in this case tends to compensate.
So I would say they are a pretty good couple, pretty good match in terms of element.
Now again a disclaimer you have to evaluate plenty of other things which we shall see in further videos about relationship issues more.
Because in this new energy everything about relationships is changing so much.
The energies are changing.
There are so many divorces all over the place even in India.
So we need to study these relationships little more carefully before we start making too many mistakes.
Come to quick judgments.
Come to rash decisions.
Decide the other person is wrong and I am right and all these kinds of childish ideas.
So you need to remember this thing and we shall do lot more of the by one relationship aspects in upcoming videos.
And again be safe.