1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Relationships, husband and wife or boyfriend or girlfriend, have you ever had a situation where 2 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:21,000 one wants to go out and shop and do all kinds of fun stuff while the other one wants to calculate stock market investments and how to invest and multiply money or the other way around? 3 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:33,000 Why are we speaking about this? Because elements in relationships is a very ignored kind of aspect in astrology and I come across this all the time. 4 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:45,000 So we will first understand elements in relationships and then towards the end we will take case study in the two couples that have come to me for consultation. 5 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:56,000 So I advise them first to understand each other. It's not a question of who is wrong and who is right. 6 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:02,000 It's never a question of who is wrong and who is right. In this creation there is nothing like that. 7 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:12,000 There is only different perspectives. There's only different ways you approach or what is dominant kind of approach you have in terms of your drives. 8 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:26,000 So let's understand elements in relationships. The elemental strength in a chart is determined by number of factors in Vedic Astrology and it is quite complex. 9 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:37,000 And I use a software called Parashara Light to determine the elemental strength in two charts of two people who are in a relationship. 10 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:42,000 And I have couples typically coming to me all the time for whatever reason anyway. 11 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:48,000 So the elemental strength in the chart is determined. The software determines what? 12 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:56,000 Number one, the ascendant sign, which sign is rising on the eastern horizon at the time of birth? That's the ascendant sign. 13 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:03,000 Then it calculates the placement of planets in different signs and houses of the birth chart. 14 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:12,000 And then the software counts the number of planets placed in each sign and house and adds up their elemental strengths. 15 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:22,000 So by zodiac signs we saw in the earlier video in this series, the fire sign areas Leo and Sagittarius, the earth sign, stars, swirl, go and Capricorn, 16 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:28,000 the air signs Gemini, Libra, Aquarius, water signs, Cancer Scorpio and Pisces. 17 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:35,000 So the elements associated are Mark, their fire, earth, air, water. We are just dealing with four elements here. 18 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:46,000 But see how complicated it can get. The elements associated with each planet, each planet has also got an element associated. 19 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:55,000 Those are listed over there. The sun represents the fire element, the moon, the water element, the Mars fire element, Mercury earth element, 20 00:02:55,000 --> 00:03:04,000 Jupiter ether element. So we're not going to be bothered with ether much here. Venus the water element, Saturn the air element, 21 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:13,000 Rahu or the north node of the moon represents the air element and Ketu the south node of the moon represents the earth element. 22 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:30,000 Okay. Now the system in Vedic Astrology called Shadbala or the sixth strengths of the planets, six different kind of strengths of the planets is used to calculate the predominant elemental strength in your birth chart. 23 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:40,000 So the software calculates the predominant elemental strength by comparing the total strengths of each element and determining which element is the strongest. 24 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:51,000 It does so by using the system of Shadbala or six factors. First one is called the Stanbala or the positional strength of the planet. 25 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:56,000 Bala in Sanskrit means strength. Stan means the place, position. 26 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:11,000 Dikbala or the directional strength of the planet. Kalabala or temporal strength of the planet. Cheshthabala or the emotional strength of the planet. Naissargika Bala or the natural strength of the planet. 27 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:24,000 Drikbala or aspectual strength of the planet. Once the strength of each planet is calculated, the predominant elements are based on the element associated with each planet. 28 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:35,000 For example, if a chart has a strong sun and Mars which are both associated with fire, then fire would become the predominant element for that person. 29 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:45,000 Now, going into each one of these six factors would become very complicated and there are lots of other channels also which might beautifully explain this. 30 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:50,000 I am just going to stick here to the case study and how it impacts you. 31 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:55,000 So how do elements determine the personality traits? That's the aspect we are talking about. 32 00:04:55,000 --> 00:05:03,000 Elements affect a lot of things including physical health but here we are speaking about personality traits only and within relationships. 33 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:09,000 Within a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, human relationships, intimate relationships only. 34 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:16,000 So the fire is associated with passion, energy, ambition and enthusiasm. 35 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:22,000 People with a dominant fire element tend to be confident, courageous and assertive. 36 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:29,000 They are often natural leaders and enjoying taking risks and pursuing their goals with intensity. 37 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:36,000 They tend to be adventurous and daring with the love of risk taking and a desire to explore new frontiers. 38 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:40,000 This is the energy that fire provides in a personality. 39 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:47,000 The earth element is associated with stability, practicality and groundedness. 40 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:53,000 People with dominant earth element tend to be reliable, responsible and hard working. 41 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:59,000 They are often practical down to earth and focused on achieving tangible results. 42 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:06,000 They tend to be patient and persistent with a strong work ethic and a practical mindset. 43 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:08,000 That's the earth element. 44 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:14,000 The air element is associated with intellect, communication and adaptability. 45 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:20,000 People with a dominant air element tend to be intellectual, curious and social. 46 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:28,000 They are often excellent communicators and enjoy learning new things and are exploring different perspectives. 47 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:37,000 They tend to be quick-witted, adaptable and with the love of learning and a desire to explore new ideas and perspectives. 48 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:45,000 Water element is associated with emotions, intuition and sensitivity. 49 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:54,000 People with dominant water element tend to be empathetic, empathetic, empathic, nurturing and compassionate. 50 00:06:54,000 --> 00:07:01,000 They are often intuitive and creative and may have strong artistic or spiritual inclinations. 51 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:09,000 They tend to be intuitive and imaginative with a natural ability to tap into the unseen realms of psyche. 52 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:12,000 Now you have to remember one thing here. 53 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:19,000 These four elements are all present in every person, in every chat that I have seen. 54 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:27,000 It's just the dominant element we have to check for, the first and the second dominant element out of the four. 55 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:35,000 This will be the dominant play of what kind of person they are, what they tend to like and how they approach any subject. 56 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:43,000 We approach subjects with a certain color, with a certain desire and certain kind of approach, really. 57 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,000 This is all about approach. 58 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:54,000 We can approach with any number of these kinds of energies when we are addressing various issues in our daily life. 59 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:58,000 Now we shall see some case studies here. 60 00:07:58,000 --> 00:08:05,000 Two couples that came to me for consultation and their case study and how different it can play out. 61 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:08,000 This is case study number one. 62 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:12,000 Before we go further, I have to give a disclaimer over here. 63 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:16,000 You have to see both sides of the coin. 64 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,000 The husband came to me for consultation. 65 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:25,000 He is having N number of difficulties with the wife in communication and said, she is always arguing with me like this. 66 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:27,000 She is always fighting for this. 67 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:30,000 She is always very dominant, etc. 68 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,000 But I have not seen the wife side of things. 69 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:35,000 Neither have I met this person practically. 70 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:46,000 So remember, if you are going to evaluate relationships, the best two people to do so would be the people involved, the husband and the wife. 71 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:50,000 They have to do it between themselves because it is an intimate relationship. 72 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:54,000 It is all about emotion and connectivity we are speaking of. 73 00:08:54,000 --> 00:09:01,000 So outside people cannot come and step into a relationship and start evaluating and giving their own wisdom. 74 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,000 It should never be done that way. 75 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:11,000 This is why I suggest people should study their astrological charts or if given something, share transparently to make things work. 76 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:20,000 My feeling is if the husband and wife understand each other better by being transparent in this way, oh, he thinks like this. 77 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:21,000 She thinks like this. 78 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:22,000 Okay, fair enough. 79 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:24,000 Different people are different. 80 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:26,000 It is always that way. 81 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:29,000 So let's see what we can work together. 82 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:32,000 This is where I approach relationships from. 83 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:39,000 But in any case, this is the husband who came to me saying he is very, very having lots of fights with his wife. 84 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:44,000 He is having lots of differences, arguments, you know, on a daily basis. 85 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:47,000 They're almost on the verge of divorce. 86 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:51,000 The husband, as you can see, let's see the predominant elements there. 87 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:57,000 This I have taken a screenshot from my software of the husband's chart and the wife's chart. 88 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:01,000 Now the husband, as you can see, is very dominant in earth sign. 89 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:04,000 This fellow is very, very practical. 90 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,000 He wants earthly results. 91 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:10,000 Go back and see what the earth wants it as, right? 92 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:12,000 What it desires to see. 93 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:19,000 He's got an average score of air, very less fire and water. 94 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:20,000 Yes. 95 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:23,000 The wife, on the other hand, has a lot of fire. 96 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:27,000 Earth element can be well matched between husband and wife. 97 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:32,000 There's wife is slightly above average husband is very practical in nature. 98 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:38,000 But where it kind of takes a beating is the air element and the water element between the two. 99 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:39,000 You can straight away compare. 100 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:40,000 It's a simple graph. 101 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:45,000 The average line depicts the average strength which should be there. 102 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:50,000 Ideally speaking, the average strength should be equal in both the charts. 103 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:51,000 Correct? 104 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,000 But we don't live in an ideal world. 105 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:59,000 So the dominant element difference that is coming is the difference of fire. 106 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,000 First, let's take the fire. 107 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:05,000 The husband has got very less of that going on. 108 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:09,000 So this person is not very fire energy driven. 109 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:14,000 This person is not that, what that drive of passion in him. 110 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:15,000 Okay. 111 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:16,000 Not that kind of aggressiveness. 112 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:22,000 The wife, on the other hand, is very aggressive as you can see because the fire is dominant. 113 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,000 Then you have fire element playing out like this. 114 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:29,000 It better be matched with some degree in the fire of the two charts. 115 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:32,000 Otherwise it's going to be a dominance match. 116 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:34,000 Who is more dominant? 117 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:35,000 Right? 118 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:39,000 The earth element on the other hand between the two is okay. 119 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:40,000 It's quite well matched. 120 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:43,000 The husband has a lot of it far above average. 121 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:46,000 It covers even the elements part of that. 122 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:49,000 And the wife has some degree above average. 123 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,000 So earth element is not an issue. 124 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:54,000 Another issue will come is the air sign. 125 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:57,000 The wife has very less of it. 126 00:11:57,000 --> 00:12:04,000 So it's not so much interested in ideas and communication and socializing and all that kind of thing. 127 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:05,000 It doesn't. 128 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:06,000 It has no need for it. 129 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:08,000 The wife has no need for such a thing. 130 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:12,000 Whereas the husband here has got a lot of air sign. 131 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:16,000 So he's more next to the earth air is dominant. 132 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:20,000 So this person would probably want more of discussion of ideas. 133 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:21,000 How do we do this? 134 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:22,000 What do you think about this? 135 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:23,000 What do you think about that? 136 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:25,000 That's the air sign. 137 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:30,000 Lastly and most importantly the water sign because it's an emotional connect. 138 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:33,000 We are talking about moksha type of energy. 139 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:37,000 So the water sign in the husband is very less. 140 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:41,000 Whereas in the wife it's just touching average. 141 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:44,000 She's got a good water strength. 142 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:47,000 So wife wants to feel a lot of emotion. 143 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:49,000 The husband doesn't. 144 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:53,000 Husband does not have much of emotional content and know the husband very well. 145 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:55,000 So we can see how this plays out. 146 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:56,000 Yes. 147 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:59,000 Let's see couple case study number two. 148 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:02,000 This is another husband and wife who came to me. 149 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:04,000 They are a younger couple. 150 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:06,000 The other one was a little older couple. 151 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,000 This husband and wife don't have kids yet. 152 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:12,000 They are a younger newly married kind of a situation. 153 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:17,000 Now the husband here has got quite a good emotional strength. 154 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:20,000 He has got a good emotional strength and above average emotional strength. 155 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:23,000 Quite a bit of fire wants to achieve ambitious. 156 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:27,000 And he is a leader in his field of work also. 157 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:30,000 He is doing very well in career and other matters. 158 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:32,000 Leadership qualities are good. 159 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:35,000 So you can see that by the fire. 160 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:41,000 And earth between husband and wife is not so well matched. 161 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:46,000 The wife is extremely practical like the husband in the previous one. 162 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:53,000 Why I have taken these two examples is because it's not necessary that the husband is one kind of person. 163 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:57,000 All males are one kind or men are one kind and all women are one kind. 164 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:59,000 It is never that way. 165 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:03,000 In this case is the wife who is extremely practical. 166 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:05,000 She's not got much of fire. 167 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,000 She's not a very ambitious kind of a person. 168 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:12,000 You can see other characteristics as well before you evaluate. 169 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:15,000 She's got less of air element also. 170 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:17,000 Not much of an ideas kind of a person. 171 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,000 Not much of a thinker. 172 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:24,000 Now I know both the husband and wife in this particular case personally. 173 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:27,000 The earth is very dominant in the wife. 174 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:28,000 Highly dominant. 175 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:31,000 So this one is very grounded, very practical. 176 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:35,000 Very looking for practical side of life. 177 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:41,000 And the water in the husband is very dominant and the wife also it's above average. 178 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:47,000 So they're very well matched emotionally because they're emotional compatibility. 179 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:48,000 The water is very well. 180 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:50,000 Both are above average. 181 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:53,000 Husband is slightly more emotional than wife you might say. 182 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:59,000 The air element is kind of on the less side for both of them. 183 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:00,000 So that's also okay. 184 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:04,000 The earth element where the husband lacks practicality. 185 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:06,000 The wife in this case tends to compensate. 186 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:12,000 So I would say they are a pretty good couple, pretty good match in terms of element. 187 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:21,000 Now again a disclaimer you have to evaluate plenty of other things which we shall see in further videos about relationship issues more. 188 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:25,000 Because in this new energy everything about relationships is changing so much. 189 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:26,000 The energies are changing. 190 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:31,000 There are so many divorces all over the place even in India. 191 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:37,000 So we need to study these relationships little more carefully before we start making too many mistakes. 192 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,000 Come to quick judgments. 193 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:41,000 Come to rash decisions. 194 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:46,000 Decide the other person is wrong and I am right and all these kinds of childish ideas. 195 00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:55,000 So you need to remember this thing and we shall do lot more of the by one relationship aspects in upcoming videos. 196 00:15:55,000 --> 00:16:01,000 And again be safe.