1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:06,000 Now we are getting serious folks. Now we have come to a stage in the relationship 2 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:11,000 where we are asking the big questions, right? We are asking the questions, do I do 3 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:16,000 or do I not do? Do I commit or do I not commit? That's the stage of the relationship. 4 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:23,000 What do you do now? When you say I do, when somebody asks, pops the big question, 5 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:26,000 that's the stage we are talking about. What are we talking about? 6 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:35,000 Welcome to Conscious Relating, where we are trying to explore the stages of a relationship 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:44,000 and how a relationship can progress for you in a way that is leading for conscious growth in your life. 8 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:48,000 That's what the object of any relationship essentially is. 9 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:54,000 And we are talking about intimate relationships predominantly over here in this one in the series. 10 00:00:54,000 --> 00:01:01,000 So conscious relating, by the way you know what relating because it is an ever-evolving process through life. 11 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:09,000 It's not like you make the commitment one time to a person to get married or to stay with the person to have children with them or whatever it is. 12 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:13,000 You are still evolving. So is the other one. 13 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:27,000 So we have now arrived at the fifth house. The fifth house is where you find your unique identity within all your relationships, predominantly in this case, 14 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:31,000 with your significant other, with your lover's spouse, etc. 15 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:39,000 So what is the fifth house? Fifth house is your gut center, the naval center from the chakra point of view. 16 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:43,000 It's your creative identity and your connect to others. 17 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:50,000 This is the most crucial one. This is like a bridge. This is the bridge between the upper worlds and lower worlds. 18 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:58,000 This is your spiritual bridge. Your spirit connects to others in the physical realm of things from here downwards. 19 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:05,000 Okay, everything from here downwards, this center included is what you have experienced in the past life. 20 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:13,000 We'll come to that. What is the fifth house stands for? It's an identity, your physical identity as it has played out on earth. 21 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:23,000 It's the bridge, others versus self. Who is the self, the other significant? Who is your lover and what's their identity and what's your identity? 22 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:30,000 And when you both come together, what should be the goal here? How should this play out? That's what we are trying to unpack. 23 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:40,000 It stands for discernment at the higher level. It stands for judgment at a lower level. What's the difference? 24 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:49,000 Desperate is your understanding that the other person is coming from the other place. You observe and you observe. That's it. 25 00:02:49,000 --> 00:03:01,000 Judgment is saying they are this, they are that or they are being like this or they are being like that. That's the lower realm of things. That's what we are working through. Everyone is working through this. 26 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:12,000 It stands for creative intelligence. We are talking from the astrological point of view here as I'm pointing. This side is the astrological point. That side is the chakra point. 27 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:22,000 We are trying to merge the two. We are trying to make an understanding in a holistic way. Taking both Vedic Astrology and taking the chakra point of view. 28 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:37,000 This is how the energy moves. Those white arrows you see coming up and going down is moving in all the chakras. That is why one kind of area of thinking feeds on to other areas or what we think about life also. 29 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:46,000 Think about this. Fifth house also stands for education, for love and romance. Let's unpack this now. 30 00:03:46,000 --> 00:04:05,000 Number one here, the points. What does it get? What does the fifth house has? It has ancestral energy. You are born into a particular ancestral line, a family lineage, which has its own baggage of karmas, your karmas or superimposed on top of that. 31 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:16,000 First of all, the ancestral karma, then there is your karma. All that is packed from here downwards. All the way to the fifth, downwards to the, as we go down the chakras. 32 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:39,000 Past life karma, what do you think of yourself, your talents, your inherited DNA, your cellular structure, what is composed as your life experience in totality? Because all the past lives are being carried in your DNA and within you personally. 33 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:49,000 And so is your ancestral and family lineage, both the fathers and the mother side. And so is the other person. You see how complex this will get. 34 00:04:49,000 --> 00:05:02,000 Number two, others and you. Who is the other significant other? Who is you? Is determined as discernment in this chakra, in this fifth house. 35 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:13,000 This is the discernment. Like I said, lower aspect of discernment is passing judgments on another. It's funny these days in social media, people go around talking about things like, don't judge me. 36 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:22,000 Well, don't judge me is also a judgment on the other. You are judging me is also a judgment. People don't realize this. They are contradicting themselves all the time. 37 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:34,000 Being in your boundary more within you, observe, learn more about what you can provide and serve. Not judge and blame others. 38 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:48,000 The judgment leads to blame. And then it leads to fight and then it leads to disagreement. See how the two unique identities, even though they have come together for the purpose of clarity, for the purpose of expression, for the purpose of heart connection. 39 00:05:48,000 --> 00:06:00,000 First three we are taking has already happened, by the way. Okay, we have now moved on to the fifth stage of commitment, wanting to get married, wanting to have children. 40 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:08,000 This is of a lot of interest, especially to the women folk, because they are committing a lot of their body, mind, soul to the other person. 41 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:20,000 If a woman has to have children with another man, she has to literally birth children through her body, through her womb. This is a big ask. 42 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:26,000 That's why women are more serious about relationships than men are in general. 43 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:34,000 Because the commitment level required on the part of a woman is right at the bodily level. This is huge for any woman. And it's natural. 44 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:38,000 And it's the way it's supposed to be also. 45 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:56,000 So being within your boundary, what do I mean? Means in any relationship, you are always required to be you, when you honor that, respect that, when you educate yourself, which I'll be talking about next, about yourself and your own creativity. 46 00:06:56,000 --> 00:07:01,000 Only then you can respect the other, support the other, provide for the other. 47 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:09,000 You, without working on yourself, will not help the other. Then it will lead to the lower aspect, the judgment. 48 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:16,000 Number three, education. The house also stands for education, from an astrological point of view. 49 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:24,000 So what does it come from? The word education comes from edukare. It should be edukare there. 50 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:35,000 Spelling mistake. Edukare means in Latin to bring out what's within you. What is inside you, you bring it to the outside. That's what education comes from. 51 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:46,000 Meaning, even to your intimate relationship, you need to bring what you have within you outward as your creative intelligence, as who you are as a unique identity. 52 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:53,000 The uniqueness has to be there in all factors. Fifth house is all about uniqueness within yourself. 53 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:59,000 Recognition and working in cooperation with the God of Eye-Jumping ahead. Wait a minute. 54 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:06,000 Ability to learn about you, sharing your learning with your lover, learn from them also. 55 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:14,000 You're constantly learning here. It's lifelong, not just college degrees and PhDs. You're learning lifelong through life experience. 56 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:20,000 Remember, I spoke of it in the earlier series somewhere. Soul is here just for expansion and for experience. 57 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:32,000 That's all the soul knows. This is the vehicle, this physical body and all this chakras around the rest of it put together is a vehicle for you to carry that out. 58 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:38,000 Creative intelligence. Fifth house, a big one of a fifth house is creative intelligence. 59 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:44,000 Your talents, what is your innate talent? What are you here to explore? What are you here to create? 60 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:54,000 You're here to create something, every single one of us. And this body and this lifetime is going to push you towards what you want to create. 61 00:08:54,000 --> 00:09:00,000 You'll always be seeking that because this house is very strong. You need to feel in your gut, in your belly. 62 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:11,000 That's where the creative intelligence lies, in your belly. Because to create in this physical dimension, you are here to experience the physicality of things, 63 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:18,000 not just be abstract. Dig into what you're here to create with your partner. Now I'm talking to you with your partner. 64 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:24,000 You have uniqueness. So does the other recognition and working cooperation and collaborative environments. 65 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:33,000 Now a healthy cooperative or collaborative relation or relating will work in terms of, I know myself and what I'm here to bring. 66 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:39,000 And you know what you are here and you are here to bring. And that's fine. That has healthy boundaries within it. 67 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:45,000 That has got growth and potential for greater expansion of love itself. 68 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:52,000 Exist to the fifth house, love and romance. This is the center where you love another in a healthy way. 69 00:09:52,000 --> 00:10:00,000 That's the healthy form of love and relationship. You love being you and you love them being them. 70 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:06,000 You're not trying to convert something to somebody else. This is a big mistake people make. 71 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:15,000 Man or woman or whichever gender hardly matters. People make the commitment to come together in a marriage or in a relationship. 72 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:20,000 And they are constantly trying to change the other to meet their standards of living. 73 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:25,000 They are trying to change the other person's personality to meet where they are. 74 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:32,000 That's never going to work. Each one is unique. Each one is separate. Each one will always be separate. 75 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:40,000 So you are trying to work within yourself. Learn from the other. Teach the other. 76 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:45,000 Learn from them and teach yourself. And you're still growing as individuals. 77 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:51,000 So love and romance in this case does not become merging into another as identity. 78 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:55,000 Be very careful of this. A lot of this goes on. 79 00:10:55,000 --> 00:11:06,000 When you try to start merging your creative identity, the fifth chakra, the naval chakra and your fifth house in astrology. 80 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:13,000 When you try to start merged with the other person, you are losing in a sense who you are. 81 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:18,000 And if the other person walks away or goes or if there's a divorce or something like that, 82 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:24,000 or if you feel kind of separated from the other person or your spouse or anything through years, what is it meaning? 83 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:29,000 Well, your identity is trying to pull you back towards yourself. 84 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:36,000 You are not the other person. It doesn't matter what songs you sing. It doesn't matter where life goes or how it goes. 85 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:42,000 There are too many unpredictable there for you to sit and control about this. Don't try to control this. 86 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:47,000 You cannot control the others. You are here to just love them as they are. 87 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:50,000 If they seek assistance, they come to you. If they don't, they don't. 88 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:55,000 You are here to find unique identity, your unique identity. 89 00:11:55,000 --> 00:12:00,000 Only when you do that, you discover the unique identity of others as well. 90 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:07,000 It's like a poetic justice that goes on in the energy of this fifth house. 91 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:13,000 Next, we will talk about the seventh house, the big one, seventh and eighth. 92 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:20,000 But remember, this fifth house onwards, fifth, seventh and eighth are the bridge points to the physical reality. 93 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:27,000 We should start from the top-down approach as we are doing, not from the bottom-up approach, which I will wrap up in the last one. 94 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:44,000 Keep watching. Thank you for your likes, shares and subscribes. I'll catch you on the next one. Bye-bye.