So you talked and talked and talked with the other person.
You are on a date and you have had a multiple number of dates now.
And you got to know this person, a friend or a colleague or somebody who you like.
And you want to date them more, get to know them more, maybe have relationship with them, long term.
But somehow you feel that the connection is not happening at the heart level. Something is not ticking.
There is no spark that you are looking for.
Yes, you connected with them in your hobbies, you connected with them at taste, likes, dislikes,
job, career, what you want to have, even how many children you want to have.
You got to that extent, let's say. Yet there is no spark beyond the chemistry.
Why is that? Welcome to my channel.
So we are talking about conscious relating here.
And now we cross the first and second, the second and the third house as per astrology,
the head and the throat. This is where all the connection is happening and talking.
And now you have to approach this critical fourth house, the heart connection.
So what is it in astrology? Second house is expression. All the side sounds,
voice speech, whatever the person, Amazon, like Hawaiian. Third house is deliberate actions.
See the part one if you're lost in this, deliberate actions, motivation, interest, hobbies,
expressed pleasures and desires. Okay. First, you got to get to these properly.
Now we are coming across a part of the relationship where there is dating
already happening on a regular basis. The boy and the girl know each other or boy and boy or girl
and girl. However, the relationship is doesn't matter. We are talking about intimate relationships
here. But now you need to get to the fourth house, the heart level. Okay. Which is the emotional,
comfort and security, love, connection to earth. It's the most private center.
If you examine the houses of astrology, which is on the right side,
if you see the left side, it's all the chakra alignment. We are trying to get the person aligned
here. Two people have to be aligned in these three crucial aspects. First chakra will give you
intuition, clarity, awareness at new levels. Happens all the time. Okay. For everyone.
Second one is expression. What your expression is, voice, your throat, your communication,
your singing, how you talk to others, what you talk about. And the fourth house in the chakra
level becomes heart connection, empathy and wound releases. This is what makes it tough. Okay.
So let's go through the points. Let's change my mic. My mic went off for a six. Anyway, clarity,
expression and connection. So you talked and talked and yammered on forever, connected with your
likes and dislikes, tastes, smells, sounds, whatnot. Right. You went on for a couple of
dates, lots of more dates. Maybe you're connecting with the other person. Maybe you are even thinking
this relationship is for good. For serious. You talked about house and pets and whatnot.
But somehow this is not quite ringing the bells. What could be the reason for that? The heart has
wounds like I've written over there. See there. The heart connection is good. Everybody wants it.
Everybody wants empathy, but there is a wound attached there. We all have traumas. Okay.
Coming from childhood and whatnot. And because the fourth house is considered even astrology as
the most private space where there's a deep emotional security attached to go through my notes over
there. I'm just rambling on the same notes. Deep emotional security with the external world.
You want to connect to the external world in an intimate way. That's the intimate partner. Okay.
So one guards this like a Fortress really speaking. One opens this to another only if one feels safe
enough vulnerability comes at the cost of giving away security. Think about that. So opening this
bag, opening the bag of emotional connection with another and using it against the other person
has disastrous consequences. Full stop. You're never getting that back. The person will shut out.
You might say fancy things like forgive and this and that. It's not going to happen folks.
That person will remember. It's easy to say forgive and forget. The person will never forget.
So you got to watch your actions before you take the shot. Okay. Watch your speech before you take
the shot. Anyway, number three, remember vulnerability is an art. The art of being
present within yourself and your significant other in a way that allows each one to be free to be
free to act free to create free to express without any preconditions consequences or outcome.
It should not be do this or else kind of approach. It should not be use scratch my back as
graduate kind of approach. This is not a contract. We're not talking about contracts like marriage
or contracts of that kind basically an emotional contract. This is not a contractual thing we
are discussing at all. You can leave this video right now if you feel that's your thing to do.
Okay. We're talking about conscious relating only. You're not talking about relationship.
It's not a noun people. This is a continuous tense. You go through this throughout life.
So any without any preconditions. This is not a contract. The only goal in conscious relating
is more expansion and more freedom. Why? Because that's the goal of the new human being model
you see over there. The new human being model exists for more than themselves for more than
the earth more than everything else constantly seeking expansion is one of the actions of the
new human being. I'll link up the model for you in the video. Number four true connection.
What is the true connection we are looking at? How does it look like when each one involved
feels known feels seen people are working on as if they're invisible. Nobody is looking at me.
Nobody knows who I am. Nobody knows what this thing. What am I here for? What is this place?
Who are all these strangers? That's what 90% of the world roams around by.
True connection is when each one feels in known, seen, recognized and appreciated.
When only when one feels known and seen can you recognize and appreciate right?
When there is a free flow of energy between their voice, look at the centers over there,
the voice, the throat clarity of mind and minds because we're talking about two people over here.
Okay clarity of mind and empathic connection of support which comes from the heart.
Heart requires the support of another heart. Why do you want to get hedged? Why do you want to
have a lover? Why do you want to experience intimate connections among the many things?
It's not because you share the same kind of living space. It's not because the person you want to
get in bed with the person. It's not only just because you can go see fancy mohleys or buy the
great American dream of a house in a car. All these are just additions and attachments.
What you are looking for is basically that true connection. These three points that you see marked
over there, free flow of energy within yourself and then within the other person and you see the
other itself reflected back and forth. Why do we need this? Why is this important? Remember the
higher self, the bhava dharma, I'll link up that video for you which I spoke of in my evolutionary
astrology series. Every house itself in the Vedic astrology chart has got a higher self of a house
that's called the bhava dharma to be short. The bhava dharma or the higher self of the seventh house
is the first house. Seventh place from the seventh house is the first house. Which means what really?
It means your intimate relationship changes who you are as a person. What you think of life,
what you think of relationships, what you think of the world, what you think of different areas of
your life. 90% of the people roam around the planet thinking everything is a damn duty.
There is no freedom of voice, there is no freedom of expression. We are talking about
voice and communication. There's nothing, zilch. Therefore, there is no clarity, there is no awareness.
Therefore, there is no empathy. Therefore, there are a lot of wounds. Therefore, I could go on
forever. It could become a 10-hour video here. So be careful. This is a make or break kind of approach.
First, you need to connect these three dots in any relationship. Make sure you know what you are
doing. Step into it cautiously. Don't just be absorbed in the head all the time. That's not
going to work folks. We'll keep connecting the dots as we go on. So subscribe to my channel,
share this video if you wish and we'll tie all these dots together and then we'll put an entire
picture as a beginning point. There's so many things here to be obviously not all right.
But I'll catch you in the next one. Take care, be safe out on this day.