1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,360 So you talked and talked and talked with the other person. 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:06,880 You are on a date and you have had a multiple number of dates now. 3 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:10,960 And you got to know this person, a friend or a colleague or somebody who you like. 4 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:16,720 And you want to date them more, get to know them more, maybe have relationship with them, long term. 5 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:23,280 But somehow you feel that the connection is not happening at the heart level. Something is not ticking. 6 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:26,320 There is no spark that you are looking for. 7 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:30,880 Yes, you connected with them in your hobbies, you connected with them at taste, likes, dislikes, 8 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:34,400 job, career, what you want to have, even how many children you want to have. 9 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:40,160 You got to that extent, let's say. Yet there is no spark beyond the chemistry. 10 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:43,760 Why is that? Welcome to my channel. 11 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,960 So we are talking about conscious relating here. 12 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:55,680 And now we cross the first and second, the second and the third house as per astrology, 13 00:00:56,240 --> 00:01:00,480 the head and the throat. This is where all the connection is happening and talking. 14 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:06,080 And now you have to approach this critical fourth house, the heart connection. 15 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:10,800 So what is it in astrology? Second house is expression. All the side sounds, 16 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:18,080 voice speech, whatever the person, Amazon, like Hawaiian. Third house is deliberate actions. 17 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:23,200 See the part one if you're lost in this, deliberate actions, motivation, interest, hobbies, 18 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:27,760 expressed pleasures and desires. Okay. First, you got to get to these properly. 19 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:32,640 Now we are coming across a part of the relationship where there is dating 20 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:40,080 already happening on a regular basis. The boy and the girl know each other or boy and boy or girl 21 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:45,200 and girl. However, the relationship is doesn't matter. We are talking about intimate relationships 22 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:53,040 here. But now you need to get to the fourth house, the heart level. Okay. Which is the emotional, 23 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:57,360 comfort and security, love, connection to earth. It's the most private center. 24 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,040 If you examine the houses of astrology, which is on the right side, 25 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:05,760 if you see the left side, it's all the chakra alignment. We are trying to get the person aligned 26 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:12,560 here. Two people have to be aligned in these three crucial aspects. First chakra will give you 27 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:17,280 intuition, clarity, awareness at new levels. Happens all the time. Okay. For everyone. 28 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:23,520 Second one is expression. What your expression is, voice, your throat, your communication, 29 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:30,160 your singing, how you talk to others, what you talk about. And the fourth house in the chakra 30 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:35,600 level becomes heart connection, empathy and wound releases. This is what makes it tough. Okay. 31 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:42,480 So let's go through the points. Let's change my mic. My mic went off for a six. Anyway, clarity, 32 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:48,320 expression and connection. So you talked and talked and yammered on forever, connected with your 33 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:53,200 likes and dislikes, tastes, smells, sounds, whatnot. Right. You went on for a couple of 34 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:58,480 dates, lots of more dates. Maybe you're connecting with the other person. Maybe you are even thinking 35 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:02,880 this relationship is for good. For serious. You talked about house and pets and whatnot. 36 00:03:03,920 --> 00:03:10,640 But somehow this is not quite ringing the bells. What could be the reason for that? The heart has 37 00:03:10,640 --> 00:03:17,040 wounds like I've written over there. See there. The heart connection is good. Everybody wants it. 38 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:22,160 Everybody wants empathy, but there is a wound attached there. We all have traumas. Okay. 39 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:29,200 Coming from childhood and whatnot. And because the fourth house is considered even astrology as 40 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:36,000 the most private space where there's a deep emotional security attached to go through my notes over 41 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:42,640 there. I'm just rambling on the same notes. Deep emotional security with the external world. 42 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:48,240 You want to connect to the external world in an intimate way. That's the intimate partner. Okay. 43 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:57,040 So one guards this like a Fortress really speaking. One opens this to another only if one feels safe 44 00:03:57,040 --> 00:04:05,920 enough vulnerability comes at the cost of giving away security. Think about that. So opening this 45 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:12,400 bag, opening the bag of emotional connection with another and using it against the other person 46 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:16,800 has disastrous consequences. Full stop. You're never getting that back. The person will shut out. 47 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:22,560 You might say fancy things like forgive and this and that. It's not going to happen folks. 48 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:27,360 That person will remember. It's easy to say forgive and forget. The person will never forget. 49 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:33,200 So you got to watch your actions before you take the shot. Okay. Watch your speech before you take 50 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:41,760 the shot. Anyway, number three, remember vulnerability is an art. The art of being 51 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:48,640 present within yourself and your significant other in a way that allows each one to be free to be 52 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:55,280 free to act free to create free to express without any preconditions consequences or outcome. 53 00:04:55,920 --> 00:05:01,040 It should not be do this or else kind of approach. It should not be use scratch my back as 54 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:05,920 graduate kind of approach. This is not a contract. We're not talking about contracts like marriage 55 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:13,680 or contracts of that kind basically an emotional contract. This is not a contractual thing we 56 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:18,800 are discussing at all. You can leave this video right now if you feel that's your thing to do. 57 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:24,880 Okay. We're talking about conscious relating only. You're not talking about relationship. 58 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:29,120 It's not a noun people. This is a continuous tense. You go through this throughout life. 59 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:37,440 So any without any preconditions. This is not a contract. The only goal in conscious relating 60 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:44,880 is more expansion and more freedom. Why? Because that's the goal of the new human being model 61 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:52,000 you see over there. The new human being model exists for more than themselves for more than 62 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:56,800 the earth more than everything else constantly seeking expansion is one of the actions of the 63 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:05,040 new human being. I'll link up the model for you in the video. Number four true connection. 64 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:11,040 What is the true connection we are looking at? How does it look like when each one involved 65 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:18,640 feels known feels seen people are working on as if they're invisible. Nobody is looking at me. 66 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:24,240 Nobody knows who I am. Nobody knows what this thing. What am I here for? What is this place? 67 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:28,320 Who are all these strangers? That's what 90% of the world roams around by. 68 00:06:31,280 --> 00:06:36,240 True connection is when each one feels in known, seen, recognized and appreciated. 69 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,040 When only when one feels known and seen can you recognize and appreciate right? 70 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:47,360 When there is a free flow of energy between their voice, look at the centers over there, 71 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:53,840 the voice, the throat clarity of mind and minds because we're talking about two people over here. 72 00:06:55,360 --> 00:07:02,880 Okay clarity of mind and empathic connection of support which comes from the heart. 73 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:08,800 Heart requires the support of another heart. Why do you want to get hedged? Why do you want to 74 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:12,880 have a lover? Why do you want to experience intimate connections among the many things? 75 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:18,560 It's not because you share the same kind of living space. It's not because the person you want to 76 00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:24,560 get in bed with the person. It's not only just because you can go see fancy mohleys or buy the 77 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:30,480 great American dream of a house in a car. All these are just additions and attachments. 78 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:38,000 What you are looking for is basically that true connection. These three points that you see marked 79 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:46,240 over there, free flow of energy within yourself and then within the other person and you see the 80 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:51,840 other itself reflected back and forth. Why do we need this? Why is this important? Remember the 81 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:57,600 higher self, the bhava dharma, I'll link up that video for you which I spoke of in my evolutionary 82 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:04,240 astrology series. Every house itself in the Vedic astrology chart has got a higher self of a house 83 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:11,840 that's called the bhava dharma to be short. The bhava dharma or the higher self of the seventh house 84 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:19,120 is the first house. Seventh place from the seventh house is the first house. Which means what really? 85 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:26,320 It means your intimate relationship changes who you are as a person. What you think of life, 86 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:30,880 what you think of relationships, what you think of the world, what you think of different areas of 87 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:37,760 your life. 90% of the people roam around the planet thinking everything is a damn duty. 88 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:42,640 There is no freedom of voice, there is no freedom of expression. We are talking about 89 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:48,240 voice and communication. There's nothing, zilch. Therefore, there is no clarity, there is no awareness. 90 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:52,960 Therefore, there is no empathy. Therefore, there are a lot of wounds. Therefore, I could go on 91 00:08:52,960 --> 00:09:01,280 forever. It could become a 10-hour video here. So be careful. This is a make or break kind of approach. 92 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:06,640 First, you need to connect these three dots in any relationship. Make sure you know what you are 93 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:13,200 doing. Step into it cautiously. Don't just be absorbed in the head all the time. That's not 94 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:19,440 going to work folks. We'll keep connecting the dots as we go on. So subscribe to my channel, 95 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:25,040 share this video if you wish and we'll tie all these dots together and then we'll put an entire 96 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:30,880 picture as a beginning point. There's so many things here to be obviously not all right. 97 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:50,880 But I'll catch you in the next one. Take care, be safe out on this day.