Good morning lovely people. So one of the things I want to quickly take you through the talking points for today are
The topic of relationships and I mean relationships between man and woman or partners these these days
We have all kinds of varieties of partnerships
any romantic involvement partnerships and what it would take to bring a higher level of
Evolution growth etc. etc in these kind of partnerships. I mean what factors do we need to take into consideration?
I'm always pondering on such things and
What can we bring in new that is expanded that is meeting with the times that is meeting with the challenge of the
Vibrational nature of the reality which keeps shifting
all around us
The world which is constantly shifting
So this is what I wanted to share with you eight connection points for a loving evolving relationship
Now I'm talking with respect to the new human being model which you can check out on my channel
We have the six aspects of the being which we call understanding
Compassion love balance knowledge and beauty. Okay. We've got the six things at the center of that human being over there in the picture
And we have a man and a woman so each one of these
components is a representative of
Relationship it can be woman or it can be man man. It doesn't matter genders don't matter. It's the
The relationship that is being entered into which we are talking about the romantic relationship
the marriage the
Sexual aspects the intimacy aspects the safety aspects the long-term sustainability aspects and so on so forth
So just I will take you to quickly through the talking points
And I'll leave this to you to
ponder maybe
Share it maybe discuss more on it. This is just like a what came to me what arrived in my head as what could it be
What are the possibilities and potentials here? Okay, think of it that way
So we have the six compatibility points and what could they mean in real life? Let's go through it eight possible connection points
for a relationship
Why do I call it dynamic because it is always changing a person is always changing through life any individual is always changing through life
And do you dare to investigate this is the best part of it and the most challenging part of it as well because in the beginning
There is just a vibe or there's just a chemistry or there's just a
Sexual vibe or a chemistry vibe or I like the way he or she thinks or I like the way he or she feels
Now you can go there and 99 percent of the population will do that but then they come across tumbling blocks or
Blind spots which they would have possibly ignored now the purpose of this one is to expose those blind spots
Up front. So it's like planning a GPS map of your relationship. So if you plan the course properly you can
Guide your life more consciously all of this channel is about conscious co-creation. Okay, so first level
and with respect to the new human being model over there in that picture
First is the educational level and I'm talking about mainstream education. What have you done a college degree undergrad?
so somebody who is not even who's a high school dropout and wants to go with
Get hitched or try and have a relationship with somebody who's a phd in something
You might want to rethink that why because this is similar or different you need to see that first
These are aspects to be looked at it may be may not be but it's better to look at that first
Why because appreciation and growth potential in a development throughout life the knowledge factor will play in there
The knowledge level of two individuals has got to be a little compatible
Folks doesn't matter how brilliant a person might be even like steve jobs who was a college dropout or bill gates who's a college dropout
Doesn't matter. Are they compatible in the other person educational level? Why why do I say that?
An educational level of mainstream shows what necessarily it shows the level of
Patience with knowledge that the person has cultivated developed in nurture
A phd person or a graduate person any graduate person has got some level of patience with knowledge people don't have patience with knowledge
They want everything quick snap snap. I want it now and more. That's not knowledge knowledge comes with patience
It takes three or four years of continuously studying even to get a basic college degree
So a college degree person has far more patience with knowledge patients with what knowledge
Then the person who has a dropout who is already shown that they have no patience with such things
Quite to remember there
Second point is socioeconomic background which creates that aspect of understanding in the new human being
Socio-economic background. Well, are you from the same bracket? Are you from middle class lower middle class upper middle class?
What's your economic status? What's your social status?
And why that is important because this builds our sense of self-esteem and who we think we are as kids
And that is goes very deep into the psychology of the mind of what a person's
Self-image is what a person's self worth is we speak of that in the psychological model which I spoke of in previous ones
So that's what we need to tackle there. What is your socio-economic background?
What is your understanding of the world when you say understanding? It's both obviously
mind
Brain thinking thoughts and emotions the thoughts and emotions combined lead to what we call understanding when you say I
Understand you and you really do when you are speaking to your friend
All it means is I understand it from here and here both both centers
That requires a
compatibility or a matching if you want to use a milder term compatibility may be a little overused
It requires you to be matched with the other person or have a resonance with your partner about
Having the same kind of socio-economic background
This has more chance of success
Because your outlook of the world is somewhat similar to begin with of course it will evolve, but is it somewhat same?
Understanding is important there
Number three astrological resonance now. This is where the esoteric part comes into picture
Astrological resonance for both partners to know of each other fully
For what for harmony nurturing and sexual compatibility?
All these three things can be studied from the individual horoscopes
With people in India people do horoscopes just for getting married and just to push the son or daughter out of the house
So we're not talking about the Indian I'm talking about the worldwide sense here
What do you mean by resonance of nurturing harmony and sexual compatibility this is the esoteric soul compatibility of life journeys
Now depending upon where your ascendant son ascendant and moon are in which nakshatras they are and all the astrological stuff
Which has spoken of in other playlists you can go through that
you can have
A very in-depth view or even a basic view of where the man is traveling in his life
And how they will think and how their life path will play out
And where the woman is playing out and what her life path is what her propensity is desire is
Desire may be in desire for making money house cars
What should what does she think of economic wealth and what does the man think of economic wealth visa?
We even compatibility in bed
So it can be any level of compatibility compatibility can be of the minds of the emotions of the growth
Number of levels right here. We are talking about these three harmony nurturing and sexual compatibility
if a person doesn't feel
nurtured
And this means more of emotion
nurturing
Not just feeding them good food not old
rubbish concepts like a way
For a man's heart is through stomach. No man is much more than a stomach ladies, please
So we are talking about all levels of nurturing that goes on
Harmony how many means there is a dynamic harmonical
energy present in the living in the day to day living aspects. That's the third part
Most people don't even dare to explore that they like I said, it's just dating and all the
I know you you know, maybe have the same hobbies and let's get on with it
Let's jump into a marriage and jump into the bed together. That's about the extent
That's why I asked the first question over there. Do you dare to investigate before you get into one?
number four
Attitudes regarding acceptance of continuous change of personality
Even off-parting not pop-parting even off-parting ways, okay through life and what would that mean to each?
See, this is what I call compassion and this might be a little challenging. But just follow me here
What could be compassionate to both these parties given the relationship here?
We all know that each one's life changes each one grows in their own way
And it is way too complex to sit and analyze on a piece of paper
Even if you take the psychological models, Vedic astrology models, yada yada everything the whole shivaang put together
It is still impossible to predict
What you will be feeling on a given day today
So attitude of acceptance regarding continuous change of personality is the man accepting that the woman will change
continuously throughout her life
It's just the way she will mature. It's just the way her chart matures
Everything else matures about her
how she adjusts to the world so
Is this relationship giving room for a person to completely change make like 180 degree change to what the person is now
That needs to be seen upfront
And so with the woman also with the man as man might completely change his desires might change his
Wishes and wants in material world might change his might decide to change his career his job is
the way he lives his life style
Or what he now desires as opposed to what he desired when you were getting into the relationship
How much of these
Allowance for acceptance of change to happen in life is seen and accepted by both parties in world
It's not one way relationship is a two-way stream
That is what I call real compassion in a relationship
He or she has changed he's changed too much since I last saw him
He has changed too much in the last 10 15 20 years. So we need to go our ways. Is that acceptable?
Do these people while entering even see such a dynamic possible? That's maturity folks
My opinion personally that's maturity in getting into a relationship
Number five vulnerability the degree and the depth of sharing that's what I call love vulnerability is love
Intimacy comes from that vulnerability being
Safe enough to open yourself to the other person with all your wounds warts everything the whole rest of it
We all know that this is important, but we are talking here about the degree and the depth. So it's a
Shades of gray kind of thing. It's not black and white here. Everybody has certain vulnerability when they enter in
That's why they have entered in the first place, right? You did have some vulnerability
You did feel safe and comfortable with this other person. That's why you went in with eyes wide open
But what degree and depth can you do? This is the psychological model which I spoke of in other videos is very very helpful
Because you understand the person's subconscious patterns. You understand their mind. They're thinking
What they like what they don't like it's better to explore all of these psychological aspects first
Which will give you their sense of what makes them feel vulnerable
Vulnerable may not necessarily translate here to weak points be careful of that vulnerability is just
Showing your tenderness in a particular aspect of
life
What is it that you really enjoy?
And the other person is not necessarily into the same dynamic or same extent as you are with respect to that
Let's say art as an example
This man enjoys a lot of art and the woman says
Enjoy it but not quite to that extent. What is that resonance factor?
How do you get something not like a graph necessarily?
But how do you get a map of it is where the psychological model comes into picture?
So that can be explored that is love where you can feel
common ground
In all of this will amplify that love you need an amplification of the original seed
When anyone starts when any two people start a relationship, it's just a seed
The potential for growth is what we are exploring here with these things number six hobbies and interests is what I have termed here
as the beauty part of the
of the human being
Hobbies and interests let it be in anything art music dance drama or
Any of this creative stuff the creativity part
is essentially the beauty part the the part of us as human beings as vibrational spiritual creatures in Italy
Where we are free to explore any form of expression these are all forms of expression obviously
These are all different forms of expression what we call art creativity. It may be even in cooking. It may be even in fishing
it may be even in
Not just dance drama mainstream what we consider art entire life
Human life is artful even this room that you see before me is created by some artists
Even a mason who puts bricks together is making an artwork. Everything is an artwork
So how much of that overlap and appreciation is there even this you can figure out to a degree with the psychological model by me
number seven individuality
Acknowledged appreciated nurtured. That's the balance part
individuality is
these two people
In a relationship and this is
Just diverting here to the astrology group part. That's why I never do the composite chart
Principal in astrology. You can't combine two charts and make it a composite the two
Individuals will always remain individuals throughout their life. You cannot combine it and telling now where's the relationship going?
Personally, I do not believe in that that does not work that way
Each one will remain individual throughout their lives and that's the way it designed to be each one is designed to be themselves
So is that individuality of each by each party?
Acknowledge first do they even think they are individuals or you should be doing things for me and I should be doing such and such a thing for you
That becomes a contract that doesn't become individual
Is it appreciated?
What do I mean by that differences are appreciated each one will be different
How good is this relationship in appreciating the difference?
Accepting it for what it is not trying to make something
The worst thing we all know that every partner does is one is trying to change the other to something else
This never works. It will never work at all ever doesn't matter which model you choose
And is it nurtured is the individuality nurtured?
Means does this person know the other person's individuality the man knows the woman's individuality?
Like what are you about? You're very different from me in that but I will nurture it because I'm in the relationship with you
I will nurture your own individuality
Not for my sake, but for your own sake
And vice versa even the woman encourages the man you are individual in this which is very different to me, but hey, I will encourage it
That's gives the relationship the balance that is needed
Balance is acknowledging the two even though they have come together do not become one
They still remain as to continue to remain as to kill their death
The two become one thing is a very
You know, you're leading down a very romantic idealistic path, which is not realistic
This is a very realistic way of looking at things then saying to become one
Or I will be with you till dead do us part. All of this is nonsense folks. It does not work that way. You know that very well
Number eight the last one the innate sense of being safe with the other which I put there as safe
Astrology we already covered I put that bubble as safe, right?
What is safety?
I call it the vibrational resonance because this is the way it came to me a vibrational resonance as in at any time are you feeling
Safe to be physically around the other person. It'll show up as physically being safe or unsafe
I don't like to be around this person. You know how you enter a room and you would like to be around certain people that kind of thing
Allowance and freedom to grow. This is a very big one folks
Most relationships fail because one is growing at the rate with the other one is not compatible or
Growing in divergent ways and one is not accepting of the other. I want to go here now. I feel resonant with this thing
Such as such a calling in my life. I want to change my profession job or I feel more attracted to this now
Well, this person is going here and going in some other direction
This is how things change over a period of time and we are talking about nurturing
And sustaining all this or all these eight points. What are we looking at? We are looking at the way it can be
Possibly more sustainable. Again, we cannot take a hundred percent check. This is not an ideal model. This is a very realistic model
Because it considers the new human being because it considers psychology because it considers astrology
Okay, I wanted to have a look at this ponder this
and
Hopefully it will make some little bit more sense and you can use it in whichever way in your life in your
Coaching in your mentoring if your relationship go etc etc
Take care be safe be awesome