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Good morning lovely people. So one of the things I want to quickly take you through the talking points for today are

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The topic of relationships and I mean relationships between man and woman or partners these these days

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We have all kinds of varieties of partnerships

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any romantic involvement partnerships and what it would take to bring a higher level of

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Evolution growth etc. etc in these kind of partnerships. I mean what factors do we need to take into consideration?

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I'm always pondering on such things and

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What can we bring in new that is expanded that is meeting with the times that is meeting with the challenge of the

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Vibrational nature of the reality which keeps shifting

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all around us

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The world which is constantly shifting

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So this is what I wanted to share with you eight connection points for a loving evolving relationship

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Now I'm talking with respect to the new human being model which you can check out on my channel

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We have the six aspects of the being which we call understanding

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Compassion love balance knowledge and beauty. Okay. We've got the six things at the center of that human being over there in the picture

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And we have a man and a woman so each one of these

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components is a representative of

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Relationship it can be woman or it can be man man. It doesn't matter genders don't matter. It's the

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The relationship that is being entered into which we are talking about the romantic relationship

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the marriage the

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Sexual aspects the intimacy aspects the safety aspects the long-term sustainability aspects and so on so forth

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So just I will take you to quickly through the talking points

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And I'll leave this to you to

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ponder maybe

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Share it maybe discuss more on it. This is just like a what came to me what arrived in my head as what could it be

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What are the possibilities and potentials here? Okay, think of it that way

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So we have the six compatibility points and what could they mean in real life? Let's go through it eight possible connection points

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for a relationship

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Why do I call it dynamic because it is always changing a person is always changing through life any individual is always changing through life

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And do you dare to investigate this is the best part of it and the most challenging part of it as well because in the beginning

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There is just a vibe or there's just a chemistry or there's just a

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Sexual vibe or a chemistry vibe or I like the way he or she thinks or I like the way he or she feels

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Now you can go there and 99 percent of the population will do that but then they come across tumbling blocks or

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Blind spots which they would have possibly ignored now the purpose of this one is to expose those blind spots

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Up front. So it's like planning a GPS map of your relationship. So if you plan the course properly you can

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Guide your life more consciously all of this channel is about conscious co-creation. Okay, so first level

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and with respect to the new human being model over there in that picture

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First is the educational level and I'm talking about mainstream education. What have you done a college degree undergrad?

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so somebody who is not even who's a high school dropout and wants to go with

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Get hitched or try and have a relationship with somebody who's a phd in something

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You might want to rethink that why because this is similar or different you need to see that first

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These are aspects to be looked at it may be may not be but it's better to look at that first

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Why because appreciation and growth potential in a development throughout life the knowledge factor will play in there

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The knowledge level of two individuals has got to be a little compatible

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Folks doesn't matter how brilliant a person might be even like steve jobs who was a college dropout or bill gates who's a college dropout

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Doesn't matter. Are they compatible in the other person educational level? Why why do I say that?

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An educational level of mainstream shows what necessarily it shows the level of

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Patience with knowledge that the person has cultivated developed in nurture

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A phd person or a graduate person any graduate person has got some level of patience with knowledge people don't have patience with knowledge

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They want everything quick snap snap. I want it now and more. That's not knowledge knowledge comes with patience

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It takes three or four years of continuously studying even to get a basic college degree

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So a college degree person has far more patience with knowledge patients with what knowledge

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Then the person who has a dropout who is already shown that they have no patience with such things

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Quite to remember there

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Second point is socioeconomic background which creates that aspect of understanding in the new human being

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Socio-economic background. Well, are you from the same bracket? Are you from middle class lower middle class upper middle class?

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What's your economic status? What's your social status?

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And why that is important because this builds our sense of self-esteem and who we think we are as kids

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And that is goes very deep into the psychology of the mind of what a person's

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Self-image is what a person's self worth is we speak of that in the psychological model which I spoke of in previous ones

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So that's what we need to tackle there. What is your socio-economic background?

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What is your understanding of the world when you say understanding? It's both obviously

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Brain thinking thoughts and emotions the thoughts and emotions combined lead to what we call understanding when you say I

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Understand you and you really do when you are speaking to your friend

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All it means is I understand it from here and here both both centers

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That requires a

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compatibility or a matching if you want to use a milder term compatibility may be a little overused

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It requires you to be matched with the other person or have a resonance with your partner about

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Having the same kind of socio-economic background

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This has more chance of success

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Because your outlook of the world is somewhat similar to begin with of course it will evolve, but is it somewhat same?

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Understanding is important there

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Number three astrological resonance now. This is where the esoteric part comes into picture

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Astrological resonance for both partners to know of each other fully

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For what for harmony nurturing and sexual compatibility?

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All these three things can be studied from the individual horoscopes

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With people in India people do horoscopes just for getting married and just to push the son or daughter out of the house

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So we're not talking about the Indian I'm talking about the worldwide sense here

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What do you mean by resonance of nurturing harmony and sexual compatibility this is the esoteric soul compatibility of life journeys

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Now depending upon where your ascendant son ascendant and moon are in which nakshatras they are and all the astrological stuff

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Which has spoken of in other playlists you can go through that

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A very in-depth view or even a basic view of where the man is traveling in his life

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And how they will think and how their life path will play out

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And where the woman is playing out and what her life path is what her propensity is desire is

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Desire may be in desire for making money house cars

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What should what does she think of economic wealth and what does the man think of economic wealth visa?

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We even compatibility in bed

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So it can be any level of compatibility compatibility can be of the minds of the emotions of the growth

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Number of levels right here. We are talking about these three harmony nurturing and sexual compatibility

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if a person doesn't feel

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nurtured

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And this means more of emotion

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Not just feeding them good food not old

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rubbish concepts like a way

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For a man's heart is through stomach. No man is much more than a stomach ladies, please

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So we are talking about all levels of nurturing that goes on

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Harmony how many means there is a dynamic harmonical

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energy present in the living in the day to day living aspects. That's the third part

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Most people don't even dare to explore that they like I said, it's just dating and all the

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I know you you know, maybe have the same hobbies and let's get on with it

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Let's jump into a marriage and jump into the bed together. That's about the extent

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That's why I asked the first question over there. Do you dare to investigate before you get into one?

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number four

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Attitudes regarding acceptance of continuous change of personality

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Even off-parting not pop-parting even off-parting ways, okay through life and what would that mean to each?

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See, this is what I call compassion and this might be a little challenging. But just follow me here

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What could be compassionate to both these parties given the relationship here?

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We all know that each one's life changes each one grows in their own way

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And it is way too complex to sit and analyze on a piece of paper

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Even if you take the psychological models, Vedic astrology models, yada yada everything the whole shivaang put together

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It is still impossible to predict

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What you will be feeling on a given day today

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So attitude of acceptance regarding continuous change of personality is the man accepting that the woman will change

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continuously throughout her life

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It's just the way she will mature. It's just the way her chart matures

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Everything else matures about her

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how she adjusts to the world so

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Is this relationship giving room for a person to completely change make like 180 degree change to what the person is now

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That needs to be seen upfront

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And so with the woman also with the man as man might completely change his desires might change his

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Wishes and wants in material world might change his might decide to change his career his job is

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the way he lives his life style

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Or what he now desires as opposed to what he desired when you were getting into the relationship

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How much of these

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Allowance for acceptance of change to happen in life is seen and accepted by both parties in world

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It's not one way relationship is a two-way stream

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That is what I call real compassion in a relationship

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He or she has changed he's changed too much since I last saw him

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He has changed too much in the last 10 15 20 years. So we need to go our ways. Is that acceptable?

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Do these people while entering even see such a dynamic possible? That's maturity folks

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My opinion personally that's maturity in getting into a relationship

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Number five vulnerability the degree and the depth of sharing that's what I call love vulnerability is love

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Intimacy comes from that vulnerability being

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Safe enough to open yourself to the other person with all your wounds warts everything the whole rest of it

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We all know that this is important, but we are talking here about the degree and the depth. So it's a

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Shades of gray kind of thing. It's not black and white here. Everybody has certain vulnerability when they enter in

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That's why they have entered in the first place, right? You did have some vulnerability

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You did feel safe and comfortable with this other person. That's why you went in with eyes wide open

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But what degree and depth can you do? This is the psychological model which I spoke of in other videos is very very helpful

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Because you understand the person's subconscious patterns. You understand their mind. They're thinking

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What they like what they don't like it's better to explore all of these psychological aspects first

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Which will give you their sense of what makes them feel vulnerable

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Vulnerable may not necessarily translate here to weak points be careful of that vulnerability is just

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Showing your tenderness in a particular aspect of

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What is it that you really enjoy?

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And the other person is not necessarily into the same dynamic or same extent as you are with respect to that

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Let's say art as an example

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This man enjoys a lot of art and the woman says

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Enjoy it but not quite to that extent. What is that resonance factor?

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How do you get something not like a graph necessarily?

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But how do you get a map of it is where the psychological model comes into picture?

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So that can be explored that is love where you can feel

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common ground

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In all of this will amplify that love you need an amplification of the original seed

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When anyone starts when any two people start a relationship, it's just a seed

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The potential for growth is what we are exploring here with these things number six hobbies and interests is what I have termed here

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Hobbies and interests let it be in anything art music dance drama or

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Any of this creative stuff the creativity part

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is essentially the beauty part the the part of us as human beings as vibrational spiritual creatures in Italy

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Where we are free to explore any form of expression these are all forms of expression obviously

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These are all different forms of expression what we call art creativity. It may be even in cooking. It may be even in fishing

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Not just dance drama mainstream what we consider art entire life

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Human life is artful even this room that you see before me is created by some artists

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Even a mason who puts bricks together is making an artwork. Everything is an artwork

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So how much of that overlap and appreciation is there even this you can figure out to a degree with the psychological model by me

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Acknowledged appreciated nurtured. That's the balance part

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Just diverting here to the astrology group part. That's why I never do the composite chart

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Principal in astrology. You can't combine two charts and make it a composite the two

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Individuals will always remain individuals throughout their life. You cannot combine it and telling now where's the relationship going?

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Personally, I do not believe in that that does not work that way

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Each one will remain individual throughout their lives and that's the way it designed to be each one is designed to be themselves

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So is that individuality of each by each party?

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Acknowledge first do they even think they are individuals or you should be doing things for me and I should be doing such and such a thing for you

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That becomes a contract that doesn't become individual

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What do I mean by that differences are appreciated each one will be different

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How good is this relationship in appreciating the difference?

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Accepting it for what it is not trying to make something

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The worst thing we all know that every partner does is one is trying to change the other to something else

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This never works. It will never work at all ever doesn't matter which model you choose

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And is it nurtured is the individuality nurtured?

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Means does this person know the other person's individuality the man knows the woman's individuality?

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Like what are you about? You're very different from me in that but I will nurture it because I'm in the relationship with you

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I will nurture your own individuality

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Not for my sake, but for your own sake

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And vice versa even the woman encourages the man you are individual in this which is very different to me, but hey, I will encourage it

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That's gives the relationship the balance that is needed

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Balance is acknowledging the two even though they have come together do not become one

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They still remain as to continue to remain as to kill their death

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The two become one thing is a very

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You know, you're leading down a very romantic idealistic path, which is not realistic

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This is a very realistic way of looking at things then saying to become one

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Or I will be with you till dead do us part. All of this is nonsense folks. It does not work that way. You know that very well

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Number eight the last one the innate sense of being safe with the other which I put there as safe

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Astrology we already covered I put that bubble as safe, right?

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What is safety?

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I call it the vibrational resonance because this is the way it came to me a vibrational resonance as in at any time are you feeling

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Safe to be physically around the other person. It'll show up as physically being safe or unsafe

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I don't like to be around this person. You know how you enter a room and you would like to be around certain people that kind of thing

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Allowance and freedom to grow. This is a very big one folks

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Most relationships fail because one is growing at the rate with the other one is not compatible or

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Growing in divergent ways and one is not accepting of the other. I want to go here now. I feel resonant with this thing

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Such as such a calling in my life. I want to change my profession job or I feel more attracted to this now

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Well, this person is going here and going in some other direction

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This is how things change over a period of time and we are talking about nurturing

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And sustaining all this or all these eight points. What are we looking at? We are looking at the way it can be

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Possibly more sustainable. Again, we cannot take a hundred percent check. This is not an ideal model. This is a very realistic model

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Because it considers the new human being because it considers psychology because it considers astrology

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Okay, I wanted to have a look at this ponder this

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Hopefully it will make some little bit more sense and you can use it in whichever way in your life in your

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Coaching in your mentoring if your relationship go etc etc

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Take care be safe be awesome