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Hi everybody, so let's talk about emotional profile which is a part of advanced testing series of personality.

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Now this one I have to include it in the testing module because emotional profiling is much material is out there and it's much misunderstood as well.

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We have an emotional body each one of us which is the repository of all the things of our life experiences are upbringing and so on so forth.

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It's very complex. So unless we get a basic handle on what our emotional profile is at that moment, I want to be very specific about that.

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It's at that moment the human being is constantly shifting and changing throughout life. So there is nothing like something etched in stone.

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It's not like that you are stuck with whatever your emotional profile is at any given time. So never misinterpret these kind of tests as you know this is etched in stone.

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This is carved in gold or something like that. Nothing like that.

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So some basic emotional profiling that I do will be along these lines. Just follow this.

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First let's see what it's about. What is emotional profiling about?

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Everyone of us has a natural emotional body. How we perceive things even astrology can tie it to this.

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How we act and react to a person places situations and things in our lives.

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Emotional profile test capture the base of where the human is again as I said at that moment.

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Empowering you to know your inner emotional self powerfully and quickly and thereby allowing you the freedom to change and modify as you see fit in your life in your current situation circumstances.

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So this comes back to the principle of unless you know where you are in the map of your personality.

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You don't know where you are heading. Everybody wants to change or tweak their personality slightly here and everybody is really happy with themselves if you strictly look at it from that point of view.

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Even emotionally everybody is really content with where they are. It's the way they were born. It's the way their soul chose to be born if you want to go down the esoteric path.

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But you have to know where you are first. The emotional profile is a scale. It has nothing to do with good or bad.

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Don't think in black and white again. It's a very colorful world. We are each one a very colorful personality.

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Just a profile of the areas of your emotion you would need more attention to and more development from you.

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This is conscious co-creation folks. This is how you engage consciously not unconsciously.

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Emotional profiles always change. Shift morph with age and life experience of relationships and maturity throughout a person's lifetime.

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That's important to remember. It's always shifting slightly here and there.

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Let's see a report. The sample report we got a pie again.

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The report is given as a result of questions which I use in Excel sheets to do with my clients over Zoom.

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So this is the pie chart. As you can see we have five slices of the pie.

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And what are the areas or a test result how it looks like.

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Let's go one by one. Social skill, self-awareness, managing emotions, motivating oneself and empathy.

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Now the numbers you see there are the scores.

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So what are the scores indicate 35 to 50 indicates this is the area of strength for you.

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These are your strong points. 18 to 34 you need to give attention to where you feel you are weak.

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That will pay good dividends. That will make you successful in that area.

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If you need that in your job, in your profession, in your relationships etc.

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10 to 17 will make this a priority. You need to develop this if it is that low on the scale.

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Now this person fortunately is doing very good on all scores.

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So but what is the 30 to 50 range 35 to 50?

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Well they have got motivating oneself and self-awareness very high on the scale.

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The highest being social skill.

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So the highest skill is social interaction which they scored 40.

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Next equal measures are self-awareness and motivating oneself.

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So they are very good in these areas. Empathy and managing emotions they are kind of balanced.

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Nothing is below 10 or below 17 there. So they are good. They are good with that.

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If they need to manage emotions and empathy which is between 18 and 34 in this scoring range.

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That is in this person's case empathy and managing emotions.

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Well if they need to do this they need to get some tools, get some help from resources.

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Maybe check out the internet and see where or what kind of exercises or what kind of things they need to look at.

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They can be helpful in these two areas. You can even just google these terms empathy and managing emotions.

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What's that about? You get tons of resources on the internet.

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Let's just briefly discuss the definitions of each one of these.

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Five. Self-awareness. What is self-awareness?

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Self-awareness is the foundation of personal growth and success.

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Daniel Goldman calls it the keystone of emotional intelligence.

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A lot has been written and spoken about in recent times about emotional intelligence.

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Recognize and understand your emotions and you have the power to control them.

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First is recognizing and understanding where they are, where you are.

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This kind of attention to your thoughts and feelings makes it impossible for your emotions to rule you.

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You should not be getting carried away by your emotions. You should be a master of them.

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That means you should be able to stand back, observe them and then deal with them. That's called mastery.

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With emotional self-awareness you understand your own emotions and their impact on your performance.

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You know what you are feeling and why and how it helps or hurts you.

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What you are trying to do is to sense how others see you and your self-image reflects that larger reality.

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You have an accurate sense of your strength and limitations which gives you a realistic self-confidence.

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Not imagined self-confidence, not pomp, not arrogance or narcissism.

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It also gives you clarity on your values and your sense of purpose.

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So you can be more decisive when you set a course of action.

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That's what this provides you.

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Self-awareness or the ability to recognize and understand your own emotions is a critical emotional intelligence skill.

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Beyond just recognizing your emotions, however, it is being aware of the effect of your actions, moods and emotions on other people.

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We all live with somebody. We all live with family, friends and so on.

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So you need to know the effect that way also from self to others.

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Self-awareness, how to improve self-awareness. These are the generic points.

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Some tips. You can Google this because it's a very vast subject.

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Here are the basic tips.

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Ask for constructive feedback. Keep a journal. Learn new skills.

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Meditate. Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions. Pursue your passions.

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Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is being engaged with the moment which whatever is going on.

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Reflect on your experiences. Set goals. Use positive self-talk, affirmations, intentions.

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Work on building growth mindset. That's how you improve self-awareness.

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Managing emotions. Self-regulation. What is it? The second of the pie.

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Managing emotions. This is the ability to control emotions and impulses.

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People who self-regulate typically don't allow themselves to become too angry. Jealous, sad, etc.

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They don't make impulsive, careless decisions. They think before they act.

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Characteristics of self-regulation are thoughtfulness, comfort with change, integrity and the ability to say no.

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You should be having the freedom and the confidence, self-assured kind of confidence to say no.

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I do not agree with such and such things.

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It concerns managing one's own emotions and predicting their effects, self-awareness

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or the ability to recognize and understand your own emotions is a critical emotional intelligence skill.

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Beyond just recognizing your emotions however is being aware of the effect of your actions, moods and emotions on other people.

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Managing emotions is an emotional intelligence skill that relates to handling your own and others emotions effectively.

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Typically emotional management and understanding are considered higher level skills.

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Self-management skills relate to the emotions you are feeling at any given moment in time or any given circumstance or situation.

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How will you manage them?

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Self-control is a fundamental part of this.

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How do we improve managing emotions?

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Some tips again you can research this on the internet.

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Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings.

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Build distress tolerance skills.

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How do you manage your distress situations or circumstances?

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Wherever you are in life, you have developed some skills with a very specific to you and how you look at life.

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Find ways to manage difficult emotions.

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Get challenges as opportunities.

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Practice your communication skills.

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Recognize that you have a choice in how you respond.

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Use cognitive reframing to change the thought patterns and emotional responses.

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Work on accepting your emotions.

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Motivating oneself.

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What is motivating oneself?

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Motivation is another important emotional intelligence skill.

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People who are emotionally intelligent are motivated by things beyond external rewards

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Instead they have a passion to fulfill their own inner needs and goals.

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There is a big difference there.

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People who are emotionally intelligent are motivated by things beyond external rewards

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like fame money recognition and a claim.

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Instead they have a passion to fulfill their own inner needs and goals.

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They seek internal rewards, experience flow for being totally in tune with an activity and pursue peak experiences.

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Those who are competent in this area tend to be action-oriented. They set goals.

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They have a high need for achievement and are always looking for ways to do things better.

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They are always tend to be committed and are good at taking initiative.

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However, it is being aware of the effect of your actions, moods and emotions.

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One of the people which is also being an important part of this.

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Like it's a holistic picture here.

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How to improve motivation?

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Avoid overusing extrinsic rewards.

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Means don't look for things, rewards from the external world.

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Let it be a praise.

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Let it be somebody constantly tapping you on the back or giving you words of encouragement

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or giving you money or raise or salary or profits or a car.

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People these days buy cars because they have such low self-image, big cars.

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Avoid overusing that.

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Overusing is the crucial word there.

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Nothing wrong with having things, but you don't look for a self-attestation, so to speak,

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based on what you possess.

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Celebrate your results for your own sake, not for anybody around you,

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not even your closest friends and family.

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Focus on setting small achievable goals.

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Introduce new challenges to keep things interesting and exciting.

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Set goals to help build intrinsic motivation.

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Again, go back and listen to the other one.

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Previous slide.

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Work with a friend or co-worker to find accountability.

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Very important word, that word, accountability to oneself.

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Empathy.

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A lot of this needy and a lot of sensitives are waking up to this word now.

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Empathy.

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What is it?

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Empathy is the ability to understand how others are feeling.

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It's critical to emotional intelligence, but it involves more than just being able to recognize

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the emotional states of others.

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It also involves your responses to people based on this information.

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Being empathetic also allows you to understand the power dynamics that are often influencing

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social relationships, especially in workplace settings.

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This is important for guiding your interactions with different people, different cultures,

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races.

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The world has become a very small place today, so you will encounter this.

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Empathy is an awareness of the needs and feelings of others,

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both individually and in groups, being able to see things from the point of view of others.

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Empathy helps us to develop stronger understanding of other people's situations,

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emotions, personality, you name it.

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How to improve empathy.

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Be willing to share your own feelings openly without hiding any of it, without any fear

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of retribution or without being attacked.

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You can stand in your own confidence without anybody getting triggered or doing anything.

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Engage in a cause such as a community project.

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Engage with the community.

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Listen to other people to understand their emotional state, their emotional state,

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listen to other people to understand their emotional state, not necessarily what they are

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going on about, but where are they coming from emotionally?

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Practice loving kindness.

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This one I love personally, Buddhist metha chants.

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They are about compassionate kindness.

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Talk to new people.

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Try to imagine yourself in somebody else's situation, putting yourself in other person's shoes.

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Popularly talked about.

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The last one on fire list.

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What is social skill?

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Being able to interact well with others is another important aspect of emotional intelligence.

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Having strong social skills allows people to build meaningful relationships with other people,

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meaningful being the key there.

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A lot of people, we all have relationships all over the place, but are they meaningful to you?

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Do they mean something to your heart?

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Are you resonant with that or are you not?

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Are you resonant with that or discordant with that?

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Develop a stronger understanding of themselves and others.

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True emotional understanding involves more than just understanding your own emotions and those of

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You will also be need to able to put this information into practice, into your work,

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into your interactions, into your communications, into your email,

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social media posts, Instagram posts, so on and so forth.

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Social skills and compiles a wide range of relationship and interpersonal skills.

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This range from leadership through to influencing and persuading and managing conflict,

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as well as working in a team.

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These people make good team players.

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Developing social skill if you are working in a team is crucial.

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The term social skills covers a wide variety of skills and competencies,

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many of which are rooted in self-esteem and personal confidence.

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By developing your social skills, being easy to talk to, being a good listener,

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being sharing and trustworthy, you also become more charismatic and attractive to others.

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How to improve social skill?

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Ask open-ended questions, questions like which do not require a yes or no answer.

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Like how is the weather today?

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How are you doing in your life today?

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That's an open-ended question.

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It's not like are you going to do this or are you going to do that?

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It's not a selection of A or B or a yes or no answer.

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That's an open-ended question.

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Find icebreakers that will help start conversations.

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How do you start conversations with strangers?

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It's an important skill.

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See, you need to develop such skills.

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Research the internet.

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Notice other people's social skills.

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Practice good eye contact.

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Practice your social skills.

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Practice active listening.

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Active listening is a very multi-layered and multi-dimensional approach.

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You're not just listening to the body language.

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You're not just listening to the words or the context,

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but you're listening to emotion.

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You're listening to everything about the person.

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Active listening, I have also covered in my corporate seminar podcast,

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if you want to look up my channel.

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Show interest in others.

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Watch your body language.

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I have covered quite a bit in the corporate seminar series.