WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.480 Hello my wonderful people, welcome to my channel. 00:00:02.540 --> 00:00:05.419 We are doing the intimacy in Gana mismatch which 00:00:05.419 --> 00:00:08.740 leads to discord and which might lead to clashes. 00:00:10.699 --> 00:00:12.660 This time around I'm putting the moon's woman 00:00:12.660 --> 00:00:16.899 in Maha nakshatra and the man's moon in Anuradha 00:00:16.899 --> 00:00:19.760 nakshatra in Scorpio, the 410 dynamic. But before 00:00:19.760 --> 00:00:25.660 that, just a sidebar. From the Jyotish lens perspective, 00:00:25.960 --> 00:00:28.960 there is no such thing as an ideal relationship, 00:00:28.960 --> 00:00:32.679 you know. There is no such thing like that. Everything 00:00:32.679 --> 00:00:35.460 requires a conscious engagement. Everything requires 00:00:35.460 --> 00:00:39.759 you to know what you are first. First. That's 00:00:39.759 --> 00:00:42.439 why Atmakaraka, enjoy many system is always given 00:00:42.439 --> 00:00:46.079 the highest marks. There is Darakaraka or the 00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:48.939 spouse. characterization is given the least, 00:00:49.039 --> 00:00:51.380 the planet with the least points is Dharakaraka 00:00:51.380 --> 00:00:54.640 which is the spouse. You are not here to necessarily 00:00:54.640 --> 00:00:57.340 understand the spouse from the Jyotish lens. 00:00:58.240 --> 00:01:01.539 You are here to first understand yourself. Even 00:01:01.539 --> 00:01:03.740 if you just understand yourself and the spouse 00:01:03.740 --> 00:01:06.000 doesn't give a damn about all these things, thinks 00:01:06.000 --> 00:01:11.599 all of this is lala BS, at least you know yourself 00:01:11.599 --> 00:01:14.489 and you know even the other person's chat. Right? 00:01:14.510 --> 00:01:16.629 You can understand where they function from. 00:01:16.969 --> 00:01:21.909 So at any rate, what I'm trying to say is even 00:01:21.909 --> 00:01:24.709 understanding yourself and your spouse's chart 00:01:24.709 --> 00:01:26.909 and if you are the only one doing this among 00:01:26.909 --> 00:01:30.090 the two of you, you are in a greater position 00:01:30.090 --> 00:01:32.689 of empowerment, isn't it? That's the beauty of 00:01:32.689 --> 00:01:37.269 Jyotish. And you will appreciate where you stand 00:01:37.269 --> 00:01:41.489 in relation to it. So it gives you enough position 00:01:41.489 --> 00:01:45.650 of power. You feel empowered enough to make a 00:01:45.650 --> 00:01:48.250 choice. Empowered for what? You need to make 00:01:48.250 --> 00:01:49.730 a choice whether you want to stick around with 00:01:49.730 --> 00:01:52.650 the person or leave and go. And maybe next time 00:01:52.650 --> 00:01:56.150 make wiser choices. It's all okay from Jyotish 00:01:56.150 --> 00:02:00.349 perspective. Jyotish does not require you to 00:02:00.349 --> 00:02:04.310 be endlessly in some torture chamber of a relationship 00:02:04.310 --> 00:02:07.989 either. It says you're just here for your sake. 00:02:09.550 --> 00:02:13.680 Whatever you're doing, do it consciously. Understand 00:02:13.680 --> 00:02:16.740 it to the full depth of your capacity. Again, 00:02:17.060 --> 00:02:19.580 the caveat, the danger there is people try to 00:02:19.580 --> 00:02:22.020 understand half stuff. People just want to know 00:02:22.020 --> 00:02:26.120 the convenient part of astrology. Jyotish is 00:02:26.120 --> 00:02:29.020 not convenient astrology, folks. It is highly 00:02:29.020 --> 00:02:33.379 complex and it is highly shining a light which 00:02:33.379 --> 00:02:36.560 is so bright on what you are and what you're 00:02:36.560 --> 00:02:40.400 not. and what the other person is not. So it 00:02:40.400 --> 00:02:43.039 will at least stop your wishful thinking and 00:02:43.039 --> 00:02:45.800 living in a fantasy land of some kind. So one 00:02:45.800 --> 00:02:47.539 of the things Jyotish will definitely give you. 00:02:47.639 --> 00:02:49.439 It doesn't matter which area of life you tend 00:02:49.439 --> 00:02:53.979 to explore. Okay, so let's get back here. She 00:02:53.979 --> 00:02:57.580 is a Rakshasgana in Mahanakshatra and his moon 00:02:57.580 --> 00:03:00.419 is placed fourth position from hers which is 00:03:00.419 --> 00:03:02.860 a Devgana in Anuradhana. Why? This will lead 00:03:02.860 --> 00:03:06.819 to certain kind of a dynamic. Relationship is 00:03:06.819 --> 00:03:09.900 a dynamic. Do you want to make it work? Does 00:03:09.900 --> 00:03:11.759 the other person want to make it work? That's 00:03:11.759 --> 00:03:15.139 another story. That you have to see the personal 00:03:15.139 --> 00:03:18.319 dynamics of that. Where are they in their evolution? 00:03:18.400 --> 00:03:21.560 Could be. You could do a match. You could learn 00:03:21.560 --> 00:03:24.219 to work this consciously. But there have to be 00:03:24.219 --> 00:03:26.819 lots of attributes taken into consideration. 00:03:27.639 --> 00:03:30.599 Lot of allowance made for the other person. You 00:03:30.599 --> 00:03:33.000 cannot change the other person. Be very careful 00:03:33.000 --> 00:03:36.819 about this. because typically men and women tend 00:03:36.819 --> 00:03:39.319 to get into relationships with a hidden idea, 00:03:39.419 --> 00:03:42.639 I'm going to change this person to match what 00:03:42.639 --> 00:03:47.939 I like. In any term, physical, mental, emotional, 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:50.939 any term, that's not going to work, that's your 00:03:50.939 --> 00:03:54.439 foolish fantasy, nothing more. Everybody is unique, 00:03:54.740 --> 00:03:56.879 everybody is going through their unique dashas, 00:03:57.060 --> 00:03:59.819 maha dashas, everybody's planets are unique, 00:04:00.060 --> 00:04:04.039 divisional charts are unique. Jyotish is multidimensional 00:04:04.039 --> 00:04:08.840 in nature. It is not binary like Western Astrology 00:04:08.840 --> 00:04:11.060 is. Everything is not black and white, good or 00:04:11.060 --> 00:04:15.120 bad. It is about multiple layers. You might say 00:04:15.120 --> 00:04:18.220 in another language, Jyotish will give you good 00:04:18.220 --> 00:04:21.579 and the bad and the ugly all at once. What are 00:04:21.579 --> 00:04:24.040 you going to do with it? Every planet has a good 00:04:24.040 --> 00:04:27.740 and a bad and ugly side to it. There is no one 00:04:27.740 --> 00:04:30.360 tune being played in the cosmos according to 00:04:30.360 --> 00:04:34.579 Jyotish. This is a power containment bearing, 00:04:34.899 --> 00:04:38.079 not equal intensity, but regulated intensity, 00:04:38.399 --> 00:04:43.040 mental level match. So she is, Magam is definitely, 00:04:43.060 --> 00:04:46.879 she has ego, a lot of it. She wants to have a 00:04:46.879 --> 00:04:49.699 command -oriented thinking. She is a hierarchical 00:04:49.699 --> 00:04:52.620 worldview. Instinctively, she's authoritative, 00:04:52.879 --> 00:04:55.420 decodes fast, expects alignment. There's a lot 00:04:55.420 --> 00:04:58.459 of expectation, raakshasakanas. Her mind asks, 00:04:58.480 --> 00:05:01.610 can you hold my strength without flinching? His 00:05:01.610 --> 00:05:05.209 mind, on the other hand, wants integrative, reconciliating 00:05:05.209 --> 00:05:11.290 thinking. Looks for harmony over dominance. Seeks 00:05:11.290 --> 00:05:14.389 ethical, emotionally fair outcomes. Slower and 00:05:14.389 --> 00:05:17.550 more reflective decisions. Anuradha is slow to 00:05:17.550 --> 00:05:22.089 bond. So, what are the discord zones? Where the 00:05:22.089 --> 00:05:24.810 friction shows up here? She assumes leadership. 00:05:24.949 --> 00:05:29.040 He prefers shared consensus. Totally different 00:05:29.040 --> 00:05:32.259 approaches. She speaks in absolutes. He speaks 00:05:32.259 --> 00:05:36.139 in nuance. She expects obedience. He expects 00:05:36.139 --> 00:05:41.000 emotional buy -ins. If unconscious, she feels 00:05:41.000 --> 00:05:46.660 he's too soft or slow. He feels she's too forceful, 00:05:46.920 --> 00:05:50.519 uncompromising. And then if this kind of a partnership 00:05:50.519 --> 00:05:55.319 plays out as unconsciously, he will end up labeling 00:05:55.319 --> 00:05:58.600 her as a narcissist. who's totally self -centered. 00:05:58.899 --> 00:06:01.240 Rakshasakhanas are self -centered to the max. 00:06:01.459 --> 00:06:04.860 It's a tamasic nakshatra. All the nine of them. 00:06:05.560 --> 00:06:08.839 She must learn restraint in expression. He must 00:06:08.839 --> 00:06:12.180 learn assertive articulation, not passive harmony. 00:06:12.500 --> 00:06:15.660 He also needs to assert himself. Sort of, you're 00:06:15.660 --> 00:06:19.399 asking that they wanted to become tamasic. It's 00:06:19.399 --> 00:06:22.699 a stretch. It's really a stretch. This is a core 00:06:22.699 --> 00:06:27.379 karmic test of this pairing. She feels safe when 00:06:27.379 --> 00:06:31.579 loyalty is unquestioned, emotional access is 00:06:31.579 --> 00:06:35.259 exclusive, the bond feels sealed, his emotional 00:06:35.259 --> 00:06:38.839 nature is one of emotionally being sensitive 00:06:38.839 --> 00:06:43.379 and porous, gentle tone of acceptance and reassurance 00:06:43.379 --> 00:06:46.339 avoids emotional aggression, bonds through trust 00:06:46.339 --> 00:06:49.160 and emotional safety, withdraws under pressure 00:06:49.160 --> 00:06:51.660 and Maha can give a serious amount of pressure. 00:06:52.759 --> 00:06:55.100 So, what is the emotional discord presented? 00:06:55.470 --> 00:06:59.529 This is where most breakups occur. Her intensity 00:06:59.529 --> 00:07:02.829 overwhelms her nervous system. Again, I have 00:07:02.829 --> 00:07:05.029 spoken of this in the other ones also. It's all 00:07:05.029 --> 00:07:08.990 about your nervous system dysregulation. His 00:07:08.990 --> 00:07:11.930 emotional withdrawal triggers her control instinct. 00:07:12.029 --> 00:07:15.129 She escalates, he shuts down. She escalates more. 00:07:15.589 --> 00:07:18.129 Dominance, withdrawal, emotional pressure, silence. 00:07:19.610 --> 00:07:21.970 You see how this can go south very fast. It's 00:07:21.970 --> 00:07:25.290 like a downward spiral. So the correction mechanism, 00:07:25.750 --> 00:07:27.870 if at all they choose, both should choose in 00:07:27.870 --> 00:07:30.509 this case. In a devana -manusaya -raksha -sagana 00:07:30.509 --> 00:07:33.810 pairing, you have to have conscious partners 00:07:33.810 --> 00:07:36.769 who are willing to go this distance for both 00:07:36.769 --> 00:07:39.069 sides always. There's nothing like one hand clapping. 00:07:39.769 --> 00:07:43.170 You need both partners to be in the game fully. 00:07:44.149 --> 00:07:47.730 Then it could work. She must regulate intensity 00:07:47.730 --> 00:07:51.050 consciously. He must not disappear emotionally 00:07:51.050 --> 00:07:53.889 just to keep the pace. What about sexual match? 00:07:54.589 --> 00:07:57.850 She has a very strong libido dominant presence 00:07:57.850 --> 00:08:02.689 like a woman on top typically needs desire mirrored 00:08:02.689 --> 00:08:06.269 clearly Sexuality equals bonding plus ownership. 00:08:06.269 --> 00:08:10.550 She's aroused by confidence intensity and exclusivity 00:08:10.550 --> 00:08:14.370 Whereas his energy is soft his emotion first 00:08:14.370 --> 00:08:18.670 and arousal later needs emotional permission 00:08:18.829 --> 00:08:22.350 Touch sensitive, responsive, all the finer qualities 00:08:22.350 --> 00:08:25.550 belong to the Dev Ghanas. Shuts down under pressure 00:08:25.550 --> 00:08:30.269 or force. So very sexual discord coming in. She 00:08:30.269 --> 00:08:34.190 initiates too forcefully and he freezes. He waits 00:08:34.190 --> 00:08:37.250 for emotional alignment and she feels rejected. 00:08:37.809 --> 00:08:40.710 See how quickly the drive comes to play here 00:08:40.710 --> 00:08:43.889 of the Ghanas. That's what I want to bring you 00:08:43.889 --> 00:08:47.059 here just to give you a full on awareness. She 00:08:47.059 --> 00:08:49.700 reads his gentleness as a lack of desire. He 00:08:49.700 --> 00:08:53.059 reads her intensity as aggression. Correction 00:08:53.059 --> 00:08:55.559 mechanism? If at all you want to go there, both 00:08:55.559 --> 00:08:58.820 must go here. She must slow initiation. He must 00:08:58.820 --> 00:09:02.379 express verbally the desire, not just feel it. 00:09:03.820 --> 00:09:07.200 So, what's the final truth here? This relationship 00:09:07.200 --> 00:09:11.279 works when Rakshasa power is contained, not unleashed. 00:09:11.659 --> 00:09:15.190 Devgana sensitivity is expressed not suppressed 00:09:15.190 --> 00:09:19.009 intensity is regulated and not denied this relationship 00:09:19.009 --> 00:09:22.230 would fail when she dominates emotionally when 00:09:22.230 --> 00:09:24.750 it disappears emotionally and power replaces 00:09:24.750 --> 00:09:28.470 intimacy see how quickly things can go south 00:09:28.470 --> 00:09:32.570 with rakshasa devana pairing next let's see with 00:09:32.570 --> 00:09:35.190 punar vasu because as you can see over there 00:09:35.190 --> 00:09:37.769 punar vasu is in the 11th position we'll take 00:09:37.769 --> 00:09:42.860 punar vasu in gemini okay Let's see that in the 00:09:42.860 --> 00:09:47.399 next. Keep watching. Now let's take the pairing 00:09:47.399 --> 00:09:51.279 with his moon being in Punarvasu, which is 11th 00:09:51.279 --> 00:09:55.659 position from her moon. And her moon is 3rd position 00:09:55.659 --> 00:09:59.240 from him. So it's a 11th re -dynamic. And her 00:09:59.240 --> 00:10:02.179 moon is in Manganakshatra, his moon is in Punarvasanakshatra, 00:10:02.340 --> 00:10:05.279 in the 11th place. Not necessarily ascendant 00:10:05.279 --> 00:10:09.690 11th house. Okay? Here's another tip. And this 00:10:09.690 --> 00:10:12.870 needs to be examined on a chart -to -chart basis. 00:10:13.210 --> 00:10:15.009 This is not a general rule. Don't start applying 00:10:15.009 --> 00:10:20.450 all these rules, generally speaking. Mars, we 00:10:20.450 --> 00:10:22.870 have not considered Mars in the intimacy dynamic, 00:10:22.970 --> 00:10:25.629 isn't it? Because Mars for me is just a passion 00:10:25.629 --> 00:10:28.909 planet. It's just interested in physical copulation 00:10:28.909 --> 00:10:33.230 factors and not intimacy factors. Fine. That 00:10:33.230 --> 00:10:38.159 being the case. The moon for the Devagana. You're 00:10:38.159 --> 00:10:40.120 trying to match Devana Rakshasa, which is in 00:10:40.120 --> 00:10:43.240 itself a bad thing. You shouldn't go there. If 00:10:43.240 --> 00:10:46.059 you can avoid it, avoid it at all costs. That's 00:10:46.059 --> 00:10:50.200 the best suggestion of mine. But if you are married, 00:10:50.360 --> 00:10:52.860 and if you have a partner like this, which is 00:10:52.860 --> 00:10:56.039 most dominantly the case, from the relationship 00:10:56.039 --> 00:10:59.279 cases I have got, because what tends to happen, 00:10:59.399 --> 00:11:01.940 people don't go to astrologers when things are 00:11:01.940 --> 00:11:03.759 going fine. It's like you don't go to a doctor 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:06.019 when you're feeling well. You go only when you're 00:11:06.019 --> 00:11:09.250 sick. So people tend to come to astrologists, 00:11:09.590 --> 00:11:12.610 like myself or others, only when there's something 00:11:12.610 --> 00:11:14.710 is going south, isn't it, in their relationship 00:11:14.710 --> 00:11:18.230 in this case. So they come to astrologists with 00:11:18.230 --> 00:11:20.710 a problem in mind, a relationship problem in 00:11:20.710 --> 00:11:24.210 this case, saying, dude, this is not working. 00:11:24.289 --> 00:11:26.250 Help me out here. What are we supposed to do? 00:11:26.289 --> 00:11:28.429 What am I getting wrong? And all kinds of questions. 00:11:28.549 --> 00:11:32.190 Questions can be any number. But if I start examining 00:11:32.190 --> 00:11:36.769 the chart, I would hope. In this case, that this 00:11:36.769 --> 00:11:39.929 guy's Mars over here, since his Moon is in Devagana, 00:11:40.309 --> 00:11:42.970 is in Rakshasa Gana. You see where I'm coming 00:11:42.970 --> 00:11:46.490 from. I'm hoping this fellow's Mars is in Rakshasa 00:11:46.490 --> 00:11:49.409 Gana, and her Mars is in Devagana. This is a 00:11:49.409 --> 00:11:51.850 chance. We have to see details, of course. It 00:11:51.850 --> 00:11:54.750 might not necessarily be the case. It is on a 00:11:54.750 --> 00:11:57.490 case -to -case basis. Only every single chart 00:11:57.490 --> 00:12:00.889 among the 8 billion are unique. There is no repetition. 00:12:01.169 --> 00:12:04.039 Nature does not allow repetition. There's no 00:12:04.039 --> 00:12:07.179 point in creating two people of the same type. 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:10.039 Creator believes in variety. Look at nature, 00:12:10.100 --> 00:12:14.419 for example. Okay? Right, back to this dynamic. 00:12:14.639 --> 00:12:19.179 Now let's examine what this yields. So, first 00:12:19.179 --> 00:12:21.480 of all, this is 11 -3 dynamic. That is power 00:12:21.480 --> 00:12:24.320 and presence versus communication and adaptation. 00:12:24.440 --> 00:12:27.620 That's a general signature for three 11s. This 00:12:27.620 --> 00:12:30.179 is not a dominance -containment bond. This is 00:12:30.179 --> 00:12:34.059 a power -circulation bond. So her mind thinks 00:12:34.059 --> 00:12:36.700 in terms of authority, hierarchy, and certainty. 00:12:38.299 --> 00:12:41.700 Very strong. This is how it should be. Very dominant 00:12:41.700 --> 00:12:44.960 personality. Mentally decisive, sometimes inflexible. 00:12:45.100 --> 00:12:48.100 Sometimes I would say all the time. Orientation 00:12:48.100 --> 00:12:51.100 towards status, recognition, and long -term positioning. 00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:54.019 Low tolerance for indecision or scattered thinking. 00:12:54.559 --> 00:12:59.200 She's very decisive. And in this case, She has 00:12:59.200 --> 00:13:02.919 a vision and she wants him to amplify at 11th 00:13:02.919 --> 00:13:06.080 position. She asked the question, can you amplify 00:13:06.080 --> 00:13:09.080 my vision or will you dilute it? His mind on 00:13:09.080 --> 00:13:12.559 the other side thinks in options, dialogue, multiple 00:13:12.559 --> 00:13:16.379 pathways. Poonar Vasu thinks in many, many options, 00:13:16.740 --> 00:13:20.480 more of an options person like NLP. Curious, 00:13:20.779 --> 00:13:23.559 exploratory and idea driven, mentally optimistic 00:13:23.559 --> 00:13:26.289 and regenerative. Sees life as something that 00:13:26.289 --> 00:13:30.649 can always be reset. Dislikes, rigid mental frameworks. 00:13:31.169 --> 00:13:34.669 All they're gonna have is dislike, rigidity, 00:13:35.250 --> 00:13:37.870 period. Doesn't matter which one. They always 00:13:37.870 --> 00:13:40.830 see life as a bunch of options. Okay, if this 00:13:40.830 --> 00:13:43.309 A is not possible, B. B is not possible, C. And 00:13:43.309 --> 00:13:49.129 you can go on up till Z. Mental discord zones. 00:13:49.250 --> 00:13:51.309 Let us just say discord zones because that's 00:13:51.309 --> 00:13:53.470 what I'm discussing here. This is where the trouble 00:13:53.470 --> 00:13:57.730 appears. She sees his flexibility as lack of 00:13:57.730 --> 00:14:01.669 seriousness. He sees her certainty as mental 00:14:01.669 --> 00:14:06.049 authoritarianism. She wants decisions. He wants 00:14:06.049 --> 00:14:10.570 discussion. She values finality. He values continuity. 00:14:11.009 --> 00:14:14.289 If unconscious, she becomes dismissive. He becomes 00:14:14.289 --> 00:14:17.710 evasive or ironic. Might even become critical. 00:14:19.169 --> 00:14:21.470 Debanas tend to have a typical characteristic. 00:14:21.789 --> 00:14:25.690 because of the aggression they face from Manusakhanas 00:14:25.690 --> 00:14:28.769 or worse, Rakshasakhanas, they tend to get very 00:14:28.769 --> 00:14:31.269 passive aggressive. They are aggressive, but 00:14:31.269 --> 00:14:34.190 they tend to get sarcastic. You know, always 00:14:34.190 --> 00:14:37.409 sarcastic undertones. And in relationship, sarcasm 00:14:37.409 --> 00:14:41.990 doesn't work folks. Trust me. Her emotional nature, 00:14:42.450 --> 00:14:45.950 intense, bonds through loyalty, needs emotional 00:14:45.950 --> 00:14:49.850 certainty. She feels safe when emotional access 00:14:49.850 --> 00:14:53.190 feels prioritized. She needs to become the centerpiece 00:14:53.190 --> 00:14:56.409 here. That's what she's looking for. The bond 00:14:56.409 --> 00:14:59.970 feels chosen, not optional. Whereas he wants 00:14:59.970 --> 00:15:02.470 it emotionally light, processes feelings through 00:15:02.470 --> 00:15:05.129 conversation, needs emotional gentleness. Remember 00:15:05.129 --> 00:15:08.389 it's the three dynamic also. Her position is 00:15:08.389 --> 00:15:13.169 third from him. So he needs communication. He 00:15:13.169 --> 00:15:16.289 needs dialogue. He needs gentleness. Devana. 00:15:16.460 --> 00:15:19.519 avoids emotional heaviness or confrontational 00:15:19.519 --> 00:15:24.620 attitudes. So, where does the emotional discord 00:15:24.620 --> 00:15:28.879 begin? Her intensity overwhelms his devgana nervous 00:15:28.879 --> 00:15:32.559 system. Again, we keep coming back to nervous 00:15:32.559 --> 00:15:35.559 system dysregulation that occurs in this devgana 00:15:35.559 --> 00:15:39.399 rocks, devgana bearings. His emotional lightness 00:15:39.399 --> 00:15:42.580 triggers her insecurity. She pushes for depth. 00:15:42.820 --> 00:15:46.600 He diffuses for logic or humor. You hear this 00:15:46.600 --> 00:15:49.019 all the time in couples counselling, isn't it? 00:15:49.419 --> 00:15:52.519 He takes it very, very lightly when I am being 00:15:52.519 --> 00:15:56.299 very serious. What is that dynamic? It shows 00:15:56.299 --> 00:16:00.440 up in Jyotish. She reads this as emotional avoidance. 00:16:00.860 --> 00:16:04.379 This creates a polarity clash, intensity versus 00:16:04.379 --> 00:16:07.360 escape or perceived escape, I would call it. 00:16:07.679 --> 00:16:10.120 He's looking for something else. He's a devana 00:16:10.120 --> 00:16:14.730 in this case. Where is the physical discord, 00:16:15.129 --> 00:16:18.429 sexual discord? All of them play out simultaneously, 00:16:18.710 --> 00:16:20.610 by the way. Physical, mental, emotional. You 00:16:20.610 --> 00:16:24.309 are one being, isn't it? She expects intensity. 00:16:24.389 --> 00:16:28.269 He offers softness. He wants playfulness. She 00:16:28.269 --> 00:16:32.809 wants depth. She may feel under desired. He may 00:16:32.809 --> 00:16:36.509 feel pressured. She must slow down the intensity. 00:16:36.629 --> 00:16:39.690 He must express desire verbally and consistently. 00:16:40.840 --> 00:16:44.940 This becomes a problem. This relationship could 00:16:44.940 --> 00:16:48.019 break down if she demands emotional depth on 00:16:48.019 --> 00:16:53.259 command. This is Leo, Moon in Leo, in Magha. 00:16:53.600 --> 00:16:55.840 A very commanding, authoritative kind of a person. 00:16:56.639 --> 00:16:59.759 He avoids emotional accountability. Power silences 00:16:59.759 --> 00:17:02.779 the dialogue. That's where relationships start 00:17:02.779 --> 00:17:05.880 to go silent. Why do relationships tend to go 00:17:05.880 --> 00:17:08.359 silent on one another over years? Most have seen 00:17:08.359 --> 00:17:11.400 lots of cases like this, I'm sure. Even your 00:17:11.400 --> 00:17:14.599 parents, for example. You need to be careful 00:17:14.599 --> 00:17:18.480 how you pair and what you pair when you consider 00:17:18.480 --> 00:17:21.799 Ganas in Jyotish. And that, I would put it at 00:17:21.799 --> 00:17:24.880 the top of the list. Hierarchy, first Gana pair. 00:17:25.599 --> 00:17:29.819 Next, the numerological distance. Why don't I 00:17:29.819 --> 00:17:32.640 consider fifth position and ninth position, for 00:17:32.640 --> 00:17:35.220 example. That becomes a Guru -Shishya kind of 00:17:35.220 --> 00:17:37.299 a thing. A teacher and student. You don't want 00:17:37.299 --> 00:17:40.079 one to become a teacher in the bedroom. No, no, 00:17:40.079 --> 00:17:42.160 no, that's not the objective. It should be a 00:17:42.160 --> 00:17:45.880 sort of communicative bond. Kind of equal partnership. 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:50.000 That's what we look for anyway. And yet the dynamic 00:17:50.000 --> 00:17:52.680 should be harmonious. That's why 1, 3, 4, 7, 00:17:52.779 --> 00:17:57.640 10 and 11. Position matching of moon. Jyotish 00:17:57.640 --> 00:18:02.259 says is the best possible outcome. You are trying 00:18:02.259 --> 00:18:04.980 to consciously work towards a best possible, 00:18:05.099 --> 00:18:08.619 most harmonious, less challenging. You don't 00:18:08.619 --> 00:18:12.119 have to be make your intimate partner the centerpiece 00:18:12.119 --> 00:18:14.220 of your life, because you have other areas of 00:18:14.220 --> 00:18:17.500 life. You have work, you have friends, you want 00:18:17.500 --> 00:18:19.299 it. You have life by yourself also, you want 00:18:19.299 --> 00:18:22.759 some privacy also. Why are you going around making 00:18:22.759 --> 00:18:25.619 intimacy the centerpiece of your life? That's 00:18:25.619 --> 00:18:30.319 not the objective here. Next one, I think I shall 00:18:30.319 --> 00:18:33.660 take some other rush. Gonna wrap this part up. 00:18:34.079 --> 00:18:35.200 I'll see you in the next. Take care.