Hello my wonderful people, welcome to my channel.
We are doing the intimacy in Gana mismatch which
leads to discord and which might lead to clashes.
This time around I'm putting the moon's woman
in Maha nakshatra and the man's moon in Anuradha
nakshatra in Scorpio, the 410 dynamic. But before
that, just a sidebar. From the Jyotish lens perspective,
there is no such thing as an ideal relationship,
you know. There is no such thing like that. Everything
requires a conscious engagement. Everything requires
you to know what you are first. First. That's
why Atmakaraka, enjoy many system is always given
the highest marks. There is Darakaraka or the
spouse. characterization is given the least,
the planet with the least points is Dharakaraka
which is the spouse. You are not here to necessarily
understand the spouse from the Jyotish lens.
You are here to first understand yourself. Even
if you just understand yourself and the spouse
doesn't give a damn about all these things, thinks
all of this is lala BS, at least you know yourself
and you know even the other person's chat. Right?
You can understand where they function from.
So at any rate, what I'm trying to say is even
understanding yourself and your spouse's chart
and if you are the only one doing this among
the two of you, you are in a greater position
of empowerment, isn't it? That's the beauty of
Jyotish. And you will appreciate where you stand
in relation to it. So it gives you enough position
of power. You feel empowered enough to make a
choice. Empowered for what? You need to make
a choice whether you want to stick around with
the person or leave and go. And maybe next time
make wiser choices. It's all okay from Jyotish
perspective. Jyotish does not require you to
be endlessly in some torture chamber of a relationship
either. It says you're just here for your sake.
Whatever you're doing, do it consciously. Understand
it to the full depth of your capacity. Again,
the caveat, the danger there is people try to
understand half stuff. People just want to know
the convenient part of astrology. Jyotish is
not convenient astrology, folks. It is highly
complex and it is highly shining a light which
is so bright on what you are and what you're
not. and what the other person is not. So it
will at least stop your wishful thinking and
living in a fantasy land of some kind. So one
of the things Jyotish will definitely give you.
It doesn't matter which area of life you tend
to explore. Okay, so let's get back here. She
is a Rakshasgana in Mahanakshatra and his moon
is placed fourth position from hers which is
a Devgana in Anuradhana. Why? This will lead
to certain kind of a dynamic. Relationship is
a dynamic. Do you want to make it work? Does
the other person want to make it work? That's
another story. That you have to see the personal
dynamics of that. Where are they in their evolution?
Could be. You could do a match. You could learn
to work this consciously. But there have to be
lots of attributes taken into consideration.
Lot of allowance made for the other person. You
cannot change the other person. Be very careful
about this. because typically men and women tend
to get into relationships with a hidden idea,
I'm going to change this person to match what
I like. In any term, physical, mental, emotional,
any term, that's not going to work, that's your
foolish fantasy, nothing more. Everybody is unique,
everybody is going through their unique dashas,
maha dashas, everybody's planets are unique,
divisional charts are unique. Jyotish is multidimensional
in nature. It is not binary like Western Astrology
is. Everything is not black and white, good or
bad. It is about multiple layers. You might say
in another language, Jyotish will give you good
and the bad and the ugly all at once. What are
you going to do with it? Every planet has a good
and a bad and ugly side to it. There is no one
tune being played in the cosmos according to
Jyotish. This is a power containment bearing,
not equal intensity, but regulated intensity,
mental level match. So she is, Magam is definitely,
she has ego, a lot of it. She wants to have a
command -oriented thinking. She is a hierarchical
worldview. Instinctively, she's authoritative,
decodes fast, expects alignment. There's a lot
of expectation, raakshasakanas. Her mind asks,
can you hold my strength without flinching? His
mind, on the other hand, wants integrative, reconciliating
thinking. Looks for harmony over dominance. Seeks
ethical, emotionally fair outcomes. Slower and
more reflective decisions. Anuradha is slow to
bond. So, what are the discord zones? Where the
friction shows up here? She assumes leadership.
He prefers shared consensus. Totally different
approaches. She speaks in absolutes. He speaks
in nuance. She expects obedience. He expects
emotional buy -ins. If unconscious, she feels
he's too soft or slow. He feels she's too forceful,
uncompromising. And then if this kind of a partnership
plays out as unconsciously, he will end up labeling
her as a narcissist. who's totally self -centered.
Rakshasakhanas are self -centered to the max.
It's a tamasic nakshatra. All the nine of them.
She must learn restraint in expression. He must
learn assertive articulation, not passive harmony.
He also needs to assert himself. Sort of, you're
asking that they wanted to become tamasic. It's
a stretch. It's really a stretch. This is a core
karmic test of this pairing. She feels safe when
loyalty is unquestioned, emotional access is
exclusive, the bond feels sealed, his emotional
nature is one of emotionally being sensitive
and porous, gentle tone of acceptance and reassurance
avoids emotional aggression, bonds through trust
and emotional safety, withdraws under pressure
and Maha can give a serious amount of pressure.
So, what is the emotional discord presented?
This is where most breakups occur. Her intensity
overwhelms her nervous system. Again, I have
spoken of this in the other ones also. It's all
about your nervous system dysregulation. His
emotional withdrawal triggers her control instinct.
She escalates, he shuts down. She escalates more.
Dominance, withdrawal, emotional pressure, silence.
You see how this can go south very fast. It's
like a downward spiral. So the correction mechanism,
if at all they choose, both should choose in
this case. In a devana -manusaya -raksha -sagana
pairing, you have to have conscious partners
who are willing to go this distance for both
sides always. There's nothing like one hand clapping.
You need both partners to be in the game fully.
Then it could work. She must regulate intensity
consciously. He must not disappear emotionally
just to keep the pace. What about sexual match?
She has a very strong libido dominant presence
like a woman on top typically needs desire mirrored
clearly Sexuality equals bonding plus ownership.
She's aroused by confidence intensity and exclusivity
Whereas his energy is soft his emotion first
and arousal later needs emotional permission
Touch sensitive, responsive, all the finer qualities
belong to the Dev Ghanas. Shuts down under pressure
or force. So very sexual discord coming in. She
initiates too forcefully and he freezes. He waits
for emotional alignment and she feels rejected.
See how quickly the drive comes to play here
of the Ghanas. That's what I want to bring you
here just to give you a full on awareness. She
reads his gentleness as a lack of desire. He
reads her intensity as aggression. Correction
mechanism? If at all you want to go there, both
must go here. She must slow initiation. He must
express verbally the desire, not just feel it.
So, what's the final truth here? This relationship
works when Rakshasa power is contained, not unleashed.
Devgana sensitivity is expressed not suppressed
intensity is regulated and not denied this relationship
would fail when she dominates emotionally when
it disappears emotionally and power replaces
intimacy see how quickly things can go south
with rakshasa devana pairing next let's see with
punar vasu because as you can see over there
punar vasu is in the 11th position we'll take
punar vasu in gemini okay Let's see that in the
next. Keep watching. Now let's take the pairing
with his moon being in Punarvasu, which is 11th
position from her moon. And her moon is 3rd position
from him. So it's a 11th re -dynamic. And her
moon is in Manganakshatra, his moon is in Punarvasanakshatra,
in the 11th place. Not necessarily ascendant
11th house. Okay? Here's another tip. And this
needs to be examined on a chart -to -chart basis.
This is not a general rule. Don't start applying
all these rules, generally speaking. Mars, we
have not considered Mars in the intimacy dynamic,
isn't it? Because Mars for me is just a passion
planet. It's just interested in physical copulation
factors and not intimacy factors. Fine. That
being the case. The moon for the Devagana. You're
trying to match Devana Rakshasa, which is in
itself a bad thing. You shouldn't go there. If
you can avoid it, avoid it at all costs. That's
the best suggestion of mine. But if you are married,
and if you have a partner like this, which is
most dominantly the case, from the relationship
cases I have got, because what tends to happen,
people don't go to astrologers when things are
going fine. It's like you don't go to a doctor
when you're feeling well. You go only when you're
sick. So people tend to come to astrologists,
like myself or others, only when there's something
is going south, isn't it, in their relationship
in this case. So they come to astrologists with
a problem in mind, a relationship problem in
this case, saying, dude, this is not working.
Help me out here. What are we supposed to do?
What am I getting wrong? And all kinds of questions.
Questions can be any number. But if I start examining
the chart, I would hope. In this case, that this
guy's Mars over here, since his Moon is in Devagana,
is in Rakshasa Gana. You see where I'm coming
from. I'm hoping this fellow's Mars is in Rakshasa
Gana, and her Mars is in Devagana. This is a
chance. We have to see details, of course. It
might not necessarily be the case. It is on a
case -to -case basis. Only every single chart
among the 8 billion are unique. There is no repetition.
Nature does not allow repetition. There's no
point in creating two people of the same type.
Creator believes in variety. Look at nature,
for example. Okay? Right, back to this dynamic.
Now let's examine what this yields. So, first
of all, this is 11 -3 dynamic. That is power
and presence versus communication and adaptation.
That's a general signature for three 11s. This
is not a dominance -containment bond. This is
a power -circulation bond. So her mind thinks
in terms of authority, hierarchy, and certainty.
Very strong. This is how it should be. Very dominant
personality. Mentally decisive, sometimes inflexible.
Sometimes I would say all the time. Orientation
towards status, recognition, and long -term positioning.
Low tolerance for indecision or scattered thinking.
She's very decisive. And in this case, She has
a vision and she wants him to amplify at 11th
position. She asked the question, can you amplify
my vision or will you dilute it? His mind on
the other side thinks in options, dialogue, multiple
pathways. Poonar Vasu thinks in many, many options,
more of an options person like NLP. Curious,
exploratory and idea driven, mentally optimistic
and regenerative. Sees life as something that
can always be reset. Dislikes, rigid mental frameworks.
All they're gonna have is dislike, rigidity,
period. Doesn't matter which one. They always
see life as a bunch of options. Okay, if this
A is not possible, B. B is not possible, C. And
you can go on up till Z. Mental discord zones.
Let us just say discord zones because that's
what I'm discussing here. This is where the trouble
appears. She sees his flexibility as lack of
seriousness. He sees her certainty as mental
authoritarianism. She wants decisions. He wants
discussion. She values finality. He values continuity.
If unconscious, she becomes dismissive. He becomes
evasive or ironic. Might even become critical.
Debanas tend to have a typical characteristic.
because of the aggression they face from Manusakhanas
or worse, Rakshasakhanas, they tend to get very
passive aggressive. They are aggressive, but
they tend to get sarcastic. You know, always
sarcastic undertones. And in relationship, sarcasm
doesn't work folks. Trust me. Her emotional nature,
intense, bonds through loyalty, needs emotional
certainty. She feels safe when emotional access
feels prioritized. She needs to become the centerpiece
here. That's what she's looking for. The bond
feels chosen, not optional. Whereas he wants
it emotionally light, processes feelings through
conversation, needs emotional gentleness. Remember
it's the three dynamic also. Her position is
third from him. So he needs communication. He
needs dialogue. He needs gentleness. Devana.
avoids emotional heaviness or confrontational
attitudes. So, where does the emotional discord
begin? Her intensity overwhelms his devgana nervous
system. Again, we keep coming back to nervous
system dysregulation that occurs in this devgana
rocks, devgana bearings. His emotional lightness
triggers her insecurity. She pushes for depth.
He diffuses for logic or humor. You hear this
all the time in couples counselling, isn't it?
He takes it very, very lightly when I am being
very serious. What is that dynamic? It shows
up in Jyotish. She reads this as emotional avoidance.
This creates a polarity clash, intensity versus
escape or perceived escape, I would call it.
He's looking for something else. He's a devana
in this case. Where is the physical discord,
sexual discord? All of them play out simultaneously,
by the way. Physical, mental, emotional. You
are one being, isn't it? She expects intensity.
He offers softness. He wants playfulness. She
wants depth. She may feel under desired. He may
feel pressured. She must slow down the intensity.
He must express desire verbally and consistently.
This becomes a problem. This relationship could
break down if she demands emotional depth on
command. This is Leo, Moon in Leo, in Magha.
A very commanding, authoritative kind of a person.
He avoids emotional accountability. Power silences
the dialogue. That's where relationships start
to go silent. Why do relationships tend to go
silent on one another over years? Most have seen
lots of cases like this, I'm sure. Even your
parents, for example. You need to be careful
how you pair and what you pair when you consider
Ganas in Jyotish. And that, I would put it at
the top of the list. Hierarchy, first Gana pair.
Next, the numerological distance. Why don't I
consider fifth position and ninth position, for
example. That becomes a Guru -Shishya kind of
a thing. A teacher and student. You don't want
one to become a teacher in the bedroom. No, no,
no, that's not the objective. It should be a
sort of communicative bond. Kind of equal partnership.
That's what we look for anyway. And yet the dynamic
should be harmonious. That's why 1, 3, 4, 7,
10 and 11. Position matching of moon. Jyotish
says is the best possible outcome. You are trying
to consciously work towards a best possible,
most harmonious, less challenging. You don't
have to be make your intimate partner the centerpiece
of your life, because you have other areas of
life. You have work, you have friends, you want
it. You have life by yourself also, you want
some privacy also. Why are you going around making
intimacy the centerpiece of your life? That's
not the objective here. Next one, I think I shall
take some other rush. Gonna wrap this part up.
I'll see you in the next. Take care.