WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.339 Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back. We are doing 00:00:02.339 --> 00:00:05.040 the intimacy discussions. Now we are talking 00:00:05.040 --> 00:00:09.320 about Gana mismatches. Just a sidebar on that. 00:00:09.919 --> 00:00:13.380 Typically, mark my words, typically Dev Ganas 00:00:13.380 --> 00:00:16.820 will look for emotion first, physical connection 00:00:16.820 --> 00:00:22.420 later, dependent. Whereas, Rakshas Ganas will 00:00:22.420 --> 00:00:27.219 say, I want intensity and the physical connectivity 00:00:27.219 --> 00:00:31.570 first. Emotions can come later. This is typical, 00:00:31.829 --> 00:00:34.689 okay? There's nine Devakanas and nine Rasakanas. 00:00:34.969 --> 00:00:37.850 So, do the math. It'll be very, very complicated 00:00:37.850 --> 00:00:40.990 in terms of individual analysis. If you need 00:00:40.990 --> 00:00:42.750 consultations, you can get in touch with me. 00:00:43.070 --> 00:00:45.869 You need to understand the typical dynamic here. 00:00:46.030 --> 00:00:49.090 You need to understand that. First comes the 00:00:49.090 --> 00:00:51.170 knowledge. First comes the understanding. That's 00:00:51.170 --> 00:00:54.590 what this channel is about. If you don't understand 00:00:54.590 --> 00:00:57.289 even the basics of this stuff, you will think 00:00:57.289 --> 00:01:00.780 I'm just yammering on about a whole lot of verbiage 00:01:00.780 --> 00:01:03.479 without any basis. There is a very strong basis, 00:01:03.619 --> 00:01:06.719 you don't want to fight this. Let's take the 00:01:06.719 --> 00:01:12.000 next case in our analysis. Now I have put her 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:15.400 moon in Shatbisha and his moon in Marikshira 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:17.640 which is Devagana. So she is a Rakshasakana, 00:01:17.799 --> 00:01:20.359 he is a Devagana. Let's see how that discord 00:01:20.359 --> 00:01:22.620 plays out. We are talking about discords here. 00:01:23.880 --> 00:01:27.959 This pairing is detached intelligence confronting 00:01:27.959 --> 00:01:31.739 searching sensitivity. Guess which one is which? 00:01:32.500 --> 00:01:37.200 Detached intelligence, Aquarius or mental. And 00:01:37.200 --> 00:01:40.400 she or he on the other side, in this case Mrikshi 00:01:40.400 --> 00:01:43.700 Rai, searching for sensitivity. A bond where 00:01:43.700 --> 00:01:46.840 private emotional needs and public direction, 00:01:47.299 --> 00:01:50.719 the 410 relationship, keep missing each other's 00:01:50.719 --> 00:01:54.650 timing. This is not an instinctively harmonious 00:01:54.650 --> 00:01:58.150 dynamic, it's misaligned processing speed relationship, 00:01:58.450 --> 00:02:00.849 where mental, emotional and physical rhythms 00:02:00.849 --> 00:02:05.930 often operate on different clocks. I see people 00:02:05.930 --> 00:02:09.629 on social media, even psychologists and psychiatrists, 00:02:09.789 --> 00:02:12.129 they're so poorly informed. This is why I'm trying 00:02:12.129 --> 00:02:15.090 to bring in a LinkedIn newsletter. There's so 00:02:15.090 --> 00:02:18.659 many on my network. Why? because you are missing 00:02:18.659 --> 00:02:22.539 a very vital link of innate drives. The study 00:02:22.539 --> 00:02:25.639 of nakshatras in Vedic Astrology is about your 00:02:25.639 --> 00:02:29.800 innate drives. What's your first impulse? What's 00:02:29.800 --> 00:02:32.439 that primordial instinct that you have going 00:02:32.439 --> 00:02:35.360 on in your limbic system, if I had to put it 00:02:35.360 --> 00:02:38.819 in brain? This is not a comfort based bond. This 00:02:38.819 --> 00:02:42.460 is a friction through misalignment. You might 00:02:42.460 --> 00:02:44.939 not be ready to go to such places. This requires 00:02:44.939 --> 00:02:48.870 a hell of a lot of consciousness, people. The 00:02:48.870 --> 00:02:52.729 410 dynamic here, in terms of discord, plays 00:02:52.729 --> 00:02:55.569 as emotional detachment, internal independence 00:02:55.569 --> 00:02:59.050 and unconventional home base, which is power 00:02:59.050 --> 00:03:03.009 in this case. Whereas him, he wants emotional 00:03:03.009 --> 00:03:06.030 performance, caregiving role, public reassurance 00:03:06.030 --> 00:03:09.289 seeking. Let's see the discordant points now. 00:03:09.310 --> 00:03:13.710 Mental front. She thinks in systems and abstractions. 00:03:13.909 --> 00:03:17.129 Shatpi Chaita, as abstract as they get. He thinks 00:03:17.129 --> 00:03:20.069 in feelings and immediate context in this case. 00:03:20.550 --> 00:03:24.689 She processes internal and late. He processes 00:03:24.689 --> 00:03:28.310 external and continuously. So friction pattern 00:03:28.310 --> 00:03:32.370 may sound like he talks to resolve anxiety. She 00:03:32.370 --> 00:03:35.590 withdraws to resolve for clarity. She is seeking 00:03:35.590 --> 00:03:38.349 clarity. They are mental people, air science, 00:03:38.550 --> 00:03:41.610 Gemina, Libra and Aquarius. Conversation becomes 00:03:41.610 --> 00:03:46.259 a pursuit versus silence, not dialogue. See there? 00:03:46.539 --> 00:03:49.439 Mentally it is lost. Emotionally where is it 00:03:49.439 --> 00:03:53.039 discordant? She regulates emotion through distance. 00:03:53.180 --> 00:03:55.819 He regulates emotion through connection. One 00:03:55.819 --> 00:03:58.740 goes distant and one wants connection at the 00:03:58.740 --> 00:04:03.300 same time. He feels emotionally unseen. She feels 00:04:03.300 --> 00:04:06.659 emotionally crowded. His vulnerability triggers 00:04:06.659 --> 00:04:11.240 her withdrawal. Her neutrality triggers his insecurity. 00:04:11.560 --> 00:04:15.699 See? Anxious avoidant loop. What about the physical 00:04:15.699 --> 00:04:19.199 part? Asynchronous, nervous, reassurance and 00:04:19.199 --> 00:04:22.240 dependent signatures. Desire fluctuates with 00:04:22.240 --> 00:04:26.240 emotional safety for him. Her desire drops and 00:04:26.240 --> 00:04:29.600 emotional pressure from emotional pressure. He 00:04:29.600 --> 00:04:33.420 wants emotion, Devana. She is more distant and 00:04:33.420 --> 00:04:36.560 more cerebral in nature. What's good and bad? 00:04:36.779 --> 00:04:39.699 See this is the very... black and white concept 00:04:39.699 --> 00:04:42.100 that psychology mainstream psychology provides 00:04:42.100 --> 00:04:45.439 everything is in terms of black and white there's 00:04:45.439 --> 00:04:47.699 no such thing in jyotish and Vedic astrology 00:04:47.699 --> 00:04:50.079 no such thing doesn't matter which way you spin 00:04:50.079 --> 00:04:55.160 this there is only what is jyotish examines what 00:04:55.160 --> 00:04:59.459 is not what my fantasies and insanities are about 00:04:59.459 --> 00:05:03.149 something Physical patterns, how does it play 00:05:03.149 --> 00:05:05.949 out in this relationship? Touch becomes reassurance 00:05:05.949 --> 00:05:09.290 seeking rather than desire. Intimacy feels mentally 00:05:09.290 --> 00:05:13.129 disconnected. Physical closeness increases emotional 00:05:13.129 --> 00:05:17.550 demand. If she, in this case, tries to get in 00:05:17.550 --> 00:05:20.610 touch with his emotion, it becomes very demanding 00:05:20.610 --> 00:05:26.110 for her. If his emotional seeking tends to connect 00:05:26.110 --> 00:05:30.250 to her, she is abstract, etheric. Nakshatra, 00:05:30.370 --> 00:05:35.230 Shatvesha. She's lost in space, literally. Sexuality 00:05:35.230 --> 00:05:38.310 risks becoming emotionally loaded, but physically 00:05:38.310 --> 00:05:42.470 unsatisfying. The main discordant primary friction 00:05:42.470 --> 00:05:45.829 is, she detaches to stay clear, he connects to 00:05:45.829 --> 00:05:49.550 stay safe. She values autonomy, he values emotional 00:05:49.550 --> 00:05:52.850 feedback. See what I said about emotions and 00:05:52.850 --> 00:05:54.810 connectivity between Dev and Nakshatra, they're 00:05:54.810 --> 00:05:58.120 highly discordant. She stabilizes through distance. 00:05:58.259 --> 00:06:00.779 He stabilizes through closeness. Even one person 00:06:00.779 --> 00:06:03.720 wants closeness, physical, mental, emotional. 00:06:04.399 --> 00:06:07.120 And you're withdrawing at that time. How is it 00:06:07.120 --> 00:06:09.860 going to work? Any amount you're going to shrink, 00:06:10.040 --> 00:06:11.860 so relationship costs are not going to solve 00:06:11.860 --> 00:06:14.779 it. There is a basic dynamic at play, which I'm 00:06:14.779 --> 00:06:18.420 trying to bring here. Sexual -emotional risk. 00:06:19.759 --> 00:06:23.120 Anxiety replaces desire. Caretaking replaces 00:06:23.120 --> 00:06:25.720 attraction. Withdrawal replacing resolution. 00:06:25.939 --> 00:06:29.259 If unconscious, which is most of the cases folks, 00:06:29.360 --> 00:06:32.259 let's face it, this becomes a detached dependent 00:06:32.259 --> 00:06:36.199 imbalance. This is not a comfortable relationship. 00:06:36.680 --> 00:06:39.740 The danger is of chronic misunderstanding, emotional 00:06:39.740 --> 00:06:43.699 exhaustion on both sides, physical intimacy losing 00:06:43.699 --> 00:06:46.680 spontaneity, one partner feeling abandoned, the 00:06:46.680 --> 00:06:50.600 other feeling suffocated. This pairing only thrives 00:06:50.600 --> 00:06:54.819 when Shatbisha consciously verbalizes reassurance 00:06:54.819 --> 00:06:57.560 without losing autonomy. They require a ton of 00:06:57.560 --> 00:07:00.180 counselling, I would think. All of these kind 00:07:00.180 --> 00:07:02.500 of devanar, aksarana pairings, they would require 00:07:02.500 --> 00:07:05.560 counselling or which people normally choose to 00:07:05.560 --> 00:07:08.759 walk away and say, this is me. I am being me. 00:07:08.860 --> 00:07:10.939 Rubbish. You don't know what the me is unless 00:07:10.939 --> 00:07:14.259 you have studied Jyotish. Mrikshira learns emotional 00:07:14.259 --> 00:07:17.870 self -regulation without constant feedback. He 00:07:17.870 --> 00:07:19.949 doesn't need feedback. He's looking for something 00:07:19.949 --> 00:07:24.930 else. Okay. Let's do another one. Just to close 00:07:24.930 --> 00:07:27.949 this part up. Shatbisha queries woman to Anuragha 00:07:27.949 --> 00:07:31.250 Scorpio man. This will be even more stronger. 00:07:31.430 --> 00:07:35.529 Let's see that. Keep watching. Okay, so now the 00:07:35.529 --> 00:07:38.269 man's moon is in Anuragha, which is 10th place 00:07:38.269 --> 00:07:41.389 from her moon. Again, not necessarily the house 00:07:41.389 --> 00:07:43.290 as shown on the screen. It can be any house. 00:07:43.430 --> 00:07:46.509 The distance between her moon and his moon is 00:07:46.569 --> 00:07:49.550 10 -4 relationship. 10th position from hers, 00:07:49.670 --> 00:07:54.290 his is 4th position. Okay. She is still in Shatbishamun. 00:07:54.949 --> 00:07:57.949 That characteristic doesn't change. But now he 00:07:57.949 --> 00:08:00.209 is in Anuradhara Kshetra. Let's see how that 00:08:00.209 --> 00:08:05.689 discord plays out. This is a truth loyalty stress 00:08:05.689 --> 00:08:08.790 test where mental freedom collides with emotional 00:08:08.790 --> 00:08:12.829 depth. He is extremely emotionally deep in this 00:08:12.829 --> 00:08:16.750 case. Scorpio. Scorpio man in Anuradhara. This 00:08:16.750 --> 00:08:19.730 is not comfort based. This is a containment versus 00:08:19.730 --> 00:08:23.209 commitment dynamic. This is talking about four 00:08:23.209 --> 00:08:25.290 -ten relationship. Ten -four relationship also. 00:08:25.810 --> 00:08:30.410 Commitment. The tenth place. The Capricorn. You 00:08:30.410 --> 00:08:32.830 can go on and on. But anyway, let's get back 00:08:32.830 --> 00:08:36.110 to the discordant parts of this relationship. 00:08:37.049 --> 00:08:40.549 mental dynamic the code is called here becomes 00:08:40.549 --> 00:08:44.070 she processes through abstraction and distance 00:08:44.070 --> 00:08:47.529 Aquarius he process through emotional depth and 00:08:47.529 --> 00:08:50.490 memory they're very far apart the mental world 00:08:50.490 --> 00:08:53.330 and the emotional world in this case is like 00:08:53.330 --> 00:08:57.009 one galaxy to another she seeks truth by stepping 00:08:57.009 --> 00:09:01.799 back he seeks truth by going deeper Mental clash 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:04.860 pattern. He wants a shared emotional processing. 00:09:05.100 --> 00:09:08.120 Anuradha wants a deeper connection. In this case, 00:09:08.179 --> 00:09:11.259 him. She wants private mental space. Chakvisha 00:09:11.259 --> 00:09:14.600 is very quiet, very internally processed. So 00:09:14.600 --> 00:09:16.899 when the person is quiet, he goes into sort of 00:09:16.899 --> 00:09:20.019 a suspicion mode at what's going on with her. 00:09:21.039 --> 00:09:24.200 Interpretation versus withdrawal. No convergence. 00:09:25.679 --> 00:09:28.500 Emotional dynamic. Discord is called because 00:09:28.500 --> 00:09:31.360 she regulates emotion through detachment. He 00:09:31.360 --> 00:09:34.740 regulates emotion through bonding. One wants 00:09:34.740 --> 00:09:38.039 to be detached, one wants to bond. Hey, how are 00:09:38.039 --> 00:09:39.639 you going to get through this emotional dynamic? 00:09:39.960 --> 00:09:43.419 Clash patterns may sound like he may feel emotionally 00:09:43.419 --> 00:09:46.659 excluded. She may feel emotionally obligated. 00:09:47.080 --> 00:09:49.659 His loyalty triggers her fear of entanglement. 00:09:50.500 --> 00:09:53.159 Her distance triggers his fear of abandonment. 00:09:53.259 --> 00:09:57.559 This creates a secure avoidant polarity Strong 00:09:57.559 --> 00:10:01.600 polarity in this case, where devotion meets resistance. 00:10:03.700 --> 00:10:05.919 As much as Anuragana Kshetra is beautiful and 00:10:05.919 --> 00:10:08.799 wants devotion, what is the distance between 00:10:08.799 --> 00:10:14.279 the moons? Physical intimacy dynamic, slow, deep 00:10:14.279 --> 00:10:19.240 building, emotionally charged but uneven. The 00:10:19.240 --> 00:10:21.860 risk patterns here become, intimacy becoming 00:10:21.860 --> 00:10:25.720 emotionally heavy. They will avoid intimacy in 00:10:25.720 --> 00:10:29.480 this case. and it will sure to split apart if 00:10:29.480 --> 00:10:33.059 it is not really worked through. The thing that 00:10:33.059 --> 00:10:34.980 Devakuna and Dr. Sinha are pairing is they will 00:10:34.980 --> 00:10:39.240 require immense emotional counselling. Give it 00:10:39.240 --> 00:10:41.919 a few years. Forget the honeymoon period when 00:10:41.919 --> 00:10:45.220 it's just hormones and banging around. Let us 00:10:45.220 --> 00:10:47.919 see after a couple of years where you are. Touch 00:10:47.919 --> 00:10:51.500 turning symbolic rather than spontaneous. Sexuality 00:10:51.500 --> 00:10:55.529 carrying expectations instead of play. Physical 00:10:55.529 --> 00:10:59.090 closeness can intensify emotional mismatch, if 00:10:59.090 --> 00:11:02.370 not consciously soften. There's the key word. 00:11:03.110 --> 00:11:06.509 Consciously softening things. The Gana mismatch 00:11:06.509 --> 00:11:10.110 is primary friction. She values freedom. He values 00:11:10.110 --> 00:11:14.029 loyalty. She seeks truth through distance. He 00:11:14.029 --> 00:11:17.850 seeks safety through closeness. She avoids emotional 00:11:17.850 --> 00:11:22.159 ownership. He thrives on it. Sexual emotional 00:11:22.159 --> 00:11:25.039 risk, devotion turning into emotional pressure. 00:11:26.440 --> 00:11:28.580 She feels emotional pressure coming from him 00:11:28.580 --> 00:11:32.620 in this case. Independence turning into emotional 00:11:32.620 --> 00:11:36.220 withdrawal, loyalty feeling unreciprocated. He 00:11:36.220 --> 00:11:39.960 is loyal in this case. He feels her as not connecting 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:46.000 to him in himself, in his core. If unconscious, 00:11:46.220 --> 00:11:50.059 this becomes a detached, devotional sort of imbalance. 00:11:50.669 --> 00:11:52.450 Well, this can work in a number of ways, isn't 00:11:52.450 --> 00:11:56.809 it? It's always a number of ways. This is a transformational 00:11:56.809 --> 00:11:59.850 relationship. People who get into Devgadha, Rakshasagadha 00:11:59.850 --> 00:12:03.370 combinations definitely have to get transformed. 00:12:04.429 --> 00:12:07.389 The danger is one of exhaustion. These people 00:12:07.389 --> 00:12:09.769 approach the counsellors, somebody like me or 00:12:09.769 --> 00:12:13.450 mainstream. I'm exhausted trying to please her. 00:12:14.289 --> 00:12:17.169 Him, in this case, trying to please her. Chronic 00:12:17.169 --> 00:12:20.460 insecurity versus chronic withdrawal. On both 00:12:20.460 --> 00:12:23.539 sides, it says, one partner feels abandoned, 00:12:23.659 --> 00:12:26.740 the other feels constrained. This pairing only 00:12:26.740 --> 00:12:29.740 thrives when Shatbesha learns to verbalize reassurance 00:12:29.740 --> 00:12:33.379 without surrendering freedom. They need a space, 00:12:33.559 --> 00:12:37.960 Aquarius. Anuradha learns to hold devotion without 00:12:37.960 --> 00:12:41.620 claiming. It's not suffocate her. She doesn't 00:12:41.620 --> 00:12:43.940 like suffocation. It's Shatbesha and Aquarius. 00:12:44.000 --> 00:12:48.340 She wants independence of all kinds. But that 00:12:48.299 --> 00:12:51.179 There has to be a factor which has to be understood, 00:12:51.500 --> 00:12:54.179 isn't it? If it is not understood, how is it 00:12:54.179 --> 00:12:57.820 going to happen? Tell me, after listening to 00:12:57.820 --> 00:13:00.539 all of this and the future ones, I challenge 00:13:00.539 --> 00:13:03.220 all of you modern psychologists, how are you 00:13:03.220 --> 00:13:05.820 going to come to these conclusions? Jyotish only 00:13:05.820 --> 00:13:08.779 provides this lens for you, other systems don't. 00:13:09.320 --> 00:13:12.059 I challenge you, tell me, how will you go talking 00:13:12.059 --> 00:13:14.600 endlessly and charging them by the hour? How 00:13:14.600 --> 00:13:16.779 are you going to come to these conclusions? You 00:13:16.779 --> 00:13:18.879 don't know what dynamic is playing out until 00:13:18.879 --> 00:13:21.559 you go to the nakshatra level. That's my challenge 00:13:21.559 --> 00:13:23.899 to you. I'll see you in the next. Take care. 00:13:24.019 --> 00:13:24.460 Be safe.