WEBVTT 00:00:00.170 --> 00:00:03.850 there ladies and gentlemen. Like I promised yesterday, 00:00:04.110 --> 00:00:09.029 let us begin the discussion on mismatching Kanas, 00:00:09.029 --> 00:00:12.810 which is most common and which is most ignored 00:00:12.810 --> 00:00:16.489 in the so -called matchmaking that goes on especially 00:00:16.489 --> 00:00:20.449 in India. What could be the discord points and 00:00:20.449 --> 00:00:23.609 what could be the clash points in mismatching 00:00:23.609 --> 00:00:27.589 Kanas? And I shall take the extreme version of 00:00:27.589 --> 00:00:33.840 Devakana to Rakshasakana. in this analysis. Okay. 00:00:34.899 --> 00:00:37.979 Because as I see it, the Manushya Ganas are pretty 00:00:37.979 --> 00:00:41.659 neutral. The top level tier is the Dev Ganas, 00:00:41.799 --> 00:00:43.799 then Manushya Ganas, then Akshaya Ganas. Okay. 00:00:44.560 --> 00:00:46.780 So the Manushya Gana being the middle person, 00:00:46.859 --> 00:00:50.899 they can go either okay kind of situation with 00:00:50.899 --> 00:00:53.640 Dev Ganas and okay kind of situation with Akshaya 00:00:53.640 --> 00:00:57.820 Ganas. The Dev Gana and Manushya Gana are far 00:00:57.820 --> 00:01:03.649 apart in their positioning of propensity of what 00:01:03.649 --> 00:01:06.489 they desire within a relationship whatever is 00:01:06.489 --> 00:01:10.129 desired within a relationship apparently according 00:01:10.129 --> 00:01:12.569 to Jyoti Shastra is all about moon placement 00:01:12.569 --> 00:01:14.969 it's always moon that determines first Mercury 00:01:14.969 --> 00:01:20.450 Venus next so let us keep that as the basis and 00:01:20.450 --> 00:01:24.030 let us do the analysis first Let us take her 00:01:24.030 --> 00:01:26.810 moon in Shravana Nakshatra in Capricorn. Remember, 00:01:26.909 --> 00:01:28.569 this is not necessarily the Ascended. It can 00:01:28.569 --> 00:01:31.769 be any house. Her moon is in Shravana Nakshatra. 00:01:32.109 --> 00:01:36.670 His moon is sitting in the seventh position from 00:01:36.670 --> 00:01:41.109 her that is in Cancer in Ashlesha. Now, Shravana 00:01:41.109 --> 00:01:44.569 Nakshatra is Devana. Ashlesha is Rakshashana. 00:01:45.030 --> 00:01:47.329 This is the first type. Let us see what that 00:01:47.329 --> 00:01:52.000 kind of thing brings. This pairing is a listener 00:01:52.000 --> 00:01:55.640 who carries responsibility of meeting the feeler 00:01:55.640 --> 00:01:59.799 who coils with intensity. It is a bond where 00:01:59.799 --> 00:02:03.060 conscious awareness confronts emotional investment, 00:02:03.359 --> 00:02:05.640 where partnership becomes a test of boundaries, 00:02:05.939 --> 00:02:09.639 trust and psychological maturity. Right there 00:02:09.639 --> 00:02:12.139 I would say this is not a desirable one. because 00:02:12.139 --> 00:02:15.479 one is constantly testing the boundaries of others. 00:02:15.699 --> 00:02:19.099 Sravana woman processes life through observation 00:02:19.099 --> 00:02:21.560 and comprehension. Remember this is in Capricorn, 00:02:21.759 --> 00:02:26.979 just like Uttarashada, the other degrees. Capricorn 00:02:26.979 --> 00:02:30.000 modes are generally very slow to respond, very 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:33.180 careful in observation, very careful in taking 00:02:33.180 --> 00:02:36.199 time to understand, whereas he wants intensity. 00:02:36.780 --> 00:02:39.919 A Shlesha man bonds through emotional fusion. 00:02:40.180 --> 00:02:42.939 He feels deeply, senses everything, and attaches 00:02:42.939 --> 00:02:46.659 with totality. The snake's intertwining. A Shlesha 00:02:46.659 --> 00:02:51.060 stands for the embrace. His strength is emotional 00:02:51.060 --> 00:02:54.639 insight. His danger is emotional entanglement. 00:02:55.919 --> 00:02:59.259 One is quick like the snake. One is very slow 00:02:59.259 --> 00:03:03.039 to move, like Capricorn actually stands as Makara 00:03:03.039 --> 00:03:07.650 Rashevkaya, meaning in. Vedic tradition, Makara 00:03:07.650 --> 00:03:12.250 means Capricorn, means crocodile, alligator. 00:03:13.330 --> 00:03:18.310 It is not the mountain goat as is portrayed popularly. 00:03:18.590 --> 00:03:21.830 Makara is Capricorn, so it sits quietly, always 00:03:21.830 --> 00:03:25.129 with the jaws open. Think of Capricorn as crocodile, 00:03:25.469 --> 00:03:28.750 not as a goat. They are very vicious when they 00:03:28.750 --> 00:03:31.530 can be provoked, but they will stand and wait 00:03:31.530 --> 00:03:35.610 their guard. it is a very slow moving reptile 00:03:35.610 --> 00:03:38.889 whereas snake is very very fast in its response 00:03:38.889 --> 00:03:43.009 think of this dynamic when you study the representations 00:03:43.009 --> 00:03:49.909 of matching the moons think of the animal totem 00:03:49.909 --> 00:03:52.770 within each nakshatra and how the pairing actually 00:03:52.770 --> 00:03:56.629 would work okay keep that in mind as the basis 00:03:56.629 --> 00:03:58.789 i have done another podcast series on instincts 00:03:58.789 --> 00:04:00.770 and totems of nakshatra you can go through that 00:04:00.770 --> 00:04:04.460 if you are more interested in that So, sexual 00:04:04.460 --> 00:04:09.080 intimacy and dynamics, deep magnetic psychologically 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:13.300 charged and slow burning. If you end up bearing 00:04:13.300 --> 00:04:16.300 this way, if you are such a person or couple, 00:04:17.100 --> 00:04:19.680 desire grows through emotional trust, not novelty. 00:04:19.959 --> 00:04:23.439 Sexuality carries a strong bonding imprint. Intimacy 00:04:23.439 --> 00:04:27.279 is transformative, not casual. Sravana Nakshatra 00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:30.819 woman, she wants calm presence, verbal reassurance, 00:04:31.019 --> 00:04:34.040 emotional respect. Ashlesha man on the other 00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:37.240 hand wants emotional availability. This is difficult 00:04:37.240 --> 00:04:39.779 for Ashlesha man, for him to deal with in this 00:04:39.779 --> 00:04:43.639 case. Because he wants intensity, she wants slowness. 00:04:43.819 --> 00:04:47.579 One is quick, one is slow. Okay, what are the 00:04:47.579 --> 00:04:51.279 mismatch and discord zones now? She's a Devagana 00:04:51.279 --> 00:04:55.279 woman and he's a Rakshatagana man. So primary 00:04:55.279 --> 00:04:59.139 friction, she processes slowly, he reacts instantly. 00:04:59.870 --> 00:05:03.730 She values clarity, he values intensity. Like 00:05:03.730 --> 00:05:06.569 I said, drugs are very intense in their approach. 00:05:07.329 --> 00:05:11.389 She sets boundaries, he tests them. So it's like 00:05:11.389 --> 00:05:15.230 a... How shall I put it? It's like a match. It's 00:05:15.230 --> 00:05:18.050 like a competition match. This is not desirable 00:05:18.050 --> 00:05:20.629 in any relationship. And the ancient seers in 00:05:20.629 --> 00:05:23.170 India recognize this. This kind of match is not 00:05:23.170 --> 00:05:27.910 good. Emotional clashes may occur, like... He 00:05:27.910 --> 00:05:30.769 may feel emotionally restricted. She may feel 00:05:30.769 --> 00:05:34.910 emotionally invaded. See, boundaries are crossed, 00:05:35.269 --> 00:05:38.949 breached. Rakshata Gana has no qualms about breaching 00:05:38.949 --> 00:05:42.310 boundaries. They are very sharp to breach boundaries. 00:05:42.829 --> 00:05:45.509 And if Rahu Ketu impacts this, it's even more 00:05:45.509 --> 00:05:50.329 sharp. Impacts the moon, I mean. His need for 00:05:50.329 --> 00:05:56.560 fusion meets her need for space. So... Sexual 00:05:56.560 --> 00:05:59.779 emotional risk, attachment turning possessive, 00:06:00.060 --> 00:06:03.579 guidance turning parental, love turning psychologically 00:06:03.579 --> 00:06:08.740 heavy. Yeah, yeah, sure. If unconscious, which 00:06:08.740 --> 00:06:11.439 is most of the case, hey, we talk of consciousness, 00:06:11.759 --> 00:06:14.019 people even in spirituality talk of consciousness. 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:16.639 How many of you are actually conscious after 00:06:16.639 --> 00:06:21.470 the camera work is over? Yeah. If unconscious, 00:06:21.689 --> 00:06:24.389 this becomes a listener -controller imbalance. 00:06:24.550 --> 00:06:27.089 Why this is transformational, not comfortable? 00:06:27.250 --> 00:06:29.290 It will end up transforming if you are in such 00:06:29.290 --> 00:06:33.470 a relationship. This is about alchemy. The strength 00:06:33.470 --> 00:06:36.310 is there is deep emotional insight on the side 00:06:36.310 --> 00:06:38.709 of both parties. There is magnetism. There is 00:06:38.709 --> 00:06:41.329 one -seven dynamic. That's the key I'm trying 00:06:41.329 --> 00:06:44.610 to point out here. Although numerologically, 00:06:45.110 --> 00:06:48.800 there is a dynamic, one -seven. But the Ganas 00:06:48.800 --> 00:06:51.800 are mismatched. I want to put this into your 00:06:51.800 --> 00:06:55.379 heads very strongly. Powerful bonding potential, 00:06:55.540 --> 00:06:58.899 high capacity for mutual transformation. The 00:06:58.899 --> 00:07:02.079 danger is emotional enmeshment, power struggles. 00:07:02.360 --> 00:07:05.459 Yes, 100%. Between Devagana and Rakshasa Gana, 00:07:05.600 --> 00:07:08.379 there will be power struggles. There will be 00:07:08.379 --> 00:07:11.839 struggles emotionally. One is very emotionally 00:07:11.839 --> 00:07:15.040 raw and wants only physical intensity. Rakshasa 00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:18.259 Ganas are very tamasic in nature. And Devganas, 00:07:18.259 --> 00:07:20.860 on the other hand, wants softer, slower, steadier. 00:07:21.060 --> 00:07:23.160 You can see all the nine Devganas which I made 00:07:23.160 --> 00:07:27.100 previously. This pairing only thrives when Sravana 00:07:27.100 --> 00:07:30.379 maintains boundaries without withdrawal. Difficult 00:07:30.379 --> 00:07:34.259 for that. Difficult. See, I don't try to match 00:07:34.259 --> 00:07:37.139 something which is unmatchable. This is not a 00:07:37.139 --> 00:07:40.060 fancy tale. This is not a fairy tale where you 00:07:40.060 --> 00:07:43.079 dream of, you know, Santa and, you know, fairies 00:07:43.079 --> 00:07:46.699 with wings and Cupid and whatnot rubbish. Ashteshwara 00:07:46.699 --> 00:07:50.300 practices emotional transparency without control. 00:07:52.259 --> 00:07:55.079 Not ideal for those who are seeking light, romance, 00:07:55.360 --> 00:08:00.040 emotional ease. Like I said, the highest desirable 00:08:00.040 --> 00:08:03.379 potential in an intimate relationship is peace 00:08:03.379 --> 00:08:07.379 on both parties. It should be easy on both parties. 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:10.180 If you are intense like Rakshasa Gana, pick up 00:08:10.180 --> 00:08:12.339 another Rakshasa Gana with that numerological 00:08:12.339 --> 00:08:16.120 dynamic which I am bringing in cases here. Don't 00:08:16.120 --> 00:08:19.720 go for somebody softer. If you are on the softer 00:08:19.720 --> 00:08:22.740 side, pick somebody softer. Not somebody who 00:08:22.740 --> 00:08:25.959 is rough and tough and wants it in a bitty sense. 00:08:26.360 --> 00:08:30.040 It's not going to work for you. Light romance 00:08:30.040 --> 00:08:33.059 and emotional ease are at risk in this relationship. 00:08:33.240 --> 00:08:37.379 Non -attached partnership. Let's take another 00:08:37.379 --> 00:08:41.399 one in this, just to give it more grounding here. 00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:46.110 So now we have placed the man. in Chitranakshatra, 00:08:46.230 --> 00:08:48.909 in Libra, the Libra side of Chitra, the first 00:08:48.909 --> 00:08:51.950 Upadasa. And she is still in Sravana Nakshatra 00:08:51.950 --> 00:08:54.490 mode. So what does this kind of a mismatch give? 00:08:54.590 --> 00:08:59.230 Chitra is Rakshasana. This pairing is one of 00:08:59.230 --> 00:09:02.049 conscious listening, anchored to disciplined 00:09:02.049 --> 00:09:05.529 purpose meeting aesthetic control seeking emotional 00:09:05.529 --> 00:09:08.929 equilibrium. See, it's trying desperately to 00:09:08.929 --> 00:09:12.679 match. I'm reading off the analysis. So it's 00:09:12.679 --> 00:09:15.039 trying desperately to be positive and trying 00:09:15.039 --> 00:09:18.659 desperately to be positive. Listening intelligence 00:09:18.659 --> 00:09:21.240 is what Shravana, what she brings. She's got 00:09:21.240 --> 00:09:24.659 restraint, Capricorn. Responsibility to understand. 00:09:25.539 --> 00:09:28.419 Moral awareness, disciplined containment, very 00:09:28.419 --> 00:09:31.519 slow to respond, very contained response takes 00:09:31.519 --> 00:09:35.559 time. Shravana, Capricorn Moon. Shaan, a woman, 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:38.440 does not dominate space emotionally. She observes, 00:09:38.600 --> 00:09:41.100 she integrates, then assumes responsibility. 00:09:41.600 --> 00:09:44.340 That's the Devala part of her. Chitra, on the 00:09:44.340 --> 00:09:47.580 other hand, in Libra, does not seek chaos. He 00:09:47.580 --> 00:09:51.139 seeks ace, he seeks symmetry, refinement, Libra, 00:09:51.620 --> 00:09:55.259 and controlled beauty in relationships. There 00:09:55.259 --> 00:09:57.659 are masculine and feminine aspects, of course, 00:09:57.759 --> 00:10:00.960 but now I will take the risky keywords because 00:10:00.960 --> 00:10:04.570 we are trying to see the heart. Kala mismatch, 00:10:05.049 --> 00:10:08.429 okay? The discord zones. This is the uncomfortable 00:10:08.429 --> 00:10:11.730 truth. She is a Deva woman. He is a Rakshasa 00:10:11.730 --> 00:10:14.370 man. Different nakshatra. So primary friction, 00:10:14.429 --> 00:10:19.309 how it will play out in this dynamic. She processes 00:10:19.309 --> 00:10:21.929 through listening and integration. He processes 00:10:21.929 --> 00:10:25.830 through correction and control. It's a Mars rule 00:10:25.830 --> 00:10:28.409 nakshatra. There will be the harshness of Mars. 00:10:29.320 --> 00:10:32.720 She values clarity and meaning. He values design 00:10:32.720 --> 00:10:35.860 and order. She sets boundaries through restraint. 00:10:36.059 --> 00:10:38.759 He tests boundaries through refinement and adjustment 00:10:38.759 --> 00:10:42.940 again. Rakshasa Gana will try to penetrate the 00:10:42.940 --> 00:10:45.000 boundaries of the partner. So you better take 00:10:45.000 --> 00:10:47.220 another Rakshasa Gana out to have a nice match. 00:10:47.940 --> 00:10:52.200 This is not a loud conflict. It's a silent misalignment. 00:10:53.159 --> 00:10:55.879 Emotional clash patterns. He may feel emotionally 00:10:55.879 --> 00:11:00.039 unmanaged. when she observes instead of responding, 00:11:01.120 --> 00:11:04.480 he wants the response. And she is just observing 00:11:04.480 --> 00:11:06.679 quietly and he might end up saying something 00:11:06.679 --> 00:11:09.639 like, why are you so quiet? I need a response. 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:13.960 And now Prasanna is fast in certain sense, especially 00:11:13.960 --> 00:11:18.059 Maharsana Kshetra, Dhanishtha Kshetra and Murugshira 00:11:18.059 --> 00:11:22.580 are fast in their responses. His urge to improve 00:11:22.580 --> 00:11:25.919 the bond meets her need to let meaning unfold 00:11:25.919 --> 00:11:29.159 naturally. She listens to understand he intervenes 00:11:29.159 --> 00:11:33.519 to optimize. This is the risks, big risks between 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:37.120 Devan and Raksha. Sexual emotional risk, harmony 00:11:37.120 --> 00:11:40.580 replacing vulnerability. There you are. Said 00:11:40.580 --> 00:11:45.000 it nicely. Guidance turning emotionally distant, 00:11:45.799 --> 00:11:48.600 desire becoming conditional on things feeling 00:11:48.600 --> 00:11:51.889 right. That is on her side. She waits for things 00:11:51.889 --> 00:11:54.490 to feel right, and only then she will respond. 00:11:55.230 --> 00:11:57.590 Meanwhile, the guy has more on his 20 ,000 affairs 00:11:57.590 --> 00:12:00.830 with other women. Why? Because he wants now. 00:12:01.730 --> 00:12:04.509 Intimacy risk becomes an aesthetic, but muted, 00:12:04.690 --> 00:12:06.990 where everything works, yet nothing melts. There 00:12:06.990 --> 00:12:10.470 is no fusion. There is no bonding. Intimacy is 00:12:10.470 --> 00:12:13.690 about bonding on all levels, even Mercury and 00:12:13.690 --> 00:12:16.850 Venus. If unconscious, this becomes a listener 00:12:16.850 --> 00:12:21.720 architect. One hears deeply other rearranges 00:12:21.720 --> 00:12:25.360 constantly This way this becomes instructional 00:12:25.360 --> 00:12:28.259 not romantic if you want to carry on a romance 00:12:28.259 --> 00:12:30.879 through life Not just the first two years of 00:12:30.879 --> 00:12:35.419 banging around Later finish your you know honeymoon 00:12:35.419 --> 00:12:37.940 period. Let's see Let's wait for in a couple 00:12:37.940 --> 00:12:40.440 of years and see how it goes kind of that's the 00:12:40.440 --> 00:12:44.559 real test of any relationship I would say Strength, 00:12:44.820 --> 00:12:47.320 high emotional intelligence, strong capacity 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:50.299 for social stability, mutual respect, ability 00:12:50.299 --> 00:12:53.960 to build long -lasting Deva, well -regulated 00:12:53.960 --> 00:12:56.000 partnership structures. There is an ability. 00:12:56.679 --> 00:12:59.039 Just because there is a potential doesn't mean 00:12:59.039 --> 00:13:01.279 it will happen. You've got to pay attention to 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:04.019 the signature of these nakshatras very carefully 00:13:04.019 --> 00:13:07.980 before you go on matchmaking spree. Danger is 00:13:07.980 --> 00:13:11.460 emotional politeness, replacing intimacy, control 00:13:11.460 --> 00:13:15.129 disguised as balance. listening without emotional 00:13:15.129 --> 00:13:17.429 disclosure. One is very cold. Chitra will come 00:13:17.429 --> 00:13:21.710 across as very cold to Devakana. Actually, it 00:13:21.710 --> 00:13:24.350 is not. It's the person seeking different things. 00:13:26.250 --> 00:13:28.990 Shravana allows warmth alongside wisdom, not 00:13:28.990 --> 00:13:32.230 just understanding. Chitra allows disorder alongside 00:13:32.230 --> 00:13:36.769 beauty, not constant correction. So, you might 00:13:36.769 --> 00:13:39.470 say this is conscious relation. You might speak 00:13:39.470 --> 00:13:42.720 any number of volumes of you know how this can 00:13:42.720 --> 00:13:46.019 work how this cannot work blah blah blah it doesn't 00:13:46.019 --> 00:13:49.559 work like that in the pairing you got to be even 00:13:49.559 --> 00:13:52.700 if the numerological aspects are matched if the 00:13:52.700 --> 00:13:55.320 gun is mismatched you have a problem on your 00:13:55.320 --> 00:13:58.240 hands try not to do that to begin with otherwise 00:13:58.240 --> 00:14:00.259 they will have to work a lot even if i start 00:14:00.259 --> 00:14:01.980 counseling them they will have to work i will 00:14:01.980 --> 00:14:04.919 have to do detail you know natal then navamsa 00:14:04.919 --> 00:14:07.159 are you doing this kind of a thing with her are 00:14:07.159 --> 00:14:10.879 you doing that kind of a thing with him So then 00:14:10.879 --> 00:14:13.379 it will require a ton of counselling. I'm just 00:14:13.379 --> 00:14:15.899 trying to short circuit the process, save a lot 00:14:15.899 --> 00:14:19.519 of trouble for you. Then you're trying to understand 00:14:19.519 --> 00:14:22.299 a partner because you're living together every 00:14:22.299 --> 00:14:28.639 day, morning till night. If this becomes an emotional 00:14:28.639 --> 00:14:31.360 mismatch, it becomes difficult for people to 00:14:31.360 --> 00:14:33.320 handle. They want other stuff going on, come 00:14:33.320 --> 00:14:35.799 on. Relationship is not the only thing going 00:14:35.799 --> 00:14:38.320 on in people's lives. They have work, work pressures. 00:14:39.319 --> 00:14:41.980 bank -balanced thing, put food on the table. 00:14:42.259 --> 00:14:43.919 Who has got time to worry about such things, 00:14:43.980 --> 00:14:46.940 isn't it? I will see you in the next one. Take 00:14:46.940 --> 00:14:47.179 care.