Good morning, my wonderful people. Welcome to
the Intimacy Podcast Series. So we were dealing
with Purnarvasu, I think, previously for what
it was. Now we are dealing with Hastanakshatra.
Let's say the moon in Hastanakshatra for the
woman and moon in different other positions where
she'll be well matched with. What is this whole
principle of matchmaking that goes on in Vedic
astrology? Just a sidebar. It's basically your
innate drive, your basic operating system of
how you function naturally within the individual.
So what's the advantage of knowing all this stuff,
you might say. Okay, so the basic advantage of
all this for the new people in Vedic Astrology
or for those who wish to make their partnership
better, improve some styles of engagement is
that you know your basic operating system, isn't
it? once you know your basic operating system
you can tune say okay I am like this I have all
this Venus moon Mercury etc like this and he
or she has got this moon Venus Mercury like this
now what comes the question so that now what
is what these podcasts are about Remember always
these basic principles. Venus is the value system.
Venus is your creation of beauty. Venus is also
Libra. Venus is celebration. How do you celebrate
your love? People don't celebrate their love
very often. Don't wait for things like wedding
anniversary or birthday or this or that. Nonsense.
You have got 365 days of the year. Celebrate
every day of your life. What about that? Can
you engage Ladhara? Obviously you can. It's a
choice. Everything is a choice. Moon, how do
you engage your heart? Do you require peace in
your heart when you are talking of relationship?
Does it bring you peace? That's your moon. That's
what we are discussing. Same principles apply
to Venus and Mercury also, but let's just take
the moon. This is given the most importance in
Vedic Astrology. Everything is about moon. That's
why it's called lunar astrology. It's your subconscious,
it's your emotional intelligence what you bring
to the table. So it's affecting 99 % of the body,
both Venus and Moon. Why? Because they are water
elements. Both Venus and Moon are water elements,
watery planets. So these are starting with, even
if you just begin with this thing, this is the
very basic route of how you start exploring your
intimacy aspects. Before you get into nakshatras
and before you get into anything else, just see
the planetary positioning where it is in each
chart. In Natal and Navamsa, I would put it.
I won't go beyond that divisional chart. For
most practical purposes, Natal and Navamsa is
seen by most astrologers in India. Mercury also.
Why? Because mercury is play, mercury is touch,
mercury is smell, fragrance. All these things
are important to tune in. the creation of beauty
as Venus, celebrate your house, wherever your
personal space is. Intimacy is bonding, isn't
it? So how do you bond? What's the selection
of clothing? Venus is clothes. What is the selection
of things? It's a little bit different every
single time. I know there are people, women like
to dominate stuff. Women like to create demands.
And that's where the first battle is lost in
intimacy. if you want to call it that. Why? Intimacy
is not a demand, folks. You can't demand intimacy
out of things. You might have a laundry list
of this from my partner. I want that from my
partner. Women tend to come like this, sharper.
Why? Because they have an innate drive in feminine
bodies to select their mate. Men, get this please.
You don't do the selection of mate. Doesn't matter
what laundry list you have. It's always the Feminine
which selects the mate. Look at nature. Just
look at nature. Don't go by any astrology also
even. Just look at nature and see how the birds
and animals, what goes on in their mating rituals.
It's always the male that dances around. Female
is in it to court her. Courtship is male to female.
And female selects the actual male for mating
purposes. Same thing in human. We have the same
DNA. 99 % of our DNA is animal. So that instinct
will always play out. But we are talking about
higher consciousness as humans, isn't it? Therefore,
all these things require conscious engagement.
Otherwise, you'll just play out like an animal.
You'll play out all these instincts for sure.
100 % you will play out all these planetary instincts
when it comes to your individual courtship rituals,
if I call that. So the idea for all you Gen Z
people, psychologists, relationship coaches,
sex therapist, etc. You need to know this dynamic.
How does it play out? First step is education,
then we'll come out, come to other things. Okay,
now let's see the planetary positioning and how
that affects. The dynamics will change with every
signature. If you match Hastavit Anuradha, it's
different from Hastavit Swati. For example, it's
very different in each and every case. That's
why we have to go through it step by step. So
let's begin. Hasta nakshatra moan, and the third
position from that moan will be for the man,
which is moan in Anuradha nakshatra. Now moan
in Scorpio is kind of harsh. Moan in Sun in Scorpio
is harsh, definitely on the people going through
it. It's a sidebar. Moan in Scorpio tends to
destroy a relationship with mother, natal on
a warm chair. Sun in Scorpio tends to do it with
the father. So it's kind of tough on the people.
You have my heartfelt sympathies if you have
that. But never mind, let's get into this because
since we are discussing intimacy, that's a different
ball game. This pairing is one of precision -empowered
devotion. Hasta woman will want skill, precision,
service, discernment, reliability, calm, competence,
love through action. That's what she desires.
The man, Anuradha man, brings it in the form
of loyalty, its devotion, its depth. its endurance,
its trust and testing. Emotional intensity, Scorpio
is an intense sign. It's intensely internal,
Scorpio. On the other side of Scorpio, Taurus
is very external. Emotional intensity, transformative
bonding, Scorpio tends to transform things wherever
it touches, whichever planet it touches. Access
is one of three and 11. Therefore, effort gives
fulfillment, daily usefulness and long -term
gains, practical care and emotional loyalty.
These are the default settings, like I said.
If you don't practice this consciously, you will
go to the default setting. Teamwork versus prosperity
and it's upacha hao so it strengthens with time
this axis. This is a build and benefit axis.
Intimacy compounds as work, as trust, as consistency
add up through years. You have to work for a
lifetime. People forget that very fast. The feminine
mode for the Hastha woman bonds through competences
or bonding strategy, if you want to call it that.
Routines and problem solving. These are useful
tips for relationship counselors. That's why
it is there on my LinkedIn newsletter. Loves
by fixing, organizing and improving. She's constantly
on that work woman. In Hastha, is extremely skilled
with hands, needs appreciation for effort. She's
taking all the effort. She wants that feedback.
She feels safe and life is orderly and dependable.
Keywords here being service, trust, steadiness
and practical affection. Virgo, right? Shasta.
So she wants everything grounded. Masculine moon
in this case being in Scorpio. Bonds through
loyalty, depth and exclusivity. Scorpio people
want everything to themselves only. So one man,
woman, one woman, man kind of situation. Loves
by commitment, protection and emotional presence.
Needs trust and sincerity. That's what he needs.
Being in Anuradha man. Feels secure when devotion
is reciprocated. Keywords here being devotion,
endurance, emotional gravity and faithfulness.
One of the most loyal nakshatras you can find
is Munins Anuradha. This very loyal or even ascended
in Anuradha. These people are very loyal. The
sexual and intimacy dynamics follows as a tone
which is controlled intensity, slow burn, slow
ignition and deepening bond. Desire grows with
trust and reliability. Touch is intentional,
focused and assured. Rhythm improves through
consistency and refinement. Less novelty, more
depth and staying power. So this is more grounded,
this relationship. The hasta woman wants competence,
patience and feeling valued. Another man wants
trust, exclusivity and emotional sincerity. In
this particular case, the man is, I want only
this one woman. I'm not interested in flirting
around. Of course, if Rao sits here, it's another
ball game. We shall see the shadow aspects later
on. I want to first finish the nakshatras. Best
expression here being, best possible outcome
being, measured build, mutual dependability.
We are in this together kind of intimacy. Risk
here becomes criticism versus sensitivity. Astha
is very critical when it doesn't get things its
way. And Anuradha can get overtly sensitive.
Very open boundaries. Surrender versus control.
Big one for relationships, isn't it? Over duty
replacing romance. It's always about duty, duty
and duty. Where's the plague gone? Where's mercury
gone? Trust creates strain. Precision becomes
Policing or intensity turns into possessiveness,
another can become extremely possessive. These
are the kind of people, them guy in this case,
can become very jealous if she is talking to
her male friends. She might just be talking to
a male friend, like why are you talking to that
man? You see? Scorpio can become another. This
is quite powerful, teamwork driven, loyalty rich
and financially and emotionally rewarding over
a period of time. So this relationship gives
us. Let us see what happens if we move the man.
Where is the guy? Okay. If we move the man now
to Revati which is the seventh positioning from
Hasta. Right opposite as you can see. Right opposite
to six is twelve. This is another good pairing.
There is nothing in fourth because there is no
Dev Gana there. We are matching Ganas first.
That's a priority. So what happens in the 1 -7?
Virgo woman in Hastha and Ravity moon in Pisces
man. This is precision meeting compassion. Kind
of a strange mix, you might say. Hastha, of course,
will bring all the Hastha aspects, discernment,
service, reliability, practical care and boundaries,
love shown through action. Virgo is action oriented
sign. Revati, on the other hand, provides more
dissolution, sort of empathy, devotion, emotional
refuge. Pisces is a refuge sign, its surrender,
its guidance, soulful presence with completion.
So this 17 axis is powerful, it is very magnetic.
Astha with Revati. Self -definition and partner
completion. Method to meaning kind of situation,
order versus surrender, doing versus being, clarity
versus compassion. This is a classic spouse access
bond attraction arises from complementarity,
not similarity. You have to learn this, isn't
it? You can't keep asking for similar stuff.
They are not anything like you. The feminine
one bonds through usefulness, consistency and
improvement here. Expresses love by organizing,
fixing and serving. Needs appreciation and clear
roles. Say, Virgo wants clear stuff to do. It's
a house of daily routines. Don't tell me airy
-fairy stuff. That's hasta. Feels secure when
relationship has structure and mutual accountability.
So it wants abittance, it wants boundaries, it
wants practical affection, it wants steadiness.
Masculine moon bonds through empathy, presence
and emotional attunement. He is something else.
Hasta woman. He expresses love via support, forgiveness
and gentle guidance, which is so complimentary.
This is 1 .7. So it's opposite. Mirror effect.
Needs trust and emotional openness. Feels chosen
when he is accepted without being fixed. Keywords
here being compassion, devotion, emotional sanctuary
and surrender. okay those are the keywords you
should remember the keywords the sexual intimacy
and dynamics for this particular combination
becomes one of tender approach healing and trust
led there has to be trust factor here desire
grows with emotional safety and reassurance touch
is gentle attentive and soulful rhythm improves
through listening and patience less urgency more
deep emotional bonding kind of thing Asta woman
wants calm, confidence, reliability and feeling
valued for the effort taken in whatever. In this
case, Asta woman, so she might be doing up the
whole house, making it neat, clean. Because they
are very handsy people, Asta nakshatra. She needs
appreciation for that. If she's doing your laundry,
if she's doing your bed, if she's cleaning up
all the house and making it nicely perfumed,
Mr. Revati man, you need to appreciate her for
that. That's our arousal. For the woman with
Ravity Man, it should be more about tenderness,
acceptance and emotional availability. Are you
available emotionally? Everything is about duty.
That's what he asks. Slow attunement, mutual
care, you are safe with me type of intimacy works
here. The risk factors being over giving versus
boundary erosion, fixing versus rescuing. practicality
versus escapism see how it changes it's always
amuses me this thing the signatures of moon or
Venus or Mercury when they meet the opposite
nakshatras it becomes quite different emotional
dependence service replaces desire or compassion
avoids responsibility see the dynamic that is
playing out now let's go into the I think it's
the last one Anyway, I'll come back to this.
Okay, so now the next match is her moon in Hastaa
versus him in Marikshira in the 10th place. So
it's a 10 -4 dynamic playing out. Like I said,
we have all kinds of dynamics in this one. So
what happens here? Hastaa woman versus Marikshira
man, 10 -4 axis. So let's jump into the 10 -4
axis. What does it bring? Outer direction versus
inner stability. If you don't know Mrikshira,
both of them are Mrikshira one. Mind in motion
versus emotional grounding. Ideas versus implementation.
Exploration versus home base. Home base is her
typically. Him is going into ideas factor because
he is Mrikshira. Learning versus living. This
is a function to feeling axis and deepens with
curiosity organized into daily life. So daily
life will become something about not just work.
at home front because we're talking about intimacy,
it becomes more about how you can be curiously
reinventing your relationship. It's the best
I can come up with. The feminine moon bonds through
usefulness, consistency, improvement, expresses
love by organizing, fixing, refining. We saw
that already. The masculine mood in this case
changes, bonds to conversation, novelty and shared
learning. Expresses love via ideas, humor and
curiosity. Needs freedom to explore. I will need
freedom to explore without judgment. Again, judgment
is generally a killer of intimacy. Simple. Exploration,
dialogue, adaptability and mental stimulation.
What are the sexual dynamics? Mental first, refined
and responsive. Desire builds through conversation
and trust. Touch guided by attentiveness and
feedback. Did you like such and such a kind of
hug? What is your preference in touching, hugging
and kissing? Rarely partners ask this to one
another. Rhythm improves with routine and variation.
Less raw intensity, more skillful intensity.
See how the signature changed. Arousal for hasta
woman here becomes competence, patience and feeling
valued. That's definitely there. Brikshira man
wants curiosity, he wants engagement, he wants
playful dialogue. That will keep this relationship
alive. Best for those who value mental engagement,
practical care, calm, competent, intimacy. So
they are even evaluating intimacy as something
competent. You see, very head -oriented, Brikshira.
Not ideal for those seeking high drama, impulsive
passion or emotional chaos. That's not preferred
in any case, I would say. Isn't it? Now let's
jump into Pular Vasu Nakshatra. We'll take Pular
Vasu in Gemini because the dominant aspect of
Pular Vasu plays out in Gemini, the first three
Padas. The last Pada is in Cancer. So 10 -4 axis
once again, but here in this plays out dynamic
is different between Rikshira and Purnavasu it's
different. Outer direction versus inner stability,
problem solving versus emotional renewal. Purnavasu
has a life lesson of repeating mistakes and learning
from them and coming out stronger. So that plays
out here. Method versus reframing, responsibilities
versus reassurance, life management versus emotional
home. This is a repair and rebuild access. If
you're the punar vasu man or woman, you better
be sure that you're going to reinvent your relationship
with that person since we are talking of intimacy
again and again. They will go through transformations,
the theme of the nakshatra. Jumping directly
into his masculine moon, punar vasu man, bonds
through conversation, reassurance and emotional
resets. It will keep happening. expresses love
via optimism, humor and reframing. You gotta
keep telling this Poonar Vasu person, man or
woman, in this case man, to reassure them again
and again through life. They will require a reset.
They will require to reframe their issues of
life again and again. Needs emotional permission
to start again. Feels safe when mistakes aren't
punished. You should not be judging Poonar Vasu
Moon. because they are going through some other
stuff other than you. Keywords being a forgiveness,
hope and verbal intimacy and adaptability. The
sexual intimacy and dynamics in this case plays
out as desire built through conversation and
trust. Touch is guided by attentiveness and responsiveness.
The rhythm improves with predictability and emotional
warmth. There has to be warmth. Phenomenosis
is very dry in Gemini. Gemini is a dry sign.
All Capricorn material signs were go. you know
Gemini or Saturnian signs Aquarius and Capri
whether they are dry signs they don't have any
Venus like quality to them Poonarvasu man needs
reassurance verbal warmth and emotional acceptance
allow them to make their goof ups Poonarvasu
moons will goof up things again and again maybe
sometimes multiple times but they will learn
from it they will come out of it and you need
to give them that space then it will work properly.
This can fail if precision becomes a point of
judgment. Look, hasta is very precise. You can't
get very precise other than hasta in the entire
27 nakshatras. It stands for the hands, cables,
it's a work of detail oriented. So hasta, when
it gets frustrated, it tends to pick faults with
the other one. Let it be at work, let it be at
partnership. can become very cynical and critical.
That's the downside. You can't judge Poonar Vasu
for goofing up all kinds of mistakes again and
again. Saying things again and again. See how
the dynamic plays out. This is a healing stability
through reassurance 10 -4 pairing. Strong for
long -term bonding when effort is appreciated,
optimism is grounded. You have to go that direction,
otherwise this relationship does not stand a
chance. Be careful about how you handle such
things. Last one, let's go to Pushya. Let's take
the man to the 11 -3 dynamic, Pushya versus Hasta.
So let's see how that plays out. We'll do that
as a last piece here today. We'll ignore the
parts of the woman since we have already seen
Hasta. She'll bring the same signature. The 11
-3 axis is important here, fulfillment versus
effort. Results versus daily work. Emotional
security versus practical action. These are signatures.
Supportive friendship tone. 11 .3 .3 .11 is always
about friendship turning into love. And it grows
with time. They are upacha places. Masculine
moon, in this case being Pusha, he bonds through
care, reassurance, emotional continuity, expresses
love by holding, protecting and sustaining. It's
a cancer sign. Cancer to Virgo is a good dynamic,
I would suggest. Hasta to Pusha. Because one
is providing the emotional grounding. Okay, the
dynamic of access will play out. But I'm saying
in general, it will be a good pair. Express love
by holding, protecting and sustaining. Cancer
is there to hold. Okay, cancer is your foundation,
fourth house. So when Pusha is there, Shamans
are really good in partnerships, but they tend
to neglect it for the sake of education, studying.
It's a whole story around it, you can check it
out. Expresses love by holding, protecting, sustaining.
Needs loyalty and patience. Feels secure when
future feels stable and promised. Sexual intimacy
and dynamics will become desire grows with safety
and consistency. Touch communicates with care
and reassurance. There has to be a lot of that
for cancer. Reassurance. Rhythm improves through
routine and responsiveness, less volatility and
more deepening warmth. For the pushy man, thus
the woman needs to provide emotional presence,
patience and dependable closeness. Cancer needs
a lot of reassurance to function properly, otherwise
it goes into that moodiness zone, zones out.
Riskwards here being over -responsibility, duty
replaced by romance. don't do this look duty
is duty everything is duty in this world everything
is karma blah blah blah what about your sensitivities
your human being not a machine criticism versus
sensitivity emotional heaviness if appreciation
fades this is a good last teamwork friendship
tone kind of intimacy again just to wrap this
up No going to 6th, 8th and 12th houses. Please,
even if there is one there, don't go there. There's
no match in Ashwini for Hasta. It will become
a dynamic of 6th, 8th. Please keep these basic
rules in mind. If you don't know, you can listen
to that in the other one. I'll see you in the
next. Take care. Be safe.