Good evening, wonderful people. Welcome to my
channel. Before I get into the next slide, I
wanted to discuss some sort of a very fundamental
principle of intimacy, which people don't think
of when they are getting into relationships.
They should, especially in the beginning when
things are fresh. Whether you're dating, whether
you're getting married, whether you're already
married, it doesn't matter where in the relationship
dynamic each one of you are, but you need to
get into it. And these are some of the fundamental
principles of intimacy which unfortunately we
are not taught this way. My best feeling on this
right now is if we are all taught like this in
schools, in universities, part of the mainstream
education system, we will get much farther than
we understand about such things right now. Okay,
so what am I talking about? It doesn't matter
how many volumes I sit and write about intimacy.
or how many Masters and Johnson kind of manuals
or how many Kama Sutras or how many types of
Jyotish combinations I give you. If these two
people on the screen are not willing to work
with one another, nothing is going to happen.
Magic in a relationship is brought on by two
people volunteering to expose themselves much
more than the physical. These days especially
it's very easy to open up your clothes in front
of a stranger, isn't it? with all the pawn that
is going around. So what do we need to understand
beyond the concept of physicality, Mars? I explained
it in the first one. I am taking it step by step
so that the principles are grounded and well
understood. It doesn't matter what astrology.
It's not going to work. No astrological combination
is going to work if there is no willingness on
the part to understand some things. So these
two, this man and that woman over there, Both
are essentially water. Consciousness. We are
each one consciousness. Mainstream science will
not accept it. Even psychology will not accept
it. Imagine that. It's like you're just thinking
Darwinian evolution in this day and age. Okay?
Never mind that. So consciousness, I'm putting
it in a neutral term so that it can be understood,
accepted and worked with by all race, culture,
religions. Because religions have their own dogma
and doctrine so much around each one to themselves,
right? I'm going to skip over that part and make
it so that it is neutral to dogma. Let us not
get into dogmatic stuff, please. So let's call
each one has a consciousness. The man has a consciousness.
The woman has a consciousness. Fair enough. In
a relationship, I'll try to go as slow as possible.
In a relationship, what does each of these individuals
who are involved in a relationship truly desire?
I'll put these six points to begin with. You
can add more in the comments if you want. It
requires nurturing. First of all, consciousness
requires expansion, period. Any kind of contraction,
judgment, blame, shame will fail a relationship
faster than you can say tummy tuck. It will fail
really fast. And especially in the beginning
stages, a lot of blame game goes on, a lot of...
Throwing one another's wounds on one another
goes on. This is why it is important to first
understand your own shadow before you get into
another person's shadowy aspects. Okay, I'm jumping
ahead of myself. I'll come to shadows later on.
First, let us see what we are really desiring
in terms of intimacy. Okay, first of all, in
any consciousness, man or a woman, or even LGBT,
whichever the dynamic is, it desires expansion.
Contraction, when you feel contracted, that's
not what consciousness desire. It wants to expand.
It wants to learn, grow more than what it is.
This is the whole idea of an intimacy. You get
into a relationship to expand. Think of the initial
feeling of love in the air. The whole world seems
nice. You have just expanded your consciousness
beyond what you were as an individual. That's
what that feeling is. And that feeling needs
to sort of continue. Isn't it? The best possible
outcome is it needs to continue for both individuals
involved. So consciousness, all the arrows indicated
on the screen are talking about expansion. So
first, number one, this is just six points. You
can add it like that. Think of expanded concept,
whatever makes your heart expand. Your being
expand, mind, body, emotions. The consciousness
in each of these individuals on the screen are
desiring, nurturing. Number one, you need to
nurture. the other individual one needs to it
has to be both parties okay because this is the
primordial feeling we remember from our own mothers
we were nurtured unconditional nurturing think
of motherly care think of cancer if you want
to put zodiac think of moon if you want to put
a planet that's right tackle moon first that's
number one number two kindness something we have
forgotten how to tell things kindly It's all
about rudeness. Just look at social media, how
much it promotes rudeness. Even the platforms
themselves like X or Instagram, they promote
so much of rudeness. The platform is doing a
great disservice, mind you. There are other people,
good people in the world, but it doesn't promote
that. People want all negative news. This is
the platform problem, not the human problem.
But anyhow, we need kindness. We need to show
more kindness. You might be having another opinion.
Suppose these two couple are talking about something.
It's fine to have a whole other opinion without
making the other person inimical. Kindness. Always
put kindness in the priority before you open
your mouth to anything. Otherwise you will destroy.
Otherwise there is contraction. Kindness expands.
You feel like being vulnerable. That's the next
point. Vulnerability. That requires a little
lowering of barriers in it. That requires being
open, open in body mind, your emotion. People
are very ready to strip off their clothes, but
what about your emotion? People are closed off.
Even the husband and wife I have seen in so many
restaurants when I go to. They sit across one
another, both are older people, and they quietly
having their meal, looking here and there, one
does not even look at the other person's eyes.
What happened to all their intimacy? It's destroyed,
isn't it? There is no vulnerability there. Vulnerability,
being open. and for this to happen first of all
you need to be vulnerable with yourself intimacy
with yourself meaning you need to know your own
shadows then you can be really humble you cannot
be putting your shadows and your barriers up
and expect the other person to be vulnerable
that's not simply the way things work okay that
is silly at best okay third one empathy all empaths
understand this okay Some people are not having
very high quotient of empathy. You have to cultivate
it. What does it feel like to be the other person
with their chart, with their Rahu, Ketu, with
all their shadows? You don't know. It's an experience.
Life is an experience. You can't make everything
into a big theory and expect the other person
to fulfill all your needs. Intimacy is not about
fulfilling needs. Intimacy is about being as
deeply engaged as you possibly humanly can at
all levels. Just a mouthful. Next one, allowance.
You need to have allowance, not necessarily acceptance.
Acceptance means you say, I accept this person
along with whatever it is. No, you don't. You
have your own personality. You have your own
points of view. You have your own way of associating
and engaging with the world in all the five sensory
aspects in the intellect. You have your own stuff.
The other one has their own stuff. Fine. But
you allow them to be who they are. Allowance
is different from acceptance. Really requires
some thought here. Then freedom. Last, I'm putting
in this particular one before I get into Mrikshira
with Anuradhana Kshetra. Before we start doing
all these combinations, it's important to understand
principles and I shall bring more and more of
these along as I get them. I'm just sitting in
the balcony just now. I got this as a download.
Freedom is one more thing we need. A lot of freedom
needs to be given within relationships. I don't
care which chart you match which which one and
this is a big racket going on in India the 36
point system and you expect them to work I've
seen so many diverses like that. I have consulted
relationships where everything on the chart they
said it's fine Like who matched a chart you guys
are not even a match Anyway Freedom is needed
freedom to be freedom to be oneself a lot of
that is going on we can see good good and not
so good post on social media, on LinkedIn, on
YouTube, everywhere else, isn't it? People want
to or are demanding that they want more and more
presence felt in themselves. They want more presence
in their life. Okay. So this is what they are
asking. This is the demon time. That's what they
are asking. That's what they are after. Something
cracked here. Anyway, Freedom is needed to be
within the relationship, whoever you are, however
you are. That's one more thing to be taken care
of. Now let's get into the details. Alright ladies
and gentlemen, now let's get into the matching
principles. We are still in Rikshira nakshatra,
the second of the Dev Gana. So there is the lady's
moon in Rikshira, not necessarily the first house.
Take care of the house, it can be in any house.
Rikshira and right opposite to that, the man's
moon is in Anuradha nakshatra in Scorpio. So
there is the 1 -7 dynamic, not matching 1 to
4 because there is no Dev Gana here. As a fundamental
principle I follow, Gana should be first matched.
Do not match mismatched Ganas, you'll have a
disaster scenario. Then you'll head for a divorce
lawyer, 100%. Don't do that. Or you'll have an
unhappy marriage. What's the point? So, Murikshira
moan of the lady and Anuradha moan of the man.
What does this dynamic lead us? What kind of
dynamic? Because dynamic changes. Okay, this
is one -seven axis. So the core values here are
Murikshira will bring in search, curiosity, sensory
bonding, bonding, mental movement, adaptability,
comfort -seeking, conversational intimacy. So
in Rikshira, there is always the sense of hunting,
something, hunting knowledge, exploratory nakshatra.
Anuradha, Andhadra and Scorpio becomes loyalty.
It's about devotion. It's about emotional depth.
It's about commitment. It's about trust and testing.
It's about endurance. It's about transformative
bonding. See, it's put aspects of Scorpio in
it. Now, how will this play out in the 1 and
7 signature, self versus other? So, it's like
a mirror reflection now. This is powerful. One
-sevenths are always powerful pairs, but there's
got to be a great care in handling. I just gave
you some tips in the previous slide. Great care
of kindness is required. Patience is required.
This signature also provides an explorer and
anchor phenomena. Anchor being Anuradha, explorer
being Mrikshira in this case. Questioning versus
commitment. Again, Mrikshira versus Anuradha.
Light curiosity, rikshira, head of a deer. Deer
is very light on the feet versus deep loyalty,
which is anuradha, ruled by Saturn, just like
spusha nakshatra. So it will be having that patient
loyalty behind it. Mental attraction versus emotional
fusion. If you remember the life lesson of anuradha
nakshatra, it's that energetic orgasm that anuradha
seeks is in the highest graduation of love. I'm
kind of paraphrasing it, but you can look up
my playlist of nakshatra, it's there. Life lesson
of each nakshatra, very interesting that one.
This is a classic opposites magnetism. Attraction
is immediate, personal and defining. It will
be that across the room you look at one another
and you're instantly attracted, that kind of
attraction. The key words here being there is
a strong polarity, one is very exploratory, one
is very reserved. Magnetic pull. the really opposites
attract phenomena is in one seven axis. The sexual
depth is there. Anuradhara is always seeking
sexual depth. Emotional gravity is there because
it's a patient sign. One to one fixation is there.
Anuradhara will be fascinated with Mrigshira.
They are complete opposites and so is Mrigshira
fascinated with Anuradhara. They are complete
opposites in nature. You matter more than the
word kind of fixation is there in this dynamic.
Brikshira is drawn to Anuradha's emotional gravity.
Anuradha is intrigued, then invested in Brikshira's
mental freshness and openness. Psychological
dynamic here may become, Brikshira explores to
understand, Anuradha bonds to transform. See,
very different place, isn't it? In each nakshatra,
there will be this unique signature. I will bring
it one by one. We are not hurried through this
whole process. I don't want to hurry the process.
The push -pull pattern is there. Freedom testing
versus loyalty demands. Lightness versus seriousness.
Questions versus vows. See all this is Mirkshira
to Anuradha pattern matching. The risky words
here being, Anuradha can get very possessive.
Mirkshira wants to explore, Anuradha wants to
say, I want to keep you for myself. Freedom.
Emotional control versus curiosity. So control
versus curiosity dynamic might also be risky.
Trust testing, this is not a very good idea.
To test trust and partnerships, it should be
a given. Withdrawal versus intensity, another
one to be careful of. Silence as power, giving
the silent treatment. Saturn Nakshatvas are very
good at that. Anuradha, Uttara, Bhadrapada and
Pushya are very silent treatment. If immature,
this becomes obsession versus escape. If mature,
it becomes devotion without suffocation. This
is a high intensity, marriage grade 1 -7 pairing,
powerful, consuming and deeply transformative,
especially with Scorpio. It succeeds only if
curiosity learns commitment and the other way
around. Commitment portion learns curiosity as
well. Both sides have to be there, they are mirror
reflections. Loyalty allows movement. Trust replaces
control. Depth becomes dominance. It fails when
depth becomes dominance. It fails when exploration
feels like betrayal. So always, you know, clingy
people. You can't become clingy in a relationship.
It's not going to work. Each one needs their
space. Each one needs their freedom. In a sense,
a bond that can mean the one or this is way too
much kind of energy. That's this one. I shall
see you in the next. I've already spoken a lot.
Meanwhile, take care. Be safe. I'll see you.
Bye bye.