WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.680 Let's look at some more rules of intimacy. As 00:00:02.680 --> 00:00:06.120 you might have observed, there is a dynamic in 00:00:06.120 --> 00:00:08.500 sinus tree when you consider Vedic Astrology. 00:00:08.720 --> 00:00:12.199 What is this dynamic? It's all based on numerology. 00:00:12.400 --> 00:00:14.560 The entire Vedic Astrology principles are based 00:00:14.560 --> 00:00:17.300 on numerology, based on the dynamics that plays 00:00:17.300 --> 00:00:22.179 out between the relationship of numbers. So first 00:00:22.179 --> 00:00:25.699 one we saw Mohn in the third position from one 00:00:25.699 --> 00:00:29.039 another. There is a 3 -11 dynamic playing out 00:00:29.039 --> 00:00:31.800 here. Now in the slide here, I have captured 00:00:31.800 --> 00:00:34.640 the screenshot of this. What's the core meaning? 00:00:35.700 --> 00:00:38.420 The third house. Third house in the sense, think 00:00:38.420 --> 00:00:41.039 from Ascendant Gemini and think from Ascendant 00:00:41.039 --> 00:00:45.560 Aquarius, the 11 .3. So one is the house of effort. 00:00:45.659 --> 00:00:49.219 Gemini is the house of effort to increase skills, 00:00:49.640 --> 00:00:51.979 increase hobbies, increase everything. It's the 00:00:51.979 --> 00:00:54.340 house of effort. Whatever effort you put in building 00:00:54.340 --> 00:00:57.500 up your skill set. The eleventh house is what 00:00:57.500 --> 00:01:00.700 you gain from that. So there is a gain and then 00:01:00.700 --> 00:01:03.039 there is an effort to dynamic. So what does this 00:01:03.039 --> 00:01:05.340 mean? The third house energy is effort, communication, 00:01:05.519 --> 00:01:08.400 courage, initiative, daily training. It's a tough 00:01:08.400 --> 00:01:11.219 house. It's an upachaya house which grows with 00:01:11.219 --> 00:01:14.000 time also. So who is the eleventh house? Eleventh 00:01:14.000 --> 00:01:16.239 house energy is fulfillment, gains, emotional 00:01:16.239 --> 00:01:19.459 reward, shared happiness and future satisfaction. 00:01:20.359 --> 00:01:23.280 Both are growth oriented. They improve through 00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:25.920 repetition through time. Therefore, if Moon is 00:01:25.920 --> 00:01:29.379 placed in the third position from the other partner's 00:01:29.379 --> 00:01:32.420 chart, Moon, what plays out is this dynamic, 00:01:32.540 --> 00:01:36.099 311. When applied to relationships, Moon functions 00:01:36.099 --> 00:01:39.040 as emotional initiator and the other partner's 00:01:39.040 --> 00:01:44.290 Moon functions as emotional fulfiler. We are 00:01:44.290 --> 00:01:46.329 comparing the two moons, the man and the woman's 00:01:46.329 --> 00:01:49.010 moon here. The relationship naturally evolves 00:01:49.010 --> 00:01:51.849 forward and since both are upachaya houses, this 00:01:51.849 --> 00:01:57.469 grows through time. That's the good news. Emotional 00:01:57.469 --> 00:02:01.430 experiences might be felt as, one partner feels 00:02:01.430 --> 00:02:04.409 emotionally motivated to speak, act, plan and 00:02:04.409 --> 00:02:08.110 attempt. That is the third one. The other partners 00:02:08.110 --> 00:02:10.870 emotionally validates, encourages and rewards 00:02:10.870 --> 00:02:13.530 those efforts, the 11th one, because if it is 00:02:13.530 --> 00:02:16.210 third from here, therefore it is 11th from here 00:02:16.210 --> 00:02:22.210 also, isn't it? It applies both ways. So, together 00:02:22.210 --> 00:02:25.889 they form a feedback loop. The effort feels meaningful 00:02:25.889 --> 00:02:30.379 and the fulfillment feels earned. This dynamic 00:02:30.379 --> 00:02:32.639 creates a strong friendship within intimacy, 00:02:33.120 --> 00:02:36.180 ease of communication, teamwork mentality, resilience 00:02:36.180 --> 00:02:39.960 over time, all the dynamics that we expect or 00:02:39.960 --> 00:02:43.919 would like from any relationship. This bond may 00:02:43.919 --> 00:02:47.159 not feel dramatic or overwhelming but deepens 00:02:47.159 --> 00:02:49.259 steadily. Remember both are upachaya houses, 00:02:49.539 --> 00:02:51.740 means a house that grows with time. Both the 00:02:51.740 --> 00:02:56.150 third and eleventh grow with time. The bond may 00:02:56.150 --> 00:02:58.590 not necessarily feel dramatic or overwhelming. 00:02:58.909 --> 00:03:01.210 These relationships age well because they are 00:03:01.210 --> 00:03:04.710 built on lifelong partnership, not just instant 00:03:04.710 --> 00:03:08.669 attraction type of principle. And we'll come 00:03:08.669 --> 00:03:11.449 to 11 .3 because these, if you have noticed, 00:03:12.090 --> 00:03:16.009 the 1 .3 and the 1 .11 both are similar but reversed. 00:03:16.449 --> 00:03:20.210 So is 1 .4 and 1 .10 reversed. So we shall cover 00:03:20.210 --> 00:03:23.180 them one by one for ease of understanding. Now 00:03:23.180 --> 00:03:26.199 let's consider the one of four dynamic. It is 00:03:26.199 --> 00:03:29.240 the moon's partner. One partner's moon is in 00:03:29.240 --> 00:03:32.599 the first position wherever it is and the second 00:03:32.599 --> 00:03:35.539 partner is fourth place from it. Fourth place, 00:03:35.639 --> 00:03:40.620 I mean fourth zodiac sign. The fourth house energy 00:03:40.620 --> 00:03:44.219 is emotional security, peace, belonging, home, 00:03:44.520 --> 00:03:47.539 home front, think cancer from Aries perspective. 00:03:48.219 --> 00:03:50.800 10th house energy is responsibility, direction, 00:03:51.139 --> 00:03:53.800 duty, achievement and life structure. Think Capricorn 00:03:53.800 --> 00:03:56.819 from the Aries Lagna. Together they form the 00:03:56.819 --> 00:03:59.300 spine of the adult life. When applied to relationship, 00:03:59.379 --> 00:04:01.900 how does it work out? This dynamic creates a 00:04:01.900 --> 00:04:05.560 bond that feels serious, anchored and purposeful. 00:04:06.599 --> 00:04:09.080 The emotional experience may be felt like one 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:11.599 partner emotionally nurtures, other one grounds 00:04:11.599 --> 00:04:14.759 and stabilizes. See, there is a cancer Capricorn 00:04:14.759 --> 00:04:16.959 dynamic playing out here, essentially speaking. 00:04:17.529 --> 00:04:19.810 Like I said, everything in Vedic astrology is 00:04:19.810 --> 00:04:23.189 mathematical in nature. The other partner emotionally 00:04:23.189 --> 00:04:25.889 focuses on direction, responsibility and long 00:04:25.889 --> 00:04:29.750 -term outcome. Their relationship feels like 00:04:29.750 --> 00:04:32.889 a base from which life is built. These partnerships 00:04:32.889 --> 00:04:35.370 are common in marriages, long -term commitments, 00:04:35.610 --> 00:04:39.189 couples who build families, legacies, businesses. 00:04:40.250 --> 00:04:43.029 They may not feel light or playful at all times. 00:04:43.089 --> 00:04:46.709 It's more like a duty plus one holds the home 00:04:46.990 --> 00:04:49.990 Home front, the other one holds the professional 00:04:49.990 --> 00:04:53.610 front like that. But they feel reliable and real. 00:04:53.889 --> 00:04:57.110 This emotional signature is one that says we 00:04:57.110 --> 00:05:01.569 can build a life together. That's the one -four 00:05:01.569 --> 00:05:05.069 relationship. Now we come to the one -seven dynamic 00:05:05.069 --> 00:05:08.750 opposites. This is the magnetic attraction factor 00:05:08.750 --> 00:05:12.250 in each Ascendant. If it's Aries, it becomes 00:05:12.250 --> 00:05:14.750 Libra. If it's Leo, it becomes Aquarius and so 00:05:14.750 --> 00:05:18.930 on. So why the 1 -7 dynamic feels like opposite 00:05:18.930 --> 00:05:22.329 attract? This is the classical one. In a 1 -7 00:05:22.329 --> 00:05:24.870 relationship, each person carries what the other 00:05:24.870 --> 00:05:27.910 lacks. Different points of view, opposite points 00:05:27.910 --> 00:05:30.709 of view. One partner embodies the self, the other 00:05:30.709 --> 00:05:34.230 mirrors the self. Remember the Bhavat Bhavan 00:05:34.230 --> 00:05:37.620 principle. The seventh from the seventh house 00:05:37.620 --> 00:05:40.000 is the first house. First from the first house 00:05:40.000 --> 00:05:42.240 is the first house. So one seventh dynamic is 00:05:42.240 --> 00:05:44.980 an extremely powerful one. It can get really 00:05:44.980 --> 00:05:48.339 karmic and heavy at times. Emotionally, this 00:05:48.339 --> 00:05:51.100 creates instant recognition. Like you walk across 00:05:51.100 --> 00:05:53.839 in a room and you're instantly attracted to someone. 00:05:54.439 --> 00:05:58.439 This is that dynamic. Intense curiosity, magnetic 00:05:58.439 --> 00:06:01.399 pull, a feeling of inevitability. I'm meant to 00:06:01.399 --> 00:06:03.800 be with this person. You see, this is that kind 00:06:03.800 --> 00:06:07.069 of a power. You don't feel like you chose this 00:06:07.069 --> 00:06:09.490 relationship. You feel like you belong in this 00:06:09.490 --> 00:06:11.629 one. You are drawn to it. There is a magnetic 00:06:11.629 --> 00:06:14.610 pull here. This is why other people say, I don't 00:06:14.610 --> 00:06:17.649 know why I am attracted to such a person. They 00:06:17.649 --> 00:06:20.230 trigger me, but I can't seem to walk away. This 00:06:20.230 --> 00:06:23.430 is that relationship. They feel like this person 00:06:23.430 --> 00:06:26.990 is my missing piece. Emotional characteristics 00:06:26.990 --> 00:06:30.290 might result in some things like heightened awareness 00:06:30.290 --> 00:06:33.509 of the other, strong emotional mirroring goes 00:06:33.509 --> 00:06:37.970 on, between both of them. Immediate emotional 00:06:37.970 --> 00:06:41.329 engagement becomes possible. Difficulty remaining 00:06:41.329 --> 00:06:44.730 neutral or detached. Now this is where one person 00:06:44.730 --> 00:06:47.730 tends to lose, one of the partners or both of 00:06:47.730 --> 00:06:50.730 them tend to lose boundaries very fast. This 00:06:50.730 --> 00:06:54.009 is the problem in 1 -7 dynamic. Attraction is 00:06:54.009 --> 00:06:56.490 there, sustainability is there, magnetic pull 00:06:56.490 --> 00:07:00.189 is there. What about boundaries? boundaries within 00:07:00.189 --> 00:07:02.589 relationship. This becomes difficult because 00:07:02.589 --> 00:07:07.730 the pull is so strong. Each person becomes emotionally 00:07:07.730 --> 00:07:10.750 hyper aware of other person's moods, needs and 00:07:10.750 --> 00:07:14.430 reactions. A lot of talk in the buzz in the internet 00:07:14.430 --> 00:07:17.730 world and relationship world about this kind 00:07:17.730 --> 00:07:21.269 of loss of boundary that has to be taken care 00:07:21.269 --> 00:07:25.370 of. This creates powerful intimacy, deep emotional 00:07:25.370 --> 00:07:30.000 exchange, strong sexual polarity, constant emotional 00:07:30.000 --> 00:07:33.740 reflection, but it also creates projection, emotional 00:07:33.740 --> 00:07:37.899 dependency, power struggles and identity confusion. 00:07:38.040 --> 00:07:41.019 Why? Again, all of these last four bullet points 00:07:41.019 --> 00:07:44.139 are nothing but loss of boundary, personal boundaries. 00:07:45.199 --> 00:07:48.160 So, if you are engaged in this one semodynamic, 00:07:48.339 --> 00:07:51.139 suppose you are Aries moon and your partner is 00:07:51.139 --> 00:07:54.699 Libra moon, suppose you are Cancer moon and your 00:07:54.699 --> 00:07:57.240 partner is Capricorn moon, all these are examples. 00:07:57.560 --> 00:08:00.339 you got to be careful of boundaries and how you 00:08:00.339 --> 00:08:03.759 protect them okay very very careful here now 00:08:03.759 --> 00:08:07.240 we come to the four ten axis which is similar 00:08:07.240 --> 00:08:11.560 to one four axis but now we come to one ten axis 00:08:11.560 --> 00:08:14.920 reverse way okay this is reversal of the one 00:08:14.920 --> 00:08:18.300 four four ten axis one emotional system absorbs 00:08:18.300 --> 00:08:21.040 pressure expectations and responsibility guess 00:08:21.040 --> 00:08:24.170 which one the Capricorn The other emotional system 00:08:24.170 --> 00:08:26.629 provides safety, rest and emotional retreat, 00:08:26.829 --> 00:08:30.029 the cancer. Applied to relationships, one partner 00:08:30.029 --> 00:08:32.850 comes home emotionally tired from the world, 00:08:33.490 --> 00:08:35.909 the working person. The other partner becomes 00:08:35.909 --> 00:08:38.809 the emotional sanctuary. So there is a nice balance 00:08:38.809 --> 00:08:41.169 here between cancer and Capricorn energy, the 00:08:41.169 --> 00:08:44.389 fourth house and the tenth house. Emotional experience 00:08:44.389 --> 00:08:48.289 may be feeling like a strong loyalty or bonding. 00:08:49.220 --> 00:08:53.120 Deep dependence if unbalanced. Again, relationships 00:08:53.120 --> 00:08:56.559 are nice, fantastic, but loss of boundary, loss 00:08:56.559 --> 00:09:00.039 of freedom becomes contraction. The whole idea 00:09:00.039 --> 00:09:03.039 of a relationship to be expand beyond your personal 00:09:03.039 --> 00:09:06.740 self. Not to contract from who you already are. 00:09:06.940 --> 00:09:09.759 This is where most relationships need this kind 00:09:09.759 --> 00:09:13.559 of counselling to draw boundaries which are healthy 00:09:13.559 --> 00:09:16.840 to each one. And yet be growing with one another. 00:09:17.740 --> 00:09:20.299 If healthy, the relationship becomes a place 00:09:20.299 --> 00:09:23.580 of renewal. If unhealthy, one partner feels emotionally 00:09:23.580 --> 00:09:26.419 drained, the other one feels constantly burdened. 00:09:26.419 --> 00:09:29.320 One is working too much, one is at home too much. 00:09:29.419 --> 00:09:32.659 Either one creates an imbalance of sorts. This 00:09:32.659 --> 00:09:35.820 dynamic requires boundaries. There you are. Conscious 00:09:35.820 --> 00:09:39.120 emotional exchange so that support does not become 00:09:39.120 --> 00:09:42.919 depletion. Such an important sentence right there. 00:09:44.480 --> 00:09:47.750 Finally, the last one. It's the opposite of 1 00:09:47.750 --> 00:09:51.669 -3 is 1 -11, reversed. This is a reverse flow. 00:09:52.049 --> 00:09:54.389 One emotional system holds aspirations, desires 00:09:54.389 --> 00:09:58.210 and expectations, Aquarius -like. Another woman's 00:09:58.210 --> 00:10:02.490 moan in 11th place from the other one. The other 00:10:02.490 --> 00:10:05.009 emotional system supplies initiative, execution 00:10:05.009 --> 00:10:08.669 and movement. That is one which is 3. This is 00:10:08.669 --> 00:10:11.090 3rd and this is 11th going counterclockwise. 00:10:11.830 --> 00:10:15.330 It's 3 -11 balance. Applied to relationships, 00:10:15.649 --> 00:10:18.330 one partner emotionally pulls the future into 00:10:18.330 --> 00:10:21.590 view. Aquarius is very future -like. The other 00:10:21.590 --> 00:10:24.610 partner emotionally mobilizes towards it. There 00:10:24.610 --> 00:10:27.350 is a cooperative energy here. Emotional experience 00:10:27.350 --> 00:10:31.230 feels like one person dreams, provides the vision, 00:10:31.409 --> 00:10:34.870 Aquarius hopes. The other person acts, communicates, 00:10:35.029 --> 00:10:38.690 builds Gemini. See, the energy is the same, the 00:10:38.690 --> 00:10:41.049 mathematics is the same in Vedic Astrology. You 00:10:41.049 --> 00:10:43.649 can apply the same principles to the other planets 00:10:43.649 --> 00:10:50.509 as well, Mercury, Venus also. When balanced, 00:10:50.669 --> 00:10:53.169 this creates powerful manifesting partnerships. 00:10:53.750 --> 00:10:56.029 They become a power couple in terms of achieving 00:10:56.029 --> 00:10:59.529 their goals and dreams. When imbalanced, it creates 00:10:59.529 --> 00:11:03.120 pressure, fatigue or emotional asymmetry. This 00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:06.000 dynamic requires awareness. If unconscious, one 00:11:06.000 --> 00:11:08.299 partner feels they are carrying the relationship. 00:11:09.279 --> 00:11:11.740 If conscious, both recognize their different 00:11:11.740 --> 00:11:14.779 emotional roles and respect them. The key lesson 00:11:14.779 --> 00:11:18.039 of 11th relationship says, emotional desires 00:11:18.039 --> 00:11:21.500 must be matched with emotional participation. 00:11:21.779 --> 00:11:24.200 Very very important sentence right there again.