Let's look at some more rules of intimacy. As
you might have observed, there is a dynamic in
sinus tree when you consider Vedic Astrology.
What is this dynamic? It's all based on numerology.
The entire Vedic Astrology principles are based
on numerology, based on the dynamics that plays
out between the relationship of numbers. So first
one we saw Mohn in the third position from one
another. There is a 3 -11 dynamic playing out
here. Now in the slide here, I have captured
the screenshot of this. What's the core meaning?
The third house. Third house in the sense, think
from Ascendant Gemini and think from Ascendant
Aquarius, the 11 .3. So one is the house of effort.
Gemini is the house of effort to increase skills,
increase hobbies, increase everything. It's the
house of effort. Whatever effort you put in building
up your skill set. The eleventh house is what
you gain from that. So there is a gain and then
there is an effort to dynamic. So what does this
mean? The third house energy is effort, communication,
courage, initiative, daily training. It's a tough
house. It's an upachaya house which grows with
time also. So who is the eleventh house? Eleventh
house energy is fulfillment, gains, emotional
reward, shared happiness and future satisfaction.
Both are growth oriented. They improve through
repetition through time. Therefore, if Moon is
placed in the third position from the other partner's
chart, Moon, what plays out is this dynamic,
311. When applied to relationships, Moon functions
as emotional initiator and the other partner's
Moon functions as emotional fulfiler. We are
comparing the two moons, the man and the woman's
moon here. The relationship naturally evolves
forward and since both are upachaya houses, this
grows through time. That's the good news. Emotional
experiences might be felt as, one partner feels
emotionally motivated to speak, act, plan and
attempt. That is the third one. The other partners
emotionally validates, encourages and rewards
those efforts, the 11th one, because if it is
third from here, therefore it is 11th from here
also, isn't it? It applies both ways. So, together
they form a feedback loop. The effort feels meaningful
and the fulfillment feels earned. This dynamic
creates a strong friendship within intimacy,
ease of communication, teamwork mentality, resilience
over time, all the dynamics that we expect or
would like from any relationship. This bond may
not feel dramatic or overwhelming but deepens
steadily. Remember both are upachaya houses,
means a house that grows with time. Both the
third and eleventh grow with time. The bond may
not necessarily feel dramatic or overwhelming.
These relationships age well because they are
built on lifelong partnership, not just instant
attraction type of principle. And we'll come
to 11 .3 because these, if you have noticed,
the 1 .3 and the 1 .11 both are similar but reversed.
So is 1 .4 and 1 .10 reversed. So we shall cover
them one by one for ease of understanding. Now
let's consider the one of four dynamic. It is
the moon's partner. One partner's moon is in
the first position wherever it is and the second
partner is fourth place from it. Fourth place,
I mean fourth zodiac sign. The fourth house energy
is emotional security, peace, belonging, home,
home front, think cancer from Aries perspective.
10th house energy is responsibility, direction,
duty, achievement and life structure. Think Capricorn
from the Aries Lagna. Together they form the
spine of the adult life. When applied to relationship,
how does it work out? This dynamic creates a
bond that feels serious, anchored and purposeful.
The emotional experience may be felt like one
partner emotionally nurtures, other one grounds
and stabilizes. See, there is a cancer Capricorn
dynamic playing out here, essentially speaking.
Like I said, everything in Vedic astrology is
mathematical in nature. The other partner emotionally
focuses on direction, responsibility and long
-term outcome. Their relationship feels like
a base from which life is built. These partnerships
are common in marriages, long -term commitments,
couples who build families, legacies, businesses.
They may not feel light or playful at all times.
It's more like a duty plus one holds the home
Home front, the other one holds the professional
front like that. But they feel reliable and real.
This emotional signature is one that says we
can build a life together. That's the one -four
relationship. Now we come to the one -seven dynamic
opposites. This is the magnetic attraction factor
in each Ascendant. If it's Aries, it becomes
Libra. If it's Leo, it becomes Aquarius and so
on. So why the 1 -7 dynamic feels like opposite
attract? This is the classical one. In a 1 -7
relationship, each person carries what the other
lacks. Different points of view, opposite points
of view. One partner embodies the self, the other
mirrors the self. Remember the Bhavat Bhavan
principle. The seventh from the seventh house
is the first house. First from the first house
is the first house. So one seventh dynamic is
an extremely powerful one. It can get really
karmic and heavy at times. Emotionally, this
creates instant recognition. Like you walk across
in a room and you're instantly attracted to someone.
This is that dynamic. Intense curiosity, magnetic
pull, a feeling of inevitability. I'm meant to
be with this person. You see, this is that kind
of a power. You don't feel like you chose this
relationship. You feel like you belong in this
one. You are drawn to it. There is a magnetic
pull here. This is why other people say, I don't
know why I am attracted to such a person. They
trigger me, but I can't seem to walk away. This
is that relationship. They feel like this person
is my missing piece. Emotional characteristics
might result in some things like heightened awareness
of the other, strong emotional mirroring goes
on, between both of them. Immediate emotional
engagement becomes possible. Difficulty remaining
neutral or detached. Now this is where one person
tends to lose, one of the partners or both of
them tend to lose boundaries very fast. This
is the problem in 1 -7 dynamic. Attraction is
there, sustainability is there, magnetic pull
is there. What about boundaries? boundaries within
relationship. This becomes difficult because
the pull is so strong. Each person becomes emotionally
hyper aware of other person's moods, needs and
reactions. A lot of talk in the buzz in the internet
world and relationship world about this kind
of loss of boundary that has to be taken care
of. This creates powerful intimacy, deep emotional
exchange, strong sexual polarity, constant emotional
reflection, but it also creates projection, emotional
dependency, power struggles and identity confusion.
Why? Again, all of these last four bullet points
are nothing but loss of boundary, personal boundaries.
So, if you are engaged in this one semodynamic,
suppose you are Aries moon and your partner is
Libra moon, suppose you are Cancer moon and your
partner is Capricorn moon, all these are examples.
you got to be careful of boundaries and how you
protect them okay very very careful here now
we come to the four ten axis which is similar
to one four axis but now we come to one ten axis
reverse way okay this is reversal of the one
four four ten axis one emotional system absorbs
pressure expectations and responsibility guess
which one the Capricorn The other emotional system
provides safety, rest and emotional retreat,
the cancer. Applied to relationships, one partner
comes home emotionally tired from the world,
the working person. The other partner becomes
the emotional sanctuary. So there is a nice balance
here between cancer and Capricorn energy, the
fourth house and the tenth house. Emotional experience
may be feeling like a strong loyalty or bonding.
Deep dependence if unbalanced. Again, relationships
are nice, fantastic, but loss of boundary, loss
of freedom becomes contraction. The whole idea
of a relationship to be expand beyond your personal
self. Not to contract from who you already are.
This is where most relationships need this kind
of counselling to draw boundaries which are healthy
to each one. And yet be growing with one another.
If healthy, the relationship becomes a place
of renewal. If unhealthy, one partner feels emotionally
drained, the other one feels constantly burdened.
One is working too much, one is at home too much.
Either one creates an imbalance of sorts. This
dynamic requires boundaries. There you are. Conscious
emotional exchange so that support does not become
depletion. Such an important sentence right there.
Finally, the last one. It's the opposite of 1
-3 is 1 -11, reversed. This is a reverse flow.
One emotional system holds aspirations, desires
and expectations, Aquarius -like. Another woman's
moan in 11th place from the other one. The other
emotional system supplies initiative, execution
and movement. That is one which is 3. This is
3rd and this is 11th going counterclockwise.
It's 3 -11 balance. Applied to relationships,
one partner emotionally pulls the future into
view. Aquarius is very future -like. The other
partner emotionally mobilizes towards it. There
is a cooperative energy here. Emotional experience
feels like one person dreams, provides the vision,
Aquarius hopes. The other person acts, communicates,
builds Gemini. See, the energy is the same, the
mathematics is the same in Vedic Astrology. You
can apply the same principles to the other planets
as well, Mercury, Venus also. When balanced,
this creates powerful manifesting partnerships.
They become a power couple in terms of achieving
their goals and dreams. When imbalanced, it creates
pressure, fatigue or emotional asymmetry. This
dynamic requires awareness. If unconscious, one
partner feels they are carrying the relationship.
If conscious, both recognize their different
emotional roles and respect them. The key lesson
of 11th relationship says, emotional desires
must be matched with emotional participation.
Very very important sentence right there again.