WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.779 hello wonderful people welcome to my channel 00:00:02.779 --> 00:00:05.879 now we are doing the second one of the power 00:00:05.879 --> 00:00:09.279 couples we are discussing intimacy in congruence 00:00:09.279 --> 00:00:11.759 in continuation to the intimacy of nakshatra 00:00:11.759 --> 00:00:14.720 so you can look that up in this playlist if you're 00:00:14.720 --> 00:00:17.780 new to my channel you can subscribe and explore 00:00:17.780 --> 00:00:20.859 generally anyway in this one we are discussing 00:00:20.859 --> 00:00:25.140 intimacy so what dynamic intimacy is possible 00:00:25.140 --> 00:00:31.149 in the best kind of match Fixing, not match fixing 00:00:31.149 --> 00:00:33.229 as in going and fixing some cricket matches. 00:00:33.530 --> 00:00:36.909 We are talking about match making between couples. 00:00:37.390 --> 00:00:39.409 Very popular in Indian subcontinent. Although 00:00:39.409 --> 00:00:41.689 many people get it completely wrong. And they 00:00:41.689 --> 00:00:43.829 just go by traditional books without matching 00:00:43.829 --> 00:00:48.490 the psychological parts. Nakshatra has psychological 00:00:48.490 --> 00:00:50.530 parts. This is the reason why I published that 00:00:50.530 --> 00:00:54.280 whole Nakshatra of psychology, NLP. case studies, 00:00:54.479 --> 00:00:56.420 yada yada, all that I have published beforehand 00:00:56.420 --> 00:00:58.899 itself because you have to look at that first. 00:00:59.780 --> 00:01:01.840 There is a psychological aspect to each one of 00:01:01.840 --> 00:01:04.159 the 27 nakshatras, you need to go through that, 00:01:04.420 --> 00:01:07.420 if you want to understand this better. Anyway, 00:01:08.659 --> 00:01:10.819 so now we are talking about the second combo 00:01:10.819 --> 00:01:13.780 that is 1 to 4, that is we have started from 00:01:13.780 --> 00:01:15.980 Ashwini, we are doing the Devaganas now, if you 00:01:15.980 --> 00:01:19.400 recall. of the nine devganas we are in ashwini 00:01:19.400 --> 00:01:22.299 so one to four so that becomes ashwini to punar 00:01:22.299 --> 00:01:25.459 vasu in cancer punar vasu has three parts if 00:01:25.459 --> 00:01:28.159 you remember in gemini the last part last pada 00:01:28.159 --> 00:01:32.000 core chemistry one four moon positioning in practice 00:01:32.000 --> 00:01:36.340 how does that work the tone is of emotional steadiness 00:01:36.340 --> 00:01:40.180 meets enthusiastic spark enthusiastic spark being 00:01:40.180 --> 00:01:44.900 of ashwini emotional steadiness cancer being 00:01:44.900 --> 00:01:49.019 punar vasu The punar vasu part which stays in 00:01:49.019 --> 00:01:52.599 cancer, the fourth pada. Safety with vitality. 00:01:52.980 --> 00:01:56.140 Why it works? The man's ashwini moon ignites 00:01:56.140 --> 00:01:59.260 action and freshness. Man and woman is interchangeable 00:01:59.260 --> 00:02:02.019 here. By the way, I've just taken a case. Woman's 00:02:02.019 --> 00:02:04.659 punar vasu moon absorbs nurtures and restores. 00:02:04.879 --> 00:02:08.199 He brings speed, renewal, adventure. She brings 00:02:08.199 --> 00:02:11.860 homecoming, reassurance and consistency. The 00:02:11.860 --> 00:02:14.400 risk is the fire can evaporate what it's too. 00:02:14.539 --> 00:02:17.460 if it is too intense. And water can dampen fire. 00:02:17.580 --> 00:02:20.680 One is a fire sign in Aries, Ashwini. The other 00:02:20.680 --> 00:02:23.020 one, Punarvasu, last Pada is in cancer, water. 00:02:24.180 --> 00:02:26.759 So it can become overprotective. There needs 00:02:26.759 --> 00:02:29.539 to be emotional pacing that must be attuned. 00:02:29.639 --> 00:02:34.500 If he moves too fast, she processes deeply. This 00:02:34.500 --> 00:02:37.699 can be a thing. Anyway, we shall see that. The 00:02:37.699 --> 00:02:40.699 first part, the mind, which talks about communication, 00:02:40.919 --> 00:02:43.740 pacing and thought style. Like I said, I am matching 00:02:43.740 --> 00:02:47.080 my notes from my different courses as well as 00:02:47.080 --> 00:02:50.819 book as well as other things, deep research and 00:02:50.819 --> 00:02:55.139 so on. Ashwini Moon Desires Straight forward, 00:02:55.280 --> 00:02:58.780 crisp exchanges. Ashwini is very quick. Not too 00:02:58.780 --> 00:03:02.500 much emotional circling. Quick planning, decisive 00:03:02.500 --> 00:03:05.139 moves and immediate results. That's Ashwini's 00:03:05.139 --> 00:03:08.159 signature. A partner who doesn't over explain 00:03:08.159 --> 00:03:11.360 or delay action. That's him. how she fulfills 00:03:11.360 --> 00:03:14.599 it, punar vasu style begin with empathy then 00:03:14.599 --> 00:03:17.439 anchor with clarity I feel this too let us decide 00:03:17.439 --> 00:03:21.340 this way or translate his urgency into structured 00:03:21.340 --> 00:03:24.280 warmth agree on timelines but maintain a tone 00:03:24.280 --> 00:03:26.520 of care because she comes from a position of 00:03:26.520 --> 00:03:30.199 care being more in punar vasu in cancer encourage 00:03:30.199 --> 00:03:33.120 his ideas by grounding them that's exciting let's 00:03:33.120 --> 00:03:36.180 anchor the first step by tonight so she takes 00:03:36.180 --> 00:03:41.629 a slow roll on his communication, if you might 00:03:41.629 --> 00:03:46.349 say. Punar vasu moon, her desires now. Emotional 00:03:46.349 --> 00:03:49.729 coherence and reflective dialogue. Communication 00:03:49.729 --> 00:03:54.569 that feels safe, slow and sincere. To talk until 00:03:54.569 --> 00:03:57.370 understanding dawns, not just to talk for the 00:03:57.370 --> 00:04:01.009 sake of talking, which is common in social media 00:04:01.009 --> 00:04:04.110 these days. Reassurance through conversation, 00:04:04.409 --> 00:04:08.120 how he fulfills it now. Offers gentle summaries. 00:04:08.319 --> 00:04:10.639 So you need to rest, get quiet, got it. I'll 00:04:10.639 --> 00:04:12.960 handle dinner. And he goes about making stuff. 00:04:13.259 --> 00:04:15.460 And Ashwin is good at making stuff, by the way. 00:04:15.699 --> 00:04:18.459 Because they're action -oriented. Mars. Aries. 00:04:19.160 --> 00:04:22.000 Keep the talk short, but frequent. Small doses 00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:24.620 of attention mean more to her than one vague 00:04:24.620 --> 00:04:28.339 rant or talk. Replace impatience with protective 00:04:28.339 --> 00:04:30.959 action. Do something that conveys care. Light 00:04:30.959 --> 00:04:34.120 a candle. Fix something for her. A tea. A coffee. 00:04:34.889 --> 00:04:37.470 A chocolate ring, I don't know, whatever works 00:04:37.470 --> 00:04:39.930 between you two. Now let's see the emotional 00:04:39.930 --> 00:04:42.829 part of this. Now blending the core chemistry 00:04:42.829 --> 00:04:46.730 into the hard part of it. The second part of 00:04:46.730 --> 00:04:50.870 it. Safety, bonding, repair, ashwini moon. Freedom 00:04:50.870 --> 00:04:55.750 and emotional simplicity. Space to act, not endless 00:04:55.750 --> 00:04:59.170 emotional analysis. That's what she is good at. 00:04:59.480 --> 00:05:02.019 to be appreciated for his initiative and loyalty. 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:05.199 That's what he desires, how she fulfills it. 00:05:05.639 --> 00:05:08.240 Express gratitude for his decisiveness rather 00:05:08.240 --> 00:05:12.279 than analyzing the decision over emotional analysis 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:16.160 from the woman's side. So she has to fulfill 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:18.819 his need by doing this. That's how this is structured, 00:05:18.839 --> 00:05:21.839 okay? You can go through the slides one by one. 00:05:22.079 --> 00:05:23.920 I am reading out and offering some commentary 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:27.019 in between. After conflict, offer soft return 00:05:27.019 --> 00:05:31.100 gestures. Like a home -cooked meal, which says 00:05:31.100 --> 00:05:34.120 that you matter a lot. Something which partners 00:05:34.120 --> 00:05:37.600 fail to express after the second year of marriage, 00:05:37.699 --> 00:05:40.019 isn't it? When the honeymoon period is over, 00:05:40.560 --> 00:05:42.540 he is pretty much a guy who does something and 00:05:42.540 --> 00:05:44.319 you are pretty much as a woman who does something 00:05:44.319 --> 00:05:47.800 else. You're just roommates, essentially. And 00:05:47.800 --> 00:05:50.160 there's a big talk of intimacy even everywhere 00:05:50.160 --> 00:05:54.970 now, wherever partnerships are concerned. People 00:05:54.970 --> 00:05:57.550 have gone to bizarre lengths to date AI. Imagine 00:05:57.550 --> 00:06:00.470 that. Anyway, back to this topic. Don't restrain 00:06:00.470 --> 00:06:03.189 his independence. Instead, invite his return. 00:06:04.170 --> 00:06:06.290 I love that you explore. Come and tell me when 00:06:06.290 --> 00:06:10.670 you're back. That's how she fulfills it. Purnima 00:06:10.670 --> 00:06:14.370 Samoon. On her side of desires, emotional security. 00:06:14.610 --> 00:06:18.569 She needs to be reassured. Reassurance that love 00:06:18.569 --> 00:06:22.379 endures through moods and absences. Predictable 00:06:22.379 --> 00:06:24.920 nurturing with warmth, gentleness and return 00:06:24.920 --> 00:06:28.879 to peace. Fourth house. Traditionally is also 00:06:28.879 --> 00:06:33.000 peace, isn't it? So moon falling in the last 00:06:33.000 --> 00:06:35.959 padaya. He is about peace. A partner who honors 00:06:35.959 --> 00:06:38.660 her sensitivity rather than labeling it as this 00:06:38.660 --> 00:06:41.699 is just so much. I can't handle this. All that 00:06:41.699 --> 00:06:45.500 kind of thing. How he fulfills it. Establish 00:06:45.500 --> 00:06:48.759 ritual anchors. Weekly dinners. Nightly check 00:06:48.759 --> 00:06:52.360 -ins. Checking texts. This gives her calm predictability. 00:06:52.540 --> 00:06:54.600 She needs to know that you are around and not 00:06:54.600 --> 00:06:57.339 just vanished into thin air. Express affection 00:06:57.339 --> 00:06:59.759 verbally and physically, even in small doses. 00:07:00.779 --> 00:07:03.360 Actually, microdosing in affection is very nice, 00:07:03.620 --> 00:07:06.540 very consistent. It is more sustainable, maintainable 00:07:06.540 --> 00:07:09.579 in intimacy, if you ask me. When she withdraws, 00:07:09.699 --> 00:07:12.879 respond with presence, not logic. Magic, not 00:07:12.879 --> 00:07:17.779 logic people. Simply staying near her restores 00:07:17.779 --> 00:07:23.240 her faith in you now let us get into the physical 00:07:23.240 --> 00:07:26.800 part which people want to jump on first first 00:07:26.800 --> 00:07:29.139 get into bed then we shall see other things no 00:07:29.139 --> 00:07:31.759 folks that's not the way it works that's a one 00:07:31.759 --> 00:07:34.620 night stand not a relationship now we come to 00:07:34.620 --> 00:07:36.779 the physical part and i can hear all you perverts 00:07:36.779 --> 00:07:40.560 going on okay let's boom boom time physical intimacy 00:07:40.560 --> 00:07:44.459 chemistry cadence and turn -ons ashwini what 00:07:44.459 --> 00:07:47.850 he desires ashwini moon spontaneous high energy 00:07:47.850 --> 00:07:51.370 physicality passion which is physical because 00:07:51.370 --> 00:07:55.750 it's Ashwini in Aries adventure play quick escalation 00:07:55.750 --> 00:07:58.290 he's that slam bam thank you ma 'am kind of guy 00:07:58.290 --> 00:08:01.029 okay essentially speaking because he's quick 00:08:01.029 --> 00:08:05.490 feeling that his vitality is welcome not restrained 00:08:05.490 --> 00:08:08.430 how she fulfills it invites spontaneity with 00:08:08.430 --> 00:08:12.170 soft edges cancer will soften it I want you to 00:08:12.170 --> 00:08:14.970 surprise me but let's end with a slow cuddle 00:08:16.249 --> 00:08:20.129 Use transitions, candles, scents, touch. Use 00:08:20.129 --> 00:08:23.009 the physical parts of it. Go through the part 00:08:23.009 --> 00:08:26.509 where I am mentioning about kinesthetics. All 00:08:26.509 --> 00:08:29.009 the astrology NLP resources are there in the 00:08:29.009 --> 00:08:30.790 description box on my Google Drive. You can go 00:08:30.790 --> 00:08:32.570 through that. If you want me to add something 00:08:32.570 --> 00:08:34.730 on NLP stuff, I'll add it. Just let me know in 00:08:34.730 --> 00:08:37.309 comments. To slow his pace into an emotional 00:08:37.309 --> 00:08:40.690 depth. Meet his lead initially, then shift into 00:08:40.690 --> 00:08:43.289 rhythm. He loves it when she responds rather 00:08:43.289 --> 00:08:48.000 than resists. On her side, Poonar Vasu Moon desires 00:08:48.000 --> 00:08:50.720 emotional foreplay before physical intimacy, 00:08:51.059 --> 00:08:53.860 gentle pace, warmth, continuity. She wants love 00:08:53.860 --> 00:08:58.080 that feels safe and kind. Cancer. Post -intimacy 00:08:58.080 --> 00:09:00.820 tenderness. Students run off the bed. Reassurance 00:09:00.820 --> 00:09:03.779 through cuddling and conversation. How he fulfills. 00:09:04.580 --> 00:09:07.720 Learn the warm -up language. Take some classes, 00:09:07.840 --> 00:09:11.840 Mr. Ashwini, if you want. Lingering touch. Affectionate 00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:16.379 humor. Protection gestures. Slow down. Intensity 00:09:16.379 --> 00:09:20.919 with tenderness ignites her. Post passion. Stay. 00:09:21.120 --> 00:09:24.500 Stoke her hair. Talk to her softly. Within the 00:09:24.500 --> 00:09:27.299 ears. Give some ear bites if you want. Give emotional 00:09:27.299 --> 00:09:32.120 closure. It's her recharging loop. Now let's 00:09:32.120 --> 00:09:37.019 go to the tricky part of some frictional aspects. 00:09:37.899 --> 00:09:39.799 There will always be some friction isn't it? 00:09:39.899 --> 00:09:41.820 Let's see in this pattern how it comes about. 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:45.480 Number 1, there are four ones. Speed versus processing, 00:09:45.720 --> 00:09:48.299 classic one for tension. One moves very fast, 00:09:48.360 --> 00:09:52.460 the other one moves quite slow. Sign is, he makes 00:09:52.460 --> 00:09:55.159 decisions fast, she needs time to feel safe about 00:09:55.159 --> 00:09:57.940 that decision. The fix would be something like 00:09:57.940 --> 00:10:01.860 too tired timing. He sets short action windows. 00:10:02.059 --> 00:10:04.639 Today, tomorrow, she agrees after some emotional 00:10:04.639 --> 00:10:06.940 check -in. She has to check in with her heart. 00:10:07.059 --> 00:10:10.240 This is cancer we are talking about. Number 2, 00:10:10.490 --> 00:10:13.970 Over -nurture versus over -independence. Guess 00:10:13.970 --> 00:10:18.049 who is who. Sign. She mothers, he rebels. The 00:10:18.049 --> 00:10:20.350 fix would be something along the lines of convert 00:10:20.350 --> 00:10:22.870 mothering to faith gestures. I trust you'll handle 00:10:22.870 --> 00:10:26.049 this. He reciprocates by giving update rituals, 00:10:26.549 --> 00:10:28.889 short reassurances texts, keep her calm without 00:10:28.889 --> 00:10:31.769 losing freedom. As you can see, this whole thing 00:10:31.769 --> 00:10:36.509 would lead to another science itself called Relationship 00:10:36.509 --> 00:10:39.309 counseling with Vedic Astrology. I am up for 00:10:39.309 --> 00:10:41.409 it. If you are, you can really touch with me. 00:10:41.669 --> 00:10:44.970 Emotional flooding. Sign. Her sensitivity feels 00:10:44.970 --> 00:10:48.269 heavy to his brisk nature. The fixed meaning. 00:10:49.610 --> 00:10:52.250 Containment practice. When emotions peak, he 00:10:52.250 --> 00:10:55.690 listens for 5 minutes. Takes out couple of breaths. 00:10:56.110 --> 00:10:59.190 Then both switch to shared grounding. Like walking. 00:10:59.409 --> 00:11:02.049 Taking a walk together. Breathing together. How 00:11:02.049 --> 00:11:06.539 about that? Touching each other. me anyway don't 00:11:06.539 --> 00:11:09.919 get your mind get carried away number four neglecting 00:11:09.919 --> 00:11:13.340 romance for comfort sign warmth turns into routine 00:11:13.340 --> 00:11:16.299 coziness and spark fades that's not a good idea 00:11:16.299 --> 00:11:21.200 isn't it fix alternate fiery nights very highly 00:11:21.200 --> 00:11:24.580 passionate rolling around in the bed with some 00:11:24.580 --> 00:11:27.419 adventure with some surprised and have some water 00:11:27.419 --> 00:11:30.659 nights where you spend time maybe together in 00:11:30.659 --> 00:11:35.500 a pool or Take some theme of comfort. Take some 00:11:35.500 --> 00:11:37.860 depth. I mean you can use your imagination here. 00:11:38.279 --> 00:11:41.659 Keep some theme nights to keep the fire going 00:11:41.659 --> 00:11:43.919 between you both. It's an excellent combination. 00:11:44.840 --> 00:11:48.000 But as you can see, any relationship needs work. 00:11:48.419 --> 00:11:51.220 It is not a God's gift. You are a God's gift 00:11:51.220 --> 00:11:53.759 to the planet. But you need to work on yourself 00:11:53.759 --> 00:11:57.419 to refine it. Okay? If you need intimacy, relationship 00:11:57.419 --> 00:11:59.799 counseling with this kind of an approach, do 00:11:59.799 --> 00:12:01.940 get in touch with me. I'll be happy to help you 00:12:01.940 --> 00:12:04.990 out. Take care, be safe. In the next one we will 00:12:04.990 --> 00:12:08.789 see Ashwini versus the seventh one Mr. Libra 00:12:08.789 --> 00:12:11.850 I think it will be Swati, Ashwini and Swati. 00:12:12.149 --> 00:12:12.870 Take care, be safe.