WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.860 Hey wonderful people, welcome to my channel. 00:00:02.060 --> 00:00:04.379 So now that I have covered introduction, let 00:00:04.379 --> 00:00:08.660 me begin directly. Discussion on intimate power 00:00:08.660 --> 00:00:11.480 couples. What is the fundamentals of matchmaking, 00:00:11.560 --> 00:00:15.279 but as dynamism has applied to couples. There's 00:00:15.279 --> 00:00:17.719 more resources on my Google Drive. You can see 00:00:17.719 --> 00:00:20.120 the link in the description box. You can go through 00:00:20.120 --> 00:00:23.039 all the stuff there. Leave your comments, whatever 00:00:23.039 --> 00:00:28.460 you need me to extra give a insight on. So, Ashwini 00:00:28.460 --> 00:00:31.660 nakshatra and Mrigshira woman. I'm taking this 00:00:31.660 --> 00:00:35.039 as an example to study. It can be gender change. 00:00:35.539 --> 00:00:37.520 Don't worry about so much genders. These days 00:00:37.520 --> 00:00:39.399 we have all kinds of genders floating around. 00:00:40.140 --> 00:00:44.039 So Ashwini man, meaning moon in Ashwini in a 00:00:44.039 --> 00:00:47.619 man's chart and Mrigshira woman. Moon in Ashwini 00:00:47.619 --> 00:00:50.740 or Mrigshira in the woman's chart. That's the 00:00:50.740 --> 00:00:54.579 first. And how we are matching this, what I am 00:00:54.579 --> 00:00:57.659 calling or defining as power couples, is the 00:00:57.659 --> 00:01:00.759 Gana match as the criteria. You can see the little 00:01:00.759 --> 00:01:05.379 box over there. Dev Gana match. We are first 00:01:05.379 --> 00:01:08.640 doing Dev Gana series. So all nine nakshatras, 00:01:09.019 --> 00:01:11.739 which are Dev Gana, first we will cover matching 00:01:11.739 --> 00:01:16.060 in all the five principles that I have put in 00:01:16.060 --> 00:01:18.700 the introduction. That is one to three, one to 00:01:18.700 --> 00:01:20.879 four, one to seven, one to ten, and one to eleven. 00:01:20.939 --> 00:01:23.079 Like the small box you see below the intimate. 00:01:23.439 --> 00:01:27.750 Okay? Okay. So that's the core principle. What 00:01:27.750 --> 00:01:30.150 are the intimacy characteristics of each nakshatra? 00:01:30.250 --> 00:01:32.769 I have already covered. Think of these series 00:01:32.769 --> 00:01:35.890 as an extension of intimacy because one of the 00:01:35.890 --> 00:01:37.969 things people are getting wrong about intimacy. 00:01:38.269 --> 00:01:40.569 Lots of things actually. I'll cover them as we 00:01:40.569 --> 00:01:44.549 go along. So first, and it'll cover in the same 00:01:44.549 --> 00:01:48.930 format for ease of understanding. The core chemistry 00:01:48.930 --> 00:01:51.489 between one, three moon positioning in practice. 00:01:52.120 --> 00:01:55.340 The tone is of between Mrikshira and Ashwini, 00:01:55.420 --> 00:01:58.439 I am saying. The tone here will be best friend's 00:01:58.439 --> 00:02:03.159 energy, quick grapple, lively banter and curiosity 00:02:03.159 --> 00:02:06.959 leading to growth. Why it works? The man's Ashwini 00:02:06.959 --> 00:02:09.900 moon initiates. Isn't it? Ashwini is a big initiator 00:02:09.900 --> 00:02:13.620 of things, energizes. Whereas the woman's Mrikshira, 00:02:13.780 --> 00:02:18.229 Gemini moon explores, asks, refines, plays. the 00:02:18.229 --> 00:02:21.129 risk factor here being friendship vibe can eclipse 00:02:21.129 --> 00:02:24.349 romance if you don't consciously turn up sensuality 00:02:24.349 --> 00:02:27.629 both are friendly like you can put him in the 00:02:27.629 --> 00:02:30.889 friend zone and not really worry about sensuality 00:02:30.889 --> 00:02:34.770 then what's the point of intimacy isn't it we'll 00:02:34.770 --> 00:02:37.629 explore first the mind part the mind is communication 00:02:37.629 --> 00:02:40.129 pacing and thought style in those terms we shall 00:02:40.129 --> 00:02:44.069 explore ashwini what he desires because we are 00:02:44.069 --> 00:02:47.719 taking man in Ashwini as the example, there's 00:02:47.719 --> 00:02:51.680 a logo there. So Ashwini being fast, the characteristics 00:02:51.680 --> 00:02:54.819 of Ashwini is, you know already by now, clean, 00:02:55.159 --> 00:02:58.060 fast decisions, simple and direct words. That's 00:02:58.060 --> 00:03:01.099 the style. We're talking about mental intimacy 00:03:01.099 --> 00:03:04.020 part. This will become a power couple provided 00:03:04.020 --> 00:03:07.680 you follow certain rules of conscious engagement. 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:10.580 Nothing is unconscious. Out there, something 00:03:10.580 --> 00:03:12.780 in the stars is not going to determine how you 00:03:12.780 --> 00:03:16.770 act consciously, okay? It's that simple. Ashwini 00:03:16.770 --> 00:03:21.090 also needs a space to start. He's a starter of 00:03:21.090 --> 00:03:23.349 sorts, so even in intimate relationship it'll 00:03:23.349 --> 00:03:26.710 play out. Projects, plans, trips, without over 00:03:26.710 --> 00:03:29.490 analysis. Like directly stepping into something, 00:03:29.750 --> 00:03:33.110 not looking back, that's Ashwini. The partner 00:03:33.110 --> 00:03:36.349 who keeps up with bursts of enthusiasm and playful 00:03:36.349 --> 00:03:40.430 risk taking. How she fully fills it, Mrikshira, 00:03:40.509 --> 00:03:44.879 Gemini style. Offer curated choices. A, B, C. 00:03:45.060 --> 00:03:48.680 It doesn't let him take the pick. It's an intimate 00:03:48.680 --> 00:03:50.840 bonding, isn't it? So you have to work with, 00:03:51.240 --> 00:03:55.139 not against. That's the whole funda. Mirror his 00:03:55.139 --> 00:03:58.280 speed with short loops. Try, leading to learn, 00:03:58.479 --> 00:04:02.099 leading to adjust. Her natural curiosity thrives 00:04:02.099 --> 00:04:05.419 here because Mrikshira is very gently curious. 00:04:05.979 --> 00:04:09.099 Ironically. Ashwini sits in Aries, which is ruled 00:04:09.099 --> 00:04:11.740 by Mars, and Barakshira is a nakshatra ruled 00:04:11.740 --> 00:04:14.180 by Mars. So there is some dynamism definitely 00:04:14.180 --> 00:04:19.139 there. There is some commonality there. Intellectual 00:04:19.139 --> 00:04:22.420 variety is what she would be good at, how she 00:04:22.420 --> 00:04:25.620 fulfills it. Permission to change angles without 00:04:25.620 --> 00:04:28.959 judgment. So important these days. Everybody's 00:04:28.959 --> 00:04:30.800 busy judging one another and telling another 00:04:30.800 --> 00:04:34.600 not to judge. A partner who notices details and 00:04:34.600 --> 00:04:38.370 enjoys little discoveries. How he fulfills it 00:04:38.370 --> 00:04:42.310 sets spark topics. For example, tonight one book, 00:04:42.550 --> 00:04:47.069 one idea, one dream. Let's read one paragraph 00:04:47.069 --> 00:04:51.370 from a book. For example, he can fulfill it by 00:04:51.370 --> 00:04:54.889 that and they can discuss it during their bedroom 00:04:54.889 --> 00:04:59.389 time. Just lie down in the bed and discuss and 00:04:59.389 --> 00:05:02.759 time box them so that it stays snappy. She should 00:05:02.759 --> 00:05:05.899 become a lively. These are both very lively Devganas. 00:05:06.439 --> 00:05:09.000 Celebrate her findings. Show me three tiny things 00:05:09.000 --> 00:05:12.540 that you love today. Channel his initiative into 00:05:12.540 --> 00:05:15.699 learning dates. Kind of workshops. Go on short 00:05:15.699 --> 00:05:18.319 courses. Let her pick the subjects and he books 00:05:18.319 --> 00:05:21.860 it. You see the dynamism playing at the mental 00:05:21.860 --> 00:05:24.459 level. That's what's needed to make this a power 00:05:24.459 --> 00:05:41.819 couple. Now let's see the hard part of it. Now 00:05:41.819 --> 00:05:43.720 what happens when you come to the emotional part 00:05:43.720 --> 00:05:47.160 of things? Things change, isn't it? Mind and 00:05:47.160 --> 00:05:50.259 heart are at different ball games. For the Ashwini 00:05:50.259 --> 00:05:53.259 moon, for him, now we are considering man, isn't 00:05:53.259 --> 00:05:57.279 it? Respect for his autonomy. You can't restrict 00:05:57.279 --> 00:06:00.399 Ashwini. It is a very powerful energy, especially 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:05.379 in a male. He wants a love that does not cage 00:06:05.379 --> 00:06:08.060 him into some kind of a restrictive pattern. 00:06:08.339 --> 00:06:11.899 This is why breakups happen, folks. emotional 00:06:11.899 --> 00:06:15.459 honesty with low drama quick repair after friction 00:06:15.459 --> 00:06:18.240 he's quick to recover quick to anger he's quick 00:06:18.240 --> 00:06:22.660 to everything because he's Ashwini to feel like 00:06:22.660 --> 00:06:25.759 the protector guide at times Ashwini is a great 00:06:25.759 --> 00:06:30.160 protector so you might want to take advice of 00:06:30.160 --> 00:06:33.019 give me protection in this emotional aspect we're 00:06:33.019 --> 00:06:35.459 talking about emotional body here so be very 00:06:35.459 --> 00:06:39.089 careful how you deal with this Listen to more 00:06:39.089 --> 00:06:40.850 of the nakshatras of Ashwini on this channel 00:06:40.850 --> 00:06:44.050 if you want to tune in. And how she fulfills 00:06:44.050 --> 00:06:47.569 it. She uses quick clears after tension. Two 00:06:47.569 --> 00:06:52.129 minutes. Okay? What you felt, what I felt. One 00:06:52.129 --> 00:06:57.750 tweak each. Just short bursts. Rikshira woman 00:06:57.750 --> 00:07:00.889 as moon, if she is dealing with Ashwini moon, 00:07:01.550 --> 00:07:03.589 needs to understand that this person is very 00:07:03.589 --> 00:07:07.980 quick. He does not understand long rants, okay? 00:07:08.139 --> 00:07:10.860 Don't take 15 minutes and give a cold shoulder. 00:07:11.579 --> 00:07:14.220 Tell him one thing and forget about it. He knows 00:07:14.220 --> 00:07:16.959 how to react it. He knows how to process it. 00:07:17.800 --> 00:07:20.740 Give hero roles intentionally. Can you lead this? 00:07:21.339 --> 00:07:25.040 For example, his protective, nurturing streak 00:07:25.040 --> 00:07:29.600 often softens here. Why? Because Ashwini is Devgana. 00:07:30.079 --> 00:07:32.180 This is the thing characteristic of Devganas, 00:07:32.180 --> 00:07:34.560 by the way. That's why I'm matching only devanas 00:07:34.560 --> 00:07:37.519 to devanas and remaining two to remaining two. 00:07:38.439 --> 00:07:42.500 You can't have unworthy pairs, something like 00:07:42.500 --> 00:07:45.560 oil and water, and expect things to work. That's 00:07:45.560 --> 00:07:49.959 where this whole thing is coming from. How she 00:07:49.959 --> 00:07:53.379 fulfills another aspect? Affirm freedom and bond 00:07:53.379 --> 00:07:57.500 in one sentence. I love how you roam and that 00:07:57.500 --> 00:08:03.439 came and that you come home to us. She is affirming 00:08:03.439 --> 00:08:06.199 in a softer sense, isn't it? And Mrikshira is 00:08:06.199 --> 00:08:08.439 a soft nakshatra, it's a very good combination. 00:08:09.519 --> 00:08:12.339 Mrikshira, Gemini and Moon, her desires are, 00:08:12.379 --> 00:08:15.680 emotionally speaking, she wants some attuned 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:20.040 listening. Emotions unpacked via words. Mrikshira 00:08:20.040 --> 00:08:23.240 is a hunter, always looks for knowledge, in a 00:08:23.240 --> 00:08:27.500 gentle way. Flexibility, room to follow curiosity 00:08:27.500 --> 00:08:30.220 without being labelled as fickle because Mrikshira 00:08:30.220 --> 00:08:33.629 is a hunter. For knowledge, it's always looking. 00:08:33.710 --> 00:08:37.309 It's very curious, sitting in Gemini. We are 00:08:37.309 --> 00:08:39.210 talking about the Gemini part, by the way. Marikshara 00:08:39.210 --> 00:08:41.649 splits into two, isn't it? No, we are taking 00:08:41.649 --> 00:08:47.129 that one -three rule. Gentle, playful reassurances 00:08:47.129 --> 00:08:52.409 when restless. This is a kind of a difficult 00:08:52.409 --> 00:08:57.169 play for Gemini moon and Aries -Ashwini moon. 00:08:57.230 --> 00:09:00.149 Why? Because both are restless, inherently. They 00:09:00.149 --> 00:09:04.029 can play on each other's restlessness. But it 00:09:04.029 --> 00:09:06.870 has to be a flow. That's the way I see it working. 00:09:07.289 --> 00:09:09.669 And this can become a really good couple. How 00:09:09.669 --> 00:09:12.750 he fulfills. Practice reflective one -liner. 00:09:12.850 --> 00:09:16.169 So you felt X when Y happened. Did I get that 00:09:16.169 --> 00:09:21.190 correct? Ask questions. Don't assume. Offer micro 00:09:21.190 --> 00:09:24.409 -choices in emotional care. Hug, a talk, a walk. 00:09:25.129 --> 00:09:28.830 Become quiet. Let her pick her choices. What 00:09:28.830 --> 00:09:31.649 do you need right now? Rarely we ask. The partner 00:09:31.649 --> 00:09:34.250 is so obsessed. Self obsessed. We don't ask what 00:09:34.250 --> 00:09:37.350 the other person needs. Create a small comfort 00:09:37.350 --> 00:09:41.690 ritual. He can fulfill this by making her some 00:09:41.690 --> 00:09:45.570 night tea. A 10 minute kind of a ritual. Let 00:09:45.570 --> 00:09:47.850 her sit down and have a cup of tea. Light a candle 00:09:47.850 --> 00:09:51.029 perhaps. One of my favorites. And then have a 00:09:51.029 --> 00:09:54.250 chit chat. That's the emotional part. Let's see 00:09:54.250 --> 00:09:57.139 the physical part. Very crucial. When it comes 00:09:57.139 --> 00:09:59.580 to physical part, we need to see how these two 00:09:59.580 --> 00:10:02.320 bodily react. Physical chemistry, cadence and 00:10:02.320 --> 00:10:05.100 turn -ons. Because you have to excite the other 00:10:05.100 --> 00:10:07.620 person. Or you have to welcome the other person. 00:10:07.980 --> 00:10:10.899 Or see them as they are. Remember, intimacy can 00:10:10.899 --> 00:10:13.240 be in every moment, in any dimension, isn't it? 00:10:14.000 --> 00:10:16.960 So, Ashwini moon. Desire spontaneity, obviously. 00:10:17.200 --> 00:10:19.340 That is the signature of Ashwini. Athletic play. 00:10:19.600 --> 00:10:22.559 A swift escalation when the heat of passion arises. 00:10:22.840 --> 00:10:26.029 Novelty bursts. New place, new position. new 00:10:26.029 --> 00:10:29.309 adventure try out new positions in the bed to 00:10:29.309 --> 00:10:32.129 lead opening moves responsive to the partner 00:10:32.129 --> 00:10:35.389 energy but he has to be responsive Ashwini is 00:10:35.389 --> 00:10:38.289 so hell bent upon doing things very quickly it 00:10:38.289 --> 00:10:40.789 doesn't know it just wants to fulfill the passion 00:10:40.789 --> 00:10:44.250 it doesn't know how to be reactive or responsive 00:10:44.250 --> 00:10:47.629 that's the Ashwini's lesson how she fulfills 00:10:47.629 --> 00:10:50.809 uses playful dares like let's have a three minute 00:10:50.809 --> 00:10:53.970 quickie kiss challenge or a blindfold taste test 00:10:55.259 --> 00:10:58.879 Test. Very high energy today. The green light 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:02.100 micro -spontaneity. For example, taking random 00:11:02.100 --> 00:11:05.039 car rides, doing it in the car, stairwell kisses, 00:11:05.700 --> 00:11:09.360 or going to a hotel just for a night. Okay? Take 00:11:09.360 --> 00:11:12.360 surprises. You are a very dynamic couple because 00:11:12.360 --> 00:11:15.220 both are Dev Ghanas. They are functioning Dev 00:11:15.220 --> 00:11:20.100 Ghanas always on a very high mental plane. Brikshi 00:11:20.100 --> 00:11:24.919 Ramu on her side. She desires variety. Mrikshira 00:11:24.919 --> 00:11:27.879 is always looking for variety. So she wants sensory 00:11:27.879 --> 00:11:31.279 variety. Mental foreplay. He can fulfill her 00:11:31.279 --> 00:11:36.259 like this. Talk variety to Mrikshira. Mr. Ashwini 00:11:36.259 --> 00:11:39.960 man. Talk, tease and light. Role play, foreplay 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:43.960 etc. Unhurried exploration. Attention to fine 00:11:43.960 --> 00:11:46.639 detail. Hands, breath, temperature. See now you 00:11:46.639 --> 00:11:48.320 are getting kinesthetic. Now you are getting 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:53.190 sensory. Playful atmosphere. Laughter is an aphrodisiac. 00:11:53.309 --> 00:11:55.149 Something which is very neglected. People take 00:11:55.149 --> 00:11:58.990 things too seriously these days. How he fulfills. 00:11:59.330 --> 00:12:02.929 Build curiosity arcs. He can get curious with 00:12:02.929 --> 00:12:05.769 her because she is an exploratory nature. Daytime 00:12:05.769 --> 00:12:09.370 hints. Note with three clues. I will tell you 00:12:09.370 --> 00:12:11.669 at night. You know, give some questions and say 00:12:11.669 --> 00:12:15.129 let's do this at night. Night is always a good 00:12:15.129 --> 00:12:17.429 time to bond, isn't it? Because the energy has 00:12:17.429 --> 00:12:20.149 gone down quiet for the day. It's like you're 00:12:20.149 --> 00:12:23.230 taking advantage of the Libra energy. Alternate 00:12:23.230 --> 00:12:26.830 tempos, quick passionate entries, then slow attentive 00:12:26.830 --> 00:12:30.690 mapping. Bring textures, because this is a kinesthetic 00:12:30.690 --> 00:12:34.529 exercise. Physical intimacy is all about all 00:12:34.529 --> 00:12:38.049 the five senses of your body. How you want to 00:12:38.049 --> 00:12:40.389 bring that, of course is up to you. So texture 00:12:40.389 --> 00:12:42.990 is one very ignored thing which can be used. 00:12:43.110 --> 00:12:47.679 Silk, scarf, flavored oils. medicated oils not 00:12:47.679 --> 00:12:50.759 medicated necessarily fragrant aromatic oils 00:12:50.759 --> 00:12:53.960 like the one they use in spa well make the home 00:12:53.960 --> 00:12:56.659 a bedroom a spa kind of atmosphere and see how 00:12:56.659 --> 00:12:59.340 your intimacy improves at the kinesthetic level 00:12:59.340 --> 00:13:03.000 there are levels of this isn't it have music 00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:07.779 soft music listening okay what you decorate your 00:13:07.779 --> 00:13:10.799 room as what you bring to the thing in aroma 00:13:10.799 --> 00:13:14.200 in music you go on and on about this isn't it 00:13:14.600 --> 00:13:17.779 Now let's see the potential friction side of 00:13:17.779 --> 00:13:20.600 where this partnership may have a little bit 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:23.399 of tug of war kind of let's see. So what could 00:13:23.399 --> 00:13:27.259 be the friction points between Ashwini and Mrikshira 00:13:27.259 --> 00:13:31.059 Moon combination? Well, this is one -three relationship. 00:13:31.139 --> 00:13:34.159 There is a friend -zone business going on. Classical 00:13:34.159 --> 00:13:37.000 one -three risk. Lot of friend thing. You're 00:13:37.000 --> 00:13:38.899 more of my friend than of my intimate partner. 00:13:38.960 --> 00:13:42.759 Very dangerous in this combination. Lots of chatting 00:13:42.759 --> 00:13:46.980 and fewer kisses. That's the sign. What is the 00:13:46.980 --> 00:13:49.940 way to fix? Because both are so dynamics. Schedule 00:13:49.940 --> 00:13:52.659 two track dates. Track A. Walk, talk and learn. 00:13:52.700 --> 00:13:56.039 Track B. No talk, sensual window. Make windows 00:13:56.039 --> 00:14:00.480 of opportunity for sensual engagement. Be it 00:14:00.480 --> 00:14:02.960 at mind, be it at body, be it at physical. Take 00:14:02.960 --> 00:14:06.480 your pick. Sense the other person's giveaway. 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:10.740 There's always there. number two speed mismatch 00:14:10.740 --> 00:14:14.279 sign he wants decisions now she wants to explore 00:14:14.279 --> 00:14:17.820 being rickshaw as an explorer ashwini is an action 00:14:17.820 --> 00:14:21.860 guy fix is rule of three she provides three vetted 00:14:21.860 --> 00:14:25.480 choices he decides in 30 to 60 seconds quickly 00:14:25.480 --> 00:14:29.379 basically restlessness versus constancy sign 00:14:29.379 --> 00:14:32.399 her curiosity spikes just as he wants to lock 00:14:32.399 --> 00:14:35.840 a plan ashwini is a goal -oriented guy he just 00:14:35.840 --> 00:14:38.929 wants to move move and move But she wants to 00:14:38.929 --> 00:14:42.909 explore different things. Take this hint. What 00:14:42.909 --> 00:14:45.870 is the fix? Stable core, novel edge. Keep a recurring 00:14:45.870 --> 00:14:50.230 ritual. Same night, same tea. A ritual has an 00:14:50.230 --> 00:14:53.750 added value for especially dynamic nakshatras 00:14:53.750 --> 00:14:56.929 like all the devanas. They are all dynamic. A 00:14:56.929 --> 00:14:59.190 ritual will help it grounded, you know. Change 00:14:59.190 --> 00:15:03.070 one variable weekly. Or every second day at least. 00:15:03.210 --> 00:15:06.120 Because these two are too fast moving. Number 00:15:06.120 --> 00:15:09.539 four, over -initiating versus over -editing. 00:15:09.799 --> 00:15:12.879 Sign will be, he drives, she finds tunes endlessly. 00:15:13.659 --> 00:15:16.460 Keep on having selection criteria. For example, 00:15:16.460 --> 00:15:19.679 he says, let's go on a holiday. And she says, 00:15:19.940 --> 00:15:23.059 she starts listing. The curiosity of Mrigshira 00:15:23.059 --> 00:15:25.059 kicks in and she'll go on exploring different 00:15:25.059 --> 00:15:28.080 resorts or different places to go. And she'll 00:15:28.080 --> 00:15:30.799 keep exploring and keep exploring and keep exploring 00:15:30.799 --> 00:15:34.200 endlessly because she is an explorer. He is like, 00:15:34.299 --> 00:15:37.700 why don't you make a decision now? The fix is 00:15:37.700 --> 00:15:41.419 80 -20 pass. Once the plan is 80 % good, execute. 00:15:42.600 --> 00:15:46.820 Don't overanalyze. He can give that energy to 00:15:46.820 --> 00:15:51.679 Mrigshira also. Isn't it? That's the way to fix 00:15:51.679 --> 00:15:55.379 this. In the next one, we shall explore the same 00:15:55.379 --> 00:15:58.700 dynamism but between now Ashwini and Poonar Vasu 00:15:58.700 --> 00:16:02.179 in cancer because it's one -four relationship. 00:16:03.860 --> 00:16:06.299 If you have comment or if you want to explore 00:16:06.299 --> 00:16:08.919 something more, leave it in the comment box. 00:16:09.139 --> 00:16:10.080 I'll see you in the next.