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Good morning beautiful people, welcome to my channel.

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Let's do the 20th relationships for dating.

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They specifically are made for people who are into dating,

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who are in current relationships even.

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It is surprising to me how even 20 year old married couples don't know one another this well.

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So it's not just for dating, not for just new relationships, but for well-established ones.

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You can sit with your spouse and take this.

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For example, you'll find out how much you do not know about the person,

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rather than how much you think you know.

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See, we all work from a specific ascendant, from a specific chart.

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Yes, all that means is we have a specific fixed point of view we develop through life.

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For dating and relationships, it is important so far as I am concerned to connect on an emotional level first.

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Relationship is not just about getting in bed together.

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It is about a long-term emotional connection, bonding, development, growth and so on, as we know.

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A mature one at least.

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So the description is here.

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This Excel sheet is a simple Excel sheet where you fill in the yes answers, preferably to

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one option only, maximum going into two.

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Don't do more than two because the results will get confusing them.

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And this dating emotional profile is based on the previous emotional profile, which I have given

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Excel worksheet.

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You have to do that first because it counts on those basic emotional parameters.

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It counts on empathy.

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It counts on self-awareness.

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It counts on how well you take care of your emotional awareness and so on.

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So this is Excel sheet, which is slightly more complicated, but everyday questions like you can see here.

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How do you approach meeting new people?

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You should take this sitting with your partner, whoever your boyfriend girlfriend is or husband or wife is.

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Then it gets interesting because then you know how they behave.

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Even if you think you know them, ask for their preference.

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Don't make up your mind about what you know about your partner.

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Humans commonly tend to think just because we stayed with the person for a number of years, this is how they are.

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Without allowing for this is what could be or what does a person really is.

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That's a big mistake.

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That's how relationships go stale, for example.

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So this emotional profile is based on the Myers-Briggs model.

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As you can see, it is going towards Myers-Briggs in the spy chart.

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Extra words.

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Interversion, sensing, intuition, thinking, feeling, judging and perceiving.

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So to understand this basic one, I had to go back and sort of make the previous one, the basic Myers-Briggs model.

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That's a generic set of questions.

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This one is specifically made for relationships.

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I'm going to go more in relationships in the next two worksheets as well.

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Why?

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Because we have a lot of questions.

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Why? Because we are having all these young people running around, not knowing what they are looking for in a person,

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getting carried away by too much of misinformation on social media,

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by all kinds of gurus, coaches, life coaches, blah, blah, blah,

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without getting into the simple format of how things are being perceived emotionally by the other person.

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So in this one, we are tending to focus dominantly on the emotional profile only.

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So the questions are all geared towards making and determining your emotional outlook, if you will, for a neutral word.

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So outlook means inherently there is nothing good or bad.

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I think there are about 40 or 50 questions.

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I've taken a long set of questions here.

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Okay, this is a lot. Take your time to do this.

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It will help you determine how a person, your partner, your boyfriend, your girlfriend,

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handles the emotion in different, different circumstances.

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How do you comfort a family member who is upset?

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As a sample there, the 46 questions, there are about 50 questions.

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Okay.

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How do you comfort a family member who is upset by being there for them and listening to their concerns,

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by providing a quiet, supportive presence, by addressing the practical needs and offering help,

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by helping them see the potential future improvements,

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by offering rational perspective and solutions,

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by evaluating their feelings and showing empathy.

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This is just one.

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And each one, like you can see, has got six options.

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So you can select two of them.

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Here I have put for this test case, yes, on two counts by providing quiet support and supportive presence,

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by offering rational perspective and solutions.

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So this makes a certain combination of certain types,

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which will show up in your pie chart as soon as you finish typing yes in the answer column.

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Okay.

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And it will evaluate you on MBTI, but strictly on an emotional profile basis,

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emotional outlook, emotional preferences, emotional well-being,

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how you handle, work with, address your own emotional status,

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when in different circumstances of life.

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You need to know this if you're dating a person.

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Otherwise, how do you know the person, how he or she reacts?

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Yes, be it even spouse, whoever it is.

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And the funny thing which you might encounter on the way on this journey

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would be that this Myers-Briggs model, commonly you will see this actually,

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this Myers-Briggs pie chart and this output, final output after you have completed this test,

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might be very different from the generic one which I've given in the 19th worksheet.

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That's a generic Myers-Briggs model.

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This is specifically there to address your or know your emotional part only.

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It's like we are trying to study your emotional body here.

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It's like two people were involved in intimate partnership are trying to understand what each

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other's approach is towards emotions.

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Try to understand it this way.

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It's more helpful to go in a sort of understanding neutrality rather than trying to judge the other

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person because judging never helps as we know.

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You're just labeling things.

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You're just labeling people.

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That's not going to help.

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And when has it helped in humanity?

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Right?

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That's a ridiculous way to go about things.

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And then after you have finished here, this person is I then TJ.

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In the MBTI version, he may be ENTJ.

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You see what I'm saying?

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So the way you read this might be very different to the one in a general MBTI,

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meaning a person taking a general MBTI test may be different to the one who is taking only on

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an emotional profile basis.

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So you might say this is an emotional intelligence test tuned to the Myers-Briggs model.

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Okay.

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And here for just for understanding, I have put each one of the 16 worksheets where they are

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compatible with arrows.

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For example, INTP is compatible here as it's indicated with ENTJ and ENTP, the ones in the

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same line.

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Sometimes it's cross lines like this.

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Sometimes it is down and sometimes it is across as well.

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The mediator is compatible with the console.

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See that and all the habits and everything is just the same.

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So you can go through these 16 sheets after you have done and see if this matches nine

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times out of 10, it will match for the ENFJ.

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The protagonist will be compatible with the mediator as well as with the explorer.

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Now you can see the romantic inclination, the hobbies, the dining preferences, the travel

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habits, the intimacy aspects, the expectations from the partner.

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So important.

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And we'll get to that compatibility.

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I've done a separate one because compatibility is of a different kind.

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You will see in the kind of questions how these things differ.

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It's all in the kind of questions, kind of circumstances, kind of life situations.

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All this becomes more refined.

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We humans are very different in different circumstances.

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Each one of us is a highly complex, multi-layered, multi-dimensional creature walking around here.

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So in this context, it is these sheets that I have put 16 sheets because there are 16 types

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of Myers-Briggs model archetypes, so to speak.

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And each one is compatible with a different kind.

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And so if you're an ENFJ in this, for example, you can see your romantic hobbies, dining,

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travel habits, intimacy, expectations from partner, home life, friendships.

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You can see how it is compatible with this one who is the mediator above.

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Or you can see how it is compatible with the explorer type.

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ENFJ romance, for example, is warm, supportive, they value harmony and mutual growth.

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But this person is compatible with an adventurer, ISFP,

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who's gentle, caring value, authenticity and emotional depth.

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So it's not exactly same.

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This is the kind of illusion that we propagate.

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It's not in the sameness of things.

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It's in the difference, but yet complimenting one compliments the other.

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People being in some relationships can understand this value.

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If you're a young person, go ahead, take this test, download it in the description box.

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And we shall explore this dating and relationships thing more.

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I mean, we can never get enough of it, but it's best to start from this.

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It's a known model, you can research this more, but this can be a very, very good starting point

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because these questions, these 50 questions in this line

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are geared towards understanding your emotional body from the Myers-Briggs model perspective.

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Right? That sums it up.

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I will see you in the next next to also be a shared address relationships

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because it's so important to get things sort of getting your ducks in the row.

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So far as your own preferences concern and your partner's preferences concern.

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Right? Take care. Be safe.