Hello ladies and gentlemen, I am your host Lily Monroe and you're listening to
Escort Confessions. Thank you so much for tuning in today and listening to my
pretty voice. But today I am going to talk about doxing, what is it and how to
avoid it. So I'm gonna start off with a Google definition of being doxed, doxing
and here it is. Doxing is a form of cyberbullying that uses sensitive or secret
information, statements or records for the harassment, financial harm or other
exploitation of targeted individuals. 21% of Americans are getting doxed every
year. Doxing is a criminal offense, you can get sued and you can be put in jail
and that will be not fun, would it? So yeah, doxing is no fun and it, you know,
whoever is doxing, whoever is cyberbullying a certain individual, they
look bad. Like yeah, so the first time I got doxed was by an ex-client of mine who
was a doctor and doctors are douchebags, like that's just a fact. The only doctors
that I personally like are from Grey's Anatomy, the TV show. So yeah, and all of
them are cute on that show and like handsome and smart and romantic but
anyways, anyways. Yeah, so I got doxed by this doctor and he basically said that, oh
yeah, her name is this and she's an actress. So yeah, I mean I guess it was
like tiny bit of doxing but the second time it was so much more exciting and it
happened in June and basically this person who might be from the film
industry or who might be from sex work industry, yeah, who I might know personally.
So basically he sent out email to my, like all of my agents, like okay and said
that, oh yeah, one of your talents provides escort services and like a few of my
pictures were on there and three of my links, one of them was a website, was my
website that yeah, Instagram and the other one was I think my content creator page.
Like okay, I did not delete my content creator page because a lot of people do
content nowadays, so like okay. And yeah, so of course I got a little bit
heated up, I wanted to go find them and go full Dexter Morgan on them, you know
like the TV show Dexter, like where he reps killers who deserve to be killed in
plastic and watch the life drain out of their eyes. So I wanted to do that, you
know, if I knew who it was. But that's okay. Karma, karma will take over. But back to it. So of course like I got a little bit
of rage in me and I basically sent out email to my agents explaining a little
bit of situation, so and you know all of them were very understanding actually, so
which is good because you know sometimes good things, I mean bad things happen to
good people and yeah, but anyways what I'm trying to say is that my agents will
always be on my side no matter what and that person, he's nasty. It did not make
him look good in front of my agents eyes and you know I actually feel sorry for
that individual because I'm pretty sure it's a guy, because guys like that guy
he probably has a very low quality life, like low quality sex life, boring life, he
has nothing to do, he is jealous and he's intimidated by a successful, smart,
beautiful woman like me. So I actually feel really really sorry for that
individual because he's gonna have a miserable life. So that is my personal
story and here are the fun statistics that I would love to share with you guys.
So doxing is widespread, 20% of Americans, over 43 million have personally
experienced doxing. Doxing can be personal, more than half of doxing attacks
stem from online interactions with strangers. Almost one in four
perpetrators are personally known to the targets. Doxing is serious, it leads to
online shaming and harassment, but also often results in criminal conduct, which
I did mention previously, or consequences affecting employment. Remedies
untrusted, with attacks usually anonymous and digital privacy largely
unenforceable, doxing targets are often left without records and one-third fail
to even report attacks to authorities. Reason for doxing could be a public
post, personal revenge, gaming dispute or other. There's personal, criminal and
professional types of doxing repercussions. And then most, let's see
there's online harassment doxing, it's 46%, public shaming 38%, lost
friendships 38%, family harassment, oh my god, 35% and photos distributed 19%,
which did happen to me because he did include photos in the email, but those
were my really good photos, so thanks, thanks for using my good photos. There
are a lot of physical threats, it can be identity theft, let's see, and 66% reported
doxing to authorities and 34% did not. But yeah, so many fun statistics online, but
here's the important part, how to avoid being doxed. Lock down your accounts, that
means increase the privacy settings on all of your social media profiles and
any other accounts that may be impacted. So use like different passwords for each
you know social media that you're on, because using the same password for
everything, you're gonna get hacked, somebody can steal your information and
identity theft is not a joke, Jim. That was a reference to the office, I feel
like I should put it in there, since yeah, but anyways, so yeah, use different
passwords for everything, increase the privacy settings in your social media
and you know, like I realized that I understand why a lot of providers blur
out their faces or eyes on like Tris and website and other sites, because they
either have been doxed or do not want to get doxed, because they're either realtors
or you know work for the government for example, maybe they're actors as well and
public person, public persona, so I definitely understand that. I you know, try
your best to separate your like provider presence from your personal life or I
guess do your best to separate your professional life from your personal
life as an escort, as a provider, as a sex worker. I would also recommend
of course, I think it's pretty you know, pretty common to use a different name,
like do not use your real name as a provider, because you know, there's a lot
of Lily Monroe's, but there's not a lot of you know, girls who are named my name
and have the same last name as me, so there really is not a lot, because it's pretty
unique and considering I'm from a different country, so yeah, do not use
your real name as a sex worker, use your provider name. I would minimize the
information about yourself as not just a provider, but as a you know person, because
I feel like you know, if I was not a working actor, I probably would not be
getting doxed, because there's a lot of articles about me online, like if you if
you know my real name, you can just Google me and there's gonna be a lot of
information about me, so but there is not a lot of information about Lily Monroe.
Yeah, so minimize your personal information. I would also be nice to people,
it's like you know, I am like personally, I'm a very blunt person, because it's
part of my heritage and guess what, if somebody is gonna be rude to me, I'm
gonna be rude back. If somebody is sexually harassing me online, I'm gonna
be as bitchy and rude as fuck and like I'm gonna be as bitchy as I can be,
because they deserve to be talked down to. So yeah, but you know since everybody,
since a lot of guys are such snowflakes today, they get offended over silliest
stuff you say to them, so you know just be nice and be be nice to people, because
you can also ask Google to remove information about you. Auditing social
media posts, avoid online quizzes, practice good cyber security practices,
change passwords regularly, use a VPN, limit personal information online. So
here you are, there are some tips you can also Google on how to avoid being
doxxed, but yeah you can you know, you can learn from my experience getting doxxed
and you know I got to the point where I had to close down a lot of my accounts,
so which was not fun, because I worked hard for them, I spent a lot of time
setting them up and whatnot, but yeah you know you do what you gotta do, but you
know what am I gonna quit being a provider? Fuck no! Just because one person
doxx me, or I'm sorry two, does not mean I should stop doing what I love, which is
being a provider, being a sex worker, being an escort and providing the best
companionship I can give. So I do hope you guys learned something new today,
that you enjoyed this podcast brought to you by me Lily Monroe, and yeah thank you
so much for tuning in today, this was Escrow Confessions, I'm your host Lily
Monroe and I will talk to you guys next time!