1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:11,400 Hello ladies and gentlemen, I am your host Lily Monroe and you're listening to 2 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:16,520 Escort Confessions. Thank you so much for tuning in today and listening to my 3 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:24,000 pretty voice. But today I am going to talk about doxing, what is it and how to 4 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:32,440 avoid it. So I'm gonna start off with a Google definition of being doxed, doxing 5 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:39,240 and here it is. Doxing is a form of cyberbullying that uses sensitive or secret 6 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:44,960 information, statements or records for the harassment, financial harm or other 7 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:52,520 exploitation of targeted individuals. 21% of Americans are getting doxed every 8 00:00:52,520 --> 00:01:00,440 year. Doxing is a criminal offense, you can get sued and you can be put in jail 9 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:08,580 and that will be not fun, would it? So yeah, doxing is no fun and it, you know, 10 00:01:08,580 --> 00:01:13,480 whoever is doxing, whoever is cyberbullying a certain individual, they 11 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:20,080 look bad. Like yeah, so the first time I got doxed was by an ex-client of mine who 12 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:25,560 was a doctor and doctors are douchebags, like that's just a fact. The only doctors 13 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:31,560 that I personally like are from Grey's Anatomy, the TV show. So yeah, and all of 14 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:35,640 them are cute on that show and like handsome and smart and romantic but 15 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:42,960 anyways, anyways. Yeah, so I got doxed by this doctor and he basically said that, oh 16 00:01:42,960 --> 00:01:48,040 yeah, her name is this and she's an actress. So yeah, I mean I guess it was 17 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:53,360 like tiny bit of doxing but the second time it was so much more exciting and it 18 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:59,760 happened in June and basically this person who might be from the film 19 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:05,440 industry or who might be from sex work industry, yeah, who I might know personally. 20 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:14,120 So basically he sent out email to my, like all of my agents, like okay and said 21 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:19,800 that, oh yeah, one of your talents provides escort services and like a few of my 22 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:23,920 pictures were on there and three of my links, one of them was a website, was my 23 00:02:23,920 --> 00:02:29,400 website that yeah, Instagram and the other one was I think my content creator page. 24 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:33,920 Like okay, I did not delete my content creator page because a lot of people do 25 00:02:33,920 --> 00:02:40,760 content nowadays, so like okay. And yeah, so of course I got a little bit 26 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:47,000 heated up, I wanted to go find them and go full Dexter Morgan on them, you know 27 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:53,360 like the TV show Dexter, like where he reps killers who deserve to be killed in 28 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:58,520 plastic and watch the life drain out of their eyes. So I wanted to do that, you 29 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:07,840 know, if I knew who it was. But that's okay. Karma, karma will take over. But back to it. So of course like I got a little bit 30 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:13,960 of rage in me and I basically sent out email to my agents explaining a little 31 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:19,440 bit of situation, so and you know all of them were very understanding actually, so 32 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:25,600 which is good because you know sometimes good things, I mean bad things happen to 33 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:32,800 good people and yeah, but anyways what I'm trying to say is that my agents will 34 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:40,240 always be on my side no matter what and that person, he's nasty. It did not make 35 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:45,400 him look good in front of my agents eyes and you know I actually feel sorry for 36 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:51,040 that individual because I'm pretty sure it's a guy, because guys like that guy 37 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:56,740 he probably has a very low quality life, like low quality sex life, boring life, he 38 00:03:56,740 --> 00:04:03,280 has nothing to do, he is jealous and he's intimidated by a successful, smart, 39 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:10,120 beautiful woman like me. So I actually feel really really sorry for that 40 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:15,520 individual because he's gonna have a miserable life. So that is my personal 41 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:22,880 story and here are the fun statistics that I would love to share with you guys. 42 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:28,400 So doxing is widespread, 20% of Americans, over 43 million have personally 43 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:34,880 experienced doxing. Doxing can be personal, more than half of doxing attacks 44 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:39,960 stem from online interactions with strangers. Almost one in four 45 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:46,360 perpetrators are personally known to the targets. Doxing is serious, it leads to 46 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:51,680 online shaming and harassment, but also often results in criminal conduct, which 47 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:57,320 I did mention previously, or consequences affecting employment. Remedies 48 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:03,960 untrusted, with attacks usually anonymous and digital privacy largely 49 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:10,520 unenforceable, doxing targets are often left without records and one-third fail 50 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:15,360 to even report attacks to authorities. Reason for doxing could be a public 51 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:22,160 post, personal revenge, gaming dispute or other. There's personal, criminal and 52 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:28,960 professional types of doxing repercussions. And then most, let's see 53 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:35,280 there's online harassment doxing, it's 46%, public shaming 38%, lost 54 00:05:35,280 --> 00:05:42,360 friendships 38%, family harassment, oh my god, 35% and photos distributed 19%, 55 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:47,360 which did happen to me because he did include photos in the email, but those 56 00:05:47,360 --> 00:05:53,840 were my really good photos, so thanks, thanks for using my good photos. There 57 00:05:53,840 --> 00:06:01,840 are a lot of physical threats, it can be identity theft, let's see, and 66% reported 58 00:06:01,840 --> 00:06:11,480 doxing to authorities and 34% did not. But yeah, so many fun statistics online, but 59 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:19,960 here's the important part, how to avoid being doxed. Lock down your accounts, that 60 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:25,040 means increase the privacy settings on all of your social media profiles and 61 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:32,000 any other accounts that may be impacted. So use like different passwords for each 62 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:38,200 you know social media that you're on, because using the same password for 63 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:42,400 everything, you're gonna get hacked, somebody can steal your information and 64 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:49,080 identity theft is not a joke, Jim. That was a reference to the office, I feel 65 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:58,600 like I should put it in there, since yeah, but anyways, so yeah, use different 66 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:03,480 passwords for everything, increase the privacy settings in your social media 67 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:09,000 and you know, like I realized that I understand why a lot of providers blur 68 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:15,880 out their faces or eyes on like Tris and website and other sites, because they 69 00:07:15,880 --> 00:07:21,640 either have been doxed or do not want to get doxed, because they're either realtors 70 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:27,280 or you know work for the government for example, maybe they're actors as well and 71 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:35,480 public person, public persona, so I definitely understand that. I you know, try 72 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:44,320 your best to separate your like provider presence from your personal life or I 73 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:51,080 guess do your best to separate your professional life from your personal 74 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:57,080 life as an escort, as a provider, as a sex worker. I would also recommend 75 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:02,240 of course, I think it's pretty you know, pretty common to use a different name, 76 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:10,080 like do not use your real name as a provider, because you know, there's a lot 77 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:16,000 of Lily Monroe's, but there's not a lot of you know, girls who are named my name 78 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:20,840 and have the same last name as me, so there really is not a lot, because it's pretty 79 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:25,920 unique and considering I'm from a different country, so yeah, do not use 80 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:31,720 your real name as a sex worker, use your provider name. I would minimize the 81 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:41,120 information about yourself as not just a provider, but as a you know person, because 82 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:48,020 I feel like you know, if I was not a working actor, I probably would not be 83 00:08:48,020 --> 00:08:53,760 getting doxed, because there's a lot of articles about me online, like if you if 84 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:58,240 you know my real name, you can just Google me and there's gonna be a lot of 85 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:03,960 information about me, so but there is not a lot of information about Lily Monroe. 86 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:11,920 Yeah, so minimize your personal information. I would also be nice to people, 87 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:17,280 it's like you know, I am like personally, I'm a very blunt person, because it's 88 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:21,840 part of my heritage and guess what, if somebody is gonna be rude to me, I'm 89 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:27,600 gonna be rude back. If somebody is sexually harassing me online, I'm gonna 90 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:34,080 be as bitchy and rude as fuck and like I'm gonna be as bitchy as I can be, 91 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:43,360 because they deserve to be talked down to. So yeah, but you know since everybody, 92 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:49,080 since a lot of guys are such snowflakes today, they get offended over silliest 93 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:55,360 stuff you say to them, so you know just be nice and be be nice to people, because 94 00:09:55,360 --> 00:10:03,240 you can also ask Google to remove information about you. Auditing social 95 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:09,120 media posts, avoid online quizzes, practice good cyber security practices, 96 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:18,640 change passwords regularly, use a VPN, limit personal information online. So 97 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:25,400 here you are, there are some tips you can also Google on how to avoid being 98 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:33,160 doxxed, but yeah you can you know, you can learn from my experience getting doxxed 99 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:38,640 and you know I got to the point where I had to close down a lot of my accounts, 100 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:43,760 so which was not fun, because I worked hard for them, I spent a lot of time 101 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:49,720 setting them up and whatnot, but yeah you know you do what you gotta do, but you 102 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:54,000 know what am I gonna quit being a provider? Fuck no! Just because one person 103 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:59,640 doxx me, or I'm sorry two, does not mean I should stop doing what I love, which is 104 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:04,680 being a provider, being a sex worker, being an escort and providing the best 105 00:11:04,680 --> 00:11:11,560 companionship I can give. So I do hope you guys learned something new today, 106 00:11:11,560 --> 00:11:18,640 that you enjoyed this podcast brought to you by me Lily Monroe, and yeah thank you 107 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:24,400 so much for tuning in today, this was Escrow Confessions, I'm your host Lily 108 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:42,000 Monroe and I will talk to you guys next time!