1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:15,000 Hello boys and girls, how's it going? My name is Lily Monroe and you're listening to Escort Confessions. 2 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:23,000 Thank you so much for tuning in today. I really appreciate you and your time to listen to my pretty voice. 3 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:31,000 But today I am going to talk about the biggest misconceptions about sex workers. So here we go. 4 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:40,000 Misconception number one. People think that escorts get paid for sex, which is not true. 5 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:49,000 Escort is someone who arranges meeting with a client and gets paid for her companionship. 6 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:57,000 Getting paid for companionship is legal, while paying for sex is illegal. 7 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:07,000 And you know, I'm an escort and I can count a handful of times that I was not being paid to have sex. 8 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:15,000 So yeah, like most of the time people book me for companionship, for social dates. 9 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:23,000 Like on social dates we just go to movie theaters, we go have dinner. So escorts get paid for their companionship. 10 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:29,000 Prostitutes are the ones who solicit on the streets and that is illegal. 11 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:37,000 So prostitute can charge you 30 bucks for a blowjob. Escorts charge at least 300 dollars an hour. 12 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:46,000 So yeah, and advice to those sex workers or escorts who are just setting out, you should not charge less than 300 dollars. 13 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:53,000 And you should not do 30 minute appointments. A lot of fuckwords just ask me, hey, do you do half hour sessions? 14 00:01:53,000 --> 00:02:00,000 I'm like, I can, you just have to pay me the same because I am getting paid for my time, not for the service. 15 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:10,000 So there's that. Misconception number two. Escorts are for wealthy people only. 16 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:21,000 That is so not true. I know so many, you know, 9 to 5 guys or guys who work 9 to 5 and they manage to save up and still see me. 17 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:34,000 I definitely do not see like super wealthy people. I see people who own their own business, who work a lot and they're just regular people like you and me. 18 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:43,000 So, you know, and yeah, escorts, they're not just for wealthy people. So I don't care what you see on TV. I don't care. 19 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:51,000 It's probably very misleading. Like pretty woman, it could happen. It could. 20 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:58,000 But it's so rare that a prostitute, you know, would find a millionaire and then they would fall in love and get married. 21 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:08,000 Like it could happen, but it's very rarely. Also, slightly off topic. There are a lot of TV shows. 22 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:17,000 There's a lot of movies about sex workers. But I think that the closest one would be Good Luck to You, Leo Grande. 23 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:23,000 It is on either Amazon Prime or Hulu. And it's a really good movie. 24 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:33,000 Like I would highly recommend watching it because it has like Emma Thompson in it and really gorgeous guy whose name I forgot. 25 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:39,000 But it's like the closest thing to, you know, knowing about what sex worker does, what escort does. 26 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:45,000 So, yeah, so it's called Good Luck to You, Leo Grande. 27 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:53,000 Misconception number three. Sex workers are being forced into it, which we are not. 28 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:59,000 A lot of I know a lot of girls and it is their own choice to become an escort. 29 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:05,000 But if you are being forced into prostitution, that is human trafficking and that is not OK. 30 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:13,000 Like, for example, in my experience, I was broke as fuck during covid and my friend got me into it. 31 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:23,000 And I had a choice to either not get into it or get into it. So I got into it and I was not forced into it. 32 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:29,000 It was my own choice to start making money. And I'm doing pretty good right now. So I'm glad I took the risk. 33 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:32,000 I'm glad I made that choice. So yay. 34 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:42,000 There are a lot of girls who choose to become sex workers, to pay for their college and university, to support their families. 35 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:48,000 So, yeah, honestly, it is a choice. I think everything is a choice. 36 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:58,000 So I hope that misconception clears it out. Misconception number four. Escorts are only for men. 37 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:04,000 That is so not true because I'm a female escort, as you can tell from my voice. 38 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:14,000 I've booked a female provider before and I would love to book two lesbian female providers because I watch a lot of lesbian porn and I quite enjoy looking at it. 39 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:23,000 There are a lot of gorgeous women out there. So, you know, a lot of escorts or a lot of regular people, they are women. 40 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:29,000 They book male escorts. I'm a female. I would love to book a male escort. 41 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:39,000 Hopefully someday soon for my birthday, preferably two male escorts so we could hang out and have fun and whatnot. 42 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:49,000 So, yeah, you know, booking escorts is for everybody. There's a lot of males who book trans people. 43 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:57,000 There's a lot of females who book trans people as well and non-binary. So it's for everybody, honestly. 44 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:05,000 Misconception number five. It's only for those who are looking for sex. And no, that is not true. 45 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:23,000 In my personal experience, a lot of clients book me for connection, for chemistry, because a lot of them feel lonely and just want intimacy and just want hugs and to be loved, to be appreciated, to be cared for. 46 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:33,000 And a lot of single guys, they, I mean, we went out to restaurants and had social date and they just want companionship. They want a friend. 47 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:48,000 Misconception number six. It's degrading to women. Absolutely not. I love this profession. I am super, super happy. A friend of mine got me into it. 48 00:06:48,000 --> 00:07:01,000 You know, I do not think that it's degrading to have sex. I do not think it's degrading to care for someone and to listen to someone and provide companionship to someone. 49 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:20,000 But it's not degrading at all. Those people who say that it's degrading are those who don't know shit about this industry, those who are not in the industry and those who just assume or watch too much television that provides fake information about escorts. 50 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:30,000 And, you know, a lot of escorts, they do it by choice. If they don't do it by choice, they are forced into it and they are probably prostitutes. 51 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:46,000 And there's that. And like, trust me when I say this, a lot of escorts, we are very open minded. We are self-sufficient. We are independent, empowered women who are very well paid for our time and services. 52 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:59,000 And we do manage this business on our own schedule. And we offer services that we are comfortable with. So it is not degrading at all. 53 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:05,000 Misconception number seven. It's unsafe and dangerous. 54 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:30,000 No, that is very far from the truth. You know, as professional escort, I can tell you that I do everything protected, you know, whether it's, you know, doing sexy time with a condom on, you know, oral sex, I do with a flavored condom on because you can still get STDs that way. 55 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:39,000 Yeah, believe it or not, please do research on any STD that you can think of before coming to a provider. 56 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:51,000 And, you know, just in general, in case you have not taken a health class in high school or in middle school, I think I took mine in middle school. So, yeah, that was an interesting experience. 57 00:08:51,000 --> 00:09:05,000 Yeah. So, so, yeah, I do everything protected. I make sure that the client is comfortable having intercourse with me or, you know, he's comfortable being there. 58 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:21,000 And, you know, because if client is not comfortable being there, if like I could read body language, if I can see that something is wrong, I'll talk to him. I'll communicate as best as I can with him. And if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. 59 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:37,000 You know, you don't have to be there if you don't want to. So, yeah, everything is consensual and very, very safe. So for both of us, because health is more important than getting STD for the rest of your life. 60 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:51,000 So, but, you know, thankfully, a lot of STDs are treatable. So, yay. Misconception number eight. It glorifies drug and alcohol abuse. 61 00:09:51,000 --> 00:10:09,000 No, it does not. So the only drugs I take are mushrooms, weed, and sometimes, at all. But I would not say that, you know, mushrooms are or acid or weed are drugs because they're kind of recreational drugs. 62 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:24,000 But anyways, I'm getting a little distracted. You know, it does not glorify drug use. I have not seen a provider who has meth teeth or does cocaine in front of a client. 63 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:30,000 I've never seen a client do cocaine in front of me or any other type of drug whatsoever. 64 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:42,000 I mean, I do smoke joint with someone, but it's super recreational. I love weed and I don't think weed is a drug because you cannot addicted to it. 65 00:10:42,000 --> 00:11:01,000 So, but you could get addicted to Xanax or, you know, those pharmaceutical pills. So, yeah. And, you know, if somebody is escorting for for just drugs, that's a prostitute. You probably should not see a person like that. 66 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:17,000 So go for escorts. Go to like professional escorts who, you know, charged by the hour. They do not. They do not say like, oh, I can have sex with you for 50 bucks and that will give me enough for coke. 67 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:23,000 So, yeah, don't be that client who comes to prostitute. So, yeah. 68 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:35,000 Misconception number nine. It's an easy way to make easy money. You know, again, in my personal experience, yes, it is. 69 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:44,000 But on daily basis, I have to deal with a bunch of time wasters who ask me if I am available, who are not serious bookers. 70 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:56,000 And I also get to deal with not clients who cannot read the ad or my website where I particularly ask for screening information. 71 00:11:56,000 --> 00:12:03,000 So basically, I have to deal with a lot of fucking idiots. But those those guys who are professional, they send me their screening. 72 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:14,000 And, you know, like it takes time to set the meeting up. It takes time to for them to do a deposit. And it's usually pretty easy. 73 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:21,000 Like, it should not take you more than 10 minutes to do the whole screening process. If anything, it should take you like five. 74 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:31,000 But, yeah, I know I know a lot of clients like they have problems with cash up Venmo, a lot of digital stuff, which I know I know, guys, it can be a hassle. 75 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:38,000 But I have a separate podcast episode about deposits and cancellation fees. 76 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:45,000 So you should listen to that if you are curious why deposits are made and whatnot, since I'm talking about it. 77 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:56,000 But, yeah, it's not always easy for me. It's easy because I talk a lot. I like meeting new people. 78 00:12:56,000 --> 00:13:04,000 I, you know, I'm pretty real during the meetings, like I cannot fake my persona. 79 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:10,000 Like, I know some providers, they do that. They have fake name. They have fake attitude. They have fake personality. 80 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:19,000 And then you have this whole, you know, fake attitude during clients visit. And that must be really hard to fake everything. 81 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:25,000 But, yeah, no, it's easy for me because, again, I like meeting new people. I like to listen to them. 82 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:40,000 I like hearing their story. And I'm pretty down to earth. So it's like going on a date pretty much, except we do it really fast instead of going around the circles like, OK, when can we meet up and whatnot? 83 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:50,000 So I would say it's pretty easy for me. But, yeah, it just takes a lot of patience and time and energy. 84 00:13:50,000 --> 00:14:05,000 But it's totally worth it for me. And I do hope for the clients and for my future clients who will keep coming back for more sexy time with Lily Monroe. 85 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:17,000 And the last misconception about sex workers is that we are miserable and do not like sex, which, you know, 86 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:24,000 as someone who loves sex and is definitely not miserable, I can tell you that is false. 87 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:30,000 Like that misconception is false because a lot of escorts, they are traveling companions. 88 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:37,000 They get to see the world. And I feel like when you travel, like you cannot be miserable. 89 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:53,000 Like you're in a different country on a yacht or like you're in a different country exploring ruins of abandoned castles or, gosh, I don't like like you're in Paris and you're getting paid to be in Paris. 90 00:14:53,000 --> 00:15:01,000 You get to, you know, get paid, be paid as a companion who's going to climb the Eiffel Tower. 91 00:15:01,000 --> 00:15:10,000 And I don't think you can be miserable doing that, honestly. A lot of escorts, they have so much money. 92 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:15,000 I mean, it's a good paying job. And I mean, yeah, sometimes it can be a job. 93 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:26,000 But I, you know, if an escort is indeed miserable, then I feel like she should quit the job or just take a break. 94 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:40,000 So, yeah, because I've been told by different clients who came to see me was because the providers that they saw before that, before me, were just like, did not look like they enjoyed the experience. 95 00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:44,000 They did not look like they wanted to be there, like with the clients. 96 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:59,000 So if you are a provider, if you are feeling burnt out, if you are miserable doing it, you either should quit or take a break because it is a demanding job. 97 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:06,000 You get to, I don't know, like I get exhausted if I see four clients a day and I have to take a nap. 98 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:14,000 And it can drain me because not only because of sex, but because of, I don't know, talking, I guess, I don't know. 99 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:18,000 But yeah, four clients a day can be quite exhausting. 100 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:29,000 But yeah, I do not know, like personally, I do not know of any escorts who are miserable because it's hard to be miserable when you're making at least 300 bucks an hour. 101 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:40,000 So when most people make, I don't know, like 120 bucks an hour or sorry, sorry, no, no, no, 15, 15 bucks an hour, if not less. 102 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:43,000 So, yeah, so there's that misconception. 103 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:46,000 Escorts do not like sex. 104 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:48,000 Like, I don't believe that. 105 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:50,000 I love sex. 106 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:57,000 Before becoming an escort, this is like, I'm just gonna tell you a little bit, bit piece of myself. 107 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:04,000 So I was engaged twice and sex was anything but exciting. 108 00:17:04,000 --> 00:17:15,000 And then I started to date, whoring around for free, and I was so miserable because sex was not good. 109 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:22,000 I think I had, like, I was on set one time and I had this, I met this amazing guy and we're still friends. 110 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:27,000 And I thought I had the best sex with him. 111 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:31,000 But then I became an escort and I'm like, oh my God, that was nothing. 112 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:34,000 Like, I'm having like some real sex here. 113 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:37,000 And I became more sexually active. 114 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:40,000 I became, you know, more hornier and whatnot. 115 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:42,000 And I freaking love sex. 116 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:44,000 Like, it's such a fun experience. 117 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:55,000 It's, you know, for a second I thought, well, after three months of doing it, I seriously thought I became like a sex addict because I craved sex. 118 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:57,000 I mean, there's so many positions you can try. 119 00:17:57,000 --> 00:18:02,000 There's, you know, so many penises and vaginas to experience. 120 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:06,000 Like, every sexual organ is different. 121 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:12,000 And like, for penises, like, I like a certain girth and I like a certain length. 122 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:15,000 That works for my genitals. 123 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:17,000 So, yeah. 124 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:19,000 But that's a separate story. 125 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:24,000 So, I think a lot of escorts are pretty happy with their lives. 126 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:26,000 They're making good money and they like sex. 127 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:28,000 That's why they're doing this type of work. 128 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:30,000 Like, we are getting paid to have orgasms. 129 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:34,000 So, it's kind of hard to be miserable. 130 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:41,000 So, yeah, I really hope you guys learned something new that I got to clear out a lot of those misconceptions. 131 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:52,000 And, yeah, and please tune in for the next episode where I am going to talk about how to avoid getting doxxed. 132 00:18:52,000 --> 00:19:06,000 And feel free to book me or ask me a question by sending me an email to book.lillymonbrough.gmail.com. 133 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:08,000 And you have been listening to Ask Your Confessions. 134 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:12,000 I am your host, Lillie Monroe, and I will talk to you guys next time.