1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:11,200 Hello, hello, hello! My name is Lily Monroe and you're listening to Escort Confessions. 2 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:16,000 Thank you so much for tuning in today and today and happy February! 3 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:22,200 Oh, I'm having Valentine's Day specials just in FYI, it's $100 off. 4 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:27,800 Any service? So please book in advance, that would be super, super great. 5 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:33,000 Well, unless I'm gonna go on dates. I don't know, I don't know, I might. 6 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:38,800 I might put like fake engagement rings into like every couple's drink and I'll be like 7 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:43,800 Ah, you ain't getting married, bitch. I don't know, sorry, I'm just rambling. 8 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:49,600 I had a little bit of Edroll today, it makes me think and focused, so I'm distracted. 9 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:58,600 But anyways, yeah, so today's podcast is we're gonna talk about references. 10 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:05,800 So what is a reference? Reference is like if you are trying to get a new job, 11 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:10,000 so you put in reference for the old job that you had. 12 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:16,000 So it's kind of like that with providers and I'm not saying like you're gonna go to your old provider. 13 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:27,600 So let's have an example. Chad is a regular of Alexa and Mindy, who is a new provider, 14 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:35,200 who he wants to see, who Chad wants to see, Mindy is asking for two references and driver's license. 15 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:41,000 So Chad provided driver's license, but he needs two references from previous providers. 16 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:47,000 So he's like, okay, I'm gonna contact Alexa, I'm gonna give her heads up in advance. 17 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:52,200 So she can be asking if it's okay to be my reference and Alexa's like, oh, fuck yeah, I'll be your reference. 18 00:01:52,200 --> 00:02:00,000 Thank you so much for asking me. And Alexa or I guess Mindy would message Alexa or email Alexa saying, 19 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:07,000 hey, Chad provided you as reference. Can you please tell me about your time together? 20 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:13,000 Can you verify him? And I'm like, yeah, Chad is clean, respectful, super nice. 21 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:20,600 He has really nice blue eyes, the color of the ocean. And she's like, okay. 22 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:25,000 Mindy's like, okay, Chad, thank you so much. You're booked. See you on Monday at 8 p.m. 23 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:36,000 Bam! Simple as that! Simple as that! But yet, when I first started, especially when I first started two years ago now, 24 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:43,000 gosh, it's been a while, but yeah, I had a lot of my regulars message me asking if I can be the reference. 25 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:51,000 And I'm like, okay, sure. And I kind of got intimidated because I thought, well, why would they see another provider if I'm here? 26 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:55,000 And but it's not like that. It's just some clients want a variety. 27 00:02:55,000 --> 00:03:01,000 A lot of clients travel and want to see a local provider. So, yeah, which I totally get. 28 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:09,000 So my rule is if you're a client of mine or if you have seen me like once or twice, well, I guess. OK. 29 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:15,000 So here's the thing. If you have seen me once or twice, you got to give me a heads up. 30 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:20,000 First of all, asking me if it's OK for me to be a reference. 31 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:28,000 And second of all, just cash out me 25 bucks to be a reference, because I don't know about you guys, but I have pretty busy schedule. 32 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:34,000 And I'm not just saying that I really do. I'm trying to promote like my acting stuff. 33 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:38,000 I'm trying to work on the second book and the book series that I have. 34 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:44,000 I'm trying to host a TED talk about human rights and sex worker rights. 35 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:49,000 I'm trying to fucking foster those two kittens that I have right now. 36 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:54,000 And, you know, I have to play with them, shit like that. And I love them. They're great. 37 00:03:54,000 --> 00:04:00,000 And I have to fix my computer and take it to the shop because my battery is dying so fast. 38 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:05,000 But yeah, anyways, point is, I'm super busy. It takes time for me to write a reference. 39 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:13,000 It takes time for me to, you know, go to my journal where I have like names and stuff, small details and put that into email. 40 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:22,000 So there's that. But if you're a regular of mine, which means you see me like, you know, occasionally, regularly, like monthly, weekly basis. 41 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:28,000 When reference is free, like you already give me a lot of money to like be my regular. 42 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:34,000 You come and see me. And yeah, so references for regulars are absolutely free. 43 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:38,000 I drop everything I go type in reference. Bam. It's done. 44 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:49,000 And, you know, a lot of like people, they don't realize that it's a polite and respectful thing to do to text or email the provider first. 45 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:57,000 And yeah, it's just a respectful thing to ask first. That way it's like giving our heads like heads up to us. 46 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:02,000 And I'm like, yes, OK, let me find who it is that's asking me for reference. 47 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:10,000 So I could be like, OK, well, if this client is on the block list or I've never seen this client, I'm just going to say like, hey, I've never seen this client. 48 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:12,000 I don't know who the fuck that is. 49 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:20,000 And yeah, if somehow like a person on my block list contacts me asking for reference, guess fucking what? 50 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:26,000 I'm going to be honest to the other provider and be like, yeah, he is not clean. 51 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:32,000 He is not nice. He was pressuring me into doing Greek or something like that, which I do not do. 52 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:37,000 So, yeah. So and I'm always honest about references. 53 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:41,000 If a client is good, if we had a great time, I'm going to give a good reference. 54 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:50,000 And if the guy was OK or if the client is a slobbyist, sorry, hobbyist, I'm going to say that. 55 00:05:50,000 --> 00:06:08,000 So, yeah. So I hope that clarifies a lot of questions for you guys, because, yeah, I had I had like few people tell a new provider that I was the reference and I did not know about it. 56 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:15,000 I'm like, well, first of all, who is this? I can I see a lot of like, John's and Chad's. 57 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:19,000 So I can't really give reference if I don't know who that is. 58 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:22,000 And they didn't let me know if I could be the reference in the first place. 59 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:25,000 So you do not get a reference. So, yeah. 60 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:29,000 And I really hope that clarifies a lot of questions. So, yeah. 61 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:37,000 So, dear clients, if you want me to be your reference, I'd love to please email or text me asking me if it's OK. 62 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:49,000 If you're a regular, it's free. If you if I've seen you only once or twice, it's going to be twenty five bucks and you can like send it to my cash up or just give it to me in cash. 63 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:52,000 Next time I see you for like a massage or GFE. 64 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:57,000 But yeah, and yeah, I'd love to message the other provider. 65 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:03,000 I love that providers ask for references because it's like an additional screening thing. 66 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:07,000 So it's like, yes, he's not a criminal. He's pretty cool, dude. 67 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:11,000 So, yes, you guys have fun together and have a great day. 68 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:15,000 Yeah. So, yeah. Pretty, pretty simple. 69 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,000 So, yeah, I am Laila Monroe. 70 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:21,000 And thank you again so much for tuning in today. 71 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:27,000 You guys are fantastic. Thank you so much for listening to me ramble. 72 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:33,000 And yeah, I will talk to you next time.