Hello, hello, hello everybody!
Thank you so much for tuning in today.
You are listening to Escort Confessions
and I'm your host, Alexa Max.
So, I have been told by multiple people that I talk way too fast
probably because I have too much coffee or too much Adderall in my system.
So today I'm going to talk very, very slow.
Actually, no, I'm just kidding. I'm gonna talk normal.
But, yeah, so today on today's podcast, ta-ta-ta-ta,
biggest lessons I've learned while being a provider.
So, first things first is do not judge.
Like, you cannot judge someone for having a foot fetish, for example,
while society judges you for being a sex worker.
Like, and basically it's common sense, like, don't judge people.
I mean, I have all kinds of clients every week.
Like, I get one to maybe like four different people every week,
new people every week, and like, you know, whenever I'm not on my period, yeah.
Like, I see every race, everybody shape, all kinds of ages, married, divorced, widowed, single,
like, I literally have no right to judge.
Like, my point, like, my biggest thing is for a client to have a great time.
I want us to connect. I want to give him the best experience possible.
Because not only it's my job, but it boosts my ego.
I'm like, okay, like, I want you to be comfortable.
I want you to have a great time. Let's do this. Let's have sexy time.
So, like, years ago back, gosh, I think it was like middle school, high school,
I used to judge people like all the freaking time, like seniors, random guys, random girls who...
Just random people.
And the only reason I used to judge them is because of my low self-esteem.
I don't have low self-esteem anymore.
And like my own insecurities, and as soon as I became a sex worker,
like, I became more open-minded, like, less judgmental, like...
And man, like, my clients brought my self-esteem to like a whole new level.
I'm like, oh, this feels good. This is what it's like to be confident and have good self-esteem.
Wow, this is actually nice.
So, like, for example, when someone mentions like an orgy party, I would be interested in it.
I'm like, okay, how does this work? Like, can I come?
I mean, like, can I physically come there to that place and like come, come as an orgasm? Ha-ha.
Yeah, and years ago, I would be like horrified, have like horrified facial expressions
and getting like some emotional damage just from hearing about it.
So, yeah, I think it's just part of growing up, like, to be more mature, open-minded,
less judgmental. So, yeah, and you know, I try to see things like from someone else's perspective.
I try to put myself in their shoes and, you know, like, I cannot judge someone when I don't know their life story.
Like, I don't know what that person is going through.
It's not any of my business. But, you know, as long as the client has a good time, that's all that matters for me.
So, I like for my clients to escape their steady, their normal life and have fun.
This is an adventure. Life is an adventure. Have fun.
And that was the first lesson. So, second thing I've learned is never compare myself to other providers.
There are literally thousands, thousands and thousands of different providers all around the world, if not more.
Like, even when I first started in the industry, I looked up to other providers and learned so many things from them,
like including screening, deposits, staying away from dangerous clients.
Every provider is different. Like, you cannot compare a Caucasian GFE provider in her 20s
to an exotic like Dominatrix in her 30s. Both are for different clients.
There are certain types of guys who prefer intimacy, kissing, cuddling and some prefer to be whipped and to be submissive.
Like, I do my own thing. I am in no competition whatsoever with other providers. Not now, not ever.
Like, providers are in the same industry and the least we all could do is support one another.
I mean, we all try to make money during different circumstances.
I know some providers, like I see all the time on Twitter, like some of them are paying their tuition for college to become doctors, scientists,
all these like super, super costly professions and degrees that you have to have.
So, they're saving money for their future, for their college, for their education.
I know some are housewives who, well, they don't make enough money to support their families.
And like husbands can't do all the work, you know, like both have to like work and times are tough, times are tough.
So, like we all need to make money.
And, you know, like this diversity reminds me so, so much of the film industry.
Like a 20-year-old brunette who goes like for sexy types, auditions for sexy types like porn stars, strippers, dancers, well, strippers,
like cannot be considered for the same role as a black woman in her 40s who always auditions for police officers.
Like those are two different types of roles.
And like you would not see, you're not see these two girls in the same casting room.
So, like not to mention, Ray's location and years of experience are totally different.
Like my donation was 500 an hour, like during the first year.
And I saw another provider who had 10 years of being a sex worker and she charged 800.
Even though we both provided GFE services, that girl was like four feet American curvy brunette in Virginia.
Well, I am more of a skinny side, petite, like petite is skinny, so Russian girl who is five foot five and who lives in Georgia.
So, like once again, you can't compare like, but, you know, to each their own.
So, lesson three, social media is fake.
Like, you know, like everybody on social media is always happy.
Like, oh my gosh, we had a new baby.
Look at my cats.
Yeah, do look at my cats, they're adorable.
But like everybody's happy on social media.
Like people do not post their struggles on social media.
They don't post bad days.
They only post happy, happy, happy when in reality it's completely different things.
So, like Twitter, for example, oh, it's full of show and tell.
So, it's all because of the attention and marketing.
So, I see a lot of girls who post pics like with brand clothing purses, like their trips to Europe at some five star resort.
So, very little of that is actually real.
Like most providers go to Google, type in the words for like fancy restaurants in Paris, Prada aesthetic, stuff like that.
Like hundreds of pictures will pop up, like on Shutterstock or Pinterest, for example.
So, then the sex worker would edit the photo, crop it and post it on her social media for attention and for marketing.
Because she might not have booked or had an appointment in months.
And that's her way of like, oh, look at me, like I'm with this gentleman or like my sugar daddy.
When in reality, it's just her not getting booked, you know.
But that's one of the ways like you provide a market for yourself.
Like personally, I am always like so busy doing like hundreds of different projects.
And my point is that I just I just don't have time for like all this Twitter bullshit.
Like if I'm going on a tour, I will post that.
If I have a new cosplay, I would post that just, you know, just to stay active on social media.
But yeah, not to mention like Twitter fucking sucks.
I hate Twitter. I got deactivated like two or three times.
So I have to be careful, but I still use it just so people can find me.
But yeah, like Instagram, I love Instagram.
I have more followers there.
People see that I'm active and whatnot.
So, yeah, y'all, I smoke too much weed that I cannot breathe literally.
So I have to take constant breaks.
OK, so number four. Oh, yeah, I'm 420 friendly, by the way.
So, you know, that that that that the pump pump pump pump.
So listen number four, patience.
I have learned to be extremely patient with people, especially males.
So like I get to deal with a whole bunch of idiots, like probably more idiots than I have been dealing with,
like on all of my nine to five combined.
Like those idiots are mostly like time wasters, so who want to book me, but are too lazy or just too dumb to do so.
Like instead of throwing my phone out the window or something or complaining to my cats or just having those arguments in my head.
I just take a deep breath and block those people like and not talk shit about them on socials.
Like it's super easy to vent out on Twitter rather than wait a few minutes, breathe and let it go.
And, you know, I always think that does venting or feeling angry like help me right now.
Is this so important that I have to stress over it?
What vibe do I give off if I complain all the time?
My favorite, I need to stop frowning or I have to get botox again.
So, you know, stuff like that.
You know, who else is a lot of patience?
Villains.
And, you know, my talent agents know I want to play one on the big screen or network show.
So, you know, I have to learn patience and let my anger out in healthy ways, like running or dancing it off or fucking.
So, yeah.