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Hello, hello, hello everybody!

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Thank you so much for tuning in today.

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You are listening to Escort Confessions

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and I'm your host, Alexa Max.

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So, I have been told by multiple people that I talk way too fast

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probably because I have too much coffee or too much Adderall in my system.

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So today I'm going to talk very, very slow.

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Actually, no, I'm just kidding. I'm gonna talk normal.

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But, yeah, so today on today's podcast, ta-ta-ta-ta,

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biggest lessons I've learned while being a provider.

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So, first things first is do not judge.

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Like, you cannot judge someone for having a foot fetish, for example,

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while society judges you for being a sex worker.

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Like, and basically it's common sense, like, don't judge people.

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I mean, I have all kinds of clients every week.

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Like, I get one to maybe like four different people every week,

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new people every week, and like, you know, whenever I'm not on my period, yeah.

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Like, I see every race, everybody shape, all kinds of ages, married, divorced, widowed, single,

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like, I literally have no right to judge.

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Like, my point, like, my biggest thing is for a client to have a great time.

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I want us to connect. I want to give him the best experience possible.

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Because not only it's my job, but it boosts my ego.

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I'm like, okay, like, I want you to be comfortable.

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I want you to have a great time. Let's do this. Let's have sexy time.

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So, like, years ago back, gosh, I think it was like middle school, high school,

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I used to judge people like all the freaking time, like seniors, random guys, random girls who...

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Just random people.

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And the only reason I used to judge them is because of my low self-esteem.

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I don't have low self-esteem anymore.

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And like my own insecurities, and as soon as I became a sex worker,

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like, I became more open-minded, like, less judgmental, like...

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And man, like, my clients brought my self-esteem to like a whole new level.

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I'm like, oh, this feels good. This is what it's like to be confident and have good self-esteem.

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Wow, this is actually nice.

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So, like, for example, when someone mentions like an orgy party, I would be interested in it.

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I'm like, okay, how does this work? Like, can I come?

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I mean, like, can I physically come there to that place and like come, come as an orgasm? Ha-ha.

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Yeah, and years ago, I would be like horrified, have like horrified facial expressions

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and getting like some emotional damage just from hearing about it.

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So, yeah, I think it's just part of growing up, like, to be more mature, open-minded,

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less judgmental. So, yeah, and you know, I try to see things like from someone else's perspective.

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I try to put myself in their shoes and, you know, like, I cannot judge someone when I don't know their life story.

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Like, I don't know what that person is going through.

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It's not any of my business. But, you know, as long as the client has a good time, that's all that matters for me.

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So, I like for my clients to escape their steady, their normal life and have fun.

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This is an adventure. Life is an adventure. Have fun.

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And that was the first lesson. So, second thing I've learned is never compare myself to other providers.

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There are literally thousands, thousands and thousands of different providers all around the world, if not more.

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Like, even when I first started in the industry, I looked up to other providers and learned so many things from them,

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like including screening, deposits, staying away from dangerous clients.

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Every provider is different. Like, you cannot compare a Caucasian GFE provider in her 20s

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to an exotic like Dominatrix in her 30s. Both are for different clients.

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There are certain types of guys who prefer intimacy, kissing, cuddling and some prefer to be whipped and to be submissive.

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Like, I do my own thing. I am in no competition whatsoever with other providers. Not now, not ever.

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Like, providers are in the same industry and the least we all could do is support one another.

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I mean, we all try to make money during different circumstances.

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I know some providers, like I see all the time on Twitter, like some of them are paying their tuition for college to become doctors, scientists,

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all these like super, super costly professions and degrees that you have to have.

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So, they're saving money for their future, for their college, for their education.

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I know some are housewives who, well, they don't make enough money to support their families.

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And like husbands can't do all the work, you know, like both have to like work and times are tough, times are tough.

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So, like we all need to make money.

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And, you know, like this diversity reminds me so, so much of the film industry.

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Like a 20-year-old brunette who goes like for sexy types, auditions for sexy types like porn stars, strippers, dancers, well, strippers,

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like cannot be considered for the same role as a black woman in her 40s who always auditions for police officers.

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Like those are two different types of roles.

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And like you would not see, you're not see these two girls in the same casting room.

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So, like not to mention, Ray's location and years of experience are totally different.

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Like my donation was 500 an hour, like during the first year.

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And I saw another provider who had 10 years of being a sex worker and she charged 800.

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Even though we both provided GFE services, that girl was like four feet American curvy brunette in Virginia.

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Well, I am more of a skinny side, petite, like petite is skinny, so Russian girl who is five foot five and who lives in Georgia.

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So, like once again, you can't compare like, but, you know, to each their own.

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So, lesson three, social media is fake.

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Like, you know, like everybody on social media is always happy.

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Like, oh my gosh, we had a new baby.

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Look at my cats.

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Yeah, do look at my cats, they're adorable.

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But like everybody's happy on social media.

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Like people do not post their struggles on social media.

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They don't post bad days.

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They only post happy, happy, happy when in reality it's completely different things.

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So, like Twitter, for example, oh, it's full of show and tell.

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So, it's all because of the attention and marketing.

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So, I see a lot of girls who post pics like with brand clothing purses, like their trips to Europe at some five star resort.

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So, very little of that is actually real.

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Like most providers go to Google, type in the words for like fancy restaurants in Paris, Prada aesthetic, stuff like that.

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Like hundreds of pictures will pop up, like on Shutterstock or Pinterest, for example.

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So, then the sex worker would edit the photo, crop it and post it on her social media for attention and for marketing.

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Because she might not have booked or had an appointment in months.

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And that's her way of like, oh, look at me, like I'm with this gentleman or like my sugar daddy.

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When in reality, it's just her not getting booked, you know.

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But that's one of the ways like you provide a market for yourself.

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Like personally, I am always like so busy doing like hundreds of different projects.

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And my point is that I just I just don't have time for like all this Twitter bullshit.

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Like if I'm going on a tour, I will post that.

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If I have a new cosplay, I would post that just, you know, just to stay active on social media.

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But yeah, not to mention like Twitter fucking sucks.

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I hate Twitter. I got deactivated like two or three times.

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So I have to be careful, but I still use it just so people can find me.

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But yeah, like Instagram, I love Instagram.

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I have more followers there.

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People see that I'm active and whatnot.

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So, yeah, y'all, I smoke too much weed that I cannot breathe literally.

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So I have to take constant breaks.

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OK, so number four. Oh, yeah, I'm 420 friendly, by the way.

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So, you know, that that that that the pump pump pump pump.

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So listen number four, patience.

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I have learned to be extremely patient with people, especially males.

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So like I get to deal with a whole bunch of idiots, like probably more idiots than I have been dealing with,

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like on all of my nine to five combined.

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Like those idiots are mostly like time wasters, so who want to book me, but are too lazy or just too dumb to do so.

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Like instead of throwing my phone out the window or something or complaining to my cats or just having those arguments in my head.

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I just take a deep breath and block those people like and not talk shit about them on socials.

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Like it's super easy to vent out on Twitter rather than wait a few minutes, breathe and let it go.

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And, you know, I always think that does venting or feeling angry like help me right now.

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Is this so important that I have to stress over it?

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What vibe do I give off if I complain all the time?

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My favorite, I need to stop frowning or I have to get botox again.

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So, you know, stuff like that.

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You know, who else is a lot of patience?

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Villains.

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And, you know, my talent agents know I want to play one on the big screen or network show.

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So, you know, I have to learn patience and let my anger out in healthy ways, like running or dancing it off or fucking.

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So, yeah.