Good morning. Thank you so much for tuning in today. You're listening to Escort confessions
I'm your host Alexa Max here with mr. Lane
Hello morning. Good morning
Today we're gonna talk about what it's like what to expect if you're a provider
hosting or you know doing sex work for the first time
You're laughing because it's a fun topic and it's all about having a good time and partying and nothing bad ever happens ever right
That's why we're laughing
No, it's okay to be light about a situation even though it can be
daunting and it can be scary at first to pull the trigger and decide that it's what you're going to do
What was your first time like?
My first time as provider was um, it was nervous. I was I was nervous. I wasn't scared as like
Scared about the clients. I was more scared about what if I fart in the middle of the session or what if I say something wrong and
You know, I was scared but then I saw my first
client
And he was nice. There was no, you know, nothing bad and I
Had sex and then I was like, oh, okay. So this is it. Okay, so um, yeah
And after that it was a very good first day
So I all that stress mentally and it was at the hotel and in the good area of Charleston and
Yeah, I I know what I could have done better but I'm glad
Did you see him again, um, I did I think twice after that but
Um
No
Okay, I
Am trying to remember my first time. I don't remember if it was with
Somebody at a massage parlor. It might have been or it may have been
Someone else. I don't remember exactly
Yeah, I think it was it was in North Carolina and it was a massage parlor and I
Just needed to get the massage and then in the middle of it
They asked if we wanted to you know, the happy ending quote and I said sure and
It was it was something I had not thought about and I was like, yeah
It ended up being good experience and that's when I realized I thought you can actually really do this
I mean people always talking about it
But no one you know, there's no way of saying here show me the ropes. This is how you get into it
And so what you do the first time I ever cam though
My first camming experience was very nervous and I ended up finding a couple a husband and wife who
You need a third person to
to party with them and it was fun and I talked him through a lot of dirty talk and
It was just a lot of fun. It was very empowering
It was just a lot of fun. It was very empowering. Oh
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All right. So what would you what would you recommend to somebody who wants to do this for the first time?
So as a provider first time provider, I would suggest
so first of all, you have to decide whether on
location in call at the hotel in call in your own home or to do out call to a
client's hotel or
hotels
so I
Don't know. That's just my perspective. I would do and then call at
At the hotel for the first time or your own place and
Second of all screening is a must because you have to be safe
you have to know that this person is not a criminal or
child molester, I don't know
and
I would just do like I would ask them for screening selfie with ID or ID or the back of the
Credit or debit card so we could clearly see the client's name and
Let's see. What else social media link?
So we would know this person is active on social media if they say who they say they are and
I would ask for two references from a very recent providers that they saw recently if they have seen providers
Before you and
You know, and I would ask them of course for phone number or email from those providers
Let's see. The next step is deposit. So they would send a certain percent of
Money to your Venmo cash app Zelle. I don't know wherever
whatever apps you use and
Yeah, and once they mark down their spot just tell them
the address and
Yeah, and then
Go from there. Oh and and
Clients mails who are interested in booking a provider, please bring something
For the very first time. It's very rude to not bring anything
and
Yeah, because I have people
Book me for New Year's they didn't bring shit
Then I had a person who and actually an ex-client of mine now just because of that
Book me on Thanksgiving
without asking if I had any plans, but um
no tip
no, you know small gifts for Thanksgiving and
Yeah, so please bring something. I mean, it's it's polite thing to do. It's respect thing to do but
Yeah
Like a small gift like a bottle like a bottle of alcohol or whatever your preferences are like jewelry or something
gift card jewelry like it can be cheap jewelry just I mean, well
Yeah, just
Candle inexpensive jewelry. Yeah, not like
Not like a Chanel bag, but uh
Yeah, just small gifts it counts like like we will remember you like I remember all those guys who brought me either
flowers or um
Let's see earrings and you know, I I remember everybody and I'm thankful for those people who always bring something
That seems like it would be a very
Polite
Gesture at least I mean, it's almost
It's courtship. It really is courtship. Uh, even though it's transactional courtship
And that's something that you know an old man
And that's something that you know, an old-fashioned person would be like, oh, i'm courting this and that's why they're called courtesans
i'm courting you and
I want to uh, you know
Be on your good side at least or bring a positive experience to the situation
If you ever mentored anybody do you have anybody that you know that you would like
Or anybody you've worked with in the past who's not done it before?
Who who I mentored?
Yeah, have you ever mentored anybody or do you have a you have a mentor? Um, no neither. I um,
I usually learn everything from
twitter accounts
Honestly, and uh, I I actually did buy a book. Um, let me get a real quick
So it's uh, it's by amanda brooks. She was a provider
back in the day and now she's a writer and it's called the internet escorts handbook and uh,
It's about advertising marketing and what it's like to be an escort and it's really helpful
So this is like my my escort bible in a way. Um
Yeah, but as for mentoring I would like
to mentor someone um because I I like to help people out and uh
Um, yeah, but not not yet. I haven't mentored anybody yet
Okay. Well if anyone's looking for somebody that can
Mentor you and you want to break into it then uh, alexa's, uh
Socials are attached to this this podcast
Um
I'm friendly
I swear
She's very friendly. She she and I are our friends
In real life too outside of podcast world and I can attest that she's very friendly. She's a nice person
Unless you cross her
Unless you cross her what what gave you the courage to say hey
This is something I can do because I know people fantasize about certain things and they may
Not have the courage to pull the trigger on their fantasies, which is something that we should talk about in a different episode
But what gave you the courage and confidence to do this?
Noah's broke and homeless basically. So
Yeah, I know it's probably stereotypical but I just
I did not want to work a regular job anymore and
I decided to take a chance in this but at the same time my friend helped me
He's like, hey, have you thought about doing this and he kind of became my pimp at the moment, but not anymore. Um
Yeah, but no basically I needed money. So
It was kind of a
One of the resorts one of the ways to make really fast money and uh
Yeah, and like why not getting paid for orgasm? So
Yeah
Yeah, we talked about that particular thing before like, you know, if you're gonna have one you might as well be compensated for it
but so yeah, so a survival aspect which is
One of the reasons a lot of people get into sex work
um
that's just
There's like a whole discussion about
Civilians getting into it, you know, which is the common term for somebody who doesn't normally do this civilians versus uh, you know
pros
Okay, I might move you in a second cat trying to eat my microphone wire. Oh, no
This is gonna be a fun podcast you're gonna listen to this what is going on with this
bar professionals
They're amateurs
They're probably not even good sex work people
Not true we're amazing at that at the segs work
right
Okay
That's the podcast ever
All right. What? Um
Okay. So yeah, this is necessity. I understand that part of it. Um
What do you think
You would be doing
Do you think you'll be doing this in in five years or even 10 years?
Oh
Gosh, it's hard to tell I feel like I would do it in five years
Um 10 probably not I just I don't know. It's so emotionally draining sometimes and
but at the same time it pays for my bucket list, so I don't know I might I might have like a
A six month break maybe from this
um
And do other stuff focus on acting more and other things but um
Probably yes, I would say five years. Yes. Oh, thank you. I try
um
With my english, um, so five years. Yes, please book me in the next five years
Five years. Yeah fill up her five-year calendar and then she can retire. Yes
Retire in peace
Without yeah, and I would probably still talk to my regulars just like check up on them. So yeah
Yeah, I even even as a somebody I have not
Worked with a provider in a long time. I just I think I'm in a situation now where it's just not a priority. Um
I'm not single and
the woman I'm with
We you know, we we were very busy anyway, and so we have a lot of things that we fulfilled with each other
And so there really is not a need
For provider services, but I also know too if I had the situation where I could
And I can you know, we're open. Um, I just
I just don't know if it's something that you know is on my radar right now. Um
Maybe I mean they would never say no to it
But you know, sometimes people just go through phases in life and maybe this is one of them at least
Um, and it's not it's not a current priority
Yes
Mm-hmm
So if you are a young person or even anybody at any age doesn't have to be a young person
I don't want to um generalize with age
Where would be a good resource to start if you wanted to find out more information about how to do this?
It's first timer I would go to
twitter very soon twitter
and
follow
Uh, let's see
Trist
Or are there good ones? Um trust and then if you put like hashtag date
Carolinas or hashtag date like any any other state like ohio
Uh, you would see that in suggestive fields. There would be sex workers and I would feel like
Sex workers and I would follow sex workers
and then google of course
Google is a good source like how to become a sex worker and there should be all kinds of sites
Especially reddit because reddit has everything. Um
Yeah, just do research listen to podcasts on youtube
or listen to this podcast, um
Yeah, go to youtube and uh, just
Yeah, there's there's a lot of podcasts out there about sex work. So
research research research
Do you have a favorite podcast?
other than this one
I
um
No
I don't listen to enough podcasts
Otherwise, I would say
Do you have actually have some recommendations for that that i've been listening to? Yes
Uh, I have one in particular and i'm gonna give a shout out to let me go into my spotify and find it
Shout out to spotify apparently
Um, let's see what i've been listening to lately that's in this in this realm of uh sex work
I gotta do i've been listening to a lot of things. I gotta find it first. Um, but not there's any kind of lull in our discussion
but it is a
um
Good podcast about let's see what we do savannah hart a sex workers guide to the galaxy
Which is in which is inspired by the hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy
Uh, so savannah hart is is a sex worker, um provider
She has been doing this podcast for a long time and she you can find her website is savannah
Hart.com and she has an only fans and she has a twitter her twitter is yours savannah
XO
And the same for instagram and same for her link tree
Anyway, so she uh, it's got a lot of a lot of stuff on here actually. Um, but that's her
Her podcast and i've enjoyed been enjoying it
Um, she really starts off with beginning how like how to like how she got into it kind of like what we were just talking about
Yeah, and she keeps going uh with it as well
and um
Yeah, i listened to a lot of bdsm, uh podcasts and a lot of podcasts about uh porn
Um, uh, a isa kira does one for the pornhub podcast and she has got so much good stuff on hers
Uh, if you're interested in that and i've been listening to uh, another one that's um
Where is it? Uh, the priory society which is about swingers, but that's not really what we're talking about
We're talking about workers not not not enthusiasts
Hey, i'm enthusiastic about working with you
Enthusiastic hey i'm enthusiastic about my work
I'm enthusiastic about orgasms, too
but
Focus here. Yes
We need to be coming and not just going
There we go. Yeah
Yeah
Yeah, I like I like to be enthusiastic about my clients orgasms more because it's kind of a goal for me to make them
Yeah
Right, you know, right but remember we said it's not always this not always the destination. Sometimes it's sometimes it's just a journey as we go along
Yeah, I mean, yeah, you definitely want a happy client, you know so that they they can enjoy themselves and then they will come back
Uh, you want that release?
Yes
Yes, indeed
Yeah, so that's uh, that's
That's what we're talking about today. Um
Is there anything particular going on in uh,
In the client services world that you like what else like talk about? Oh, i'm getting the next step
Um, let's see
Oh, I had I had my first fly me to you um
To denver and it was like mid
February yeah, and uh, yeah, I know it was my first time and it was his first time to flying somebody into him
And um, yeah, he paid for everything. He like brought me like soaps and like handmade soaps or
From lulus and it's like really good store and the soap smells super good
And they're really soft and um, and then he brought me like, uh vape fans and uh, yeah, like he's just um,
Amazing guy. Denver is a great place. I have a lot of friends who uh are from
Uh that part of colorado a lot. I'll actually a lot of dancers. I know are from there
Um that I talked to in a network with and stuff
And I guess it's because of the maybe because of the legal weed and some of the more relaxed, you know norms towards uh, deviant behavior
but um
Denver's always been a even back to like the beat poet times, you know jack carowak
Had a section about denver, you know from on the road
um
And so it's always just been you know a great place like one of my favorite singers is from uh, there's from colorado
yellow biafra of the dead kennedys is from colorado and so i've said i've i've a love
Affair with it from afar. I've never been but i'm going to at some point
I'll have a sonny to go to so I can appreciate them up close and personal
Yeah
Just definitely go. I like I like denver. I like the that there's always something going on and um
Um
Yeah, there's a lot I got a lot of
Inquiries, but at the same time there were a lot of time wasters in there and it's like
Thank god. Thank god. I have mr
L
Just call him. Mr. L. So yeah
But I really enjoyed my time there. I like the mountains and um
Yeah, so that was that and of course all my regulars always contact me right after I I get back which is great
uh, because i'm uh, I like to be busy and um
then uh
Yesterday was a really good day because I had I went to see lorenzo of arabia never seen it heard of it a lot
and then like after first hour
I did not long that I did not know it was going to be like four hours almost and uh, then
I was uh an hour into the movie and then one of my regulars he contacts me
And he's like hey you like buy any chance available today. I'm like i'm on my way
There's no way i'm gonna finish it on time because I had an appointment
With another regular after that and i'm like, yeah, like i'll just watch it on youtube or amazon or yeah, so
Yesterday was a good day
Yeah, it's a classic and it takes forever because it's a huge story
but um, yeah, it's definitely one of those things you need to watch but devote an entire day to because
It's emotionally draining, but it's also beautifully shot. It's you know
Peter atul probably one of the best actors of his generation
And he was one of those guys that really came out with like alex guinness and laurence livier and
Just you know, so many of those great actors from that era
Um, but yeah, definitely and i'm glad you got i'm glad you're staying busy. What's up? So
We talked about time wasters versus actual clients
Is there like a you think a percentage or like a ratio of?
How much time you spend trying to sift through time wasters versus people who actually will commit to a um
A background check or at least uh, you know
Being vetted and make a deposit
I would say
depends on the area because um
Let's see. I would say
time wasters
70 in savannah i get and 30 the ones that actually book and then
The time I spend is very short because I have automatic message that says
Hi gorgeous. Uh, this is an automatic message when you want to book with me. I just need those things and then
You know, I have automatic message and it's like instantly like cuts them out. So yeah, if there are time wasters
and usually time wasters they're like
Send your message or email says hi
Hi. Hello
Are you available? Are you available now and then question marks? Oh my god
Guys come on research
Right. Yeah, if you found me if you've gotten this far to finding my email
You should be able to see everything that came before that about how to book with me
Yeah, and they're probably also trying to book with like three other providers at the same time because
I kind of remember being in the height of of me doing this that I you know, I had I had three or four providers
that I was sort of rotate with
and
I didn't know it wasn't always like that. I mean usually it was it was one person and I would be hey, you know
Are you available today?
During any any at all time during the day because you know
In the morning and usually by like 2 30 you've got a you know an appointment
Yeah, fine because you know, everyone's got a day they have stuff going on
You know, that's okay
I was never like hey, what's up, you know?
Oh, I also get the one side. Hey, my name is
Jerry I
Am saying in Bluffton or somewhere where it's not even your area. I would like to meet you in my hotel
That's it
No screening nothing
I'm like, yeah not gonna work. Jerry Jerry the cop Jerry the cop
You wouldn't do bluff and bluff is not out of your out of your area
It's like 30 minutes away, but like the email I got this morning. It was just screen time waste
I'm like, I'm not gonna go to Bluffton with no screening provided
And he literally some website and he contacted me through
not website, but tryst, but
You know like come on, dude. Come on outside the proper channels. Yeah
Yeah, it's like right there
But do you have any
Other questions I don't I have all my questions for today for pertaining to this episode
I've got thousands of questions. We could talk about for other episodes. That's another day
Yes
Yeah, I just messaged you one of them. We should do another I was just telling be a messenger
We should do a numbers episode where we analyze all this kind of data about you know
Time spent and time management of money and everything but no, that's it. That's it from my point of view
My questions for you today is always it's a joy and a privilege to interview you
the beautiful Alexa max
The charming sophisticated professional Alexa max
Thank you, I try and thank you so much for doing this podcast with me as always
Because it's nice to talk with people on the other end because I did a few podcasts where I'm just like
Okay, here's what's going on and yeah
Definitely always anytime
All right. Well, you guys have a great rest of your day and we will talk to you the next podcast