And welcome to our Escort Confessions podcast.
I am your host Alex Maxx with my co-host Mr. Lane.
December 17th is International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers.
It calls attention to hate crimes against sex workers and to end the stigma against them as well.
And I got that from the Sex Workers Outreach Project, which is a nonprofit group that offers information
and they have a hotline that's open 24-7 for a kind ear to listen to or for other resources.
And their number is 877-776-2004. That's the Sex Workers Outreach Project.
So happy International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers, Alexa.
Yay! Yes, don't harass the sex workers, please. We are people too.
Ta-da!
Today we're going to talk about health and safety.
Fun, fun subject.
As a sex worker, it's my job to make sure that I am clean and that my clients are clean as well,
that I provide a safe sex environment at my work.
And here's the thing, I think America has the worst education system,
which is why a lot of people don't know how to have safe sex and they don't know the risks of,
you know, having unprotected sex. That's what I want to talk about today.
Okay.
So I grew up here in America and I agree with you to a large extent.
I remember in college, I got very specific sex education when it came to talking about AIDS,
STDs, STIs, and just how to have safe sex.
And that was something that if I didn't look for that, I would not have learned.
Because I had to seek that out for a special peer mentoring program that I was in in college.
Yeah, like I remember back in middle school,
I was taught that, well, along with like other people, I was taught the class,
but it was only about reproductive system.
It wasn't about sex at all. But then again, it was middle school.
And even in high school, we did not have that class.
In college, I didn't have that class, even though it's college, people have sex all the time there.
I did some research, we did some research and I guess I should start with my own kind of backstory.
So I had at my work, a lot of clients who expected me, pretty much expected me to do like
uncovered blow jobs. And yeah, and some even, oh my God, I had one, he was
in the middle of it and he was like about to stick it in and I'm like, so what size do you wear?
And he's like, oh, I thought we were going to do bare. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, you're not my boyfriend. It was even not pretty or anything, but it's like, come on guys.
But so we all, so we both did research and I want to talk about oral, vaginal, and then anal sex.
And I think, I think we could fill it in 30 minutes. So I don't normally last 30 minutes
when I'm doing that. Just kidding. It's okay to joke about things sometimes. Sure you do.
So oral sex, I would suggest if you guys have regular sex, please get tested. There are some
home kits that you can order off Amazon or any other online store and test it out at home,
send it to a lab and then a few days you'll get hopefully negative results. And that's,
that's the alternative to having to go see your doctor or a clinician that can do testing in
house. Now, are they full spectrum tests? Like do they cover, you know, viral STIs like herpes
or what are those tests covered? You know, I do believe they cover everything like STDs,
gonorrhea, yeah, herpes, like, yeah, basically everything. Pretty sure. Cause I just, I ordered
one recently, but it was for male. So yeah. And like I had to pee, I had to pinch, pinch my finger,
get blood and whatnot. Okay, good. Yeah. Yeah. That's comprehensive. Yeah. Cause you know,
there's a, there's an industry standard test that you can take. If you can find a doctor that will
issue it. So industry standard, IE, if you're going to become a performer, or if you're going
to go to a place where brothels are legal and you're going to become a professional
partisan, you can have an industry standard test that you can take. That's with a doctor's office
though. Okay. So oral sex, yes, you can definitely, especially if there are open sores like canker
sores or any kind of like chapped, you know, or split the lips or any kind of like gum bleeding,
gum disease, any, any basically anywhere that there's any kind of blood or bodily fluid
transmission. Correct. Correct. Yes. Do not kiss that person. Do not go down on them. Tell them to
not go down on you. And, and there's, how do you know if you have herpes or how, how do you know
if you have oral herpes? Basically you'll get redness, swelling, pain, and itching in the area
where the infection is, there's going to be painful blisters on the lips or under the nose.
And they are highly contagious. Please do not go see a provider and providers get antibiotics,
any kind of, unfortunately it's not curable, but you can get treated for it. Yeah. You can actually
get the suppressant that will keep your flare ups from occurring so that you will be in a state of
inactivity with that condition. Also, just to let you know, we are not healthcare providers.
We are not medical doctors. You should seek medical attention if you have any of these symptoms.
This is for entertainment and infotainment purposes only. So disclaimer that we're not
doctors. Yes. Well, thank you for that disclaimer. Yes. It's, it's better to seek help than ever.
Right. Is that how it goes? Yeah. That also, the disclaimer was also better late than ever too. So
maybe have that at the beginning of any kind of thing. Yeah.
Yeah. And it's also, it's possible for, if you guys kiss, it's possible to transmit
CMEV sorry, CMV herpes encephalus. And those are not fun. So please, if you notice the other person
having source, just tell them no and tell them to get help because it's very selfish. If you know,
you have any kind of sore, whether it's vaginal, anal or oral, or any part of your body, it's very
selfish of you to not tell another person that you have it. And then they will get, they will get it.
And then they will pass it on to somebody else. So in conclusion for all one, you basically can get STD
and 80% of the people carry herpes simplex virus. Right. Which is exhibits in the, in a form of a
in a form of a canker sore or a colesor. So there are varying types of herpes simplex viruses,
but that's the most common one that 80% of people have. Yeah. So please, if you're a provider,
do an covered blow job, get, get fun condoms. Oh, I'm sorry. Go ahead. That's okay. I was going to
say if you're a consumer also become tested and use condoms. Yes. And, um, yeah, there's no,
you're no, your status too. Yes. And, um, yeah, there's like all kinds of fun condoms. Like I like
to, if I'm going to go down on a guy, I like to use KY and they taste minty. So it's fun.
Cause instead of like having that rubber taste in my mouth, I have minty, minty breath. So it's,
there's that. Do you provide kissing as a service? Yes. Yes. GFE. Because I think it's very intimate.
I love kissing. I don't understand people who don't kiss. That's just weird. Like you're,
you're having sex and you're like staring at each other, but no kissing is just, it's super awkward.
I will never get it, but to each their own. I think it's probably for the same reason we just
discussed. I mean, you know, people don't want to get, not only sexual diseases too, but you can also
get mono. You can get a cold. You get something somebody may not be presenting symptoms for. So
it's really up to, I guess, to the provider's discretion. Oh, that's true. Yeah. If they have,
yeah. You're right. Yes. So, um, next one, I had a couple of guys who liked to eat the butt or as
called remain and remain fun. Well, I don't know if it's fun fact, but there's a fact that remain
can transmit bacteria like equally and she Gala hepatitis a and various kinds of intestinal
parasites. Yes. Rose. Yeah. And if any kind of fecal matter is going to have those intestinal,
um, uh, flora, which is another way of describing the things that are in your gut.
So if you have intestinal parasites, if you have equal I, which is one of the bacteria that is in
your intestines, it helps you digest food. Um, and it's all they call isolated. It's an isolated,
um, organism. So it stays, it's supposed to stay in your gut, in your colon, in your, in your, um,
anus. And if it gets anywhere that's not in those areas, it can become a huge problem. Um, it can
even be a type of flesh eating bacteria. Yeah. So one of the best things that you can prevent, um,
other than, you know, using dental dams and like, uh, different kinds of lube that have, um,
anti viral properties to it too. Um, but you know, it also is that just a lot of these kinds of, um,
viruses and microorganisms, uh, can exist in oxygen rich, rich environments. So once they're
exposed to oxygen, like the time it takes for them to, to, to live is very short period of time. Um,
but you know, always use protection as your best, your best bet is protection. Um, it's not a hundred
percent effective, but it is more effective than not using it. A lot of, uh, like providers on
Twitter told, tell each other stories like through feed and whatnot. And a lot of them had similar
issues. Me, when I had somebody go from my butt to my vagina and then they, they went to kiss me
and I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, please go wash your mouth. Like I have toothbrush, toothpaste,
please wash it off. That is not safe. I do not want that bacteria in my mouth anywhere. Like
you eat my butt, go wash your mouth. Exactly. And you know, it's funny. I shouldn't say funny.
Funny is a terrible way of describing this. It is, um, it, I would say it's problematic. Um,
first of all, let me state this by saying that I support pornography. I am, I am a hundred percent
believe in the freedom of expression. Uh, and I don't believe pornography is damaging the way a
lot of people say it is, but I will point out recently that Billy Eilish, uh, has come out as
saying that when she was young, she found a lot of pornography to be harmful, which, you know,
you should always keep minors away from anything explicit like that because their brains are not
formally formed yet. Um, lots of reasons too, but unfortunately people who are learning about sex
through pornography, um, you know, every, everyone loves ATM scenes because it's dirty and it's taboo
and it's like, you know, one of the things that, and it can be done correctly, can feel good,
and it can be a positive degradation. But in real life though, if you're going to go ATM,
which is asthma, you know, you need to prep first and they don't understand. People don't generally
understand that performers prep for ATM scenes. They wash, they, they, uh, douche, they make sure
that their anal cavities are very clean, as clean as possible. And they keep the environment very
clean too, just for those exact reasons. So if you're a civilian and you're in your personal life
and you want to try it and you just stick it in and pull it out and have somebody look it off.
Yeah, that's going to be fun. Extremely dangerous too. Um, just for those reasons, not to say that,
you know, we're the authority in any of this, but, but, oh God, that's a terrible fun, but we try to
be informed and try to get our perspectives across for entertainment purposes. I love statistics
and they're like looking at the statistics online and apparently the most spread out STD is Comedia.
Then comes Canary, HIV and syphilis. And when I looked into states, I'm like, that kind of makes
sense. So nothing against the states, but like the first state, uh, with the highest STD rate in
America is Alaska. I lived in Alaska. I could see why there's seven guys per one woman. So yeah.
Wow. Yeah. Like there's so many guys and we don't, they, okay. Alaska does not have a lot of pretty
women. Yeah. I mean, I've seen very few that are like super pretty. I actually know one and she's
a, an actor in Atlanta and she's like gorgeous. I'm like, girl, good thing you got out of there.
Like you're, you're gorgeous. Like you anyways, anyways. Yeah. So yeah, I know some performers
who live in Alaska that I follow and they, you know, they are very pretty too, but they're,
it's a very different kind of, it's not a glamour, like an LA glamour or Florida glamour. It's a very
different kind of glamour. Yeah. There's a lot of like, oh my God, they're not Eskimos, but they have,
they're exotic. They have that beautiful like all the skin, but yeah. Yeah. Well, yeah. Uh, they're,
they're indigenous first person, um, heritage. Yeah. Yeah. I might even say what that is because
I will get it wrong and that's disrespectful. So I'm not going to disrespect them by saying it,
but it isn't getting it wrong. But it's definitely not Eskimo though. We know, we know that for sure.
Um, boy, it's just so many minefields here about, um, making sure they're respectful of different
people and stuff. Oh, I know. So confession times is what our escort confessions are. I will confess
that once, uh, many years ago, I actually had a raging infection in my eye. It was a pink eye.
And I thought, man, this pink eye is terrible. So let me go get your pink eye treatments for it.
And, um, you know, I had it in my right eye and then it quickly spread to my left eye and I kept
treating it for pink eye, which you normally do. And it was not getting better. So I dragged my
happy ass to the doctor and I said, you know, what's going on with this situation? It's not
getting any better. And then the doctor said, Oh, well you have chlamydia in your eye. And I was
like, what? And I was, I mean, I was sexually active and I was using protection, but honestly,
they said, yeah, this is a freak incident. You may have touched something that had that on there
and that you may have touched your eyes. Cause I mean, it would have been, or at the time it
would have been a very rare occurrence for Amy to get anything, uh, any kind of sexual fluid in my
eye. Cause I wasn't doing anything like that. Um, but yeah, I just touched something and touched my
eye and it was that easy. Yeah. That was the old confession time. Everyone knows that I had that
situation once and in the stigma. Yeah, no, it can happen. That's my personal experience with having
chlamydia in my eyes. You could see how awful that would be back when I didn't know better.
Uh, when I was younger and all of that, I gave a blow job to a guy without, you know, without a
condom, like, yeah. And then a few days after I had this zit on my lips and I'm like, what is this?
This does not look like a zit, but then I went to the doctor and she's like, Oh, you're fine. It's
just as it like, you've been stopped scratching your lips. Stop like, stop picking at your lips.
Cause I pick my lips a lot like dead skin and whatnot. And it turned out to be a said, but
basically, yes, please be safe. You'd rather be safe than sorry. And this protection for you,
for your partner. And that way you'll stop the spread of infection to everybody else.
Right. It's like an STI sexually transmitted infection and then a sexually transmitted disease,
which means, which is a chronic situation where you have the disease and you have to receive
treatments for it. Whereas an infection you can have and then have it cleared up. Yes. So there,
there are very, very different things. An infection can go away and not be permanent.
A disease can go away and can be cured, but it's usually chronic. And then sometimes it's
not curable in the traditional sense. Oh yes. Uh, vaginal basically. Yeah. Use
protection every time because you can get gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes. So what are other things? HIV,
AIDS. Yeah. And you know, just beyond, yeah, just beyond having an STI or an STD is also just
just knowing how to practice safe sex. And I mean, my dad is, you know, if you have a lot of sex,
then there's lots of things that could happen to you. Like you can have, you know, tears in your,
your vaginal, um, lining. You can have, um, you can have sores and tears and bruises on your penis.
You know, really any organ that you're going to be using a lot of that you use out of or force
can cause problems. You can, you know, the women can develop cysts from having too much intercourse,
or, you know, you can tear the lining of your anal cavity just from using unprepared anal sex,
meaning, you know, your partner's is bigger than you're used to or ready for,
where you're not enough lube. Cause obviously you're not going to have the natural lube
that you have from, you know, your vulva and your vagina and your butt. You have to definitely use
some synthetic lube. Yeah, definitely. I, uh, I have a lot of, um, so sometimes if I get like big
guys, I get tears in the lining of my vagina and I have to take off like two or three days just to
heal her back together basically, because yeah, it hurts. It really hurts. I'm just like, okay,
stop. Let's go schedule. So yeah, and you should be seeing a regular doctor or gynecologist for,
you know, any kind of just regular maintenance and, and, um, observing how you're working this stuff,
especially in men too, men can have the same problem, especially if men engage in anal sex,
you know, they, and the reason I think something that doesn't get as talked about as much now as
it used to back in the nineties, when I was coming up, um, as why HIV transmission rates were so much
higher between homosexual men and men engaging in anal sex, because, you know, obviously there's,
it's not, there's not as much lube there. And if you're not using a condom that's lubricated
and you're being tears in your penis and in your anal lining, that will cause blood transmission.
And when you transmit bodily fluids and blood fluids through a situation like the anal cavity,
then that's when the HIV or HIV virus transmits so easily. And that's one of the reasons why
they're able to pinpoint in those locations and those, uh, and those populations was, uh, because
they weren't engaging in that kind of protection. So yeah, that's again, back to more protection
and being aware of everything. Yeah. And for girls, if you're going to have anal sex,
prepare yourself, get a special anal stretcher and stretch it out gradually.
So that way it won't hurt when you do it spontaneously. And, uh, yeah, since our
ass, but don't have natural lubricant, you have to use our shit and lube. Yeah. Whether it's
synthetic, a water base and other kinds of lube. Did you just say a shit ton of lube?
Is that what you said? A shit ton of lube.
Quite literally. That's quite literal. Is that also a service that you've provided on occasion
or continue to provide? No, I tried. I really tried, but I'm like, it's not for me. Like finger
is fine there. Well, um, caught like put a cut on the finger. It's fine. But then like,
shove something up in there. I can't do it.
What? I didn't get that.
I can't do. Yeah. I don't, I don't provide that service unfortunately, but I know a lot of girls
do. And I watch a lot of that kind of porn just to see like how big can I get. And like, you could
see like the intestines and I'm like, just, so yeah, when performers, performers to, um,
prolapse, you see the rosebud come out. That's a different kind of entertainment right there.
That's a different level of, of, of, uh, fun. Yes.
For sure. Um, let's see. I think that's it. I can't think of anything else.
Okay. Well, as always, yes.
If a guy wants to try anal sex because there's a G-spot in the prostate.
And you're talking about fake anal sex.
Or toy. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. If guy wants to try it, they have to douche prior. I had somebody want to
try out, you know, one of my sex toys. And like, when I pulled it out, there was like a fecal
matter. So, and that is really hard to get off if you're not using a condom on the sex toys. So I
would recommend you to try it out. I think it's a good choice. I think it's a good choice.
If you're not using a condom on the sex toys. So I basically had to throw it out and be like,
okay, can you please douche and prepare yourself next time? So this wouldn't happen. So, because
I'm the one who had to, who has to clean it afterwards. And that's not the prettiest site.
Well, those guys should be cleaning up after themselves. Just saying.
I think if they're going to, if it's going to be their poop, they should, if they, if it
is involved, it should always be the person who provided the poop. Clean it up. That's my rule.
Oh, I like that. Clean your own shit. Oh, wow. This is fun.
We can nominate our podcast or some kind of an award is that would be super duper right there.
Yes. It's the real shit right here. We're talking about real shit.
You will find this kind of shit anywhere else.
I love this punch. Oh my gosh. All right. Well, thank you so much for tuning in and listening to
Esquik Confessions podcast. My name is Alexa Max with Mr. Lin and we will talk to you next time.
All right. Have a safe day everybody and you know, do your best. Bye.