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Hello, hello, hello! This is Alexa Max and thank you so much for tuning in today,

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you guys. I really appreciate your support lately. Some of my regulars and

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new clients, they've been reaching out to me and being like, I love your podcast,

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this is very informative from your perspective. And I'm like, oh my god, thank

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you so much! But so anyways, today we're going to talk about friendships in the

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sex industry. Oh yes, speaking of friends, unfortunately my co-host couldn't make it

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today due to his busy schedule, but we will definitely hear him next time on

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our podcast. You know, sex industry is such a tight little... tight and little, haha!

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But sex industry is such a little world that, you know, if you're in the industry

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for years, if you're a provider or a companion, eventually you'll know most

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people like, oh yeah, like I've seen, you know, Ashlyn from, I don't know, fucking

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Charlotte, and then that Ashlyn, whatever, she will schedule with me and then

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we'll talk about this certain client, how good he was. But yeah, anyways,

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this is a very little world and, you know, it's best to have friends,

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it's good to have allies in the industry. And there's, you would not believe, but

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there is drama going on all the time. Like, I see it on Twitter, there's sex

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workers bashing other sex workers, and I'm just like, guys, we're supposed to be

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supportive, like in our industry women rule the world, because guys are always

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horny and it's totally fine, like I'm not judging or anything, like I'm horny all

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the time too, so. But, you know, guys rely on us, that's how we make our money, you

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know, if the guy is married and his wife doesn't satisfy his needs, doesn't provide

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the intimacy, guess what? That's where we come in. And, you know, it's so important

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to support each other, because, you know, I had the incident, I have this stalker,

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and yeah, it's not like the show You, it's like, he's like super old, he thinks

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he can bully me, and you know, whatever, but no, he can't. And I have the stalker,

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and you know, I think somebody found out about him, and now a friend of mine, she

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contacted her police buddy from the force, and right, police force, yeah,

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from the police, and yeah, the bullying stopped, so this is one of the things

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that, you know, we need support from each other, we constantly need, you know, like

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hey, you're gonna be fine, you need to take a week off to relax, because this

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work, it's not only physical work, it's emotional work, and I know some girls,

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they're like, oh, three clients a day, it's way too much for me, I can't, this, this

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escort persona, she is not me, but I'm turning into her, and I'm like, okay, you

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know, girl, like, why, why are you acting not like yourself in the first place? Come on,

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guys, we just gotta support each other, and it's such a crazy freaking industry,

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where I know a lot of girls, they get murdered and killed, like, every single

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day, it's sad, because you know, guys think, guys think they can get away

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with it, but they can't. No, we, we have to be those women from Amazon, like, from

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Wonder Woman, who are live on this big island, no man around, and everybody's

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fucking happy. As for friendships, I think, like, you don't have to be, you know, a

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sex worker to be friends with sex worker, you can be a family friend, you can be a

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friend from personal life. You know, me and my co-host Lane, we've

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been friends for, fuck, I think three years, maybe, maybe a little bit more, but

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he was there for me, you know, when I was fucking broke, and I, I gotta be honest,

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like, I kind of looked at him funny when he told me those crazy stories about, like,

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orgies and about doms and subs, and being a sex worker, like, opened up my mind

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about that, like, I live this life now, where I get to please other people, and I

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love it, and understand him better, and it brought us closer together, like, you

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know, we talk more often, we keep up with each other's lives, we share our personal

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stories, and, you know, our thoughts are little secrets and whatnot, and it's so

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good for the soul. I know it sounds cheesy, but it really is, because, like,

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with my, with my family, like, they know, but I can't talk about them, about my

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clients, like, yeah, mom, so today I've been, you know, doing doggy stuff with

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this older gentleman, who brought me candles, and she would, she was just, yeah,

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and then talk about it with my friends, because, well, I don't really have friends

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in the first place, I have my cats, my cats are my friends, but they, they're not

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gonna listen, I mean, okay, they might listen, but they wouldn't understand me,

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and, like, in my personal life, I don't really have a lot of friends with whom I

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can share that with. I think I have, like, two people, two or three people who know

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what I do, and with whom I can openly talk about it, and most of them are guys,

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so, and, you know, whenever I do, you know, mention that, oh yeah, like, I do

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OnlyFans, they just start, like, judging me, and slut-shaming me, and they're like,

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Alexa, can't you do anything else? I'm like, um, let's see, um, does any other job pay

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as much and in such a short time? I mean, I could be a waitress for two dollars and

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fifteen cents an hour, would that bring me happiness? I mean, customer service

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is just, it's such a soul-sucking job, people, I've, I've worked in customer

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service from the age of 18 to 23, I think, and gosh, I think I've cried so many times

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on these jobs because of shitty people, and at my sex job, I have not cried once.

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I really haven't. I don't actually remember last time I cried, and you know

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what they say, sex is really good for your body and for your mental health, and

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I think I, I completely agree with that. I have not had any anger issues, I have

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not had any crying outrages, I feel, I feel happy, I feel satisfied sexually, you

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know, I get plenty of intimacy that I crave myself. You know, it's important to

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have ten followers and all of them are gonna be your friends, but you know, when

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you have 5,000 Facebook friends and only two of them are your friends, that's

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just gonna make you feel lonely, so this is why, you know, friends are so important

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in the sex industry, because they're always gonna be there to support you,

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they're, they can guide you, they can, again, support you and be there for you,

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like, all the time. As human beings, it's just so important for us to have

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connection, to be social, because it's part of our existence, really. I mean, it's

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almost a necessity, you know, there's a basic necessity for food, water, shelter,

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sex, and of course, being social. You know, during COVID, I'm sure lots of you guys,

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you know, you felt depressed, you felt almost empty, I know I did, because we

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didn't have that social interaction, you know, we haven't seen one another, well,

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since the pandemic began, for a few months. I don't know where you guys are

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from, but I used to live in South Carolina and we had a lockdown, I think

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it was two months or three months, and you could only go for food, gas, and

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exercise. Yeah, like, you couldn't, you couldn't go to parties or anything like

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that, because COVID was gonna be there when you were least expecting it, which

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is, okay, slightly off topic, which is kind of funny story, that I'm gonna tell you

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guys. So, when I was broke, you know, I probably had less than $400 in my bank

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account, and I lived in this fucking cult, cult-ish family, Christian cult family,

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with a former friend of mine now, and we went, we sneaked out of his parents'

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house, because I lived with his parents, it was super embarrassing time for me, but

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anyways, we sneaked out of the house and we drove to my fuck buddy's house, where

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he always had parties, he's like, yeah, fuck the COVID, let's get drunk! So, we, me

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and Michael, um, we got drunk, I, oh my god, I remember I smoked weed, I fucked

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like three times that night, and he puked everywhere, all over the couch, but it was

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a good time, so we came back, and his mom was like, where have you guys been? And

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we're just like, oh, we were in the store, we were in Walmart, we got, we were bored,

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and you know how in Walmart you can do anything pretty much, so, and she was

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like, I'm going to report you guys to the police, because you went out and you, you

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probably got COVID, and now you're going to infect us. Yeah, very embarrassing time

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for me, like I was saying, but yeah, you know, in conclusion, social interaction is

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important. If you're a sex worker who feels threatened, violated, who has, you

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know, been raped, I hope not, but you know, always feel free to reach out, you know,

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to me, or to closest friends, because it's, it's good to reach out, it's good to

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talk about your feelings, it's perfectly normal to talk about your feelings,

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because you do not want for that to be balled up, bottled up inside of you. If a

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client sexually harassed you, and whatnot, and you didn't like that, if you

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know, if a client did anything that made you uncomfortable, either report him to

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us, to other sex workers, or just, you know, tell us your story, what is going on,

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share it with us, you know, us sex workers are supposed to be supportive of

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each other, and we are not going anywhere. So, there's that. Thank you so much, guys,

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for listening to today's podcast. It's a, it's a little short one, but that is

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okay. I hope you have a wonderful day or evening, and yeah, you have a good one.

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Thank you for listening.