Hello, hello, hello! This is Alexa Max and thank you so much for tuning in today,
you guys. I really appreciate your support lately. Some of my regulars and
new clients, they've been reaching out to me and being like, I love your podcast,
this is very informative from your perspective. And I'm like, oh my god, thank
you so much! But so anyways, today we're going to talk about friendships in the
sex industry. Oh yes, speaking of friends, unfortunately my co-host couldn't make it
today due to his busy schedule, but we will definitely hear him next time on
our podcast. You know, sex industry is such a tight little... tight and little, haha!
But sex industry is such a little world that, you know, if you're in the industry
for years, if you're a provider or a companion, eventually you'll know most
people like, oh yeah, like I've seen, you know, Ashlyn from, I don't know, fucking
Charlotte, and then that Ashlyn, whatever, she will schedule with me and then
we'll talk about this certain client, how good he was. But yeah, anyways,
this is a very little world and, you know, it's best to have friends,
it's good to have allies in the industry. And there's, you would not believe, but
there is drama going on all the time. Like, I see it on Twitter, there's sex
workers bashing other sex workers, and I'm just like, guys, we're supposed to be
supportive, like in our industry women rule the world, because guys are always
horny and it's totally fine, like I'm not judging or anything, like I'm horny all
the time too, so. But, you know, guys rely on us, that's how we make our money, you
know, if the guy is married and his wife doesn't satisfy his needs, doesn't provide
the intimacy, guess what? That's where we come in. And, you know, it's so important
to support each other, because, you know, I had the incident, I have this stalker,
and yeah, it's not like the show You, it's like, he's like super old, he thinks
he can bully me, and you know, whatever, but no, he can't. And I have the stalker,
and you know, I think somebody found out about him, and now a friend of mine, she
contacted her police buddy from the force, and right, police force, yeah,
from the police, and yeah, the bullying stopped, so this is one of the things
that, you know, we need support from each other, we constantly need, you know, like
hey, you're gonna be fine, you need to take a week off to relax, because this
work, it's not only physical work, it's emotional work, and I know some girls,
they're like, oh, three clients a day, it's way too much for me, I can't, this, this
escort persona, she is not me, but I'm turning into her, and I'm like, okay, you
know, girl, like, why, why are you acting not like yourself in the first place? Come on,
guys, we just gotta support each other, and it's such a crazy freaking industry,
where I know a lot of girls, they get murdered and killed, like, every single
day, it's sad, because you know, guys think, guys think they can get away
with it, but they can't. No, we, we have to be those women from Amazon, like, from
Wonder Woman, who are live on this big island, no man around, and everybody's
fucking happy. As for friendships, I think, like, you don't have to be, you know, a
sex worker to be friends with sex worker, you can be a family friend, you can be a
friend from personal life. You know, me and my co-host Lane, we've
been friends for, fuck, I think three years, maybe, maybe a little bit more, but
he was there for me, you know, when I was fucking broke, and I, I gotta be honest,
like, I kind of looked at him funny when he told me those crazy stories about, like,
orgies and about doms and subs, and being a sex worker, like, opened up my mind
about that, like, I live this life now, where I get to please other people, and I
love it, and understand him better, and it brought us closer together, like, you
know, we talk more often, we keep up with each other's lives, we share our personal
stories, and, you know, our thoughts are little secrets and whatnot, and it's so
good for the soul. I know it sounds cheesy, but it really is, because, like,
with my, with my family, like, they know, but I can't talk about them, about my
clients, like, yeah, mom, so today I've been, you know, doing doggy stuff with
this older gentleman, who brought me candles, and she would, she was just, yeah,
and then talk about it with my friends, because, well, I don't really have friends
in the first place, I have my cats, my cats are my friends, but they, they're not
gonna listen, I mean, okay, they might listen, but they wouldn't understand me,
and, like, in my personal life, I don't really have a lot of friends with whom I
can share that with. I think I have, like, two people, two or three people who know
what I do, and with whom I can openly talk about it, and most of them are guys,
so, and, you know, whenever I do, you know, mention that, oh yeah, like, I do
OnlyFans, they just start, like, judging me, and slut-shaming me, and they're like,
Alexa, can't you do anything else? I'm like, um, let's see, um, does any other job pay
as much and in such a short time? I mean, I could be a waitress for two dollars and
fifteen cents an hour, would that bring me happiness? I mean, customer service
is just, it's such a soul-sucking job, people, I've, I've worked in customer
service from the age of 18 to 23, I think, and gosh, I think I've cried so many times
on these jobs because of shitty people, and at my sex job, I have not cried once.
I really haven't. I don't actually remember last time I cried, and you know
what they say, sex is really good for your body and for your mental health, and
I think I, I completely agree with that. I have not had any anger issues, I have
not had any crying outrages, I feel, I feel happy, I feel satisfied sexually, you
know, I get plenty of intimacy that I crave myself. You know, it's important to
have ten followers and all of them are gonna be your friends, but you know, when
you have 5,000 Facebook friends and only two of them are your friends, that's
just gonna make you feel lonely, so this is why, you know, friends are so important
in the sex industry, because they're always gonna be there to support you,
they're, they can guide you, they can, again, support you and be there for you,
like, all the time. As human beings, it's just so important for us to have
connection, to be social, because it's part of our existence, really. I mean, it's
almost a necessity, you know, there's a basic necessity for food, water, shelter,
sex, and of course, being social. You know, during COVID, I'm sure lots of you guys,
you know, you felt depressed, you felt almost empty, I know I did, because we
didn't have that social interaction, you know, we haven't seen one another, well,
since the pandemic began, for a few months. I don't know where you guys are
from, but I used to live in South Carolina and we had a lockdown, I think
it was two months or three months, and you could only go for food, gas, and
exercise. Yeah, like, you couldn't, you couldn't go to parties or anything like
that, because COVID was gonna be there when you were least expecting it, which
is, okay, slightly off topic, which is kind of funny story, that I'm gonna tell you
guys. So, when I was broke, you know, I probably had less than $400 in my bank
account, and I lived in this fucking cult, cult-ish family, Christian cult family,
with a former friend of mine now, and we went, we sneaked out of his parents'
house, because I lived with his parents, it was super embarrassing time for me, but
anyways, we sneaked out of the house and we drove to my fuck buddy's house, where
he always had parties, he's like, yeah, fuck the COVID, let's get drunk! So, we, me
and Michael, um, we got drunk, I, oh my god, I remember I smoked weed, I fucked
like three times that night, and he puked everywhere, all over the couch, but it was
a good time, so we came back, and his mom was like, where have you guys been? And
we're just like, oh, we were in the store, we were in Walmart, we got, we were bored,
and you know how in Walmart you can do anything pretty much, so, and she was
like, I'm going to report you guys to the police, because you went out and you, you
probably got COVID, and now you're going to infect us. Yeah, very embarrassing time
for me, like I was saying, but yeah, you know, in conclusion, social interaction is
important. If you're a sex worker who feels threatened, violated, who has, you
know, been raped, I hope not, but you know, always feel free to reach out, you know,
to me, or to closest friends, because it's, it's good to reach out, it's good to
talk about your feelings, it's perfectly normal to talk about your feelings,
because you do not want for that to be balled up, bottled up inside of you. If a
client sexually harassed you, and whatnot, and you didn't like that, if you
know, if a client did anything that made you uncomfortable, either report him to
us, to other sex workers, or just, you know, tell us your story, what is going on,
share it with us, you know, us sex workers are supposed to be supportive of
each other, and we are not going anywhere. So, there's that. Thank you so much, guys,
for listening to today's podcast. It's a, it's a little short one, but that is
okay. I hope you have a wonderful day or evening, and yeah, you have a good one.
Thank you for listening.