1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:00,840 I'm Drea. 2 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:01,680 I'm Meg. 3 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:02,500 I'm Tina. 4 00:00:02,500 --> 00:00:04,080 And I'm Jess. 5 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:06,840 And this is Pardon My Stash. 6 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:10,840 ["Pardon My Stash Theme Song"] 7 00:00:13,340 --> 00:00:14,480 Welcome to Pardon My Stash, 8 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:16,340 a podcast about knitting within the fiber arts 9 00:00:16,340 --> 00:00:18,220 and how awesome it is. 10 00:00:18,220 --> 00:00:19,060 Ooh. 11 00:00:19,060 --> 00:00:19,880 Thank you. 12 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:21,100 You're welcome. 13 00:00:21,100 --> 00:00:23,860 Before we get into the topic for the day, 14 00:00:23,860 --> 00:00:26,180 let's check out what we're working on this week. 15 00:00:26,180 --> 00:00:27,020 Tina? 16 00:00:27,020 --> 00:00:30,200 I am closing in on the end of the- 17 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:31,400 You are so close. 18 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:35,440 Ingles sweater by Boylan Networks, 19 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:36,680 at least for the body. 20 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:37,620 Almost there. 21 00:00:37,620 --> 00:00:38,740 Almost there. 22 00:00:38,740 --> 00:00:40,660 Yeah, last time I measured, 23 00:00:40,660 --> 00:00:42,600 I was officially measured, 24 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:44,280 I was two inches away. 25 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:47,940 I'm pretty sure I am like an inch and a half, 26 00:00:47,940 --> 00:00:49,320 if not an inch away at this point. 27 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:50,560 Yeah, you're like right there. 28 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:52,820 Yeah, I just, well, it's not, 29 00:00:52,820 --> 00:00:54,360 it's technically not, 30 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:55,600 I won't be at the border. 31 00:00:55,600 --> 00:00:57,040 I'm just gonna be, 32 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:59,940 so the back of the sweater has like a flap, 33 00:00:59,940 --> 00:01:01,120 so it covers my butt. 34 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:02,020 Nice. 35 00:01:02,020 --> 00:01:02,960 Which I like. 36 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:03,920 I like that. 37 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:05,600 I have to do some short rows in the back 38 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:06,480 just to lengthen it, 39 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:07,880 and then I get to do the border. 40 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,740 So this is getting to the short rows. 41 00:01:10,740 --> 00:01:13,440 And so, but the short rows are gonna go fast. 42 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:14,280 Yeah. 43 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:15,120 So. 44 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:16,800 It's just a little butt flap. 45 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,040 Little just a little butt flap, yes. 46 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:22,240 But I am using a string NYC, 47 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:25,460 Dolceto DK in gray, dark gray, and red. 48 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:28,240 Meg. 49 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:34,040 I am almost done with the third pattern repeat section 50 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,380 of my sun drop pullover by Laura Ehler. 51 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,480 After this, there's just one more pattern repeats, 52 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:43,280 and that's the hem. 53 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,280 And then I get to do the sleeves. 54 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:48,140 And I am working with Dragon Horde yarn, 55 00:01:48,140 --> 00:01:53,140 gnome tweed fingering weight in the colorway fairy yuletree. 56 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:55,680 Beautiful. 57 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:56,680 Jess. 58 00:01:56,680 --> 00:02:01,680 I am on the final sleeve of the sweater of swords 59 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,760 by Deer Ingenue. 60 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:11,840 And I am using Critical Hit dies yarn in the weight ranger 61 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:16,840 on Vishka and Morganis. 62 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:18,000 Yes. 63 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:18,940 Your death god. 64 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:22,680 That sweater is like phenomenal. 65 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:23,520 Thank you. 66 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:24,360 I'm sorry. 67 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:27,520 It's just like, the fact that you got it done so fast 68 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:32,120 and the colorways are like, that's good. 69 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:32,960 Good sweater. 70 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:34,600 Yeah, it looks like stained glass. 71 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:35,560 Yeah, it's beautiful. 72 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:36,760 Thank you. 73 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:38,800 No, the colors really help, 74 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,760 because I'm like, ooh, I wanna see it. 75 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,200 I wanna see more, knit up. 76 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:44,440 It's beautiful. 77 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:45,480 You're doing a really good job. 78 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:46,800 Thank you. 79 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:49,320 Be sure to check out our website, partofmystache.com 80 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:50,960 for more information as well as pictures 81 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:54,340 regarding our current projects, patterns and yarns. 82 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:58,200 Hyperfixation is fun. 83 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:00,000 Hyperfixation is fun. 84 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:01,840 Are you stuck on something, Joya? 85 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,360 I am so stuck on so many different things right now. 86 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:05,800 It's not even funny. 87 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:08,080 And none of them are knitting. 88 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:09,160 Oh no. 89 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:10,000 I know. 90 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:10,840 It happens. 91 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:13,320 Wait, isn't there like, don't I have a sad trombone now? 92 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:14,160 Yeah, you do. 93 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,480 No, no, no. 94 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:18,440 It's not knitting. 95 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:19,920 It's not knitting. 96 00:03:19,920 --> 00:03:21,400 It's not knitting, but you know what? 97 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:24,280 I think we're gonna talk about how that's okay. 98 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:25,400 Like. 99 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:26,480 Cause that is okay. 100 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:29,240 I know that we have covered knitting funks in the past. 101 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:31,600 And I know that we've talked about taking a step back 102 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:33,320 and when to move forward. 103 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:35,040 Like, I'm not bored. 104 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:35,880 I'm not. 105 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:36,700 I'm not bored. 106 00:03:36,700 --> 00:03:40,420 It's just, I have other things that I want to be doing. 107 00:03:40,420 --> 00:03:42,060 There's still craft things. 108 00:03:42,060 --> 00:03:44,160 And I think that is more than fine. 109 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:47,320 You know, when you're a crafter. 110 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:51,960 And when you have an idea and problems focusing. 111 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:55,080 Yeah, but what you're, I heard from a little birdie 112 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,320 that what you're focused on is a craft thing, right? 113 00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:58,480 It is a craft thing. 114 00:03:58,480 --> 00:03:59,680 It's super exciting. 115 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:01,080 Can I share my craft thing? 116 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:02,080 Yeah. 117 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:03,200 So excited. 118 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:05,680 So this past weekend, 119 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:08,080 Frank and I were thrifting and tag sailing. 120 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:12,480 And I have been looking for a few weeks now 121 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:15,620 for like the perfect desk, the perfect desk. 122 00:04:15,620 --> 00:04:16,520 And guess what? 123 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,960 On Facebook marketplace, it showed up the perfect desk. 124 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:20,880 For how much? 125 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:22,160 It was $10. 126 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:24,040 Boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop. 127 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:25,960 Oh, I have to hold back, sorry. 128 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:26,800 Yeah. 129 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:27,640 Yeah. 130 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:28,960 Yeah. 131 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:30,120 It was $10. 132 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:34,240 It's a really old roll top desk 133 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:36,920 that is in perfect condition. 134 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:37,960 Well, not perfect condition. 135 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:39,480 It's in decent condition. 136 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:44,260 And I'm going to refinish it. 137 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:46,640 Noice. 138 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:48,320 I am just so stoked. 139 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:53,320 So I don't have room in my head for knitting or fiber arts 140 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:58,080 because all of my focus has been drawn to this desk 141 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,700 that I'm going to be refinishing this weekend. 142 00:05:00,700 --> 00:05:03,440 I'm so excited to sand that thing 143 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:07,000 and paint that thing. 144 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:08,440 And- 145 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,280 Well, your mask. 146 00:05:10,280 --> 00:05:12,360 Yes, we picked up masks. 147 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:13,200 Good. 148 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:14,020 Yeah. 149 00:05:14,020 --> 00:05:15,400 But I'm just so stoked. 150 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:16,240 Listen. 151 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:17,060 I can't knit. 152 00:05:17,060 --> 00:05:19,080 I need to like put all of this energy 153 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:22,720 into like doing a physical activity and craft. 154 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:24,120 You gotta do it. 155 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:27,160 Yeah, it's a different craft, but I think that's fine. 156 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:28,640 I mean, the hyper fixation 157 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,280 could also be for knitting sometimes. 158 00:05:31,280 --> 00:05:33,680 Oh, it definitely is for knitting sometimes. 159 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,880 I know that I have cranked through projects 160 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:40,020 really fast when I've been hyper focused on knitting. 161 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:42,280 I mean- 162 00:05:42,280 --> 00:05:43,120 I mean, that's a rummage. 163 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:43,960 Yeah. 164 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,800 I was gonna say that's what you're doing right now. 165 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:46,640 Yes. 166 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:47,480 Okay. 167 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:49,640 When did you start that show? 168 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:50,960 March 17th. 169 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:51,800 Sweater. 170 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:52,760 Sweater. 171 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:54,320 St. Patrick's Day. 172 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:55,920 I remember you said it was the 17th. 173 00:05:55,920 --> 00:05:57,280 I just couldn't remember which month. 174 00:05:57,280 --> 00:05:59,720 Cause she said she wanted to finish it by Maryl's birthday. 175 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:00,560 I did. 176 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,600 So you're doing essentially a sweater in three months. 177 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:04,540 Yes. 178 00:06:04,540 --> 00:06:07,000 Jesus. 179 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:07,840 I know. 180 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:12,840 And granted, I got hyper fixated off of it 181 00:06:12,840 --> 00:06:16,000 for a little bit, but only like a day or so here or there. 182 00:06:17,840 --> 00:06:18,820 And it's always come back. 183 00:06:18,820 --> 00:06:21,560 And I've just been like, no, I gotta do that sweater. 184 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:22,880 Cause I want it. 185 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:25,840 And that like never happened. 186 00:06:25,840 --> 00:06:26,980 So I'm like, you know what? 187 00:06:26,980 --> 00:06:28,520 The fixation is there. 188 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:29,600 Use it. 189 00:06:30,840 --> 00:06:33,080 Because it so rarely works in your favor. 190 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:33,920 It's true. 191 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:36,280 It so rarely works in your favor. 192 00:06:36,280 --> 00:06:37,720 No, that's really. 193 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:39,600 That's really, really true. 194 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:41,440 It's like, I know I should be doing this thing. 195 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:45,440 And my hyper focus is on something completely just 196 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:47,440 not that. 197 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:48,640 Do you ever yell at yourself? 198 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:49,480 Yeah. 199 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:50,300 It doesn't do anything. 200 00:06:50,300 --> 00:06:54,960 I did that on, so I had, I forgot to take my medication. 201 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:58,080 I think it was Monday morning or something. 202 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:00,600 And maybe it wasn't Monday. 203 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:01,440 Maybe it was last week. 204 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:02,280 That was last week. 205 00:07:02,280 --> 00:07:03,120 I think it was last week. 206 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:05,200 And so I forgot to do it. 207 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:06,680 And then I was like yelling at myself 208 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:08,040 while I was walking through my house. 209 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:10,880 I was like, no, you're going to get a glass of water. 210 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:15,440 Cause like, I kept like diverting to like the laundry room. 211 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,920 I was like, no, we're getting water. 212 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:18,880 Well, what about you guys? 213 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:20,880 Do you guys work with your hyper fixation 214 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:22,920 or do you guys fight it? 215 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:23,760 I feel like I. 216 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:24,580 There's no sense in fighting it. 217 00:07:24,580 --> 00:07:25,420 I know. 218 00:07:25,420 --> 00:07:26,260 I feel like I fight it a lot. 219 00:07:26,260 --> 00:07:30,080 And I think that's why I'm like dragging my feet 220 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:33,520 and feeling so terrible about falling down on my knitting. 221 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:35,240 Cause I do feel bad. 222 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:36,240 It's not a job. 223 00:07:36,240 --> 00:07:37,080 I know it's not a job. 224 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,160 You don't owe anybody a finished project. 225 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:40,080 That is true. 226 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:41,560 It's not something like, 227 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:43,740 I can understand if like you were knitting for a job 228 00:07:43,740 --> 00:07:45,800 or you have a test knit deadline or something like that, 229 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:49,560 but you don't owe anybody that finished shawl. 230 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:52,040 Like you weren't even making it for any of, 231 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:52,880 you weren't right. 232 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:55,520 I am, but they don't know that they're getting it. 233 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:56,480 Oh, it's for a person. 234 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:57,440 Yeah, it's for a person. 235 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:01,720 So, okay, so it's not like it's got a hard and fast deadline. 236 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:05,480 I don't have ADHD, but I do have compulsion 237 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:10,480 and I don't fight compulsion. 238 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:14,620 There are some that I try to kind of move away from 239 00:08:14,620 --> 00:08:15,920 because there may be detrimental, 240 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,400 but I kind of find it's more, 241 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:20,500 it's better to just kind of go with the flow 242 00:08:20,500 --> 00:08:23,480 and let it happen. 243 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:25,680 If my brain is not on knitting, 244 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:30,240 I'm not gonna open Ravelry and hold my eyelids open 245 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:32,040 like in clockwork orange and be like, 246 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:35,860 you will look at patterns until you want to do something. 247 00:08:35,860 --> 00:08:37,480 That's silly. 248 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:38,320 Nobody does. 249 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:39,640 I hope nobody does that. 250 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:42,400 I really hope nobody does that because it's just, 251 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,560 but we're laughing about how ridiculous that is. 252 00:08:45,560 --> 00:08:47,160 And it's kind of the same thing. 253 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:50,520 Like why, if you are excited about something, 254 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:54,140 be it refinishing your desk or building some Legos 255 00:08:54,140 --> 00:08:59,140 or watching TV or going to the park, 256 00:09:00,580 --> 00:09:04,140 or there's something that you want to do, 257 00:09:04,140 --> 00:09:08,540 buying new clothes or you're fixated on some new TV show 258 00:09:08,540 --> 00:09:10,140 or something like that, like anything. 259 00:09:10,140 --> 00:09:15,140 You don't necessarily have to do that thing, but why? 260 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:17,780 Just let yourself immerse in it. 261 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:20,560 I have noticed this with Jess every single time 262 00:09:20,560 --> 00:09:22,460 she starts to hyper fixate on something. 263 00:09:22,460 --> 00:09:27,180 Like she will spend weeks, 264 00:09:27,180 --> 00:09:29,540 that'll be the only thing that she'll Google on her phone. 265 00:09:29,540 --> 00:09:31,620 That will be the only thing she talks about. 266 00:09:31,620 --> 00:09:34,380 It's the only thing she wants to shop for. 267 00:09:34,380 --> 00:09:38,320 And you just gotta let it ride. 268 00:09:40,140 --> 00:09:41,940 When she gets in that mood, I'm not like, 269 00:09:41,940 --> 00:09:44,640 you really do have that sweater you should be knitting. 270 00:09:45,420 --> 00:09:46,260 No. 271 00:09:46,260 --> 00:09:48,740 Because there's no point. 272 00:09:48,740 --> 00:09:50,540 That's actually a valid point. 273 00:09:50,540 --> 00:09:51,380 Yeah. 274 00:09:51,380 --> 00:09:55,060 Because I would never sit here and tell Jess 275 00:09:55,060 --> 00:09:56,860 that she didn't finish something 276 00:09:56,860 --> 00:09:58,780 and you should be doing this thing instead. 277 00:09:58,780 --> 00:10:01,900 Like I would never do that to you, but I do that to me. 278 00:10:01,900 --> 00:10:02,980 Yeah. And you shouldn't. 279 00:10:02,980 --> 00:10:03,800 I know. 280 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:06,340 The only thing I will say, the only caveat 281 00:10:06,340 --> 00:10:08,880 is when I see her looking at really expensive shit 282 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:10,860 for her new hyper fixation, I'm like, 283 00:10:10,860 --> 00:10:14,380 maybe, maybe we try it out first. 284 00:10:14,380 --> 00:10:16,060 When it is an expensive thing, 285 00:10:16,060 --> 00:10:19,260 I do have like a hard stop in my head about the expense. 286 00:10:19,260 --> 00:10:21,780 So I will just research the hell out of it 287 00:10:21,780 --> 00:10:24,780 until I realize I either, okay, yes, 288 00:10:24,780 --> 00:10:26,580 I still want to do this and get the expensive thing. 289 00:10:26,580 --> 00:10:29,200 Or I'm like, eh, I'm bored with this now 290 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:30,620 before I even buy anything for it. 291 00:10:30,620 --> 00:10:32,900 I never have to tell her not to do it. 292 00:10:32,900 --> 00:10:35,220 It's just more of a, like, I see her looking at something 293 00:10:35,220 --> 00:10:38,020 that's like, you know, like the $500 Rivendell like- 294 00:10:38,020 --> 00:10:38,860 Listen, okay. 295 00:10:38,860 --> 00:10:41,020 And I'm like, I know you love it. 296 00:10:41,020 --> 00:10:41,860 I know you love it. 297 00:10:41,860 --> 00:10:42,940 I'm not going out and buying it. 298 00:10:42,940 --> 00:10:44,020 But that's a lot of money. 299 00:10:44,020 --> 00:10:44,860 I know. 300 00:10:44,860 --> 00:10:45,740 You know, things like that. 301 00:10:45,740 --> 00:10:47,060 But I never am like, okay, 302 00:10:47,060 --> 00:10:49,040 I need to take her credit card away because oh my God, 303 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:50,840 she's not adult enough to know. 304 00:10:52,620 --> 00:10:55,380 But I, you know, we tend to be a lot harder on ourselves 305 00:10:55,380 --> 00:10:57,980 than we are on our friends. 306 00:10:57,980 --> 00:11:02,620 And you know, you would never come to me or Tina or Jess 307 00:11:02,620 --> 00:11:06,860 and say like, oh, you're doing that thing. 308 00:11:07,900 --> 00:11:09,700 We'll have a sweater in that project bag 309 00:11:09,700 --> 00:11:10,860 that you haven't finished yet. 310 00:11:10,860 --> 00:11:11,940 What's going on with that? 311 00:11:11,940 --> 00:11:12,880 Yeah. 312 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:13,720 I would never do that to you guys. 313 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:14,560 You would never do that 314 00:11:14,560 --> 00:11:17,420 because that's such a mean, nasty thing to do. 315 00:11:17,420 --> 00:11:18,260 It really is. 316 00:11:18,260 --> 00:11:19,100 It is nasty. 317 00:11:19,100 --> 00:11:19,940 Yeah. 318 00:11:19,940 --> 00:11:21,740 It's kind of like going up to somebody and being like, 319 00:11:21,740 --> 00:11:23,780 wow, you chose that haircut today. 320 00:11:25,220 --> 00:11:28,860 It's such a, it's just a mean thing to say 321 00:11:28,860 --> 00:11:31,060 and you would never do it. 322 00:11:31,060 --> 00:11:31,900 That's true. 323 00:11:31,900 --> 00:11:32,740 But we do it. 324 00:11:32,740 --> 00:11:35,720 And I realized the irony of me talking about this 325 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:37,540 because I think I'm the meanest person to myself 326 00:11:37,540 --> 00:11:39,100 that anybody could be. 327 00:11:39,100 --> 00:11:39,920 Me too. 328 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:40,760 Yes. 329 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:41,600 So same. 330 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,040 Can I just say that? 331 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:46,020 So I've been off social media for like a month now maybe 332 00:11:46,020 --> 00:11:51,020 or more, completely like no Insta, no Facebook, no nothing. 333 00:11:52,260 --> 00:11:57,180 And I feel that the compulsion to criticize myself 334 00:11:57,180 --> 00:12:00,220 in the speed that I'm finishing my projects 335 00:12:00,220 --> 00:12:02,140 is like pretty much gone. 336 00:12:03,380 --> 00:12:07,060 I don't feel any pressure to do my sweater. 337 00:12:07,060 --> 00:12:11,340 I have like a kind of a note in my head that like, 338 00:12:11,340 --> 00:12:14,300 ooh, maybe this Rhinebeck, I can wear this sweater. 339 00:12:14,300 --> 00:12:16,180 That would be cool. 340 00:12:16,180 --> 00:12:18,700 But other than that, like no pressure. 341 00:12:18,700 --> 00:12:20,100 You're not comparing yourself to anybody. 342 00:12:20,100 --> 00:12:21,580 There's nothing to compare. 343 00:12:21,580 --> 00:12:25,060 I'm seeing my, you guys, I see you guys working 344 00:12:25,060 --> 00:12:26,160 on your stuff. 345 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:28,060 Now I see just finishing her sweater. 346 00:12:28,060 --> 00:12:29,900 Now I kind of want to finish mine. 347 00:12:29,900 --> 00:12:31,060 I kind of feel that. 348 00:12:31,060 --> 00:12:34,980 Yeah, no, but yeah, I don't feel, 349 00:12:34,980 --> 00:12:39,980 I think there was kind of this unhealthy sense of production 350 00:12:41,260 --> 00:12:43,060 that came out of a lot of accounts 351 00:12:43,060 --> 00:12:44,980 where they were just pumping out patterns 352 00:12:44,980 --> 00:12:47,380 and pumping out finished objects. 353 00:12:47,380 --> 00:12:49,900 And it's just, it was like almost every week 354 00:12:49,900 --> 00:12:52,180 there was like three or four or five things 355 00:12:52,180 --> 00:12:53,900 like coming out from a single person. 356 00:12:53,900 --> 00:12:55,380 And I'm like, how is this happening? 357 00:12:55,380 --> 00:12:56,940 Like this is impossible. 358 00:12:56,940 --> 00:12:58,420 It kills your own drive. 359 00:12:58,420 --> 00:13:02,260 Yeah, and there's one, I'm not, I won't call them out, 360 00:13:02,260 --> 00:13:05,300 but there is one in particular, and I love her patterns, 361 00:13:05,300 --> 00:13:10,300 but she will like, she'll make a pattern collection 362 00:13:10,300 --> 00:13:13,160 in like two weeks. 363 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:14,800 That's impressive. 364 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:15,640 It is. 365 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:17,560 No, it's extremely impressive. 366 00:13:17,560 --> 00:13:20,760 I mean, if you, and they're not like the same thing 367 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:24,360 over and over again, like they're mostly garments 368 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:27,040 and they really do look different. 369 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:28,640 They have different construction. 370 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:32,320 But I've also seen videos of her knitting 371 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:34,360 and it is the speed of light. 372 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:35,200 It is insane. 373 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:36,160 Some people are really fast. 374 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:37,480 How fast she is. 375 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:38,320 Yeah. 376 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:42,920 Even with Portuguese style or English, 377 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:46,520 I still, I'm at a pretty like, that's my speed. 378 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:48,540 I'm not going any faster than that. 379 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:51,800 English tends to be slower. 380 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:52,640 Yeah. 381 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:53,840 Continental tends to be faster. 382 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:56,120 English is a slow, is a slow knit. 383 00:13:56,120 --> 00:13:59,720 I do find that the Portuguese is a bit faster. 384 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:03,440 I think I'm just, I also find that my tension's 385 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:04,860 completely different with Portuguese. 386 00:14:04,860 --> 00:14:07,600 So I have to, if I start one project English, 387 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:08,680 it has to finish English. 388 00:14:08,680 --> 00:14:11,480 I can't flip it in between. 389 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:13,360 Cause I tried to do that here and then I had to pull 390 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:16,440 out a row cause it's like, well, that does not look right. 391 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:17,920 It was like in the middle of the body and I'm like, 392 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:18,960 that doesn't look good. 393 00:14:18,960 --> 00:14:21,420 But yeah, I don't know if it's the social media thing. 394 00:14:21,420 --> 00:14:24,840 I mean, that would make sense as to why that pressure 395 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:29,320 is gone for me, but I just don't like, 396 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:33,220 I'm not mad at myself for how fast or slow I'm going. 397 00:14:33,220 --> 00:14:36,340 I'm just doing the knitting when I can do it, 398 00:14:36,340 --> 00:14:39,040 when I feel like it and that's it. 399 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:42,360 So non knitting related kind of anecdote to go with that. 400 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:46,800 There was actually a study done years ago in the island 401 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:51,800 of Fiji before they got media that it used to be 402 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:56,200 like a compliment to say like, oh, you've gained weight. 403 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:57,620 You know, you look, you look really good. 404 00:14:57,620 --> 00:14:59,400 You've gained weight. 405 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:03,000 And then they got television and the number of people 406 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:05,720 that started developing eating disorders, 407 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:08,840 like quadrupled the minute that there was media 408 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:11,960 on the island and the pressure when there was 409 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:15,400 that outside pressure to perform in a certain way 410 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:18,480 or be a certain way, people do absorb that. 411 00:15:18,480 --> 00:15:20,220 And it becomes less, it's not even like, 412 00:15:20,220 --> 00:15:22,520 even if it's not directed at you of like, 413 00:15:24,180 --> 00:15:27,040 I have to, I have to be like this. 414 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:29,840 We tend to internalize that person is doing this. 415 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:31,200 Why am I not doing that? 416 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:34,680 And that can be really detrimental. 417 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:36,160 Even if it's not the, like, you know, 418 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:37,880 people aren't going around in public being like, 419 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:38,720 I'm doing this. 420 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:40,960 Why are you not that good? 421 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:44,720 But we tend to internalize that for better or worse. 422 00:15:44,720 --> 00:15:46,760 Yeah, we tell ourselves that that is what other, 423 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:48,120 everybody else is saying to us. 424 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:50,160 Correct, even though that is totally wrong. 425 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:53,120 And yeah, even though realistically the person 426 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:55,680 that you think is doing so well is probably saying 427 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:57,720 the same exact thing to themselves. 428 00:15:57,720 --> 00:16:00,700 Because they have seen somebody else that they're like, 429 00:16:00,700 --> 00:16:02,240 why am I not as good as that? 430 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:05,340 There's actually, I don't remember 431 00:16:05,340 --> 00:16:06,580 what the short story is called, 432 00:16:06,580 --> 00:16:08,820 but it's actually kind of that dynamic. 433 00:16:08,820 --> 00:16:11,660 And they're actually looking at each other 434 00:16:11,660 --> 00:16:13,940 and constantly going, why can't I, why can't I, 435 00:16:13,940 --> 00:16:15,020 why can't I? 436 00:16:15,020 --> 00:16:16,460 And then at the end of the story, 437 00:16:16,460 --> 00:16:18,820 they meet on the same train station 438 00:16:18,820 --> 00:16:20,180 and bump into each other. 439 00:16:20,180 --> 00:16:23,140 And they, and you know, somehow the conversation 440 00:16:23,140 --> 00:16:24,580 turns into that. 441 00:16:24,580 --> 00:16:26,620 And they both realize that they've been obsessing 442 00:16:26,620 --> 00:16:28,320 over each other. 443 00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:32,100 And like, it kind of ends with this like, why? 444 00:16:32,100 --> 00:16:32,940 Why are we doing that? 445 00:16:32,940 --> 00:16:34,000 Like that's silly. 446 00:16:34,940 --> 00:16:37,300 I always, yeah, it's just interesting 447 00:16:37,300 --> 00:16:38,140 how that kind of works. 448 00:16:38,140 --> 00:16:43,140 But I, the comparison is a beast in its own. 449 00:16:43,900 --> 00:16:48,740 So I think if you just kind of sit with yourself 450 00:16:48,740 --> 00:16:50,340 and enjoy what you're doing, 451 00:16:50,340 --> 00:16:53,680 rather than focusing on how fast you can do it 452 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:57,800 or how well you can do it, or just do it. 453 00:16:57,800 --> 00:17:02,020 Because you just doing it is better than 95% of society 454 00:17:02,020 --> 00:17:04,900 that just thinks about doing something and doesn't do it. 455 00:17:04,900 --> 00:17:05,740 That's true. 456 00:17:05,740 --> 00:17:06,940 That's true. 457 00:17:06,940 --> 00:17:09,100 The social media thing though too, I think does depend. 458 00:17:09,100 --> 00:17:13,020 Because honestly, I don't keep up with my Instagram 459 00:17:13,020 --> 00:17:14,820 probably as much as I could. 460 00:17:14,820 --> 00:17:16,260 And I forget to post for days. 461 00:17:16,260 --> 00:17:18,780 But for me, it's kind of nice for me to be like, 462 00:17:18,780 --> 00:17:19,940 oh yeah, I haven't posted in a while. 463 00:17:19,940 --> 00:17:22,380 I'm gonna like post this random thing that I did 464 00:17:22,380 --> 00:17:23,380 and I'm happy with. 465 00:17:23,380 --> 00:17:25,300 And it's kind of nice to see other people 466 00:17:25,300 --> 00:17:27,300 even just putting a little heart thing on there. 467 00:17:27,300 --> 00:17:29,260 And it's like, oh, they think it's cool too. 468 00:17:29,260 --> 00:17:31,220 And I don't know. 469 00:17:31,220 --> 00:17:32,060 So it depends. 470 00:17:32,060 --> 00:17:32,900 No, I agree with that. 471 00:17:32,900 --> 00:17:35,020 You're like, oh cool, other people think this is neat 472 00:17:35,020 --> 00:17:35,860 as well. 473 00:17:35,860 --> 00:17:40,120 And I think to an extent, again, you have to be careful 474 00:17:40,120 --> 00:17:42,700 because you don't want it to turn into an obsession 475 00:17:42,700 --> 00:17:45,480 or a, oh, this thing only got 20 likes 476 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,260 and this other thing got like 60. 477 00:17:47,260 --> 00:17:49,620 You don't want to turn into a, 478 00:17:49,620 --> 00:17:51,300 I need to perform for these people. 479 00:17:51,300 --> 00:17:52,760 You don't want it to turn into that. 480 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:55,260 But if you are just sort of like, yay, other people 481 00:17:55,260 --> 00:17:56,100 kind of like this weird thing. 482 00:17:56,100 --> 00:17:57,020 Well, it's nice to be acknowledged. 483 00:17:57,020 --> 00:18:00,580 It's nice for people to feel like people are saying 484 00:18:00,580 --> 00:18:01,900 you did something good. 485 00:18:01,900 --> 00:18:03,180 That's a natural human emotion. 486 00:18:03,180 --> 00:18:04,800 Gotta follow that dopamine. 487 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:06,620 So yeah, so, but it is natural. 488 00:18:06,620 --> 00:18:08,860 So it's like trying to find that happy medium. 489 00:18:08,860 --> 00:18:11,180 Like you don't want to turn it into a performance A 490 00:18:11,180 --> 00:18:12,320 where you're judging yourself 491 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:13,540 if you can't get the stuff out, 492 00:18:13,540 --> 00:18:16,260 but you can use it to like, if you are, 493 00:18:16,260 --> 00:18:17,700 I know there are some times where I'm like, 494 00:18:17,700 --> 00:18:19,900 oh, I'm kind of feeling like blah this week 495 00:18:19,900 --> 00:18:21,020 and I'll throw something up there. 496 00:18:21,020 --> 00:18:23,300 I'm like, okay, yay, other people think this is cool. 497 00:18:23,300 --> 00:18:26,420 And it just gives you that little bit of a boost. 498 00:18:26,420 --> 00:18:29,040 And in some cases it does help me get out of like 499 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:31,620 little funks if I'm like, yeah, I actually have no idea 500 00:18:31,620 --> 00:18:32,980 what I want to do right now. 501 00:18:34,300 --> 00:18:37,980 I think ingesting the feed and ingesting the feedback 502 00:18:37,980 --> 00:18:40,060 are two very different things. 503 00:18:40,060 --> 00:18:42,460 Like what you're talking about is super positive. 504 00:18:42,460 --> 00:18:45,540 And I agree it like when I post and somebody, 505 00:18:45,540 --> 00:18:48,840 but like if you're not necessarily, 506 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:51,780 like if you're focused instead of on your own posts 507 00:18:51,780 --> 00:18:53,820 and like what people are saying about your own stuff 508 00:18:53,820 --> 00:18:58,700 rather than like going and scrolling through mindlessly 509 00:18:58,700 --> 00:19:02,020 on the feed and seeing everybody else's accomplishments, 510 00:19:02,020 --> 00:19:05,180 so-called accomplishments or what they're doing 511 00:19:05,180 --> 00:19:08,060 and then making the comparison are two very different things. 512 00:19:08,060 --> 00:19:09,140 Yes. 513 00:19:09,140 --> 00:19:12,260 But, and so I think if you're focused in the aspect 514 00:19:12,260 --> 00:19:14,940 that Jess is talking about, it's totally healthy 515 00:19:14,940 --> 00:19:17,100 because that's just, you know, 516 00:19:17,100 --> 00:19:18,340 as long as like you mentioned. 517 00:19:18,340 --> 00:19:19,940 Creators sharing their creation. 518 00:19:19,940 --> 00:19:21,580 Yeah, yeah. 519 00:19:21,580 --> 00:19:25,100 But the comparison, yeah, when you're on the feed side of it 520 00:19:25,100 --> 00:19:27,820 is where it can get you. 521 00:19:27,820 --> 00:19:30,700 How are you guys all dealing with your hyper fixations? 522 00:19:30,700 --> 00:19:31,620 Like when they hit? 523 00:19:31,620 --> 00:19:34,220 Well, for me, I've been, 524 00:19:34,220 --> 00:19:38,960 besides dealing with the medical part of it, 525 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:41,980 I have this app that I use called Motion 526 00:19:41,980 --> 00:19:44,540 and it's an AI generated schedule. 527 00:19:44,540 --> 00:19:47,500 So you put a bunch of things that you want to accomplish 528 00:19:47,500 --> 00:19:49,380 and you put like, you can put a hard deadline, 529 00:19:49,380 --> 00:19:51,500 you can put a soft deadline, you can put no deadline, 530 00:19:51,500 --> 00:19:52,740 you could whatever. 531 00:19:52,740 --> 00:19:56,420 And it generates what you're gonna do for that day. 532 00:19:56,420 --> 00:19:59,180 And it helps you basically finish things 533 00:19:59,180 --> 00:20:02,380 on the deadlines that you have set. 534 00:20:02,380 --> 00:20:07,140 So I have been using that for a lot of my knitted projects. 535 00:20:07,140 --> 00:20:12,140 And sometimes it helps because if I'm feeling low 536 00:20:13,060 --> 00:20:15,280 about the fact that, oh, I really don't wanna do 537 00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:17,760 the sweater today, I can look at my motion 538 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:19,980 and sometimes it's like, don't touch your sweater 539 00:20:19,980 --> 00:20:22,340 for like six days, you need to do these things instead. 540 00:20:22,340 --> 00:20:23,380 I'm like, sweet. 541 00:20:23,380 --> 00:20:26,500 I have other stuff to do. 542 00:20:26,500 --> 00:20:30,900 But then like, the nice part about it is too, 543 00:20:30,900 --> 00:20:33,980 is if I do wanna do a session with the sweater, 544 00:20:33,980 --> 00:20:35,060 so it like breaks up. 545 00:20:35,060 --> 00:20:38,160 So say you say a sweater takes you 80 hours, 546 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:39,980 you can break it up into hour chunks. 547 00:20:39,980 --> 00:20:42,240 So every time you accomplish an hour on the sweater, 548 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:44,020 you can check off that hour. 549 00:20:44,020 --> 00:20:46,740 And then it's like keeping track of how long 550 00:20:46,740 --> 00:20:49,520 it's taking you to make said item. 551 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:51,940 So if I see something and I'm like, 552 00:20:51,940 --> 00:20:53,820 I really don't wanna work on that right now, 553 00:20:53,820 --> 00:20:56,380 I can just like kind of skip it and work 554 00:20:56,380 --> 00:20:58,700 on a different chunk instead. 555 00:20:58,700 --> 00:21:02,420 But then at least I have an idea of what I'm skipping 556 00:21:02,420 --> 00:21:04,940 and how, and it will automatically, 557 00:21:04,940 --> 00:21:08,140 if I skip it, automatically adjust the schedule 558 00:21:08,140 --> 00:21:10,380 because it says, okay, well, you didn't do that. 559 00:21:10,380 --> 00:21:12,580 So now you have to do that here. 560 00:21:12,580 --> 00:21:16,640 And like forces me to like kind of face the deadline piece 561 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:18,320 that I give to myself. 562 00:21:19,420 --> 00:21:20,660 You know, whether it's like a real- 563 00:21:20,660 --> 00:21:23,740 It's really interesting. Yeah, it's really cool. 564 00:21:23,740 --> 00:21:26,860 It's not like a, you can obviously put like, 565 00:21:26,860 --> 00:21:28,620 if you have like work tasks or something 566 00:21:28,620 --> 00:21:30,240 and they do have true deadlines, 567 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:33,000 but like I have like a separate project on there 568 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:34,300 just for knitting projects. 569 00:21:34,300 --> 00:21:36,300 Like I put all my whips on there 570 00:21:36,300 --> 00:21:38,140 and like a lot of them are in timeout. 571 00:21:38,140 --> 00:21:38,980 I call them timeout. 572 00:21:38,980 --> 00:21:40,520 It's like you basically turn it off 573 00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:41,660 from being auto scheduled. 574 00:21:41,660 --> 00:21:43,660 So I have a bunch of them turned off. 575 00:21:43,660 --> 00:21:45,500 And then I have like my little brioche thing 576 00:21:45,500 --> 00:21:47,160 and the sweater in there. 577 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:50,820 And yeah, it just every so often it'll be like, 578 00:21:50,820 --> 00:21:53,500 and then if I wanna work on a chunk of this 579 00:21:53,500 --> 00:21:55,980 or a chunk of that, I just do that and I check it off 580 00:21:55,980 --> 00:21:58,760 and then it readjusts automatically. 581 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,340 So I enjoy that. 582 00:22:01,340 --> 00:22:02,740 I might need to try that. 583 00:22:02,740 --> 00:22:05,100 Yeah, it's pretty cool. 584 00:22:05,100 --> 00:22:08,980 I kinda like it cause it keeps me from, 585 00:22:08,980 --> 00:22:12,860 the biggest thing that I tend to with the hyper fixations 586 00:22:12,860 --> 00:22:15,200 is that I will hyper fixate 587 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,320 and then everything else will not get done. 588 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:21,640 And then I get anxious 589 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:23,960 because I didn't do the things I was supposed to do 590 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:26,840 because I really wanted to do this thing. 591 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:29,620 And then that anxiety usually turns into stress 592 00:22:29,620 --> 00:22:31,520 and the stress usually turns into depression. 593 00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,580 And then all of a sudden I'm in a terrible place. 594 00:22:33,580 --> 00:22:37,900 So I find that if I can just keep it, 595 00:22:39,500 --> 00:22:42,760 if I keep that thing going and I keep it accurate 596 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,640 as to what I'm doing and accomplishing, 597 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,040 like one of the things it tells me to do is on, 598 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:52,560 Tuesday nights, Wednesdays and Thursday mornings 599 00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:56,380 is at some point in that I need to edit the podcast episode. 600 00:22:56,380 --> 00:22:57,220 Nice. 601 00:22:57,220 --> 00:23:00,940 So like it will just as if I keep not doing it, 602 00:23:00,940 --> 00:23:03,280 it keeps moving it like, okay, you gotta do it here now. 603 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:04,120 You gotta do it here now. 604 00:23:04,120 --> 00:23:06,300 And it keeps like telling me like, hey, you need to do it. 605 00:23:06,300 --> 00:23:08,660 And it helps me because then I'm like, okay, okay, 606 00:23:08,660 --> 00:23:09,520 I can't do this right now. 607 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,540 I have to edit the, cause at this point, 608 00:23:11,540 --> 00:23:16,200 I know how long it takes me to edit an average episode. 609 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,240 Sometimes it takes me a little bit longer or shorter, 610 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,800 but an average episode takes me a certain amount of time. 611 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:22,660 So like about an hour-ish. 612 00:23:22,660 --> 00:23:25,340 So I have like this little hour task and I'm like, okay, 613 00:23:25,340 --> 00:23:27,580 I gotta do that now cause it's gonna be 10 o'clock 614 00:23:27,580 --> 00:23:28,520 and I will be passed. 615 00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,540 And then if I go past the 10 o'clock mark on Thursday, 616 00:23:31,540 --> 00:23:33,500 it like goes red and it like tells me, 617 00:23:33,500 --> 00:23:36,100 hey, you're gonna go past what you wanted to do. 618 00:23:36,100 --> 00:23:38,480 And it's cool. 619 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:39,320 I like it. 620 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:41,820 I feel like that would be really good with giving me 621 00:23:41,820 --> 00:23:45,040 something to do when I'm like, 622 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:46,340 you don't know what to do. 623 00:23:48,220 --> 00:23:50,460 I feel like all of this week, 624 00:23:50,460 --> 00:23:53,020 I'm not gonna have time to work on the desk until Saturday. 625 00:23:53,020 --> 00:23:53,980 It is Tuesday. 626 00:23:56,620 --> 00:23:57,920 So what do you do? 627 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:00,460 See, that's my problem. 628 00:24:00,460 --> 00:24:03,660 I am so hyper fixated on this thing that I don't have time 629 00:24:03,660 --> 00:24:06,720 to do yet that I can't do anything else. 630 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,180 Like I come home, I'm doing nothing else. 631 00:24:09,180 --> 00:24:11,580 I'm thinking about it, I'm researching it, 632 00:24:11,580 --> 00:24:14,400 but I'm not like being productive on it. 633 00:24:16,460 --> 00:24:18,580 But I feel like something like that, 634 00:24:18,580 --> 00:24:21,180 some kind of tool like that would give me an idea 635 00:24:21,180 --> 00:24:24,680 of something else to do while I'm waiting 636 00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:26,580 for the time to come. 637 00:24:26,580 --> 00:24:30,100 I mean, research is its own productivity in its way. 638 00:24:31,700 --> 00:24:32,540 Unless- 639 00:24:32,540 --> 00:24:34,700 There's only so many times that I can watch videos 640 00:24:34,700 --> 00:24:36,300 of how to strip things. 641 00:24:37,540 --> 00:24:38,380 I mean, furniture. 642 00:24:38,380 --> 00:24:39,700 They have a different way. 643 00:24:39,700 --> 00:24:42,020 I mean, furniture, really. 644 00:24:43,460 --> 00:24:44,900 No, it's all about the same. 645 00:24:46,460 --> 00:24:47,300 It's all about the same. 646 00:24:47,300 --> 00:24:51,780 Like there's only so many ways that you can do it. 647 00:24:51,780 --> 00:24:54,740 It all comes down to pretty much the same thing. 648 00:24:54,740 --> 00:24:58,820 Well, if your research is postponing something else 649 00:24:58,820 --> 00:25:02,820 and you've already figured it out, then yeah, it can be. 650 00:25:02,820 --> 00:25:04,860 It's repetitive, it's unnecessary, 651 00:25:04,860 --> 00:25:08,820 but I'm immersed in it, I'll get there. 652 00:25:08,820 --> 00:25:11,380 What do you do after you've done the hyperfixation thing? 653 00:25:11,380 --> 00:25:12,460 Oh, I've got plenty. 654 00:25:12,460 --> 00:25:14,980 I have my hyperfixation stagger. 655 00:25:17,020 --> 00:25:18,900 And I cycle through them. 656 00:25:18,900 --> 00:25:22,500 So I'm kind of lucky to an extent 657 00:25:22,500 --> 00:25:24,540 that my job has a pretty, 658 00:25:26,180 --> 00:25:27,420 it's got a routine to it. 659 00:25:27,420 --> 00:25:29,820 There are times, days where I'm like, 660 00:25:29,820 --> 00:25:31,340 okay, this day I have to get this done, 661 00:25:31,340 --> 00:25:33,020 this day I have to get this done. 662 00:25:33,020 --> 00:25:35,940 I have also spent a lot of time setting it up 663 00:25:35,940 --> 00:25:39,700 so my job can pretty much run with just a maintenance 664 00:25:39,700 --> 00:25:41,820 rather than me having to do the same thing every week. 665 00:25:41,820 --> 00:25:42,820 Like I just maintain it, 666 00:25:42,820 --> 00:25:44,540 which gives me some free time at work 667 00:25:44,540 --> 00:25:48,540 to like do stuff that my head focuses on outside of that, 668 00:25:48,540 --> 00:25:50,540 but I'm still getting everything done. 669 00:25:50,540 --> 00:25:53,460 And I have everybody at my work knows 670 00:25:53,460 --> 00:25:56,620 because I have created a system and made it very clear. 671 00:25:56,620 --> 00:25:58,580 If you were adding something to this routine 672 00:25:58,580 --> 00:26:00,380 that isn't routine, you need to write it down 673 00:26:00,380 --> 00:26:02,900 and give it to me because if you just tell me, 674 00:26:02,900 --> 00:26:05,060 it's likely not gonna happen. 675 00:26:05,060 --> 00:26:07,420 I will try to write it down too, 676 00:26:07,420 --> 00:26:11,060 but I've got one guy that hasn't quite figured that out 677 00:26:11,060 --> 00:26:12,740 and he'll tell me something like right when I walk in, 678 00:26:12,740 --> 00:26:13,900 I'm like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah. 679 00:26:13,900 --> 00:26:14,740 At the end of the day, he's like, 680 00:26:14,740 --> 00:26:15,560 did you do this? 681 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:16,400 I'm like, no. 682 00:26:17,260 --> 00:26:19,380 I'll do it now, I guess. 683 00:26:19,380 --> 00:26:21,300 I do the same thing with my bosses. 684 00:26:21,300 --> 00:26:23,500 If they're telling me something verbally, 685 00:26:23,500 --> 00:26:27,860 I say I need either an email or a sticky 686 00:26:27,860 --> 00:26:29,180 or it's not gonna get done. 687 00:26:29,180 --> 00:26:32,500 But I will, I have found ways to create, 688 00:26:32,500 --> 00:26:34,820 make my routine almost run itself. 689 00:26:34,820 --> 00:26:36,220 So I do have time when I'm like, 690 00:26:36,220 --> 00:26:37,400 because it happens all the time. 691 00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:39,600 I'm at work and all of a sudden I'm like, 692 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,780 this thing that I need to know right now 693 00:26:41,780 --> 00:26:44,380 and I need to like literally Google it in my office 694 00:26:44,380 --> 00:26:45,660 while I'm like looking at it. 695 00:26:45,660 --> 00:26:47,340 But everything else is done. 696 00:26:47,340 --> 00:26:49,100 So that is okay. 697 00:26:49,100 --> 00:26:50,700 I've also kind of created in my own head, 698 00:26:50,700 --> 00:26:51,820 like a reward system. 699 00:26:51,820 --> 00:26:56,020 So if there is like work that needs to get done, 700 00:26:56,020 --> 00:26:59,320 I'm like, okay, you need to get this done. 701 00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,340 The faster you get it done and the more accuracy, 702 00:27:01,340 --> 00:27:04,140 gotta be accurate, it's gotta be fast and accurate. 703 00:27:04,140 --> 00:27:06,460 Not only do you win points against all your other coworkers 704 00:27:06,460 --> 00:27:08,060 who aren't even playing this game. 705 00:27:08,060 --> 00:27:10,980 They don't need to know that. 706 00:27:10,980 --> 00:27:11,940 You're playing this game. 707 00:27:11,940 --> 00:27:13,820 You're the only one that needs to know. 708 00:27:13,820 --> 00:27:16,540 Then you have more time to do the thing 709 00:27:16,540 --> 00:27:18,980 that your brain really wants to do in that moment. 710 00:27:18,980 --> 00:27:20,900 So it's kind of like a racing game. 711 00:27:21,820 --> 00:27:23,660 But again, you gotta remind your brain 712 00:27:23,660 --> 00:27:25,220 that there are rules and some of those rules 713 00:27:25,220 --> 00:27:26,580 are accuracy and correctness. 714 00:27:26,580 --> 00:27:29,260 You can't just like have asked that. 715 00:27:29,260 --> 00:27:31,620 And then I have rules after that, like after work. 716 00:27:31,620 --> 00:27:34,620 Okay, like today I'm gonna go home and do this. 717 00:27:34,620 --> 00:27:37,100 And this is the thing that I'm gonna do. 718 00:27:37,100 --> 00:27:39,320 And a lot of times I'm like, okay, I can cycle through. 719 00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,060 I've got like four hyper fixations going on at the same time 720 00:27:42,060 --> 00:27:43,300 and I can kind of cycle through them 721 00:27:43,300 --> 00:27:46,200 either all in the same day or one day I'll do some, 722 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:47,700 one day I'll do the other. 723 00:27:47,700 --> 00:27:50,160 If I get one that comes up out of nowhere 724 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:54,640 that hasn't had a spot yet, I will give that a day. 725 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,260 So long again, gotta get the important stuff done first. 726 00:27:57,260 --> 00:27:58,740 But then I give that a full day. 727 00:27:58,740 --> 00:28:00,900 A full day for me to like do whatever the heck I need to do 728 00:28:00,900 --> 00:28:01,780 to like look at it. 729 00:28:01,780 --> 00:28:04,700 And if it maintains itself past that day, 730 00:28:04,700 --> 00:28:07,060 it gets shoved in with the other hyper fixations 731 00:28:07,060 --> 00:28:08,340 and then we schedule it. 732 00:28:08,340 --> 00:28:10,300 And it's not a set schedule 733 00:28:10,300 --> 00:28:11,860 because it's not like I'm okay, 734 00:28:11,860 --> 00:28:13,800 this time I'm gonna do this, this time I'm gonna do this. 735 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,320 It's just a, what do I feel like doing right now? 736 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:18,780 I'm gonna go do this thing. 737 00:28:18,780 --> 00:28:20,980 I had five options. 738 00:28:20,980 --> 00:28:22,980 And I could, it could be like 10 minutes of it. 739 00:28:22,980 --> 00:28:24,120 It could be all night of it. 740 00:28:24,120 --> 00:28:26,760 It can be like, yep, I'm gonna do this until dinner time. 741 00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:28,060 And I wanna watch this show 742 00:28:28,060 --> 00:28:29,800 and I can't like play my game 743 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:31,340 and watch this show at the same time. 744 00:28:31,340 --> 00:28:33,900 So that's when I'm gonna knit or draw 745 00:28:33,900 --> 00:28:37,220 or do whatever the heck I'm feeling at that point in time. 746 00:28:37,220 --> 00:28:39,420 I, and I add that reward system to it. 747 00:28:39,420 --> 00:28:41,780 It's again, my own mental reward system 748 00:28:41,780 --> 00:28:44,380 that nobody else is playing this game guys. 749 00:28:44,380 --> 00:28:47,060 Like, so you can make up whatever rules you want. 750 00:28:47,060 --> 00:28:48,500 The biggest rules you should just make sure 751 00:28:48,500 --> 00:28:50,800 that are stuck in there is that if it's important, 752 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:53,140 it gets done fast and accurately. 753 00:28:53,140 --> 00:28:54,100 And that helps. 754 00:28:54,100 --> 00:28:56,460 Other than that, you can put in whatever rules you want 755 00:28:56,460 --> 00:28:57,580 and however many points. 756 00:28:57,580 --> 00:28:59,460 And you can like have your rival in it 757 00:28:59,460 --> 00:29:01,300 that doesn't even know that they're your rival in it, 758 00:29:01,300 --> 00:29:02,140 but they are. 759 00:29:02,140 --> 00:29:05,980 So you, your point system in your head is a Pokemon game. 760 00:29:05,980 --> 00:29:06,820 Kind of. 761 00:29:06,820 --> 00:29:08,620 Okay. Just making sure there's a rival. 762 00:29:08,620 --> 00:29:11,460 There's a reward system. 763 00:29:11,460 --> 00:29:12,620 It's a Pokemon game. 764 00:29:12,620 --> 00:29:14,620 That file person over in that other town. 765 00:29:14,620 --> 00:29:16,340 Yeah, I'm like 800 points. 766 00:29:17,940 --> 00:29:20,620 I mean, it's not really a competition. 767 00:29:20,620 --> 00:29:22,140 It's really not. 768 00:29:22,140 --> 00:29:23,460 Given the, given the opponents, 769 00:29:23,460 --> 00:29:25,420 it's not really a competition. 770 00:29:25,420 --> 00:29:26,380 I'm ancient. 771 00:29:26,380 --> 00:29:28,700 I know all the things, sorry guys. 772 00:29:28,700 --> 00:29:31,340 I kind of have the grandfathered in a, 773 00:29:31,340 --> 00:29:32,860 but they don't have to know that. 774 00:29:32,860 --> 00:29:33,860 No, oh my God. 775 00:29:33,860 --> 00:29:35,180 No, they don't. 776 00:29:35,180 --> 00:29:38,020 But that is, that's how I kind of like do it. 777 00:29:38,020 --> 00:29:38,980 And it works out for me. 778 00:29:38,980 --> 00:29:40,540 And every once in a while it gets into a point 779 00:29:40,540 --> 00:29:44,500 where I am like, none of these things I want to do right now. 780 00:29:44,500 --> 00:29:49,380 And then that's when I play my crosswords. 781 00:29:50,300 --> 00:29:51,140 Very good. 782 00:29:51,140 --> 00:29:52,380 I do crosswords. 783 00:29:52,380 --> 00:29:56,060 They're phone crosswords, so I don't have to erase paper. 784 00:29:56,060 --> 00:29:57,420 But it keeps your mind sharp 785 00:29:57,420 --> 00:29:58,420 and it gives you something to do. 786 00:29:58,420 --> 00:29:59,380 And when you get bored of that, 787 00:29:59,380 --> 00:30:00,700 usually you're ready to move back 788 00:30:00,700 --> 00:30:02,740 onto one of your other fixations. 789 00:30:02,740 --> 00:30:05,540 You know, the wordle sometimes like does that for me. 790 00:30:05,540 --> 00:30:06,380 Yeah. 791 00:30:06,380 --> 00:30:07,900 Like it resets my brain. 792 00:30:07,900 --> 00:30:10,100 If I'm like, if I'm having like a similar. 793 00:30:10,100 --> 00:30:10,940 If you're having a really. 794 00:30:10,940 --> 00:30:12,820 Yeah, I'm like, oh, I don't know which one to do right now. 795 00:30:12,820 --> 00:30:13,660 Crosswords are good. 796 00:30:13,660 --> 00:30:14,500 Did I wordle today? 797 00:30:14,500 --> 00:30:15,340 I'm gonna wordle. 798 00:30:15,340 --> 00:30:18,060 Any kind of word game is usually pretty good. 799 00:30:18,060 --> 00:30:20,180 Or coloring, I still have the coloring game 800 00:30:20,180 --> 00:30:24,020 that I go into every once in a while when I'm like. 801 00:30:24,020 --> 00:30:24,860 Love coloring. 802 00:30:24,860 --> 00:30:26,060 Right. 803 00:30:26,060 --> 00:30:27,940 And if I'm really not feeling it, I'm like. 804 00:30:27,940 --> 00:30:28,940 I'm gonna color. 805 00:30:28,940 --> 00:30:30,140 Back in the day. 806 00:30:30,140 --> 00:30:34,060 I haven't opened that in probably three years. 807 00:30:34,060 --> 00:30:35,180 I still have my phone. 808 00:30:35,180 --> 00:30:37,180 I still do some of them. 809 00:30:37,180 --> 00:30:39,660 Because every once in a while, I'm like, you know what? 810 00:30:39,660 --> 00:30:41,380 I don't know if anyone else has had this 811 00:30:41,380 --> 00:30:43,220 where like you're looking at something 812 00:30:43,220 --> 00:30:45,300 and just words don't make sense. 813 00:30:45,300 --> 00:30:46,500 Yeah. At all. 814 00:30:46,500 --> 00:30:47,580 And you're like. 815 00:30:47,580 --> 00:30:48,420 Yeah, this. 816 00:30:48,420 --> 00:30:49,340 I get very concerned. 817 00:30:49,340 --> 00:30:51,100 This one isn't happening. 818 00:30:51,100 --> 00:30:54,060 And so then coloring is a good game. 819 00:30:54,060 --> 00:30:55,860 Or one of those like matchy games. 820 00:30:55,860 --> 00:30:58,260 Like just something bright and calm and colorful. 821 00:30:58,260 --> 00:30:59,540 Like a calm colorful one. 822 00:30:59,540 --> 00:31:02,260 And it just sort of helps you reset. 823 00:31:02,260 --> 00:31:04,740 And then when you get bored of it or you're like, 824 00:31:04,740 --> 00:31:05,900 okay, yeah, I'm ready. 825 00:31:05,900 --> 00:31:08,540 Then I feel like it just gives you that nice boost 826 00:31:08,540 --> 00:31:11,100 that you needed to get back into whatever. 827 00:31:11,100 --> 00:31:12,460 And again, it doesn't always work. 828 00:31:12,460 --> 00:31:14,220 Sometimes you just have days where you know what? 829 00:31:14,220 --> 00:31:15,540 You're just gonna be lying there all day. 830 00:31:15,540 --> 00:31:18,820 Like looking at YouTube or whatever the heck. 831 00:31:18,820 --> 00:31:21,180 And that's okay too. 832 00:31:21,180 --> 00:31:25,500 And it happens to me with cable instructions sometimes. 833 00:31:25,500 --> 00:31:27,340 Like it says C4B and I'm like. 834 00:31:27,340 --> 00:31:28,180 Oh geez, yeah, no. 835 00:31:28,180 --> 00:31:30,140 Four or two. 836 00:31:30,140 --> 00:31:31,860 I can't remember. I don't know what that means. 837 00:31:31,860 --> 00:31:32,700 No, I know. 838 00:31:32,700 --> 00:31:33,540 I know what it means. 839 00:31:33,540 --> 00:31:34,740 I'm just, it's just like, 840 00:31:34,740 --> 00:31:36,580 my brain will just like fart at the moment. 841 00:31:36,580 --> 00:31:40,020 And then like the other piece of it is a brioche. 842 00:31:40,020 --> 00:31:42,700 Like, but not looking at a brioche instruction. 843 00:31:42,700 --> 00:31:45,740 Doing the, like, especially when I get to the end of a round 844 00:31:45,740 --> 00:31:46,580 I'm like, wait a second. 845 00:31:46,580 --> 00:31:47,500 Do I go back? 846 00:31:47,500 --> 00:31:48,900 Do I put it forward? 847 00:31:48,900 --> 00:31:49,980 Back forward. 848 00:31:49,980 --> 00:31:51,460 And then if I start doing that, 849 00:31:51,460 --> 00:31:53,660 I'm like, you are going in timeout. 850 00:31:53,660 --> 00:31:54,500 You need to go right here. 851 00:31:54,500 --> 00:31:56,740 I'm just gonna push you away. 852 00:31:58,660 --> 00:31:59,500 Yep. 853 00:31:59,500 --> 00:32:00,980 No, sometimes you're looking at the pattern 854 00:32:00,980 --> 00:32:05,260 and you're like, nah, nah, that's not happening right now. 855 00:32:05,260 --> 00:32:07,020 My brain has said, no. 856 00:32:07,980 --> 00:32:09,820 You're not reading today. 857 00:32:09,820 --> 00:32:10,660 Yes. 858 00:32:12,340 --> 00:32:13,780 Well, I think the most important thing 859 00:32:13,780 --> 00:32:16,580 that we're gonna take away from all of this is that. 860 00:32:16,580 --> 00:32:18,180 Sometimes your brain just don't wanna do it. 861 00:32:18,180 --> 00:32:20,060 Sometimes your brain don't wanna do it. 862 00:32:20,060 --> 00:32:21,780 And you gotta follow that dopamine 863 00:32:21,780 --> 00:32:23,740 and you gotta follow that fixation. 864 00:32:23,740 --> 00:32:25,020 And I think that's fine. 865 00:32:25,020 --> 00:32:27,060 Feed the fixation responsibly. 866 00:32:27,060 --> 00:32:28,180 Responsibly. 867 00:32:28,180 --> 00:32:30,780 Feed fixations responsibly. 868 00:32:30,780 --> 00:32:31,860 I agree with that. 869 00:32:31,860 --> 00:32:36,860 And always know that, I mean, at least I always know. 870 00:32:37,460 --> 00:32:39,620 Old reliable will still be there. 871 00:32:39,620 --> 00:32:40,460 Oh yeah. 872 00:32:40,460 --> 00:32:43,140 I will always go back to knitting. 873 00:32:43,140 --> 00:32:44,620 I don't have a lot of other crafts. 874 00:32:44,620 --> 00:32:45,780 Like this is pretty much it. 875 00:32:45,780 --> 00:32:48,260 So if I'm not feeling it, I put it down 876 00:32:48,260 --> 00:32:50,340 and when I'm feeling it, I pick it back up. 877 00:32:50,340 --> 00:32:51,900 I don't owe anybody my knitting. 878 00:32:52,780 --> 00:32:53,860 It's mine. 879 00:32:53,860 --> 00:32:54,700 That's fair. 880 00:32:54,700 --> 00:32:55,520 So. 881 00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:57,140 I need that on a t-shirt and a sticker. 882 00:32:57,140 --> 00:32:58,700 And a button. 883 00:32:58,700 --> 00:32:59,540 Give me a pen. 884 00:32:59,540 --> 00:33:00,380 It's true. 885 00:33:00,380 --> 00:33:03,180 I don't owe anybody my knitting. 886 00:33:03,180 --> 00:33:04,020 It's true. 887 00:33:04,020 --> 00:33:04,980 Well, I just, I don't know. 888 00:33:04,980 --> 00:33:06,540 It's true, yeah. 889 00:33:06,540 --> 00:33:08,820 Back in the day, I had this excellent therapist, 890 00:33:08,820 --> 00:33:10,780 the one that we used to call Crazy Bruce. 891 00:33:10,780 --> 00:33:13,180 And Crazy Bruce used to say, like, you know, 892 00:33:13,180 --> 00:33:15,380 on days when things are really, really bad 893 00:33:15,380 --> 00:33:17,580 and he was more talking, not about hyper fixation, 894 00:33:17,580 --> 00:33:20,380 but talking about when you're really down, 895 00:33:20,380 --> 00:33:21,620 he would be like, sit down, 896 00:33:21,620 --> 00:33:23,660 make a list of all the things that like, 897 00:33:23,660 --> 00:33:25,660 world ending things that need to be done. 898 00:33:25,660 --> 00:33:27,940 Like if you don't do this, 899 00:33:27,940 --> 00:33:29,340 something really bad is gonna happen. 900 00:33:29,340 --> 00:33:31,260 Like you have to go to work 901 00:33:31,260 --> 00:33:33,620 because you need to pay your mortgage. 902 00:33:33,620 --> 00:33:35,300 You don't wanna get fired. 903 00:33:35,300 --> 00:33:36,580 You know, things that need to be done. 904 00:33:36,580 --> 00:33:38,500 You have a child, that child needs to be fed. 905 00:33:38,500 --> 00:33:41,100 That child needs to be bathed and put to bed. 906 00:33:41,100 --> 00:33:43,460 And you know, make that list of things. 907 00:33:43,460 --> 00:33:47,340 And some days, that list, that's all you have to do. 908 00:33:47,340 --> 00:33:48,780 That's all you have to do today. 909 00:33:48,780 --> 00:33:51,020 And it's just the have to's. 910 00:33:51,020 --> 00:33:54,420 And I kind of look at it in that vein too. 911 00:33:54,420 --> 00:33:57,660 It's like, this is not a have to. 912 00:33:57,660 --> 00:33:58,500 No. 913 00:33:58,500 --> 00:34:01,500 This is a, I should do this if I want to. 914 00:34:01,500 --> 00:34:04,100 And if my brain is going off in a different direction 915 00:34:04,100 --> 00:34:06,140 and telling me that I wanna do something else, 916 00:34:06,140 --> 00:34:09,660 then I should not be beating myself up 917 00:34:09,660 --> 00:34:12,940 because I'm not doing the want to. 918 00:34:12,940 --> 00:34:15,700 Because I don't want to do it right now. 919 00:34:15,700 --> 00:34:19,260 You won't get a lien on your house for not knitting. 920 00:34:19,260 --> 00:34:20,100 Right. 921 00:34:20,100 --> 00:34:22,700 I don't owe somebody. 922 00:34:22,700 --> 00:34:24,980 This sweater is for me. 923 00:34:24,980 --> 00:34:25,820 It's for me. 924 00:34:25,820 --> 00:34:26,640 And you know what? 925 00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:29,560 Even if the project you're working on has a deadline 926 00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,540 and you miss it, no one's gonna die. 927 00:34:32,540 --> 00:34:33,620 The world will continue. 928 00:34:33,620 --> 00:34:34,500 It's okay. 929 00:34:34,500 --> 00:34:35,340 Like, you know what? 930 00:34:35,340 --> 00:34:37,140 So maybe somebody gets the baby shower gift 931 00:34:37,140 --> 00:34:38,660 a few weeks late. 932 00:34:38,660 --> 00:34:42,140 Maybe it's a Christmas present and not a birthday present. 933 00:34:42,140 --> 00:34:45,980 You know, maybe you have to tell the test person 934 00:34:45,980 --> 00:34:48,580 that you're knitting for, you know what, I'm sorry. 935 00:34:48,580 --> 00:34:52,780 Be honest, life happens and this isn't working for me. 936 00:34:52,780 --> 00:34:55,060 And you know, usually if you give them an apology, 937 00:34:55,060 --> 00:34:57,380 they are generally very understanding. 938 00:34:59,540 --> 00:35:03,460 But nothing is going to collapse 939 00:35:03,460 --> 00:35:06,500 because you didn't knit or crochet 940 00:35:06,500 --> 00:35:08,740 or do whatever craft you do. 941 00:35:08,740 --> 00:35:11,380 And if deadlines stress you out, don't take commissions. 942 00:35:11,380 --> 00:35:12,220 Yeah. 943 00:35:12,220 --> 00:35:13,180 Or test knits. 944 00:35:13,180 --> 00:35:14,020 I don't, yeah. 945 00:35:14,020 --> 00:35:15,540 Honestly, like don't give it to your- 946 00:35:15,540 --> 00:35:17,060 If that's gonna bother you, don't do it. 947 00:35:17,060 --> 00:35:17,880 I don't. 948 00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:21,060 If you know that like you enjoy making things to sell, 949 00:35:21,060 --> 00:35:26,060 like make them and complete them and then sell them. 950 00:35:26,100 --> 00:35:29,580 Don't like promise someone that you're gonna do it 951 00:35:29,580 --> 00:35:32,420 like by this deadline and then you stress yourself out 952 00:35:32,420 --> 00:35:33,540 because you can't make it. 953 00:35:33,540 --> 00:35:34,500 Yeah, that's me. 954 00:35:34,500 --> 00:35:35,620 I don't do commissions. 955 00:35:35,620 --> 00:35:36,460 Don't do it. 956 00:35:36,460 --> 00:35:37,300 Don't do it, friends. 957 00:35:37,300 --> 00:35:40,500 In fact, I go out of my way to quote somebody 958 00:35:40,500 --> 00:35:45,300 like ridiculous prices to deter them. 959 00:35:45,300 --> 00:35:46,820 If they pay the ridiculous price, 960 00:35:46,820 --> 00:35:48,700 then you're like, okay, this is worth it. 961 00:35:48,700 --> 00:35:50,020 Yeah, yeah. 962 00:35:50,020 --> 00:35:51,740 But mostly it's just a deterrent 963 00:35:51,740 --> 00:35:54,540 so that you don't ask me to do things for you. 964 00:35:54,540 --> 00:35:56,500 Ma'am, how much for those gloves? 965 00:35:56,500 --> 00:35:58,540 $40 million. 966 00:35:58,540 --> 00:36:01,660 They're encrusted with diamonds. 967 00:36:01,660 --> 00:36:04,060 $852. 968 00:36:04,060 --> 00:36:05,820 I started doing that with my kids when they're like, 969 00:36:05,820 --> 00:36:08,460 miss, how much would it take to bribe you 970 00:36:08,460 --> 00:36:10,460 that I don't have to do this work? 971 00:36:10,460 --> 00:36:15,460 And I came up with my top step salary 972 00:36:16,300 --> 00:36:19,700 times 25 years that I will be here 973 00:36:19,700 --> 00:36:23,620 plus the cost of my insurance for those 25 years 974 00:36:24,620 --> 00:36:27,300 for when I get fired because I let you bribe me. 975 00:36:27,300 --> 00:36:30,420 And I'm like, if you can pay that upfront, 976 00:36:30,420 --> 00:36:32,460 I want it in cash upfront, all of it. 977 00:36:32,460 --> 00:36:33,300 In cash. 978 00:36:33,300 --> 00:36:34,140 No checks. 979 00:36:34,140 --> 00:36:34,980 No checks. 980 00:36:34,980 --> 00:36:40,700 I want my full salary for 25 years plus insurance upfront. 981 00:36:40,700 --> 00:36:42,420 I will let you bribe me. 982 00:36:42,420 --> 00:36:44,220 But if you can't give me that, and you know what? 983 00:36:44,220 --> 00:36:45,860 Surprisingly, I know you're shocked, 984 00:36:45,860 --> 00:36:47,180 none of them have taken me up on that. 985 00:36:47,180 --> 00:36:48,380 None of them just have that? 986 00:36:48,380 --> 00:36:49,700 No takers yet. 987 00:36:49,700 --> 00:36:51,780 They're like, miss, what if I just buy you a coffee? 988 00:36:51,780 --> 00:36:53,500 And I'm like, no. 989 00:36:53,500 --> 00:36:54,340 Totally worth it. 990 00:36:54,340 --> 00:36:55,180 It's not worth it. 991 00:36:55,180 --> 00:36:56,140 Totally worth it. 992 00:36:56,140 --> 00:36:56,980 You know what? 993 00:36:56,980 --> 00:36:57,820 Right, PSA. 994 00:36:57,820 --> 00:36:58,660 For you? 995 00:36:58,660 --> 00:36:59,500 No. 996 00:37:00,620 --> 00:37:01,660 I'm gonna say that next time. 997 00:37:01,660 --> 00:37:02,500 For you? 998 00:37:02,500 --> 00:37:03,340 No. 999 00:37:03,340 --> 00:37:05,700 No. 1000 00:37:05,700 --> 00:37:07,660 Yeah, and then you're gonna have somebody going, 1001 00:37:07,660 --> 00:37:08,500 what about me? 1002 00:37:08,500 --> 00:37:10,740 And I was like, especially not you. 1003 00:37:12,740 --> 00:37:13,900 Lost that guy. 1004 00:37:17,260 --> 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