1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:00,840 I'm Andrea. 2 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:01,680 I'm Meg. 3 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:02,500 I'm Tina. 4 00:00:02,500 --> 00:00:03,600 And I'm Jess. 5 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:06,080 And this is Pardon My Stash. 6 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:19,080 Welcome to Pardon My Stash, a podcast about knitting within the fiber arts and how awesome it is. 7 00:00:19,080 --> 00:00:24,080 Before we get into today's topics, let's find out what everybody's working on. 8 00:00:24,080 --> 00:00:24,880 Andrea? 9 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:30,520 I am working on the Arachne shawl by Claire Slade or Verily Knits. 10 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:36,200 I am using Plies and Hellhounds, Penny in Flower Moon and Nightmare. 11 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:41,080 And this is my PMS matchy make along thing that I'm doing. 12 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:41,880 Yeah. 13 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:44,120 What a great, great thing you're doing. 14 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:45,000 I have even done- 15 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:46,480 I really like that project. 16 00:00:46,480 --> 00:00:49,880 I have even done like two rows since the last time we talked. 17 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:51,880 Ooh. 18 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:54,800 I'm going to give that a round of applause because I know how much you've done. 19 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:55,720 You've been struggling. 20 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:56,160 Yeah. 21 00:00:56,160 --> 00:01:02,480 So I started today without the glove and let me tell you, as soon as I touched the yarn, 22 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:04,440 I was like, no, that's not for that. 23 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:05,520 Not yet. 24 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:07,000 Not yet. 25 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:07,960 You'll get there though. 26 00:01:07,960 --> 00:01:10,760 Yeah, I know. 27 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:12,960 But how far are you getting it so far? 28 00:01:12,960 --> 00:01:15,880 How much Arachne can we see? 29 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,600 I'm still about halfway through the spider. 30 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:19,720 Ooh, yeah. 31 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:21,880 Oh, no. 32 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:25,640 I won't ask you any more questions about it because now we have drop stitches. 33 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,800 So let's go to Jess. 34 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:36,760 I am working on the Between the Dragon and His Rat by Kathleen Sperling. 35 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,840 I am at more than halfway through. 36 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:44,800 I'm on the big dragon part, so I'm getting to the part of the pattern that I altered. 37 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,520 So we'll see how that looks when it comes out. 38 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,600 I think it'll be fine. 39 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:57,960 But yeah, I'm doing this in the Critical Hit Dyes Paladin with the Colorways Copper Dragon 40 00:01:57,960 --> 00:01:59,600 and Thunderwave. 41 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:04,640 And this is my, pardon my stash, matchy make-along with Meg. 42 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:06,000 We're both doing wraps. 43 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:06,920 I'm so sorry. 44 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:07,960 It's all good. 45 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:09,160 I'm still on the hub. 46 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:13,840 Look, if it really comes down to it, there are two dragons on this looking at each other 47 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:15,440 and they match. 48 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:16,200 That's fair. 49 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:17,360 That counts. 50 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:19,320 So it counts either way. 51 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:24,960 So don't feel, I would say don't feel pressured to... 52 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:26,080 There are a lot. 53 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:33,000 And the start of yours is a lot more, there's a lot more to it than mine was basically do 54 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:35,760 guard her and then join in the round and hope you didn't twist it. 55 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:41,400 And yours is like, hey, you got to do like 12 rounds and do like a Pico and all this 56 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:42,240 other stuff. 57 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:44,040 And before you even start the fun part. 58 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:46,480 So I mean, I just want to get to the color work. 59 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:47,280 I get it. 60 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,920 But yeah, otherwise I am enjoying it. 61 00:02:50,920 --> 00:02:54,000 And it's quite large. 62 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:55,720 It's going to be huge. 63 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:56,680 You do it in the round. 64 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:57,800 It's going to block so big too. 65 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,080 And then you stick it. 66 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:04,200 But you have to stick it first and then block it and then tie off the stick. 67 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:09,680 So that's going to be like, oh man, I hope nothing happens to it in the interim. 68 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:13,280 That is so it's interesting and I get to stick a thing. 69 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:15,360 So that's fun. 70 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:17,840 That sounds like anxiety. 71 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:20,520 So moving on from anxiety. 72 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:23,480 Wait, you can't move on from anxiety and then go to me. 73 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:25,040 That's that doesn't make any sense. 74 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:26,160 We're going from anxiety. 75 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:27,600 Ville to anxiety city. 76 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:31,440 OK, anxiety city, anxiety metropolis right here. 77 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:33,320 That's me. 78 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:36,960 I'm working on actually a pretty low anxiety project right now. 79 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,400 I'm working on my second call I. 80 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:41,960 Be by a space Trico. 81 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:46,280 I am done with the collar and I'm just working on the raglan increases. 82 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:47,240 And I've done this before. 83 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:49,320 So this is a very no anxiety project. 84 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:52,520 This is just kind of going going with the flow. 85 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:57,000 I'm having a rough like spring with knitting. 86 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:58,880 And I said this a few episodes ago. 87 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,280 This is not my time of year to cast things on. 88 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:04,520 So I'm just kind of going with the flow at this point when I have time to knit, 89 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:09,120 which isn't a lot. I don't know if I've done two rows since the last time we talked, 90 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:11,720 because that's how my nights have been going lately. 91 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:16,360 Well, it's it's the end of quarter three in the beginning of quarter four. 92 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:19,560 And grad school has started and just all the things. 93 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:21,600 But the yarn is really nice. 94 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:25,640 It's fiber spades, vivacious, decay and the color way heavenly. 95 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:27,520 And I absolutely love it. 96 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:28,920 So it's a real treat to work with. 97 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:30,400 It is really pretty. 98 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:31,000 Thanks. 99 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:31,840 It really is. 100 00:04:31,840 --> 00:04:33,680 I love this color so much. 101 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:35,920 I want to put it on everything. 102 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,280 It doesn't have like it defies description. 103 00:04:38,280 --> 00:04:41,040 You're a decent kind of I love it. 104 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:42,240 What are you working on? 105 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:46,400 So for me, I am working on extending my patterns. 106 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:50,320 That's something I wanted to do last year, and I never got to it 107 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:53,920 for many obvious reasons. 108 00:04:54,840 --> 00:04:59,720 So now that I'm feeling a little bit better, I'm trying to. 109 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,400 And when I say extend my patterns, 110 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:05,560 give them additional yarn weights is my big thing, 111 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:09,360 because I already have a lot of sizes available in many of my patterns. 112 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:15,680 So being able to do the same pattern in different yarn weights, that makes sense. 113 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:21,120 So for my seed, I'm not going as far down as fingering weight 114 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,200 because it just won't look right. 115 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:28,600 I've swatched it and it just doesn't have the same oomph as the bulky does. 116 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,320 So like in some cases, that's yeah, it doesn't. 117 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:35,440 Just, you know, I am going to I'm going to try a decay and see how that goes. 118 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:37,960 I know the worsted looks good because I have the worsted on my head 119 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,200 and it came out fine. It does look good. 120 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:43,720 But the I'm going to see what a decay looks like. 121 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:46,080 I have an idea of how to make the decay pop a little bit, 122 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:49,760 but I might stop it at worsted, but we'll see how it goes. 123 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:54,280 So right now I have casting on the super bulky version, 124 00:05:54,280 --> 00:05:56,400 which I know is going to look good. 125 00:05:56,400 --> 00:06:02,080 And it's the yarn is something for my stash. 126 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:05,000 Be sure to check out our website, part of my stash dot com 127 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:08,400 for more information, as well as pictures regarding our current projects, 128 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:11,240 patterns and yarns. 129 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:17,480 So for today, we are going to get into an interesting topic. 130 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:19,280 That's what I'll say. 131 00:06:19,280 --> 00:06:26,240 Basically, the idea of the usage of the word addiction 132 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:31,320 or addictive type of keywords when we're talking about our yarn stash 133 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:34,600 and stash is actually one of those words. 134 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:41,600 It can be a reference to, you know, drug usage or addiction. 135 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:46,360 And I've been seeing a lot of talk online about 136 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:53,680 kind of moving away from stash and hoard and yarn addiction 137 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,240 and all these different types of terminology 138 00:06:56,240 --> 00:07:02,440 to kind of separate, you know, a true illness, 139 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:04,760 something that people really suffer from. 140 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:12,760 And, you know, the idea of casually maybe over buying 141 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:17,400 or having a large, you know, collection or what have you of yarn. 142 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,640 And I wanted to bring it up to you guys and see what you think about 143 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:26,600 the first the just the different types of terminology. 144 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:32,880 And if you think that it might be problematic to use the terms 145 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:37,960 that are related to a potential illness or addiction or anything like that, 146 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:39,800 when it comes to our yarn stash. 147 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:44,840 I don't think the word stash necessarily needs to like carry a heavy weight with it. 148 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:49,760 I do think it's problematic when you tie it in with kind of like 149 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:53,320 mimicry or ideology of like being an addict. 150 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:57,080 Like you brought up buying a lot of stash. 151 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:01,480 You know, if people are joking about addiction, 152 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:05,360 I think that's where it crosses the line into maybe being a little bit problematic. 153 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:11,200 The word itself, I don't I don't necessarily think is problematic. 154 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:12,960 I don't know if you guys agree. 155 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:15,240 I think it depends on the context. 156 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:18,360 Yeah. And the person, too, really. 157 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:22,320 Because, yeah, because I feel like like for me, when I thought of yarn stash, 158 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:24,280 I thought of like stashing away. 159 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:25,240 Right. Yeah. 160 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:26,800 So you're like, I'm stashing my yarn away. 161 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:27,960 Same thing with I see. 162 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:31,680 I like hoard because I think of dragons and this is these are my treasures. 163 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:33,560 Yes. And yes. 164 00:08:33,560 --> 00:08:35,160 And they're neatly packed away. 165 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:36,680 So it doesn't bother me. 166 00:08:36,680 --> 00:08:40,960 But I could see how in that context can be different for different people. 167 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:46,920 So I think in that kind of a respect, it's kind of base by base. 168 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:50,640 I don't think it necessarily has to have negative connotations, 169 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:55,280 but you should be aware of your like your fellow people that are talking about it 170 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:59,440 and use what they prefer if they ask you to kind of a thing. 171 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:04,200 I know me personally, when I first started using my account and you're trying to, 172 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:08,440 you know, get, you know, some kind of virality with any of the posts that you're doing. 173 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:10,560 You try to use hashtags that everybody else is using. 174 00:09:10,560 --> 00:09:16,080 And at the time, really popular hashtags were like yarn addict, yarn addict. 175 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:18,480 Yarn addiction, stuff like that. 176 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:23,000 So in my earlier posts, I definitely those hashtags are probably somewhere 177 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:24,320 ladled in there. 178 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:30,000 But the more I thought about it, I was like, am I a yarn addict, though? 179 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:32,160 That seems kind of excessive. 180 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:36,400 So I've pulled that from hashtags that I use. 181 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:43,440 I try really hard not to use anything, especially explicitly about addiction. 182 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,320 I just feel like that gets gets a little dicey. 183 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:50,320 And I feel like it's especially because there are people close to me in my life 184 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:52,280 that deal with addiction. 185 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:57,280 And I don't want to necessarily like glorify that in any capacity, 186 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:59,440 especially when I know that it's struggle. 187 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:05,720 I know that there's a hard kind of hard life with that when you're trying to deal with 188 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:06,760 addiction as a whole. 189 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:08,400 So what about you, Dre? 190 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:12,840 Like Meg, I really don't see a problem with the with the terms stash. 191 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:19,440 I've always used the word stash and I've never really associated it with any kind of 192 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:20,520 negative connotation. 193 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:24,880 I've never seen it applied with a negative connotation either. 194 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:30,520 So I've always been very comfortable with calling it my stash because I've accumulated 195 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:34,480 it and I'm saving it for later. 196 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:41,200 But like you, I also don't use the term addiction with anything that I'm doing because just 197 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:45,520 like in general, because I don't think that I really have an addiction to anything. 198 00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:48,680 So I don't think that that's something that I should apply to myself. 199 00:10:48,680 --> 00:10:52,800 And I don't think that it should be made light of for people who, like you said, have real 200 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:55,440 problems and have real struggles. 201 00:10:55,440 --> 00:11:02,640 And I think that as a community, we should be a little bit more like aware of that. 202 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:07,120 I think it's a lot like there's. 203 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:11,480 It's kind of like when people say like, oh my God, I have to clean my house. 204 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:13,720 I'm so OCD. 205 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:17,920 And that term gets thrown around very lightly. 206 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:24,560 And the biggest problem with that, I think, is that it kind of pigeonholes what what OCD 207 00:11:24,560 --> 00:11:26,160 is. 208 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:32,720 And so then that makes it so that people who don't fit into that mold of OCD, if you if 209 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:37,440 you're not an obsessive cleaner, well, you don't have it, not realizing that there are 210 00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:40,360 many, many different types. 211 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:46,580 But then when you make light of it, you know, when somebody has an addiction, they cannot 212 00:11:46,580 --> 00:11:54,240 physically be away from that habit, that activity, their body goes through withdrawal if they 213 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:57,200 can't do it. 214 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:04,520 If you are somebody that is literally cannot stop shopping for yarn and that's a legitimate 215 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:08,000 addiction, that's a legitimate problem. 216 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:09,320 And that's not something we should be. 217 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:12,680 We should be making light of either. 218 00:12:12,680 --> 00:12:16,160 But for most of us, it's just we really enjoy buying yarn. 219 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:19,040 We really enjoy collecting it. 220 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:20,480 And that's not an addiction. 221 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:22,040 That's just a hobby. 222 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:27,320 You know, that kind of joke about like collecting yarn and using it are two separate hobbies. 223 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:29,360 And that is true. 224 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,880 Some of us just like to collect pretty yarns. 225 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:35,680 I've definitely gone through phases where especially when I first started knitting, 226 00:12:35,680 --> 00:12:41,520 where if I went someplace and there was yarn, I felt like I had to buy it. 227 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:43,440 I still do to an extent. 228 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:46,560 But I don't consider that to be like a real problem. 229 00:12:46,560 --> 00:12:49,600 No, because I think it's more FOMO than anything else. 230 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,360 Like, what if I never come across this again? 231 00:12:52,360 --> 00:12:53,360 Yeah, there's that. 232 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:54,360 That's legit. 233 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:57,320 See, I always feel like I walk through and it's like, especially if it's like a little 234 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:01,840 small business and I really like it and I'm like, oh, I feel really bad not buying anything. 235 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:05,520 And I may not buy yarn now, but I always tend to walk away with something, even if it's 236 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:10,800 just stitch markers, because it just always feel bad like walking around in a small business 237 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:16,240 that may or may not be struggling and like, oh, I got to buy something. 238 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:19,040 But no, I think that's that's a totally different thing. 239 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:25,080 I think, you know, an addiction is like, you know, you're literally your body is literally 240 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:28,640 hurting if you can't do the habit. 241 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:35,080 And I hope nobody knows what that feels like with yarn or or anything, honestly. 242 00:13:35,080 --> 00:13:39,240 But if it does, it's certainly not something, you know, people should be joking about. 243 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:42,120 I don't think people intend it to be that way, though. 244 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:46,000 Like I would I would generally think that a lot of people would be like in your situation, 245 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:51,880 you know, where they're not really looking at that tag at at its face value. 246 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:54,760 They're looking at it the way that everybody interprets it. 247 00:13:54,760 --> 00:13:58,120 And they're just thinking like, oh, OK, like, I like buying yarn. 248 00:13:58,120 --> 00:13:59,120 Right. 249 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:00,120 It's supposed to be lighthearted. 250 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:01,120 Right. 251 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:02,120 They're not looking at it. 252 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:05,760 And it's and, you know, then you get the people that are like, oh, you know, don't take things 253 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:06,760 so seriously. 254 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:15,680 But, you know, to an extent, it's well, I can also kind of see it starting to kind of 255 00:14:15,680 --> 00:14:20,360 basically kind of put into because everyone makes such light of it and haha, it's funny 256 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:21,680 and addicted to yarn. 257 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:27,600 Some people actually could miss if they are legitimately falling into a problem and not 258 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,360 realizing it because it's oh, it's just yarn. 259 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:37,520 It's not like something heavy and not realizing because it's taken so lightly that there are 260 00:14:37,520 --> 00:14:42,400 instances where that kind of it starts to be a problem. 261 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:45,360 So it is I can see see on that kind of thing, too. 262 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:49,760 It's like if you're just constantly making light, making a joke of it, not realizing, 263 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:56,080 oh, it can actually lead to some financial problems or something like that down the line, 264 00:14:56,080 --> 00:14:57,360 marital problems. 265 00:14:57,360 --> 00:15:02,520 Shopping addictions are actually really hard to kind of get a beat on because credit card 266 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:05,260 companies are always willing to give you more credit, of course. 267 00:15:05,260 --> 00:15:08,880 And you can just keep going into debt and going into debt and going into debt until 268 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:09,880 more money is right. 269 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:11,640 They pray on that. 270 00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:16,880 So it's not like, you know, other addictions like gambling addictions or things like that 271 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:19,400 where it becomes really evident quickly. 272 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:23,160 Shopping addiction you can have for a very long time without realizing that it's really 273 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:24,240 a problem. 274 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:29,440 And I'm going to kind of call everybody out, myself included in this and that the yarn 275 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:36,320 buying community does not generally try to deter people from having that addiction. 276 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:38,040 It's always like, no, treat yourself. 277 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:40,240 They do not buy the yarn. 278 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:41,960 You deserve it. 279 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:44,720 But it's like, I think they might not. 280 00:15:44,720 --> 00:15:51,640 There might be a slight impression of that, again, like how Jess was saying, you don't 281 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:53,160 even realize it's a problem. 282 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:54,160 Right. 283 00:15:54,160 --> 00:16:00,080 Or the people that are that are saying that don't think that they have a problem and don't 284 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:02,800 assume that other people might have a problem with it. 285 00:16:02,800 --> 00:16:03,800 Yeah. 286 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:10,060 But I think shopping compulsion and addiction in general is actually probably I would say 287 00:16:10,060 --> 00:16:12,640 something that's extremely overlooked. 288 00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:13,640 Yes. 289 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:14,640 Extremely. 290 00:16:14,640 --> 00:16:19,320 Because a lot of people don't realize that they have the problem until it turns into 291 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:24,760 like you're losing your house, losing your marriage or like something even significant. 292 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:30,880 You don't even have a shopping problem or a shopping addiction. 293 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:36,800 And then their justification for it is but it's not drugs, but it's not alcohol. 294 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:37,800 At least it's not drugs. 295 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:42,640 But it's not something that's, you know, society based worse. 296 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:43,640 Correct. 297 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:44,640 And you know what? 298 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:48,640 It's something that I've heard people say before about a lot of different things. 299 00:16:48,640 --> 00:16:49,640 At least it's not this. 300 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:51,040 At least it's not that. 301 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:54,600 I mean, I think even all of us have said that at one point in time or another. 302 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:59,920 I definitely did a lot of shopping in the weeks after my separation and divorce. 303 00:16:59,920 --> 00:17:01,080 I was spending a lot of money. 304 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:03,040 I mean, it was not I never went into debt. 305 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,400 It was always money I had. 306 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,120 It's probably money that could have gone to other things. 307 00:17:07,120 --> 00:17:10,520 But I definitely said, I remember my mother calling me out and she's like, you know, no, 308 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:11,520 no, no. 309 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:12,520 I'm like, I'm not doing drugs, mom. 310 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:13,520 I'm not drinking. 311 00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:16,560 I'm not going out and hooking up with different people every night. 312 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:19,040 Like this is tame. 313 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:25,160 And you know, in hindsight it was, but it could easily have spiraled if I had not found 314 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:28,120 other things to kind of channel my feelings into. 315 00:17:28,120 --> 00:17:31,600 It could easily have spiraled into something much worse. 316 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:33,760 So and I don't think she was trying to be a jerk. 317 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:35,820 I think she was just trying to be like, hang on there. 318 00:17:35,820 --> 00:17:37,280 Like hold your horses. 319 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,920 But I mean, I'll be open and honest about it. 320 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:45,760 When I was in North Carolina, there was I had a very I remember I actually have a photo 321 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:52,760 of what my stash started out in North Carolina as it was two bookshelves, two little bookshelves. 322 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:53,760 That's all I had. 323 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:56,280 Tina, you used to have the smallest stash out of all. 324 00:17:56,280 --> 00:17:57,280 I did. 325 00:17:57,280 --> 00:17:58,280 I did. 326 00:17:58,280 --> 00:17:59,280 But now look at you. 327 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:02,080 Well, I'm actually I have to say I've reduced quite a bit. 328 00:18:02,080 --> 00:18:03,080 You have. 329 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:04,080 I've reduced a lot. 330 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,040 You've stashed quite a bit. 331 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:07,040 Yeah. 332 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:08,320 And if I haven't sold it, I've used it. 333 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:13,320 So I and actually the purchase I made from you guys is the first I've done in a really 334 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:14,320 long time. 335 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:15,320 I just really like that color. 336 00:18:15,320 --> 00:18:18,240 I was like, this is not no. 337 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:19,760 But I also have a plan for it. 338 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:20,760 Oh, good. 339 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:22,800 So that's even more for me. 340 00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:26,520 There's like a difference because like I feel like before it was like I would buy it because 341 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:27,680 it's pretty. 342 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:34,040 And now I'm like, no, now I actually have like there's a there's a spot for it because 343 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:35,040 it's got a purpose. 344 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:36,040 Yeah. 345 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:39,800 But even but back to when I was in North Carolina, I did. 346 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:47,080 I had two bookshelves and I was not doing well health wise. 347 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:53,340 When I say I was having a health problem, I mean, I was truly having mental health issues. 348 00:18:53,340 --> 00:18:55,720 My medication was not correct. 349 00:18:55,720 --> 00:19:02,840 My I did not have good a good support team around me in terms of providers. 350 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:07,560 And if you've looked at my personal Instagram, I do have a significant mental illness that 351 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:08,840 I deal with every day. 352 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:10,840 It's chronic. 353 00:19:10,840 --> 00:19:19,480 And the solution that I was doing because of the pure isolation that I was in was buying. 354 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:23,480 And I went from having two bookshelves to having a wall. 355 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:24,480 Yeah. 356 00:19:24,480 --> 00:19:25,480 Real fast. 357 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:31,580 Like maybe within I would say within a year period that I had filled a wall. 358 00:19:31,580 --> 00:19:36,440 And it was because every time I saw yarn that I liked, it was buying. 359 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:43,460 I was buying, you know, four or five hundred dollars worth of it and having a ton of it. 360 00:19:43,460 --> 00:19:48,740 It wasn't until I got better, which was after when I came back to Connecticut and I started 361 00:19:48,740 --> 00:19:52,800 feeling better, I had a better support system, better medications, better, better things 362 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:56,480 all around that I was like, wait a second. 363 00:19:56,480 --> 00:20:01,540 And then I put all my stash together and I went, oh, my God, how did I end up with this 364 00:20:01,540 --> 00:20:03,400 much yarn? 365 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:10,240 And you know, again, I wouldn't say I got to a point. 366 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:14,760 I can't say that I was not necessarily, quote unquote, in debt, because I there was definitely 367 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:20,240 a point in time that we were we were paying some interest on purchases that I made that 368 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:23,240 I shouldn't have made. 369 00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:26,240 But to say that I was like drowning in it. 370 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:27,240 No. 371 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:31,920 But it was but I think personally, just to just to be paying interest on stuff like that 372 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:32,920 is a problem. 373 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:34,760 I shouldn't have been like that. 374 00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:37,880 I was spending money that I didn't have and couldn't cover. 375 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:38,880 And I joke about it. 376 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:39,880 I joke about my stash. 377 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:44,920 I joke about the size of it, even though now it's turning into this small little and I'm 378 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:45,920 OK. 379 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:46,920 And I'm OK with it. 380 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:48,240 I'm OK with it getting smaller. 381 00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:50,040 I don't have a wall anymore. 382 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:52,760 I have need any. 383 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:57,680 No, I don't, because I'm filling the void that I was dealing with in much different 384 00:20:57,680 --> 00:20:59,120 ways because there is no void. 385 00:20:59,120 --> 00:21:01,000 It served a purpose at the time. 386 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:02,000 Yes. 387 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:03,000 And now you no longer need it. 388 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:04,000 Correct. 389 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:05,000 You don't have it. 390 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:12,520 So I'm I say that because if you are in a similar position, just take a moment to recognize 391 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:19,360 I speak that I'm speaking to my fellow compadres that are dealing with that kind of situation. 392 00:21:19,360 --> 00:21:23,760 Just you don't necessarily have to sit there and be like, oh, my God, I'm an addict or 393 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:25,240 throw some kind of label on it. 394 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:26,240 But you do. 395 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:31,000 There is a situation where you kind of look at it and go, hey, hold on. 396 00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:32,000 Let's take a step back. 397 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,600 Do I actually need all of this? 398 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,200 And yes, you know, treat yourself and all of that. 399 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:44,560 But have I treated myself one too many times and maybe we roll it back. 400 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:50,000 But you know, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a large stash or collection 401 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:52,200 or whatever the heck you want to call it. 402 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:56,320 But I do think there's a problem with it if it's getting out of control, where you don't 403 00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:59,720 even know what you have or you're paying. 404 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,200 You're using money that you don't have or whatever. 405 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:03,200 It's putting you in a situation. 406 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,600 You're using addict tactics like you're hiding it from people. 407 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:12,720 You are spending money you're you're supposed to spend on other things on your stash. 408 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:14,120 And those are addict tendencies. 409 00:22:14,120 --> 00:22:15,120 Yep. 410 00:22:15,120 --> 00:22:16,120 Yeah. 411 00:22:16,120 --> 00:22:18,800 You can't give up your rent money so that you can have a home. 412 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:19,800 Or even like, yeah. 413 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:23,520 But like the whole thing, the whole reason I think it was yarn harlot that said like 414 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:28,600 the point of the stash is so that you're not going to the yarn store every time you want 415 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,200 to cast on a project. 416 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:36,120 The point of a stash is that if at nine o'clock at night you find a pattern you want to knit, 417 00:22:36,120 --> 00:22:41,960 you can go to your stash and you can find a yarn in there that would work. 418 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:49,000 It may not be exactly what you what the pattern says that you need, but it's close enough. 419 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:52,920 The other problem I think, and I don't know if this is what you did. 420 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:55,240 It's definitely what I did in accumulating stash. 421 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,880 I don't know if it's what you did. 422 00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:00,280 But when you start out, you don't even know what you like. 423 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:01,280 Nope. 424 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:08,300 And you are just buying yarns that are pretty without knowing how you like them. 425 00:23:08,300 --> 00:23:15,560 And this also contributes to your vast accumulation of stash because sure you have 50 skeins of 426 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,560 yarn, but you only like knitting with 10 of them. 427 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:19,560 Yeah. 428 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:20,560 Oh yes. 429 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,520 And you have realized that over time and you're like, wow, I bought this skein like five years 430 00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:28,400 ago and holy hell, I do not want to knit with that or I'm allergic to it or you know, so 431 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:29,400 on and so forth. 432 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,920 Or in the beginning you get it because you like the color is not realizing weights are 433 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:32,920 a thing. 434 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:33,920 Right. 435 00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,400 I got variegated lace weight. 436 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:39,160 I had that in my stash. 437 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:43,160 That was a thing I bought and I don't even knowing how to utilize. 438 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,240 No, because you're just like, oh, I need lace weight. 439 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:48,320 I don't only sweet and I should have sweet. 440 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:49,920 I want to knit with that. 441 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:51,200 I did that all the time. 442 00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:52,200 Right. 443 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,500 Like I don't have enough DK. 444 00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:57,120 How many times do I knit with DK? 445 00:23:57,120 --> 00:23:58,120 Not often. 446 00:23:58,120 --> 00:24:01,640 And I will tell you that believe it or not, the majority of stuff that I would knit with 447 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:09,040 his has either been fingering or light or lighter weight, not even DK or Super Bowl. 448 00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:10,040 I'm actually at the end. 449 00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:13,040 You just don't have a nice middle ground. 450 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:14,360 You're on the extremes of both sides. 451 00:24:14,360 --> 00:24:17,680 My stash is full of a lot of stuff in the middle. 452 00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:18,760 So like I have a lot. 453 00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:25,480 So when I had my full stash and a lot of the stuff I gave up was worsted, like worsted 454 00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,200 DKs, like that's what was going. 455 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,200 I was like, no, no, no, no. 456 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:31,000 The stuff that you realize you're not going to use. 457 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,000 Yes. 458 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:37,400 Especially the pounds and pounds and pounds of like big box brand stuff. 459 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:38,400 Right. 460 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:39,760 Because you know, you think it's a, it's not a deal. 461 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:41,480 It's on sale for $3 a skein. 462 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:42,960 So let me buy 12 of them. 463 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:44,720 And then you realize I'm never going to use. 464 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,960 I had, I literally counted. 465 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:52,960 I think I, I think my, I started out with 15 balls of what, what is it? 466 00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:54,400 Something Brown hometown. 467 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:55,400 Oh my God. 468 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:56,400 What was it? 469 00:24:56,400 --> 00:25:00,200 Was that lion, whatever the hell it wasn't like it was a lion brand or was it the other 470 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:01,200 one? 471 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:02,280 No, lion brand hometown. 472 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,760 And it was, you saw that stack right of Brown. 473 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:07,840 Brown was a good Brown. 474 00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:14,120 So to be fair, I did buy that with the intention of a project, but I way overestimated how 475 00:25:14,120 --> 00:25:15,480 much yarn I needed. 476 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:18,680 I was, but I initially, how many balls of yarn do we need for a sweater? 477 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:19,680 40, 40 is good. 478 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:20,680 40. 479 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:21,680 40 balls. 480 00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:28,580 I had originally bought that this was back in North Carolina, 7,000 yards of yards. 481 00:25:28,580 --> 00:25:32,720 And I had bought a, uh, I had bought it cause I was making a prayer shawl for someone that 482 00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,960 was in my mental health support group. 483 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:37,720 And I wanted to make them a prayer shawl. 484 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:41,200 I needed to make it a larger because they were a larger person. 485 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:46,040 I wanted to make sure it could cover them and really get the comfort of a prayer shawl. 486 00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:51,000 So I think out of the, I don't know, I don't know how many I bought, but I ended up with 487 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,560 a remainder of like 11 and a half. 488 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:56,060 And I'm like, how did I end up with? 489 00:25:56,060 --> 00:25:58,840 So then I'm like, how many did I buy? 490 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,520 I'm like trying to figure it out. 491 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:06,400 But that's the thing is it's just, it's not even like a, you know, being willfully ridiculous. 492 00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:07,920 It's you don't know better. 493 00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:08,920 No, no. 494 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,840 You don't know how much you're going to, I mean, it's kind of like the first time I knit 495 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:12,840 a scarf. 496 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:13,840 I was like, okay, one ball of yarn. 497 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,640 It's going to be enough for a scarf. 498 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:17,080 It was not spoiler alert. 499 00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:20,240 It was not enough for a scarf, but you don't know. 500 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:21,760 You don't know how much yarn you're going to need. 501 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:25,360 I still way overestimate every time I make a sweater or a scarf. 502 00:26:25,360 --> 00:26:33,400 I always make or die or buy too much yarn, but at least then, you know, you can clear 503 00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:40,200 it out and then make way for possibly more that maybe you'll buy with a more discerning 504 00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:46,120 eye and maybe I'll actually knit with these things and someone else can get the ones that 505 00:26:46,120 --> 00:26:47,840 I'm not going to knit with. 506 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:48,960 Yeah. 507 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:53,800 It's hard because I think again, it's one of those things that you see people will say 508 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:58,360 it casually like OCD or, you know, I'm feeling so crazy. 509 00:26:58,360 --> 00:27:04,440 I feel schizophrenic or whatever, all these different terms, addiction, and you're not 510 00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:07,160 thinking about the people that are actually dealing with it. 511 00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:08,160 Right. 512 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,440 You know, and so it so yeah, sure. 513 00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:14,160 I've obviously ingest small group of friends. 514 00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:18,320 Maybe I don't think there's an issue with that, but when you're when you're like for 515 00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:25,760 me, I feel a sort of obligation to post something that's pointed in the right direction, especially 516 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:27,480 with the follower count that I have. 517 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:31,280 Not that I have a lot, but I have a significant amount enough to be like, I feel like if I 518 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:36,360 were to put things like if I were to make jokes about addiction or stuff like that, 519 00:27:36,360 --> 00:27:38,000 I would feel icky. 520 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:41,520 I would feel like I'm putting out to a large group of people. 521 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:42,520 This is the idea. 522 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:44,520 This is the message that you want to be sending. 523 00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:49,640 Yeah, and I don't know if I want to be putting that out as a right, because most people will 524 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:53,040 probably not like say anything, but you know what? 525 00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:54,520 It'll feel icky. 526 00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:57,840 It's yeah, it's kind of one of those things that you know what? 527 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:01,560 I literally just went and checked Critical Hit to make sure that we don't use that hashtag 528 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:02,560 and we do not use that hashtag. 529 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:06,160 I feel a lot better because I was like, oh God, have we been doing that? 530 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,360 But I had to check. 531 00:28:08,360 --> 00:28:12,960 No, but it is one of those things like I tell my kids all the time because my kids are, 532 00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:17,720 you know, 15 and they love to, you know, use colorful insults in the classroom. 533 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:18,720 That's a word for it. 534 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,080 That's as nicely as I can put it. 535 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:24,680 And you know, I always tell them like you and your friends may not find those things 536 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:28,760 hurtful, but you don't know what everyone in this room is feeling. 537 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,960 And do you really want to hurt somebody? 538 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:34,400 And I mean, you know, they're 15, so they're like, oh, but like, you know, I don't know. 539 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:38,960 I'd like to think that deep down they actually do care. 540 00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:43,600 You know, I think most of us wouldn't like to bother people. 541 00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,960 We've kind of circled around this, but what what do you think? 542 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:48,920 What is too big? 543 00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:51,480 Is there a point where it's too big? 544 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:58,800 If you don't have the storage for the things that you are storing. 545 00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:03,040 Well, if you're getting a storage unit type of thing or you're finding other places to 546 00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:04,600 put it. 547 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:08,160 I definitely think that you have a problem if you have a separate storage unit for your 548 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:09,160 hobby. 549 00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,880 Yeah, well, it depends on the hobby. 550 00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:15,960 Do you know, as I said that I was going to say like it's like biking or cars or something 551 00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:16,960 like that. 552 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:17,960 Like it's one thing. 553 00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:20,600 But for yarn, that might be a little excessive. 554 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:22,560 Yarn is a little excessive. 555 00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:23,560 Yeah. 556 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:24,560 Yeah. 557 00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:29,680 But like if you can't move in your house because if people are tripping over the skeins, they 558 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:30,680 come over for dinner. 559 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:34,320 I mean, I always have a decorative ball of yarn out there. 560 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:35,320 Nothing wrong with that. 561 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:40,120 And it's only decorative because I finished with it and then I didn't feel like doing 562 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:41,520 anything with the remainder. 563 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:42,520 Okay. 564 00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:44,640 But we've all been there. 565 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:45,640 It's still pretty yarn. 566 00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:46,640 Yeah. 567 00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:47,640 So it looks nice. 568 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,680 People should enjoy it in its original form. 569 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:50,680 Yeah. 570 00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,040 But I don't know. 571 00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:57,280 There is definitely a visual point of excess. 572 00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:02,000 I feel like if you have to, if you feel like you need to hide it from family, friends or 573 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,680 significant others, it's time to stop. 574 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:09,080 It makes me think about the reels where they're like hiding it from their husband. 575 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:10,480 I hate those reels. 576 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:17,400 Let's, you know, I'm saying husband because it's specifically a hetero kind of relationship, 577 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:22,080 like a wife hiding from the husband, very pointed kind of demographic. 578 00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:27,120 But I feel like it's to that point, are you even enjoying it? 579 00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:33,080 And if you're not enjoying it, then it kind of defeats the purpose of having it. 580 00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:34,440 That's anxiety at that point. 581 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:35,440 Right? 582 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:37,040 Because now you're like, Oh, I'm going to get caught. 583 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:40,520 Let's put the shoe on the other foot here and I'm going to, I'm going to be that guy 584 00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:47,960 of there are no reels of, and I get, I'm going to pick something so stereotypically, like 585 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:52,760 whatever male of the guy, like sneaking his golf clubs into the house. 586 00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:56,080 Like nobody, nobody makes reels about that. 587 00:30:56,080 --> 00:31:02,480 No, it's always the little woman hiding her hobby from the big mean husband that tells 588 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:05,320 her how to spend her money. 589 00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:09,000 And that's all really misogynistic and insulting. 590 00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:14,280 Also can I just say like men should be sneaking golf clubs in because those are expensive. 591 00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:15,280 Yeah, right. 592 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:23,200 I mean, to be fair, if you haven't look up some golf club prices, man, it's kind of nuts. 593 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:27,080 Listen, listen, men be more shameful of your golf clubs. 594 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,680 That was not what I meant. 595 00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:35,360 But like when men make big purchases or even like frivolous purchases, they're like, yeah, 596 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:36,680 this is what I did. 597 00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:40,280 Like enjoy the inferences that they make the money. 598 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:41,280 Yeah. 599 00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:46,520 It's okay for them to spend their money, but it's like, I don't know. 600 00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:52,440 I'm, I'm just very like, it's not funny. 601 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:57,260 It's not funny to be the first off, like sneaking around behind your spouse's back. 602 00:31:57,260 --> 00:32:03,400 The other thing to you, like, I feel like that says a lot about the relationship that 603 00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,080 you have. 604 00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:07,640 I will, I will never forget this. 605 00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:11,520 Like back when I was, my parents were my back when my dad was alive and my parents were 606 00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:15,920 living back in their old house and my mother was trying to move her stash of fabric from 607 00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,320 one room to the other. 608 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:24,160 And I'm helping her carry these massive bins like down the stairs and she's like, Tom, 609 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:25,680 don't look. 610 00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:27,920 And I'm like, like, he doesn't know. 611 00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:31,960 And he's like, no, I'll like, I don't know that you have all this stash. 612 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:35,120 Like I know how much fabric you have. 613 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:44,000 And she was joking, but at the same time, like some people aren't, some people aren't. 614 00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:48,640 And if, if you are like literally afraid to show your significant other, the stuff you 615 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:54,040 bought for your hobby, um, I don't even know if that's a stash problem or a relationship 616 00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:55,040 problem. 617 00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:56,040 There's two sides of that. 618 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,480 Are you afraid because you're ashamed of yourself? 619 00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:02,200 In which case maybe look into stopping. 620 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:07,000 And if you're afraid because of what your spouse might do, maybe talk to your spouse. 621 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:08,000 Yeah. 622 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,840 Either way, I feel like if you're hiding it, that means again, this is supposed to be a 623 00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:12,840 fun hobby. 624 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,120 If you're hiding it, like Tina said, now we're getting into anxiety. 625 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,120 We're getting into fear. 626 00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,440 We're getting into, this is no longer a fun. 627 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:25,240 I mean, unless I guess you enjoy the thrill of hiding things, I guess that might be something. 628 00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:26,560 That's also kind of weird. 629 00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:30,720 It's just, you know, it's a little weird unless you're making something for somebody. 630 00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:33,720 Yeah, I, I, yeah, it's kind of weird. 631 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:35,200 Well, that's, that's a different, yeah. 632 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,120 Like if you're trying to hide a project you're working on, so somebody's getting gifted, 633 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:40,120 it doesn't see it. 634 00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:41,120 Right. 635 00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:42,120 That's different. 636 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:43,120 That's totally different. 637 00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:44,120 That's a whole different thing. 638 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:47,160 We're talking about like, we made a purchase, whether it's a target run, cause I don't know 639 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:48,440 why, but they're all target runs. 640 00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:49,440 I have no idea. 641 00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,680 Because you step into target and you only mean to buy toothpaste and then you walk out 642 00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,160 with $200 worth of crap and you don't even know how that happened, but you actually did 643 00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,240 need all of it. 644 00:33:58,240 --> 00:33:59,240 Don't look at me like that. 645 00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:00,240 This is my life. 646 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:01,240 I don't know. 647 00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:02,240 It's never 200. 648 00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:03,240 It's usually a hundred. 649 00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:05,280 It's always stuff that we did need. 650 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:06,680 See I'm not that way about target. 651 00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:07,680 I am. 652 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:08,680 It's awful. 653 00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,680 So it's the same thing. 654 00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:11,680 Yes. 655 00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:15,240 I feel like, like for example, I went to, I went to Walmart. 656 00:34:15,240 --> 00:34:21,640 I went to buy, my daughter needed a button button up shirt and we got the button up shirt 657 00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:22,720 where we're walking out. 658 00:34:22,720 --> 00:34:24,000 No big deal. 659 00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:27,060 And then there was a $5 clearance rack with a beautiful little sweater on it. 660 00:34:27,060 --> 00:34:28,840 And I was like, well, that's not going to the dump. 661 00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:29,840 That's going on my body. 662 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:34,000 And yeah, cause that's, that's all for me. 663 00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:41,520 When I see especially I have, that is one thing I am a sucker for when it comes to clearance 664 00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:43,120 racks and knitwear. 665 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:48,280 If I see something that's like way under price for what it is, I just like, I know you're 666 00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,280 not going to go to, I don't want you to go to the dump. 667 00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:51,280 Let's go. 668 00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:52,280 Come on. 669 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:53,280 That's fair. 670 00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:56,320 Well, I think even clearance yarn, like, I don't think it's a bad idea to like go to 671 00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:57,920 sales and stock up. 672 00:34:57,920 --> 00:34:59,120 I mean, I would be a hypocrite. 673 00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:00,120 I've gone to the village. 674 00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:01,120 We'll sale. 675 00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:02,120 Oh, come on. 676 00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:03,120 Couple of times. 677 00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:04,120 Come on now. 678 00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:05,120 We all have. 679 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:09,080 But I think that, you know, we all know the thing is if, if you're not going to use it, 680 00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:10,080 you didn't get a deal. 681 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:11,080 No, that's correct. 682 00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:18,040 If you didn't, if you're not, you know, just buying the yarn because it's $5 a skein and 683 00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:21,200 you're like, well, I don't know, but I'll figure out something for it. 684 00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:24,600 And I'm not saying you need to go in and to every yarn purchase and know exactly what 685 00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:25,600 that's going to be. 686 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:29,240 Man, I changed my mind about almost everything that I buy yarn for this sweater. 687 00:35:29,240 --> 00:35:33,680 For example, I I've changed my mind about this yarn about four times. 688 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:39,920 But I feel like you should have some concrete idea in your mind of what you could use it 689 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:40,920 for. 690 00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:42,760 So it's either a type of project. 691 00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:43,760 Right. 692 00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,000 This is going to be a sweater of some sort or a garment of some sort. 693 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:47,000 Right. 694 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:50,400 A shawl or this is going to be an accessory instead of buying 40 skeins of yarn and being 695 00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:51,880 like, I'll figure it out eventually. 696 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:56,040 Like, you're a lot of yarn. 697 00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:57,240 But that's the thing is a lot. 698 00:35:57,240 --> 00:36:00,480 That's why I stopped going to the village will sale because I did get caught up in that 699 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:01,480 hole. 700 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:02,480 Oh my God, this is cheap yarn. 701 00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:04,920 And then I ended up giving a lot of it away. 702 00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:05,920 Yeah. 703 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,000 And, you know, that's not a deal. 704 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:10,540 That's not a deal at all. 705 00:36:10,540 --> 00:36:14,280 I am fortunate to say that I pretty much went through. 706 00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:18,440 I think I went through almost all the only the only stuff that I ended up. 707 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:21,440 There was a couple of types of skeins that I ended up selling like cute. 708 00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:25,320 I bought way too much cumulus that time. 709 00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:26,320 It's hard. 710 00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,280 Someone bought all my cumulus like almost actually almost all my. 711 00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,960 I think there's a couple skeins left of the dark blue and my yarn saver site. 712 00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:37,440 But the the the teal cumulus is gone. 713 00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:40,800 Like someone it's the siren call of that really nice cotton. 714 00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:44,240 Like you can't touch it and then not buy pounds of it. 715 00:36:44,240 --> 00:36:45,240 It's hard. 716 00:36:45,240 --> 00:36:46,240 It's really hard. 717 00:36:46,240 --> 00:36:51,720 But but yeah, but the idea that I had originally with that was a sweater. 718 00:36:51,720 --> 00:36:55,440 And then I went this is going to pill to no end. 719 00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,760 And stretch and stretch. 720 00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:58,760 Cotton stretches. 721 00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:04,280 Well, I saw what happened to your cardigan because you use cardigan or cotton with that. 722 00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:07,000 Not cumulus, but it was a cotton base. 723 00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:10,600 But cumulus is as has a higher micron count. 724 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:11,600 Yes. 725 00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:13,200 So that would have pilled and stretched. 726 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:14,200 Yes. 727 00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:15,520 So there'd be no coming back from that. 728 00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:20,880 I do have a shawl made out of cumulus and it has not started filling yet. 729 00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:26,720 Like I take very good care of it, but I feel like it will not last forever. 730 00:37:26,720 --> 00:37:32,320 But the type of stitches that you did on that shawl, though, are very how do I say this? 731 00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:37,840 Like a like a very structured, structured, safe use of that yarn. 732 00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:38,840 Yeah. 733 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:43,480 Like I feel like if it was flatter, if that makes sense, because it has texture on it. 734 00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,320 I think the texture right. 735 00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:47,680 Protect the yarn a bit from the the pilling. 736 00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,120 I feel like if it was flatter, it would pill. 737 00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,280 And it's also not like a garment. 738 00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,280 You know, it's not getting all the friction. 739 00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,080 It's not, you know, it's not moving. 740 00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:58,920 It doesn't have armpits or chills. 741 00:37:58,920 --> 00:37:59,920 Yeah. 742 00:37:59,920 --> 00:38:00,920 Yep. 743 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:04,680 No, I have a scarf made out of cumulus and it hasn't piled at all either. 744 00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:06,600 It's but again, it's outerwear. 745 00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:07,600 So right. 746 00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,120 I think it can hold up a lot more. 747 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:15,360 But yeah, it's you kind of try to be realistic when you're buying that sail yarn instead 748 00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:23,280 of just thinking I will totally use 20 balls of this navy blue acrylic. 749 00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:29,160 Safe to say that, you know, if you I guess this is just a you know, if you feel like 750 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:36,560 that you're in a place that you might be having an issue with your yarn buying, then take 751 00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:40,760 this as a note to just kind of do a self check and make sure that you're in a good place. 752 00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:45,820 And if you don't feel like you're in that place, but you are using terminology that 753 00:38:45,820 --> 00:38:54,240 may be problematic, maybe we maybe we just, you know, avoid using, I would say, illness 754 00:38:54,240 --> 00:38:55,240 terms. 755 00:38:55,240 --> 00:39:00,000 Because that's really what it comes down to is we're talking about illnesses, ableist. 756 00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:05,680 It's very ableist to kind of toss those terms without really thinking about the people that 757 00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:10,520 are getting affected by them. 758 00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:13,600 That's it for this episode for additional content and opportunities to connect with 759 00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:14,600 the cast. 760 00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,280 Check out our website at part of my stash.com. 761 00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:20,640 Be sure to tune in next time for more laughs, tears and Dre. 762 00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:27,960 Hey, that's me at parted my stash.