1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,960 I can do what it says I can. 2 00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:05,520 I'm a believer and not a doubter. 3 00:00:05,520 --> 00:00:08,360 I'm a doer and not just a hearer. 4 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:10,480 I am humble for the Lord. 5 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:12,640 I'm obedient to the Lord. 6 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:14,920 I am mature in the Lord. 7 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:17,560 I'm enthusiastic about the Lord. 8 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:21,320 I know that faith comes by hearing and hearing 9 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:23,840 by the Word of God. 10 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:25,080 Amen. 11 00:00:25,080 --> 00:00:26,960 All right, our text that we've been using 12 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:31,280 for the last several weeks is Matthew chapter 5, verse 13 13 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:32,480 through 16. 14 00:00:32,480 --> 00:00:35,360 The Bible says, you have the salt of the earth. 15 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:39,960 But what good is salt if it has lost its flavor? 16 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:42,640 Can you make it salty again? 17 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:46,600 It will be thrown out and trampled underfoot as worthless. 18 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:48,320 Somebody say worthless. 19 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:49,920 By virtue of the fact that you're here today, 20 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:52,720 God don't consider you worthless, amen? 21 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:56,280 And therefore, because you know you're not worthless, 22 00:00:56,280 --> 00:01:00,960 you should let nobody or nothing trample you on their feet. 23 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:01,920 Amen. 24 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:04,240 You are the salt of the earth. 25 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:06,000 Look what he says in 14, 14. 26 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:09,280 You are the light of the world, like a city on a hilltop 27 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:13,720 that cannot, can't nobody hide you. 28 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:16,160 You fold the shine wherever you go. 29 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:16,560 Amen. 30 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:19,200 You cannot be hidden. 31 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:23,360 He says, now no one lights a lamp and then put it under a basket. 32 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:26,720 Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand where it gives light 33 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:28,360 to everyone in the house. 34 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:31,840 Everybody you come in contact should be exposed to the light 35 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:34,560 that you carry. 36 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:38,080 Can I get another amen right there? 37 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:42,800 In the same way, let your good deed shine out for all to see 38 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:46,040 so that everyone will praise your heavenly father. 39 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:46,800 Amen. 40 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:48,520 You may be seated. 41 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:52,520 Well, this is going to be our third sermon in the series 42 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:57,040 that we've entitled, Be a Good Encourager. 43 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:03,600 And I said that I can imagine because the magnitude of social media 44 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:07,480 and the platforms that are out there, there are the ability 45 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:12,760 and the capability for people to flood the airways with content. 46 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:17,120 And sometimes the content that they put out there may not always be good, 47 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:21,000 but some is necessarily, are necessarily is good. 48 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:25,640 But what I want you to see is that when these people get in a position 49 00:02:25,640 --> 00:02:28,480 to be able to influence others by the things they say 50 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:31,000 and the things they do, we need to understand 51 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:37,040 that God has given us the same capability to be influencers for him. 52 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:39,200 You know, in this past week I was just looking out there, 53 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:41,160 and this is not for the older folks in here, but this is for you 54 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:43,800 to share with your grandchildren or your children. 55 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:45,880 You know, because some of our kids are being influenced 56 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:47,240 by some negative things. 57 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:51,240 And one of the things I ran across is something called chromium. 58 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:53,520 And I'm saying what is chromium? 59 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:56,920 And it has something to do with lead-based paint. 60 00:02:56,920 --> 00:03:04,160 And the chromium that's in the paint, these kids are now sniffing the chromium. 61 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:07,040 Don't realize that someone is influencing them to do something 62 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:08,360 that could kill them. 63 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,400 Now, that took me back to my days. 64 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:12,200 It only did about once or twice. 65 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:16,640 When we used to put glue in a bag and do the same thing. 66 00:03:16,640 --> 00:03:19,640 The difference is when we did it with two or three in my neighborhood, 67 00:03:19,640 --> 00:03:21,920 we couldn't influence the world. 68 00:03:21,920 --> 00:03:24,720 We just influenced our neighborhood. 69 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:29,640 But these people now with just one screenshot and one minute on, you know, 70 00:03:29,640 --> 00:03:34,480 on the social media network, they can influence children to start chromium. 71 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:39,800 The other thing I found out this week is they have a challenge out there 72 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:44,760 where they're challenging kids to suffocate themselves. 73 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:51,440 I mean, just hold their breath and put their head in the bag until they just pass out. 74 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:55,200 Not knowing that someone's going to pass out and they're going to wake up. 75 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:58,440 But those are the type of things that's out there that's influencing our kids 76 00:03:58,440 --> 00:03:59,440 and young people. 77 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:05,160 And as good influencers, we need to make sure that we counter all the crazy stuff 78 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:06,440 that is out there. 79 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:10,280 God expects us to be influencers in the world that he's placed us in, 80 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:16,120 whether it's in our families, in our social networks, as well as amongst our friends 81 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:17,480 and even on our job. 82 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:20,320 God wants you to be an influencer. 83 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:25,680 Now, the influence is the capacity to have an effect on the character, 84 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:30,920 the development, or the behavior of someone or something. 85 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:35,200 Now, in the past two weeks, we've been looking at this influence thing. 86 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:39,040 And so for those of you who are new online or in person, 87 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:41,960 I just said go back and catch part one and part two, 88 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:46,320 because I think you'll see the connecting dots so that this will make sense to you. 89 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:50,480 But today, we're going to look at influence from another capacity. 90 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:55,320 Go to 2 Corinthians chapter 9, verse 1 through 5, when I get there. 91 00:04:55,320 --> 00:05:00,560 Here we find the apostle Paul was using his influence to encourage the Corinthian church 92 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:08,080 to follow through on their pledge to give benevolently to the struggling churches 93 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:09,840 that were in Jerusalem. 94 00:05:09,840 --> 00:05:13,840 And the initial enthusiasm that this church had, I mean, the Corinthian, 95 00:05:13,840 --> 00:05:17,120 they heard the word about supporting the poor churches in Jerusalem. 96 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:18,640 They got excited. 97 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:19,880 And they said, man, we're going to do this. 98 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:20,840 We're going to collect the money. 99 00:05:20,840 --> 00:05:22,280 We're going to send it to them. 100 00:05:22,280 --> 00:05:27,280 But a year later, that excitement had started to die down. 101 00:05:27,280 --> 00:05:30,840 And what he was trying to say is that when you got excited at first, 102 00:05:30,840 --> 00:05:33,760 other churches who didn't even have a means that you have, 103 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:36,160 because Corinthian church was a well-off church. 104 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:37,000 It was prestigious. 105 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:37,760 They had power. 106 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:39,000 They had a little wealth in there. 107 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:41,960 And so that's why there were poor churches that heard about them. 108 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:45,640 And they said, hey, we want to help the poor too. 109 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:51,080 And now he's saying, if you guys start waffling, you're going to look bad 110 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:55,480 and make me look bad, because I've been telling everybody about what you plan on doing. 111 00:05:55,480 --> 00:06:00,160 And then all of a sudden now, you don't have a change of heart. 112 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,920 Sometime when it comes to, now this ain't tithing off of them right here. 113 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,400 I'm talking about benevolent giving. 114 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:06,200 So don't connect this to tithing off of them. 115 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,000 I'm talking about sometime when people have a need, 116 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,880 and you have the capability to meet that need, 117 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,680 then you can be an influencer by doing what God has placed in your heart. 118 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:19,160 And you can have an influence on the life of that person that you're helping out. 119 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:23,320 Everything that you have in God has blessed you with is not just for you. 120 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:24,480 Amen. 121 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:28,440 And I know sometime we wait till a seasoner to do things charitable, 122 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:30,560 like making donation to all the funds out there. 123 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:31,440 That's fine. 124 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:35,320 But every now and then, you've got to intentionally look for opportunities, 125 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:37,640 especially if God has blessed you with the means to, 126 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:42,880 because we're going to see here that giving benevolent is a ministry. 127 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:44,080 Amen. 128 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:49,880 And for some of you that is your ministry. 129 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:53,280 Let me read this. 130 00:06:53,280 --> 00:06:56,280 He says this in verse one. 131 00:06:56,280 --> 00:06:59,720 I really don't need to write to you about the ministry. 132 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:01,160 Somebody say the ministry. 133 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:05,560 This ministry of giving for the believers in Jerusalem. 134 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:08,280 For I know how eager, somebody say eager, 135 00:07:08,280 --> 00:07:10,720 I know how eager you were to help. 136 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:14,040 And I have been boasting to the churches in Macedonia 137 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:19,360 that you in Greece were ready to send and offering a year ago. 138 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:23,360 In fact, it was your enthusiasm, somebody say enthusiasm. 139 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:28,760 He says it was your enthusiasm that stirred up many of the Macedonian believers 140 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:30,760 to begin giving. 141 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:35,200 They didn't even have what you have, but they heard about you doing it. 142 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:39,240 And because of that, that influence caused them to want to be able to give 143 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:42,960 and saw it as an honor to be able to give to someone, 144 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:48,400 to help them out of their situation that may be destroying their lives. 145 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:52,480 And so when God blessed you, man, and you were able to do something to help somebody, 146 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:55,760 you ought to see it as an honor. 147 00:07:55,760 --> 00:08:00,040 And if you tell somebody that you're going to help them, 148 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:03,320 three months later, don't forget about it. 149 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:05,800 Don't go back on your... 150 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:10,240 Because when the kingdom of Neville had given, God is not commanding you. 151 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:13,280 This is something that he placed on your heart to do. 152 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:16,920 And then as he placed it on your heart, then you got to go forth. 153 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:22,240 And when you go forth, you got to go forth with the right attitude. 154 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:24,600 Oh, let me read it out. 155 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:28,320 So the church in Macedonia believers began to give. 156 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:32,360 He said, now look, but I am sending these brothers, this verse three, 157 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:37,160 to be sure you are really, that you really are ready. 158 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:43,520 As I have began telling them that your money is all collected. 159 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:47,640 I don't want to be wrong in my boasting about you. 160 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:48,640 Now that seemed kind of tough. 161 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:51,280 Oh, look, they put together a little guilt trip. 162 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:53,080 I don't want to have them told about, you know, you know, 163 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:55,720 y'all are going to be some big donors. 164 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:59,680 And then a year later, y'all got amnesia. 165 00:08:59,680 --> 00:09:02,120 And you know, I put y'all on a pedestal, I lift y'all up. 166 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:04,400 I, you know, I kind of gave y'all good honor 167 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:08,000 because you were serving God with your abilities to give. 168 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:13,760 And then all of a sudden now, a year later, you got second thoughts. 169 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:15,840 Man, I got to talk to you. 170 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:17,520 I got to encourage you. 171 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,160 Don't forget that your word means something. 172 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:21,400 Amen. 173 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:22,600 Now he's talking to the Corinthians. 174 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,640 He, you know, he ain't talking to you, so you ain't got to look so serious. 175 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:29,240 But, but just in case your word is out there, 176 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:32,760 you need to make good what you said. 177 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:35,640 So that's my job today is I'm not trying to embarrass you 178 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:36,920 because I didn't put your word out there. 179 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:38,120 I didn't put you out there. 180 00:09:38,120 --> 00:09:40,840 But maybe if I had hurt you and I knew you said it 181 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:45,640 and the Lord break you to my spirit, then I got to come talk to you. 182 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:49,880 And say, you got to keep your. 183 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:51,320 Get real quiet right there. 184 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:52,120 Let me move on. 185 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:58,240 He says we would be embarrassed not to mention your own embarrassment. 186 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:03,200 If some Macedonian believers came with me and found that you weren't ready. 187 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,840 After all I had told them, good God, mighty man. 188 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:09,640 One, I just bring brother, you know, bring brother JP with me. 189 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:11,120 And I don't told him how good y'all are. 190 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:12,640 And you're but never offered. 191 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:16,000 And he showed up and y'all ain't even got the money ready. 192 00:10:19,560 --> 00:10:21,480 I know talking about money squirm is in church. 193 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:24,160 But the Bible talk about it. 194 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:28,760 And you have the resources sometime to be able to bless others. 195 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:33,080 And when you are in that position, you ought to see it as your. 196 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:33,760 Minister. 197 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:39,040 Look at this. 198 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:41,320 And this is the key part I want you to catch. 199 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:43,520 So I thought I should send these brothers ahead. 200 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:50,000 This was five of me to make sure the gift you promised is ready. 201 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:52,640 The gift you promised. 202 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:55,440 There are a lot of things we make promises toward. 203 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:57,280 And therefore we make those promises. 204 00:10:57,280 --> 00:11:00,440 We need to be ready to fulfill the promise. 205 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:01,960 Amen. 206 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:05,640 Now the next sentence to start with but. 207 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:08,560 But let you off the hook. 208 00:11:08,560 --> 00:11:10,760 Because he was kind of coming at him hard. 209 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:11,680 Tell him embarrassed. 210 00:11:11,680 --> 00:11:12,840 You gonna be embarrassed. 211 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:15,160 Now he said but. 212 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,560 But gonna let some of y'all off the hook. 213 00:11:17,560 --> 00:11:23,320 He says but I want it to be a willing gift. 214 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:25,320 You got the resources. 215 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:29,320 But now you must be. 216 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:33,200 Not one gradually. 217 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:34,520 Not one given gradually. 218 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:39,600 In other words, if you're not willing, don't do it. 219 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:41,360 Because if you're doing it gradually, 220 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:45,200 you're going to be resented the fact that you did it. 221 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:48,760 And all you're going to die gave. 222 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:49,880 Y'all don't hurt me say this before. 223 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:51,600 Keep it. 224 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:57,080 If you're going to complain and groan about it, just keep it. 225 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:59,400 And the person ain't going to be blessed when they hear you 226 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:00,720 grumbling and complaining. 227 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,680 Because you had to share your wealth and give them $100. 228 00:12:03,680 --> 00:12:07,920 Now you're going to throw that away on something else anyway. 229 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:17,040 So your heart got to be right even when it comes to giving. 230 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:19,600 Give from the right heart. 231 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:22,440 Even when you're given to your children. 232 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:25,000 Give from the right heart. 233 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:27,960 Don't make them think that you're giving to them grudgingly. 234 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:30,960 The minute you give it to them, they got to hear you complain. 235 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:32,400 I could have did that with that. 236 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,000 I could have. 237 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:36,640 And I hope your children turn around and look at you 238 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:37,880 and say, you should have just kept it. 239 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:42,440 I hope they listen to me today. 240 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:44,760 So when you hear your mommas and dad talk like that after they 241 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:48,000 gave you a loud, you just tell them, just keep it. 242 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:55,240 I go out here and cut some grass before I let you act like that 243 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:58,520 when your gift is supposed to be willing. 244 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:07,240 You gave it to me because you were. 245 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:10,480 I'm just telling you what the word says. 246 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:11,280 Now let me move on. 247 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:12,640 I know that we're going to go over too well. 248 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:14,480 So let me go over to influence and relationship. 249 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:16,160 Go to 1 Corinthians chapter 7. 250 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:18,360 I knew that part was going to be some tough slaying through that. 251 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:18,920 But that's OK. 252 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:19,840 I got through it now. 253 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:21,120 It's on your heart. 254 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:22,400 Some of you got the gift. 255 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:25,960 You just need to start walking in that gift, amen? 256 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:28,280 I almost said, if you know you got the gift, just say amen. 257 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:29,160 You can't say it by yourself. 258 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:31,800 So we can identify all these folks who are sitting on that. 259 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:39,480 I can almost look around here and look and just say, yeah. 260 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:40,720 Yeah. 261 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:42,120 Yeah. 262 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:43,400 Yeah. 263 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:44,280 Yeah, you got it. 264 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:53,120 Now I just need to encourage you to give it willingly. 265 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:57,160 I didn't have you in my notes. 266 00:13:57,160 --> 00:13:57,880 So don't get upset. 267 00:13:57,880 --> 00:13:59,720 I just did that on the spur of the moment. 268 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:02,120 But you know. 269 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:04,400 In 1 Corinthians chapter 7, we want 270 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:06,560 to talk about influence and relationship. 271 00:14:06,560 --> 00:14:08,320 Now Wednesday night, we're just going 272 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:10,040 to be on this chapter in Bible study. 273 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:11,240 So I have to go deeper there. 274 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:13,640 But here I just want to hit one part of it. 275 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:17,040 In this chapter, what we talk about relationships, 276 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:20,520 it's like if you are married or in a relationship with someone 277 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:24,840 who is not saved, you have to use your influence 278 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:28,280 to affect their salvation. 279 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:31,400 Now Paul had been asked a question about marriage 280 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,800 and in the first part of this chapter, 281 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,760 and he made it known that if it was up to him, 282 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:40,160 all of y'all would be sell-a-ma. 283 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:41,720 Amen. 284 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:46,000 You know, because he saw sell-a-ma as a gift. 285 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:48,360 And so he was wise enough to know everybody 286 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:49,240 ain't got that gift. 287 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:51,920 Somebody say amen. 288 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:52,720 Y'all got you. 289 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:56,120 I know you ain't got that gift. 290 00:14:56,120 --> 00:14:58,160 If you had sex before, I know you ain't got that. 291 00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:01,680 Y'all ain't got to get quiet. 292 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:02,880 That's what's sell-a-ma. 293 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:07,880 So he was encouraging him, saying, look here, 294 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:11,560 if you know you can't remain that way, 295 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:16,320 then it's better for you to get married so you don't burn. 296 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:16,920 With your lust. 297 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:19,520 I mean, because you know to eat you up 298 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:22,600 if it ain't a gift. 299 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:24,440 That's why in the Catholic Church, 300 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:27,400 priests take vows of celibacy. 301 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:29,160 They feel like that's a calling. 302 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:30,920 That's a gift. 303 00:15:30,920 --> 00:15:32,960 And Paul said, I know who live in Corinth. 304 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:34,880 I know what y'all do down there. 305 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:36,840 I know what y'all come out of. 306 00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:39,240 I know how y'all even worship in Corinth. 307 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:42,360 So for me to think that all you guys gonna live celibate, 308 00:15:42,360 --> 00:15:44,680 I'll be out of my mind. 309 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:47,680 But if by chance you do get married, 310 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:51,200 and you marry somebody that is an unbeliever, 311 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:56,400 you just can't haul off and leave because you don't got say. 312 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:59,200 Now ideally, in a perfect world, two Christians 313 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:01,640 would meet each other, same value system, 314 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:03,000 and say, hey, we're going to get married, 315 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,160 and we know it locked in. 316 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:08,120 But in the world that we live in, 317 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:12,960 a spiritual checklist is not often run before we marry. 318 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:16,600 We run the physical checklist. 319 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:18,400 And so sometimes the physical checklist 320 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:20,880 get us hooked up with some folks' spiritual 321 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:23,320 that we don't connect with. 322 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:25,360 But when that union has taken place, 323 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:27,560 God see marriage so serious, he said, 324 00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:30,240 once you have made that vow, that commitment to that, 325 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:32,880 you need to hang in there, even though the person that you 326 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:34,800 married is not saved. 327 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:37,000 And now it's your responsibility 328 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:39,360 to try to win them over by how you act. 329 00:16:42,520 --> 00:16:45,080 If you're dating someone, this message is for you. 330 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:49,000 And look, you need to find all this out before you get married. 331 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:51,920 Find out what your fiance or your boyfriend, girlfriend, 332 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:54,320 or whoever is before. 333 00:16:54,320 --> 00:17:00,160 Ask the tough questions before. 334 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:05,240 And if you're dating someone that's not saved, 335 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:08,240 you already on shaky ground. 336 00:17:08,240 --> 00:17:11,160 Because now you're unequally yoke to somebody. 337 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,200 Now if you know that on the front end, 338 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:15,600 you really need to be serious before you go 339 00:17:15,600 --> 00:17:19,640 prancing down the aisle. 340 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:23,400 Because once you take the vows, that's a promise there to know. 341 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:24,360 To death to us. 342 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:29,840 So if you're going to make that level of commitment, 343 00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:32,680 you need to check them out on the front end. 344 00:17:32,680 --> 00:17:37,560 But just in case you're married, now you're 345 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:40,640 going to have to hang in there as long as that unbeliever 346 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:43,200 want to stay with you. 347 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:45,360 Whether they come to church, whether they even watch it, 348 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:46,800 or they're on the line, whether they even 349 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:48,200 say grace over their food. 350 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:55,440 Y'all got to come back on Wednesday when we get in. 351 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:56,120 I can go deeper. 352 00:17:56,120 --> 00:17:56,640 But look here. 353 00:17:56,640 --> 00:17:58,280 I'm going to start at verse 7. 354 00:17:58,280 --> 00:17:59,440 I mean verse 12. 355 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:04,240 So he says this, now I will speak to the rest of you, 356 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:08,760 though I did not have a direct command from the Lord. 357 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:13,400 If a Christian man has a wife who is not a believer, 358 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:15,680 and she is willing, somebody say willing, 359 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:19,000 does that word again, willing to continue living with him, 360 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:20,440 he must not leave. 361 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:27,560 Even though some better come back, then look better. 362 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:28,640 There ain't spiritual debate. 363 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:32,000 Doesn't look better. 364 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:36,480 Since you ain't saved, I'm finna just go trade in 365 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:39,320 and get another model. 366 00:18:39,320 --> 00:18:42,520 Paul said you can't do that. 367 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:47,360 You in it for the long haul, because you made a vow to God. 368 00:18:47,360 --> 00:18:48,560 Amen? 369 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:53,400 Now look, if a Christian woman has a husband who is not 370 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:57,720 a believer, and he is willing to continue living with her, 371 00:18:57,720 --> 00:18:59,000 she must not leave. 372 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:03,920 Somebody say you're stuck. 373 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,440 Paul said you're stuck. 374 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:11,960 Keep praying. 375 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:13,160 Keep believing. 376 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:15,000 Keep living right before him, and hope 377 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:16,800 you're going to get some good results. 378 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:20,160 Because unless you got grounds, you just, 379 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:24,200 you're not the man you set fire to. 380 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:25,680 I know you're not going to agree with that debate 381 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:28,040 because divorce is so easy to come by. 382 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:30,000 I mean, it don't take less than 30 days for something, 383 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:31,400 you go in the state of Florida, you 384 00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:33,120 fill out a little package, and 30 days later, 385 00:19:33,120 --> 00:19:34,720 you can be single. 386 00:19:34,720 --> 00:19:37,800 If y'all ain't fighting each other. 387 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:39,880 But because man's law allow you to wiggle out 388 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:45,040 or something that quick, God say he still see that as serious. 389 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:47,960 It is so serious that he will ask a believer 390 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:51,080 to stay connected to a non-believer, 391 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:54,840 believing that that believer can influence that non-believer 392 00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:55,760 to accept Jesus. 393 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,480 This making any sense to anybody? 394 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:02,520 So look at this. 395 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:05,880 Verse 14, for the Christian wife bring holiness to her marriage, 396 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:09,440 and the Christian husband bring holiness to his marriage. 397 00:20:09,440 --> 00:20:12,680 Otherwise, your children would not be holy. 398 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:14,160 But now they are holy. 399 00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:17,400 One person in a marriage has enough influence 400 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:20,040 to make the whole family holy. 401 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:22,640 And God say it's worth it for you to stay there 402 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,080 because you can have an impact on the people that's 403 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:27,040 in your family right now, and you 404 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:32,080 have the potential to allow them to accept salvation. 405 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:33,600 One person. 406 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:36,400 You may be that person in your household right now. 407 00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:38,440 You sit in the picture, your children are here, 408 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:41,760 your husband here, your wife in here, but you here. 409 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:45,120 And you're supposed to be that influence 410 00:20:45,120 --> 00:20:48,600 to go back to your circle of people 411 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:52,080 and try your best to live before them in a way that 412 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:54,920 will make them want to accept Jesus. 413 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:55,680 Amen. 414 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,320 Now, let me be clear here. 415 00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:01,320 This ain't got nothing to do with abuse. 416 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:04,720 And you married to a fool. 417 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,240 Because if you married to a fool, 418 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:08,960 he beat you up every weekend and all that craziness. 419 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:13,120 And I don't think God wants you to be no punching bag. 420 00:21:13,120 --> 00:21:18,440 So I'm talking about, bro, just ain't the church type guy. 421 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:20,440 He just rather sit at home and every night then just 422 00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:24,000 have a corona and wait for you to get home. 423 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:28,960 But he work hard, meet all your needs. 424 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:29,600 You're stuck. 425 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:38,040 Y'all got me laughing right there. 426 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,080 Boy, y'all can see y'all faces right now. 427 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,000 But anyway, let me be normal. 428 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:53,040 Now, in verse 15, he says, but if the husband or wife who 429 00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:57,120 isn't a believer insists on leaving, somebody say insists, 430 00:21:57,120 --> 00:21:58,280 in other words, they demand. 431 00:21:58,280 --> 00:21:58,760 I want out. 432 00:21:58,760 --> 00:21:59,320 I want out. 433 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:03,040 I'm just tired of you. 434 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:06,080 He said, let them. 435 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:07,760 So if you married to somebody like that, 436 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,040 and they insist, hey, I'm tired of you, I'd rather go. 437 00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:10,880 I'm tired of this. 438 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:12,240 Jesus, you, every Sunday you come on, 439 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:13,320 trying to win me over. 440 00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:15,200 Show me what pastor talked about this. 441 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:16,400 We got notes for me. 442 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:17,000 Look here. 443 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:18,080 I want out of here. 444 00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:21,160 OK, buddy. 445 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:22,200 I got to let you. 446 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,040 I finally let you go. 447 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:29,840 Because I want to hold on to my peace. 448 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:34,000 Look at this. 449 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:35,240 He said, let them go. 450 00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,560 In such case, the Christian husband or wife 451 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,320 is no longer bound to the other. 452 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:45,120 For God has called you to live in man and marriage. 453 00:22:45,120 --> 00:22:48,960 You ought to have a little bit of peace in your house every day, 454 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:50,440 all the time. 455 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:56,440 Nobody want to be in a relationship where there is no 456 00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:58,240 always war and always fight. 457 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:01,120 No. 458 00:23:01,120 --> 00:23:04,640 But if you married to an unbeliever and you go home 459 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:09,880 and ask peace, praise God. 460 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:12,040 I would love it if you would come to fellowship with me 461 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:12,920 and go here with me. 462 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:13,800 But look here. 463 00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,640 When I'm at home with you, I get. 464 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:21,640 So you want to live in peace. 465 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,200 Amen. 466 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:24,280 Now look here. 467 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:27,080 This is the question that kind of caught my attention. 468 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,200 He says, don't you wives realize that your husband might 469 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,520 be saved because of you? 470 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,400 And don't you husband realize that your wives might be saved 471 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:40,200 because of you have influence to be able to turn your family, 472 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,840 to turn your husband or your wife into a direction that 473 00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:45,920 will lead them to Jesus? 474 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:52,440 But the key thing is you got to live right before them. 475 00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:56,640 You can't come off up in here and be holy and go home 476 00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:57,640 and cut in the food. 477 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:02,680 Praise the Lord. 478 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:04,200 Glad to see you today. 479 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:06,840 May the Lord be with you. 480 00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,880 Sounds good in here. 481 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,040 But when you get home, you ain't do this. 482 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:13,480 And man, you should have did that. 483 00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:14,600 I thought I'd talk. 484 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:21,760 That ain't the way you suppose that. 485 00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:23,880 Man or woman, baby, I've been to church. 486 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:24,560 Had a good time. 487 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:25,280 Baby, I love you. 488 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,440 I'm just glad to be back home with you. 489 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,480 What do you want to do today? 490 00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:38,640 Whatever you want to do, I'm here to satisfy you 491 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:40,200 because I want some peace. 492 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:46,080 Y'all come on Wednesday night. 493 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:47,840 He even worse than that on Wednesday night. 494 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:49,040 This is just on the top, sir. 495 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:49,920 I'll tell you. 496 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:53,680 Man, this marriage thing is serious. 497 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,680 And some of you, we got children who 498 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,560 are about to make that decision. 499 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,280 You need to have them to read this before they go down now. 500 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:08,400 Because once they commit, God see it as a lifelong commitment. 501 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:16,200 Well, let's go see how Peter addressed this. 502 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:18,800 And first Peter, this is the last time I know this marriage 503 00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:20,680 thing when we're going to go too good. 504 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,040 Let me get out in front of this one right here. 505 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:27,280 Please don't put your guard up when I read this. 506 00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:28,280 Don't put your guard up. 507 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,760 Don't fight this part of the scripture right here. 508 00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:31,640 Please don't do it. 509 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:36,720 I ain't got nothing to do with the fact 510 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,920 that God got an order for his family. 511 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:43,560 Order. 512 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:44,800 I can't help it. 513 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:51,200 That in his eyes, he see the man as the head of the Ingaus eye. 514 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,120 I know you make more money than he does. 515 00:25:53,120 --> 00:25:54,200 Got a better education. 516 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:55,240 That's OK. 517 00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:56,120 You got peace with him? 518 00:25:56,120 --> 00:25:57,240 Yeah. 519 00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,080 But let him have the authority that God give him. 520 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:11,040 Because in God's eye, he is the authority figure 521 00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:14,000 of the household. 522 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,040 And I told you a couple of weeks ago, 523 00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:18,440 you just need to be a good influencer of the person 524 00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,400 who got the authority. 525 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:23,360 And if you have influence over him, 526 00:26:23,360 --> 00:26:26,920 his authority become your. 527 00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:28,920 You ain't got to fight him for it. 528 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:30,360 Just influence him. 529 00:26:30,360 --> 00:26:32,360 And he going to listen to you. 530 00:26:32,360 --> 00:26:35,040 He is wired to listen to you. 531 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:43,840 Your forefather, Adam, listen to Eve. 532 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,080 Your great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great, 533 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,840 great granddad Abraham. 534 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,160 Listen to Sarah. 535 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:56,080 Both of them knew exactly what God said. 536 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:59,600 But when the women and their wives got in the ear, 537 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,600 they forgot what God said. 538 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:04,920 So ladies, I'm here to inspire you. 539 00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:10,920 You have influence over your husband. 540 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,200 Just let him run around thinking the power range 541 00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:15,200 for a little bit, give him the power. 542 00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:16,160 Cause we gon' trip on it. 543 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:17,400 I told you this three weeks ago, 544 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,120 we gon' trip on that power thing, give him the power. 545 00:27:20,120 --> 00:27:21,920 As long as he ain't abusing this power, 546 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,040 you gon' be all right. 547 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:25,680 You gotta trust God now there. 548 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:27,920 As long as he's not abusing it, 549 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:29,920 they'll make you a step stool, 550 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:31,360 don't make you a slave, 551 00:27:31,360 --> 00:27:32,960 don't make you inferior to him. 552 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:37,840 So if you married to a man and he's not abusing his power, 553 00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:43,840 let him exercise his authority in the relationship. 554 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:45,840 I know it's hard, I know it's hard. 555 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,840 What? 556 00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:53,480 God said that, not Pastor Boulder. 557 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:54,560 Can I read this now? 558 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,440 Now even though this principle is aimed right at women, 559 00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:00,840 it is also applicable to relationships in general. 560 00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:02,320 If you're married to a non-believer, 561 00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:04,120 you gotta be that influencer. 562 00:28:04,120 --> 00:28:05,880 But here the issue with women, 563 00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,840 because it looked like a lot of the women got saved 564 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:10,440 before their husband did. 565 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,920 I think they play out a lot today. 566 00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:16,160 Lady Jeanette was serious about God before I was. 567 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:17,480 Amen. 568 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:18,680 I mean, I was gambling on Sunday 569 00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:20,560 when she was going to church. 570 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:23,920 So eventually, she won the day. 571 00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,120 And I ended up in church. 572 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:31,240 And from that, I'm here standing and teaching y'all. 573 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:33,760 From gambling to preacher. 574 00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:34,600 Yes. 575 00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:37,560 All because of the influence 576 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,840 of a woman who put up with me 577 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,840 until I decided to start following her to church. 578 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,800 So look at this, so she had to live this. 579 00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,320 Verse three in first Peter chapter three, 580 00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,680 he says, in the same way, 581 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:05,920 you wives must, someone say must, 582 00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,400 accept the authority of your husband. 583 00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:14,000 Not might, not shall, must. 584 00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:17,280 He is the authority figure. 585 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:18,480 Ladies, can I get amen? 586 00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:20,800 I didn't hear that that loud. 587 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,040 Anyone over here, one of them. 588 00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:26,960 Can the married ladies just say amen? 589 00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:31,960 Amen, y'all just saying God, I agree with you. 590 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:39,960 I know sometimes it's hard to accept the authority 591 00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:42,440 if you're married to a dictator. 592 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,480 But here he ain't talking about Edie I mean. 593 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:51,400 He talking about a guy who still provides peace for you. 594 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:56,400 Amen, and so he says, you must accept the authority 595 00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:00,600 of your husband, not every man that come in your life, 596 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,280 but your husband. 597 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:08,280 Then even if some husband refused to obey the good news, 598 00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:14,000 your godly life will speak to them without any words. 599 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:16,600 See the question is after you leave church 600 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,440 and you go home to your unsafe husband, 601 00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:19,520 how do you speak? 602 00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:24,520 Or you go home to your unsafe wife, how do you speak? 603 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:28,600 Do you speak to them in a godly way 604 00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:32,120 that will influence them to they want to be 605 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,000 and have what you have? 606 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,120 How do you speak? 607 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,960 Because if we live before them in a godly way, 608 00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:42,560 righteous, trying our best to be holy, 609 00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:46,640 trying to be, you know, not living a morally impure life 610 00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:47,480 before them. 611 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:52,480 He says, you can win them over without any words. 612 00:30:55,480 --> 00:31:00,080 You know, that means that you can go home and just be silent 613 00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:03,360 and do what you're supposed to do 614 00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,760 in accordance with your position in the family. 615 00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,480 You ain't got to say a whole lot. 616 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,640 And ladies, I know I don't want to be critical right here 617 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:15,120 because I know y'all are gonna come at me hard 618 00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,000 because we live in a different generation 619 00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,920 that women just don't accept this today. 620 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:22,160 I got it, I got you, I feel you, I get you. 621 00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:25,440 But look at here, many words don't move a man. 622 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:27,520 You can't. 623 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:30,520 Get me here, get me here, get me here. 624 00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:45,120 You move a man by going home and rubbing his head. 625 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,920 Baby, look here, you're the best thing 626 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:49,080 that ever happened to me. 627 00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,320 I mean, I don't know where I would be without you. 628 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:54,760 We've been in this thing for 20 years. 629 00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:57,480 I'm just so, I'm just so glad 630 00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:00,480 that the Lord brought you my life. 631 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:07,960 Then now when you ask the brother to do something, 632 00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:09,320 you may get some result. 633 00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:13,480 You just can't come out of hard. 634 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:18,480 Because when you do, we see that as challenging authority. 635 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:21,920 And when you come out of authority hard, 636 00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:25,120 authority gotta exert its power. 637 00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:31,280 I knew this wasn't gonna go over, 638 00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:33,360 but this is talked about influence. 639 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,200 I knew it was gonna be tough when I was writing this down. 640 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:36,440 I said, they ain't gonna like this, 641 00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,520 but this is what you say, God. 642 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:40,840 Couple of times. 643 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,360 So he says, without a word, 644 00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:49,040 they will be won over by observed. 645 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:51,320 Up. 646 00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:56,440 That mean you can win a mother without even running your mouth. 647 00:32:58,520 --> 00:32:59,640 They can just up. 648 00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:05,440 But we think that I gotta tell them, no, 649 00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:07,360 you just gotta do it. 650 00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:11,120 And let them see you, do what you say you are. 651 00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:13,760 And when they see that, they will come to you. 652 00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:19,360 But you can't go home and become another character 653 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,520 after you leave here. 654 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:22,360 Amen. 655 00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:27,840 Can I read that again? 656 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:33,920 He said, then it will be some refuse. 657 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,360 Then if some refuse to obey the good news, 658 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:42,360 your godly lives will speak to them. 659 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,080 Without any word. 660 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,440 See the problem is we wanna speak from the fact 661 00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:48,880 that I went to church. 662 00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,840 I'm godly, I went to church today, you didn't even go. 663 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,840 It's evident that church didn't make you godly. 664 00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:03,200 Because you come home talking like you are. 665 00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:06,080 You been sitting right here watching this all day? 666 00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:07,840 You know, yeah, you see him sitting there, 667 00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,280 so you ain't gotta state that. 668 00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,480 Leave out the obvious. 669 00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:19,680 Encourage him. 670 00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:21,280 Or encourage him, because you hear me, 671 00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:22,480 I'm gonna marry somebody that later 672 00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:24,080 don't like to go to church. 673 00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:27,080 But I found in our culture, 90% of the time, 674 00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,360 it's the bruzz, the bruzz. 675 00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,360 Just take a long time for the bruzz 676 00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,000 to feel Jesus like you feel him. 677 00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:38,920 But you gotta live before him in a righteous and godly way 678 00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:41,880 and trust God will change his heart. 679 00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:43,200 Amen. 680 00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:46,200 It ain't time for you to talk about incompatibility. 681 00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:54,920 Incompatibility is not grounds for divorce. 682 00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:58,680 I know some of y'all may disagree, but I'm just saying, 683 00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:00,840 I ain't talking about abuse, I ain't talking about all this other stuff. 684 00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:03,880 I'm just talking about, you know, he likes fishing, 685 00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:05,160 I like gardening. 686 00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:06,160 Okay. 687 00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:09,640 We just ain't compatible in that area. 688 00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:12,200 But y'all got fire too. 689 00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:13,200 You got a good one. 690 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,200 There is some compatibility somewhere. 691 00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:23,880 Oh, let me move on, because I know I'm messing around, 692 00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:26,200 I know, but see, sometimes you have to tell her like it is. 693 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,280 So without a word, they will be won over 694 00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:36,040 by observing your pure and reverent lives. 695 00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:39,360 The way you live can influence your spouse. 696 00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:40,440 Amen. 697 00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:43,320 And that's so important for us as Christians, the way we live 698 00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:44,320 can influence the world. 699 00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:46,440 We're going to look at that a little bit more next week, 700 00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:50,120 but today I want to end with this in 1 Peter chapter 2. 701 00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:02,880 And so husband, I invite y'all to go back and read all of 1 Peter chapter 3. 702 00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:05,560 Read the whole thing, because he said something to the man in there also. 703 00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:08,600 And go back and read that whole Corinthian passage. 704 00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,440 So you can really get a clear understanding of how God sees marriage 705 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:15,560 and how he wants you to make sure that you do everything that you can 706 00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:20,720 to stay in a relationship that you in, unless there's some craziness going on. 707 00:36:20,720 --> 00:36:21,680 Amen. 708 00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:25,400 Patsy Bowling is not one of those guys who, I'm not an old schooler. 709 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:28,480 Honey, just stay with him. 710 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:30,840 One day, he going to change. 711 00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:37,320 You know, I don't get hit five weeks in a row. 712 00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:44,800 I'm going to put some distance between me and him until he stop, hit four. 713 00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,160 So I'm not talking about if you're in an abusive relationship. 714 00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:49,240 I'm talking about if you're in a relationship where, you know, 715 00:36:49,240 --> 00:36:52,200 you and your husband just don't agree all the time on something. 716 00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,240 No abuse, no mental abuse, no physical abuse, 717 00:36:55,240 --> 00:36:59,240 not all that stuff that's messing with your head. 718 00:36:59,240 --> 00:37:03,720 I'm just talking about the stuff to just get on your nerve 719 00:37:03,720 --> 00:37:09,160 that don't mess your head up because you still act the way you act. 720 00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:11,560 I know this quiet thing about marriage, man, but marriage is serious. 721 00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:12,880 You know, brother Latham got something going on. 722 00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:15,320 We've been talking about it in the church and I guarantee you, 723 00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:21,160 if you listen to some of the class he got, he going to read these same scripture to you. 724 00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:26,560 And for hundreds of years, this scripture has been debated 725 00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:30,600 about that word authority and roles in the family. 726 00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:35,400 It's even more so contested down because women are more educated than men now. 727 00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:38,720 There are more women on college campuses than men. 728 00:37:38,720 --> 00:37:40,360 Women are getting better jobs than men. 729 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:41,160 Ain't nothing wrong with that. 730 00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,440 It's a good thing to change. 731 00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:46,440 But because our culture change and allow that, 732 00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:50,560 it don't change the roles in the family. 733 00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:55,320 You make 100K plus a year, he makes 50. 734 00:37:55,320 --> 00:38:00,880 When you come on, he's still the authority figure. 735 00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:06,600 Don't flaunt your stacks. 736 00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,280 And think because you got the stacks and the racks 737 00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,400 that you can call all the shots. 738 00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:14,880 No, no, no. 739 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:20,320 If he's capable, you got to let him be the authority figure, ladies. 740 00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:31,320 I would say, if I was on social media, I'd say, if you disagree with me and got some heartburn 741 00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,040 with it, just hit me up on my social. 742 00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:34,040 But I ain't got no social. 743 00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:35,040 You can't. 744 00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:37,560 So don't be sending me no text. 745 00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:39,560 You got my phone, don't be sending me no text. 746 00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:40,560 Just read the passage. 747 00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:41,560 Amen. 748 00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:43,320 First Peter chapter two, we almost done. 749 00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:44,920 First Peter chapter two. 750 00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:50,120 Here as Christian, we should influence non-believers by honorable behavior. 751 00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:55,520 So just like in the family, then also when we're out in the community in our area of 752 00:38:55,520 --> 00:39:01,560 influence, we got to be able to influence people by our honorable behavior. 753 00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:06,960 When we act in a way that is pleasing to God, when we act with integrity, when we live 754 00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:12,680 like we're at righteous life, when we strive to be holy, our honorable behavior. 755 00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:18,200 Your honorable behavior will be able to help you when folks start lying on you. 756 00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,200 All right. 757 00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,480 Y'all in the first Peter chapter two? 758 00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:24,520 Look at this verse now. 759 00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:30,600 He says, but you are not like that, talking to these new believers, for you are a chosen 760 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:31,600 people. 761 00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:33,800 Man, you got to know who you are. 762 00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:35,520 You got to know who represents you. 763 00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:42,800 Then you tell them, you are royal priests, a holy nation, God's own possession. 764 00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:47,000 In other words, when I know who I am, even though this goes back to Israel, but because 765 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:50,440 we are children of God, this also apply to us. 766 00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,200 He wasn't talking to Jews when he wrote this. 767 00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:56,280 They were talking to a young church that was believers that were not necessarily in Jerusalem, 768 00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:57,280 were not necessarily Jews. 769 00:39:57,280 --> 00:40:00,640 And so therefore he's telling them, look, you got to know who you are. 770 00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:01,640 You are chosen people. 771 00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:03,080 You are not just anybody. 772 00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:05,760 God chose you. 773 00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:06,760 You're a royal priest. 774 00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:12,120 The reason he would say that now to them because they, in the oil system, only the priest could 775 00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:13,680 do certain things. 776 00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:16,800 Now you're part of a priesthood because of what Jesus did. 777 00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:20,520 You can go to the altar for yourself. 778 00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:25,040 You got to really hate my status and my station in life where God has changed all because 779 00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:26,400 of what Jesus did. 780 00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:28,040 And now I realize who I am. 781 00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:29,040 Man, I'm royalty. 782 00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:31,560 I'm part of a royal priesthood. 783 00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:33,800 I belong to God. 784 00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:38,040 He paid for me with a price that I couldn't pay. 785 00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:46,200 Then he says, as a result, you can show others the goodness of God. 786 00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:48,520 I'm going to tie this back to what I've been talking about. 787 00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:53,840 Husband, wife, when you go home, you got to know you're part of a royal priesthood. 788 00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:55,360 You belong to God. 789 00:40:55,360 --> 00:41:00,000 And as a result, you can show your husband or your wife the goodness. 790 00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:07,440 So when you go home today, when you get with your husband and your wife, they hear with 791 00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:13,280 you, and you get to say, baby, I'm just here to show you something. 792 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:21,360 And then all you got to do is say, baby, what does goodness look like to you? 793 00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:23,440 Let them define it for you. 794 00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:27,840 Jesse, you ain't married. 795 00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:28,960 These are just pointers for you, man. 796 00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:30,280 I see you back there smiling. 797 00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:34,240 I hope you're getting it. 798 00:41:34,240 --> 00:41:39,760 He said, we got to show them the goodness of God, for he called you out of darkness into 799 00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:41,280 his wonderful life. 800 00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:44,400 You got to be the light when you go home. 801 00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:49,520 He says, now look, once you had no identity as the people, now you are God's people. 802 00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:53,360 Once you received no mercy, now you have received God's mercy. 803 00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:59,920 Man, God was compassionate toward me, so he expects us to be compassionate toward others. 804 00:41:59,920 --> 00:42:01,760 We know who we are now. 805 00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:05,200 Once we had no identity, but now we have been brought into his family. 806 00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:09,000 We know who we are as children of God. 807 00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:15,680 He says, now look, dear friends, verse 11, I warn you as temporary residents and foreigners, 808 00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:22,000 you on earth, to keep away from worldly desires that wage war against your soul. 809 00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:26,240 Now it's important, all worldly desires are not necessarily bad. 810 00:42:26,240 --> 00:42:30,480 Ain't that wrong with you desiring a nice job, or a nice car, a nice house? 811 00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:31,480 Ain't that wrong. 812 00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:32,480 That's a good one. 813 00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:34,680 A worldly desire for that, a nice house, a nice job. 814 00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:38,680 You went to college, you ought to be desiring that. 815 00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:49,280 But the key is, do worldly desires war against your soul? 816 00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:58,720 So he says, you got to keep away from worldly desires that war against your very soul. 817 00:42:58,720 --> 00:43:02,960 Things that come into your life that don't bring you the peace that you're looking for, 818 00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:04,520 that don't bring you the joy. 819 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,920 Things that come in your life that want to turn you away from who you believe, that is 820 00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:12,640 trying to rob you of your very soul. 821 00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:16,840 And now I'm telling you that, he said they wage a war against you. 822 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:21,120 And so those worldly desires that you know that a wage a war against you, you got to 823 00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:23,200 turn away from them then. 824 00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:24,200 Amen. 825 00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:28,440 Because if those worldly desires are negative influences, then you're never going to be 826 00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:31,240 able to win the person over that you're living with. 827 00:43:31,240 --> 00:43:38,560 Because they're going to use those worldly desires against you. 828 00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:41,440 How can you come and talk to me about that? 829 00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:47,800 And you've been in church all day and now you come and act like. 830 00:43:47,800 --> 00:44:01,840 You say these desires, the things that we maybe want sometimes that we don't need, the 831 00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:07,920 desires, you got to determine in your mind when you feel your soul is being vexed by 832 00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:09,960 something that's worldly. 833 00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:14,240 You got to know that when you get uncomfortable with certain things you want to do and your 834 00:44:14,240 --> 00:44:16,960 soul start to cry out to you. 835 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:20,760 You got to say, hey, whatever this is, this is warring against something on the inside 836 00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:30,320 of me and I got to do everything in my power not to do it. 837 00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:32,200 Verse 12, last one. 838 00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:39,080 He says, be careful to live properly among your unbelieving neighbors. 839 00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:45,360 Then, even if they accuse you of doing wrong. 840 00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:48,960 They will see, not hear. 841 00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:52,440 We can all talk it. 842 00:44:52,440 --> 00:45:00,840 They will see your honorable behavior and they will give honor to God when he judges 843 00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:01,840 the world. 844 00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:08,160 There are some people that's in your circle of influence that is not saved but it's up 845 00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:12,160 to you to live honorable before them. 846 00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:16,920 To live like a person of integrity with high moral character. 847 00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:22,400 When you live like that before them, then when someone accuse you of something that 848 00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:31,040 don't line up with your character, God going to come to battle for you. 849 00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:38,040 So we have an obligation as believers to try to have that influence over family and friends 850 00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:39,880 who are not believers. 851 00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:45,240 Because we know who we are now and we know that if they would accept Jesus Christ as 852 00:45:45,240 --> 00:45:52,280 Lord and Savior, they may not realize it right now but over time they will see that that's 853 00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,680 a relationship that's worth being in. 854 00:45:55,680 --> 00:45:56,680 And it start with you. 855 00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:57,680 Start with your households. 856 00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:03,800 Start with your own family members. 857 00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:10,520 If your witness don't stand up before your children, it ain't going to stand up before 858 00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:15,120 somebody you don't know out in the world when you're trying to witness to them. 859 00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:22,280 And our hope that we live before our children in a way that they don't think we're frauds. 860 00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:42,080 Well, we act honorable from 10 to 12 on Sunday, but in 1215 we transform. 861 00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:51,280 So our attitude, now conduct all have an impact and have the ability to influence people. 862 00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:57,800 So every now and then you got a lot of Holy Spirit to just check you when you get outside 863 00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:01,560 of who God has called you to be. 864 00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:06,360 The Bible says you have been called out of darkness. 865 00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:13,160 You're not to go back in the darkness and act like you are still. 866 00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:20,800 You're there to shine the light on the darkness so that they can see the change that God has 867 00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:23,400 put in your life. 868 00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:28,280 How your life has been totally transformed by the word of God. 869 00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:31,520 All of your influences in one way or another. 870 00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:38,120 And I just pray today that you are a good influencer and not a bad influencer. 871 00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:39,120 Amen. 872 00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,000 Give the Lord a hand to praise. 873 00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:42,000 Hallelujah. 874 00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:43,000 Hallelujah. 875 00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:52,240 Alrightify.