WEBVTT 00:00:10.129 --> 00:00:13.289 Every marriage enters a moment when the warmth 00:00:13.289 --> 00:00:16.989 of the house becomes fire, not fire that destroys 00:00:16.989 --> 00:00:21.170 but fire that reveals. Some lessons cannot be 00:00:21.170 --> 00:00:24.649 learned in prayer. Some maturity cannot be gained 00:00:24.649 --> 00:00:28.230 in peace. Some character cannot grow without 00:00:28.230 --> 00:00:31.420 pressure. And I remember the day the heat found 00:00:31.420 --> 00:00:38.960 me. It was our first real fight. I was angry, 00:00:39.179 --> 00:00:43.140 frustrated, overwhelmed. And in that moment of 00:00:43.140 --> 00:00:46.079 heat, I did something I never imagined I would 00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:50.240 do. I threw my wedding ring. It hit the floor. 00:00:50.899 --> 00:00:55.219 And I screamed. You lied to me. Not from hatred, 00:00:55.560 --> 00:00:59.329 but from hurt. That day, The house wasn't warm. 00:00:59.890 --> 00:01:04.189 It was hot, uncomfortable, confrontational, exposing. 00:01:04.950 --> 00:01:09.189 And God allowed it, not to break us, but to build 00:01:09.189 --> 00:01:16.230 something in us. In moments like this, God does 00:01:16.230 --> 00:01:20.650 something beautiful. He sends mentors. Our pastoral 00:01:20.650 --> 00:01:23.849 Godfather couple stepped in, not to take sides, 00:01:24.189 --> 00:01:27.739 not to shame us, but to guide us. They sat with 00:01:27.739 --> 00:01:31.719 us. They listened. They diffused the fire in 00:01:31.719 --> 00:01:34.819 the room, but not the lesson God wanted us to 00:01:34.819 --> 00:01:38.920 learn. They showed us how to communicate without 00:01:38.920 --> 00:01:42.659 attacking, how to listen without defending, how 00:01:42.659 --> 00:01:45.700 to love without conditions, how to fight for 00:01:45.700 --> 00:01:48.700 each other, not against each other. Their presence 00:01:48.700 --> 00:01:52.340 was a reminder. Mentorship is God's way of guiding 00:01:52.340 --> 00:01:55.040 you through the heat when your emotions can no 00:01:55.040 --> 00:02:01.829 longer guide you. See, God doesn't only seal 00:02:01.829 --> 00:02:05.109 the door. He also sends teachers of wisdom into 00:02:05.109 --> 00:02:09.590 the house. Moses had Jethro. Joshua had Moses. 00:02:10.430 --> 00:02:14.669 Elisha had Elijah. Timothy had Paul. Ruth had 00:02:14.669 --> 00:02:18.669 Naomi. And I had them. Because sometimes the 00:02:18.669 --> 00:02:22.409 Holy Spirit speaks. Not through a voice. Not 00:02:22.409 --> 00:02:25.409 through a vision. But through people who carry 00:02:25.409 --> 00:02:29.199 His wisdom. Mentorship. is the Holy Spirit wearing 00:02:29.199 --> 00:02:59.719 skin. The heat wasn't he trying to destroy us. 00:02:59.879 --> 00:03:03.080 It was trying to transform us. And mentorship 00:03:03.080 --> 00:03:06.259 wasn't a sign of weakness. It was a sign of God's 00:03:06.259 --> 00:03:13.159 mercy. The same room where I threw my ring is 00:03:13.159 --> 00:03:15.319 the same room where God taught us how to love. 00:03:16.120 --> 00:03:18.979 The same heat that exposed us is the same heat 00:03:18.979 --> 00:03:21.879 that shaped us. And the same mentors who guided 00:03:21.879 --> 00:03:25.199 us became a permanent part of our spiritual family. 00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:28.210 Because in the kingdom, You don't grow alone. 00:03:28.629 --> 00:03:31.189 You don't heal alone. You don't mature alone. 00:03:31.689 --> 00:03:34.250 God surrounds you with voices of wisdom to make 00:03:34.250 --> 00:03:36.110 sure you don't run out of the house when the 00:03:36.110 --> 00:04:00.300 heat rises. This is Pomoja Podcast, where God 00:04:00.300 --> 00:04:04.219 builds us, shapes us, and grows us. Where we 00:04:04.219 --> 00:04:07.639 live the life of Christ, together. Be sure to 00:04:07.639 --> 00:04:08.819 like, share, and subscribe.