Here's a surprising truth. People who feel deeply
connected to others tend to live longer. Not
because of fancy medicine or perfect diets, but
because of love. Today I want to show you how
love, connection, and feeling valued can actually
protect your health as you age and what you can
do right now to build more of it into your life.
I'm Robin Schiltz, a senior home safety specialist,
and after years of working with older adults
and their families, I've seen this truth play
out again and again. Let's talk about why this
matters so much. When most people think about
longevity, they think about doctors and pills
and exercise plans, and yes, those things matter,
but here's what often gets missed. Human connection.
It is not optional. It is biological. Our bodies
respond to love in real and measurable ways.
When you feel connected to someone, your stress
levels drop. Your blood pressure often improves.
Your immune system works better. You sleep better.
You even heal faster. When someone feels lonely
for long periods of time, their body stays in
a low -level stress mode. Cortisol stays high.
Inflammation goes up. Over time that stress wears
down the heart. the brain and the immune system.
I've seen this happen with seniors who were physically
safe at home but emotionally isolated. Their
homes were fine, their medications were managed,
but something was missing, and that was connection.
Now compare that to seniors who feel loved. They
have someone who checks in, someone who listens,
someone who cares if they're having a good day
or a bad one. Those seniors often do better.
They move more, they eat better, they stay engaged,
they have a reason to get up in the morning.
Love gives life momentum. And love does not have
to mean romantic love. This is an important distinction
to understand. Love can come from a spouse, from
adult children, from friends, neighbors, from
people in a faith community, from a caregiver
who treats someone with dignity and patience.
Even small moments of connection count. A daily
phone call, a weekly coffee date, a shared laugh
with a neighbor, a caregiver who takes time to
really see the person, not just the task in front
of them. These moments add up. I once worked
with an older woman who lived alone after her
husband passed away. Physically she was doing
okay, but emotionally she was fading. What changed
everything was not a new medication or a big
home renovation. It was a simple routine. Her
granddaughter started calling her every night
before bed. Just a quick five -minute phone call.
But that five minutes became the highlight of
her day. Her mood improved. She started cooking
again. She started taking short walks. Her doctor
even noted her better overall health at her next
visit. That is not a coincidence. Love creates
purpose and purpose supports health. Now let's
talk about caregivers for a moment because this
matters for you too. If you're caring for someone
you love, your connection with them matters just
as much as the physical care you provide. Safety
is important, fall prevention is important, obviously
medication management is important, but emotional
safety matters too. Speak kindly. Explain what
you're doing. Include the person in decisions
when possible. Touch their hand. Make eye contact.
These moments reinforce dignity and trust, and
trust reduces fear, and after all, fear puts
stress on the body, so having less fear means
better health outcomes. Here's another piece
that people don't always talk about. Loneliness
can be as harmful to health as smoking or obesity.
That's not meant to scare you, it's meant to
wake us up. If you're aging in place, ask yourself
this simple question, who do I regularly connect
with? If the answer feels thin, that's not a
failure, it's a signal. These signals are useful.
Connection can be rebuilt at any age. Join a
local group of something that you're interested
in, a book group, a garden club, something like
that. Reach out and call the word firm that you
haven't talked to in a while. Say yes to invitations
when you can, and let people help you. Ask for
help. People are always willing to help, but
people don't ask and so the need goes unfulfilled.
If you're a family member, you want to check
on the person not just about safety, but on their
feelings. You might ask them, who have you talked
to today? What made you smile this week? Is there
anything you're missing? Questions like these
that are open -ended, open doors. Love and longevity
are deeply linked because humans are wired for
connection. We're not meant to age alone. We're
meant to age supported and valued and seen. And
the beautiful thing is that love does not require
perfection or big gestures. It just requires
presence. And a little more presence can mean
a lot more life for someone. So thanks for joining
me today. Please share this episode with someone
you care about who could use the information
to make their life safer. You'll find more resources
for seniors and caregivers on our website at
seniorsafetyadvice .com. And if you're searching
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Until next time, thanks so much for listening.
Take care. Bye!