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Regular piping hot cup of French roast

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coffee here

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from Trader Joe's mixed with some Don

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Francisco's Hawaiian hazelnut. It is

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freaking delicious. And

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and look, I don't want to make anybody

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jealous. I don't,

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but I'm about to. And I do owe you an

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amends

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for

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what I'm about to tell you.

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Maybe

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I'll pray about it. But

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I'm having pizza for lunch,

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I don't know.

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I feel like I I don't want to make

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anybody jealous. I don't I care about

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you. I love you. I don't want you to

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hurt.

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But, you know, just full transparency

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here. I'm having pizza later today. So,

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I just wanted you to know that.

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Okay.

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Enough of those shenanigans.

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It's true, though. All right.

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There's a book by Em EMTT Fox called The

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Golden Key and 22 additional essays. I'm

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going to read something from it

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and then tie it into the big book of

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Alcoholics Anonymous and then talk about

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my own experience. And

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that is the plan. So, I'm going to read

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a lot of this, not every part of it, but

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I'm going to read a lot of this essay

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called The Key of Destiny. It's on page

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19 if you happen to have that book.

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There are a few great laws that govern

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all thinking

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just as there are a few fundamental laws

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in chemistry and physics and in

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mechanics for example.

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We know that thought control is the key

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of destiny. And in order to learn

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thought control, we have to know and

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understand these laws just as the

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chemist has to understand the laws of

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chemistry and the electrician has to

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know the laws of electricity.

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One of the great mental laws

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is the law of substitution.

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This means that the only way to get rid

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of a certain thought

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is to substitute another one for it.

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You cannot dismiss a thought directly.

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You can only do so by substituting

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another one for it. On the physical

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plane, this is not the case. You can

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drop a book or a stone by simply opening

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your hand and letting it go.

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But with thought, this will not work.

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If you want to dismiss a negative

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thought, the only way to do it is to

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think of something positive and

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constructive.

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It is as though in order, let us say, to

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drop a pencil, it would be necessary to

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put a pen or a book or a stone into your

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when the pencil would fall away.

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If I say to you, do not think of the

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Statue of Liberty,

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of course, you will immediately think of

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the Statue of Liberty,

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that is thinking of it.

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if you become interested in something

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Liberty.

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It sometimes happens that negative

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thoughts seem to besiege you in such

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force you cannot overcome them.

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of depression or a fit of worry perhaps

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to go find someone

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to talk to on any subject

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go to a movie or play or read an

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interesting book or a good novel or

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biography or travel book, something of

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If you sit down to fight the negative

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tide, you will probably succeed only in

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refusing steadfastly to think of or

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rehearse the difficulty.

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after you have completely gotten away

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from it, you can come back to it with

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confidence and handle it by spiritual

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Now I'm going to turn to the big book

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and I'm going to keep this very simple.

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I'm just going to read a couple of

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There's more we could read, but I'm just

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keep this brief, uncomplicated as

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We ask him to remove our fear and to

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direct our attention to what he would

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have us be.

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That's what I just read about.

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We ask God to remove our fear and then

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think of something else.

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Ask God to direct my attention to

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halfway through. If sex is very

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troublesome,

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we go to meetings and share about it and

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talk about it endlessly and rehearse it

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and we try not to think about it. Just

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kidding. If sex is very troublesome, we

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throw ourselves the harder into helping

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Are you ready for this?

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at the top.

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Uh we then look at step six. We have

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emphasized willingness as being

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indispensable. Are we now ready to let

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God remove from us all the things which

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we have admitted are objectionable? Can

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I now take them all? Everyone.

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let go. We ask God to help us be

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willing.

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When ready, we say something like this.

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My creator, I'm now willing that you

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should have all of me, good and bad. I

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pray that you now remove from me every

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single defective character which stands

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in the way of my usefulness to you and

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my fellows. Grant me strength as I go

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out from here to your bidding. Amen.

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I just read step six and step seven.

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When I went through the work

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in 1992,

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when I was about two and a half years

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sober with this understanding that I'm

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talking about now,

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I had a completely different experience

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than I had

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earlier when I was

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spending a lot of time looking at

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rehearsing, sharing about, focusing on,

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studying, trying to ignore my character

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defects. When I was doing that, when I

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was highlighting the 12 and 12 in my

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very early recovery, I was a mess. I was

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uncomfortable.

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if you sit down and fight the negative

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tide, you'll probably succeed only in

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amplifying it.

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book,

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that message that I understand and have

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that's so simple and in alignment with

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what I just read from EMTT Fox

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changed my whole life.

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The focus isn't on fear anymore. The

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focus is on love.

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I know I have character defects. I know

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that I come up short daily. I know that

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um make mistakes daily. I know that I

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have selfishness now that I can't see

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yet.

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That I'm I hope that I will at some

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I've learned these things,

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but these things I watch for them. Like

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the big book says, we continue to watch

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for these things,

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but I don't focus on these things

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because I have found that like I said,

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when I focus on these things, I amplify

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them.

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So I very deliberately focus on

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as best I can what I think God would

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have me be,

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which is not somebody who's talking

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about my character defects

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and amplifying them,

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discussing them endlessly over and over

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again and studying them over and over

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again. I had to do I had to write down

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my

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character defects in step four

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and so I can identify them

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and give them to God.

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And I have to do that when I do

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inventories now.

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But aside from, you know, gathering up

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that trash and

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putting it on the curb for God to

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remove,

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it's not my focus

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has made and makes all the difference in

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the world for me.

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my focus today is going to be on pizza

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that I'm having for lunch. So,

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my new modeling gig,

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I'm doing a a photo shoot for a

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non-alcoholic beverage

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called

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you know what? I'm just going to abort

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this joke. I'm stopping.

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All right. want to give a shout out to

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uh

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podcast Greater Than Yourself and the

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Sober Gratitudes podcast. And

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want to say hello to

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Chelsea and