WEBVTT 00:00:02.509 --> 00:00:07.410 So we're going to begin this morning with the 00:00:07.410 --> 00:00:13.650 role of women in the family. I know some of the 00:00:13.650 --> 00:00:16.050 men are very happy to get off the men, right? 00:00:16.070 --> 00:00:18.570 We've literally been hammering the men lately. 00:00:20.489 --> 00:00:24.890 But we're not done. Because husbands, you need 00:00:24.890 --> 00:00:27.190 to hear all these things. Because these are things 00:00:27.190 --> 00:00:30.269 that you should expect in your home. Remember, 00:00:30.269 --> 00:00:33.299 you're responsible for everything. You're responsible 00:00:33.299 --> 00:00:36.619 for your wife. You're responsible for her attitude 00:00:36.619 --> 00:00:40.200 for her actions for all that goes on So you're 00:00:40.200 --> 00:00:42.600 still not off the hook. You still have more to 00:00:42.600 --> 00:00:52.600 hear and more to apply and to use It's easy Preaching 00:00:52.600 --> 00:00:55.560 to the men because I'm a man and so I preach 00:00:55.560 --> 00:00:58.719 it to myself when I'm preaching to you guys I'm 00:00:58.719 --> 00:01:02.240 not giving myself a pass or anything like that. 00:01:03.280 --> 00:01:06.879 I see my own failures as I preach to you guys 00:01:06.879 --> 00:01:09.459 what you should be doing. I see my failures in 00:01:09.459 --> 00:01:12.420 the past and how I still am not perfect in those 00:01:12.420 --> 00:01:17.379 things. It's a lot harder to preach regarding 00:01:17.379 --> 00:01:22.620 wives and women because it's just hard to point 00:01:22.620 --> 00:01:25.540 things out to people. It's hard to say things 00:01:25.540 --> 00:01:30.439 sometimes that might be hurtful or offensive. 00:01:30.569 --> 00:01:34.189 or all of those different things. And so I really 00:01:34.189 --> 00:01:37.790 struggled this week as I tried to put my thoughts 00:01:37.790 --> 00:01:41.310 down in how I should put them down, how I should 00:01:41.310 --> 00:01:45.269 present these things. Again, trying to be true 00:01:45.269 --> 00:01:48.709 to the Word and honest with the Scripture and 00:01:48.709 --> 00:01:52.069 glorifying to God. So hopefully this morning 00:01:52.069 --> 00:01:55.030 will be beneficial and helpful for everybody. 00:02:00.140 --> 00:02:03.700 We're gonna begin again in Genesis again I'm 00:02:03.700 --> 00:02:06.299 gonna say this is nothing new. This is something 00:02:06.299 --> 00:02:09.199 that I've said before but I just want to again 00:02:09.199 --> 00:02:13.479 point point it out here So in Genesis 1 26 through 00:02:13.479 --> 00:02:17.960 28 we have Then God said let us make man in our 00:02:17.960 --> 00:02:21.659 image according to our likeness And let them 00:02:21.659 --> 00:02:24.460 let them rule over the fish of the sea over the 00:02:24.460 --> 00:02:27.710 birds of the sky, over the cattle, and over all 00:02:27.710 --> 00:02:30.270 the earth, and every creeping thing that creeps 00:02:30.270 --> 00:02:33.710 on the earth. God created man in his own image. 00:02:33.889 --> 00:02:37.229 In the image of God, he created him. Male and 00:02:37.229 --> 00:02:41.770 female, he created them. God blessed them, and 00:02:41.770 --> 00:02:44.330 God said to them, Be fruitful, and multiply, 00:02:44.569 --> 00:02:47.289 and fill the earth, and subdue it, and rule over 00:02:47.289 --> 00:02:51.030 the fish of the sea and over the birds of the 00:02:51.030 --> 00:02:53.650 sky, and over every living thing that moves on 00:02:53.650 --> 00:03:02.360 the earth. I'm gonna go ahead and read also verse 00:03:02.360 --> 00:03:07.740 18 there. Oh no, I'll just wait. I'll wait on 00:03:07.740 --> 00:03:09.419 that. So that's chapter one there. That's the 00:03:09.419 --> 00:03:11.360 beginning. And so we talked about this already. 00:03:11.439 --> 00:03:15.340 God created male and female. I think I said something 00:03:15.340 --> 00:03:18.620 that one guy I was listening to said you could, 00:03:19.599 --> 00:03:23.919 the way that all this is said there that the 00:03:23.919 --> 00:03:25.960 man and the woman, they're like opposite. So 00:03:25.960 --> 00:03:28.280 they're the same, but they're opposite of one 00:03:28.280 --> 00:03:30.449 another. So they're the same in the sense that 00:03:30.449 --> 00:03:33.389 they're created in the image of God, right? Man 00:03:33.389 --> 00:03:36.870 and woman, we all bear the image of God. We are 00:03:36.870 --> 00:03:39.009 image bearers, and we've said that. Hopefully 00:03:39.009 --> 00:03:41.909 we're clear on that. Hopefully we're clear on 00:03:41.909 --> 00:03:45.550 the responsibility that we have as image bearers, 00:03:45.569 --> 00:03:49.310 that we are to reflect God in the way that we 00:03:49.310 --> 00:03:53.530 live, the way that we act. We are His representatives 00:03:53.530 --> 00:03:57.409 here on earth, as Adam was. to represent God 00:03:57.409 --> 00:04:01.689 in the very beginning there. So we're different, 00:04:01.849 --> 00:04:05.150 but we're the same in that sense. We are equal 00:04:05.150 --> 00:04:11.050 in God's eyes. When we deal with wives and husbands, 00:04:11.150 --> 00:04:14.229 men and women, the idea of authority and submission, 00:04:14.830 --> 00:04:20.529 there is no lesserness or one inferior in the 00:04:20.529 --> 00:04:23.930 eyes of God. We're the same. Okay? Make sure 00:04:23.930 --> 00:04:30.149 we understand that. We talked about in Chapter 00:04:30.149 --> 00:04:32.310 218, we'll read it here in a minute, but it says 00:04:32.310 --> 00:04:36.470 here that why was Eve created? Why did God make 00:04:36.470 --> 00:04:38.750 Eve? What was the need there? Because Adam, there 00:04:38.750 --> 00:04:41.189 was something deficient, right? He needed someone. 00:04:41.589 --> 00:04:45.769 He needed a helper. Someone to come alongside, 00:04:45.970 --> 00:04:50.889 to be a helpmate to him, to help me. And so, 00:04:51.990 --> 00:04:55.560 there's not this idea of... One is better than 00:04:55.560 --> 00:04:58.660 the other one is superior to the other they're 00:04:58.660 --> 00:05:01.899 equal They have different roles, right? That's 00:05:01.899 --> 00:05:04.480 what we've said time and again different roles 00:05:04.480 --> 00:05:08.120 different responsibilities That that does not 00:05:08.120 --> 00:05:11.040 make one less than the other so make sure that 00:05:11.040 --> 00:05:13.560 we're clear on that make sure we understand that 00:05:13.560 --> 00:05:17.279 and So you men make sure that that is your view 00:05:17.279 --> 00:05:22.459 of your wife. She's not less than you Women are 00:05:22.459 --> 00:05:27.120 not less than men Okay, don't understand me in 00:05:27.120 --> 00:05:29.860 that way. That's not what I'm saying. I want 00:05:29.860 --> 00:05:33.439 to be clear there But we are different and we 00:05:33.439 --> 00:05:35.540 have been given different roles and different 00:05:35.540 --> 00:05:39.300 responsibilities Understand me in that regard. 00:05:39.339 --> 00:05:43.439 We're not the same in that regard. We're different 00:05:46.829 --> 00:05:49.269 were both given commands there. They were told 00:05:49.269 --> 00:05:52.490 there to be fruitful, to multiply, to subdue 00:05:52.490 --> 00:05:54.329 the earth, all of these things. So they were 00:05:54.329 --> 00:05:57.490 both given these commands to subdue, to do these 00:05:57.490 --> 00:06:00.290 different things. And so I want us to understand 00:06:00.290 --> 00:06:03.709 that as men, we talked about what is our role? 00:06:03.810 --> 00:06:05.930 What are we subduing? What are we taking dominion 00:06:05.930 --> 00:06:09.490 over? And all of those things. Women, the same 00:06:09.490 --> 00:06:12.029 applies to them. They are to subdue, to take 00:06:12.029 --> 00:06:16.189 dominion, to rule in their realm, in their role. 00:06:17.610 --> 00:06:19.889 Take responsibility for those things they've 00:06:19.889 --> 00:06:24.750 been given So I will read here in chapter 2 verse 00:06:24.750 --> 00:06:29.170 18 Then the Lord God said it is not good for 00:06:29.170 --> 00:06:31.649 the man to be alone. I will make him a helper 00:06:31.649 --> 00:06:36.970 suitable for him So then we have the account 00:06:36.970 --> 00:06:49.540 of Eve Why Did God make Eve? Why did He create 00:06:49.540 --> 00:06:57.420 Eve? Because there was something lacking in man. 00:06:57.699 --> 00:07:02.000 It was not good for us to be alone. We needed 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:09.060 a helper. Okay? Men, it's important for you to 00:07:09.060 --> 00:07:11.939 understand you're not an island. You're not isolated. 00:07:12.860 --> 00:07:17.720 You're not independent. Okay? Wives as well. 00:07:17.879 --> 00:07:21.199 You women, you're not independent. The idea of 00:07:21.199 --> 00:07:24.079 some strong and independent man out there just 00:07:24.079 --> 00:07:27.339 doing it on his own. Where do we find that in 00:07:27.339 --> 00:07:31.600 Scripture? It's not there. Strong, independent 00:07:31.600 --> 00:07:35.339 woman who needs no man. We don't find that in 00:07:35.339 --> 00:07:38.379 Scripture, right? Once again, that's the world 00:07:38.379 --> 00:07:42.459 saying what it wants to say to make itself feel 00:07:42.459 --> 00:07:49.139 good, to reject God. to reject his word. We were 00:07:49.139 --> 00:07:51.560 made to be in relationship with one another. 00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:54.720 We were made, we talked about this, relationship 00:07:54.720 --> 00:07:59.259 with God. And so this is a good and a needful 00:07:59.259 --> 00:08:03.120 thing, to be in relationship one with another. 00:08:05.839 --> 00:08:09.339 It applies to all areas of our lives. I'll probably 00:08:09.339 --> 00:08:11.699 deal with this a little bit more later on in 00:08:11.699 --> 00:08:14.420 a future message, but in the church, right? The 00:08:14.420 --> 00:08:17.339 same thing. We have relationship here. There 00:08:17.339 --> 00:08:21.500 is a need for one another. Just as there is in 00:08:21.500 --> 00:08:23.740 the husband -wife relationship, they need one 00:08:23.740 --> 00:08:28.399 another. There is something there that is helpful, 00:08:28.819 --> 00:08:34.460 beneficial, and useful, and God -honoring. So, 00:08:35.740 --> 00:08:41.990 Eve was created. as a helper for Adam. And again, 00:08:42.470 --> 00:08:47.110 we should understand this was God's intent for 00:08:47.110 --> 00:08:53.649 a woman. To be a helper and to fulfill that role 00:08:53.649 --> 00:08:57.669 in your life, in your marriage, is to fulfill 00:08:57.669 --> 00:09:03.750 God's design for your life. That is a good and 00:09:03.750 --> 00:09:07.539 a wonderful thing. That is I will say this again 00:09:07.539 --> 00:09:12.259 later probably the place of blessing when we 00:09:12.259 --> 00:09:17.200 when we embrace the role and the responsibility 00:09:17.200 --> 00:09:22.360 that God has given us and We seek to glorify 00:09:22.360 --> 00:09:25.360 him in that role in those responsibilities in 00:09:25.360 --> 00:09:30.210 those things That is the place of blessing When 00:09:30.210 --> 00:09:34.049 we reject God's design when we reject God's commands 00:09:34.049 --> 00:09:37.809 when we reject all of these Clear biblical scriptural 00:09:37.809 --> 00:09:41.169 things and we say I'm gonna do it this way Yes, 00:09:41.169 --> 00:09:44.269 I'm gonna get married and I'm gonna have a husband 00:09:44.269 --> 00:09:47.070 But I'm gonna we're gonna live together the way 00:09:47.070 --> 00:09:50.590 I want to and he's gonna be a help to me and 00:09:50.590 --> 00:09:53.730 I'm gonna lead That's not a place of blessing 00:09:53.730 --> 00:09:59.110 That's nothing but disaster waiting to happen 00:10:00.110 --> 00:10:04.950 So be clear, following God's design for your 00:10:04.950 --> 00:10:07.590 life is a place of blessing. It's a place of 00:10:07.590 --> 00:10:11.830 happiness. It's a place of joy and contentment. 00:10:13.389 --> 00:10:15.850 That's where we all want to be in every aspect 00:10:15.850 --> 00:10:19.789 of our life, following God's design for us and 00:10:19.789 --> 00:10:31.590 His leading. Okay. If you remember, we talked 00:10:31.590 --> 00:10:34.070 about what is a biblical man, what does he look 00:10:34.070 --> 00:10:39.429 like? And we talked about the spiritual aspect. 00:10:39.610 --> 00:10:41.370 That if you're going to be a biblical man, if 00:10:41.370 --> 00:10:44.850 you want to be a godly man, a man who is following 00:10:44.850 --> 00:10:48.909 after God, you have to know, you have to be spiritual. 00:10:49.250 --> 00:10:53.409 You have to be maturing spiritually. And it's 00:10:53.409 --> 00:10:56.710 the same for women, right? We're created in God's 00:10:56.710 --> 00:10:58.879 image. We should be image -bearers. What does 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:01.559 that mean? It's the same for men and women as 00:11:01.559 --> 00:11:04.220 far as what it should look like in the sense 00:11:04.220 --> 00:11:07.860 of being faithful, being true, being honest, 00:11:08.240 --> 00:11:11.399 being holy. All of those things apply to men 00:11:11.399 --> 00:11:15.139 and women the same. We should all be striving 00:11:15.139 --> 00:11:19.279 to be like God in that way. Be ye holy as I am 00:11:19.279 --> 00:11:22.580 holy, God said. Be perfect as I am perfect in 00:11:22.580 --> 00:11:26.899 another place, right? That's all of us as Christians 00:11:27.129 --> 00:11:32.669 desiring to reflect God in that way. And so it's 00:11:32.669 --> 00:11:37.929 important that men, you understand that you are 00:11:37.929 --> 00:11:43.370 to encourage, help, foster your wife in this 00:11:43.370 --> 00:11:50.169 way. Maturing spiritually. Wives, women, you 00:11:50.169 --> 00:11:53.289 have the responsibility to mature spiritually, 00:11:53.330 --> 00:11:57.860 to grow, to understand who God is. to understand 00:11:57.860 --> 00:12:02.220 His Word, to understand your role as a woman 00:12:02.220 --> 00:12:05.240 in this world, to understand your responsibilities 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:09.179 as a wife, as a mother, as a member of the church, 00:12:09.679 --> 00:12:11.919 a member of the community, all of those things. 00:12:12.559 --> 00:12:15.519 You must take responsibility and grow in these 00:12:15.519 --> 00:12:25.730 things. Do we all understand that it's not just 00:12:25.730 --> 00:12:31.909 men who should be sound doctrinally. Right? You 00:12:31.909 --> 00:12:35.090 women should be sound doctrinally. You should 00:12:35.090 --> 00:12:40.269 know who God is. You should know God. You're 00:12:40.269 --> 00:12:43.690 reading this book by Packer, right? Knowing God. 00:12:44.590 --> 00:12:47.389 There's a lot of deep things in there. And those 00:12:47.389 --> 00:12:51.950 things are for men and women. Just as a man should 00:12:51.950 --> 00:12:57.759 be sound in doctrine and truth, Wives and women 00:12:57.759 --> 00:13:00.700 should be as well. There are not two classes 00:13:00.700 --> 00:13:04.120 the super spiritual and the lesser spiritual 00:13:04.120 --> 00:13:07.879 We're all the same in that regard. We should 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:12.159 all know God and Note the truth of the word and 00:13:12.159 --> 00:13:14.679 so you have to take responsibility in that regard 00:13:14.679 --> 00:13:22.200 You have got to mature spiritually So I wrote 00:13:22.200 --> 00:13:26.059 down here Luke 10 38 to 42 it's the it's the 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:31.080 The story there of Mary and Martha. Mary chose 00:13:31.080 --> 00:13:33.000 the better part there. She wanted to sit at the 00:13:33.000 --> 00:13:38.500 feet of Jesus to learn, to hear Him. Women, wives, 00:13:38.980 --> 00:13:43.740 mothers, the same. Sit at the feet of Jesus daily, 00:13:45.360 --> 00:13:49.440 continually. Grow and mature in your love and 00:13:49.440 --> 00:14:01.740 your knowledge of Him. So to be a godly woman, 00:14:01.879 --> 00:14:04.879 you must be in the Word. And so, again, just 00:14:04.879 --> 00:14:09.480 as men, you have got to devote time to studying 00:14:09.480 --> 00:14:12.960 the Word. You have got to devote time to prayer. 00:14:13.820 --> 00:14:19.919 You have got to be consistent in memorizing. 00:14:20.019 --> 00:14:22.940 You have to be at the meetings of the church. 00:14:23.460 --> 00:14:26.820 All of those things, those benefits and graces 00:14:26.820 --> 00:14:29.710 that God has given us, You've got to take advantage 00:14:29.710 --> 00:14:33.649 of those things. It's not okay for your husband 00:14:33.649 --> 00:14:35.629 to come to the meeting for you to stay home. 00:14:37.129 --> 00:14:39.669 Because you've got home things to take care of, 00:14:39.750 --> 00:14:42.929 right? No, that's nonsense. You both have to 00:14:42.929 --> 00:14:46.929 grow. You both have to mature. Let me say this. 00:14:47.350 --> 00:14:53.389 This just come to my mind here. When you young 00:14:53.389 --> 00:14:59.519 folks, and old folks, really anybody, There are 00:14:59.519 --> 00:15:02.460 there there come times in our lives with children 00:15:02.460 --> 00:15:05.320 and everything else that goes on that Sometimes 00:15:05.320 --> 00:15:07.379 somebody can't come to the meeting. So your kids 00:15:07.379 --> 00:15:09.179 are sick. So I'm just gonna stay home there You 00:15:09.179 --> 00:15:12.200 know one two, three, whatever four ten, whatever 00:15:12.200 --> 00:15:15.460 it is. They're sick. They can't go. What do we 00:15:15.460 --> 00:15:18.720 do there? Is that the whole family just stay 00:15:18.720 --> 00:15:23.340 home then? No Why should the whole family suffer 00:15:23.340 --> 00:15:27.220 just because? somebody's sick Everybody who can 00:15:27.220 --> 00:15:30.330 comes to the meeting And then whoever comes to 00:15:30.330 --> 00:15:31.909 the meeting can go home and say, well, here's 00:15:31.909 --> 00:15:33.570 what we learned today. Here's what was talked 00:15:33.570 --> 00:15:35.730 about. Here's what was preached on. Here's what 00:15:35.730 --> 00:15:37.769 was shared. Here's a testimony that was given. 00:15:38.389 --> 00:15:40.389 Here was a prayer request that was answered or 00:15:40.389 --> 00:15:43.769 that was given. So just because the whole family 00:15:43.769 --> 00:15:47.370 can't come to the meeting doesn't mean, or just 00:15:47.370 --> 00:15:49.110 because one person can't come to the meeting 00:15:49.110 --> 00:15:50.909 doesn't mean the whole family should stay home. 00:15:51.490 --> 00:15:54.669 The whole family shouldn't suffer any more than 00:15:54.669 --> 00:15:59.139 we have to. Yes, we're a family. Right? We do 00:15:59.139 --> 00:16:03.519 things together. That's wonderful, right, and 00:16:03.519 --> 00:16:06.460 good. And that's how we want to be. But when 00:16:06.460 --> 00:16:09.960 something hinders us in that way, the rest of 00:16:09.960 --> 00:16:12.759 the family should go to the meeting. Be there. 00:16:16.399 --> 00:16:23.679 Alright. Side note. So, grow. Grow in Christ 00:16:23.679 --> 00:16:26.950 -likeness. Grow in humility, submission. and 00:16:26.950 --> 00:16:30.429 all of those things. Spiritual. Spiritual growth 00:16:30.429 --> 00:16:35.070 is necessary. If you want to be a godly woman, 00:16:35.950 --> 00:16:39.210 if you want to be a godly wife, if you want to 00:16:39.210 --> 00:16:43.730 be a godly mother, this is where it's at, right 00:16:43.730 --> 00:16:49.370 here. Sitting at the feet of Jesus, learning 00:16:49.370 --> 00:16:54.970 from Him the way you should think, act, speak. 00:16:55.759 --> 00:16:59.620 and all that's involved in being a woman, wife, 00:16:59.899 --> 00:17:12.480 or mother, or all three. All right, so... Let's 00:17:12.480 --> 00:17:16.900 look at a few verses here, then, in the New Testament. 00:17:20.319 --> 00:17:48.809 1 Timothy. 1 Timothy 2. So 1st Timothy 2, we'll 00:17:48.809 --> 00:17:56.410 begin reading here in verse 11. I'll begin in 00:17:56.410 --> 00:18:17.630 verse 9 until we get to context here. and entire 00:18:17.630 --> 00:18:20.650 submissiveness, with entire submissiveness. But 00:18:20.650 --> 00:18:23.549 I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority 00:18:23.549 --> 00:18:27.329 over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam 00:18:27.329 --> 00:18:29.650 who was first created and then Eve, and it was 00:18:29.650 --> 00:18:31.990 not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being 00:18:31.990 --> 00:18:35.450 deceived fell into transgression. But women will 00:18:35.450 --> 00:18:37.029 be preserved through the bearing of children 00:18:37.029 --> 00:18:40.029 if they continue in faith and love and sanctity 00:18:40.029 --> 00:18:43.369 with self -restraint. So what I want to point 00:18:43.369 --> 00:18:46.289 out first here in that passage is the difference 00:18:46.289 --> 00:18:50.369 between men and women. Do we see there a difference? 00:18:52.130 --> 00:18:56.910 Adam was created first, then Eve. And so what's 00:18:56.910 --> 00:19:01.029 Paul saying here? He's letting us know there 00:19:01.029 --> 00:19:04.069 is a place, there is a role here of authority 00:19:04.069 --> 00:19:08.630 and submission. Adam and Eve, they're in the 00:19:08.630 --> 00:19:12.900 very beginning, not lesser. but two different 00:19:12.900 --> 00:19:16.059 responsibilities, two different roles in this 00:19:16.059 --> 00:19:19.180 relationship. And so that's what I want to point 00:19:19.180 --> 00:19:22.140 out there. That's what Paul says, that Adam was 00:19:22.140 --> 00:19:25.400 created first and then Eve. And so he is in a 00:19:25.400 --> 00:19:28.700 place of authority. And Paul goes on and elaborates 00:19:28.700 --> 00:19:32.200 on that some more. But I want us to see that. 00:19:32.740 --> 00:19:37.460 The other passage here is, we already read it 00:19:37.460 --> 00:19:41.829 here, But it goes along the same lines. It's 00:19:41.829 --> 00:19:43.750 the same idea here. That's just Paul's point 00:19:43.750 --> 00:19:49.750 verse 12 Why should a woman not teach? So that 00:19:49.750 --> 00:19:52.109 she does not usurp authority over a man because 00:19:52.109 --> 00:19:55.529 the man is in the authority he is the authority 00:19:55.529 --> 00:20:00.650 Okay, same thing there Adam first then Eve authority 00:20:00.650 --> 00:20:06.200 subjection submissiveness Not less than but two 00:20:06.200 --> 00:20:08.640 different responsibilities, two different roles 00:20:08.640 --> 00:20:12.660 in the family and in the church. I've pointed 00:20:12.660 --> 00:20:16.339 this out as well, and I'll just read it here, 00:20:16.359 --> 00:20:18.599 but back in Genesis, what was the issue there 00:20:18.599 --> 00:20:22.839 with the curse? We've said this before in chapter 00:20:22.839 --> 00:20:26.559 3 verse 16, to the woman he said, I will greatly 00:20:26.559 --> 00:20:30.539 multiply your pain in childbirth. In pain you 00:20:30.539 --> 00:20:33.480 will bring forth children, yet your desire will 00:20:33.480 --> 00:20:37.140 be for your husband and he will rule over you. 00:20:37.660 --> 00:20:42.700 Eve was cursed in her role. Her role would be 00:20:42.700 --> 00:20:45.359 childbearing and submission and she was cursed 00:20:45.359 --> 00:20:48.079 in those things. Just as Adam was cursed in his 00:20:48.079 --> 00:20:51.640 role as a worker and a provider and in the authority 00:20:51.640 --> 00:20:54.880 in the home. He was cursed and she was cursed 00:20:54.880 --> 00:21:00.240 in their roles, okay? And so this idea of submission 00:21:00.240 --> 00:21:05.319 is going to be difficult. So I want to make sure 00:21:05.319 --> 00:21:08.319 we understand it may be difficult, but this is 00:21:08.319 --> 00:21:12.359 how it is supposed to be This is God's design 00:21:12.359 --> 00:21:16.660 This is God's instruction to us It's important 00:21:16.660 --> 00:21:23.579 that we understand that All right, so that's 00:21:23.579 --> 00:21:25.579 one difference and we've talked about that when 00:21:25.579 --> 00:21:28.220 we talked about men leading and being an authority 00:21:28.220 --> 00:21:33.559 in the home I Harped on that time and time again 00:21:34.440 --> 00:21:37.440 And I hope you men understand your place there. 00:21:37.920 --> 00:21:40.819 And I hope you women understand your place there. 00:21:41.299 --> 00:21:50.339 One of submission to your husband leading. We 00:21:50.339 --> 00:21:52.140 could talk about all the, oh, well, if he doesn't 00:21:52.140 --> 00:21:56.180 lead right or all of those things. Yes, no doubt. 00:21:56.980 --> 00:21:59.160 It's difficult at times when your husband's not 00:21:59.160 --> 00:22:01.000 leading in the way that he should or he's leading 00:22:01.000 --> 00:22:04.240 in a harsh way. That doesn't negate your responsibility 00:22:04.240 --> 00:22:09.259 to obey God. It just means it's even harder. 00:22:09.920 --> 00:22:13.740 Husbands, understand that. Lead in a way that 00:22:13.740 --> 00:22:18.099 is easy to submit to and to follow. Lead in love. 00:22:18.160 --> 00:22:21.720 We've talked about all of those things. But it 00:22:21.720 --> 00:22:25.160 doesn't mean you don't have to submit just because 00:22:25.160 --> 00:22:27.559 it's difficult. just because he's not doing it 00:22:27.559 --> 00:22:32.200 the way he should. Again, Peter talks about that, 00:22:32.920 --> 00:22:35.539 right? In regard to unbelievers, that through 00:22:35.539 --> 00:22:38.660 your submission to him, you'll win him over. 00:22:39.039 --> 00:22:41.180 It's the same in a Christian marriage. Through 00:22:41.180 --> 00:22:44.900 your submission, what? Hopefully his sin will 00:22:44.900 --> 00:22:47.000 be made clear to him. He'll repent. He'll do 00:22:47.000 --> 00:22:49.859 better. He'll move on. You'll be a helper to 00:22:49.859 --> 00:23:18.670 him in that way, all right? A helper. Okay. Couple 00:23:18.670 --> 00:23:21.509 of the passages here and first Timothy again 00:23:21.509 --> 00:23:27.970 first Timothy 5 9 So Well, let's read it. Let's 00:23:27.970 --> 00:23:30.529 read it here. Paul here is giving instruction 00:23:30.529 --> 00:23:35.130 for widows. All right So I want you to hear what 00:23:35.130 --> 00:23:38.630 he says about widows what they what their life 00:23:38.630 --> 00:23:43.390 has looked like a Widow is to be put on the list 00:23:43.390 --> 00:23:46.349 only if she is not less than 60 years old having 00:23:46.349 --> 00:23:49.140 been the wife of one man having a reputation 00:23:49.140 --> 00:23:52.039 for good works, and if she has brought up children, 00:23:52.740 --> 00:23:55.380 if she has shown hospitality to strangers, if 00:23:55.380 --> 00:23:58.119 she has washed the saints' feet, if she has assisted 00:23:58.119 --> 00:24:01.460 those in distress, and if she has devoted herself 00:24:01.460 --> 00:24:09.200 to every good work. But refuse to put younger 00:24:09.200 --> 00:24:11.539 widows on the list for when they feel sensual 00:24:11.539 --> 00:24:14.180 desires in disregard of Christ, they want to 00:24:14.180 --> 00:24:17.150 get married. thus incurring condemnation, because 00:24:17.150 --> 00:24:19.890 they have set aside their previous pledge. At 00:24:19.890 --> 00:24:22.529 the same time, they also learn to be idle as 00:24:22.529 --> 00:24:24.950 they go around from house to house, and not merely 00:24:24.950 --> 00:24:28.029 idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking 00:24:28.029 --> 00:24:30.769 about things not proper to mention. Therefore, 00:24:30.809 --> 00:24:33.609 I want younger widows to get married, bear children, 00:24:34.049 --> 00:24:38.250 keep house, and give the enemy no occasion for 00:24:38.250 --> 00:24:44.440 reproach." What's Paul's instruction there? What's 00:24:44.440 --> 00:24:47.119 he say? What does he say this widow this woman? 00:24:47.119 --> 00:24:49.960 Who's to be cared for with widow indeed these 00:24:49.960 --> 00:24:51.900 widows who are to be cared for by the church 00:24:51.900 --> 00:24:55.319 What does their life look like? It's been one 00:24:55.319 --> 00:24:57.920 of faithfulness right and he tells us what that 00:24:57.920 --> 00:25:01.400 faithfulness is But then he also says those widows 00:25:01.400 --> 00:25:04.200 who are young he encourages them to get married 00:25:04.200 --> 00:25:09.259 and to fulfill their role as what? wives bearing 00:25:09.259 --> 00:25:12.660 children keeping the home and all of these other 00:25:12.660 --> 00:25:16.859 things So we see here what Paul expects in the 00:25:16.859 --> 00:25:21.000 home, what he expects women to be doing, what 00:25:21.000 --> 00:25:24.279 their role is to be, and what their lives should 00:25:24.279 --> 00:25:27.579 look like. So in case you missed it, let me just, 00:25:27.799 --> 00:25:33.539 I have here a list that he gave us there of things 00:25:33.539 --> 00:25:41.200 that should be involved in the lives of wives. 00:25:42.160 --> 00:25:45.660 Bringing up children, he says. Talks about hospitality, 00:25:46.380 --> 00:25:49.640 washing the saints' feet, assisting those in 00:25:49.640 --> 00:25:53.019 distress, devoted to good works. In verse 14, 00:25:53.339 --> 00:25:57.980 bearing children, keeping house. These are things 00:25:57.980 --> 00:26:01.119 that women should be doing, that wives should 00:26:01.119 --> 00:26:04.940 be doing. Those are your responsibilities. That's 00:26:04.940 --> 00:26:10.539 what God has designed for you. Those are different 00:26:10.539 --> 00:26:13.460 from the roles of men. Okay, do we understand 00:26:13.460 --> 00:26:18.359 that? Men are to be working, providing, leading. 00:26:19.119 --> 00:26:24.200 Women are to be doing these other things. Again, 00:26:24.259 --> 00:26:26.779 it's not as though it's exclusive that men aren't 00:26:26.779 --> 00:26:29.440 to be hospitable, right? Obviously we're all, 00:26:29.460 --> 00:26:31.140 there's commands throughout scripture, we should 00:26:31.140 --> 00:26:35.980 all be hospitable. But Paul here specifically 00:26:35.980 --> 00:26:39.779 notes these things in regard to wives and to 00:26:39.779 --> 00:26:45.319 women. This keeping house, managing the family 00:26:45.319 --> 00:26:48.920 affairs, or the master of a house. That's what 00:26:48.920 --> 00:26:52.480 Paul expects. Those are things that are your 00:26:52.480 --> 00:26:56.920 responsibility as a wife. Managing the affairs 00:26:56.920 --> 00:27:06.059 of the home. Again, ultimately who's responsible 00:27:06.059 --> 00:27:12.660 for these things? The husband. Right? We talked 00:27:12.660 --> 00:27:15.519 about that. The husband is responsible to see 00:27:15.519 --> 00:27:19.180 to it that these things are done. To see that 00:27:19.180 --> 00:27:21.779 your home is in order. To make sure that you 00:27:21.779 --> 00:27:26.619 are doing or having done everything that needs 00:27:26.619 --> 00:27:32.680 to be done. Wives and husbands working together. 00:27:32.839 --> 00:27:35.220 We've talked about this. Working together with 00:27:35.220 --> 00:27:39.769 one goal in mind. Moving forward together. But 00:27:39.769 --> 00:27:41.930 the wives are responsible for these things in 00:27:41.930 --> 00:27:49.089 the home managing the home now That's part of 00:27:49.089 --> 00:27:52.009 being a help helper that's the part of the help 00:27:52.009 --> 00:27:56.170 me that's what Adam Needed was a helper a help 00:27:56.170 --> 00:28:00.329 me What does that mean to be a helper to be a 00:28:00.329 --> 00:28:03.589 help me to your husband? Have you given any thought 00:28:03.589 --> 00:28:16.579 to that have you considered that? Tried to consider 00:28:16.579 --> 00:28:21.839 that this week So I can write some things down 00:28:21.839 --> 00:28:25.579 make a list again for you So here are some things 00:28:25.579 --> 00:28:31.400 that I wrote down now again. This is not Everything 00:28:31.400 --> 00:28:35.240 okay, these are some things that I thought of 00:28:35.240 --> 00:28:37.339 things that I thought were helpful things that 00:28:37.339 --> 00:28:44.140 are a help to me Okay Support so being a helper 00:28:44.140 --> 00:28:55.819 being a wife who helps your husband. I just want 00:28:55.819 --> 00:29:03.160 us to understand this. This sounds to the world 00:29:03.160 --> 00:29:08.259 insanity. It sounds sexist. It sounds male chauvinist 00:29:08.259 --> 00:29:11.200 for me to say these things. This is God's design. 00:29:12.500 --> 00:29:16.640 This is what God has intended. This isn't my 00:29:16.640 --> 00:29:22.039 idea. So understand that. The world hates what 00:29:22.039 --> 00:29:25.220 I'm saying to you this morning. Alright? And 00:29:25.220 --> 00:29:27.279 that's fine. We're not here to please the world. 00:29:27.319 --> 00:29:29.940 But I want you to understand how counter -culture 00:29:29.940 --> 00:29:34.579 all of this is. How completely opposite of everything 00:29:34.579 --> 00:29:37.680 that you'll hear. You tell this to some woman 00:29:37.680 --> 00:29:41.059 in the world, she'll be like, you're crazy. You 00:29:41.059 --> 00:29:44.779 what? You want to serve your husband? That's 00:29:44.779 --> 00:29:47.019 your... That's your goal, is to be a helper to 00:29:47.019 --> 00:29:52.119 your husband? Why? What about your dreams? What 00:29:52.119 --> 00:29:54.660 about your hopes? What about your aspirations? 00:29:55.660 --> 00:29:59.539 What about your career? What about you? You, 00:29:59.539 --> 00:30:09.579 you, you. So, support his leadership. How can 00:30:09.579 --> 00:30:12.079 you be a helper? You can support his leadership. 00:30:15.059 --> 00:30:18.759 Encouraging him to lead all right so again some 00:30:18.759 --> 00:30:21.680 men. This is where they they struggle with this 00:30:21.680 --> 00:30:26.339 and so as a wife You encourage that you help 00:30:26.339 --> 00:30:29.660 that and again. It's not by nagging Not by being 00:30:29.660 --> 00:30:32.640 that dripping faucet over there, but it's by 00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:38.200 encouraging him in there Doing ways they're finding 00:30:38.200 --> 00:30:46.039 ways to help in that and then you men Lead So 00:30:46.039 --> 00:30:48.500 support his leadership, encourage him to lead. 00:30:49.359 --> 00:30:52.099 How about giving counsel to your husband? How 00:30:52.099 --> 00:30:53.700 about that as a help? Have you ever thought of 00:30:53.700 --> 00:30:57.940 that? I mean that is, my wife is a great counselor 00:30:57.940 --> 00:31:02.259 to me. In so many ways, dealing with kids, dealing 00:31:02.259 --> 00:31:05.200 with other people, seeing things from a different 00:31:05.200 --> 00:31:10.859 side, that is a wonderful help to me. Hopefully, 00:31:11.759 --> 00:31:14.650 hopefully you wives understand. And hopefully 00:31:14.650 --> 00:31:20.009 you husbands encourage your wife that she has 00:31:20.009 --> 00:31:23.730 your ear. Say whatever you need to say. Tell 00:31:23.730 --> 00:31:26.529 me whatever. I'm willing to hear, I'm willing 00:31:26.529 --> 00:31:29.349 to listen, I'm willing to reconsider. Talk to 00:31:29.349 --> 00:31:34.950 me. Be a help to your husband in that way. Again, 00:31:35.289 --> 00:31:40.289 managing the affairs of the home. The cleaning, 00:31:40.670 --> 00:31:46.119 the cooking, the groceries. The children, right? 00:31:46.380 --> 00:31:50.140 Teaching, training, instructing your children. 00:31:51.299 --> 00:31:53.779 Again, all of this should be under the authority 00:31:53.779 --> 00:31:56.700 of the husband, but you're together in this. 00:31:56.960 --> 00:32:02.059 You're a great help to him. Help in those things. 00:32:02.339 --> 00:32:05.279 I mean, my wife pays the bills at home. When 00:32:05.279 --> 00:32:08.059 we first got married, I did. And then she began 00:32:08.059 --> 00:32:11.529 to do it. That was great. One less thing I had 00:32:11.529 --> 00:32:14.170 to do and she was happy to do it. And so it was 00:32:14.170 --> 00:32:21.849 a blessing to me. Be a help in that way. Providing 00:32:21.849 --> 00:32:24.730 for all the different needs in the home, the 00:32:24.730 --> 00:32:26.829 clothing for the kids and all these different 00:32:26.829 --> 00:32:30.630 things. That's a great help to your husband. 00:32:32.710 --> 00:32:36.009 Encouraging and supporting your husband's responsibilities. 00:32:36.589 --> 00:32:40.529 So encouraging him in his work. any ministry 00:32:40.529 --> 00:32:44.589 opportunities that he has, whatever it is, encouraging 00:32:44.589 --> 00:32:49.029 him in those things, being a help to him in those 00:32:49.029 --> 00:32:57.750 ways. Companionship. I mean, that's a big one 00:32:57.750 --> 00:33:00.869 right there. That's one, I mean, when you look 00:33:00.869 --> 00:33:03.089 at Adam there, when you look at Adam in the garden, 00:33:03.470 --> 00:33:09.089 that's one huge thing that was lacking. He looked 00:33:09.089 --> 00:33:11.849 at all the animals. He had no one there. There 00:33:11.849 --> 00:33:16.049 was no companionship for him. And so God gave 00:33:16.049 --> 00:33:20.269 him Eden. And so that is a huge help to him, 00:33:20.769 --> 00:33:24.529 is being a support and a companion to him. One 00:33:24.529 --> 00:33:27.490 that he can rely upon. One that he can pour his 00:33:27.490 --> 00:33:31.670 heart out to. His fears, his doubts, his concerns, 00:33:31.769 --> 00:33:35.210 all of those things to help and encourage him 00:33:35.210 --> 00:33:40.680 in those ways. praying for him. Do you pray for 00:33:40.680 --> 00:33:48.539 your husband? A helper to him. A helper in his 00:33:48.539 --> 00:33:53.000 goals and his dreams. Whatever, hopefully again, 00:33:53.380 --> 00:33:56.759 godly, good things and supporting him in those 00:33:56.759 --> 00:34:04.880 things. Those are some ways that you can be a 00:34:04.880 --> 00:34:14.940 help to your husband. I wrote down here, she 00:34:14.940 --> 00:34:18.059 is a help as she fulfills the role God has put 00:34:18.059 --> 00:34:23.780 her in. As you do what God has called you to 00:34:23.780 --> 00:34:27.340 do as a wife and as a mother, you are a great 00:34:27.340 --> 00:34:33.239 help to your husband. To neglect or reject your 00:34:33.239 --> 00:34:37.139 role that God has put you in is to be a hindrance 00:34:37.139 --> 00:34:40.760 and a discouragement to him. Again, the place 00:34:40.760 --> 00:34:44.639 of blessing. Doing what God has called you to 00:34:44.639 --> 00:35:00.579 do where he's called you do to do it Okay We're 00:35:00.579 --> 00:35:02.239 not nearly gonna get through what I have written 00:35:02.239 --> 00:35:04.519 down here, so I'm trying to think what would 00:35:04.519 --> 00:35:15.730 be a good spot to stop here Just along these 00:35:15.730 --> 00:35:18.349 same lines then let me just say this just a couple 00:35:18.349 --> 00:35:38.909 of a couple of Proverbs Proverbs 12 Proverbs 00:35:38.909 --> 00:35:49.889 12 for An excellent wife is the crown of her 00:35:49.889 --> 00:35:54.050 husband, but she who shames him is like rottenness 00:35:54.050 --> 00:36:03.630 in his bones. Think of that. The good and the 00:36:03.630 --> 00:36:10.369 bad. How is a wife described there? As a crown. 00:36:12.969 --> 00:36:16.530 As you fulfill the role that God has given you 00:36:16.530 --> 00:36:22.289 as a wife, you are a crown to your husband. What 00:36:22.289 --> 00:36:27.030 is a crown? I wrote down here. Dignity, honor, 00:36:27.429 --> 00:36:32.289 blessing, favor, status, strength, a visible 00:36:32.289 --> 00:36:35.829 sign of blessing and prosperity. An excellent 00:36:35.829 --> 00:36:40.969 wife is a crown. There is nothing of greater 00:36:40.969 --> 00:36:48.300 value. in the life of a husband than a wife who 00:36:48.300 --> 00:36:52.679 is excellent, who fulfills her role that God 00:36:52.679 --> 00:36:57.480 has put her in. That word excellent is the same 00:36:57.480 --> 00:37:09.260 word... Let me see if I can find it. It's the 00:37:09.260 --> 00:37:15.750 same idea that Ruth is described as. Ruth 311 00:37:15.750 --> 00:37:21.550 Now my daughter so Boaz here is talking to Ruth 00:37:21.550 --> 00:37:24.489 now my daughter do not fear I will do for you 00:37:24.489 --> 00:37:27.110 whatever you ask for all my people in the city 00:37:27.110 --> 00:37:30.989 know that you are a woman of excellence Ruth 00:37:30.989 --> 00:37:34.409 was a woman of excellence the story of Ruth is 00:37:34.409 --> 00:37:39.050 a this phenomenal Who Ruth was what she did? 00:37:39.369 --> 00:37:42.489 the hard worker that she was, the way she provided 00:37:42.489 --> 00:37:45.329 for her mother -in -law, the way she went out 00:37:45.329 --> 00:37:49.650 and sought out this husband, this Redeemer. An 00:37:49.650 --> 00:37:55.510 excellent wife is a crown to her husband. Be 00:37:55.510 --> 00:38:03.710 that crown. What is a crown? Is it something 00:38:03.710 --> 00:38:06.190 tucked way back here in the corner that nobody 00:38:06.190 --> 00:38:12.099 sees, nobody talks to, nobody knows about? No 00:38:12.099 --> 00:38:16.739 It's the first thing everybody sees This crown 00:38:16.739 --> 00:38:21.539 upon your head that is an excellent wife She 00:38:21.539 --> 00:38:27.920 is seen by all she is known by all to be this 00:38:27.920 --> 00:38:34.519 excellent woman a Wife is not a lesser person 00:38:34.519 --> 00:38:39.949 a woman is not a lesser individual She is a crown. 00:38:40.010 --> 00:38:47.329 She is a glory Understand that you men better 00:38:47.329 --> 00:38:52.809 treat her that way Has this crown as this thing 00:38:52.809 --> 00:39:00.230 of great value and it's precious to you But the 00:39:00.230 --> 00:39:04.309 reverse is a horrible thing but she who shames 00:39:04.309 --> 00:39:08.139 him is like rottenness in his bones How does 00:39:08.139 --> 00:39:11.500 she shame her husband? She leads rather than 00:39:11.500 --> 00:39:16.280 submits. The home is in chaos. Refuses to do 00:39:16.280 --> 00:39:19.780 those things they've said they should do. There's 00:39:19.780 --> 00:39:23.260 no discipline. There's no order. There's no managing 00:39:23.260 --> 00:39:28.960 of the home. The kids are in disarray. Half clothed, 00:39:29.019 --> 00:39:34.690 running around naked all the time. Say that tongue 00:39:34.690 --> 00:39:36.389 -in -cheek because you know how little kids are 00:39:36.389 --> 00:39:38.630 running around naked all the time running around 00:39:38.630 --> 00:39:41.909 your diaper But you understand what I'm saying. 00:39:42.210 --> 00:39:46.969 That's rottenness to in his bones. All right 00:39:46.969 --> 00:39:50.489 Financially I put down here overspending if you're 00:39:50.489 --> 00:39:52.809 a wife who's overspending that's not a help. 00:39:53.150 --> 00:39:57.909 That's not a crown That's ruin That's ruining 00:39:57.909 --> 00:40:06.539 the bones financial room And then Proverbs 14 00:40:06.539 --> 00:40:10.739 .1, I'll just read this. The wise woman builds 00:40:10.739 --> 00:40:13.039 her house, but the foolish tears it down with 00:40:13.039 --> 00:40:16.539 her own hands. So that excellent woman, she's 00:40:16.539 --> 00:40:20.280 building her house. She's helping her husband. 00:40:23.099 --> 00:40:27.500 The foolish woman just tears it down. She's ashamed, 00:40:28.300 --> 00:40:32.719 and she tears her home down. So be that help, 00:40:32.860 --> 00:40:38.780 be that encouragement. that godly woman that 00:40:38.780 --> 00:40:41.300 the Lord has called you to be. Next week we're 00:40:41.300 --> 00:40:43.119 going to again look at some other things here 00:40:43.119 --> 00:40:48.980 regarding wives and women, mothers in particular. 00:40:51.719 --> 00:40:53.599 So that's all for today. Amen.