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Hello, you are listening to the Quiet Superpowers

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podcast. In this episode, I want to do something

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very different. You might have noticed the title

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of this episode is very different to usual, and

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that's because this episode will just be a few

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thoughts of mine on things that have happened

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to me recently, some realizations I've had. I'll

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keep it short and sweet. So now last week I planned

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to walk the Camino de Santiago. this is a walk

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through Spain and Portugal and I just planned

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a short segment of it, about 100km the whole

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thing is huge, would take a long long time more

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time than I had, so I can only do this little

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bit and what I didn't realise is that the weather

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across Spain and Portugal was so so bad I'm talking

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the worst floods and rain they've seen in years

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and years and years, possibly to date now I hadn't

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realised this until obviously planning everything

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and then it came to a few days before leaving

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and I had to pivot I had to completely shift

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the way that this holiday was happening and what

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I was going to do on this trip which I will briefly

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talk about after the break but it gave me a huge

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realisation whilst walking in a park in Madrid.

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So without further ado let's get into it. I hadn't

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realized how much I needed a break and just a

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change from everything. I hadn't realized how

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overwhelmed and burned out I was before going

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away on holiday. I know it sounds a bit cliche

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to have overwhelm and have that feeling of such

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relief going away and doing something different

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but I can't tell you a time in my life where

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I needed it more than I needed it last week and

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it was because everything was so crazy, there

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was so much noise in my everyday life that I

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just didn't give myself the headspace that I

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really needed to think about things, to process

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what was happening, I was kind of on autopilot

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if you've ever felt like that before, so essentially

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of course we couldn't do this trip, the walk

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that we planned, so instead we went to Porto,

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we went to Madrid, we went to a northern part

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of Madrid to do some hiking with the the walking

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spirit in mind, the whole holiday was was lots

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of walking, a lot of the time it was in the city

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but it was still at the heart of it had the spirit

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of walking and it led me to realize that sometimes

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the unexpected plans are the best ones because

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I had to pivot the plan of walking the Camino

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and I had all these preconceived ideas about

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what I would gain from the walk, the potential

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spiritual experience I'd have and the I had to

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kind of let that go but actually doing so helped

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me gain other realizations that I don't think

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I would have gained had I been so set on these

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so -called spiritual experiences and I kind of

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thought of it like a meditation, instead of trying

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to achieve something, trying to work towards

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something, I just allowed the experience of being

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in a new country in a new city to take me Quite

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literally wherever it would go We ended up going

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on random walks whilst they're not using Google

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Maps just strolling the city and the streets

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of Porto and Seeing where we ended up seeing

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if we could find our way back Which the streets

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were very confusing there to find a way back

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to the apartment. We're staying up if you ever

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feel Overwhelmed and a lack of headspace Sometimes

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what you need is a refresh a way to completely

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change your atmosphere and your surroundings

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your environment to get yourself out of the autopilot

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mode so i'd really recommend even just going

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for a walk in a local park but putting in more

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walks i realized i just hadn't been in in nature

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literally enough and it i think caused a lot

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of this feeling of burnout and overwhelm because

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i hadn't had a chance to escape from a lot of

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things. Now the second realization I had, which

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I hinted at at the start, was when I was walking

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in a park in Madrid on my own. I was walking

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and I was journaling with a voice note, which

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I often do. I didn't want to write things down

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because my hands were quite cold, it was a little

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bit cold that day. So I decided to take a walk

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through the park and just talk into my phone

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on my own and try and lock look too strange and

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whilst I was talking I had this epiphany I'd

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been having this feeling of wanting to run away

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in personal relationships and I'm talking both

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with friends even family and intimate relationships

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where I would sometimes get this feeling that

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I just wanted to escape I just wanted to completely

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get away from everything and for the longest

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time up until that point I had assumed that there

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was something wrong with me I'd assumed that

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this was something I was trying to fix that that

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was a wrong feeling I shouldn't be feeling that

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way and there was some kind of psychological

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problem with me that I needed to work out and

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fix what I hadn't realized is that this was actually

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a need of mine to recharge and when I thought

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about it every time I had given myself that time

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to recharge, the feeling would go away. I hadn't

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appreciated how much I can get drained and how

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much it can impact things like personal relationships,

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and this feeling of wanting to run away also

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explained to me a lot of my own behavior and

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difficult feelings in previous relationships,

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because I I'd really struggled with feeling that

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way and feeling guilty for feeling that way because

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I'd assumed that it meant that something was

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wrong, something was confusing me and something

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just didn't sit right and I didn't know what

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to do about it because in my mind it wasn't related

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to introversion, extroversion, it was just it

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was like I wasn't cut out for a relationship

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it was like I was I was destined to just be on

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my own it's like when i finally felt a little

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bit comfortable after a little bit too much time

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then it just dissipated and it felt almost unnatural

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but i hadn't realized that it was just me needing

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to recharge of course some people give you energy

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and some people take it away and it i actually

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think this was something else and that's why

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it confused me so much i think this was about

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the fact that even though I can get energy from

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some people I can't get as much as other things

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I might do when I'm on my own sometimes all I

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need to do is just sit down for 30 minutes an

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hour even just play some piano do some writing,

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read a book and I can be back back at it but

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without that I really struggle and I can make

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decisions that are a bit rash at the time because

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of this feeling of wanting to run away from everything

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so that was an essential thing that I learned

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about during this trip and I actually think it

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really helped that I wasn't expecting it so again

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I really want to drive home that I think it's

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so important to have a break and a method of

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stepping back from things especially when they're

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busy so the thing I want to change now in my

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life because I do worry about becoming more overwhelmed

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and busy again is that I want to make sure that

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I do walks and and go into nature, the outdoors

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more often, at least every day, because I think

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walking, especially something in nature, is so

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helpful for gaining that headspace that you might

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need when you just can't think clearly so I'll

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keep this episode very short and sweet, there

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will be another episode coming out this week

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hopefully, so stay tuned for that and as always

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I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day

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and I will catch you next time, thanks!