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Let's face it, Mother's Day is a complicated

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bit of business. For some, it's the highlight

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reel. Handmade cards with questionable spelling,

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flowers at church, and maybe, if the stars align

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and the Lord is feeling particularly merciful,

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a cup of coffee that you actually finish while

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it's still hot. But for others, the day carries

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a different kind of weight. Maybe you're missing

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your mom today. Maybe your relationship with

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her is more complicated than Hallmark card. Maybe

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you're grieving a child or the child you've longed

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for hasn't come yet. Or maybe you're the mom

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and while you love those kids to death, you're

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tired in a way that a Sunday brunch just isn't

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going to fix. I think a lot of that exhaustion

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comes from the impossible job description we've

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handed mothers. Today, a mom is expected to work

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like she doesn't have kids, parent like she doesn't

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have a job, and keep a home that looks like it

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was staged for a magazine and cleaned by literal

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angels. And then there's the digital discipleship.

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You open TikTok or Instagram or Facebook or Pinterest

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or whatever app is discipling us today, and suddenly,

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To be a good mom, you need to be doing sensory

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bins, baking sourdough from a 100 -year -old

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starter, and apparently buying a cow. Look, if

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you have a cow and are milking it, God bless

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you. If you're great with sourdough or whatever

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else they're telling you to do, well, bring me

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some, but I'm happy for you, truly. But when

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all those good things become a law you feel forced

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to keep, They become a burden Jesus never intended

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you to carry. That's what we're diving into today.

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Not to give you one more thing to do, but to

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remind you that Jesus isn't measuring your motherhood

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by what you post. He sees the hidden faithfulness.

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And hidden does not mean insignificant. Welcome

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to Grace in the Grind, brought to you by Arrow

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& Roots Coffee Company, where faith meets the

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everyday. Here we take time to notice God's presence

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in the middle of life's busiest moments, to find

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encouragement, clarity, and a reminder of his

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grace right in the grind of daily life. So grab

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your coffee, and let's take a sip of this cup

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together. And before we go any further, let me

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pause for just a second and tell you what's brewed

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today. Today is Coffee Date from Arrow & Roots

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Coffee Company, brewed in Arrow Press. I like

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it this way because it's quick, smooth, and honestly

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hard to beat, which matters this morning because

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it's Mother's Day, and I need to get back upstairs

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to help Christy get the kids ready for church

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before she ends up doing everything herself.

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And that fits today's episode, because honoring

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moms is not just something we say into a microphone.

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Sometimes it looks like putting the coffee down,

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heading upstairs, finding the tiny shoes, buttoning

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the tiny shirt, and making sure mom doesn't have

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to carry the whole morning alone. Today is for

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motherhood we don't post about. The kind that

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happens behind the scenes when the lights are

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off and the filters are gone. I want to be clear,

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this isn't an episode about whether moms should

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work or stay home. Families are different. Finances

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are different. The point is to name the tension

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you're already feeling. Our guide today is Luke

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10, where Jesus talks to Martha. She was doing

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good things. But she was doing them with a heart

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that was, as Jesus put it, anxious and troubled.

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You know the story. Jesus is at Martha's house.

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Mary is sitting at his feet, listening. Martha,

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meanwhile, is in the kitchen, absolutely redlining

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it. She's distracted with much serving. Finally,

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she snaps. She looks at Jesus and says, Lord,

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do you not care that my sister has left me to

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serve alone? That's such a human moment. It's

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not that Martha was lazy. She was working. She

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was trying to make everything perfect. And Jesus

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responds with such tenderness. Martha, Martha,

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you are anxious and troubled about many things.

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That phrase, anxious and troubled about many

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things, could be substituted for modern motherhood.

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Martha's problem wasn't that she cared. It was

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that her care had become crowded with anxiety.

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And Jesus meets her there, not with a performance

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review, but with an invitation. Christy and I

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eventually made a decision for our family to

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live on one income so she could be home with

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our boys. It's been a blessing. But it's come

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with real costs and tight math. But here's the

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thing I want you to sit in for just a second.

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That was our conviction. It doesn't mean it's

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the law for every family. There are a million

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good things you can spend your life on. It is

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a good thing to have a career that impacts the

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world. It's a good thing to be home and present

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for every milestone. It's a good thing to volunteer,

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to bake, to garden, to lead a Bible study. But

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we are not all called to do all the good things.

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And we are certainly not called to prioritize

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them equally. If you try to make everything a

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priority one, you don't have a mission. You just

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have a headache. Faithfulness isn't about doing

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every good thing you see someone else doing on

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the internet. It's about doing the specific things

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God has put in your hands for this season. Our

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culture has turned motherhood into a brand. It

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used to be that if you had a rough day, only

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the people in your house knew. Now, you have

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a rough day and then scroll through photos of

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families who seem to be thriving in ways you

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aren't. But scripture doesn't call you to be

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impressive. It calls you to be faithful. Faithfulness

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looks like apologizing when you lost your temper.

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It looks like praying when you're at your wit's

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end. It looks like making dinner again or going

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to work because your family needs that provision.

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Motherhood isn't a performance. It's faithful

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love in ordinary places. To every mom listening,

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Jesus sees what the algorithm misses. He sees

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the work that never gets a like. He sees the

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single mom doing the job of two and the grieving

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mom just trying to breathe. He isn't standing

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over you with a checklist. He's saying, come

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to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and

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I will give you rest. Your limits aren't a failure.

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They're a reminder that you're human. You aren't

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called to be everywhere or do everything. You're

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called to follow Jesus with what he... not Pinterest,

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has actually entrusted you to. Here's your homework.

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Name one good thing you've been doing that Jesus

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never actually asked you to carry. Maybe it's

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a commitment that's draining your soul or a standard

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of perfection that's stealing your joy. Name

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it and ask, Lord, did you ask me to prioritize

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this right now? If he didn't, lay it down. Motherhood

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is too important to be buried under quote good

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things that aren't your things. And before we

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move forward here, I want to thank the moms in

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my life. My mom gave up a career to come home

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and to spend time with us. It was a hard decision

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for her. I've had other moms in my life that

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have made sacrifices and just... poured into

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my life. And I want to be thankful for Christy,

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my wife, who is pouring into our kids, and I

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know the sacrifices she makes to do that. If

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you're a mother out there today, we love you,

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we appreciate you, and we see you. And now, if

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you want to support this show, grab a bag of

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coffee from Aaron Roots Coffee Company, and honestly,

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if you know a mom, buy her a bag and tell her

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to drink it while it's still hot. That's basically

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a spiritual gift. To the moms, again, thank you

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for the hidden work and the quiet sacrifices.

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If today is hard for you, know that God is near

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to the brokenhearted. If this encouraged you,

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send it to a mom who's been caring more than

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anyone knows. Leave a review, follow the show,

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and keep walking with grace in the grind. And

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remember, the motherhood you don't post about

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still matters deeply to God. Thank you for listening

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to Grace in the Grind, where we keep the coffee

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strong and our faith stronger. And today, we

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honor mothers. We honor motherhood. And that

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doesn't need to be filtered to be beautiful.

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To the moms in the trenches doing the quiet,

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unglamorous work, you aren't just getting by.

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You're being faithful. And God hasn't missed

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a single second of it.