WEBVTT 00:00:11.240 --> 00:00:13.179 Hi everybody, welcome to the Canine Connection 00:00:13.179 --> 00:00:15.839 podcast. Today, Lori and I are going to talk 00:00:15.839 --> 00:00:19.719 about pressure, but not pressure on the dogs, 00:00:19.920 --> 00:00:26.320 pressure on the humans. Well, it's real, right? 00:00:26.500 --> 00:00:30.379 So, and everybody has it. There's no way around 00:00:30.379 --> 00:00:33.899 it. We put it on ourselves first and foremost, 00:00:34.000 --> 00:00:36.000 right? That's the first thought that happens. 00:00:37.579 --> 00:00:40.320 And it's easy to say, don't do it. Very easy 00:00:40.320 --> 00:00:46.179 to say. Incredibly hard, incredibly hard to execute. 00:00:47.079 --> 00:00:51.600 Thanks to our human monkey brain that loves chitter 00:00:51.600 --> 00:00:54.280 chattering and telling us all kinds of crazy 00:00:54.280 --> 00:01:00.500 nonsense that we then believe and go down a rabbit 00:01:00.500 --> 00:01:05.719 hole with. Right. So, I mean, I know for myself. 00:01:06.810 --> 00:01:09.549 I've been working on it forever and I still need 00:01:09.549 --> 00:01:12.790 to work on it constantly. That never ends. Right. 00:01:12.909 --> 00:01:15.109 Doesn't mean it doesn't get better. It's tons 00:01:15.109 --> 00:01:17.950 better for me now. Tons easier. But does it ever 00:01:17.950 --> 00:01:21.890 disappear? Absolutely not. It's there and it's 00:01:21.890 --> 00:01:24.590 there externally as well. And that's the reality. 00:01:24.750 --> 00:01:29.709 Right. Like they're at shows. People are watching 00:01:29.709 --> 00:01:32.450 me. They're watching me walk in. They're watching 00:01:32.450 --> 00:01:34.409 me warm up. They're watching me in the ring. 00:01:34.569 --> 00:01:38.750 They're watching me leave the ring. Like, that's 00:01:38.750 --> 00:01:41.170 the reality. There's no getting around it, right? 00:01:41.510 --> 00:01:44.349 Quite often, I get judged differently. I'm not 00:01:44.349 --> 00:01:46.590 saying that in a negative way. It just is what 00:01:46.590 --> 00:01:48.969 it is. I think it's subconscious. Doesn't matter. 00:01:49.349 --> 00:01:53.890 It happens, right? I post things on Facebook. 00:01:54.370 --> 00:02:01.890 I do the podcast. Observed. And people have expectations. 00:02:02.450 --> 00:02:05.549 They're not my expectations, but they have them, 00:02:05.650 --> 00:02:10.090 right? And I hear it, whether indirectly or directly, 00:02:10.229 --> 00:02:13.629 but I will directly hear it. Come out of the 00:02:13.629 --> 00:02:17.990 ring. What happened? Come out of the ring. Didn't 00:02:17.990 --> 00:02:20.530 get first place, which is pretty ridiculous, 00:02:20.629 --> 00:02:22.870 right? You didn't get first place. What happened? 00:02:23.030 --> 00:02:25.969 People say that stuff to me all the time, right? 00:02:28.949 --> 00:02:33.050 Well, what's the deal with Zaina? Like all your 00:02:33.050 --> 00:02:35.610 other dogs were really consistent. She's not. 00:02:36.189 --> 00:02:39.590 Like I get comments constantly. Oh, you want 00:02:39.590 --> 00:02:41.610 to get like, it doesn't matter. You win, you 00:02:41.610 --> 00:02:46.229 lose. Yeah. Yeah. Well, yeah. Yeah. And, and 00:02:46.229 --> 00:02:49.229 then you have to control your own emotions. Right. 00:02:49.330 --> 00:02:51.849 Which is, and that's where it gets hard because 00:02:51.849 --> 00:02:56.849 it's hard for me. Yeah. I already have issues 00:02:56.849 --> 00:03:00.789 because, you know. because of my childhood it 00:03:00.789 --> 00:03:04.069 was a disaster nothing was ever good enough like 00:03:04.069 --> 00:03:09.090 it was a mess so I already had um self -esteem 00:03:09.090 --> 00:03:13.110 issues not feeling good enough not worthy on 00:03:13.110 --> 00:03:16.030 and on right and to this day I have like imposter 00:03:16.030 --> 00:03:19.389 syndrome like I'll win and I'm like surprised 00:03:19.389 --> 00:03:24.069 like oh really like and people like yeah you're 00:03:24.069 --> 00:03:27.610 just no no no like that's how I feel and I do 00:03:27.610 --> 00:03:31.789 feel pressure like even if in my brain intellectually 00:03:31.789 --> 00:03:35.449 I understand a number of things one nobody wins 00:03:35.449 --> 00:03:38.870 all the time they just don't in any sport that's 00:03:38.870 --> 00:03:41.990 just the way it is and for sure not in dog sports 00:03:41.990 --> 00:03:45.689 right and that's perfectly okay I can have a 00:03:45.689 --> 00:03:48.449 class that I love and not even place especially 00:03:48.449 --> 00:03:53.090 in the northeast very competitive right um I 00:03:53.090 --> 00:03:58.490 can have a class I didn't love in place. I understand 00:03:58.490 --> 00:04:01.909 that people are going to talk about other people 00:04:01.909 --> 00:04:05.110 no matter what, no matter who you are, no matter 00:04:05.110 --> 00:04:08.770 what you do. It doesn't matter. There are going 00:04:08.770 --> 00:04:13.689 to be people that don't like you. It's all just 00:04:13.689 --> 00:04:18.069 part of the thing. But keeping that all on like 00:04:18.069 --> 00:04:22.980 in real time. managing that like coming out of 00:04:22.980 --> 00:04:27.980 the ring having flunked or having quote -unquote 00:04:27.980 --> 00:04:35.120 not one and not feeling like all those feelings 00:04:35.120 --> 00:04:38.800 not because even I'm judging myself in that way 00:04:38.800 --> 00:04:42.279 but because I know what other people are saying 00:04:42.279 --> 00:04:49.699 like that's so hard and then managing all that 00:04:50.350 --> 00:04:55.850 It's so hard. In real time at a trial. Jesus 00:04:55.850 --> 00:05:01.050 Christ, it's hard. It's really hard. Like I everything 00:05:01.050 --> 00:05:05.449 you said is exactly how I feel. And I'm not you, 00:05:05.589 --> 00:05:10.209 obviously. See, even you just saying that puts 00:05:10.209 --> 00:05:13.750 pressure on me. Sorry, Petra. Do you know what 00:05:13.750 --> 00:05:16.069 I'm saying though? But that's a perfect point. 00:05:16.189 --> 00:05:19.329 I understand. No, I know. In that moment, like 00:05:19.329 --> 00:05:22.529 I feel like, oh God, I got, do you see what I'm 00:05:22.529 --> 00:05:27.170 saying? I recognize it. I stopped it, but yeah, 00:05:27.329 --> 00:05:34.709 right. But it's like the pressure of, you know, 00:05:34.709 --> 00:05:40.029 ever, you know, I started my business. That put 00:05:40.029 --> 00:05:45.629 me out there. And then I, I also post a lot of 00:05:45.629 --> 00:05:49.250 stuff on Facebook and I don't do it to be like, 00:05:49.329 --> 00:05:53.810 look at me, look at me because I post a lot of 00:05:53.810 --> 00:05:59.759 my troubles on Facebook because I feel. I mean, 00:05:59.779 --> 00:06:02.639 we don't have to go into that, but I want to 00:06:02.639 --> 00:06:05.939 share, like, my whole thing is if I'm going to 00:06:05.939 --> 00:06:08.360 teach, if I'm going to run a school, if I'm going 00:06:08.360 --> 00:06:12.860 to do a podcast, like, the purpose is to, my 00:06:12.860 --> 00:06:16.120 goal is to make our sport more collaborative 00:06:16.120 --> 00:06:20.680 where we can help each other out and not have 00:06:20.680 --> 00:06:24.620 that, I mean, everyone's competing. when we go 00:06:24.620 --> 00:06:27.959 to shows, but at the end of the day, like I love, 00:06:28.060 --> 00:06:31.139 I don't care if you win all the time, if I can 00:06:31.139 --> 00:06:34.060 help you with something, I'm going to help you. 00:06:34.120 --> 00:06:37.639 You know, I'm not going to be jealous or envious 00:06:37.639 --> 00:06:41.319 or anything like that, but that's my purpose 00:06:41.319 --> 00:06:44.300 of being out on social media. That's my purpose 00:06:44.300 --> 00:06:48.199 of teaching, doing, sharing the podcast with 00:06:48.199 --> 00:06:52.160 you. Like if we can help people, whether they're 00:06:52.649 --> 00:06:56.350 thinking about competing or their multi -level 00:06:56.350 --> 00:07:00.550 arch person like that's my goal and I think you 00:07:00.550 --> 00:07:06.569 share that too but with it comes you know the 00:07:06.569 --> 00:07:09.250 critics out there and boy they're everywhere 00:07:09.250 --> 00:07:13.889 I mean unfortunately that's just what goes hand 00:07:13.889 --> 00:07:16.550 in hand with our sport it goes hand in hand with 00:07:16.550 --> 00:07:20.199 everything in life really but You know, it can 00:07:20.199 --> 00:07:23.500 get pretty freaking, there's some deep trenches 00:07:23.500 --> 00:07:28.199 of some toxicity with the criticism and all that 00:07:28.199 --> 00:07:30.660 going on at dog shows. I think a lot of people 00:07:30.660 --> 00:07:33.519 will agree with that who are listening. It's 00:07:33.519 --> 00:07:35.720 actually turned people away from doing the sport. 00:07:36.319 --> 00:07:40.360 But when you become, you know, a little bit of 00:07:40.360 --> 00:07:43.240 a name or, you know, you're putting yourself 00:07:43.240 --> 00:07:46.620 out on social media enough, like, and since I've 00:07:46.620 --> 00:07:50.819 been doing the podcast. There's definitely been 00:07:50.819 --> 00:07:53.680 pressure on me. It has affected my performances 00:07:53.680 --> 00:08:00.800 this past year. It's something that I'm not ungrateful 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:04.399 for or it's not something that I wish I regretted 00:08:04.399 --> 00:08:08.639 doing because it actually has really forced me 00:08:08.639 --> 00:08:14.850 to get my head on and be able to bring. to the 00:08:14.850 --> 00:08:16.870 table, what I need to bring to the table for 00:08:16.870 --> 00:08:19.730 my own dogs at performances. Like, it's hard, 00:08:20.050 --> 00:08:22.550 like you said. I mean, it is really hard to get 00:08:22.550 --> 00:08:30.589 past all that stuff. And, you know, unfortunately, 00:08:31.050 --> 00:08:35.269 like, I think that I'm the same way as you. Like, 00:08:35.309 --> 00:08:39.490 I grew up in a super sporty home with parents 00:08:39.490 --> 00:08:45.090 who held you know, high expectations of us in 00:08:45.090 --> 00:08:50.169 school and in our sports. And it wasn't really 00:08:50.169 --> 00:08:52.990 ever, we weren't really ever told we were doing 00:08:52.990 --> 00:08:55.409 fantastic. It was always do better, do better. 00:08:56.029 --> 00:08:58.970 So I feel that too. I have that kind of background 00:08:58.970 --> 00:09:03.350 too. So I, you know, I feel it too. There's some 00:09:03.350 --> 00:09:06.470 insecurities there, like with my own, like my 00:09:06.470 --> 00:09:10.220 own self -esteem with my performance. especially 00:09:10.220 --> 00:09:12.480 when I'm in the ring like there's a thing like 00:09:12.480 --> 00:09:15.860 if I I went to a trial not long long ago and 00:09:15.860 --> 00:09:18.179 I it's a place I haven't been to in a couple 00:09:18.179 --> 00:09:21.899 years and I decided to go trial there and I'm 00:09:21.899 --> 00:09:24.179 currently working through some issues with ever 00:09:24.179 --> 00:09:28.500 so I was going just to kind of see if those training 00:09:28.500 --> 00:09:31.679 techniques I was used working on we're going 00:09:31.679 --> 00:09:34.620 to maybe hold up at a trial We had talked about 00:09:34.620 --> 00:09:36.500 that on the podcast. This is the actual trial. 00:09:36.600 --> 00:09:42.019 And I walked in and I think within like the first 00:09:42.019 --> 00:09:44.000 half an hour, three people came up to me and 00:09:44.000 --> 00:09:45.360 they're like, oh my God, you're Lori Winchester 00:09:45.360 --> 00:09:47.440 Mavichus. Oh my God, I can't believe you're here. 00:09:47.580 --> 00:09:49.860 I can't wait to watch you in the ring. And holy 00:09:49.860 --> 00:09:54.860 shit. Like I literally was like, not only did 00:09:54.860 --> 00:09:58.779 I like know that ever may have some struggles 00:09:58.779 --> 00:10:01.470 in the ring, like I was prepared for that. But 00:10:01.470 --> 00:10:04.350 now I'm now the pressure's on. Like I couldn't 00:10:04.350 --> 00:10:07.490 help but feel that when people are directly saying 00:10:07.490 --> 00:10:09.429 things like that to you, because then you're 00:10:09.429 --> 00:10:12.710 under that under you're under the microscope 00:10:12.710 --> 00:10:15.690 a little bit. Yeah. And you feel like people 00:10:15.690 --> 00:10:18.389 have expectations that you're going to do a certain 00:10:18.389 --> 00:10:20.590 way and your performance is going to be a certain 00:10:20.590 --> 00:10:23.690 way. And then when it's not that way, then we 00:10:23.690 --> 00:10:26.110 feel like it's a reflection on us. Like we're 00:10:26.110 --> 00:10:28.649 not really that good. We're a fraud. Like here 00:10:28.649 --> 00:10:31.570 we are teaching or here we are saying, oh, I'm 00:10:31.570 --> 00:10:34.289 going to help you. And like people expect your 00:10:34.289 --> 00:10:37.029 dog like wins all the time. It's perfect all 00:10:37.029 --> 00:10:39.350 the time. Gets high scores all the time. And 00:10:39.350 --> 00:10:41.929 the reality is like that couldn't be further 00:10:41.929 --> 00:10:44.289 from the truth. Like it just doesn't work like 00:10:44.289 --> 00:10:48.409 that. So like separating those feelings out. 00:10:49.259 --> 00:10:52.019 Right. Not letting it affect your self -worth, 00:10:52.100 --> 00:10:54.639 not letting it affect your performance. Right. 00:10:54.740 --> 00:10:59.120 Like that. That's the really hard part. And it 00:10:59.120 --> 00:11:02.679 just it just requires work. Like you just have 00:11:02.679 --> 00:11:05.799 to be aware of it and you have to do some sort 00:11:05.799 --> 00:11:10.940 of work on every day. So I am hyper aware. Right. 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:14.419 Like this because I've been working on it for 00:11:14.419 --> 00:11:19.179 a long time. So now you said that. I can immediately 00:11:19.179 --> 00:11:21.580 feel that I feel that. And then I can immediately 00:11:21.580 --> 00:11:23.720 just flip that switch off and just go, yeah, 00:11:23.820 --> 00:11:28.679 that's irrelevant. Right. Right. In the past, 00:11:28.720 --> 00:11:30.399 I wouldn't have been able to do that. I would 00:11:30.399 --> 00:11:32.080 have been like, oh, my God, I would have started 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:34.580 scribbling down things I need to work on in training. 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:38.440 And like, I got to go train. Oh, my God. Like, 00:11:38.440 --> 00:11:46.009 you know. So I think just. The biggest part is 00:11:46.009 --> 00:11:48.750 being aware. I think there's two pieces. One 00:11:48.750 --> 00:11:51.370 is people have to recognize that everybody goes 00:11:51.370 --> 00:11:54.070 through it. Like every single person feels the 00:11:54.070 --> 00:11:56.789 same things. Like that's one thing we all share 00:11:56.789 --> 00:11:58.809 as humans, right? We don't all handle it the 00:11:58.809 --> 00:12:01.009 same, but we all feel it. We're all just human. 00:12:01.070 --> 00:12:04.590 We all feel those same feelings. Right. And then 00:12:04.590 --> 00:12:09.830 there's recognizing that we all feel that. So 00:12:09.830 --> 00:12:12.840 stop. Because people waste so much time beating 00:12:12.840 --> 00:12:15.940 themselves up for being unique. Oh, everyone, 00:12:16.059 --> 00:12:18.440 no one else feels what I feel. Yeah, you're not 00:12:18.440 --> 00:12:24.340 that special. We all feel it. And then figuring 00:12:24.340 --> 00:12:28.600 out and recognizing that it's happening and then 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:32.259 start working on, you know, some sort of pattern 00:12:32.259 --> 00:12:38.230 interrupt, right? some sort of strategy, whatever 00:12:38.230 --> 00:12:47.149 that strategy is, so that you could start changing 00:12:47.149 --> 00:12:53.750 that. I think when I see that my students recognize 00:12:53.750 --> 00:12:58.049 that they're having this struggle and that it's 00:12:58.049 --> 00:13:00.370 an issue and that it's affecting their performance, 00:13:00.470 --> 00:13:04.509 to me, that's huge. That's the biggest step. 00:13:06.139 --> 00:13:10.659 Right. And then next is actively being willing 00:13:10.659 --> 00:13:13.919 to do something about it. Like you have to separate 00:13:13.919 --> 00:13:18.840 your feelings from reality, which is objective 00:13:18.840 --> 00:13:24.159 information. Right. Like at the end of the day, 00:13:24.360 --> 00:13:27.620 they all might be watching. Maybe they say something 00:13:27.620 --> 00:13:29.759 that day, but most people just go home and they 00:13:29.759 --> 00:13:32.539 just care about their own. situation right like 00:13:32.539 --> 00:13:36.840 what did third dog do how did third day go right 00:13:36.840 --> 00:13:43.259 um what did they need to work on um I think that's 00:13:43.259 --> 00:13:48.700 a big part of it and I think it's like you just 00:13:48.700 --> 00:13:50.940 have to recognize that that's part of competing 00:13:50.940 --> 00:13:53.980 like everything I've competed in it's kind of 00:13:53.980 --> 00:13:57.179 like the same thing some of it is pressure we 00:13:57.179 --> 00:14:02.740 put on ourselves too right like um I always have 00:14:02.740 --> 00:14:07.799 to separate out like, what do I care about? Not 00:14:07.799 --> 00:14:13.659 what does everybody like, I can't wrap what I 00:14:13.659 --> 00:14:19.360 care about and what I want in with other people's 00:14:19.360 --> 00:14:22.440 expectations or what I think other people's beliefs 00:14:22.440 --> 00:14:25.919 and expectations are. So I have to always do 00:14:25.919 --> 00:14:28.620 this mindful thing going into a trial, like, 00:14:28.679 --> 00:14:33.850 okay. What are my goals? What am I trying to 00:14:33.850 --> 00:14:39.789 achieve for my dogs? What do I care about? Make 00:14:39.789 --> 00:14:45.649 sure that's very clear in my head. And then work 00:14:45.649 --> 00:14:49.809 towards that that weekend and then evaluate objectively. 00:14:50.690 --> 00:14:56.610 How did that go? And then go back and work on 00:14:56.610 --> 00:15:02.629 that. versus just randomly going and being like, 00:15:02.769 --> 00:15:05.330 Oh, I want a cue or I want a ribbon or I want 00:15:05.330 --> 00:15:09.629 to score. Cause that's, you know, that's subjective. 00:15:09.730 --> 00:15:11.909 Like we don't really have control over that. 00:15:12.429 --> 00:15:18.009 Um, have process driven goals, right? Like I 00:15:18.009 --> 00:15:21.190 want to be focused. I want to handle my dogs 00:15:21.190 --> 00:15:23.690 a certain way. I want to see if certain things 00:15:23.690 --> 00:15:25.450 I've been working on and training are getting 00:15:25.450 --> 00:15:29.960 better. Right. That's and that's that's what's 00:15:29.960 --> 00:15:34.919 really helped me a lot is really like I actually 00:15:34.919 --> 00:15:39.559 what has helped me the most is thinking about 00:15:39.559 --> 00:15:44.320 my dogs, you know, especially Ever because Stormy's 00:15:44.320 --> 00:15:46.679 just starting out. So we haven't I haven't really 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:50.340 shown her. But with Ever, you know, it is like 00:15:50.340 --> 00:15:57.500 it's hard enough for these poor dogs to be. doing 00:15:57.500 --> 00:16:00.299 what they're doing. Like they don't ask to go 00:16:00.299 --> 00:16:02.460 to these freaking trials. We always say that. 00:16:02.559 --> 00:16:09.000 And it's hard. And on top of it, I'm not bringing, 00:16:10.299 --> 00:16:17.960 I'm not doing my job in the partnership a hundred 00:16:17.960 --> 00:16:24.340 percent if I can't like somehow manage those 00:16:24.340 --> 00:16:27.799 feelings. and separate them, like you just said, 00:16:27.960 --> 00:16:33.740 so that I have the ability to show up and focus 00:16:33.740 --> 00:16:37.679 primarily on what I need to do. It's really hard. 00:16:37.759 --> 00:16:40.220 It's like that outside noise going on all the 00:16:40.220 --> 00:16:42.980 time. And that's just the mental management. 00:16:43.139 --> 00:16:44.840 We've talked about that and we've had episodes 00:16:44.840 --> 00:16:48.940 on that, but it always shows up, you know? But 00:16:48.940 --> 00:16:53.779 that's the thing. And like, even at my last trial, 00:16:54.889 --> 00:16:57.350 You know, somebody walked up to me and they were 00:16:57.350 --> 00:17:01.129 like, I said, I watched her run and I said, oh 00:17:01.129 --> 00:17:04.769 my gosh, your dog looks amazing. She had had 00:17:04.769 --> 00:17:07.609 many, many issues going on like for the past 00:17:07.609 --> 00:17:12.769 year. She's worked so hard. And I was like, you've 00:17:12.769 --> 00:17:15.329 done an amazing job. Like, wow, you should be 00:17:15.329 --> 00:17:19.089 so proud. And she was like, thank you so much. 00:17:19.210 --> 00:17:22.329 She's like, but I overheard all these people 00:17:22.329 --> 00:17:26.230 talking about, you know. My hand position and 00:17:26.230 --> 00:17:30.150 how I should be getting hit for that. And I was 00:17:30.150 --> 00:17:32.509 just like, that's the hard stuff. Like, cause 00:17:32.509 --> 00:17:35.869 you know, what's going on, you know? And I just, 00:17:35.890 --> 00:17:40.009 I told her, I said, it's the people are always 00:17:40.009 --> 00:17:42.150 going to talk. Like there's always going to be 00:17:42.150 --> 00:17:48.349 people doing that shit. I know. Don't. So annoying. 00:17:48.730 --> 00:17:53.170 And that's the problem because you know, what's 00:17:53.170 --> 00:17:57.180 happening. You've been standing there ringside. 00:17:57.180 --> 00:18:00.319 You hear people talking like that. So you know 00:18:00.319 --> 00:18:04.480 it goes on. And then, you know, that's the hard 00:18:04.480 --> 00:18:07.359 part. That's where you start to feel the pressure, 00:18:07.519 --> 00:18:11.480 you know. And I don't know. I'm just saying, 00:18:11.579 --> 00:18:14.099 like, it's fucking hard. Like, I get it. It's 00:18:14.099 --> 00:18:18.759 really hard. But I have, like, I really came 00:18:18.759 --> 00:18:22.049 to, like. I had like a coming to Jesus moment 00:18:22.049 --> 00:18:24.529 with myself. I'm like, you either hang this up 00:18:24.529 --> 00:18:28.950 if you can't find a way to be there for your 00:18:28.950 --> 00:18:35.369 talk. Or you need to find a way. And I did. Like, 00:18:35.430 --> 00:18:38.869 I'm much better now. Like, even this past weekend 00:18:38.869 --> 00:18:41.750 when we showed, like, I knew everybody was going 00:18:41.750 --> 00:18:45.740 to be there. I know people are there that don't 00:18:45.740 --> 00:18:48.220 support me. I know there's people there, like 00:18:48.220 --> 00:18:51.700 with everything, there's people there that don't 00:18:51.700 --> 00:18:54.480 agree with stuff I'm doing or whatever. I know 00:18:54.480 --> 00:18:59.069 that. I've heard it. I've been around it. And 00:18:59.069 --> 00:19:04.029 I knew most everybody was going to be at that 00:19:04.029 --> 00:19:07.869 trial. And I went and I had my plan and I executed 00:19:07.869 --> 00:19:11.289 it for my dog. And like that was my win. Like 00:19:11.289 --> 00:19:15.730 it was really hard to do. But now I'm like I'm 00:19:15.730 --> 00:19:18.309 so confident like I'm on the right track to be 00:19:18.309 --> 00:19:20.930 able to do that and overcome that stuff because 00:19:20.930 --> 00:19:23.049 the pressure is always going to be there. Always. 00:19:24.079 --> 00:19:27.180 Yeah. And it's like you said, you either make 00:19:27.180 --> 00:19:29.579 the decision that you're going to deal with it 00:19:29.579 --> 00:19:32.279 and come up with strategies to go overcome it 00:19:32.279 --> 00:19:35.000 or then just don't show. Right. Because it's 00:19:35.000 --> 00:19:38.019 not going to go away. I think the most interesting 00:19:38.019 --> 00:19:42.940 thing is like my biggest successes always came 00:19:42.940 --> 00:19:47.039 when like so I'll give you an example. So with 00:19:47.039 --> 00:19:51.539 Zeal, you know, he was really, really accurate 00:19:51.539 --> 00:19:54.730 and he would just have these like. little he'd 00:19:54.730 --> 00:20:01.490 always not always that's totally wrong but first 00:20:01.490 --> 00:20:06.130 noca went to he was really green like i just 00:20:06.130 --> 00:20:08.529 didn't even think we'd get to the end he gets 00:20:08.529 --> 00:20:12.910 third so then um he gets more seasons and you 00:20:12.910 --> 00:20:15.589 know he would either win a regional or he would 00:20:15.589 --> 00:20:19.390 like have one like implosion where he would fail 00:20:19.390 --> 00:20:22.170 and the rest would all be like super high scores 00:20:22.170 --> 00:20:26.450 right which was frustrating but um then the next 00:20:26.450 --> 00:20:29.430 few years I really wanted to win the NOC because 00:20:29.430 --> 00:20:33.190 I wanted to prove that like you know the way 00:20:33.190 --> 00:20:36.650 I was training was effective blah blah and he 00:20:36.650 --> 00:20:40.549 would flunk and so at some point in his training 00:20:40.549 --> 00:20:43.910 I came to the conclusion that he was already 00:20:43.910 --> 00:20:49.180 working so far and above his natural genetic 00:20:49.180 --> 00:20:52.880 ability that like, I couldn't really ask any 00:20:52.880 --> 00:20:54.940 more of him or expect any more of him. Like he 00:20:54.940 --> 00:20:57.980 was already way above and beyond what he should 00:20:57.980 --> 00:21:01.140 technically be able to do. Right. And I talked 00:21:01.140 --> 00:21:04.480 to some people I really trusted objectively, 00:21:04.799 --> 00:21:08.220 like, and they agreed, right. They're like, dude, 00:21:08.299 --> 00:21:10.779 like what you've gotten out of this dog, it's 00:21:10.779 --> 00:21:14.480 already a miracle, whatever. So his last NOC. 00:21:15.349 --> 00:21:20.269 I'm like okay well um we're just gonna go and 00:21:20.269 --> 00:21:22.809 I'm just gonna you know I had figured some stuff 00:21:22.809 --> 00:21:24.890 out over the summer and I said I'm just gonna 00:21:24.890 --> 00:21:28.529 try and keep figuring stuff out for me can I 00:21:28.529 --> 00:21:30.690 figure this out can I solve this problem for 00:21:30.690 --> 00:21:33.690 me out of curiosity that's it not like because 00:21:33.690 --> 00:21:35.970 I want to win or anything like that just can 00:21:35.970 --> 00:21:39.150 I figure it out right right figured some stuff 00:21:39.150 --> 00:21:42.809 out but I went to the NOC and I was like zero 00:21:42.809 --> 00:21:46.539 chance we're gonna even like win or get to the 00:21:46.539 --> 00:21:49.740 end like I'm just gonna like execute these things 00:21:49.740 --> 00:21:54.480 try out these things I worked on over the summer 00:21:54.480 --> 00:21:58.480 and over the fall and I'm just gonna do my job 00:21:58.480 --> 00:22:02.279 and execute and that's all that's my only goal 00:22:02.279 --> 00:22:05.059 right and that was my only goal through the whole 00:22:05.059 --> 00:22:11.480 thing and guess what he won hmm hmm right um 00:22:12.589 --> 00:22:15.549 this year with zesty like i already said it like 00:22:15.549 --> 00:22:19.029 wasn't even gonna go he wasn't even prepared 00:22:19.029 --> 00:22:23.150 like i was so relaxed because i had no expectation 00:22:23.150 --> 00:22:25.329 like i didn't even think i was gonna get either 00:22:25.329 --> 00:22:29.069 dog to the end right so like my training partner 00:22:29.069 --> 00:22:32.849 who was helping me he was my assistant he was 00:22:32.849 --> 00:22:35.849 like at one point like um he's like dude you're 00:22:35.849 --> 00:22:39.160 in the ring like soon i'm like i am So at the 00:22:39.160 --> 00:22:41.079 end of the day, he's like, I, even at the end 00:22:41.079 --> 00:22:42.720 of the weekend, he's like, I have not, like, 00:22:42.779 --> 00:22:45.180 I don't understand how you were so relaxed. You 00:22:45.180 --> 00:22:49.319 were just like, you know, whatever. Like, yeah, 00:22:49.440 --> 00:22:51.740 at some points I was like, ah, because it got 00:22:51.740 --> 00:22:54.960 frantic with two dogs, but two dogs was actually 00:22:54.960 --> 00:22:57.359 good. Cause I never had any time to think about 00:22:57.359 --> 00:23:00.259 any results or anything other than what do I 00:23:00.259 --> 00:23:02.539 do next? What do I do next? Now, what do I do 00:23:02.539 --> 00:23:04.720 now? And my dogs are polar opposites, right? 00:23:04.900 --> 00:23:08.039 And guess what? They did really well. Gee, I 00:23:08.039 --> 00:23:10.480 wonder why. Maybe because I wasn't focused on 00:23:10.480 --> 00:23:13.200 the outcome. Maybe I was focused on the process. 00:23:13.279 --> 00:23:15.859 Right. And that's happened in other things in 00:23:15.859 --> 00:23:19.220 my life where I was focused, so focused on the 00:23:19.220 --> 00:23:23.680 process and not on the outcome. I mean, it was 00:23:23.680 --> 00:23:26.240 the same thing with Tyler his first time. It 00:23:26.240 --> 00:23:29.930 was like. My whole goal was like, stick to my 00:23:29.930 --> 00:23:32.230 plan, stick to my plan. Like I had everything 00:23:32.230 --> 00:23:34.730 written out in notes, like don't go off the rails. 00:23:34.809 --> 00:23:37.069 And people were like going off the rails all 00:23:37.069 --> 00:23:39.609 around me. And I felt this pull to do this, do 00:23:39.609 --> 00:23:42.289 that. And I'm like, stick to the plan. Look at 00:23:42.289 --> 00:23:45.930 your book. This is what your notebook says. Yeah. 00:23:46.549 --> 00:23:49.829 You know, and that was, and I stuck to the process. 00:23:49.890 --> 00:23:52.789 Like I stuck to the plan. That was my only thing. 00:23:54.539 --> 00:23:57.839 As a byproduct, he ended up winning. Like, so 00:23:57.839 --> 00:24:01.519 part of that is like, I stuck to the process. 00:24:01.579 --> 00:24:05.940 Right. And did I do that every year? No. A lot 00:24:05.940 --> 00:24:09.920 of times I messed that up, you know, and you're 00:24:09.920 --> 00:24:12.160 like, well, but you dumb dummy, you know, the 00:24:12.160 --> 00:24:14.460 recipe, why don't you execute it? Cause it's 00:24:14.460 --> 00:24:18.599 hard. Right. But it's always the process. It's 00:24:18.599 --> 00:24:21.440 always, if you're focused, things go way better. 00:24:22.349 --> 00:24:25.890 If you're focused on the process, process goals 00:24:25.890 --> 00:24:29.609 and like nothing makes me happier. Like now. 00:24:31.029 --> 00:24:34.029 After teaching for years, when I see my students 00:24:34.029 --> 00:24:37.109 say, I have a child this weekend and these are 00:24:37.109 --> 00:24:41.549 my goals and their process goals. Right. I'm 00:24:41.549 --> 00:24:43.890 going to stay connected to my dog. I'm going 00:24:43.890 --> 00:24:47.210 to do my warm up. I'm going to use my pre cues. 00:24:47.390 --> 00:24:51.359 I'm going to do these things. And then when they 00:24:51.359 --> 00:24:53.980 give me the assessment, like sometimes I get 00:24:53.980 --> 00:24:56.839 choked up. I'm like, yes. They're like, okay, 00:24:56.920 --> 00:25:01.119 here's my assessment of the weekend. A, I met 00:25:01.119 --> 00:25:04.579 most of my process goals. That's what they tell 00:25:04.579 --> 00:25:08.039 me first. Or I did or I didn't. Like they address 00:25:08.039 --> 00:25:11.420 the process goals first. Then they tell me if 00:25:11.420 --> 00:25:14.319 their dog flunked or not. Right? They're not 00:25:14.319 --> 00:25:17.700 like, my dog flunked. My world's coming to an 00:25:17.700 --> 00:25:21.569 end. Like they're learning. That the important 00:25:21.569 --> 00:25:26.849 piece is the process goals. Right. That's exactly 00:25:26.849 --> 00:25:30.690 what it is. And that's what I did this past weekend. 00:25:30.829 --> 00:25:35.230 And it was a game changer. And is it hard? Yes. 00:25:36.369 --> 00:25:42.430 It's really hard. But that is exactly, you know, 00:25:42.430 --> 00:25:44.829 and that's like if you listen to a bunch of, 00:25:44.829 --> 00:25:48.009 like I've listened to a lot of podcasts where 00:25:48.009 --> 00:25:52.180 they're. you know, top athletes have spoken about 00:25:52.180 --> 00:25:55.099 the mental management and that's what they harp 00:25:55.099 --> 00:25:57.599 on. Like you, in the moment, like you just need 00:25:57.599 --> 00:26:02.299 to be step -by -step doing your plan, not thinking 00:26:02.299 --> 00:26:04.759 about the outcome, not thinking about winning, 00:26:04.960 --> 00:26:08.759 sticking to your plan, sticking to your process 00:26:08.759 --> 00:26:12.720 goals. And it is, it is a game changer for sure. 00:26:13.680 --> 00:26:17.099 I also think it's, you know, like we should look 00:26:17.099 --> 00:26:21.250 at it. That these are not just good skills, like 00:26:21.250 --> 00:26:23.549 learning to deal with the pressure, tune out 00:26:23.549 --> 00:26:26.829 the noise. Like they're incredible life skills, 00:26:27.049 --> 00:26:30.710 right? Like I'm so resilient now. Like things 00:26:30.710 --> 00:26:35.049 don't bother me. Like life things happen, like 00:26:35.049 --> 00:26:39.430 things in life, right? Like people unrelated 00:26:39.430 --> 00:26:42.869 to dog sports can do something unkind to me. 00:26:42.910 --> 00:26:45.829 Like it could be something like in everyday life 00:26:45.829 --> 00:26:48.619 in the store, or it could be somebody. I know 00:26:48.619 --> 00:26:52.380 well, like they could do something upsetting, 00:26:52.579 --> 00:26:56.660 something hurtful or something where that I might, 00:26:56.680 --> 00:27:00.240 I could potentially interpret a certain way or 00:27:00.240 --> 00:27:04.819 whatever, or things can break or whatever can 00:27:04.819 --> 00:27:09.299 happen. And I'm just like, nah, all right. You 00:27:09.299 --> 00:27:13.660 know, I'm able to separate myself from it. am 00:27:13.660 --> 00:27:16.200 I able to understand like why it happens that 00:27:16.200 --> 00:27:18.500 sometimes it has nothing to do with me. It has 00:27:18.500 --> 00:27:21.559 everything to do with them. Right. And even though 00:27:21.559 --> 00:27:23.839 on the surface, like you could say, well, but 00:27:23.839 --> 00:27:27.400 it was done to me, it hurt me or whatever, but 00:27:27.400 --> 00:27:31.460 I can still separate myself from that and look 00:27:31.460 --> 00:27:34.200 at it more objectively. Like, and I can look 00:27:34.200 --> 00:27:38.619 at like, what did I do? Like, did I do? No, I'm 00:27:38.619 --> 00:27:42.680 okay. Like with what I did. So therefore I'm 00:27:42.680 --> 00:27:45.279 not going to go down a rabbit hole with this 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:52.180 thing. Right. Like in life, I just don't, I just 00:27:52.180 --> 00:27:54.640 don't go there. Like, and I don't get sucked 00:27:54.640 --> 00:27:59.519 in. So like people around me can start talking 00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:02.019 about things and I'm just like, you know what? 00:28:02.119 --> 00:28:04.559 I look at that. I'm not going there. Yeah. I'm 00:28:04.559 --> 00:28:07.079 just not like, that's not where I want to put 00:28:07.079 --> 00:28:12.579 my energy. yeah like I just don't like I I don't 00:28:12.579 --> 00:28:16.019 want to sit here and go oh my god she did this 00:28:16.019 --> 00:28:20.819 and he did that and they this like yeah I gotta 00:28:20.819 --> 00:28:24.160 go I got things I gotta do yeah I'm the same 00:28:24.160 --> 00:28:29.500 way I'm like no sorry I'm out yeah and so I think 00:28:29.500 --> 00:28:35.309 that like I know that way back when I first started 00:28:35.309 --> 00:28:38.230 this mental management journey, which I started 00:28:38.230 --> 00:28:43.390 for dog competition, that I was then able to 00:28:43.390 --> 00:28:47.210 transfer those skills to my everyday life. Like, 00:28:47.250 --> 00:28:49.509 and I say that all the time, like, this is not 00:28:49.509 --> 00:28:56.069 just about competition. It is you, you know, 00:28:56.069 --> 00:28:59.569 if you develop these skills in competition, these 00:28:59.569 --> 00:29:05.930 skills can transfer. To everyday life as well. 00:29:05.990 --> 00:29:09.890 And, you know, what I think is interesting is 00:29:09.890 --> 00:29:12.269 like, I don't know what it is about competition 00:29:12.269 --> 00:29:17.750 where like we can choose to take these experiences 00:29:17.750 --> 00:29:21.549 and have them divide us. But what we really should 00:29:21.549 --> 00:29:23.849 be like is we should understand like we're all 00:29:23.849 --> 00:29:27.230 going through the same thing. Like we're all 00:29:27.230 --> 00:29:31.430 at this trial. We're all nervous. We all have 00:29:31.430 --> 00:29:35.900 goals. We've all worked hard. We're all trying 00:29:35.900 --> 00:29:40.420 to achieve something. And sometimes we do. But 00:29:40.420 --> 00:29:43.259 more often than not, we don't. And we're all 00:29:43.259 --> 00:29:49.740 in that boat together. And we should be like 00:29:49.740 --> 00:29:52.839 that. That's what I find fascinating. That should 00:29:52.839 --> 00:29:56.539 make us all like feel like we have a commonality. 00:29:56.720 --> 00:30:02.890 Right. Instead of it creating this like. division 00:30:02.890 --> 00:30:08.710 like this weird thing where it creates separation 00:30:08.710 --> 00:30:16.250 you know like like when other like if your run 00:30:16.250 --> 00:30:19.470 didn't go as planned like I have empathy for 00:30:19.470 --> 00:30:22.329 that because like I understand what that feels 00:30:22.329 --> 00:30:26.119 like right And rather, like, I think when people 00:30:26.119 --> 00:30:28.799 struggle, they kind of go, oh God, they don't 00:30:28.799 --> 00:30:30.599 even want to talk about it. Or they want to talk 00:30:30.599 --> 00:30:34.599 about it ad nauseum in a like, like, oh my God, 00:30:34.680 --> 00:30:36.940 this is a terrible thing. Instead of just like, 00:30:37.099 --> 00:30:40.319 hey, let's discuss it. Maybe like we can come 00:30:40.319 --> 00:30:42.319 up with a plan. Maybe we can help each other. 00:30:42.359 --> 00:30:46.440 Or if nothing else, dude, I get it. it sucks. 00:30:46.440 --> 00:30:50.099 It's fucking hard. Like, I know how much you've 00:30:50.099 --> 00:30:52.480 been working on this. It's still not working. 00:30:52.640 --> 00:30:56.819 I know how frustrating this is. Like, that's 00:30:56.819 --> 00:31:01.039 how we should be. Or Oh, my God, that was so 00:31:01.039 --> 00:31:03.480 nice. And yes, maybe that means you're gonna 00:31:03.480 --> 00:31:08.480 beat me. So what like you, I have mad respect. 00:31:08.839 --> 00:31:12.279 Like, I even if I don't like the person as an 00:31:12.279 --> 00:31:16.680 individual, like, I understand. how much work 00:31:16.680 --> 00:31:21.460 yeah went into achieving that performance that 00:31:21.460 --> 00:31:26.660 you just put in like good for you like good job 00:31:26.660 --> 00:31:31.259 you know nice nice run yeah that's how we should 00:31:31.259 --> 00:31:35.000 be with one another like we should have respect 00:31:35.000 --> 00:31:38.099 for that like I see that it just makes me it's 00:31:38.099 --> 00:31:41.079 so depressing to me This is what depresses me 00:31:41.079 --> 00:31:45.079 more than anything. When I see people in top 00:31:45.079 --> 00:31:48.039 sports, like, and believe me, I understand they 00:31:48.039 --> 00:31:50.759 are under an enormous amount of pressure, all 00:31:50.759 --> 00:31:54.559 like magnified a thousand times negativity, et 00:31:54.559 --> 00:31:58.559 cetera. But when I see two competitors after 00:31:58.559 --> 00:32:01.579 it's over, like have mad respect for each other, 00:32:01.700 --> 00:32:06.680 I love that. I like, I love that. And then I 00:32:06.680 --> 00:32:10.349 always feel so sad because I'm like, Why don't 00:32:10.349 --> 00:32:13.569 we have this in our sport? I don't either. I 00:32:13.569 --> 00:32:17.930 don't either. Like, literally, you know, just 00:32:17.930 --> 00:32:20.930 being in the ring and, like, when they, if I 00:32:20.930 --> 00:32:25.690 place in a class, like, I don't care who it is. 00:32:25.829 --> 00:32:29.710 Like, that part, I'm heartfully, like, feeling. 00:32:30.440 --> 00:32:33.599 total admiration and respect and happy for the 00:32:33.599 --> 00:32:37.180 person, people who are winning or getting ribbons 00:32:37.180 --> 00:32:41.619 or even qualified. Like I look and I notice who's 00:32:41.619 --> 00:32:44.359 in the ring. Like I see people in the ring where 00:32:44.359 --> 00:32:47.319 like, I know they've been struggling. They've 00:32:47.319 --> 00:32:50.720 been failing, you know, and queuing like time 00:32:50.720 --> 00:32:54.019 and time again, they keep showing up and I look 00:32:54.019 --> 00:32:55.839 in the ring and they're standing there because. 00:32:56.359 --> 00:32:59.799 They qualified. Like, I love that. I make sure 00:32:59.799 --> 00:33:03.500 I tell them, like, I'm so happy for you. Whether 00:33:03.500 --> 00:33:06.740 you're, you know, it doesn't matter who it is 00:33:06.740 --> 00:33:10.319 standing next to me. Like, I, you're right. Like, 00:33:10.420 --> 00:33:13.960 it is a hard sport. Like, why can't it be like 00:33:13.960 --> 00:33:16.720 that? Like, I don't understand it. All sports 00:33:16.720 --> 00:33:19.339 are hard. I mean, God, I remember agility. You 00:33:19.339 --> 00:33:22.119 think the Q rates bad in obedience? Holy Hannah. 00:33:25.119 --> 00:33:28.839 it was it's the most frustrating sport on the 00:33:28.839 --> 00:33:32.299 planet but like yeah I think again I think a 00:33:32.299 --> 00:33:35.480 big part of it is that misconception that's magnified 00:33:35.480 --> 00:33:38.480 ten a thousand fold by social media right where 00:33:38.480 --> 00:33:42.119 it appears as if everybody's winning it appears 00:33:42.119 --> 00:33:46.960 as if yeah right um doing well all the time it 00:33:46.960 --> 00:33:49.980 appears as if you know nobody ever struggles 00:33:51.259 --> 00:33:55.119 And I feel like even when I put struggles out 00:33:55.119 --> 00:34:03.380 there, people like dismiss that, like they don't 00:34:03.380 --> 00:34:09.860 really hear it or see it or take it in, right? 00:34:09.960 --> 00:34:15.460 Like all they take in, like to me, I think you 00:34:15.460 --> 00:34:18.469 should be more interested in the fact. that I 00:34:18.469 --> 00:34:21.690 fail and that I struggle and not gloss over that 00:34:21.690 --> 00:34:24.710 and go, yeah, but you win all the time and go, 00:34:24.789 --> 00:34:29.789 Oh, okay. Like I get it. Like that's part of 00:34:29.789 --> 00:34:32.449 the process, but it's almost like people don't 00:34:32.449 --> 00:34:36.250 even want to like hear that or acknowledge that. 00:34:36.329 --> 00:34:39.250 Like they have this weird thing where they create 00:34:39.250 --> 00:34:44.610 this fantasy, even with, you know, great athlete, 00:34:44.670 --> 00:34:48.119 like, um, Like this tennis player. I love him. 00:34:48.179 --> 00:34:53.320 I follow him. And just, I love him anyway, because 00:34:53.320 --> 00:34:56.059 he's got like this great attitude, right? Like 00:34:56.059 --> 00:35:00.440 he's got this great attitude. And so there was 00:35:00.440 --> 00:35:04.039 this tournament just this past weekend or whatever 00:35:04.039 --> 00:35:07.659 and quarterfinals or whatever. And he loses and 00:35:07.659 --> 00:35:12.860 they're like giant upset. I'm like upset, dude. 00:35:13.599 --> 00:35:16.159 Like these tennis players, first of all, when 00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:18.820 they do a tournament, they play all week long. 00:35:18.880 --> 00:35:22.099 Sometimes they're playing for two weeks. Like, 00:35:22.179 --> 00:35:24.019 cause it's like, you know, you start with hundreds 00:35:24.019 --> 00:35:27.619 of people and then you like, you, you keep, you, 00:35:27.699 --> 00:35:29.920 you win. And then you go to the next round and 00:35:29.920 --> 00:35:31.559 then you go to the next round. Then you go to 00:35:31.559 --> 00:35:35.500 the next. It's freaking insane. Right. The guy's 00:35:35.500 --> 00:35:38.820 already won a bazillion. He's like really young. 00:35:39.719 --> 00:35:42.500 He's like. I think the youngest player to win 00:35:42.500 --> 00:35:44.679 all four. Like he's already accomplished insane 00:35:44.679 --> 00:35:47.519 things and he's already accomplished great things 00:35:47.519 --> 00:35:51.219 this year. And it's only March. And they're like, 00:35:51.280 --> 00:35:55.559 and right away, it's like big upset, big upset. 00:35:55.820 --> 00:36:00.099 It's like, it's impossible to be that good all 00:36:00.099 --> 00:36:04.239 the time. It's impossible. But that's how people 00:36:04.239 --> 00:36:08.260 couch it. Like, they're not like, oh, all right. 00:36:08.260 --> 00:36:14.280 Well, he had a great run. this guy beat him it's 00:36:14.280 --> 00:36:17.579 how it goes you know he's still great right but 00:36:17.579 --> 00:36:22.679 it's like oh it's always presented as like this 00:36:22.679 --> 00:36:27.519 big upset he lost like oh my god he got upset 00:36:27.519 --> 00:36:30.679 what happened what do you think's wrong what 00:36:30.679 --> 00:36:33.139 do you think went wrong what do you think happened 00:36:35.050 --> 00:36:38.750 That's how our society is. It's so fucked up. 00:36:38.869 --> 00:36:42.570 It is annoying. It is, you know, and then you 00:36:42.570 --> 00:36:46.550 need to, as that competitor, be able to go with 00:36:46.550 --> 00:36:50.849 your team and go and reframe all that. Right. 00:36:53.130 --> 00:36:57.349 I'm not a loser. My tennis isn't terrible. Like 00:36:57.349 --> 00:37:00.210 I just didn't, you know, this guy on this day, 00:37:00.329 --> 00:37:03.210 this guy beat me. Like everybody's really good 00:37:03.210 --> 00:37:09.230 at that level. Like, right. So yeah, like it's 00:37:09.230 --> 00:37:12.670 in every sport, it's in everything in life, it's 00:37:12.670 --> 00:37:15.889 in work, it's in everything. And we just have 00:37:15.889 --> 00:37:20.670 to like really shift things. And say there's 00:37:20.670 --> 00:37:25.650 fantasy and there's reality. True. That's true. 00:37:26.190 --> 00:37:33.269 Yeah. This was good. All right. Everybody process 00:37:33.269 --> 00:37:37.590 goals. Live in reality. Don't live in fantasy. 00:37:38.030 --> 00:37:44.449 That's right. Be nice. Be nice. Don't sit there 00:37:44.449 --> 00:37:50.380 and gossip about somebody's arm position. Oh, 00:37:50.380 --> 00:37:55.440 God. If you feel the need to say something, it's 00:37:55.440 --> 00:37:59.119 always born out of jealousy. And then we need 00:37:59.119 --> 00:38:02.119 to examine that because we all have that tendency. 00:38:02.340 --> 00:38:05.719 We all have that in us. Yeah. And I feel it in 00:38:05.719 --> 00:38:09.300 myself. Times I feel jealousy. Like I feel when 00:38:09.300 --> 00:38:12.139 I want to like critique something. I go, wait 00:38:12.139 --> 00:38:13.880 a minute. Why are you doing that? And I'm like, 00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:17.840 oh, you're jealous. Why are you jealous? Let 00:38:17.840 --> 00:38:21.400 me examine that. And let me work on that. And 00:38:21.400 --> 00:38:24.340 that's what we should constantly be doing. Examining, 00:38:24.340 --> 00:38:26.739 working, examining, working, examining, working 00:38:26.739 --> 00:38:32.559 on ourselves to try and be better humans. Better 00:38:32.559 --> 00:38:36.460 humans. Be a better human. I'm still in process. 00:38:36.900 --> 00:38:43.059 Me too. Work in progress. That's right. Bye, 00:38:43.059 --> 00:38:46.639 everybody. Thanks for listening. Thank you. Bye. 00:38:46.820 --> 00:38:47.960 See you next time. Bye.