WEBVTT 00:00:10.859 --> 00:00:13.660 Welcome to her comeback, transforming your life 00:00:13.660 --> 00:00:16.519 after 50. I'm your host, Michelle Thompson. If 00:00:16.519 --> 00:00:19.379 you've ever whispered to yourself, There has 00:00:19.379 --> 00:00:22.420 to be more than this. You are in the right place. 00:00:22.739 --> 00:00:25.219 This show is for women over 50 who have hit their 00:00:25.219 --> 00:00:27.600 breaking point and are finally ready to stop 00:00:27.600 --> 00:00:30.539 going at it alone. You've tried the self -help 00:00:30.539 --> 00:00:33.659 books, the vision boards, the positive thinking, 00:00:34.039 --> 00:00:36.780 but you're still stuck. And here's what I know. 00:00:37.219 --> 00:00:40.659 You're not broken. You just need the right support. 00:00:40.740 --> 00:00:42.619 And that's exactly what you're going to find 00:00:42.619 --> 00:00:45.700 here. Each week, I'll sit down with incredible 00:00:45.700 --> 00:00:48.460 women who have transformed their lives. You'll 00:00:48.460 --> 00:00:51.479 hear their real stories, the messy middle, the 00:00:51.479 --> 00:00:53.579 breakthrough moments, the practical steps that 00:00:53.579 --> 00:00:56.420 they took to create the lives that they love. 00:00:56.920 --> 00:01:00.259 Because your lowest limit, it can be your launching 00:01:00.259 --> 00:01:03.979 pad. So if you're done settling and ready for 00:01:03.979 --> 00:01:07.030 your comeback, Stay with me. Let's discover how 00:01:07.030 --> 00:01:09.890 other women have made it happen and how you can 00:01:09.890 --> 00:01:15.189 too. Are you ready? This is her comeback. Welcome, 00:01:15.349 --> 00:01:18.849 everyone. Good day. I am so lucky and blessed 00:01:18.849 --> 00:01:22.069 to have with me Cher Canada to tell a little 00:01:22.069 --> 00:01:26.129 bit about her story and her journey. Cher, welcome. 00:01:26.349 --> 00:01:29.250 How are you today? Michelle, I am so excited 00:01:29.250 --> 00:01:31.030 about this. I couldn't even sleep last night. 00:01:32.170 --> 00:01:35.769 Oh, nerve bowl. Well, me too. Please tell our 00:01:35.769 --> 00:01:38.469 listeners a little bit more about yourself. Okay, 00:01:38.549 --> 00:01:42.010 Michelle, I am from Nebraska. Nobody, I mean, 00:01:42.049 --> 00:01:44.069 I can, nobody's ever guessed. Like everybody 00:01:44.069 --> 00:01:46.129 guessed I'm from New York or California or something. 00:01:46.170 --> 00:01:48.349 I talk fast and move fast. And I said, Nope. 00:01:48.629 --> 00:01:50.549 I'm like little, little house on the Prairie, 00:01:50.689 --> 00:01:53.549 Laura Ingalls. I had a, I, the only thing I went 00:01:53.549 --> 00:01:56.049 to country school. I mean, I had six people in 00:01:56.049 --> 00:01:59.510 my whole school. Like, like, like, like I'm Laura 00:01:59.510 --> 00:02:03.459 Ingalls. It's too funny. I had a great, I had 00:02:03.459 --> 00:02:05.819 a great growing up. I mean, you know, it just, 00:02:05.959 --> 00:02:08.039 it's, it's great to grow up in a place like that. 00:02:08.280 --> 00:02:10.020 And I went to college my first year in Nebraska. 00:02:10.139 --> 00:02:11.979 And then I came home and I sat my parents down 00:02:11.979 --> 00:02:14.719 and I said, mom and dad sit down. And they're 00:02:14.719 --> 00:02:16.780 like, Oh God, now what I said, I don't belong 00:02:16.780 --> 00:02:18.419 here. And they're like, where do you belong? 00:02:18.460 --> 00:02:20.699 And I said, well, I found a private school in 00:02:20.699 --> 00:02:23.460 Miami. I'd never been out of the state. I found 00:02:23.460 --> 00:02:26.530 a private school in Miami and, um, I know it 00:02:26.530 --> 00:02:28.469 costs a lot. You just pay what the other one 00:02:28.469 --> 00:02:30.449 would pay. I'll pay the rest of it." And they're 00:02:30.449 --> 00:02:31.810 like, how are you getting there? And I said, 00:02:32.009 --> 00:02:34.949 my car. And I fricking got in a car and drove 00:02:34.949 --> 00:02:37.770 to Miami and never looked back. Like never, I 00:02:37.770 --> 00:02:40.689 mean, seriously, fake. I know crazy. And that 00:02:40.689 --> 00:02:43.189 was probably the best thing I've ever done. Cause 00:02:43.189 --> 00:02:45.370 I look back today at all my friends that are 00:02:45.370 --> 00:02:47.210 still in Nebraska. And I just thank the Lord 00:02:47.210 --> 00:02:50.610 that he gave me the foresight to be able to, 00:02:50.610 --> 00:02:53.310 you know, go after my dreams because retail is 00:02:53.310 --> 00:02:56.610 really what I wanted to do. So fearless, just 00:02:56.610 --> 00:02:59.409 a very bold move to pick up and go to another 00:02:59.409 --> 00:03:01.449 place that you didn't know anything about, right? 00:03:01.610 --> 00:03:04.169 I can't believe I did it. I seriously can't believe 00:03:04.169 --> 00:03:07.289 I did it. And so that was a rude awakening. I 00:03:07.289 --> 00:03:09.210 mean, my roommates were all from New York and 00:03:09.210 --> 00:03:12.009 they were all models and everybody was rich and 00:03:12.009 --> 00:03:14.610 I had to work and I had three jobs. I sang in 00:03:14.610 --> 00:03:18.620 a band. I mean, it was like crazy. So, um, that 00:03:18.620 --> 00:03:21.759 was a great experience, but I, uh, and I really, 00:03:22.080 --> 00:03:24.400 my only regret in my life is I didn't finish 00:03:24.400 --> 00:03:26.340 college. I was so worried about all the loans. 00:03:26.919 --> 00:03:30.159 So I started working and, um, nobody's ever asked 00:03:30.159 --> 00:03:32.800 me if I had a college degree, but I just, I wish 00:03:32.800 --> 00:03:34.439 I had finished because I could have had some 00:03:34.439 --> 00:03:36.759 fun and I didn't, I worked like my whole time 00:03:36.759 --> 00:03:40.020 and it is what it is. And so then I've had a 00:03:40.020 --> 00:03:43.699 very, very, very fabulous retail career. I was 00:03:43.699 --> 00:03:45.900 a district manager for Brooks Fashions. Then, 00:03:46.000 --> 00:03:47.819 I don't know, everybody has heard of the Wet 00:03:47.819 --> 00:03:49.599 Seal. Do you remember the Wet Cap? Yes, I have. 00:03:49.740 --> 00:03:52.060 I do. I remember that. Everybody says they spend 00:03:52.060 --> 00:03:54.039 all their babysitting money at the Wet Seal. 00:03:54.419 --> 00:03:57.180 I'm sorry. That was my fault. I was vice president 00:03:57.180 --> 00:04:00.300 of source of the Wet Seal at 30 years old. Wow. 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:04.080 What an accomplishment. Making $150 ,000 a year. 00:04:04.280 --> 00:04:08.099 That's 35 years ago. Yeah. So I killed it. That 00:04:08.099 --> 00:04:11.120 was a blast. Got a new boss. Got a new boss. 00:04:11.400 --> 00:04:14.800 He's an ass. I don't work 80 hours a week for 00:04:14.800 --> 00:04:18.259 assholes. I don't. I'm sorry. Tico's calls me 00:04:18.259 --> 00:04:20.680 and I'm like, oh God, it's my mother's store. 00:04:20.939 --> 00:04:23.620 None of the clothes fit me. And I had this amazing 00:04:23.620 --> 00:04:26.399 woman that I knew and she's the one who's been 00:04:26.399 --> 00:04:29.899 my biggest mentor my entire life and career and 00:04:29.899 --> 00:04:33.800 still is to this day. I told you about her. She 00:04:33.800 --> 00:04:36.139 said, Cher, put a belt on it and just get in 00:04:36.139 --> 00:04:37.660 here and interview with the founders, Marvin 00:04:37.660 --> 00:04:40.319 and Elaine. So I interviewed with them. I thought 00:04:40.319 --> 00:04:42.300 this is just too good to be true. And that's 00:04:42.300 --> 00:04:45.680 what got me to Naples, Florida. And that was 00:04:45.680 --> 00:04:51.220 in 1996. I worked for Chico's for 23 years. Wow. 00:04:52.019 --> 00:04:54.699 2200 stores. I had Chico's, Boston and proper 00:04:54.699 --> 00:04:58.879 and SoMa, $1 .9 billion in revenue. I had about 00:04:58.879 --> 00:05:02.240 22 ,000 people reporting to me. Well, dude, all 00:05:02.240 --> 00:05:05.139 this time, you really just seemed to take off 00:05:05.139 --> 00:05:07.970 in this space. Did you ever feel like... How 00:05:07.970 --> 00:05:10.350 did this happen? Like maybe the like imposter 00:05:10.350 --> 00:05:13.089 syndrome, like who, me? Did you ever have thoughts 00:05:13.089 --> 00:05:15.550 like that? What did you think about it all? Never. 00:05:15.810 --> 00:05:18.750 All I ever wanted to do, I had 13 and a half 00:05:18.750 --> 00:05:22.129 years of double digit comp increases, meaning 00:05:22.129 --> 00:05:25.389 over 10 % over the year prior. 13 and a half 00:05:25.389 --> 00:05:29.069 years straight. That's incredible. Nobody's ever 00:05:29.069 --> 00:05:31.550 done it in the history of retail. You know what, 00:05:32.009 --> 00:05:34.050 Michelle, all I did was convince those girls 00:05:34.050 --> 00:05:36.670 to be a dollar better than they were a year ago. 00:05:36.970 --> 00:05:39.170 So they wouldn't close the store. They're like, 00:05:39.310 --> 00:05:40.930 we're not close to the store. And so we have 00:05:40.930 --> 00:05:43.310 last year in share says we got to be better than 00:05:43.310 --> 00:05:45.889 we were a year ago. That's, it was, it's really 00:05:45.889 --> 00:05:50.230 not that hard. Power of the team. Yes. And I 00:05:50.230 --> 00:05:52.949 had, I owe everything I have today to the team 00:05:52.949 --> 00:05:55.149 that was working for me because they were relentless. 00:05:55.269 --> 00:05:58.449 I said, jump. They said, oh, hi. And all I did. 00:05:58.730 --> 00:06:01.529 I just, every time I got, they just kept at Chico's, 00:06:01.550 --> 00:06:03.230 they just kept getting, okay, she's bored. Give 00:06:03.230 --> 00:06:05.029 her another brand. Okay. Give her Boston proper. 00:06:05.209 --> 00:06:07.290 Okay. She's bored again. Give her so much. Okay. 00:06:07.689 --> 00:06:10.610 They just wanted me to come back and I just said, 00:06:10.750 --> 00:06:13.069 no, I have such a life today, which I'll share 00:06:13.069 --> 00:06:17.750 with you more. But, and then I retired and then 00:06:17.750 --> 00:06:21.509 I hit the walls. So I go for being, I was the 00:06:21.509 --> 00:06:23.069 face of the brand. I was on the commercials. 00:06:23.209 --> 00:06:25.629 I was on the catalog covers. I was the brand. 00:06:25.879 --> 00:06:30.360 Yeah. And I retired and I started drinking. And 00:06:30.360 --> 00:06:32.360 I started playing tennis, started having lunch 00:06:32.360 --> 00:06:35.480 with the girls and we'd have a martini. I never 00:06:35.480 --> 00:06:39.240 had a drink at lunch. And we started, that just 00:06:39.240 --> 00:06:42.459 started, I've got serious alcoholics in my entire 00:06:42.459 --> 00:06:44.899 family. My mom was 49 years in recovery when 00:06:44.899 --> 00:06:49.500 she passed away. That's terrific. Yeah. And I 00:06:49.500 --> 00:06:52.279 just went, you know, I pranked Michelle every 00:06:52.279 --> 00:06:55.529 day and it got earlier and earlier. And I, I 00:06:55.529 --> 00:06:58.230 suffer from anxiety and if I would take a drink, 00:06:58.250 --> 00:07:02.430 I would just calm down. And I just went, I can't, 00:07:02.430 --> 00:07:04.449 I can't live this way. My husband was going to 00:07:04.449 --> 00:07:07.449 leave me. I mean, it was, it was not good. And 00:07:07.449 --> 00:07:09.449 then I don't know, God gave me the strengths. 00:07:09.709 --> 00:07:12.149 I just decided one day, um, and this was six, 00:07:12.269 --> 00:07:14.870 a little over six years ago that I'm just not 00:07:14.870 --> 00:07:17.870 going to drink anymore. And I didn't, and I stopped 00:07:17.870 --> 00:07:22.589 for you. Oh, yeah. No, if I had a drinking problem 00:07:22.589 --> 00:07:24.750 or if I have an anxiety problem. And you know 00:07:24.750 --> 00:07:27.089 what? I don't know. I don't care. Nobody needs 00:07:27.089 --> 00:07:29.350 to drink. And I will tell everybody. I'm the 00:07:29.350 --> 00:07:31.850 girl now who after a big party gets up in the 00:07:31.850 --> 00:07:34.110 morning, I'm up at crack of dawn, feeling great. 00:07:34.129 --> 00:07:36.290 And everybody else is laying in bed and it's 00:07:36.290 --> 00:07:38.790 a good feeling and I'll never take another drink. 00:07:38.829 --> 00:07:40.529 You'd have to shoot me to make me take another 00:07:40.529 --> 00:07:41.990 drink again. It was the best thing I've ever 00:07:41.990 --> 00:07:45.009 done. Now, when you went through this, when you 00:07:45.009 --> 00:07:47.129 had this realization of, okay, I've got to stop 00:07:47.129 --> 00:07:50.579 drinking. Was it hard for you to stop? There's 00:07:50.579 --> 00:07:52.540 different support groups. What did you do during 00:07:52.540 --> 00:07:55.500 that time? I started going to AA meetings. I 00:07:55.500 --> 00:07:57.959 went there because it gave me a purpose. That's 00:07:57.959 --> 00:08:01.379 what it is. I had no purpose anymore. And I meet 00:08:01.379 --> 00:08:04.160 so many women and they're walking around at this 00:08:04.160 --> 00:08:07.279 age. I'm 65. They're walking around. Oh, you're 00:08:07.279 --> 00:08:11.540 beautiful. Well, thank you. Thank you. Had a 00:08:11.540 --> 00:08:15.560 great face lift a year ago. Dr. Gardner, I'll 00:08:15.560 --> 00:08:18.410 go down and send Dr. Gardner. I just, I'd lost 00:08:18.410 --> 00:08:21.629 my purpose and I was bored. I went from working 00:08:21.629 --> 00:08:23.829 80 hours a week and on a plane every Tuesday 00:08:23.829 --> 00:08:25.569 coming home every Friday and here I was sitting 00:08:25.569 --> 00:08:28.569 around playing tennis once a day. And it was 00:08:28.569 --> 00:08:31.990 really hard and I had to pray so much. And then 00:08:31.990 --> 00:08:35.029 I started going to AA meetings, which was just 00:08:35.029 --> 00:08:38.230 great. And I met that whole community. And I 00:08:38.230 --> 00:08:40.009 went to those for about a year because it gave 00:08:40.009 --> 00:08:43.190 me a purpose. I got dressed up. I looked pretty. 00:08:43.590 --> 00:08:45.909 I went to the meetings at five o 'clock. I met 00:08:45.909 --> 00:08:48.850 this one woman, Mary Pat. She's absolutely amazing. 00:08:48.970 --> 00:08:51.129 She's, I think she's eight, in her eighties now. 00:08:51.450 --> 00:08:53.990 She and I sat at the same table every day and 00:08:53.990 --> 00:08:56.710 I don't go to the meetings anymore. God is now 00:08:56.710 --> 00:09:00.509 my guide, but it really helped me and it helped 00:09:00.509 --> 00:09:03.769 get me back on track. Awesome. That is amazing. 00:09:04.110 --> 00:09:07.129 So once you stopped drinking, how did you figure 00:09:07.129 --> 00:09:09.529 out what was next in retirement? How did that 00:09:09.529 --> 00:09:12.200 transpire? Retail is in my blood and it's the 00:09:12.200 --> 00:09:13.899 thing I love to do. I don't even consider it 00:09:13.899 --> 00:09:15.940 working because I have, I love to make women 00:09:15.940 --> 00:09:19.080 feel beautiful. I just finished a book. Congratulations. 00:09:19.379 --> 00:09:21.659 It should be done in probably December. It's 00:09:21.659 --> 00:09:24.460 called The Mirror's Been Lined To You. And it's 00:09:24.460 --> 00:09:26.940 all these years of seeing women look in a mirror 00:09:26.940 --> 00:09:29.740 and see things that absolutely nobody else sees. 00:09:30.659 --> 00:09:32.480 Nobody, nobody sees those wrinkles on your legs. 00:09:32.679 --> 00:09:35.100 Nobody sees your wrinkly arms. We don't care. 00:09:35.820 --> 00:09:37.460 We're left with your beautiful face. We don't 00:09:37.460 --> 00:09:39.710 care about your wrinkles. Yeah. Well, it's a 00:09:39.710 --> 00:09:42.549 full book on competence and how to fall back 00:09:42.549 --> 00:09:45.230 in love with yourself and slim secrets and how 00:09:45.230 --> 00:09:47.809 to pop your collar and how to do a bunny tie 00:09:47.809 --> 00:09:50.110 and just all these little things that are going 00:09:50.110 --> 00:09:52.370 to make it, how to find your signature look, 00:09:52.809 --> 00:09:55.309 how to find your little black dress, how to buy 00:09:55.309 --> 00:09:58.210 pants for your butt. Love that. Yeah. Oh, wow. 00:09:58.269 --> 00:10:00.490 Not rely your butts on fire. How to buy pants 00:10:00.490 --> 00:10:03.490 for your rear end. It's all about placement. 00:10:05.659 --> 00:10:07.940 No, I didn't know that. Oh, yeah. It's about 00:10:07.940 --> 00:10:10.700 how high they are, how big they are, where they're 00:10:10.700 --> 00:10:14.659 placed. So depending upon your rear end. So the 00:10:14.659 --> 00:10:16.620 book's all about that. So I'm very excited about 00:10:16.620 --> 00:10:19.340 that. That sounds like a great book. I will definitely 00:10:19.340 --> 00:10:21.940 be getting that one. Okay, good. And then I was 00:10:21.940 --> 00:10:24.659 playing tennis at the Ritz and the tennis pro 00:10:24.659 --> 00:10:26.240 said to me, Cher, would you like to take over 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:30.000 the pro shop? And I said, okay, this is my gig. 00:10:30.419 --> 00:10:33.000 And so I took over the pro shop. I funded it 00:10:33.000 --> 00:10:35.509 all. It was tennis clothes. We did really great. 00:10:35.669 --> 00:10:37.389 We were there about a year. We were doing fabulous, 00:10:37.450 --> 00:10:39.909 but they were taking 19 % of my revenue there. 00:10:40.129 --> 00:10:42.470 And I said, you know what, really? And I wanted 00:10:42.470 --> 00:10:44.730 Gretty to wear because that's what's in my blood. 00:10:45.570 --> 00:10:49.850 So went to, rented a Neapolitan way. And so now 00:10:49.850 --> 00:10:52.110 I have trademark, it's called She Can Love. So 00:10:52.110 --> 00:10:54.190 my first name is Cher, my last name is Canada. 00:10:54.730 --> 00:10:56.730 So I took the first three letters of my first 00:10:56.730 --> 00:10:58.929 name, S -H -E, the first three letters of my 00:10:58.929 --> 00:11:01.809 last name, C -A -N, Cher Can, She Can't. I mean, 00:11:01.830 --> 00:11:05.139 that's my name. That's great. I love that. And 00:11:05.139 --> 00:11:07.740 I added love on for Tennyson just because I love 00:11:07.740 --> 00:11:11.019 the work. So She Can Love is the name. I trademark 00:11:11.019 --> 00:11:13.639 luxury you live in. So half of the boutique, 00:11:13.639 --> 00:11:15.679 and I'm the only one that I know of, and I've 00:11:15.679 --> 00:11:18.139 traveled the whole United States, that carries 00:11:18.139 --> 00:11:20.720 everything. So one side of the store is tennis, 00:11:20.879 --> 00:11:23.279 golf, pickleball, and athleisure. And the other 00:11:23.279 --> 00:11:26.080 side is ready to wear. So I carry brands like 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:28.659 Saks, like Sink to Set, and Raimi Brooke. But 00:11:28.659 --> 00:11:30.759 then I got feedback some woman couldn't afford 00:11:30.759 --> 00:11:33.100 to shop in my store. which is heartbreaking. 00:11:33.620 --> 00:11:36.779 And so now I carry dresses for $69, just cute 00:11:36.779 --> 00:11:41.019 little summer throw -ons. So it changed my life. 00:11:41.320 --> 00:11:43.799 It gave me a purpose. It gave me a reason to 00:11:43.799 --> 00:11:46.799 get up every morning, to go. I'm in the store 00:11:46.799 --> 00:11:50.259 just at least once every day. And I'm very involved 00:11:50.259 --> 00:11:53.659 in Packs of Freedom. It supports human. It's 00:11:53.659 --> 00:11:55.779 two homes here, one in Naples, one in Fort Myers 00:11:55.779 --> 00:11:59.059 for human trafficking. And I met the founder 00:11:59.059 --> 00:12:01.620 in my store one day. And Michelle, she told me 00:12:01.620 --> 00:12:03.139 the story. I said, how did she get involved in 00:12:03.139 --> 00:12:06.259 this? And she said, Cher, I was listening to 00:12:06.259 --> 00:12:08.240 a woman speak who had been human trafficked. 00:12:08.340 --> 00:12:11.259 And she said they drugged her. And she saw a 00:12:11.259 --> 00:12:13.980 man walk in with a coin, meaning he got a session 00:12:13.980 --> 00:12:16.639 with her. She woke up the next morning and she 00:12:16.639 --> 00:12:23.080 had 17 coins on her bedside table. Awful. Horrible, 00:12:23.159 --> 00:12:26.450 horrific stories. Horrific. When I heard that 00:12:26.450 --> 00:12:29.649 story, I said, OK, God, I found my other reason. 00:12:30.110 --> 00:12:32.669 So what I do, we dress. So when the girls come 00:12:32.669 --> 00:12:34.649 to the house, they burn all that crap these men 00:12:34.649 --> 00:12:36.409 have bought them. And then I dress them. They 00:12:36.409 --> 00:12:38.929 have a closet of all brand new clothes. So they 00:12:38.929 --> 00:12:41.710 get to put that on. At the store, we round up, 00:12:41.750 --> 00:12:44.210 and then I match all the rounding. And then we 00:12:44.210 --> 00:12:46.230 did a fashion show at the yacht club, Naples 00:12:46.230 --> 00:12:48.250 Yacht Club, a couple of weeks ago. We raised 00:12:48.250 --> 00:12:53.549 over $15 ,000. Wonderful. What a fashion show 00:12:53.549 --> 00:12:57.350 for Dr. Rita. Wow. Oh, that's such a wonderful 00:12:57.350 --> 00:13:00.909 cause. Oh, good for you. And then I told you 00:13:00.909 --> 00:13:02.710 earlier, Michelle, I want to start this club, 00:13:02.789 --> 00:13:05.429 the She Can Club, and it's all about helping 00:13:05.429 --> 00:13:08.309 women. I found out there are over 80 homeless 00:13:08.309 --> 00:13:11.889 women in Naples. So I'm on a project to find 00:13:11.889 --> 00:13:14.049 them and to clothe them. And I'm going to do 00:13:14.049 --> 00:13:16.070 events at the store, like bring in your slightly 00:13:16.070 --> 00:13:19.210 worn clothing and you'll get 20 % off the boutique. 00:13:19.210 --> 00:13:21.490 And then I'll be able to get these clothes and 00:13:21.490 --> 00:13:24.289 toothbrush and find them and try to help them. 00:13:24.539 --> 00:13:29.159 That is so awesome. What an amazing way to really 00:13:29.159 --> 00:13:32.440 give back and help those who can't help themselves 00:13:32.440 --> 00:13:35.960 in that situation. That's wonderful. Thank you 00:13:35.960 --> 00:13:38.220 so much for everything you're doing in that space. 00:13:38.840 --> 00:13:42.240 What would you say to women today that are maybe 00:13:42.240 --> 00:13:46.039 in a situation if it's an early retirement or 00:13:46.039 --> 00:13:49.389 their kids just left home, the empty nest? They're 00:13:49.389 --> 00:13:51.909 like, okay, what now? How do I figure out what 00:13:51.909 --> 00:13:54.850 I do next? What would be your advice to them? 00:13:55.190 --> 00:13:57.789 My advice would be first out, what gets you up 00:13:57.789 --> 00:14:00.389 in the morning? What gets you jazzed? Like when 00:14:00.389 --> 00:14:02.769 I talk about, I was in the store the other day 00:14:02.769 --> 00:14:04.970 and my store manager goes, watch out, she gets 00:14:04.970 --> 00:14:07.029 excited. Cause this woman put on something that 00:14:07.029 --> 00:14:09.429 she thought she'd look terrible in. And I said, 00:14:09.730 --> 00:14:12.950 trust me, I'm a clothing doctor. I can size people 00:14:12.950 --> 00:14:15.629 up. I'm just, I'm really good at this. No, I'm 00:14:15.629 --> 00:14:18.440 not good. I'm great. I can make any woman. I 00:14:18.440 --> 00:14:20.179 said, let's hide the shit you don't want to see. 00:14:20.259 --> 00:14:21.960 Tell me what it is you don't love. If you don't 00:14:21.960 --> 00:14:24.940 like your arms, fine. We'll cover them. But I 00:14:24.940 --> 00:14:27.259 can make you look beautiful. And it's what I 00:14:27.259 --> 00:14:29.740 do. And it's what seats my soul. And so what 00:14:29.740 --> 00:14:32.279 I would say to women, if you're lost and you 00:14:32.279 --> 00:14:35.600 don't know what, what is it that you're passionate 00:14:35.600 --> 00:14:38.080 about? It's your ghost bumps. The minute you 00:14:38.080 --> 00:14:41.200 got on today, I told you, I got goosebumps. My 00:14:41.200 --> 00:14:44.740 husband calls it, she can cry because we, I just 00:14:44.740 --> 00:14:47.700 get so emotional about things and I get so excited 00:14:47.700 --> 00:14:49.879 about things. I know you can't tell that. And 00:14:49.879 --> 00:14:52.759 I would say, ladies, find what you're passionate 00:14:52.759 --> 00:14:57.080 about. And then find a way to work in that wheelhouse. 00:14:57.559 --> 00:15:00.899 If it's giving up your time, go work at the shelter, 00:15:01.080 --> 00:15:03.379 go sell. I was going to go before the store. 00:15:03.539 --> 00:15:05.200 I thought, okay, I'll go to a woman's shelter 00:15:05.200 --> 00:15:07.559 and I'll work at the store there. And I'll do 00:15:07.559 --> 00:15:10.200 that just for free to give them my time. Because 00:15:10.200 --> 00:15:12.200 that would have been fun for me. And instead 00:15:12.200 --> 00:15:15.519 I went down this route instead. But there are 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:17.960 so many ways that you can help in like Pats of 00:15:17.960 --> 00:15:20.539 Freedom. I went through all of the, you have 00:15:20.539 --> 00:15:22.500 to go get singer printed and you have to, they 00:15:22.500 --> 00:15:24.620 have to go through all this to be a part of that. 00:15:24.940 --> 00:15:27.759 I went to the home. I spent a day with the girls. 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:31.220 I brought them all clothes. I had on a white 00:15:31.220 --> 00:15:33.279 shirt and jeans, and I brought them all sweaters 00:15:33.279 --> 00:15:34.799 and jeans. And they said, Cher, we want to look 00:15:34.799 --> 00:15:37.519 like you. I ran to Target. I got seven white 00:15:37.519 --> 00:15:39.740 shirts, brought them all back. I have a picture 00:15:39.740 --> 00:15:42.039 of them. I can't show it. I'm not allowed to 00:15:42.039 --> 00:15:44.320 show the girls' pictures. But all eight of us 00:15:44.320 --> 00:15:46.059 are in our jeans, our white shirts, with our 00:15:46.059 --> 00:15:50.740 body ties tied up. And it's their life. That's 00:15:50.740 --> 00:15:53.639 so heartwarming. It just makes me feel so good 00:15:53.639 --> 00:15:56.899 to be able to help them that way. It's amazing. 00:15:58.170 --> 00:16:01.330 Again, find what you love. And that's what I 00:16:01.330 --> 00:16:03.289 tell young people too that are going out into 00:16:03.289 --> 00:16:06.590 the workforce. You're going to work a lot of 00:16:06.590 --> 00:16:10.169 years. Find something you love that you're passionate 00:16:10.169 --> 00:16:12.090 about and then figure out how to make money doing 00:16:12.090 --> 00:16:16.309 it. I love that. I think that's so true because 00:16:16.309 --> 00:16:21.559 that passion will fuel your... The drive, the 00:16:21.559 --> 00:16:24.120 willingness to keep going. Personally, I'm in 00:16:24.120 --> 00:16:26.919 my first year starting my own business, but I 00:16:26.919 --> 00:16:30.120 am very passionate about what I'm doing. So those 00:16:30.120 --> 00:16:32.360 mornings when I can be discouraged, just, oh, 00:16:32.419 --> 00:16:34.120 things are going the way I'd really like for 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:36.980 them to be going. But no, I get up and I keep 00:16:36.980 --> 00:16:39.759 doing it because I am driven by my passion and 00:16:39.759 --> 00:16:42.519 what I love and working with women. So I think 00:16:42.519 --> 00:16:45.039 I can totally, what you're saying resonates with 00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:49.549 me. I love your confidence. I think it's perfect 00:16:49.549 --> 00:16:52.330 that your book will include that confidence because 00:16:52.330 --> 00:16:54.970 you just exude that. Do you know what I say at 00:16:54.970 --> 00:16:57.690 the end of every video? Confidence. It's the 00:16:57.690 --> 00:16:59.370 single most beautiful thing a woman can wear 00:16:59.370 --> 00:17:03.409 every day. Absolutely. And you know what else, 00:17:03.830 --> 00:17:07.890 Joe? Tennis. I'll tell you right now. It changed 00:17:07.890 --> 00:17:10.289 my life. I play tennis sometimes two times a 00:17:10.289 --> 00:17:13.529 day. I play every day except Sundays. The community 00:17:13.529 --> 00:17:16.359 I've met, And it's not too late. I started playing 00:17:16.359 --> 00:17:20.059 tennis at 57. And I'm really good. And I love 00:17:20.059 --> 00:17:23.019 the outfits. And I meet such great girls. And 00:17:23.019 --> 00:17:26.240 it's fun competition. And I'm not high enough 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:28.059 that the girls are mean, because when you get 00:17:28.059 --> 00:17:30.740 really up there, it's very competitive. I'm just 00:17:30.740 --> 00:17:34.099 playing social fun tennis. But it is just, I 00:17:34.099 --> 00:17:36.279 love it. The women are all fabulous. I've met 00:17:36.279 --> 00:17:39.759 some really great friends. And pickleball, too. 00:17:39.880 --> 00:17:41.960 I don't care if you're six years old and you've 00:17:41.960 --> 00:17:45.470 never picked up a racket. Go take a lesson. Find 00:17:45.470 --> 00:17:48.589 out if you like it. Yes. Pickleball is not as 00:17:48.589 --> 00:17:52.349 strenuous. I love to run. I love to run. And 00:17:52.349 --> 00:17:54.849 so I love to run all over the court and just 00:17:54.849 --> 00:17:57.509 be wild. Pickleball is not quite as, you know, 00:17:57.829 --> 00:18:00.009 you don't need quite the athleticism as you do, 00:18:00.309 --> 00:18:02.549 but it's the fastest growing sport in the country. 00:18:03.069 --> 00:18:07.950 And it's really fun. I love that you said that 00:18:07.950 --> 00:18:10.309 about the physical activity because again, I 00:18:10.309 --> 00:18:15.309 can identify with it. I was 53 before I actually 00:18:15.309 --> 00:18:18.990 held a gym membership that I went to four times 00:18:18.990 --> 00:18:22.390 a week. I go my regular routine four times a 00:18:22.390 --> 00:18:26.250 week. It's orange theory, but I never until 53 00:18:26.250 --> 00:18:28.690 had I done that. So it's just like you're saying, 00:18:28.809 --> 00:18:33.210 you're not too old in your 50s to start doing 00:18:33.210 --> 00:18:37.390 something. Michelle, I am 65 years old. I'm on 00:18:37.390 --> 00:18:40.029 Medicare. I never thought I'd be this old. I 00:18:40.029 --> 00:18:43.319 didn't. And I feel better than I ever have in 00:18:43.319 --> 00:18:48.259 my entire life today. Every woman, and I know 00:18:48.259 --> 00:18:50.859 there are women out there that are sad and they're 00:18:50.859 --> 00:18:54.579 lonely and they're depressed. And if they come 00:18:54.579 --> 00:18:57.680 to my store, come to She Can Love, find me. We'll 00:18:57.680 --> 00:19:00.059 sit down and I will talk to anybody that wants 00:19:00.059 --> 00:19:03.640 to hear because I can help you and I can help. 00:19:04.660 --> 00:19:07.910 There's paths for you to take. And life can be, 00:19:07.950 --> 00:19:10.670 this is, I am living right now at age 65, my 00:19:10.670 --> 00:19:14.289 best life. I am so thankful every morning. I 00:19:14.289 --> 00:19:17.710 thank God for the life that I have. I'm in the 00:19:17.710 --> 00:19:19.650 best shape I've ever been in my entire life. 00:19:20.049 --> 00:19:21.769 Cause you got nothing else to do. You're retired. 00:19:22.029 --> 00:19:25.210 You might as well just be healthy. That's right. 00:19:25.289 --> 00:19:27.789 Oh, and it makes such a difference. Not just 00:19:27.789 --> 00:19:30.470 the physical, but mentally. It's just like you 00:19:30.470 --> 00:19:33.210 get mentally energized. Correct. Cause there's 00:19:33.210 --> 00:19:35.849 nothing worse than sitting there at your home. 00:19:36.009 --> 00:19:39.769 with absolutely nothing to do, no plans, no schedule. 00:19:40.009 --> 00:19:42.410 You've got nothing. You've got nothing. It's 00:19:42.410 --> 00:19:46.910 a recipe for depression, really. Yeah, that isolation 00:19:46.910 --> 00:19:49.730 is just not good. And I think it's tempting for 00:19:49.730 --> 00:19:52.289 all of us. I know I've been there and times in 00:19:52.289 --> 00:19:55.650 my previous years where that isolation and just 00:19:55.650 --> 00:19:59.230 not wanting to connect and it just, it can take 00:19:59.230 --> 00:20:02.410 you to really dark places. So I think the connection 00:20:02.410 --> 00:20:04.890 that you're talking about, being out there, being 00:20:04.890 --> 00:20:07.680 active, Those are keys. They certainly have been 00:20:07.680 --> 00:20:11.400 for me that resonates with me. Yes, agree. And 00:20:11.400 --> 00:20:14.720 now I get to do like I go speak at a lot of women's 00:20:14.720 --> 00:20:18.420 groups. I have my 10 favorite quotes. I told 00:20:18.420 --> 00:20:20.440 you make tripping part of your dance. It's one 00:20:20.440 --> 00:20:23.859 of my favorite ones. Love that. Most women look 00:20:23.859 --> 00:20:26.220 at the ground with a trip and say, oh, it must 00:20:26.220 --> 00:20:28.579 have been a stone misplaced or something. I look 00:20:28.579 --> 00:20:30.819 and go, you big damn klutz. What the hell? Pay 00:20:30.819 --> 00:20:32.519 attention where you're going and learn from it. 00:20:32.650 --> 00:20:35.849 Like don't we all went at the at the boutique 00:20:35.849 --> 00:20:38.650 when we screw up. We all celebrate it. We go 00:20:38.650 --> 00:20:44.089 With everybody so that you don't have to do it 00:20:44.089 --> 00:20:47.630 another time You know, and that's I that's my 00:20:47.630 --> 00:20:50.329 philosophy on life and I get to speak now at 00:20:50.329 --> 00:20:53.150 see solves I'm in all these women's groups these 00:20:53.150 --> 00:20:55.650 women's business groups. I'm just getting my 00:20:55.650 --> 00:20:57.890 name out there And once you get your name out 00:20:57.890 --> 00:20:59.710 there, then you're invited to more things and 00:20:59.710 --> 00:21:02.359 it just kind of a roller coaster And it started 00:21:02.359 --> 00:21:06.220 off with just one, and here's where it is. Here's 00:21:06.220 --> 00:21:10.279 where it ends. You just have an amazing story, 00:21:10.319 --> 00:21:12.480 and I just love everything that you've shared 00:21:12.480 --> 00:21:15.180 with me. What do you do for fun? Anything else? 00:21:15.180 --> 00:21:17.019 You've mentioned some things, but is there anything 00:21:17.019 --> 00:21:20.380 else that you enjoy? I'm just high on life, first 00:21:20.380 --> 00:21:23.559 of all. As I said, I play tennis. I love to go 00:21:23.559 --> 00:21:26.200 to church every Sunday. We go to Gambier. It's 00:21:26.200 --> 00:21:28.339 outside, so we can take... I have a black lab. 00:21:28.480 --> 00:21:30.680 I love him. He's my child. I don't have children. 00:21:30.890 --> 00:21:35.490 Um, I never, I just, I never wanted any, I just 00:21:35.490 --> 00:21:37.390 wanted to work and I wanted to make money and 00:21:37.390 --> 00:21:40.410 that's all I wanted to ever do. And I have the 00:21:40.410 --> 00:21:43.950 most amazing husband in the world. He's got two 00:21:43.950 --> 00:21:46.930 kids, so I get to share his children and that's 00:21:46.930 --> 00:21:49.930 really fun. And I love to read. I'm a big reader. 00:21:50.210 --> 00:21:54.470 I probably read at least three hours a day. Yeah, 00:21:54.470 --> 00:21:57.849 it's a lot. And, but it, but I love it. It relaxes 00:21:57.849 --> 00:22:02.349 me. Um, it calms me down. and it makes me sleep 00:22:02.349 --> 00:22:06.509 better and I'm learning. So I read partly just 00:22:06.509 --> 00:22:09.690 fun. And then I read self -help books. I'm like 00:22:09.690 --> 00:22:11.670 addicted to self -help books. If somebody comes 00:22:11.670 --> 00:22:14.829 out, let them. Have you read Let Them? Yes. Wonderful 00:22:14.829 --> 00:22:20.150 book. Yes. Mel Robbins is like, hello, hello. 00:22:20.490 --> 00:22:23.869 I listen to her podcast. She's just, she's it. 00:22:24.269 --> 00:22:27.470 And I bought her book 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. I'm going 00:22:27.470 --> 00:22:29.769 to read that one next. But those are the kind 00:22:29.769 --> 00:22:32.309 of books I like to read. And Michelle, what I 00:22:32.309 --> 00:22:35.990 do is I bought 10 of those books. So every time 00:22:35.990 --> 00:22:39.410 I meet somebody, I just go give them one. What 00:22:39.410 --> 00:22:42.869 a great gift. Oh, those are wonderful ways to 00:22:42.869 --> 00:22:45.769 share, to give someone some support and encouragement. 00:22:46.049 --> 00:22:47.970 There's great information in those books. Like 00:22:47.970 --> 00:22:50.190 I was eating at California Pizza Kitchen the 00:22:50.190 --> 00:22:52.769 other day and the waitress was absolutely a doll. 00:22:53.170 --> 00:22:55.430 And we just got started chatting and she shared 00:22:55.430 --> 00:22:58.109 something with me that, oh my... husband's annoying 00:22:58.109 --> 00:23:01.109 me to death and I went ran out to the car and 00:23:01.109 --> 00:23:02.569 brought her the book and I gave it to her and 00:23:02.569 --> 00:23:06.849 I said just let him. I said it's a book that 00:23:06.849 --> 00:23:09.450 will change your lives. Yes and it certainly 00:23:09.450 --> 00:23:11.869 will for sure. I want everybody to read that 00:23:11.869 --> 00:23:14.349 book everybody's listening you agree if you have 00:23:14.349 --> 00:23:16.049 it. I think most people have read it already 00:23:16.049 --> 00:23:20.390 but in her podcasts I mean they're amazing. Yes 00:23:20.390 --> 00:23:23.450 I love her she's just very down to earth just 00:23:23.450 --> 00:23:26.650 a no nonsense. I just I love listening to her. 00:23:26.650 --> 00:23:31.829 I do too. Swear's like a sailor. She's not apologetic. 00:23:32.849 --> 00:23:36.309 If you look up the word authentic in the dictionary, 00:23:36.869 --> 00:23:40.170 you should see Mel Robbins. Because it doesn't 00:23:40.170 --> 00:23:42.630 get any more real than she is. And that's who 00:23:42.630 --> 00:23:44.829 I want to emulate. I want to emulate women like 00:23:44.829 --> 00:23:47.930 that. I want to be totally authentic. And in 00:23:47.930 --> 00:23:50.230 the store, if a woman comes in and her butt doesn't 00:23:50.230 --> 00:23:51.650 look good in those pants, I'm like, you know 00:23:51.650 --> 00:23:54.519 what? You're not buying those. I've told women 00:23:54.519 --> 00:23:56.660 before, I'm not telling you that. We're going 00:23:56.660 --> 00:23:58.339 to find something else that looks better. I'm 00:23:58.339 --> 00:23:59.980 sorry. I'm the clothing doctor and we're going 00:23:59.980 --> 00:24:01.920 to find something that looks better. They're 00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:06.420 like, okay. I love that honesty. And again, real, 00:24:06.660 --> 00:24:08.819 just being real with people. That's the best. 00:24:09.319 --> 00:24:11.980 Oh, you're just an amazing, amazing person. I 00:24:11.980 --> 00:24:14.900 really just thank you so much for you spending 00:24:14.900 --> 00:24:17.180 some time with us today and sharing your thoughts 00:24:17.180 --> 00:24:19.539 with our listeners. Is there anything else, any 00:24:19.539 --> 00:24:22.109 final thoughts you have as we wrap up? Well, 00:24:22.130 --> 00:24:24.609 thank you, Michelle. As I said, I was so excited. 00:24:24.730 --> 00:24:27.750 And if there's one thing that I said that helps 00:24:27.750 --> 00:24:31.309 women today, that that's all I can ask. My prayers 00:24:31.309 --> 00:24:35.069 are answered. But again, if you need help, come 00:24:35.069 --> 00:24:37.890 into my store. She can't love. I'm there a lot. 00:24:38.109 --> 00:24:40.269 And if I'm not there, leave me your name and 00:24:40.269 --> 00:24:44.009 number. I'll call. I just I want women to know 00:24:44.009 --> 00:24:49.220 there is life after Kisti. Absolutely. Not only 00:24:49.220 --> 00:24:53.440 is there life, there is the greatest lives. Because 00:24:53.440 --> 00:24:57.299 I am living my best day. My best day in my whole 00:24:57.299 --> 00:25:02.039 life is today. Yeah. But you have to put that 00:25:02.039 --> 00:25:04.880 up here. You know, I always used to pray anytime 00:25:04.880 --> 00:25:07.700 I hear somebody getting cancer. I used to say 00:25:07.700 --> 00:25:09.599 to God, God, if somebody's going to get cancer, 00:25:09.680 --> 00:25:12.700 let it be me because I really think that I could 00:25:12.700 --> 00:25:14.680 overcome it because it's all mind over matter. 00:25:14.720 --> 00:25:17.759 And it has such a difference. and if you think 00:25:17.759 --> 00:25:20.299 about it's all in your head and if you think 00:25:20.299 --> 00:25:21.859 you're sad and you think you're gonna have a 00:25:21.859 --> 00:25:24.180 bad day and you think all this that's exactly 00:25:24.180 --> 00:25:27.200 you already preplanned it it does it becomes 00:25:27.200 --> 00:25:30.119 a self -fulfilling prophecy yeah totally and 00:25:30.119 --> 00:25:32.519 you gotta have self -love and you gotta take 00:25:32.519 --> 00:25:34.140 care of yourself and you gotta do things that 00:25:34.140 --> 00:25:36.640 make you feel better and that's what i would 00:25:36.640 --> 00:25:40.839 say to women today um get out there keep moving 00:25:40.839 --> 00:25:44.059 sitting around is the worst thing you can do 00:25:44.059 --> 00:25:47.619 especially alone Get out there. Go to the beach. 00:25:47.740 --> 00:25:50.039 Put your feet in the grass. Put your feet in 00:25:50.039 --> 00:25:53.440 the sand. Take a walk. Be with nature. There's 00:25:53.440 --> 00:25:56.259 so many things you do. And then go work at the 00:25:56.259 --> 00:25:58.960 homeless shelter. Do something where I'm telling 00:25:58.960 --> 00:26:01.740 you, the giving back part just feeds my soul. 00:26:01.900 --> 00:26:04.019 It feeds my soul. And it's what gets me up in 00:26:04.019 --> 00:26:07.359 the morning. Oh, that's so beautiful. Thank you 00:26:07.359 --> 00:26:11.279 so much. Outside of the podcast, what is the 00:26:11.279 --> 00:26:13.259 best way for someone to get in touch with you? 00:26:13.319 --> 00:26:15.730 Where can they find you? You're on Instagram, 00:26:16.150 --> 00:26:20.009 right? Reach out to me on Instagram. I'm on Facebook, 00:26:20.289 --> 00:26:22.529 either or. Reach out to me there, Share Canada. 00:26:23.069 --> 00:26:28.490 And I'm there for you. I can help anybody. Great, 00:26:28.690 --> 00:26:31.809 Cher. Thank you so, so much. I really appreciate 00:26:31.809 --> 00:26:34.019 your time with us. Thank you, Michelle. and I 00:26:34.019 --> 00:26:36.460 wish you the best and I look forward to connecting 00:26:36.460 --> 00:26:38.559 with you again soon. I think there'll be many 00:26:38.559 --> 00:26:40.920 other opportunities for us to visit. Come on 00:26:40.920 --> 00:26:43.039 again. Let's wait and get feedback from this. 00:26:43.160 --> 00:26:45.460 Let's see what women want more of and I'm here 00:26:45.460 --> 00:26:48.599 for you, always. Oh, thank you so much. Have 00:26:48.599 --> 00:26:52.400 a wonderful day. Okay, thank you.