WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.140 Welcome to the deep dive. Today we're digging 00:00:02.140 --> 00:00:06.040 into a really fascinating reflection called embracing 00:00:06.040 --> 00:00:09.859 failure, a path to growth and resilience, our 00:00:09.859 --> 00:00:12.560 goal. It's really to see how the author shifts 00:00:12.560 --> 00:00:14.720 from feeling, you know, totally crushed by setbacks 00:00:14.720 --> 00:00:17.420 to actually using them as fuel. How do they make 00:00:17.420 --> 00:00:19.539 that leap? It's a great source. And what grabbed 00:00:19.539 --> 00:00:21.739 me is that it's not about pretending failure 00:00:21.739 --> 00:00:23.640 feels good. Right. The author is very clear. 00:00:23.739 --> 00:00:26.320 They say failure felt like failure in the negative 00:00:26.320 --> 00:00:29.879 sense, which is honest. Exactly. So that chapter 00:00:29.879 --> 00:00:33.340 title, Rejoice in Failure, isn't about, like, 00:00:33.539 --> 00:00:36.439 instant happiness. No. So how do we get there? 00:00:36.460 --> 00:00:38.759 How do we genuinely turn that disappointment 00:00:38.759 --> 00:00:42.159 into, well, into growth? Well, the author reframes 00:00:42.159 --> 00:00:44.100 it, doesn't she? It's less about the feeling 00:00:44.100 --> 00:00:45.960 of failure and more about what you do with it, 00:00:46.039 --> 00:00:49.039 seeing it as data almost. OK, data. Let's unpack 00:00:49.039 --> 00:00:51.820 that with this college math example they give. 00:00:51.899 --> 00:00:54.000 It's pretty intense. Oh, yeah. Taking the same 00:00:54.000 --> 00:00:56.560 required class five times, five semesters. Just 00:00:56.560 --> 00:00:59.469 think about that. The perseverance? Hmm, but 00:00:59.469 --> 00:01:02.109 also the struggle totally they talk about being 00:01:02.109 --> 00:01:05.769 terrified confidence just gone Questioning if 00:01:05.769 --> 00:01:08.069 they even deserve to be in college. That's heavy 00:01:08.069 --> 00:01:10.569 stuff. It really is and yet they signed up again 00:01:10.569 --> 00:01:13.530 Yeah, but here's the key thing. I think what's 00:01:13.530 --> 00:01:15.870 that? They didn't just grit their teeth and do 00:01:15.870 --> 00:01:19.189 the same thing for the fifth time They changed 00:01:19.189 --> 00:01:21.969 how they approached it, right? They actively 00:01:21.969 --> 00:01:25.129 looked for different ways to learn, found different 00:01:25.129 --> 00:01:28.430 YouTube videos, things like that. Exactly. They 00:01:28.430 --> 00:01:32.269 became sort of a strategist for their own learning, 00:01:32.750 --> 00:01:34.930 diagnosed why it wasn't working before. Diagnosed, 00:01:34.969 --> 00:01:36.629 I like that. And it worked, passed with a B, 00:01:36.750 --> 00:01:38.849 eventually. Yeah, and that B wasn't just a grade, 00:01:38.989 --> 00:01:41.189 right? It was proof that they figured out how 00:01:41.189 --> 00:01:43.400 to crack their own learning code. Essentially, 00:01:43.420 --> 00:01:45.760 it's about that process. It's about the how, 00:01:45.920 --> 00:01:48.859 not just the what. And that idea, that diagnostic 00:01:48.859 --> 00:01:51.799 approach, it carries over into their professional 00:01:51.799 --> 00:01:54.019 life, though. It does. They talk about being 00:01:54.019 --> 00:01:55.760 out of the workforce for a while. And facing 00:01:55.760 --> 00:01:58.379 rejection after rejection, just hearing, no, 00:01:58.840 --> 00:02:00.280 Constance. There were times when they could count, 00:02:00.280 --> 00:02:03.099 yeah, for jobs they really wanted. So, again, 00:02:03.420 --> 00:02:05.480 what did they do differently? How did that earlier 00:02:05.480 --> 00:02:09.180 experience maybe inform this? Well, similar pattern, 00:02:09.379 --> 00:02:11.810 right. They didn't just send out more resumes 00:02:11.810 --> 00:02:15.210 hoping for the best. They got strategic. They 00:02:15.210 --> 00:02:18.870 started targeting jobs, yeah that fit, but also 00:02:18.870 --> 00:02:21.189 some that seems like a stretch, maybe out of 00:02:21.189 --> 00:02:25.370 their league. But crucially, after every single 00:02:25.370 --> 00:02:28.159 failed interview, they studied it. Studied the 00:02:28.159 --> 00:02:30.840 failure itself. Yes, they ask themselves, you 00:02:30.840 --> 00:02:33.340 know, okay what went wrong there? What question 00:02:33.340 --> 00:02:35.979 did I fumble? What skill are they really looking 00:02:35.979 --> 00:02:39.159 for that maybe I didn't show? So each no became 00:02:39.159 --> 00:02:42.479 a lesson, a deliberate feedback loop. Precisely. 00:02:42.780 --> 00:02:45.460 It wasn't luck. It was iterative learning. They 00:02:45.460 --> 00:02:48.120 even say flat out the job they have now wouldn't 00:02:48.120 --> 00:02:50.080 have happened without all those previous failures 00:02:50.080 --> 00:02:53.379 forcing them to adapt to get better. Wow. So, 00:02:53.479 --> 00:02:55.280 okay, bringing this back to us, to anyone listening. 00:02:55.659 --> 00:02:57.639 What's the big message here? It sounds like failure 00:02:57.639 --> 00:02:59.400 isn't something to just push through, but something 00:02:59.400 --> 00:03:02.580 to actively engage with. I think that's exactly 00:03:02.580 --> 00:03:05.120 it. It reminds us that failure is universal. 00:03:05.719 --> 00:03:08.400 Everyone encounters it. Every single successful 00:03:08.400 --> 00:03:11.939 person, every innovator. They failed. It's part 00:03:11.939 --> 00:03:14.439 of the process not a deviation from it, right? 00:03:14.639 --> 00:03:17.180 And it sort of challenges how we even define 00:03:17.180 --> 00:03:21.300 capable or strong as so we tend to think of strong 00:03:21.300 --> 00:03:23.900 people maybe I don't know like an astronaut or 00:03:23.900 --> 00:03:28.120 a pop CEO as people who just Don't fail or who 00:03:28.120 --> 00:03:30.240 brush it off easily. Yeah, that's the image But 00:03:30.240 --> 00:03:33.280 maybe this deep dive suggests that true capability 00:03:33.280 --> 00:03:36.349 isn't about avoiding failure It's about mastering 00:03:36.349 --> 00:03:38.949 the art of facing it, accepting the disappointment, 00:03:39.210 --> 00:03:41.750 sure, but then extracting the lesson. It's about 00:03:41.750 --> 00:03:43.750 getting back up, but getting back up smarter. 00:03:44.009 --> 00:03:46.550 Exactly. Smarter. It's about learning to navigate 00:03:46.550 --> 00:03:49.009 those setbacks intelligently. That's the real 00:03:49.009 --> 00:03:51.069 strength. Absolutely. So maybe the next time 00:03:51.069 --> 00:03:53.490 you hit a wall, you face that setback. Instead 00:03:53.490 --> 00:03:56.349 of just feeling frustrated, perhaps ask, OK, 00:03:57.009 --> 00:03:59.229 what's the hidden lesson here? What's this failure 00:03:59.229 --> 00:04:02.020 trying to teach me specifically? What's the one 00:04:02.020 --> 00:04:04.919 specific new approach, maybe even a small one, 00:04:05.219 --> 00:04:07.819 that you can try next based purely on what didn't 00:04:07.819 --> 00:04:09.780 work this time? Maybe that's the real way to 00:04:09.780 --> 00:04:10.319 embrace it.