You don't have to be lifestyle over there. You
know, military is an advantage and chocolate
is an advantage. And, you know, if you get the
mix of the two, you become fantasy to somebody.
And, you know, they're telling you the nastiest
things that they want you to do. And or they're
just open to, hey, what do you want? What do
you want? What do you want? What do you want
to do to me, Danny? So at that time. You just
you just communicate, you talk. And like I said,
the realm of fantasy exists. And I absolutely
love it that I don't have to be scared or or
or wait, if I say this, what is she going to
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Let's go. Ladies and gentlemen, good evening
and welcome to another episode of the Bull Brotherhood
podcast. I'm one third of your podcast founder,
the host with the most Brian Morgan, aka the
Sigma male, the lone wolf coming at you with
my brother from another mother, the nephew himself,
Socrates. What's up, baby boy? What's good? What's
good? I'm excited about this episode man Exactly
exactly ladies and gentlemen. I am giving a special
shout out to the lady of the house siren she
is taking a a leave of absence for the night
but she sends all of her love okay and ladies
and gentlemen we got a real real real special
guest tonight um you heard me talk about my exploits
uh as far as being a soldier united states army
and living overseas in europe and i always tell
you i can always talk about it but i wish i had
somebody on the podcast went over there and kind
of lived it himself also and tonight we have
that uh ladies and gentlemen i give to you from
the united states military he has recently retired
i've been retired for about seven months i give
to you james what's going on my brother i'm doing
all right i'm doing it right i appreciate you
inviting me on this evening it's a pleasure to
have you man it really is really a pleasure to
have you and once again uh congratulations on
your retirement from the service and welcome
to another brotherhood yes um ladies and gentlemen
again as i said before james has uh he's been
overseas and he has experienced what i've experienced
for like 14 years over there and we're going
to talk about tonight how um servicemen who get
into the lifestyle uh living overseas while living
overseas the benefits the the differences between
how we maneuver here and how we maneuver overseas,
how different the couples are, how different
just the single women are compared to what we
have over here. So I'm going to turn it over
to, of course, Nephew. Nephew always starts things
off with the greatest questions. That's why he's
known as Socrates. So I'm going to turn it over
to you, Nephew. Yeah, no, I appreciate it. And
I just want to put my little... Being in the
hat, too, I served in the Navy. It was a shorter
stint than these two gentlemen. I went in as
a reservist. I was called active duty for Iraq,
and I was able to serve my country. And I did
not experience any of the lifestyle stuff being
in the Navy. I moved around a lot. I was never
really stationed anywhere for too long being
in a construction battalion. But, you know, my
family's service goes back to the Civil War.
We love this country. We're all happy to serve.
And I just want to say thank both of you guys
for a lifelong dedication to this country and
to the safety and freedom of this country. I
take it seriously. My father who served, uncles,
cousins. I have family members now that served.
I just want to say thank you to gentlemen because,
you know, I have I got my political views on
the certain wars that we serve or what we're
doing over there. But when it comes to the man
next to you, Um, at the end of the day, it doesn't
matter. It's about making sure you get home safe.
The man next to you gets home safe and we're
able to carry out the orders that we're given.
So thank you too, gentlemen. Appreciate you.
Appreciate you. And again, brother, thank you
for your service. All right. It doesn't matter
if you were a reservist or a national guard or
what, you know what I mean? If you serve, you
serve. All right. And we're all part of that
brotherhood. So thank you for your service. Truly,
truly. So yeah, so as Unk accurately says, I
always have a thousand questions. So I would
say the biggest question, we'll start big and
then we'll go down to some more granular things.
For both of you, Mr. Morgan first, what was the
number one thing that you learned in the military
that was not specifically for? the lifestyle
or how you treat women or interactions between
any of that. What were the things that you learned
or the biggest things you learned serving in
the military that carried over to this lifestyle
and gives you an advantage as a bull, as a high
-level operator in this game? The discipline
and the patience needed to accomplish a mission.
When you're a bull in the lifestyle, And here
again, I've said it before, you have to be able
to adapt to whatever situation that is with that
couple, whether they are a new couple coming
into the lifestyle and you are there to guide
them, or if they are a seasoned couple and you
have to come in there and they're ready to just,
pardon the pun, go to war. Right? So you have
to adapt and overcome. You have to adapt and
overcome, man. I mean, you know, you might be
a damn sniper one night and then you just pow,
pow, pow, pow, pow, fucking all night long. Or
you might be a long range, damn, what is that
called? I can't think of any more words right
now. But it's like a scout. You're out there,
you know, you're scouting the situation. And
you're just filling out the couple and talking
to them and communicating, making sure they're
good, making sure they're good with you, and
just, you know, filling them out. So, like I
said, it's discipline, patience, and then, you
know, learning how to attack accordingly. Word,
word. I love it. James? I agree completely with
what he said, but my answer would simply be really
communication. In the military, you have to communicate
across all age ranges, all demographics, races,
all the rest of that fun stuff, and you have
to be able to communicate clearly, especially
in this lifestyle. Sometimes, as he said, you
have a seasoned couple, and other times you have
a couple that's a bit new. And as you're moving
and building this lifestyle, everyone's a little
bit different. Everyone's relationship is a little
bit different. Everyone's dynamic is a little
bit different. So being able to clearly communicate,
of course, your boundaries as well and receive
theirs, being able just to have a conversation.
You put me in any room, in any place, and I can
talk. So that has served me well in this lifestyle.
It's allowed people to be comfortable. um you
know uh both approaching me and me in um injecting
in um a place where i'm not known you know whether
it be a lifestyle event a club bar anything of
that nature i can walk up and i'm a clear communicator
comfortable doing that so that has served me
well and i thank the military for that spoken
like a true non -commissioned officer a true
nco i love it love it Yeah, it's beautiful. So,
yeah, let's back up a little bit, James. Great
to have you on the show. Why don't you you you
we one of the things we we we liked is that both
you guys really entered into the lifestyle because
and while serving. So tell us your origin story,
brother. How did you get into this lifestyle?
Well, my origin story was. probably i would think
like uh many people um you know many gentlemen
you don't have those dreams of you know fantasies
things of that nature whether that be a threesome
um and i originally thought that it only existed
potentially like in that world of porn or some
variation like that um so i'm jumping on these
websites um i was on one of the websites uh many
years ago and met a young lady And she said she's
having a party one night. At first, we went to
the movies the night prior. It was a vanilla
date. And I still didn't think that any of this
really happened in her life. But when she said
she's having a party, she said she wasn't sure
if I would enjoy the party. And I, you know,
of course, being military, I'm pompous. I'm in
my 20s at the time. i'm like hey how can you
not invite me to a party and so she gives me
the guidelines the rules of the party she didn't
implicitly say it was lifestyle i didn't even
know that there was a lifestyle at that time
um so he gives me the rules of this party hey
get down to your pajamas or your boxers some
variation like that and bring a bottle and i
said well i can do no less of course if i'm gonna
bring a bottle um to the host of the party if
i if i'm gonna be invited so when i finally get
to the door beautiful young lady in lingerie
um picks up and i'm in my 20s i'm naive at that
time at that time so everyone's kind of talking
and i'm socializing and it only hit me as the
evening went on and people start to disappear
i distinctly remember there was a little bit
of a um people standing outside this one room
and i'm a bit nosy so i'd walk over and that's
when i finally see the first instance of people
actually playing And, you know, at that time,
my mind exploded. You know, everyone there was
so cool and amazing and things of that nature.
I said, everyone was just socializing. And there
was this other realm that existed where, oh,
shoot, you could actually say what you want.
And ever since I've been to that party and I
knew that that space exists where I can connect
with individuals that not only think about their
fantasies, but there's actually a place. where
you can explore them. That's been my place ever
since. It's been absolutely amazing. I've met
some great people, and I've made a memory or
two. Nice. Sounds like you had a good time. Sounds
like you had a very good origin encounter for
that first time. Did you did you continue to
interact with this particular female or were
you like just anxious to like dive into the world
after that? And you just kind of just started,
you know, floating around different parties or
did you just you know, how did you how did you
maneuver after that one night? After that one
night, I was for those of you that are aware
of military, I was TDY at that time, so I was
only in Germany for a couple of months. So that's
just for those that are not familiar with the
military, you're just somewhere just for a bit
of time. So we did. We did actually kick it for
the three months that I was there, you know,
sometimes in a vanilla setting and sometimes
she would throw an event. And since then, as
I said, I was, you know, I knew that was me.
Before we were speaking to Socrates, you know,
I had this idea of fantasy and things of that
nature, didn't have a word for it. And once I
knew there was this place where, oh, shoot, I
can I could actually say what I want sexually.
I'm not judged for it or anything of that nature.
That was that was amazing. So since then, I was
I was I was totally in primarily. it's at events
or you know on on websites or things of that
nature just because it's not uh fully what's
the what's the right word it's not fully advertised
you never know who's lifestyle and who's not
so i've been i've been lucky enough to you know
go to events and you actually you know you start
meeting people and things of that nature then
from there hey we exchange digits and um and
you um you build your you know you build this
beautiful community that we have now And how
did the how did the couples take you like when
they see you at events? Were they were they like,
oh, my God, you know, this is here's another
beautiful black man. And did they approach you
like aggressively or were they laid back and,
you know, kind of like watch you move, how you
move and then approach you or what? I'm thinking
in my experience, you've got a mix. You've got
those that are, you know, that, hey, they know
what they want. They're looking for a black man
and they're, you know, they go right for it.
But in my experience, at least from what people
have told from me, from bird's eye view is people
see how I move. People see how I carry myself,
how I move. And based on that, I've had more
people reach out to me, you know, either, hey,
hey. you know we've seen you at an event you
carry yourself well you speak well you know um
you know if i would say so myself halfway decent
looking gentleman um so you know um and when
the time comes that just allows couples um to
um to um um to approach uh they don't approach
aggressively we have our initial my usual is
we have an initial conversation you know we vibe
uh a little bit that's that that that's that
that's my that's my main even though you know
i'm happy to jump on the field um you know there's
moments where hey it's instant it's not you know
it's not time to talk or anything of that nature
time and place but my main my main dynamic is
getting to know them a little bit i enjoy the
lady some we're enjoying banter um and and things
progress from there that was uh that was one
of the things um Lindsay, my baby girl, said,
ladies and gentlemen, James has played with my
baby girl for the last year at Splash Mocha.
Yes, yes. And one of the things that she, one
of the first things that she said, she was like,
Daddy, he knows how to really talk to somebody.
He's not just trying to, you know, let's fuck
and fuck this, fuck that, da, da, da. But he
was actually, you know, you actually. really
really had a great conversation with her and
she vibed with you and then you know when she
saw you in it uh in Atlanta and I didn't have
to say anything here when I saw you I was like
okay I know he's good I mean the vibe was there
with me you know when she said military man I
was like okay this this is pretty much a no -brainer
I just need to look at him and uh I was like,
okay, good, baby, go ahead and go and have a
good time. So, you know, for the couples out
there who may be headed to Atlanta, Georgia next
month for the Splash Milk event, I am telling
you right now, you need to reach out and meet
this young man. He's very, very nice, very, very
charming. And he represents what we want as far
as like that bull in the bull brotherhood. So
reach out to James. I appreciate that. Truly,
I appreciate that, my friend. And I appreciate
that y 'all trust me enough to trust me with
your lady. Oh, yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.
Anytime, brother. Anytime. James, let me ask
you, while you were overseas and you're in the
lifestyle community, was being in the military
a benefit? Or let me ask it a different way.
If you're. If you're over in Europe somewhere
and you were serving and a woman could pick a
civilian, let's say another good looking black
man as yourself, and he's there on business,
but they got you there who's there serving the
military. And let's say they don't have any issues
with, you know, any kind of political or personal
issues against it. You know, it's whatever. Would
that benefit you? You know, were they looking
for guys in the military or just as long as you
were black and ready to go? That's funny that
you would even say that. You know, as I meet
people, you know, as you start conversation,
hey, you know, hey, what are you doing here?
Hey, what do you do for work? But as that conversation
would float towards the military. um there's
definitely a a subset of of of women that do
enjoy you know the police officers the firemen
military things of that nature men in uniform
that definitely did exactly men in uniform men
in uniform so uh that did um uh served me well
and it seemed sort of activated a piece of them
so you know i was you know they they may have
been looking for a black gentleman but that military
was definitely at least in my opinion you know
a plus you know um you know us when we're in
laid back side of me but at the same time i'm
assertive and um you know ladies that i have
met enjoy that control that that that that assertiveness
that dominance you know even though i'm sure
you hear i speak most laid -back gentlemen in
the world but at the same time confident and
assertive when i need to be you know you've got
that certain presence brother there's something
about a black man I don't care if he's light
skin, caramel, brown skin, dark skin, or just
black as tar. When he puts on that damn military
uniform with the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines,
Coast Guard, the way we transform when we put
that uniform on, the broad shoulders, you know,
the arms, the body speaks for itself when we're
in that uniform, the aura, the charisma, the
dominance. everything that a woman is wanting
and desiring it comes across when we put a uniform
on i've had the pleasure of wearing two different
uniforms um one is a law enforcement officer
and then one as a military man and let me tell
you i have had some of the greatest encounters
ever by just getting out of a squad car or just
uh you know walking around in uh bd slash acus
and and i mean it's just the aura it's it's just
this is how we put together and and it just comes
across you really don't have to say anything
you know you just walk into a room and here again
that word that aura that charisma you know that
swag comes it just comes out and the ladies are
are immediately drawn to you And they will come
to you, and you don't have to say a whole lot.
You really don't before you're in there. So,
yeah, I can totally understand where you're coming
from, James. And I know, Socrates, you do too,
you know. Oh, yeah. Those Navy uniforms are damn
fly. Oh, yeah. Navy uniforms are fly as hell.
And when brothers put their shit on, I mean,
I'm telling you, you know, it won't be long.
It will not be long. You know, whether you're
on leave, furlough, as the Navy calls it, I think,
or whatever. You know, it won't be long, man,
before the ladies are on your jock. And, you
know, so, yeah, there's a difference. There's
a difference between the civilian man and the
military man. And people can pick up on that
instantly. Instantly. Even when you're retired,
I get asked all the time, hell, I can have on
my damn workout gear. And somebody would ask
me, they were like, I see you tuck your shirt
in, even when you have on sweatpants to work
out. I was like, yes. And they were like, what
branch? That's what they'll say. They'll say,
what branch? And I was like, Army. I was like,
is it that? Is it that? One lady was like, honey,
it's written all over your face. It's written
all over your face. When you walk, the way you
walk around the gym, you know, after you do a
set, you go get some water, you walk straight
as a damn arrow. You know, she was like, it's
written all over your damn face. So here again,
it's that aura. It's that aura. And ladies, we're
going to let that aura down show. come out in
about another month or a few weeks or whatever
a few weeks so be ready um so both you guys were
introduced to lifestyle in germany right yeah
uh -huh well i will agree with me yes yeah yeah
so so james um you know we've talked you know
uncas talk about this a lot but i definitely
want to hear from you talk to me about the You
know, what's different or special or what you
like about the German lifestyle community out
there? I absolutely love Europe. If I even had
the opportunity, I would move back. It's so much
more open over there as far as sexually. When
the time comes, whether that you be in a lifestyle
club or you be in a vanilla club in the U .S.
You know, sometimes there's a bit of cat and
mouse, there's a bit of games, things of that
nature. Some of you remember back in the day
when you would get, you know, a lady's number
in the club, hey, I'll call you tomorrow, I'll
call you in a couple days, variation like that.
Over there, if there's that instant attraction,
you know, sex isn't as taboo over there. If there's
that attraction, I remember I was in K -Town,
Kaiserslautern, to those of you who haven't been
over there. um big military community over there
i'm in a nightclub meet a beautiful um beautiful
life i think she was brazilian i flashed back
to my sixth grade spanish because i don't speak
a lick of spanish all i could remember was two
bonita or some variation like that and excuse
me if i'm getting the words wrong i just was
trying to communicate you're pretty and we're
smiling and we're communicating close enough
close enough um yep yep and At the end, you know,
I get another friend to kind of translate, hey,
I'll call you tomorrow. Hey, it was good seeing
you, you know. And, you know, instantly was like,
no, I'm going with you tonight. You know, I'm
like, hey, what are you doing later on? You got
a good breakfast? And she's like, I'm going with
you. It's so much more open there. It's desire
and saying what you want. At least in my opinion,
it's not as much of a hurdle there. where in
the Americas, it seems like it's taboo, you know,
in some circles. You know, oh, shoot, how am
I thinking this? I shouldn't have this thought,
things of that nature. Oh, you've been flirting
all night, feeling each other all night. You
could see that, you know, that chemistry is there,
but no, I'm not going to do that. We got to have
12 dates and six engagements before I actually
let you do these things, per se. So it doesn't
exist as much there. And I love the openness.
It's actually great, even though, of course,
I love being in the U .S., love the conversations,
but it's just different over there where there's
absolutely nothing. I think even now, like the
sex stores, you know, here you potentially have
to go to a seedy neighborhood or a variation
or they've got them all over. People are window
shopping like, oh, there's the Vibratasaur 3000.
And it's in the middle of the day. And they're
just looking at a window. And I was just like,
OK, it's the same thing in the realm of drinking.
Drinking is a part of their culture. Sex is a
part of their culture where, you know, Americans,
you know, overindulge on drinking, where Europeans
don't just because they have. been um exposed
um to it so it's not as not as tab but when you
don't over indulge as much over there most most
uh most occupations overseas in germany socrates
the the you are allowed like two breaks where
you can have a like a beer break Who the fuck
does that? You know what I mean? Where you can
stop and drink a damn fucking Heffy Weissen,
which is a real popular damn beer. They get that
twice a day over there. And as far as going to
the club, to reiterate on what James was saying,
to go to the club there. and leave with just
a number or numbers is a wasted night. In my
opinion, it is a wasted night. You are, you are,
when, when you go to the club there, 75 % of
the time, 75 % of men are going to meet and fuck
that night. You're going to meet and fuck that
night. All right. It might be in the parking
lot. It might be in the parking lot. Hell, it
might be in the bathroom. You know what I mean?
Depending on what type of damn club it is or
how big the club is. Or you might go back to
the bags or to your apartment or whatever. Or
her apartment. But you are going to have sex
that night. They want you. They want you. And
they have to have you. You know? And here again,
I talk about them being so damn uninhibited.
In the bedroom, brother. Pandora's box is open.
All right? If you're not used to getting your
asshole licked, I sure hate it. You're going
to learn today. You know what I mean? And you
can open up your box of tricks with her. I mean,
they are so, those women, they want you. And
they want all of you in every way. In every fucking
way possible. And here again, if you form, you
know, let's say you have a relationship with
one, you know, it won't be long. If it becomes
long -term, it won't be long before you got to
start having those conversations where, you know,
you may not have known that, like, she's bi or
something like that. And you come home one day
and, you know, there's a girl sitting there with,
you know, a mama. And you're looking like, what's
going on? and next thing you know bam you guys
are going at it or i mean i mean it's just it's
different man it is different there we don't
deal with the hang -ups that we have with a lot
of american women it just doesn't happen you
know even just a regular life uh to come home
and and and you know the the house is damn immaculate
and you know the food is is great and you guys
can sit there you can either have a great conversation
or she can realize that, hey, he's had a real
hard fucking day. You know, I'm just going to
give him a shower. You know, he can just stay
in the shower. Or, you know, I give him a bath
and tuck him in and put him to bed. I mean, that's
why so many black guys go over there and they
end up staying for the rest of their life. I've
told you guys before, had it not been for my
parents having uh health scares at the same time
you guys will not know me and i mean that's the
guy's honest truth you would not know me i would
still be in wiesbaden germany living uh retired
um my two best friends we were going like i said
we're gonna open up either a a a a little small
sex you know sex house um or we'll go up uh some
form of a little nightclub one or two And I was
going to speak German for the rest of my fucking
life. I wouldn't come back across the water.
I was not, man. I was not. If I did, hell, yeah,
I'd go to Vegas, maybe or something like that.
But other than that, shit. There's no reason
to come back home once you are over there and
you get acclimated and you become Blerman, as
they say, black and German. There's no reason.
There's no reason, man. Everything is there.
Every nationality of woman is there and they
are drop dead beautiful. I mean, you're Syrians,
you're Germans, you're Russians. I mean, just
everything is there. Everything is there. And
when you get off the plane over there, you are
a high dollar value item. Black man is a high
dollar value item. And you really are a high
dollar. Exactly. And you really are a high dollar
value item now because of the, you know, a lot
of the bases have closed. A lot of the bases
have closed and the guys have come back to the
States or they've retired and come back to the
States. So, you know, you've got a lot of places
now. Wiesbaden is now United States Army Europe
headquarters. So that was where I lived. So I'm
like right there in the midst of everything with
Frankfurt, Germany. right there beside it he's
like two big two big cities right there within
of six kilometers less than 10 miles away from
each other i mean it's beautiful man beautiful
and there's parties different type of down sex
parties every weekend every night nice you know
you got something to go to you got something
to go to it seems to me gentlemen absolutely
It seems to me, the gentleman, that the lifestyle
really just makes things more organized, easier,
communication open. But it seems to me that you
don't have to be lifestyle to kind of really
enjoy the stuff in the military when you're overseas
because they just like military men. They like
military men in general of all races. But from
what I'm hearing and my experience in the Navy,
they like black men. And no matter what country
you're in, they love their black men. This is
something that's available to anybody, right?
You don't have to be in the lifestyle to enjoy
this kind of stuff, right? True. You don't have
to be in the lifestyle. You don't. And there
are a lot of military guys who are not in the
lifestyle. But for the ones who have ventured
into the world, along with the regular, you know,
European world, you are living your best life,
brother. I'm telling you, you're living your
best life. And like I said, that's why a whole
lot of guys do not come back across the Atlantic
Ocean. They stay there. They stay there. I mean,
hell, am I missing something, James? I was there
for you. You're not missing something. No, you're
not missing the thing. My time in Europe and
a lot of my time was spent in Hawaii. It's the
same with Asians, Pacific Islanders, things of
that nature. They may come off a bit reserved,
but those were some of the most amazing experiences
where they know what they want in the bedroom.
Those inhibitions drop when it comes down to
a Black man. my story would have been instead
of germany i would have been i would have been
on oahu i would have been in hawaii to uh to
this day if if i didn't if i didn't if i didn't
have to move this last time um what's that um
but yeah yeah um that that that that you don't
have to be lifestyle over there you know military
is an advantage and chocolate is an advantage
and you know if you get the mix of the two you
become fantasy to somebody. And, you know, they're
telling you the nastiest things that they want
you to do. Or they're just open to, hey, what
do you want? What do you want to do to me, daddy?
So at that time. you just you just communicate
you talk and like i said the realm of fantasy
exists and i i absolutely love it that i don't
have to be scared or or or or wait if i say this
what is she going to think you know i got a young
lady or a couple or whoever that i can say what
i want and yeah yeah and and socrates when when
that couple or that or that single female when
she commits to you our term of claim, train,
and own, that last own, you own her. They're
yours. I mean, they are yours, all right? And,
you know, like I said, you can just open up Pandora's
box, man. You can open up Pandora's box sexually,
and, I mean, you can bring in other people, and,
you know, there's no hang -up whatsoever. there's
no hang -up whatsoever when she says she wants
to please daddy she wants to please daddy in
every way possible every way possible and the
husband is is you guys become cooler than cool
you know um you know me i love to work out so
to find another fit type of husband ran we was
working out then go back home here there's food
and you know He sits over there and watches me
and just have a ball with the wife. And we just
sit there and we, yes, you fuck around, you go
on vacations. And, and I mean, you know, to go
on a cruise there and to go to different places,
Italy, Greece, Spain, uh, as that couple, you
know, together and then go there and meet other
couples in the, in the world. You boy, this is
your balls will be down. unloaded very very quickly
you'll become you'll become you'll be coming
and nothing coming out your damn dick you know
but i mean just just just the whole community
meeting different people and here again is meeting
you know greeks and and italians and french and
god especially when you go to france french people
are just they're just i don't know time you get
dead cap dodge the which is like one of the world's
largest new beach new beaches it's something
man it's something i mean you can sit at home
in the u .s and like see something on television
that's one thing but when you actually get to
go over there and be and become a part of it
man what what memories to take to the grave i
love it true story i love what you said as far
as like with the couples i mean i i i've had
the opportunity uh to uh be brought into you
know a couple couples where you could actually
you know like you said vacations enjoy them you
know most recently um uh a couple that i met
at splash we've been talking talking talking
and the husband reached out and said hey will
you be my lady's valentine's surprise i'll fly
you out and i'll pay for the hotel we'll have
an amazing weekend and and we did we we had i
got picked up from the airport we not even we
we not even finished driving from uh you know
to the hotel and we're in the backseat fucking
the husband's driving thank god for tesla um
yeah but you know had an an amazing weekend where
hey you know the husband trusted you with the
you know with the lady and y 'all are vibing
literally text uh every day had a blast went
to haunted houses dinners things of that nature
and on top of that bam you know you got you know
hey you could fuck you know you got some you
you you got amazing sex um you know there's you
know a couple you know another couple that i'm
in um here in the local area i'm in austin texas
and in the local area where hey we go to dinners
we hit movies they're the horror they're the
horror movie people you know we can go hit a
horror movie i think we saw a 28 uh i don't know
if you could say uh uh uh trademark movies on
the podcast sorry we saw a movie a few ago okay
okay yeah not trying to get nobody uh intro so
we saw uh 28 years later uh that that second
part after that back to the hotel you know back
to their apartment uh so you know when you when
you get someone and you get invited to uh they
invite you into their life in that aspect where
hey i trust you with my lady it's it's it's great
it's great and you could share like i said you
could share what you want hey this is what i
want to try and make it happen for you You know,
or they introduce you to someone else and, you
know, hashtag Aladdin, whole new world. Gentlemen,
this question for both of you. Do you guys have
like a you don't shit where you eat philosophy
or have you guys like done some lifestyle when
you've met people who are also in the service?
I'll jump on that one first. I love the professionalism
of the military. I have bumped into people that
as you get into conversation, oh, I'm in the
army too. You've got two schools of boss of people.
Some people say that, hey, you know what? Nope,
I do not play just in case. But I don't have
that issue just because if we played before,
you know, I retired as a non -commissioned officer
and I've had. you know i i've had some interludes
with you know commission officers you know lieutenant
colonels general things of that nature i'm i'm
i'm going to just be uh sergeant so -and -so
when i see you or i'm going to walk past as though
i don't know you you know depends on that dynamic
that's not something that we're going to that
that i'm going to put you out um being that both
of us have careers and things of that nature
you know i probably met you and you're married
so of course i'm not gonna you know have someone
wait how do you know him where do you know him
from that's where you get started tap dancing
so um yeah um i i've bumped into plenty of military
people that that that are that are a part of
this matter of fact i got a text a few ago um
where um you know uh two of the old service members
are getting married and they're in the lifestyle
um where they invited me to come out to jersey
and come kick it with them before you know before
they make that great loop Yeah, I couldn't say
it any better. We kind of, without coming out
saying it, you know, and then I came in the military
a long, you know, long, long time ago. So it
was kind of known that, you know, if you were
in that particular, you know, realm, lifestyle
realm, whether it be hot wifing, like I said,
we didn't have the term then or just regular,
you know. swinging that you just kind of, if
you saw somebody that you knew at a party or,
you know, anywhere, you just kind of like nodded
your head and just kept keeping pushing, you
know, because, um, that was one of the things
that at least back long then in my day, they
would, um, kind of shun upon, um, as far as,
you know, the military is concerned. especially
when you are late on in your career if you make
it a career and you become a senior you know
non -com um and you're in the lifestyle so that
was one of the things that i kept i kept pretty
much um under wraps you know i had that life
and then i had my what i what i call my just
um you know, regular, you know, regular life
where you knew the, uh, you knew the sergeant,
you knew the fitness, uh, you know, guy and,
uh, nothing else. You know what I'm saying? But
that part of my life, I, I kept it, I kept it,
I kept it, uh, under wraps. Yeah. And I, I love
that. It's that even that fun secret, you know,
if it's that, if you know, you know, you know,
for those that you would pass by, whether that
be in the military or the civilian life, you'd
see them. And you can kind of, you know, hey,
that nod or that smile. Exactly. Exactly. You
two did something or weren't something. And then
you need to pass by or let the meeting continue.
And text later. That's it. That's it. I love
it. I love it. Yeah. I really definitely tried
to keep those two things separate. I was single
and I just, I didn't. But in the Navy. You know,
you're on a ship. Everybody knows what's going
on. You know, like, we're on this ship for nine
months. It's like, come on. So, you know, that's
just what it was for the Navy. How has, we've
talked a lot about, and we're kind of coming
up on time, so I won't keep y 'all too long.
But we've talked about, you know, the benefits
of overseas. Have you guys benefited from or
enjoyed anything in the States besides, you know,
we know Hawaii's, you know. In the States. But
in the lower 48, you know, have you guys enjoyed
the benefits of being in the military here? Or
I know it's different. You know, I would even
dare say better in overseas. But what have you
enjoyed here being in the service? Ooh, Texas,
Texas. The great state of Texas. Oh, my goodness.
Hook them horns. 6th Street, Bryan College Station,
Lord have mercy, Austin, Waco, San Antonio, the
Riverwalk, God damn, Houston. Brother, I've had
some times in the great state of Texas. To all
the ladies there that I've played with, love
y 'all to death. I really do. To the couples
I've met, love y 'all to death too. The great
state of Texas, I had a ball there, as well as
Colorado. Colorado, in my opinion, is the interracial
capital of the United States. It really is. I
had a freaking ball in Colorado also. My story?
Of course, Europe's one thing, but I've had a
great time in the... continental united states
as well i am in the i am in the state of texas
so i know exactly what you're talking about i'm
in i'm in austin so hey often over there in the
domain area i need to come out there and hang
out with you because i love austin and i'm also
latino i speak spanish i love all my mexican
ladies and salvadorian ladies out there man and
all the other nationalities I definitely need
to come. I didn't mean to interrupt you. But
I need to go out there. And get to San Antonio.
Oh, yeah, for sure. And be like, oh, yeah, mami.
And that is my kryptonite to any ladies on the
line that may be at Splash or whatever. That
is my kryptonite. So what's that? The Hispanic
or the Latino. But, hey, I've had a great time.
You know, when I get adopted into a community,
wherever I end up landing PCS into. you know
texas has been amazing to me hawaii north carolina
with my time at brag uh anywhere i go where i
land i must i'm social but you know and like
i said earlier i don't communicate them so i'm
gonna i'm gonna be the life of the party wherever
wherever i land then once people find out about
that uh you know we could just you know call
that ultra ego side um just because you know
wasn't out so much when i was in the military
but if people knew they knew but when people
find out about that other side boom well you
know hey i had i had an amazing time and word
would come out about me anyway i remember i think
i was at uh eustis where you know i had soldiers
come back around and i heard this about you it
wasn't lifestyle it was just how i thought and
i was just like okay i don't know how they found
that out but still well the word you know the
word don't spread enough and i hey i appreciate
that i appreciate the yelp review um so you know
um Even with the military, I've been treated
amazing no matter where I go because people are
drawn to it. Like I said, policemen, firefighters,
military. Instantly, women are going to be drawn
to that. Something about us is on radar. Your
exploits will get around in a military community,
okay? Here I am. I'm like 45 minutes from Fayetteville.
And when I do go to the Ville, trust and believe,
they know the signal mail is there, right? They've
already put out an APB well ahead. So, you know,
they know I'm coming. So, I mean, that's just
your housewife, hot wife community. that lives,
you know, on post or, like, in the surrounding
areas, you know. Bragg is huge. So you have,
like, your subdivisions of Fayetteville, which
is Rayford, North Carolina, and a couple other
places like that. And those communities, those
communities, they represent in the hot wife lifestyle.
They really do. There was a huge... Club in Fayetteville.
The couple that owned it, they're gone now. I
think they live in South Carolina now. But the
club was called YKW. Oh, I heard about YKW. I
heard about YKW. You know where. You know where.
That's it. And that motherfucker was off the
chain, brother. That bitch was off the chain.
They had every month, they had a Friday night
where they let the brothers in. And it was basically
like a small splash for that night. And, you
know, you had to have your damn tracksuit on
when you went in there. Because you were the
main course, hors d 'oeuvres and every damn thing
else. And those military wives and civilian wives,
they were in there, brother. they win that so
you know and if you did your job the word got
around the community very very quickly so you
know when you came back again that they were
expecting you to come in like every month on
that friday night they were expecting you to
come so you know that's that's the beauty of
a military community compared to just regular
civilian life you know family is really family
we we might live in different spots you know
in different uh uh areas around you know around
bragging you know, down in Austin, et cetera.
But we still, the word will get around in the
community. And, you know, like I said, they represent
and they expect you there too. If there's an
event and they invite you, they expect you to
be there. They expect you to be there. And if
you've got friends, bring them. Because trust
me, they'll be locked and loaded and ready for
them. You guys have a great time. One of the
things that James talked, you guys talked about
yesterday that I did not hear when I was in the
Navy, and I don't know if the Navy has its own
version or a different name for it, but what
is it? Is it Jody? Is that what it is? Jody.
Y 'all talk to me about Jody. Yeah. Yeah. Well,
go ahead, James. You know. you get that you know
that you know that dear jody letter you know
you uh when you leave you when you deploy go
to basic training wherever you go uh the the
jody's waiting to uh you know either uh conversate
or slide in your lake you know so everyone has
that story hey when i was deployed this happened
um and uh we were talking yesterday where the
advantage of the lifestyle is um when the time
comes hey if couples would just have that that
initial hard conversation you know those difficult
conversations that's what i preach about the
lifestyle the one thing i hear out of lifestyle
couples is our communication is immaculate because
you have to talk about everything you know because
the relationship's more important than a misunderstanding
so uh many times for military uh members hey
one would go somewhere And then they would cheat
or some variation like that. And that would break
the relationship. And everyone has needs. Hey,
you know, your husband or your wife is gone for
six months or a year at a time. You know, hey,
you know, God bless you for it. But if, you know,
when the time comes, if you're able to have that
conversation of, hey, you know, I've got some
needs and I'm always going to, you know, lady,
it's you and me, ride or die till the wheels
fall off while you're gone. I don't have an issue.
Just be communicative with me. You know, hey,
let me vet a gentleman. Hey, if I'm going to
allow a gentleman in my life, I want a certain
caliber. Well, in my lady's life, I'm going to,
you know, I want a certain caliber of gentleman.
I want to make sure my lady's safe. If they would
have those conversations that, hey, look, I've
got needs while I'm gone, but I'm coming back
to you, you know. some of these divorces and
some of these stories and uh for the senior non
-coms you know first started getting a phone
call about my you know my wife or my husband
you know that would um that would and at least
in my personal opinion that would that would
cut it down um because you know you would say
hey i was gone but i'm coming back to you at
the end of the night i'm coming back i'm coming
back to you and And it's open enough for you
to share and have these conversations on wants
and desires. Sex gets better. Communication gets
better. And now you got your daggone, you know,
truly that Batman and Robin. You know, you got
an ultimate team that keep nothing away from
each other. Finance and physical destroys relationships.
You can talk about both freely. Y 'all are bulletproof.
Yeah, it's it's it's very, very hard to keep
a marriage or a relationship going or keep it
keep it steady in a military community. You know,
the deployments, depending on what your military
occupational specialty is, your job, you may
be going a lot. He may be going a lot or she
may be going a lot. You know, so you need to
if you if I lined up. five or six military couples
and they have been married 20 or more years and
he's being in the army for those 20 or more years
trust and believe probably 75 of that five or
six are in the lifestyle in some way shape or
form they are they've had that talk and they're
like look we are each other's ride or die we
love each other It's, you know, it's me and you.
But I know damn well when you're in Afghanistan
or Iraq or Bosnia or wherever, your dick is not
going to stretch back here to Fort Hood or Fort,
you know, Bragg or any other damn installation.
So this is what needs to take place when you
deploy. And you lay out, you be honest about
it. You know, you lay out the damn ground rules.
You lay out the do's and don'ts just like anything
else. And the two of you all follow them. That's
it. You know, nobody's lying to each other. Nobody's
lying to each other. And your marriage will survive.
You know? I love it. I love it. A lot of people
don't know, and we'll try to put a link to this
book in the show notes. The lifestyle in America
started at the Air Force. So what people don't
know is that the, I don't know how to say this,
the most endangered or the highest death rates.
in world war ii was not the army or marine guy
in the front lines it was or you know it was
the airline it was the pilot it was the the the
and so they got together and said look you know
i'm probably not gonna be i'm not i might not
make it and can you take care of my wife and
oh by the way you can probably sleep with her
as well because you you know if you're gonna
take care of her There probably should be a bond.
And that thing started happening for our pilots
in the Air Force, our, what do you call it? Our
combat pilots. And so the lifestyle in America
has a, and the book is called The Lifestyle.
And it talks about the history of the lifestyle
starting in America in the Air Force. So, you
know. It has a deep military foundation and background,
you know? And so this has been something that's
been going on in the military for a long time.
And, and so, yeah, I love all of this. It's something
that I, you know, I get the same thing when I'm
out in public. It's usually because I'm, I'm
yes, ma 'am. And yes, sir. Half of that's just,
I have my, my family's. I'm originally from Tennessee,
Chattanooga. So I grew up in L .A., but I'm a
southern boy at heart. And between the military
and that, I just say, yes, ma 'am, yes, sir,
all the time. And I just carry myself that way.
And a lot of people say, OK, what branch? But
I love this. And I have noticed not that anybody's
better, but the kinds of people that we. believe
in in the brotherhood like there's people that
are in my squad that are not military and um
but he he presents as either law enforcement
or military and he has the same kind of disciplines
and so the people that in the lifestyle that
i really look up to a lot of them not all a lot
of them are military bulls and the servicemen
and even some of the stags and cucks um are in
the military and shout out to our ladies that
are are in the start one of my favorite playmates
is she was um she was uh in the air force and
a good friend of mine that's vanilla she was
in the marines a sniper in the marines and she's
a badass so you know i want to say go navy i
want to say thank you uh you two army men for
your service and uh did you guys want to have
anything else uh did you want before we get off
James, go ahead. If anybody, as I said, hey,
I'll be at Splash next month. Looking forward
to connecting. If any of you want to reach out
previously, you can know when this episode comes
out. I'm available on Telegram. Just looking
without the G at the end for the number four.
Now, 80. So feel free to reach out. I'm all about
conversation and building connection. uh prior
if you'd like to talk or any military people
that um that if we if we hit a subject and you
want to talk more on it okay reach out to me
happy to have a conversation you know whether
that you know whether that just be an idea um
or you know or or if you're trying to build drop
me a line good deal good deal so i continue i
don't have anything to say my brother i think
we have said it all we can go ahead and close
this thing out Ladies and gentlemen, I would
love to thank James. James, it has indeed been
a pleasure. Thank you, my brother, for being
on the podcast. You will be back again in the
very near future, I hope. All right. And ladies
and gentlemen, for myself, the Sigma male, and
of course, my nephew, Socrates, we bid you good
night. And we will be back next week with another
informative podcast. Again, to all the brothers
of the brotherhood, all right? We wish you a
good night. And to all those lovely ladies and
hot wives out there, I wish you good morning.
Auf Wiedersehen. Cheers. Bye -bye. See you later,
y 'all.