Guys will see me a dick pic as if that's the
entry in here. And that's the old fuck no. That's
the old fuck no. Instant block. I get them too.
Yes. So think about it. I get them from single
females as well. Yes. What? Yeah. Trying to sell
somebody or what? No. Asking me, sends me a picture
of their crotch going, so do you think I'm a
good fit for the event? Yeah. My answer to that
is no, I'm sorry. Let me tell a story really
quick about what my single friend does with dick
pics. She says, thank you for that. I will be
sending it to the next guy that sends me a dick
pic. So she keeps them on rotation and she just
sends back the dick pic of the last guy that
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Let's go. Welcome to another episode of the Bull
Brotherhood podcast. I'm one third of your hosting
team, Siren from the Siren of Freedom podcast.
We are recording live from Splash Mocha, Houston.
And Brian Morgan cannot be with us, so I get
the honor of introducing our guest today. We
have, of course, my hubby Socrates. Hey, everybody.
And today on our panel, we're going to be discussing
how to navigate hotel takeovers. And we have
Chris Minx. Hello, everybody. And the lovely
Tina, who runs this shit. Hey, guys. And Dimitri,
head honcho of security, hugs, and telling it
like it is. Good afternoon, everybody. All right.
So I'm going to turn it back over to Socrates
and we'll get this thing going. How's everybody
doing today? So we have we do have an audience
here. So we just want to welcome everybody that
came in to see us. And we have a really, really
great panel here. And so our topic today is how
to navigate just any hotel takeover in the lifestyle.
Right. So there's a lot of. Things you want to
consider, you know, interacting with the promotions
company for, in this example, Splash Mocha, right?
What their rules are, what their expectations
of you are, what you can expect from them and
how to do that. We could talk about that. And
then there's people in the community. If you're
a couple, if you're a bull, or if you're a single
guy or a single girl, whatever it is, how do
you navigate from that perspective, right? From
a husband's perspective, who might be a stag,
how do you navigate? Or a cuck, or you're just
a swinger couple. And then there's obviously
the people you interact with. So we don't have
to keep it in those categories, but that's how
I kind of look at it. So I just want to start
in general and say to everybody, what do you
think the things that you need to first start
thinking of when you've picked? From this point,
you've picked somewhere like Splash Mocha to
go to. It's a hotel takeover. You're going to
spend a couple of days locked in the hotel doing
your thing. What do you think, Dimitri, like
what's the first thing you should really start
thinking of if you want to have a good time?
Well, what I do is I let everybody know in detail
this is a hot wife convention. Hot wife convention.
What separates us from everybody is that it's
more centered around the single man. Our courses
say Splash Mocha, so preferably, you know, men
of color, but we don't discriminate against anyone.
But the main thing I try to tell couples are
to have those hard conversations. You know, ask
the questions that you think about or what you
may feel, because I don't want you to come through
those doors and you don't have a good time or
have any good experiences. And then you go home
angry and bitter with each other. And also, I
don't want to give out too much. No. I'll stop
right there and I'll come back. Tina, I'd love
to hear from you. What do you think? Well, in
regards to Splash Mocha, what I like to tell
people is on our website, we have a membership
program where people can sign up, kind of like
SDC, Cassidy, get a premium membership. And what
that will do, that will put you in our chat groups
right on our website. And then you can start
chatting with guests who are already Splash Mocha
minded, especially in the hot wife lifestyle.
And then once you make a reservation at whatever
hotel, then when that reservation is made, you're
put into that specific party chat group. So you
can start chatting with these people, start making
your connections. And then if you're brand new,
especially to the Splash Mocha game, you're brand
new, I tell guests, step outside of your box
just a little bit and introduce yourself. Let
them know you're brand new to this event. Splash
Mocha guests, I can't speak for other events,
but Splash Mocha guests love meeting brand new
folks. And the reason being, they get to see
the party all over again, brand new through your
eyes. Because they're sharing your experiences
and they will introduce you to a whole host of
different people. Next thing you know, you've
got a whole bunch of brand new friends that you're
probably going to remain friends with once you
leave this event. Yeah, I like that. And I was
thinking that myself, like if I was to give that
advice, I would say get on there and. Get to
know the people, interact if you can. Because
you're going to make those connections before
you arrive. You're going to share photos. It
doesn't have to be X -rated. It can just be face
photos. And then those people you've made connections
with online and in the chat groups, you're going
to meet them face -to -face here. And you'll
already have something in common to talk about.
What do you think, Mo? So we always liken the
Splash Mocha Party as one of the elite parties.
And it's usually not a... first timer to the
lifestyle event, right? The couples that come
to Splash Mocha usually have had that walk through
their journey into the lifestyle. They've done
the swapping. They've done, now they're moving
into the hot wifing thing. It becomes that you've
had those early conversations, you know, your
dynamic and your relationship. So then when it's
like, we're going to go to Splash Mocha, the
chat room, and you don't have to chat. That's
very intimidating. A lot of people, I don't know
what to say. My wife, hot wife, Angel Minx, she
is horrible at text chatting she doesn't think
and text it out very well what she's making but
sitting and watching the dynamic and just reading
the interaction of people starts to give you
that idea the other piece to it is as any subculture
there is a different terminology within that
subculture that you can start to learn by watching
these conversations and understanding the different
dynamics what your dynamic you might even not
even have defined your dynamic yet so Getting
that piece of education, doing the research,
if you will, before you come to the event kind
of eases that comfort level coming in. Now, I
say all that to advanced couples. There was an
Atlanta mocha. To be honest, this is Angel and
I's 15th Splash Mocha since 2022. My wife's addicted
to this product, right, to this staff because
it is a true family. And that's what even first
-timers come in, they get that. But we were at
this Atlanta mocha. And a couple came in in their
early 60s. They had never done anything lifestyle
in their life. They had never done a swap. The
only people they'd had sex with was each other
in 30 plus years of marriage. And their first
party was a splash mocha party. They had been
listening to podcasts. They had been doing the
research. They were just both mentally on that
point that this was where they wanted to jump
in. And I'm like, we're looking at one. You jumped
into the deepest end of the pool you possibly
could have. Not to interrupt, there were two
couples at that party on that same page. Really?
And they've been ever since. And it was at the
end of the weekend, because they came, they listened
to the podcast at the end of the weekend. They
came up, were hugging us, hugging all of the
staff, said this was a transformative weekend
for us. They didn't play with anybody. But she
got flogged in the S &M room. She was just emotionally
overcome. And then they came to everybody afterwards.
And it's like, we did something really good,
right? These guys put on something really good
that changed this couple's dynamic forever. So
the research, that's my biggest thing. Coming
to these, getting ready for it, doing the research
ahead of time. No ditty, but it turns me on when
a man says research. I'm sorry. I'm that much
of a nerd. I was going to say, you really are
a nerd, aren't you? Ask her. I have apps just
for research. I have AI just, and I'll talk to
it for hours. I want you to know, what can you
tell me about the universe and how it connects
to Adlerian psychology? And she's just like,
oh my goodness, just go talk to your girlfriend.
Siren, I want to, I really want, I got a few
questions, but I want to hear from you. I think.
you know, if you're a couple coming together,
it's important to talk about, even if you don't
know what to expect, like, but hopefully you
should have some expectations because, you know,
of doing the research first, you know, I mean,
what to expect expectations, but listing out
together, like what your do's and don'ts might
be. And then just having those communication
breaks throughout the day, like. I've learned
that I need like more communication breaks. Like
I need some structure to my splash mocha. I can't
just be running all over the place. So you learn
through going like what specifically works for
you and doesn't work for you. But just making
sure with your partner, if you're coming with
your husband or your wife, like what your guidelines
are for each other. And then after action report,
make sure after the event that you get together
and you spend time like dissecting how it went
for you and what you liked, what you didn't like,
what you want to do different next time. I like
that. And I want you to talk about your first
experience here. So I'm going to share a little
bit. So when I first came, I when I was like,
OK, I'm going to take you here. I'm going to,
you know. Have you experienced this? I thought
it was 100%. You have to be a single man, and
that's it. And it's just going to be a bunch
of black vultures. I might sound terrible. I
don't mean to disrespect nobody. But that's what
I thought. So I was like, okay, I'm ready to
fight. And I wanted to have a good time. So I
can go. So when we went, and it wasn't until
we had the men's meeting. I was like, oh, my
goodness. This is phenomenal. Because they're.
holding people accountable before it really even
gets going. You know what I mean? And so with
you, that was it for me. And then later on, I
found out, oh, I can have some fun here too.
But for you, I want you to talk about your nerves
all the way up to it and kind of like how we
first got, you know, how I had to kind of like.
sit you down. Like, I love that stuff. Are you
going to tell it or am I? Well, the first mistake
we made was coming in on Thursday instead of
Wednesday, because that's not giving me any time
to like acclimate to the environment. And especially
from where we live, where there isn't much diversity.
I felt a lot like that time in Vegas when I walked
into club rehab and there was just like all these
black guys and I was like, I have died and gone
to heaven. And I was with my friend and I grabbed
her arm and I was like, how does this work? Do
I choose them? Do they choose me? And I felt
a lot like that same feeling, but knowing that
I was going to get to choose more than one. So
I had talked to probably like 30 guys ahead of
time. I didn't play with a single one of them.
And that's often how it can work. But it still
is good to chat because it still gives you some
comfortability with people in general. But when
I walked in Thursday afternoon and like kind
of there was already you guys know there's like
already so many people here on Wednesday. Then
to walk in on Thursday, my jaw was just on the
floor. And then I was just frozen. And he's like,
go talk to people like you've been talking to
these guys. I said, I can't. And I went and sat,
it was Houston, and I went and sat in the corner,
you know, up there in that kind of that little
library area. And I just sat in the corner. And
he's like, go talk to people. This is why we're
here. I just can't. I can't. And he went and
got me a drink. And then I, so I had a drink.
And then I still was like, he's like, what do
you need? Because we paid a lot of money to be
here. And I said, I think I need you to just
take me upstairs. I need you to fuck me real
good and get me, like, all evened out. And then
I can come down and be like, oh, okay, hi. You
know, and I didn't have the name Siren yet at
that time. So, and then that first one is where
I got my name. So, yeah. But it was very overwhelming.
And now we just come in early. And that helps
a lot. But when you're new and you aren't used
to that much, you know. beautiful black men in
one place at one time it's like the same feeling
of overwhelm what she didn't say is the draw
the jaw was completely dropped at all times well
i'm saying through the whole thing well you have
to to get that those big black they say after
that you just have to have your dropping for
other reasons chris like we're both couples right
we come here as a couple so i love the way you
like your perspectives on things so like talk
tell people like what do you think the husband
and the couple, and it'd be general, it'd be
a couple, stack vixen, whatever. What's their
perspective? What should they go into as a mindset?
Well, first of all, my wife and I are a stack
vixen couple primarily. And coming into this,
it was like, look, this is your vacation. This
is about you, right? I'm going to be invisible.
Nobody's going to give me the time of day. I
don't, you know, I just, I'm there to support
husband. I'm carrying the bags. I'm making sure
you look good. I do all that kind of stuff, right?
Not the case. That is absolutely 100 % not the
case. The husbands have as much a role in this
party as any of them. And understanding that
from our first one to where we are now is a big
piece of it. Any couple, no matter what your
dynamic is, you have that set, but it's always
fluid. And like, maybe I want to push this a
little bit. Maybe I want to try this a little
bit. These are the types of environments they
set that up to have that opportunity to explore
if you want. Then it's that just be that not
afraid. to converse. Jaw -dropping, how do I
even speak to one of these? How do I get it going?
That's the beauty of this one with all the coaching
that they do. Maybe you can't, but they've already
taught the guys all these techniques for just
making an open approach and non -threatening
approach, all those things. All of a sudden,
here's my cute little hot wife and I'm thinking,
go catch you whatever you want, right? every
guy's coming up to me hey how you doing what's
your name what's your deal how's your you know
making me a part of this thing and i'm like look
i know you're not here for me but i should respect
this fact that you're talking to me that you're
involving me and then it's like hey she's giving
me the thumbs up or her wink wink our little
signals right got the baseball game going on
you know and we're like okay and then He's like,
come on, dude, you're coming too, right? So you're
involved in it. Or if your dynamic is not, let
them go play solo. We've done every variation
we can kind of think of on this one. Pre -game
free planning. What do you want? How are you
going to do it? Who do you want? That kind of
stuff. So it's just, it's like everything in
life. You get out of it what you prepare for
it and then adapt to the variables when they
come. That's the best part is here's my plan.
And at the end of the weekend, we ended up all
the way over here. And no idea how we got there,
but loved every minute of it. And then I'm calling
Tina. I'm like, book me for the next one. We're
late on a permanent payment. After the first
three, I looked at Wayne. I said, I am not giving
you every bit of my vacation dollars and my annual
leave every year. I've got to do something else.
And yet here you are. Didn't work out. We had
a wait list for this Houston one because I delayed
and it sold out while we were in Europe. And
I come back and, like, get on the meals. It's
gone. It's sold out. I'm like, oh, my God. Tina?
Yeah. Put me on the guest list. Literally, he
called me seconds after the last room was sold
out. Because somebody made a comment in one of
his groups, man, gone. And everybody sold it
out. That's the, I can't think about, Hey, I
want to go to next year's party. I need to prepay
and plan for it now. I don't know what I'm doing
six months, but I need to book my 12 month ahead,
you know, new year's Eve party or the April,
you know, Atlanta hotel party, which new hotel
be told phenomenal. Try Atlanta. Did you book
it? Oh yeah. Oh yeah. I booked before I came
here because I know that if I don't book the
next one before we go to the current one, then
this will have it sold out. And I don't want
Socrates to be crying. And suck you. That's unlike
most of the lifestyle parties that you will see,
other takeover hotel stuff. Nothing sells out
and books as fast as this event. So it's one
of those you have to really pre -plan. And most
of us aren't thinking that far ahead in our relationship.
As a husband, I'm like, oh, I really want to
see her do this with two of these really hunky
mess. I don't think that far out. So then it's
like, oh, all right, I got to go. What am I going
to do next July? OK, I'm going to go to Florida
now. Why don't you just plan your year around
it? Well, we're there. I'm there now. You're
making it too complicated. Another thing I wanted
to touch on, too, is like you kind of discover
through going to the different mochas, like what
you need and. And I'm more of an extroverted
introvert where I need that time in between to
recharge from people. This one more than others
because we went on another trip right before
this. So if my energy is low, it's because I'm
just worn out from like 10 straight days of traveling.
But the last mocha, I decided that I wanted to
make sure I was going to be who I wanted to be
with, where I wanted to be, doing what I wanted
to do at all times, and just make sure that I
was like, taking care of myself in the experience.
So it's like, he's off doing his thing. I can
be off doing my thing. I don't have to be down
at the party all the time. I can be, I just came
from a nap. So did Chris. So it's like, you can
be up taking a nap. You can let your, you know,
spouse, you know, run wild if that's your dynamic,
but just being okay with changing what you do
each time. Like we always have a check -in before
and after and like, okay, how are we going to
try to move through this one? And then, you know,
just making sure that you're being true to yourself
and like what you need for all of your physical,
mental and, you know, emotional health during
the event too. And part of that is understanding
your dynamic of how you guys like to play. Is
it individual? Do you like to be there? Do you
have to be there? Do you play in the room? Do
you play in the playrooms downstairs or in public?
Do you like to expose yourself and be watched?
Or do you like to be private? So then if you
understand that part of you, then you're prepped
for it. We like to do fun lights and decorate
our inside of our room. So it doesn't just look
like a standard hotel room. We stay in a lot
of hotel rooms on our travel all year long. So
for Mocha events, I have an entire suitcase full
of lights, laser lights, music, speakers, and
we set a real ambiance. My wife likes to go back
and play in our room, not so much down in front
of everybody. So understanding that dynamic,
we come prepared to have that be our intimate
space and that be our play space. Like you said,
what is your needs? And then what are the check
-ins, check -outs, and how do you play it? We're
advanced. I like the minks to go run amok. Go
find what you want. Surprise me. I like to walk
back into the room after. I'm a side quester,
if you're familiar with that, right? I always
got to go. I can't sit still. So it's like, where's
Chris? Literally have a shirt that says, I'm
Chris, because they lose me all the time. I side
quest. But I like side questing, and I come back
to the room, pop it open, and all of a sudden,
there she is, bent over the bed, getting roiled.
And I'm like, ah. Super Bowl hit right there,
right? Touchdown. So that's where we are in our
dynamic. And you guys provide that. We love it.
I mean, we're addicted. It's a problem, but we
love it. Then let me have a problem for your
bank account. So just make more money. Yeah,
I know. I make more money. It's not a problem.
So this place is about black men that, you know,
love this lifestyle. So, D, like, you talk to
every single one that comes here, right? Yes.
Yeah. So talk to us about what it takes to be
here and navigate this as a single man that you've
seen that really works. What it takes? Yeah.
Just like basic things that they need to, that
stand out to you because you're in the best position
to talk about it. That's a good one. I feel like
I'm beating you all over again. That's a good
question. He needs to renew his membership. You
should. I'd be like, you know. Well, what I will
tell you is that. I don't do the questions, the
standard BS. I have a genuine conversation, and
I want the guy or that potential to be completely
honest and comfortable with me. So as I carry
the conversation going, I kind of put questions
in there to make sure I would catch them in the
light because I always tell them the word is
everything to me, no matter whatever you have.
But I will take the biggest flag for me. And
to test this, guys will see me a dick pic as
if that's the entry in here. And that's the old
fuck no. That's the old fuck no. Instant block.
I get them too. Yes. So think about it. I get
them from single females as well. Yes. What?
Yeah. Trying to sell somebody or what? No. Asking
me, sends me a picture of their crotch going,
so do you think I'm a good fit for the event?
Yeah. My answer to that is no, I'm sorry. Let
me tell a story really quick about what my single
friend does with dick pics. She says, thank you
for that. I will be sending it to the next guy
that sends me a dick pic. So she keeps them on
rotation, and she just sends back the dick pic
of the last guy that sent her one. So there's
an idea for your portfolio. As the guy who gets
all the dick pics for my wife? I love that. Doing
that one. Well, I don't want them. That's the
whole point about it. I don't want. But, no,
I try to have just a genuine conversation and
be a confident, be a character, or to try to
build some type of friendship with that person.
Because truly, really deep down, I try to give
everybody an opportunity. But I want them to
be as honest as possible, and I just start asking
them. Your experience, your dynamic, where are
you trying to go with this? How have you ever
heard from us? You know, again, like I said,
the flags is like the top thing I get. The dick
pics, or I get a guy go, oh, I'm 25. Well, how
long have you been in the lifestyle? 10 years.
So you start with, it's you? You know, I get
this type of shit we get. Or I would get people
say, oh, Dimitri, my boy, just talking to him.
You know, I get all that. We get all of that,
you know. Or the miscues that they don't think
we communicate. We talk and share everything.
We even put the texts in group together. So there
is no way you can pretty much bullshit us. So
I try to put those baits and traps out there.
They see where they fall from. But when they
come in humble, and first and foremost, if they're
very humble and honest, not to my team, I go,
okay, he could be groomed. He's potential. And
I would give him an invite. But before he gets
that invite, or after he gets it, I keep a genuine
conversation going with him because I want to
check in with him, let him know what to expect,
let him know our standards on hygiene, education,
experience, the etiquette, and our rules and
regulations that we have posted all over the
hotel. I don't want to give out too much because
I don't want to put my venom process out there.
But overall, I just have a genuine conversation
with these guys and try to set traps for them.
If they answer for you, but I don't want to put
too much out. No, no, I get that. I guess I'm
more asking, like, if you were to look at, you
know, Mr. Mocha's word is a cross section of
black individuals, bulls and whatever, even if
they're married. And you see the guys that come
often that have, you know, great success. They
have a good time. People like them. Their name
is good. What are some of the basic things? fundamental
characteristics of these cats that you see? Well,
they have confidence, you know, and they're comfortable
in their own lane. They understand they don't
have to be 6 '3 with a 10 -inch dick, you know,
and we talk to them about it to ensure them when
you think you're the biggest dick in the pond,
there's a bigger dick in the lake, like, or a
bigger dick in the ocean. Keep it, you know,
just genuine. You'll be okay. Understand you're
not going to be everybody's preference, you know.
I tell them all the time, this is a convention,
not a party. So just because you don't get your
money, you don't pay, don't mean you're guaranteed
to play. You got to have those conversations.
There's a term I use all the time. Please listen
to the couple. When your dick get hard, you go
dumb. And then you have those problems. So I
don't want folks to... Hold on, D. Say that back
for the people out in the back. Can you say that
one more time? When their dicks get hard, sometimes
they go dumb. Sometimes. Sometimes. All of us.
That includes me. You got to have a conversation.
It's all about the conversation. But I don't
ever focus on the physical because that's what
hurt most men. You know, the ego, the pride.
It kills them, especially as a single man. You
know, I don't want to try to add racing to it,
but. Being single and black is like having two
strikes against you. But I try to know that those
are plus when you come to Splash Mocha. So let
me piggyback off that. Yes. At Splash Mocha,
we do not judge a person by what's in their pants,
the color of their skin, or what they look like.
We judge folks at Splash Mocha by their character.
And solely that character. And I love that because
at the end of the day, like you said, that's
all that matters. You know? Oh, yeah. Oh, yes.
That's all you got at the end of the day. Your
word and character. And the best thing about
this community is that these people that they
vet and find those basic characters, when they
come to the event, they might be brand new, first
time ever. They learn. There's mentorship from
the older gentlemen. They give back so that it's
a constant feeding and growth of new coming in.
And then Angel and I have been lifestyle for
20 years. We met, she was a single female on
a swinger side, right? So I caught the unicorn
and we have walked this journey through every
aspect of the situation as it's developed for
us, this road. People come here, same thing.
They are doing that same adventure and going
along. Now, as the older gentlemen, and I look
across the crowd and I meet these guys, I want
to teach these young guys and give them that
feedback. Hey. Good job. Here's what you did
well that got my wife in your pants, right? So
that they can take that and understand. And I
see those guys that are on the wall and they're
like nervous and everything. And I go over and
I go, how's your mocha, right? Get them to talk,
explain. And they're like, oh man, your wife,
whatever. It's like, yeah, go talk to her. Well,
I don't know how to, or I don't know what to
say. Give them a little prompt. Now that little
Colonel sits in his head and grows. He gets a
little more confidence, a little more. But it
all starts with the base of vetting that this
event does. And then the community feeds itself.
We only grow stronger as we give back to our
community. If we're only around just like eyes
in, just about me, just me, get mine. It dies.
This has flourished in a way that is unlike anything
else. And it's because of that mentorship that
the men give the men, the women give the women.
Ladies, if you want a dick comment, like not
dick comment. If you're interested in a certain
thing. Go see Angel. She'll tell you, oh, you
like hard, fast, big. Go check those guys over
there. Right. If you like a little more sensual,
smaller, you know, those guys over there are
good. Right. She can give you all of that type
of information and then it shares amongst the
girls and they help each other out. So it's it's
give and take all the way through. So the beauty
part about this event is, like Dimitri said,
we take these new guys, we give them a chance.
And with what we consider the Splash Mocha culture.
They are going to carry what they learn here
outside of Splash Mocha. They're going to take
it to other events. And I can't tell you how
many couples have called me and said they've
gone to a mansion party or a small house party
or another partial hotel takeover party, and
they can choose and pick out all the Splash Mocha
guys who are in attendance because they don't
act like frat boys running around like they're
a kid in a candy store. And because of what they've
learned here, They're applying it outside of
this event, and it's making them the standout
people. And they're getting the attention, and
the little frat boys that are running around
are being left out in the cold. Well, it's good
to see that because it also lets the couples
know they can let their guard down, especially
the husband. You know, they'll come in, they
have to be overly protective or assume to be.
But when you come in and you see the character,
you see how comfortable everybody are, he pretty
much is, like, level out. So, like, even to Chris,
he's, like, a one percenter of the couples here
because he actually push guys. Hey, yes, yes,
ancient means go. But, you know, most couples,
when they come in, they don't do that. And it's
not a bad thing. You know, that's his wife. That's
his queen. He's willing to make sure she's okay.
So, but meeting the guys here. It kind of gives
them a sense of comfort, like, OK, that's stable.
We can curve it and just go from there. I love
that. I love that. And so you mentioned it's
a convention, right? So, Tina, can you talk about
like one of the things I think is great is all
the courses we have here that you can take advantage
of. And like I said, when I first went to the
men's group, it was the fact that at the end,
what sealed me is about three or four guys got
up and got on people. Right. And I'll get in
that later, but that was that course, and I would
go to other courses. So talk about some of the
courses you have and why you guys decided to
do that. Because a lot of them don't do that.
Right. Well, I mean, it's a three -day event,
and all the Florida events have pool parties.
So not everybody wants to go to the pool party.
Not everybody wants to sit outside and be at
the pool. So you've got people captured in a
hotel. Yeah, they're here to play and have some
private fun, but they're not always doing that
either. So we started figuring out, let's do
some seminars. Now, Wayne and Missy, who are
the owners of Splash Mocha, they own Splash Takeovers
first, and Splash Mocha was the spinoff of that.
Splash Takeovers is the couple's only event,
which is now owned by somebody else, and Splash
Mocha is its own standalone entity. They had
seminars for the couples. So that's another reason
why they carried that footprint from Splash Takeovers,
footprint, blueprint, whatever you want to call
it, and carried that into Splash Mocha. So we
offer seminars. And there's no extra charge for
them. It's all included in your room package.
The only thing that's not is food and drink.
And so they brought that with them from Splash
Takeovers when they owned it. We have seminars,
and all the people that do the seminars are volunteers.
Dimitri does one. Michael C. with the Keys and
Inklings podcast. I'm sorry. I should have asked
before mentioning. No, no. Yeah, please do that.
That's my boy. You know, and Michael C. also
does a seminar for us. We have a lady who will
do a blowjob seminar when she's in attendance,
and she has, before her husband passed away,
she consulted his urologist. on her seminars
and he helped her create her seminar. So it's
a medical, actually a scientific. She's got it.
It's a two harder. One day is about the science
of it all. And then the second day is a hands
-on demonstration. But not everybody wants to
be at the pool parties. Not everybody wants to
be playing all the time. And when you've got
everybody, we want people to stay here. We don't
want them to go outside of the hotel looking
for. Something to do during the day. So that's
why we have the seminars is to help keep them
in house and have things to do during the day.
And especially if we do have a pool party and
it starts raining and storming. I mean, in Florida,
wait 20 minutes. The weather is going to change.
And, you know, they have that to fall back on
and go hang out and go learn something for an
hour. In one of my first MOCA's, they had a seminar
on lifestyle swinging. and the Bible. And it
was taught by a former minister. She was a retired
minister. It was the most incredible class I've
ever been to. She's the same one that does the
blowjob seminar. She does the blowjob seminar
as well, too, which Angel said was the most incredible
seminar she'd ever attended because she learned
so much, and then she got to put it into effect.
But this seminar on the Bible and how a lot of
us have that conflict with our religious beliefs
and all that kind of stuff. She broke this down.
It was great. We started out with a prayer. We
all gathered together for the seminar. She's
like, join hands. Let's pray. I'm like, I'm at
a swinger event and we're kicking it off like
this. And then her explanation and passages that
she showed, this has been going on since the
dawn of time. We are not weird. And that's probably.
The second thing about this, understanding husbands,
as you come in there with your hot wife, you
have already crossed that threshold to promoting
her into a lifestyle that she's been raised not
to be a part of, right? This is unacceptable
as a lady from the day you're born. You've crossed
over that threshold and you have the supportive
husband who's doing this together with you. Now
having that next level piece of unity and adjustment,
I completely lost where I was going with that
point. Anyway, the seminars are phenomenal because
I get bored easily. I'm moving around my side
quest. So the seminars was a unique thing and
I love them and they have been very, very valuable.
Everyone that I've ever attended. They're really
good. I love them. We, because I was at a seminar,
we got the name siren. I just wanted to, I wanted
to talk about. Like our evolution, I had to put
that word in there for Mr. Brian Morgan. Like
I said, when I came, I was nervous as fuck. And
sitting down, being able to talk to Mr. Mocha,
talk to Dee, talk to Tina. I've even listened
to Chris and Angel Means before I even met these
people. And listening to how they navigated,
this stuff really helps. Because, you know, as
a married man, my first concern was my wife's
safety and her being treated with respect and
men approaching properly. And then what really
happened is I was sitting down and she's like,
OK, I scheduled you at one o 'clock and at three
o 'clock. I said, wait, what? I thought I was
just going to sit around and watch you get fucked.
So, OK. And after that, I started getting into
how do I navigate myself? Because one, for the
ladies. I have ADHD as fuck. So when I'm talking
to you, it might look or feel like I'm not interested
or I'm looking for another opportunity or another
hot girl. That's just me with everything. So
like my wife runs my calendar. I don't know what
I'm doing tomorrow. I just know whatever's on
the calendar because I might tell her I'm doing
this, I'm doing that. I had a lot of people like
Mr. Mocha, like D, tell me certain things to
be like, hey, man, calm down. Here's what you
need to focus on. Or don't worry about this.
Worry about that. You know, and that helps. So
when you coming in, if you're a couple or a single
guy or for us, I do think there's no such thing
as better or worse. But being a stag vixen and
I are in a racial relationship and we're both,
you know. Trying to get it in, that introduces
a lot of challenges for us. And if it wasn't
for the people that I call on a daily basis sometimes,
I check on D at least once a week, if not, we
talk two or three times. Yeah. And he knows I'm
the guy, everybody knows Socrates is the guy
with some questions. So I'm in his ear. I mean,
what are you thinking about? You know, and they'll
get on me. Like, yeah, that was, I understand
the question, but you sound like a bitch. Well,
though, honestly. When I see his phone, the number
pop up, I go, I better get some coffee. This
is going to be a conversation. Really? That's
what I do to you when I see you? I call our IDs.
Coffee. I better get some coffee. Because he
likes to call me at 6 .30 and 7 o 'clock in the
morning. I'm retired, so what's the best way
to fuck with your friends, right? Wake up. But
yes, no. Our conversations are pretty much different.
Like, though, with Chris, Socrates. We don't
hold back. You know, it's very, very vulgar.
It's very, very, you would think, disrespectful.
But it's just that crystal clear to where there's,
we leave no room for miscommunication. Of course,
with delays, we kind of keep it PG, keep the
volume and everything down. But we still try
to get our point across or truth across. And
then you take from what you want to take from
it. And these guys do it to me. So it's not like
I am a guru, though. We do it to each other.
And I think that's the best way how to keep each
other humble. Yeah. You hold each other accountable.
And if you come here and you're nervous or you're
afraid, don't sit in the corner. As a guy, these
women are here for you. Well, come up to some
of these gentlemen that have a Splash Mocha staff
jacket on or a T -shirt and say, hey, man, what
do you think about this? They're the best ones
to give you, like, the advice that you need to
navigate well. You know, in my opinion, because
it's like they're seeing the like explosion of
a failure and they're seeing the explosion of
all these dudes up in, you know, in the room
where he wanted to be. He didn't think he was
going to be or you know what I mean? So it's
like for me, it's like, I'm sorry. I know everybody
can't be like me because I'm going to ask you
questions until I get on your nerves. Like. I'm
going to ask you, when I first got into lifestyle,
I wanted to give him some pussy, but he asked
the questions way out of it. Talking out of it,
talk your way out of it. Talk your way out of
it. And I'll ask my way out of it. So what do
you think about this? What do you think? And
then if I do this, what do you think about it?
Yeah, sometimes it's just a touch and feel experience
and not a question and answer experience. And
I had what really, really helped me and kind
of turned it around is Mr. Mocha said, Socrates.
You know how he talked. Socrates. He was like,
it's an art, not a science. And I said, damn,
you're right. Exactly. Yeah. So sometimes you
just have to pretend like you're a blind man
and read the book by Braille. Exactly. I like
that. That's a really good. That's a. Yeah. I
love that. If you're starting out and you have
that nervousness, a lot of what draws the people
into the lifestyle is people watching, right?
We travel around. We like to look at the dynamics.
You sit in the airport, you watch people go by.
Come to this party. And if you're nervous, start
out, sit, observe, watch the couples and see.
Who works what and how they work it. Find somebody
that you like and then emulate what they're doing.
See how they move. See who they go talk to. How
do they do it? How do they dress? Costume ideas.
All that kind of stuff. You can learn through
observation and gain your own self -confidence
through that observation. And then you just go
try. Like every little step everybody takes in
this journey. It's like, ooh, that was fun. I'm
chasing the next high. Let's... Let's do this
next time and see if it works. If you like it,
you do. If you don't, we did it and we're going
to move on. But observation, a big one here.
I love that. I love that. So we do here, we are
here, Smoka, and we do have an audience. So we'd
love to get people's opinion, questions, statements.
If you've been on before a thousand times, you
never have. I'd love to hear anybody want to
say anything or comment. No? Okay. I'm going
to give you the mic. So you just hold it. So
this is Jasmine here. Let me just say, first
and foremost, thank you for putting on this event.
When he first brought it to me, I was like, we're
going where? We're going to do what? Are you
crazy? But once I got in, I did exactly what
you guys said. Just sit back, watch, check it
out. And my first time, I was super, super scared.
I didn't know what to expect. And when I got
here, I felt like I walked into... A family reunion.
And I didn't know anybody. Most incestuous family
reunion. Yeah, it's funny. It's right. Very.
But I just, I felt so comfortable. And then being
able to speak with the guys and how everybody,
that's my biggest thing. Protection. Am I going
to be safe? And I know when I walk in through
these doors for this event, I'm fine. And now
to the point, this is our fifth, right? Fifth
one. Been to Atlanta. All the others, Houston.
I feel so comfortable and just can let go. And
I couldn't do that at first. So I can say this
is one of my best ones yet. So we did sign up
for Atlanta. I know. Before we came here. But
before we came here for this one, I was thinking,
okay, what am I going to do? What haven't I done?
Who haven't I done? That list never runs out.
Yeah, exactly. Exactly. But I had already grown
in my own mindset of exploring and doing more
and saying, hey, I like this guy. Let's see if
we can schedule something or, you know, go and
talk or what have you. But this is an amazing
event for those in the lifestyle, even if you're
brand spanking new. Just try it out and talk
to people who, like you said, talk to people
who have already been here. We'll tell you. We'll
tell you and be brutally honest. But I have to
say this is amazing. So thank you. Thank you
for that. Thank you. When you get to that hot
wifing point in your relationship and you want
to see the single stuff happen, right? The husbands,
it's like an 80 -20. Most of the time the husbands
are out there doing the screening, making all
the communications. sussing out that person and
stuff but there's so much effort work that goes
into that to have it maybe fail you you finally
meet you get it and it just doesn't fire off
it's like oh my god i put all that time and waste
into this and it's frustrated she wasn't happy
it was a bad experience all that kind of stuff
mocha parties it's like fishing in a stock pond
Right. So it's easier for the husbands when you
bring your wife to this. It's like they've done
all that upfront work for you. So now you can
focus on the two of you and what you're going
to get out of the experience, what she's going
to get out of the experience as your hot wife.
You can feed that to her. And then you're like,
oh, I like watching this or I like seeing this
and doing all that. It's all here without all
the effort. Right. So that's some of the investment
that you get the bang for your buck when you
come with these guys, too. So. Yeah, I'm Billy
with Billy's Naughty Girl. She's right over there,
night girl. So, yeah, I'd just like to say that,
man, there's been so much brought up here that's
like, oh, yeah, I got that. I got that. I got
that. But as husbands, you really have to not
be concerned about what's going on. Definitely
the communication before and after. Most definitely.
I had so many words. Now they're gone. What do
you mean by not be concerned? Can you tell us
a little bit more about what you mean by not
be concerned? You know, like, just understand
that, you know, these guys right here, they've
done the vetting. They've done the talking. Yeah,
and all the guys that are here are really good.
Really good. Man, there's so many guys that are
so good. We've actually made some really good
friends here. Even so well that we went to our
10th anniversary last August. It's the only reason
we didn't go to Lauderdale. We went to Vegas,
and one of the guys we met here flew up from
Miami to spend... A weekend in Vegas with us.
And it was a real good time. A real good time.
So you're going to meet real good people here.
Real people, for sure. Yes. And, yeah, we just
really appreciate that. And it makes your playtime
so much better. Like, just, I have a little joke
with the guys. Like, I have to fuck you three
times to figure out if I'm going to be your friend
or not. Yeah. Because I don't want to talk to
you for a month and then meet you and be like,
so I usually am a few words until after we've
played at least once. And then by the time if
I've played with you three times, like we're
pretty good friends. And then we talk about all
kinds of crazy stuff, you know, like, oh, yeah,
like what about this is going on? And, you know,
like it's not very romantic sounding or sensual
sounding, but we're just talking about real life
and we have a little inside jokes. And so you'll
become friends with people and definitely will.
It just makes the play a lot more fun and there's
a lot more laughter and less nerves and less
like seriousness. Yep. So that's the kind of
play I like. It's sport fucking at the end of
the day, right? It's all about fun. It is. But
when you come here, the friendships you make
while you're here is going to translate outside
of Sposh Mocha. You will meet people that you
will continue to talk with outside of the event.
And so many times I talk to. all of our guests,
and by the way, Splash Mocha considers the guys
and the couples guests. Everybody's a guest.
They will have long -term friendships for years
to come outside of the lifestyle. And, you know,
I tell a story that my husband and I were getting
ready to sell our house, and we had to strip
the roof off, put a new roof on to be able to
sell it. And smartass, I put on Facebook, hey,
we got... We're tearing off our roof. Anybody
want to volunteer to come help? Looking for a
good workout. And I was just joking. Do you know
who showed up? Lifestyle friends. Do you know
who didn't show up? Vanilla friends. They were
like, oh, we didn't know you were tearing off
the roof. I'm like, bitch, you drove by my house
three times that day to get to your own damn
house. You knew what we were doing. Where were
you? At least drop off a pizza for those boys.
But it was lifestyle friends that came out. My
husband and I have been in a lifestyle just over
20 years now. And we've made such long -term
friends that I've got friends we met in a lifestyle
that would drive to Hawaii on four flat tires
to help us out if it came down to it. And that
is irreplaceable. These weekends have become
more about the relationships with the people
that come here than it is about the physicality.
Right. That's the pure enjoyment of this is walking
in. We've been to one this year. This is our
second one at the end of the year. And we walk
in like we haven't missed a mocha yet. People
hugging us, kissing us. How you been? What's
going on? Saw on the Facebook that Angel was
in the hospital. What happened? I mean, just
it was it was I don't have these conversations
with my brothers, literal blood brothers. My
family has no clue. I talked to these guys about
everything. You know, it's funny that. About
three years ago, we was doing a podcast with
Michael C and the guys, and we was talking about
friendship. And I was in thought. I said, you
know, my dick comes with friendship. And now
you can find that T -shirt on keysnaker .com.
He turned my fucking pole to a fucking T -shirt.
I'm going to have him make me the shirt that
says, I got to fuck you three times to be your
friend. Yep. I was like, oh my God. We had another
little joke. We went to a cabin with a couple
that we, a cuckold couple that we met here and
we were having a really good time. And I came
down one morning and she's like, I hope you don't
mind. Your hair tie was laying on the table and
I just borrowed it. And she was like, had this
concerned look on her face. And I said, oh bitch,
you can fuck my husband, but you cannot use my
hair tie. So that's become a little joke too
of like, you know, it's pretty funny. OK, well,
we got to be cognizant of the time, guys. So
does anybody want to say anything to kind of
close it out or add something that hasn't been
discussed? This has just been it's been so dope.
Yeah. Come on. I would like to say the one thing
about this again and coming into this lifestyle,
you find your own confidence or you don't see
it in your outside world. I think that's an important
factor that. brings everybody here, because you
discover more about yourself, and it's so awesome.
And I want to say thank you. You're welcome.
We're glad you're here. Did you want to introduce
yourself? Oh, I'm so sorry. I am Billy's naughty
girl. Naughty, mainly. Is she a possum? Okay.
Yeah, I'll speak, all right? No. Okay. And it
is emotional. I remember my first podcast session
that I walked in and they were talking about
body positivity and I was in the back of the
room just sobbing because it was the first place
where I was like, there's literally something
for everyone here, every single body type, especially
for us as women that, you know, struggle with
that, because I just never felt like my body
type was accepted before I came into the, you
know, interracial community. I was just like,
I just thought I was fat. And then to have it,
like, worshipped here is, like, very amazing
and incredible. And, like, every fat roll, every
stretch mark, they're like, oh. And now girls
that are bigger than me or whatever, I say, girl,
your whole body feel like a titty. It's amazing.
Like, don't look down on yourself at all. Like,
it will be worshipped here. Hello, everyone.
My name's Alex. Coming to Slash has been an amazing
and eye -opening experience. I was in a lifestyle
off and on for about six years before I started
coming to Splash. And even then I've learned
so much. From a single male's perspective, one
of the things that really helped me get comfortable
at this environment and still working through
it is when Dimitri had said, like, it's a brotherhood
and truly embrace the brotherhood. And that not
only did it have an effect here, it also took
that outside. And going to different parties,
different events, it adds another layer of connection.
That's just so amazing. And the level of self
-awareness that you learn here, you learn what
play dynamics you're comfortable with. Do you
like to go play in the playrooms? Do you like
to just go to the room parties? Do you like to
do one -on -one? And I think my advice to single
guys is keep an open ear, listen to the mentors.
They're here to help you in this connection.
And also with that, just slow down, take time
to connect. I always love the connection. Yeah,
we do come here for play, but I honestly, my
best experiences have really been the ones where
I've been able to truly connect with people and
get to know them. I love it. I love it. Well,
we can go on all night, but I just want to thank
everybody. Unless you guys have anything else
to say, we really appreciate you guys. I do have
one thing I would like to thank everybody who
has been supporting Splash Mocha from day one.
You guys are what? It keeps us going and it keeps
those wheels turning and makes my job so pleasurable.
It's seeing everybody's happy faces. Thank you.
You can follow me at ChrisMinks23 on Twitter
and ChrisMinks23 on Instagram. If you have other
questions, DM me. I love to talk about the lifestyle.
You guys can also hit us up, thebullbrotherhood
at gmail .com. Send us an email. If you want
to ask anybody about who you've heard today,
communicate and go through us. We'll talk to
them. Thank you guys for showing up and we'll
talk to you later. And then for ladies, I do
have a ladies chat on Telegram, but you can reach
out to me, Siren1982 on Telegram or the Siren
of Freedom at gmail .com. And then, you know,
just get more in depth for the ladies. Have a
good night, everyone. And I don't have any Brian
Morgan things. I'll wake up to you tomorrow.
He says all these sweet nothings, but. Anyways,
Missy Bryant. Thank you, everybody, for listening
to the podcast. This is who we are. Bold, confident,
and seductive. Dominant and classy. We stand
tall, never fall. Bull brotherhood. Luxury untold.