WEBVTT 00:00:02.340 --> 00:00:05.799 Alrighty. Hello, my name is Carlos. My name's 00:00:05.799 --> 00:00:09.179 Ashley. And welcome to Speak Your Chaos. This 00:00:09.179 --> 00:00:12.740 is an anonymous podcast where anybody can speak 00:00:12.740 --> 00:00:15.019 about anything that they would like to speak 00:00:15.019 --> 00:00:17.519 about, whether it be personal life, relationships, 00:00:18.100 --> 00:00:22.379 the past life, if you know that, or anything 00:00:22.379 --> 00:00:24.079 that's going on in your life, somebody else's 00:00:24.079 --> 00:00:27.100 life that you want to vent about, really a whole 00:00:27.100 --> 00:00:29.760 lot of anything. So we're going to go ahead and 00:00:29.760 --> 00:00:33.960 start off. with a 21 year old female who was 00:00:33.960 --> 00:00:37.780 on a call with her boyfriend 23 she says somehow 00:00:37.780 --> 00:00:40.000 the topic of cheating came up he said something 00:00:40.000 --> 00:00:42.460 that really caught me off guard he claimed that 00:00:42.460 --> 00:00:45.060 cheating can be justified his reasoning was that 00:00:45.060 --> 00:00:47.619 if your significant other knows about it then 00:00:47.619 --> 00:00:50.039 it's not really cheating i agreed with that part 00:00:50.039 --> 00:00:53.299 saying that in an open relationship where both 00:00:53.299 --> 00:00:55.359 people consent it wouldn't be considered cheating 00:00:55.359 --> 00:00:58.240 but then he took it a step further and said He 00:00:58.240 --> 00:01:00.219 could even justify cheating behind a partner's 00:01:00.219 --> 00:01:04.000 back. He explained that in his view, men do not 00:01:04.000 --> 00:01:07.540 emotionally cheat and that sometimes they just 00:01:07.540 --> 00:01:10.000 need sex. So if their needs aren't being met, 00:01:10.040 --> 00:01:12.500 stepping out of the relationship is justified, 00:01:12.659 --> 00:01:15.340 especially if they have a family. According to 00:01:15.340 --> 00:01:17.879 him, it prevents the home from being broken. 00:01:19.599 --> 00:01:22.180 I was honestly shocked. I told him that doing 00:01:22.180 --> 00:01:24.680 something like that is so incredibly disrespectful 00:01:24.680 --> 00:01:27.599 that I can deeply hurt your partner. and that 00:01:27.599 --> 00:01:30.500 relationships should be about trust, honesty, 00:01:30.739 --> 00:01:33.799 and integrity. But he just kept saying that men 00:01:33.799 --> 00:01:37.060 do not have an emotional attachment when it can 00:01:37.060 --> 00:01:39.540 just be physical, so everyone ends up happy. 00:01:39.939 --> 00:01:42.260 I don't know. I'm feeling really disgusted and 00:01:42.260 --> 00:01:44.400 kind of turned off right now. It's hard to wrap 00:01:44.400 --> 00:01:46.519 my head around how casually he said all that, 00:01:46.620 --> 00:01:50.760 acting like he's some philosopher. So, in my 00:01:50.760 --> 00:01:56.480 opinion, it sounds like either... This is not 00:01:56.480 --> 00:01:59.739 his first rodeo. He's done this before. Or he 00:01:59.739 --> 00:02:03.780 might want more of an open relationship. And 00:02:03.780 --> 00:02:08.180 this is his way of trying to tell her that he 00:02:08.180 --> 00:02:11.719 wants to possibly sleep with other people. Maybe 00:02:11.719 --> 00:02:14.599 he's hinting that he's not getting his needs 00:02:14.599 --> 00:02:20.379 completely satisfied with her. And he's trying 00:02:20.379 --> 00:02:24.240 to, you know, he might be trying to tell her. 00:02:24.969 --> 00:02:27.810 If I do this, it's okay because you're not meeting 00:02:27.810 --> 00:02:29.469 my needs, but I still want to be with you. Or 00:02:29.469 --> 00:02:32.710 what's your perspective? It just sounds he wants 00:02:32.710 --> 00:02:35.449 a free pass to cheat because he said it really 00:02:35.449 --> 00:02:40.590 casually. Because, I mean, she agreed on some 00:02:40.590 --> 00:02:43.789 of it, but not all of it. So I don't think she's 00:02:43.789 --> 00:02:46.870 on that same wavelength that he wants her to 00:02:46.870 --> 00:02:50.370 be on. So he just wants that free pass. Do you 00:02:50.370 --> 00:02:53.330 think it's something that she should be? considering 00:02:53.330 --> 00:02:57.289 ending her relationship over. For sure. If that's 00:02:57.289 --> 00:02:59.330 not something that she's into, then she needs 00:02:59.330 --> 00:03:02.949 to get out while she can. Yeah. No, I agree. 00:03:03.030 --> 00:03:05.909 I think that she's very young. He's very young. 00:03:06.069 --> 00:03:11.050 He, you know, as a guy that at one point was 00:03:11.050 --> 00:03:13.770 that age, I will say that we definitely think 00:03:13.770 --> 00:03:16.289 of other heads, even if we're in a relationship 00:03:16.289 --> 00:03:19.530 for a longer period of time than I would like 00:03:19.530 --> 00:03:22.860 to admit. Now, granted, not every guy does. but 00:03:22.860 --> 00:03:27.539 a good majority do, and if that's what he wants, 00:03:27.639 --> 00:03:30.280 then he might not be ready in this moment to 00:03:30.280 --> 00:03:33.099 commit to a relationship, or he might just end 00:03:33.099 --> 00:03:35.979 up being that type of person that he wants to 00:03:35.979 --> 00:03:39.360 be with one person forever, but he does want 00:03:39.360 --> 00:03:43.099 to experience other people. It does sound, though, 00:03:43.159 --> 00:03:46.680 like she is definitely not about it, and if she 00:03:46.680 --> 00:03:49.780 isn't, then she needs to get out while she can. 00:03:51.020 --> 00:03:53.259 Yeah, she definitely doesn't sound like she's 00:03:53.259 --> 00:03:56.340 into it at all. If she's already gotten like 00:03:56.340 --> 00:03:59.539 the ick from him, she needs to be like, all right, 00:03:59.539 --> 00:04:02.919 that's my cue to go. You go and find that person 00:04:02.919 --> 00:04:05.360 that you want to have this type of situation 00:04:05.360 --> 00:04:13.639 with and good luck. Yeah. Yeah, definitely not 00:04:13.639 --> 00:04:17.490 going to work out for them at all. All right, 00:04:17.490 --> 00:04:20.310 our next topic, we have my boyfriend of two months 00:04:20.310 --> 00:04:22.769 gave me a super cute necklace about three weeks 00:04:22.769 --> 00:04:26.250 ago that I absolutely loved. Okay, so two months, 00:04:26.290 --> 00:04:29.149 three weeks ago, so like a month and a half that 00:04:29.149 --> 00:04:31.490 we're dating, he gave her a necklace. He told 00:04:31.490 --> 00:04:33.829 me he was going to get me something and that 00:04:33.829 --> 00:04:38.089 he hoped I liked it. I said, oh, that's so sweet. 00:04:38.149 --> 00:04:39.790 And he's going out of his way to get me something. 00:04:40.230 --> 00:04:42.769 Today, I opened a door at his place to put something 00:04:42.769 --> 00:04:45.069 away. And boom, the receipt was there. It said 00:04:45.069 --> 00:04:49.000 February. I was like, wait, but we started dating 00:04:49.000 --> 00:04:52.720 and we met in March. Bit of a shock, but I approached 00:04:52.720 --> 00:04:55.420 him calmly and asked, hey, I saw this receipt. 00:04:55.480 --> 00:04:59.160 What happened? He first shut down, said he bought 00:04:59.160 --> 00:05:02.100 it for his mom. I called him out and said, I 00:05:02.100 --> 00:05:04.079 don't believe you. Tell me the truth. Don't lie 00:05:04.079 --> 00:05:07.040 to me. He ended up admitting he bought it for 00:05:07.040 --> 00:05:10.160 a girl he had two or three dates with. It was 00:05:10.160 --> 00:05:13.899 a Valentine's Day gift prior to him. He then 00:05:13.899 --> 00:05:17.050 decided. He did not want to date this girl. Two 00:05:17.050 --> 00:05:19.569 months later, he gives it to me. It was wrapped 00:05:19.569 --> 00:05:21.490 in a cute gift bag and everything. I told him 00:05:21.490 --> 00:05:23.129 I need some space to think and wear it home. 00:05:23.189 --> 00:05:26.089 He apologized and said he wants to make things 00:05:26.089 --> 00:05:28.850 right, and he did not really think about it when 00:05:28.850 --> 00:05:32.149 he was giving it to me. He just still had it 00:05:32.149 --> 00:05:34.490 and thought I would like it. I feel disappointed, 00:05:34.670 --> 00:05:37.430 but also not sure if I'm overreacting. It feels 00:05:37.430 --> 00:05:40.310 odd because he lied about it first, and because 00:05:40.310 --> 00:05:43.649 he told me he was getting me something, me specifically. 00:05:44.509 --> 00:05:47.610 Just then found out he never actually did. He 00:05:47.610 --> 00:05:49.949 picked that gift for a different girl. He has 00:05:49.949 --> 00:05:52.209 someone else in mind. Just makes me feel not 00:05:52.209 --> 00:05:54.329 special. Makes me feel like a second choice. 00:05:55.069 --> 00:05:58.930 All right. What's your opinion? That sounds like 00:05:58.930 --> 00:06:03.410 a total pop out gift that he just figured I'd 00:06:03.410 --> 00:06:05.470 have it and he'd get rid of it. Let me just give 00:06:05.470 --> 00:06:08.689 it to you and just say I thought about you when 00:06:08.689 --> 00:06:10.910 I got it when reality was totally for someone 00:06:10.910 --> 00:06:16.060 else. Well, as someone who has done this before, 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:21.540 and yes, I have, and I'm not proud of it, I will 00:06:21.540 --> 00:06:26.459 say that he's probably not proud of it, but I 00:06:26.459 --> 00:06:29.779 can see why he did it. It might have been one 00:06:29.779 --> 00:06:33.019 of those things of he just didn't want it to 00:06:33.019 --> 00:06:35.040 go to waste. He's not able to return it. He doesn't 00:06:35.040 --> 00:06:37.160 want to sell it, so he figured, why not? But 00:06:37.160 --> 00:06:38.939 more than likely, she was never meant to find 00:06:38.939 --> 00:06:44.120 out. But to me, it does seem weird that he went 00:06:44.120 --> 00:06:47.459 on a date with a girl, did three dates, bought 00:06:47.459 --> 00:06:50.019 her something, and now he's been with this girl 00:06:50.019 --> 00:06:52.660 for a month and a half, bought her something. 00:06:52.819 --> 00:06:55.000 Or, well, didn't really buy her something, but 00:06:55.000 --> 00:06:58.420 he's giving her something. The fact that he does 00:06:58.420 --> 00:07:01.660 this so soon, to me, it's interesting. It's weird, 00:07:01.740 --> 00:07:05.379 though. I feel like he might be doing it in hopes 00:07:05.379 --> 00:07:08.470 that that person will stay. Or maybe it's his 00:07:08.470 --> 00:07:10.350 love language. Gift giving could just be his 00:07:10.350 --> 00:07:13.490 love language. I don't know. I do feel like he's, 00:07:13.490 --> 00:07:16.310 I mean, two to three days, a month and a half. 00:07:16.589 --> 00:07:21.550 It is too soon to be giving gifts like that. 00:07:21.910 --> 00:07:23.850 And then it makes me wonder how old they are 00:07:23.850 --> 00:07:28.490 because it feels like they're pretty young. Yeah, 00:07:28.529 --> 00:07:31.930 it kind of seems like he's still, it doesn't 00:07:31.930 --> 00:07:33.430 sound like it's his love language because if 00:07:33.430 --> 00:07:35.560 it really was. he would have thought of something 00:07:35.560 --> 00:07:39.600 specifically for her and not re -gift something 00:07:39.600 --> 00:07:41.399 that was supposed to be for someone else. So 00:07:41.399 --> 00:07:45.339 I feel like that's his way of keeping them interested 00:07:45.339 --> 00:07:49.360 in him to continue dating. Because if he bought 00:07:49.360 --> 00:07:53.060 that after two or three dates, I think he felt 00:07:53.060 --> 00:07:57.079 like she wasn't into him and he thought, oh, 00:07:57.199 --> 00:08:00.620 a gift will help. Yeah, and he probably felt 00:08:00.620 --> 00:08:03.639 the same about this girl since it's been... two 00:08:03.639 --> 00:08:05.519 months but he gave it to her probably around 00:08:05.519 --> 00:08:08.180 a month and a half mark and i mean to lie and 00:08:08.180 --> 00:08:10.180 just say that it was for your mom that definitely 00:08:10.180 --> 00:08:13.240 tells me that he is young he probably still lives 00:08:13.240 --> 00:08:15.620 with his parents which is fine but he definitely 00:08:15.620 --> 00:08:19.279 has a younger mentality and he was freaking out 00:08:19.279 --> 00:08:22.860 not knowing what to do so moving on from that 00:08:22.860 --> 00:08:25.579 we have another one another submission which 00:08:25.579 --> 00:08:30.079 is a little interesting and maybe you can have 00:08:30.079 --> 00:08:33.860 a input in this one from your perspective am 00:08:33.860 --> 00:08:36.480 i overreacting or does my menstrual cycle have 00:08:36.480 --> 00:08:40.100 a psychic link to my enemies here is my thing 00:08:40.100 --> 00:08:43.059 i don't get a that time of the month every month 00:08:43.059 --> 00:08:47.240 it happens like at least every three months but 00:08:47.240 --> 00:08:50.019 every time my enemies go out of their way to 00:08:50.019 --> 00:08:52.519 make my personal life a constant struggle, my 00:08:52.519 --> 00:08:55.200 menstrual cycle suddenly begins. What is this? 00:08:55.279 --> 00:08:59.100 Is this some kind of spiritual sign or just another 00:08:59.100 --> 00:09:01.320 medical indication that I need to seek a doctor? 00:09:02.799 --> 00:09:05.419 That is a huge sign to go see a doctor and get 00:09:05.419 --> 00:09:07.700 yourself checked out. It has nothing to do with 00:09:07.700 --> 00:09:10.440 your enemies. That's just a word coincidence 00:09:10.440 --> 00:09:13.360 in my opinion. I think it's hilarious the fact 00:09:13.360 --> 00:09:15.559 that, first of all, why do you have enemies? 00:09:15.679 --> 00:09:19.539 What did you do? Who did you hurt? And saying 00:09:19.539 --> 00:09:24.299 my enemies go out of their way to make my personal 00:09:24.299 --> 00:09:27.840 life a constant struggle. I think you definitely 00:09:27.840 --> 00:09:33.220 need to get help with not only a medical professional 00:09:33.220 --> 00:09:36.179 for your periods, but you also need to get some 00:09:36.179 --> 00:09:38.779 type of therapy or you need to figure out what 00:09:38.779 --> 00:09:42.659 might be going on in life that you have people 00:09:42.659 --> 00:09:45.639 that you are calling your enemies to begin with. 00:09:47.570 --> 00:09:50.070 Alrighty, so for this next one, this one might 00:09:50.070 --> 00:09:53.809 be a little bit triggering to some moms out there. 00:09:54.769 --> 00:09:58.370 So, this seems so stupid, but I genuinely need 00:09:58.370 --> 00:10:00.289 to know if there's red flags. I'm not saying. 00:10:00.610 --> 00:10:04.629 I'm a 30 -year -old single mom of one. He has 00:10:04.629 --> 00:10:07.769 no kids. We've been together for one year. He 00:10:07.769 --> 00:10:11.669 bought all of us Pizza Hut tonight. He goes to 00:10:11.669 --> 00:10:14.250 leave and takes everything. Two boxes of pizza 00:10:14.250 --> 00:10:17.279 and two boneless wound containers. I ask him 00:10:17.279 --> 00:10:19.620 if I can have two slices because I only consumed 00:10:19.620 --> 00:10:22.860 one piece. My son ate two because I've been struggling 00:10:22.860 --> 00:10:26.019 financially and it could be our breakfast. He 00:10:26.019 --> 00:10:30.159 says, no, this is my pizza. I bought it. My son 00:10:30.159 --> 00:10:33.039 even went out to his car after he was leaving 00:10:33.039 --> 00:10:36.120 and he asked him if he could have some of the 00:10:36.120 --> 00:10:38.740 pizza. And he said no in a very serious tone, 00:10:38.879 --> 00:10:42.220 which is what my son told me. Earlier, he made 00:10:42.220 --> 00:10:44.500 a joke when I asked him to sit closer to me. 00:10:44.889 --> 00:10:47.269 I love language. It's physical touch. He said, 00:10:47.330 --> 00:10:49.090 well, it's not like I didn't buy a whole meal 00:10:49.090 --> 00:10:52.570 for all of us, which I felt like was an out -of 00:10:52.570 --> 00:10:55.730 -pocket comment. He could have easily left to 00:10:55.730 --> 00:10:58.309 his place and bought his own meal without us. 00:10:58.389 --> 00:11:00.730 I'm always grateful and thankful when he pays 00:11:00.730 --> 00:11:03.730 for food, but this was so out of character. There 00:11:03.730 --> 00:11:06.029 isn't one time that he comes over that he doesn't 00:11:06.029 --> 00:11:08.429 grab from my fridge or pantry, and I don't mind 00:11:08.429 --> 00:11:10.830 it because it's my boyfriend of one freaking 00:11:10.830 --> 00:11:14.480 year. I hate that I brought that card out, but 00:11:14.480 --> 00:11:17.240 I'm trying to give him perspective that we are 00:11:17.240 --> 00:11:19.220 a couple and we share things, especially food. 00:11:19.379 --> 00:11:22.320 He proceeds to slam the pizza in front of my 00:11:22.320 --> 00:11:25.200 doorstep. Then he gets into his car and he speeds 00:11:25.200 --> 00:11:33.600 away. What do you think? Well, number one, when 00:11:33.600 --> 00:11:37.360 he met her, I'm sure she told him, I have a child. 00:11:37.799 --> 00:11:42.590 They're X age, so they... know essentially what's 00:11:42.590 --> 00:11:46.070 going on so he can't say he didn't know she didn't 00:11:46.070 --> 00:11:48.830 have a kid he was blindsided especially since 00:11:48.830 --> 00:11:51.090 they've been dating for a year this kid just 00:11:51.090 --> 00:11:54.129 didn't pop out of nowhere so if you're gonna 00:11:54.129 --> 00:11:57.190 buy a meal and you know you're taking it to her 00:11:57.190 --> 00:12:00.070 house and you know the kid is there obviously 00:12:00.070 --> 00:12:03.850 why are you gonna be greedy and then say i'm 00:12:03.850 --> 00:12:05.889 gonna take the rest with me granted you have 00:12:05.889 --> 00:12:11.259 that right totally fair but You know your girl 00:12:11.259 --> 00:12:17.379 is struggling and you can't be even like a gentleman 00:12:17.379 --> 00:12:19.799 enough to be like, you know what, let me at least 00:12:19.799 --> 00:12:22.960 leave you a box or even just a couple slices. 00:12:23.419 --> 00:12:26.039 That way your kid has something to eat in the 00:12:26.039 --> 00:12:28.559 morning. I know it's a little tight right now 00:12:28.559 --> 00:12:32.480 with money and stuff. Let me help you. Because 00:12:32.480 --> 00:12:34.940 she obviously ain't slapping his hand away every 00:12:34.940 --> 00:12:36.399 time he gets there and goes straight for her 00:12:36.399 --> 00:12:39.490 fridge or straight for her pantry. Because I 00:12:39.490 --> 00:12:43.909 know some people that would do that. So, I feel 00:12:43.909 --> 00:12:46.669 like he's just, he's not ready to be in that 00:12:46.669 --> 00:12:49.549 type of relationship and he needs to, like, leave. 00:12:50.129 --> 00:12:53.450 She needs to, like, tell him to go. Yeah, and 00:12:53.450 --> 00:12:55.029 I don't even think it has anything to do with 00:12:55.029 --> 00:12:57.990 the kid. I just think that, like, just from what, 00:12:58.070 --> 00:13:01.750 you know, just from what she said about he took 00:13:01.750 --> 00:13:04.470 everything and I asked him if we could have, 00:13:04.649 --> 00:13:07.190 you know, two slices for breakfast and he said 00:13:07.190 --> 00:13:13.590 no. Like, why not? If you're taking two boxes 00:13:13.590 --> 00:13:17.110 of pizza home, what is giving her two slices 00:13:17.110 --> 00:13:20.490 for her and her kid? What does that do to you? 00:13:20.549 --> 00:13:23.409 Why does that offend you or hurt you or bother 00:13:23.409 --> 00:13:25.029 you in any way, shape, or form? What does that 00:13:25.029 --> 00:13:29.549 do to you? And then for her kid, who's clearly 00:13:29.549 --> 00:13:33.549 old enough to speak and walk and do whatever, 00:13:33.809 --> 00:13:38.889 for him to go out to his car. To the boyfriend's 00:13:38.889 --> 00:13:42.909 car. And ask for the pizza. And you still tell 00:13:42.909 --> 00:13:45.929 that kid no. I don't know. Well first of all. 00:13:46.029 --> 00:13:47.370 I don't think the kid should have gone to begin 00:13:47.370 --> 00:13:49.070 with. I don't think she should have let the kid 00:13:49.070 --> 00:13:52.250 go. I think that's. That's a boundary that she 00:13:52.250 --> 00:13:53.870 should have been like. No like don't worry about 00:13:53.870 --> 00:13:55.070 it. We'll figure it out. I'll figure it out. 00:13:55.090 --> 00:13:57.190 Whatever the case. You don't have to go begging 00:13:57.190 --> 00:14:01.929 someone for food. But I feel like the fact. I 00:14:01.929 --> 00:14:04.289 feel like he did feel bad afterwards. And that's 00:14:04.289 --> 00:14:07.350 why he left it at the doorstep. But he was being 00:14:07.350 --> 00:14:10.250 a dick about it, which is him slamming the pizza 00:14:10.250 --> 00:14:12.649 and then speeding away. But I definitely feel 00:14:12.649 --> 00:14:14.789 like if that's how you're going to act for having 00:14:14.789 --> 00:14:19.389 a kid, that's a red flag. That's a big no. And, 00:14:19.429 --> 00:14:22.769 you know, you are 30. You're still young. And 00:14:22.769 --> 00:14:24.610 just because you have a kid doesn't mean that 00:14:24.610 --> 00:14:28.610 you can't find someone that'll respect you and 00:14:28.610 --> 00:14:32.370 your child and feed y 'all. And like she said. 00:14:33.050 --> 00:14:35.549 She's struggling right now financially, so that 00:14:35.549 --> 00:14:38.049 would have helped. And he should be able to understand 00:14:38.049 --> 00:14:43.230 that. So, I don't know. I say, maybe he was having 00:14:43.230 --> 00:14:45.789 a bad day. Maybe y 'all could talk about it. 00:14:46.830 --> 00:14:49.009 Or maybe it's just time for you to get the fuck 00:14:49.009 --> 00:14:52.029 out. Especially because you have a kid. And then 00:14:52.029 --> 00:14:55.909 it also makes me think, how soon did he meet 00:14:55.909 --> 00:15:00.210 the kid? If they've only been dating for a year 00:15:00.210 --> 00:15:04.690 and he's over with food, you know? Yeah. I mean, 00:15:04.730 --> 00:15:09.029 like I said, he has every right to say, like, 00:15:09.049 --> 00:15:11.389 no, this is for my lunch, but it's two whole 00:15:11.389 --> 00:15:14.149 boxes. And then the other thing, too, that kind 00:15:14.149 --> 00:15:17.549 of is... Oh, yeah. Another thing, too, that's 00:15:17.549 --> 00:15:21.649 kind of like a red flag, or at least a pinkish 00:15:21.649 --> 00:15:26.009 flag, is the comment of, well, I bought us all 00:15:26.009 --> 00:15:29.769 a meal. Okay, but how many times does she buy 00:15:29.769 --> 00:15:33.250 food to make for you, or... that you were there 00:15:33.250 --> 00:15:36.990 for, for that meal that she paid. I don't, you 00:15:36.990 --> 00:15:39.169 don't hear her ever make comments. If you're, 00:15:39.169 --> 00:15:41.450 you know what I mean? Like if you got to make 00:15:41.450 --> 00:15:43.470 that comment, there's obviously a disconnect 00:15:43.470 --> 00:15:48.330 somewhere that should have been spoken about 00:15:48.330 --> 00:15:52.350 already. Yeah. It seems like he's, he might be 00:15:52.350 --> 00:15:55.629 the, I bought you and your, your kid a meal. 00:15:55.710 --> 00:15:58.110 You should be thankful to me and grateful to 00:15:58.110 --> 00:16:01.460 me and blah, blah. And it's like, no. That's 00:16:01.460 --> 00:16:04.519 not the way it works. You can fuck off. Exactly. 00:16:06.039 --> 00:16:08.059 Because, I mean, she was obviously making it 00:16:08.059 --> 00:16:11.440 before him. She can make it after him. There's 00:16:11.440 --> 00:16:15.759 no reason that she needs to be like, oh, thank 00:16:15.759 --> 00:16:18.399 you so much, my savior. You bought me pizza. 00:16:19.379 --> 00:16:22.519 Yeah, and, you know, you don't need pizza. Fuck 00:16:22.519 --> 00:16:24.539 him. You can get some Little Caesars, some Walmart 00:16:24.539 --> 00:16:29.610 pizzas. Hey, it'll fucking do. Exactly. All right, 00:16:29.629 --> 00:16:31.730 next one. Me and my fiance agree to not like 00:16:31.730 --> 00:16:35.950 photos or bikini summer photos on social media 00:16:35.950 --> 00:16:39.669 or gym photos. Today I saw that he did the opposite. 00:16:40.070 --> 00:16:42.250 He already broke the boundary once and he apologized 00:16:42.250 --> 00:16:45.190 for it. He did it again recently. I don't know. 00:16:45.210 --> 00:16:47.070 It always bothers me when my partner likes gym 00:16:47.070 --> 00:16:50.909 photos on social media or photos of a girl in 00:16:50.909 --> 00:16:53.909 a bikini. I'm not fat and I'm not ugly. At least 00:16:53.909 --> 00:16:56.210 I think so. It just makes me feel some type of 00:16:56.210 --> 00:16:59.159 way. Should I get rid of it? For real and not 00:16:59.159 --> 00:17:03.360 say anything or what should I do? I don't think 00:17:03.360 --> 00:17:07.019 it's that big of a deal if you have talked about 00:17:07.019 --> 00:17:09.579 it before. If you've talked about it before and 00:17:09.579 --> 00:17:11.160 be like, hey, I'm uncomfortable if you're doing 00:17:11.160 --> 00:17:15.339 this and they're still doing it, which I mean, 00:17:15.380 --> 00:17:18.019 like she said, we agreed to not like those type 00:17:18.019 --> 00:17:21.210 of pictures, then. Yeah, you know, obviously 00:17:21.210 --> 00:17:23.230 you feel uncomfortable with it. You feel insecure 00:17:23.230 --> 00:17:26.009 about it, whatever the case. So you don't want 00:17:26.009 --> 00:17:28.150 your significant other liking those pictures. 00:17:29.049 --> 00:17:31.170 It is what it is. Obviously, you know, he's looking 00:17:31.170 --> 00:17:33.509 at them, but you don't want him to express the 00:17:33.509 --> 00:17:35.910 fact that he likes it by double tapping on the 00:17:35.910 --> 00:17:38.250 photo or whatever the case. I do agree that that 00:17:38.250 --> 00:17:41.950 boundary should be respected because it's been 00:17:41.950 --> 00:17:45.509 spoken about. But I don't really think it's that. 00:17:46.539 --> 00:17:53.000 as big of a deal as she might think it is I agree 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:56.400 with you on that like just because I know Mia 00:17:56.400 --> 00:17:59.619 as a person I really don't care like you go ahead 00:17:59.619 --> 00:18:01.940 like all the pictures you want like all the bikini 00:18:01.940 --> 00:18:05.559 pics all the gym pics that's on you that's your 00:18:05.559 --> 00:18:09.880 preference but if I've clearly said you know 00:18:09.880 --> 00:18:15.099 what I have some insecurities like it bothers 00:18:15.099 --> 00:18:19.960 me that you're doing that and you just don't 00:18:19.960 --> 00:18:21.619 care and you're still doing it and you're crossing 00:18:21.619 --> 00:18:24.640 that boundary, then she definitely needs to reconsider 00:18:24.640 --> 00:18:28.319 and have that conversation with him. Because 00:18:28.319 --> 00:18:33.059 it's not about the pictures itself. It's about 00:18:33.059 --> 00:18:35.240 the boundary that's being crossed that's making 00:18:35.240 --> 00:18:38.579 her feel uncomfortable. Because I'm pretty sure 00:18:38.579 --> 00:18:41.519 she has some type of confidence, but she might 00:18:41.519 --> 00:18:45.400 have a little bit of insecurity. Most girls do. 00:18:46.700 --> 00:18:50.059 you know so i feel like maybe that's just a conversation 00:18:50.059 --> 00:18:52.839 she needs to have with him be like hey don't 00:18:52.839 --> 00:18:55.720 care what the picture is like what the picture 00:18:55.720 --> 00:18:58.359 is it's the fact that you're liking it even after 00:18:58.359 --> 00:19:01.720 i've already expressed like i have some insecurities 00:19:01.720 --> 00:19:04.079 about this i don't like it don't cross the boundary 00:19:04.079 --> 00:19:07.180 again type of thing yeah and i also feel like 00:19:07.180 --> 00:19:08.740 it's a conversation they need to have in the 00:19:08.740 --> 00:19:12.549 sense of like maybe he's not complimenting her 00:19:12.549 --> 00:19:14.970 in certain ways, or he's not giving her that 00:19:14.970 --> 00:19:18.930 affirmation, and that's why she might be getting 00:19:18.930 --> 00:19:21.509 upset, too, of the fact that he's liking other 00:19:21.509 --> 00:19:25.930 girls' pictures. Yeah. Alright, the next one 00:19:25.930 --> 00:19:28.549 is a little bit gross, and remember, it is the 00:19:28.549 --> 00:19:30.430 summertime, please wear deodorant. So, I work 00:19:30.430 --> 00:19:32.710 a lot in confined spaces, parts of the job. Sometimes 00:19:32.710 --> 00:19:35.309 we'd need an extra set of hands in there. Usually, 00:19:35.390 --> 00:19:37.369 I wouldn't care if someone has a bit of body 00:19:37.369 --> 00:19:39.190 odor at the end of the day, because, you know, 00:19:39.269 --> 00:19:41.869 we all sweat in this job. Recently, this one 00:19:41.869 --> 00:19:44.730 coworker has been smelling of shit, and it reeks. 00:19:44.849 --> 00:19:46.809 The other day, I lost my cool when he left the 00:19:46.809 --> 00:19:48.890 area and made the foreman replace him because 00:19:48.890 --> 00:19:51.430 I couldn't stand to work another second besides 00:19:51.430 --> 00:19:55.089 him. Turns out he had shit himself before work, 00:19:55.089 --> 00:19:57.650 and instead of going home, he just had a bit 00:19:57.650 --> 00:20:01.869 of a birdbath in the toilet and thought that's 00:20:01.869 --> 00:20:04.309 good enough, everyone will get used to it. He's 00:20:04.309 --> 00:20:06.750 angry with me for making a scene and exposing 00:20:06.750 --> 00:20:09.579 him and embarrassing him. But I feel like he 00:20:09.579 --> 00:20:11.940 chose that path as soon as he decided not to 00:20:11.940 --> 00:20:14.839 leave and get a change of clothes or take a shower. 00:20:15.319 --> 00:20:18.539 So he's a foreman. He does some type of blue 00:20:18.539 --> 00:20:23.480 -collar job. Yeah, if you're working, like, I 00:20:23.480 --> 00:20:26.279 can't stand working next to someone and just 00:20:26.279 --> 00:20:28.220 being able to smell their pits because they're 00:20:28.220 --> 00:20:30.660 sweaty and they didn't bother to put on deodorant. 00:20:31.259 --> 00:20:34.619 So imagine you working in a small space next 00:20:34.619 --> 00:20:38.529 to someone who shit themselves. still is wearing 00:20:38.529 --> 00:20:43.309 what they took a shit in and didn't know. Absolutely. 00:20:43.329 --> 00:20:46.769 That's unsanitary. That's not healthy. That's 00:20:46.769 --> 00:20:50.289 nasty. That's fucking disgusting. And then the 00:20:50.289 --> 00:20:52.710 fact that he took a birdbath in the toilets at 00:20:52.710 --> 00:20:56.150 work, that's fucking nasty. So I don't blame 00:20:56.150 --> 00:21:03.029 you for outing the guy and making him basically 00:21:03.029 --> 00:21:06.349 get sent home. I would too. That's nasty as fuck. 00:21:09.420 --> 00:21:12.119 My question is, did he use actual toilet water 00:21:12.119 --> 00:21:14.240 or did he use the sink? Because that wasn't clarified. 00:21:14.599 --> 00:21:19.099 I would assume it's a sink, but... Well... I 00:21:19.099 --> 00:21:22.819 mean, if you... He stayed in the shit -stained 00:21:22.819 --> 00:21:26.880 clothes, so I don't know. Exactly. Maybe he did 00:21:26.880 --> 00:21:31.160 use the toilet, which, again, just go home. Just 00:21:31.160 --> 00:21:36.700 make something up or just... I don't know. Your 00:21:36.700 --> 00:21:39.880 turtle died. You have to go home. something, 00:21:39.980 --> 00:21:43.019 make something up, go home and change and wash 00:21:43.019 --> 00:21:47.500 your fucking ass. And then imagine if he has 00:21:47.500 --> 00:21:51.059 to have lunch with them and he says, no. No, 00:21:51.180 --> 00:21:55.359 absolutely not. Absolutely the fuck not. Alright, 00:21:55.480 --> 00:21:58.400 my partner and I have been together for three 00:21:58.400 --> 00:22:00.160 years and have a ten month old baby together. 00:22:01.339 --> 00:22:03.599 At the beginning of our relationship, he told 00:22:03.599 --> 00:22:05.500 me pretty openly he originally was messaging 00:22:05.500 --> 00:22:08.490 a mutual friend of ours. just purely looking 00:22:08.490 --> 00:22:12.029 for friendship prior to meeting me this was over 00:22:12.029 --> 00:22:14.029 facebook which is how we met over a facebook 00:22:14.029 --> 00:22:16.690 group originally i thought maybe he started messaging 00:22:16.690 --> 00:22:19.349 her because she was pretty and he was single 00:22:19.349 --> 00:22:21.990 so why not then i came into the picture he stopped 00:22:21.990 --> 00:22:24.930 messaging her and here we are three years later 00:22:24.930 --> 00:22:28.029 i was looking for something on his phone and 00:22:28.029 --> 00:22:30.990 when i opened it it was already in his instagram 00:22:30.990 --> 00:22:35.180 messages The first message under mine was from 00:22:35.180 --> 00:22:38.319 this girl that had messaged yesterday. I had 00:22:38.319 --> 00:22:42.279 to look. My mind just wondered why. The first 00:22:42.279 --> 00:22:44.460 thing he says is that she's looking good. He 00:22:44.460 --> 00:22:47.200 hopes she's doing well. She replied, thanks, 00:22:47.460 --> 00:22:49.960 I'm trying. That was it. End of conversation. 00:22:50.339 --> 00:22:53.420 Now, I was under the assumption he thought telling 00:22:53.420 --> 00:22:55.440 another woman she's looking good is borderline 00:22:55.440 --> 00:22:59.779 cheating. He's made it clear he has strict boundaries 00:22:59.779 --> 00:23:03.369 there. Now, am I overreacting? Please tell me 00:23:03.369 --> 00:23:07.069 that I am. So, I don't feel like he's cheating 00:23:07.069 --> 00:23:08.950 by telling another girl that she looks good. 00:23:09.049 --> 00:23:11.930 You can compliment other people. I mean, in my 00:23:11.930 --> 00:23:15.569 opinion, it's fine to compliment other people. 00:23:15.650 --> 00:23:18.609 Maybe not if you had an interest in them prior. 00:23:19.670 --> 00:23:24.329 But, I don't know. All he said was, hey, you're 00:23:24.329 --> 00:23:28.430 looking good. Hope all is well. You know. But 00:23:28.430 --> 00:23:33.089 that also... says and shows that clearly he was 00:23:33.089 --> 00:23:35.089 looking at her Instagram, checking out her photos, 00:23:35.150 --> 00:23:39.190 and he has a thing, whether it be, you know, 00:23:39.190 --> 00:23:42.049 some type of physical attraction, whatever the 00:23:42.049 --> 00:23:44.309 case, he does have an attraction for her. So 00:23:44.309 --> 00:23:47.630 maybe messaging her wasn't the best idea, but 00:23:47.630 --> 00:23:49.410 it's not like a, hey, you look good, I want to 00:23:49.410 --> 00:23:52.710 fuck. So I don't think that it would be considered 00:23:52.710 --> 00:23:56.569 cheating. And obviously the girl has no interest. 00:23:57.329 --> 00:24:00.640 She said, thanks, I'm trying. That's it. That 00:24:00.640 --> 00:24:02.559 was the end of the conversation. So she either 00:24:02.559 --> 00:24:05.039 has absolutely no interest or she knows that 00:24:05.039 --> 00:24:07.980 he is with someone. She's clearly a girl's girl, 00:24:08.059 --> 00:24:11.079 if that's the case. And she shut that down before 00:24:11.079 --> 00:24:15.019 it could begin. So I don't I do think she's overreacting 00:24:15.019 --> 00:24:18.500 a little bit, but I feel like. You know, they 00:24:18.500 --> 00:24:21.339 do have a newborn together. I could see how she 00:24:21.339 --> 00:24:23.619 could look at it in many different ways because 00:24:23.619 --> 00:24:27.299 they just are family. But I do think it's. it 00:24:27.299 --> 00:24:29.720 is overreacting a little bit. What do you think? 00:24:30.660 --> 00:24:35.460 I think it's overreacting a lot of it, not a 00:24:35.460 --> 00:24:39.460 little bit. But we also have to take into consideration 00:24:39.460 --> 00:24:43.579 that she's still dealing with postpartum hormones 00:24:43.579 --> 00:24:46.720 and all that good stuff. So she's going to be 00:24:46.720 --> 00:24:50.980 completely out of whack in that sense. But clearly, 00:24:51.200 --> 00:24:53.799 homegirl that he messaged was like, yeah, I'm 00:24:53.799 --> 00:24:56.130 just trying. and then that was it. There was 00:24:56.130 --> 00:24:59.569 no, like, oh, thanks, you know, I'm doing what 00:24:59.569 --> 00:25:01.910 I can, but, you know, making it sound more flirty. 00:25:02.069 --> 00:25:03.890 She kind of just like, yeah, thanks, cool, bro, 00:25:03.990 --> 00:25:08.509 and left it at that. Obviously, she has no interest, 00:25:08.609 --> 00:25:12.809 and the fact that he just said, like, hope all 00:25:12.809 --> 00:25:15.089 is well, like, it didn't sound like he was trying 00:25:15.089 --> 00:25:19.670 to, like, open that door to get more of a, like, 00:25:19.750 --> 00:25:22.630 flirtation thing going. It was just more of a, 00:25:22.690 --> 00:25:26.599 like, hey i used to talk to you you know we knew 00:25:26.599 --> 00:25:29.200 each other from before how are you doing hope 00:25:29.200 --> 00:25:33.900 you're good type of thing but i can also see 00:25:33.900 --> 00:25:37.140 that she might be like that is like him opening 00:25:37.140 --> 00:25:41.299 the door to try to talk to someone else in a 00:25:41.299 --> 00:25:45.779 way that it's non -friendship type so i don't 00:25:45.779 --> 00:25:49.519 i feel like she's definitely overreacting The 00:25:49.519 --> 00:25:52.599 question is if it's extremely overreacting or 00:25:52.599 --> 00:25:57.460 like just in general. Yeah. And I feel like just 00:25:57.460 --> 00:25:59.380 like with the past ones that we've spoken about, 00:25:59.480 --> 00:26:02.500 there may be some type of underlying security 00:26:02.500 --> 00:26:04.859 there that she just needs to talk to him about. 00:26:04.900 --> 00:26:07.720 And they need to come to some type of a middle 00:26:07.720 --> 00:26:11.099 ground and really figure it out. Speaking of. 00:26:12.009 --> 00:26:14.170 Here's another one. I don't know how to handle 00:26:14.170 --> 00:26:16.109 just finding out that my boyfriend still watches 00:26:16.109 --> 00:26:18.910 porn four and a half years after being together. 00:26:19.170 --> 00:26:22.349 It's porn like fetish porn. Brought it up. He 00:26:22.349 --> 00:26:24.609 said it was a clickbait mistake. The next thing 00:26:24.609 --> 00:26:26.349 he knew, he was watching it and enjoying it. 00:26:26.529 --> 00:26:28.609 He had never looked at anything like that before, 00:26:28.769 --> 00:26:30.970 but I looked at his phone because I had a crazy 00:26:30.970 --> 00:26:34.029 dream that woke me up from a complete deep sleep 00:26:34.029 --> 00:26:35.710 and immediately grabbed his phone because I thought 00:26:35.710 --> 00:26:38.309 he was cheating and looking at recent apps. He 00:26:38.309 --> 00:26:41.519 had read it open with porn. Looked up. He was 00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:44.019 watching it on Reddit. You have to search what 00:26:44.019 --> 00:26:47.259 you want. He searched some things that were not 00:26:47.259 --> 00:26:49.680 normal and embarrassing to talk about, so he 00:26:49.680 --> 00:26:52.519 says. So he didn't really talk about it much. 00:26:52.779 --> 00:26:55.259 For my girls out there, what do I do? It's been 00:26:55.259 --> 00:26:57.799 almost five years in the relationship, and now 00:26:57.799 --> 00:27:00.220 I'm finding out that he's into this weird -ass 00:27:00.220 --> 00:27:04.980 porn that he's reading or looking at on Reddit. 00:27:06.099 --> 00:27:12.869 I'll leave this one to you. Okay, so I'm... I 00:27:12.869 --> 00:27:15.509 don't think it's funny as fuck. It's funny. It 00:27:15.509 --> 00:27:17.549 is funny. I'm going to agree with you on that. 00:27:17.549 --> 00:27:22.170 It is hilarious because I was raised with a lot 00:27:22.170 --> 00:27:24.990 of brothers. I wasn't really around a lot of 00:27:24.990 --> 00:27:30.269 girls, so I don't see the big deal about it. 00:27:30.970 --> 00:27:35.009 So he likes some freaky shit. Name one person 00:27:35.009 --> 00:27:40.259 that doesn't, but that's my opinion. You went 00:27:40.259 --> 00:27:43.180 looking through the phones. My thing is always, 00:27:43.319 --> 00:27:46.240 if you go looking, you're gonna find something 00:27:46.240 --> 00:27:48.319 that's gonna hurt your feelings or you're gonna 00:27:48.319 --> 00:27:52.579 get the ick. Don't look. You already know, obviously, 00:27:52.700 --> 00:27:59.259 he's watching porn still. He's a guy. But I think 00:27:59.259 --> 00:28:03.359 after five years, now she should be finding out 00:28:03.359 --> 00:28:07.519 that he's watching some freaky shit. I mean... 00:28:08.089 --> 00:28:10.049 At least she can say she's still learning something 00:28:10.049 --> 00:28:12.910 new from him that many years into the relationship. 00:28:14.450 --> 00:28:20.490 I think it's just because it's not a big deal 00:28:20.490 --> 00:28:23.910 to me, in my opinion. I don't ever see that as 00:28:23.910 --> 00:28:27.569 an issue. I have not seen why she sees it as 00:28:27.569 --> 00:28:30.769 an issue, I guess. Now, if it's something that 00:28:30.769 --> 00:28:33.970 he wants her to do for him, that's a different 00:28:33.970 --> 00:28:36.440 story. that's a conversation that they need to 00:28:36.440 --> 00:28:38.279 have but if it's just something that he's watching 00:28:38.279 --> 00:28:42.359 just to get whatever kicks he get out of it then 00:28:42.359 --> 00:28:44.400 it shouldn't be that big of an issue because 00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:46.940 she's not being asked to participate in that 00:28:46.940 --> 00:28:51.859 type of freaky shit you know yeah yeah i see 00:28:51.859 --> 00:28:55.039 what you're saying so we'll go ahead and end 00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:59.680 it with one more which is a little nasty not 00:28:59.680 --> 00:29:05.539 in a good way so i 24 male level from my roommate 00:29:05.539 --> 00:29:09.680 25 mil in a two -bedroom apartment we've been 00:29:09.680 --> 00:29:11.619 friends since college and we moved in together 00:29:11.619 --> 00:29:14.900 about six months ago at first everything seemed 00:29:14.900 --> 00:29:17.859 fine he paid rent on time he wasn't loud and 00:29:17.859 --> 00:29:21.099 we had a very decent system going we agreed on 00:29:21.099 --> 00:29:24.400 pretty much everything lately i started noticing 00:29:24.400 --> 00:29:26.799 this really weird smell in the apartment i deep 00:29:26.799 --> 00:29:29.900 cleaned my entire room The kitchen, the bathroom, 00:29:30.200 --> 00:29:32.819 it still lingered and I could not get rid of 00:29:32.819 --> 00:29:35.619 it and I could not find it. A few days back, 00:29:35.799 --> 00:29:38.180 I was vacuuming and the smell was even worse 00:29:38.180 --> 00:29:41.599 when I was near his room. He was out, so I opened 00:29:41.599 --> 00:29:44.339 his room and I peeked in. I wasn't trying to 00:29:44.339 --> 00:29:47.680 snoop. I was just trying to figure out where 00:29:47.680 --> 00:29:50.220 the hell was the smell coming from and if something 00:29:50.220 --> 00:29:54.380 had died in his room. I wish I hadn't looked. 00:29:55.240 --> 00:30:01.039 Under his bed. I found 12 old bottles of water 00:30:01.039 --> 00:30:07.740 filled with what now I know is pee. Literal urine 00:30:07.740 --> 00:30:11.940 in bottles under his bed. I was so grossed out, 00:30:12.140 --> 00:30:14.980 I just left the apartment and stayed at my sister's 00:30:14.980 --> 00:30:17.700 for the night. When I confronted him the next 00:30:17.700 --> 00:30:20.160 day, he got defensive and said sometimes he's 00:30:20.160 --> 00:30:22.559 too lazy to go to the bathroom and it's not that 00:30:22.559 --> 00:30:25.279 deep. I asked him to please throw them out and 00:30:25.279 --> 00:30:28.259 clean up his room. and cleaned the carpet but 00:30:28.259 --> 00:30:31.359 it's been five days they're still there the smell 00:30:31.359 --> 00:30:33.660 is still there he's also acting like i was the 00:30:33.660 --> 00:30:36.279 one who crossed the line by going into his room 00:30:36.279 --> 00:30:38.599 now i'm seriously considering breaking the lease 00:30:38.599 --> 00:30:42.869 and moving out early my friends are split. Some 00:30:42.869 --> 00:30:44.990 say it's disgusting and I have every right to 00:30:44.990 --> 00:30:47.650 leave. Others think I'm being dramatic and that 00:30:47.650 --> 00:30:50.069 I should give him another chance since he's not 00:30:50.069 --> 00:30:52.609 hurting anyone. But I feel like I'm living in 00:30:52.609 --> 00:30:55.450 a frat house, biohazard zone, and I literally 00:30:55.450 --> 00:31:00.609 gag when I walk past his room. I say if he doesn't 00:31:00.609 --> 00:31:03.049 clean up the piss, you get the fuck out. One, 00:31:03.269 --> 00:31:05.569 that's disgusting. That's fucking nasty. You 00:31:05.569 --> 00:31:08.109 should not be living in, I mean, you're not living 00:31:08.109 --> 00:31:11.170 in urine. Your area's clean. But the fact that 00:31:11.170 --> 00:31:14.269 it's lingering and that could bring animals and 00:31:14.269 --> 00:31:17.130 that could just, just how lazy are you? Where 00:31:17.130 --> 00:31:19.789 is your bathroom? Where is your bathroom that 00:31:19.789 --> 00:31:22.390 you are so lazy that you cannot, you need a porta 00:31:22.390 --> 00:31:25.069 potty in your bedroom because you can buy a porta 00:31:25.069 --> 00:31:29.150 potty on Amazon. So that's my thing. Why bottles 00:31:29.150 --> 00:31:32.190 of water? Why not just go to the bathroom? What 00:31:32.190 --> 00:31:35.809 are you doing that is so important that you can't 00:31:35.809 --> 00:31:41.099 walk 5, 10, 15 feet to the bathroom? To the toilet. 00:31:41.460 --> 00:31:44.299 I don't understand. But I think that's nastiest 00:31:44.299 --> 00:31:47.980 luck. And I think that if he. So far he has 12 00:31:47.980 --> 00:31:51.220 bottles of water. And they've been together. 00:31:51.500 --> 00:31:55.180 Or living together for six months. She's just 00:31:55.180 --> 00:32:00.880 noticing. Or he's just noticing. Now. So. When 00:32:00.880 --> 00:32:04.539 did this start? Was it six months ago? Was it 00:32:04.539 --> 00:32:07.259 a month ago? When did this start? How long has 00:32:07.259 --> 00:32:09.599 it been going on and why now all of a sudden, 00:32:09.640 --> 00:32:12.440 if it just started, why now all of a sudden is 00:32:12.440 --> 00:32:15.599 he feeling so lazy that he can't make his way 00:32:15.599 --> 00:32:17.819 to the bathroom? What changed? What changed in 00:32:17.819 --> 00:32:21.119 his behavior? Is he depressed? But either way, 00:32:21.220 --> 00:32:25.019 that's fucking nasty. And I feel like that's 00:32:25.019 --> 00:32:30.900 some type of like health hazard. And I agree 00:32:30.900 --> 00:32:34.150 if things don't change. break the lease especially 00:32:34.150 --> 00:32:36.549 if it's carpet that shit's gonna stay in there 00:32:36.549 --> 00:32:39.930 forever you have to replace the carpet so i agree 00:32:39.930 --> 00:32:42.230 break the lease if he doesn't get it back together 00:32:42.230 --> 00:32:50.609 i have two questions why why is it so many bottles 00:32:50.609 --> 00:32:53.730 number one number two why is this strong why 00:32:53.730 --> 00:32:58.029 is the odor that strong like are you okay that's 00:32:58.029 --> 00:32:59.349 something you might need to go get checked out 00:32:59.349 --> 00:33:04.059 by your doctor the other thing is I wouldn't 00:33:04.059 --> 00:33:06.880 even give him the chance to clean up because 00:33:06.880 --> 00:33:09.779 obviously if he's saying you're making a big 00:33:09.779 --> 00:33:12.140 deal out of it he's not gonna clean it up he 00:33:12.140 --> 00:33:15.880 has no intention to clean it up and he was probably 00:33:15.880 --> 00:33:20.440 gonna end up leaving before you could and leave 00:33:20.440 --> 00:33:25.500 you stuck having to deal with you know all that 00:33:25.500 --> 00:33:29.349 stuff from the apartment complex like You know, 00:33:29.349 --> 00:33:31.930 the cleaning up fee, the carpet, all of that. 00:33:32.170 --> 00:33:35.390 So I think dude should just pack up his stuff 00:33:35.390 --> 00:33:38.589 and get out while he has a chance. Because I 00:33:38.589 --> 00:33:40.470 don't think his roommate is going to be cleaning 00:33:40.470 --> 00:33:44.250 up after himself. If anything, it might get worse. 00:33:45.230 --> 00:33:47.190 No, I feel like now because he brought it up, 00:33:47.210 --> 00:33:48.970 his roommate is going to go pee on his clothes 00:33:48.970 --> 00:33:52.789 or something. That's nasty. That's just gross. 00:33:54.269 --> 00:33:57.220 Okay. There is one more regarding pee, so I figured 00:33:57.220 --> 00:33:59.420 we would talk about that one too. And this one's 00:33:59.420 --> 00:34:01.700 a dating one. So I've been dating this guy. Okay, 00:34:01.759 --> 00:34:03.299 just back to that one. That's fucking nasty. 00:34:03.420 --> 00:34:06.240 Break your lease, get out. Anyways, so I've been 00:34:06.240 --> 00:34:08.400 dating this guy for about a month. He's been 00:34:08.400 --> 00:34:10.699 really nice. I've noticed that he drinks pretty 00:34:10.699 --> 00:34:13.300 often. That's a quality I don't like, but it 00:34:13.300 --> 00:34:15.679 wasn't anything too crazy that it really bothered 00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:18.039 me that much. One night, he had a couple of mixed 00:34:18.039 --> 00:34:20.699 drinks and took a melatonin. I didn't think much 00:34:20.699 --> 00:34:23.289 of it at the time. I was over at his house, spent 00:34:23.289 --> 00:34:26.570 the night, we went to bed. An hour after we went 00:34:26.570 --> 00:34:29.349 to bed, he randomly gets up. I ask him, are you 00:34:29.349 --> 00:34:32.409 okay? He then proceeds to go to the corner of 00:34:32.409 --> 00:34:37.309 his bedroom and piss on the floor. I was horrified. 00:34:37.610 --> 00:34:40.269 I didn't know what to do. I yelled for him to 00:34:40.269 --> 00:34:44.269 wake up and stop, but he didn't. He emptied the 00:34:44.269 --> 00:34:47.550 tank completely and then just went back to bed 00:34:47.550 --> 00:34:50.440 like it was nothing. I got up and went to the 00:34:50.440 --> 00:34:52.780 couch to gather my thoughts. I then woke him 00:34:52.780 --> 00:34:56.000 up. He apologized and he cleaned all of it. Since 00:34:56.000 --> 00:34:59.239 then, I've just been completely disturbed. I 00:34:59.239 --> 00:35:01.519 don't believe in getting the ick, but this is 00:35:01.519 --> 00:35:03.400 definitely the closest thing I've experienced 00:35:03.400 --> 00:35:06.619 to that. I realize this could be the mix of melatonin 00:35:06.619 --> 00:35:09.099 and whatnot. Maybe he was sleepwalking. Who knows? 00:35:09.639 --> 00:35:13.099 I can't look past this. I can't stop thinking 00:35:13.099 --> 00:35:15.440 about it. It's still bothering me to this day. 00:35:15.719 --> 00:35:19.480 It's just grossed me out so much. Am I overreacting? 00:35:19.679 --> 00:35:22.539 Should I stay? Should I leave? Should I bother 00:35:22.539 --> 00:35:25.280 spending the night at his house again? What should 00:35:25.280 --> 00:35:27.639 I do? We've only been together for one month. 00:35:29.059 --> 00:35:34.219 Well, few questions. One, how old are you? If 00:35:34.219 --> 00:35:38.400 you're like in your 40s, 30s, and this is happening, 00:35:38.599 --> 00:35:44.599 what the fuck? If you're in your 20s, if you're 00:35:44.599 --> 00:35:50.050 even 19, 20. 21 25 whatever your boy does not 00:35:50.050 --> 00:35:52.130 know how to control his liquor or maybe he just 00:35:52.130 --> 00:35:54.929 shouldn't be drinking and taking melatonin which 00:35:54.929 --> 00:35:58.130 fucks up a lot of people or maybe he should just 00:35:58.130 --> 00:36:00.510 go pee before bed and break the seal i don't 00:36:00.510 --> 00:36:03.730 know but i do feel like the way she described 00:36:03.730 --> 00:36:07.530 it it it feels like to me like he woke like he 00:36:07.530 --> 00:36:10.769 was sleepwalking went to the corner peed and 00:36:10.769 --> 00:36:15.139 got back into bed and it's like I mean, at least 00:36:15.139 --> 00:36:16.739 he was apologetic and he went and cleaned it 00:36:16.739 --> 00:36:20.539 up. He wasn't like Mr. 12 bottled guy. Who clearly 00:36:20.539 --> 00:36:22.079 doesn't give a fuck about anyone but himself. 00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:27.320 But. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. 00:36:27.320 --> 00:36:29.199 Would I break up with someone over this? Would 00:36:29.199 --> 00:36:35.400 I do it? I think so. But then it's like. I mean, 00:36:35.420 --> 00:36:39.119 it's bad, but it could be worse. And he was apologetic. 00:36:39.139 --> 00:36:42.949 He cleaned it up. Maybe just. Stay at his house. 00:36:42.949 --> 00:36:44.670 It's been a month. He could be a serial killer. 00:36:45.050 --> 00:36:47.269 I don't know. I don't know. What do you think? 00:36:47.829 --> 00:36:50.889 To me, it sounds like he obviously makes two 00:36:50.889 --> 00:36:53.429 things that you shouldn't have mixed. And he 00:36:53.429 --> 00:36:56.429 thought maybe he was in the bathroom, which is 00:36:56.429 --> 00:36:58.849 why he just went to the corner, did his business 00:36:58.849 --> 00:37:03.030 and then went back to sleep. And he woke up and 00:37:03.030 --> 00:37:07.389 realized what happened. And I mean, if that is 00:37:07.389 --> 00:37:09.309 the case, then maybe he shouldn't be mixing the 00:37:09.309 --> 00:37:13.019 two together. But at least. He was like. Oh shit. 00:37:13.639 --> 00:37:17.360 I did do that. Let me clean up. And hopefully 00:37:17.360 --> 00:37:20.960 she'll look past it. But obviously she can't. 00:37:20.960 --> 00:37:25.119 And I don't blame the girl. But to me. That would 00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:28.139 have been a funny story. To joke about later 00:37:28.139 --> 00:37:31.300 on. But even though she said. She doesn't get 00:37:31.300 --> 00:37:34.420 the ick. She obviously did. And it's early enough 00:37:34.420 --> 00:37:37.019 in their relationship. That she can just be like. 00:37:37.619 --> 00:37:42.210 Yeah. I can't move past that. That's gross. I 00:37:42.210 --> 00:37:45.170 gotta go and find someone else that can handle 00:37:45.170 --> 00:37:49.130 their shit. Maybe she should go date the guy 00:37:49.130 --> 00:37:53.289 of the roommate of the other guy. 12 bottles? 00:37:53.750 --> 00:37:57.150 Well, no, not 12 bottles, but the one that cleans 00:37:57.150 --> 00:37:59.570 the fucking house. Not the one that pisses everywhere. 00:37:59.769 --> 00:38:02.269 And then 12 bottles and this guy would be good 00:38:02.269 --> 00:38:05.530 friends. But yeah, I agree. I think it was probably 00:38:05.530 --> 00:38:07.969 just the melatonin. Either that or he was really 00:38:07.969 --> 00:38:12.989 fucking wasted. And he thought that was the bathroom. 00:38:13.309 --> 00:38:14.989 You know, I feel like if he would have had a 00:38:14.989 --> 00:38:16.909 cat, he would have 10 out of 10 gone for that 00:38:16.909 --> 00:38:20.730 fucking litter box. Oh, for sure. For sure. But, 00:38:20.909 --> 00:38:25.570 no, I mean, I don't think it's that bad. I don't 00:38:25.570 --> 00:38:28.050 think she's overreacting because I get it. But 00:38:28.050 --> 00:38:30.309 I don't think it's that bad to where you need 00:38:30.309 --> 00:38:34.690 to break up with him. I think that it was probably 00:38:34.690 --> 00:38:38.889 just a shitty circumstance. Could have been worse. 00:38:40.480 --> 00:38:43.179 he could have taken a dump in the corner he could 00:38:43.179 --> 00:38:44.679 have taken a shit in the corner that would have 00:38:44.679 --> 00:38:47.119 been really fucking nasty honestly though but 00:38:47.119 --> 00:38:49.800 when the way she described it she made it sound 00:38:49.800 --> 00:38:53.239 like I don't know if you remember the scene in 00:38:53.239 --> 00:38:55.360 Big Daddy where he takes the kid on the side 00:38:55.360 --> 00:39:01.039 of the building to pee oh yeah it literally sounds 00:39:01.039 --> 00:39:03.480 like that's what was happening that he just ignored 00:39:03.480 --> 00:39:06.699 her and went pee didn't care if she was there 00:39:06.699 --> 00:39:10.159 or not But clearly he was really under the influence 00:39:10.159 --> 00:39:14.739 and just didn't know what he was doing. Honestly, 00:39:14.840 --> 00:39:17.739 he could have just been sleepwalking. Yeah, that's 00:39:17.739 --> 00:39:21.039 what my thought is. Yeah, I think he was just 00:39:21.039 --> 00:39:23.659 sleepwalking the entire time, went to the corner, 00:39:23.860 --> 00:39:29.699 peed, but then she woke him up after she sat 00:39:29.699 --> 00:39:33.460 on the couch and thought about life and he cleaned 00:39:33.460 --> 00:39:36.699 it up and he was sorry. maybe we'll find out 00:39:36.699 --> 00:39:41.139 if he's ever done that again maybe not yeah maybe 00:39:41.139 --> 00:39:43.320 he learned his lesson to not mix alcohol and 00:39:43.320 --> 00:39:50.159 melatonin yeah or just know your limit and if 00:39:50.159 --> 00:39:52.659 you didn't break the seal already break the seal 00:39:52.659 --> 00:39:58.760 yeah going to bed and push come to shove they 00:39:58.760 --> 00:40:04.150 do so on diapers If you can't hold it. Which, 00:40:04.190 --> 00:40:05.650 you know what? That might actually be a good 00:40:05.650 --> 00:40:09.090 idea for a 12 -bottle guy. Yeah. That might be. 00:40:09.289 --> 00:40:12.909 Maybe. Or they sell those portable potties, too. 00:40:13.130 --> 00:40:15.969 Maybe he needs one of those. Well, he wouldn't 00:40:15.969 --> 00:40:17.929 use them anyways because you have to empty those 00:40:17.929 --> 00:40:20.510 out, too. That's true. But what's he going to 00:40:20.510 --> 00:40:22.289 do? Just wait until there's fucking 50 bottles 00:40:22.289 --> 00:40:26.269 under his bed? Probably. And they're in an apartment. 00:40:26.289 --> 00:40:28.489 I would just tell the apartment. I would go to 00:40:28.489 --> 00:40:30.900 the office and be like, listen. This guy's passing 00:40:30.900 --> 00:40:36.639 all over. I would leave. I wouldn't even say 00:40:36.639 --> 00:40:39.900 nothing. I'd just pack up what I brought and 00:40:39.900 --> 00:40:46.139 dip. I wouldn't even know. I agree. I would be 00:40:46.139 --> 00:40:50.940 out. I would bounce. I would be very gone. On 00:40:50.940 --> 00:40:54.880 that note, we are done with episode one for tonight. 00:40:55.039 --> 00:40:59.889 You can catch Speaker Chaos on pretty much every 00:40:59.889 --> 00:41:02.030 platform, whether it be Apple, whether it be 00:41:02.030 --> 00:41:05.469 Spotify, YouTube, Instagram, TikTok. You can 00:41:05.469 --> 00:41:09.110 catch us everywhere that you listen to your podcast, 00:41:09.230 --> 00:41:12.590 even the places that you may not know it's there. 00:41:12.750 --> 00:41:15.630 Just look us up. We'll more than likely be there. 00:41:16.409 --> 00:41:19.269 Thank you for listening. Thank you for being 00:41:19.269 --> 00:41:21.449 here. Appreciate you guys and have a good night. 00:41:22.090 --> 00:41:22.769 Good night.