Alrighty. Hello, my name is Carlos. My name's
Ashley. And welcome to Speak Your Chaos. This
is an anonymous podcast where anybody can speak
about anything that they would like to speak
about, whether it be personal life, relationships,
the past life, if you know that, or anything
that's going on in your life, somebody else's
life that you want to vent about, really a whole
lot of anything. So we're going to go ahead and
start off. with a 21 year old female who was
on a call with her boyfriend 23 she says somehow
the topic of cheating came up he said something
that really caught me off guard he claimed that
cheating can be justified his reasoning was that
if your significant other knows about it then
it's not really cheating i agreed with that part
saying that in an open relationship where both
people consent it wouldn't be considered cheating
but then he took it a step further and said He
could even justify cheating behind a partner's
back. He explained that in his view, men do not
emotionally cheat and that sometimes they just
need sex. So if their needs aren't being met,
stepping out of the relationship is justified,
especially if they have a family. According to
him, it prevents the home from being broken.
I was honestly shocked. I told him that doing
something like that is so incredibly disrespectful
that I can deeply hurt your partner. and that
relationships should be about trust, honesty,
and integrity. But he just kept saying that men
do not have an emotional attachment when it can
just be physical, so everyone ends up happy.
I don't know. I'm feeling really disgusted and
kind of turned off right now. It's hard to wrap
my head around how casually he said all that,
acting like he's some philosopher. So, in my
opinion, it sounds like either... This is not
his first rodeo. He's done this before. Or he
might want more of an open relationship. And
this is his way of trying to tell her that he
wants to possibly sleep with other people. Maybe
he's hinting that he's not getting his needs
completely satisfied with her. And he's trying
to, you know, he might be trying to tell her.
If I do this, it's okay because you're not meeting
my needs, but I still want to be with you. Or
what's your perspective? It just sounds he wants
a free pass to cheat because he said it really
casually. Because, I mean, she agreed on some
of it, but not all of it. So I don't think she's
on that same wavelength that he wants her to
be on. So he just wants that free pass. Do you
think it's something that she should be? considering
ending her relationship over. For sure. If that's
not something that she's into, then she needs
to get out while she can. Yeah. No, I agree.
I think that she's very young. He's very young.
He, you know, as a guy that at one point was
that age, I will say that we definitely think
of other heads, even if we're in a relationship
for a longer period of time than I would like
to admit. Now, granted, not every guy does. but
a good majority do, and if that's what he wants,
then he might not be ready in this moment to
commit to a relationship, or he might just end
up being that type of person that he wants to
be with one person forever, but he does want
to experience other people. It does sound, though,
like she is definitely not about it, and if she
isn't, then she needs to get out while she can.
Yeah, she definitely doesn't sound like she's
into it at all. If she's already gotten like
the ick from him, she needs to be like, all right,
that's my cue to go. You go and find that person
that you want to have this type of situation
with and good luck. Yeah. Yeah, definitely not
going to work out for them at all. All right,
our next topic, we have my boyfriend of two months
gave me a super cute necklace about three weeks
ago that I absolutely loved. Okay, so two months,
three weeks ago, so like a month and a half that
we're dating, he gave her a necklace. He told
me he was going to get me something and that
he hoped I liked it. I said, oh, that's so sweet.
And he's going out of his way to get me something.
Today, I opened a door at his place to put something
away. And boom, the receipt was there. It said
February. I was like, wait, but we started dating
and we met in March. Bit of a shock, but I approached
him calmly and asked, hey, I saw this receipt.
What happened? He first shut down, said he bought
it for his mom. I called him out and said, I
don't believe you. Tell me the truth. Don't lie
to me. He ended up admitting he bought it for
a girl he had two or three dates with. It was
a Valentine's Day gift prior to him. He then
decided. He did not want to date this girl. Two
months later, he gives it to me. It was wrapped
in a cute gift bag and everything. I told him
I need some space to think and wear it home.
He apologized and said he wants to make things
right, and he did not really think about it when
he was giving it to me. He just still had it
and thought I would like it. I feel disappointed,
but also not sure if I'm overreacting. It feels
odd because he lied about it first, and because
he told me he was getting me something, me specifically.
Just then found out he never actually did. He
picked that gift for a different girl. He has
someone else in mind. Just makes me feel not
special. Makes me feel like a second choice.
All right. What's your opinion? That sounds like
a total pop out gift that he just figured I'd
have it and he'd get rid of it. Let me just give
it to you and just say I thought about you when
I got it when reality was totally for someone
else. Well, as someone who has done this before,
and yes, I have, and I'm not proud of it, I will
say that he's probably not proud of it, but I
can see why he did it. It might have been one
of those things of he just didn't want it to
go to waste. He's not able to return it. He doesn't
want to sell it, so he figured, why not? But
more than likely, she was never meant to find
out. But to me, it does seem weird that he went
on a date with a girl, did three dates, bought
her something, and now he's been with this girl
for a month and a half, bought her something.
Or, well, didn't really buy her something, but
he's giving her something. The fact that he does
this so soon, to me, it's interesting. It's weird,
though. I feel like he might be doing it in hopes
that that person will stay. Or maybe it's his
love language. Gift giving could just be his
love language. I don't know. I do feel like he's,
I mean, two to three days, a month and a half.
It is too soon to be giving gifts like that.
And then it makes me wonder how old they are
because it feels like they're pretty young. Yeah,
it kind of seems like he's still, it doesn't
sound like it's his love language because if
it really was. he would have thought of something
specifically for her and not re -gift something
that was supposed to be for someone else. So
I feel like that's his way of keeping them interested
in him to continue dating. Because if he bought
that after two or three dates, I think he felt
like she wasn't into him and he thought, oh,
a gift will help. Yeah, and he probably felt
the same about this girl since it's been... two
months but he gave it to her probably around
a month and a half mark and i mean to lie and
just say that it was for your mom that definitely
tells me that he is young he probably still lives
with his parents which is fine but he definitely
has a younger mentality and he was freaking out
not knowing what to do so moving on from that
we have another one another submission which
is a little interesting and maybe you can have
a input in this one from your perspective am
i overreacting or does my menstrual cycle have
a psychic link to my enemies here is my thing
i don't get a that time of the month every month
it happens like at least every three months but
every time my enemies go out of their way to
make my personal life a constant struggle, my
menstrual cycle suddenly begins. What is this?
Is this some kind of spiritual sign or just another
medical indication that I need to seek a doctor?
That is a huge sign to go see a doctor and get
yourself checked out. It has nothing to do with
your enemies. That's just a word coincidence
in my opinion. I think it's hilarious the fact
that, first of all, why do you have enemies?
What did you do? Who did you hurt? And saying
my enemies go out of their way to make my personal
life a constant struggle. I think you definitely
need to get help with not only a medical professional
for your periods, but you also need to get some
type of therapy or you need to figure out what
might be going on in life that you have people
that you are calling your enemies to begin with.
Alrighty, so for this next one, this one might
be a little bit triggering to some moms out there.
So, this seems so stupid, but I genuinely need
to know if there's red flags. I'm not saying.
I'm a 30 -year -old single mom of one. He has
no kids. We've been together for one year. He
bought all of us Pizza Hut tonight. He goes to
leave and takes everything. Two boxes of pizza
and two boneless wound containers. I ask him
if I can have two slices because I only consumed
one piece. My son ate two because I've been struggling
financially and it could be our breakfast. He
says, no, this is my pizza. I bought it. My son
even went out to his car after he was leaving
and he asked him if he could have some of the
pizza. And he said no in a very serious tone,
which is what my son told me. Earlier, he made
a joke when I asked him to sit closer to me.
I love language. It's physical touch. He said,
well, it's not like I didn't buy a whole meal
for all of us, which I felt like was an out -of
-pocket comment. He could have easily left to
his place and bought his own meal without us.
I'm always grateful and thankful when he pays
for food, but this was so out of character. There
isn't one time that he comes over that he doesn't
grab from my fridge or pantry, and I don't mind
it because it's my boyfriend of one freaking
year. I hate that I brought that card out, but
I'm trying to give him perspective that we are
a couple and we share things, especially food.
He proceeds to slam the pizza in front of my
doorstep. Then he gets into his car and he speeds
away. What do you think? Well, number one, when
he met her, I'm sure she told him, I have a child.
They're X age, so they... know essentially what's
going on so he can't say he didn't know she didn't
have a kid he was blindsided especially since
they've been dating for a year this kid just
didn't pop out of nowhere so if you're gonna
buy a meal and you know you're taking it to her
house and you know the kid is there obviously
why are you gonna be greedy and then say i'm
gonna take the rest with me granted you have
that right totally fair but You know your girl
is struggling and you can't be even like a gentleman
enough to be like, you know what, let me at least
leave you a box or even just a couple slices.
That way your kid has something to eat in the
morning. I know it's a little tight right now
with money and stuff. Let me help you. Because
she obviously ain't slapping his hand away every
time he gets there and goes straight for her
fridge or straight for her pantry. Because I
know some people that would do that. So, I feel
like he's just, he's not ready to be in that
type of relationship and he needs to, like, leave.
She needs to, like, tell him to go. Yeah, and
I don't even think it has anything to do with
the kid. I just think that, like, just from what,
you know, just from what she said about he took
everything and I asked him if we could have,
you know, two slices for breakfast and he said
no. Like, why not? If you're taking two boxes
of pizza home, what is giving her two slices
for her and her kid? What does that do to you?
Why does that offend you or hurt you or bother
you in any way, shape, or form? What does that
do to you? And then for her kid, who's clearly
old enough to speak and walk and do whatever,
for him to go out to his car. To the boyfriend's
car. And ask for the pizza. And you still tell
that kid no. I don't know. Well first of all.
I don't think the kid should have gone to begin
with. I don't think she should have let the kid
go. I think that's. That's a boundary that she
should have been like. No like don't worry about
it. We'll figure it out. I'll figure it out.
Whatever the case. You don't have to go begging
someone for food. But I feel like the fact. I
feel like he did feel bad afterwards. And that's
why he left it at the doorstep. But he was being
a dick about it, which is him slamming the pizza
and then speeding away. But I definitely feel
like if that's how you're going to act for having
a kid, that's a red flag. That's a big no. And,
you know, you are 30. You're still young. And
just because you have a kid doesn't mean that
you can't find someone that'll respect you and
your child and feed y 'all. And like she said.
She's struggling right now financially, so that
would have helped. And he should be able to understand
that. So, I don't know. I say, maybe he was having
a bad day. Maybe y 'all could talk about it.
Or maybe it's just time for you to get the fuck
out. Especially because you have a kid. And then
it also makes me think, how soon did he meet
the kid? If they've only been dating for a year
and he's over with food, you know? Yeah. I mean,
like I said, he has every right to say, like,
no, this is for my lunch, but it's two whole
boxes. And then the other thing, too, that kind
of is... Oh, yeah. Another thing, too, that's
kind of like a red flag, or at least a pinkish
flag, is the comment of, well, I bought us all
a meal. Okay, but how many times does she buy
food to make for you, or... that you were there
for, for that meal that she paid. I don't, you
don't hear her ever make comments. If you're,
you know what I mean? Like if you got to make
that comment, there's obviously a disconnect
somewhere that should have been spoken about
already. Yeah. It seems like he's, he might be
the, I bought you and your, your kid a meal.
You should be thankful to me and grateful to
me and blah, blah. And it's like, no. That's
not the way it works. You can fuck off. Exactly.
Because, I mean, she was obviously making it
before him. She can make it after him. There's
no reason that she needs to be like, oh, thank
you so much, my savior. You bought me pizza.
Yeah, and, you know, you don't need pizza. Fuck
him. You can get some Little Caesars, some Walmart
pizzas. Hey, it'll fucking do. Exactly. All right,
next one. Me and my fiance agree to not like
photos or bikini summer photos on social media
or gym photos. Today I saw that he did the opposite.
He already broke the boundary once and he apologized
for it. He did it again recently. I don't know.
It always bothers me when my partner likes gym
photos on social media or photos of a girl in
a bikini. I'm not fat and I'm not ugly. At least
I think so. It just makes me feel some type of
way. Should I get rid of it? For real and not
say anything or what should I do? I don't think
it's that big of a deal if you have talked about
it before. If you've talked about it before and
be like, hey, I'm uncomfortable if you're doing
this and they're still doing it, which I mean,
like she said, we agreed to not like those type
of pictures, then. Yeah, you know, obviously
you feel uncomfortable with it. You feel insecure
about it, whatever the case. So you don't want
your significant other liking those pictures.
It is what it is. Obviously, you know, he's looking
at them, but you don't want him to express the
fact that he likes it by double tapping on the
photo or whatever the case. I do agree that that
boundary should be respected because it's been
spoken about. But I don't really think it's that.
as big of a deal as she might think it is I agree
with you on that like just because I know Mia
as a person I really don't care like you go ahead
like all the pictures you want like all the bikini
pics all the gym pics that's on you that's your
preference but if I've clearly said you know
what I have some insecurities like it bothers
me that you're doing that and you just don't
care and you're still doing it and you're crossing
that boundary, then she definitely needs to reconsider
and have that conversation with him. Because
it's not about the pictures itself. It's about
the boundary that's being crossed that's making
her feel uncomfortable. Because I'm pretty sure
she has some type of confidence, but she might
have a little bit of insecurity. Most girls do.
you know so i feel like maybe that's just a conversation
she needs to have with him be like hey don't
care what the picture is like what the picture
is it's the fact that you're liking it even after
i've already expressed like i have some insecurities
about this i don't like it don't cross the boundary
again type of thing yeah and i also feel like
it's a conversation they need to have in the
sense of like maybe he's not complimenting her
in certain ways, or he's not giving her that
affirmation, and that's why she might be getting
upset, too, of the fact that he's liking other
girls' pictures. Yeah. Alright, the next one
is a little bit gross, and remember, it is the
summertime, please wear deodorant. So, I work
a lot in confined spaces, parts of the job. Sometimes
we'd need an extra set of hands in there. Usually,
I wouldn't care if someone has a bit of body
odor at the end of the day, because, you know,
we all sweat in this job. Recently, this one
coworker has been smelling of shit, and it reeks.
The other day, I lost my cool when he left the
area and made the foreman replace him because
I couldn't stand to work another second besides
him. Turns out he had shit himself before work,
and instead of going home, he just had a bit
of a birdbath in the toilet and thought that's
good enough, everyone will get used to it. He's
angry with me for making a scene and exposing
him and embarrassing him. But I feel like he
chose that path as soon as he decided not to
leave and get a change of clothes or take a shower.
So he's a foreman. He does some type of blue
-collar job. Yeah, if you're working, like, I
can't stand working next to someone and just
being able to smell their pits because they're
sweaty and they didn't bother to put on deodorant.
So imagine you working in a small space next
to someone who shit themselves. still is wearing
what they took a shit in and didn't know. Absolutely.
That's unsanitary. That's not healthy. That's
nasty. That's fucking disgusting. And then the
fact that he took a birdbath in the toilets at
work, that's fucking nasty. So I don't blame
you for outing the guy and making him basically
get sent home. I would too. That's nasty as fuck.
My question is, did he use actual toilet water
or did he use the sink? Because that wasn't clarified.
I would assume it's a sink, but... Well... I
mean, if you... He stayed in the shit -stained
clothes, so I don't know. Exactly. Maybe he did
use the toilet, which, again, just go home. Just
make something up or just... I don't know. Your
turtle died. You have to go home. something,
make something up, go home and change and wash
your fucking ass. And then imagine if he has
to have lunch with them and he says, no. No,
absolutely not. Absolutely the fuck not. Alright,
my partner and I have been together for three
years and have a ten month old baby together.
At the beginning of our relationship, he told
me pretty openly he originally was messaging
a mutual friend of ours. just purely looking
for friendship prior to meeting me this was over
facebook which is how we met over a facebook
group originally i thought maybe he started messaging
her because she was pretty and he was single
so why not then i came into the picture he stopped
messaging her and here we are three years later
i was looking for something on his phone and
when i opened it it was already in his instagram
messages The first message under mine was from
this girl that had messaged yesterday. I had
to look. My mind just wondered why. The first
thing he says is that she's looking good. He
hopes she's doing well. She replied, thanks,
I'm trying. That was it. End of conversation.
Now, I was under the assumption he thought telling
another woman she's looking good is borderline
cheating. He's made it clear he has strict boundaries
there. Now, am I overreacting? Please tell me
that I am. So, I don't feel like he's cheating
by telling another girl that she looks good.
You can compliment other people. I mean, in my
opinion, it's fine to compliment other people.
Maybe not if you had an interest in them prior.
But, I don't know. All he said was, hey, you're
looking good. Hope all is well. You know. But
that also... says and shows that clearly he was
looking at her Instagram, checking out her photos,
and he has a thing, whether it be, you know,
some type of physical attraction, whatever the
case, he does have an attraction for her. So
maybe messaging her wasn't the best idea, but
it's not like a, hey, you look good, I want to
fuck. So I don't think that it would be considered
cheating. And obviously the girl has no interest.
She said, thanks, I'm trying. That's it. That
was the end of the conversation. So she either
has absolutely no interest or she knows that
he is with someone. She's clearly a girl's girl,
if that's the case. And she shut that down before
it could begin. So I don't I do think she's overreacting
a little bit, but I feel like. You know, they
do have a newborn together. I could see how she
could look at it in many different ways because
they just are family. But I do think it's. it
is overreacting a little bit. What do you think?
I think it's overreacting a lot of it, not a
little bit. But we also have to take into consideration
that she's still dealing with postpartum hormones
and all that good stuff. So she's going to be
completely out of whack in that sense. But clearly,
homegirl that he messaged was like, yeah, I'm
just trying. and then that was it. There was
no, like, oh, thanks, you know, I'm doing what
I can, but, you know, making it sound more flirty.
She kind of just like, yeah, thanks, cool, bro,
and left it at that. Obviously, she has no interest,
and the fact that he just said, like, hope all
is well, like, it didn't sound like he was trying
to, like, open that door to get more of a, like,
flirtation thing going. It was just more of a,
like, hey i used to talk to you you know we knew
each other from before how are you doing hope
you're good type of thing but i can also see
that she might be like that is like him opening
the door to try to talk to someone else in a
way that it's non -friendship type so i don't
i feel like she's definitely overreacting The
question is if it's extremely overreacting or
like just in general. Yeah. And I feel like just
like with the past ones that we've spoken about,
there may be some type of underlying security
there that she just needs to talk to him about.
And they need to come to some type of a middle
ground and really figure it out. Speaking of.
Here's another one. I don't know how to handle
just finding out that my boyfriend still watches
porn four and a half years after being together.
It's porn like fetish porn. Brought it up. He
said it was a clickbait mistake. The next thing
he knew, he was watching it and enjoying it.
He had never looked at anything like that before,
but I looked at his phone because I had a crazy
dream that woke me up from a complete deep sleep
and immediately grabbed his phone because I thought
he was cheating and looking at recent apps. He
had read it open with porn. Looked up. He was
watching it on Reddit. You have to search what
you want. He searched some things that were not
normal and embarrassing to talk about, so he
says. So he didn't really talk about it much.
For my girls out there, what do I do? It's been
almost five years in the relationship, and now
I'm finding out that he's into this weird -ass
porn that he's reading or looking at on Reddit.
I'll leave this one to you. Okay, so I'm... I
don't think it's funny as fuck. It's funny. It
is funny. I'm going to agree with you on that.
It is hilarious because I was raised with a lot
of brothers. I wasn't really around a lot of
girls, so I don't see the big deal about it.
So he likes some freaky shit. Name one person
that doesn't, but that's my opinion. You went
looking through the phones. My thing is always,
if you go looking, you're gonna find something
that's gonna hurt your feelings or you're gonna
get the ick. Don't look. You already know, obviously,
he's watching porn still. He's a guy. But I think
after five years, now she should be finding out
that he's watching some freaky shit. I mean...
At least she can say she's still learning something
new from him that many years into the relationship.
I think it's just because it's not a big deal
to me, in my opinion. I don't ever see that as
an issue. I have not seen why she sees it as
an issue, I guess. Now, if it's something that
he wants her to do for him, that's a different
story. that's a conversation that they need to
have but if it's just something that he's watching
just to get whatever kicks he get out of it then
it shouldn't be that big of an issue because
she's not being asked to participate in that
type of freaky shit you know yeah yeah i see
what you're saying so we'll go ahead and end
it with one more which is a little nasty not
in a good way so i 24 male level from my roommate
25 mil in a two -bedroom apartment we've been
friends since college and we moved in together
about six months ago at first everything seemed
fine he paid rent on time he wasn't loud and
we had a very decent system going we agreed on
pretty much everything lately i started noticing
this really weird smell in the apartment i deep
cleaned my entire room The kitchen, the bathroom,
it still lingered and I could not get rid of
it and I could not find it. A few days back,
I was vacuuming and the smell was even worse
when I was near his room. He was out, so I opened
his room and I peeked in. I wasn't trying to
snoop. I was just trying to figure out where
the hell was the smell coming from and if something
had died in his room. I wish I hadn't looked.
Under his bed. I found 12 old bottles of water
filled with what now I know is pee. Literal urine
in bottles under his bed. I was so grossed out,
I just left the apartment and stayed at my sister's
for the night. When I confronted him the next
day, he got defensive and said sometimes he's
too lazy to go to the bathroom and it's not that
deep. I asked him to please throw them out and
clean up his room. and cleaned the carpet but
it's been five days they're still there the smell
is still there he's also acting like i was the
one who crossed the line by going into his room
now i'm seriously considering breaking the lease
and moving out early my friends are split. Some
say it's disgusting and I have every right to
leave. Others think I'm being dramatic and that
I should give him another chance since he's not
hurting anyone. But I feel like I'm living in
a frat house, biohazard zone, and I literally
gag when I walk past his room. I say if he doesn't
clean up the piss, you get the fuck out. One,
that's disgusting. That's fucking nasty. You
should not be living in, I mean, you're not living
in urine. Your area's clean. But the fact that
it's lingering and that could bring animals and
that could just, just how lazy are you? Where
is your bathroom? Where is your bathroom that
you are so lazy that you cannot, you need a porta
potty in your bedroom because you can buy a porta
potty on Amazon. So that's my thing. Why bottles
of water? Why not just go to the bathroom? What
are you doing that is so important that you can't
walk 5, 10, 15 feet to the bathroom? To the toilet.
I don't understand. But I think that's nastiest
luck. And I think that if he. So far he has 12
bottles of water. And they've been together.
Or living together for six months. She's just
noticing. Or he's just noticing. Now. So. When
did this start? Was it six months ago? Was it
a month ago? When did this start? How long has
it been going on and why now all of a sudden,
if it just started, why now all of a sudden is
he feeling so lazy that he can't make his way
to the bathroom? What changed? What changed in
his behavior? Is he depressed? But either way,
that's fucking nasty. And I feel like that's
some type of like health hazard. And I agree
if things don't change. break the lease especially
if it's carpet that shit's gonna stay in there
forever you have to replace the carpet so i agree
break the lease if he doesn't get it back together
i have two questions why why is it so many bottles
number one number two why is this strong why
is the odor that strong like are you okay that's
something you might need to go get checked out
by your doctor the other thing is I wouldn't
even give him the chance to clean up because
obviously if he's saying you're making a big
deal out of it he's not gonna clean it up he
has no intention to clean it up and he was probably
gonna end up leaving before you could and leave
you stuck having to deal with you know all that
stuff from the apartment complex like You know,
the cleaning up fee, the carpet, all of that.
So I think dude should just pack up his stuff
and get out while he has a chance. Because I
don't think his roommate is going to be cleaning
up after himself. If anything, it might get worse.
No, I feel like now because he brought it up,
his roommate is going to go pee on his clothes
or something. That's nasty. That's just gross.
Okay. There is one more regarding pee, so I figured
we would talk about that one too. And this one's
a dating one. So I've been dating this guy. Okay,
just back to that one. That's fucking nasty.
Break your lease, get out. Anyways, so I've been
dating this guy for about a month. He's been
really nice. I've noticed that he drinks pretty
often. That's a quality I don't like, but it
wasn't anything too crazy that it really bothered
me that much. One night, he had a couple of mixed
drinks and took a melatonin. I didn't think much
of it at the time. I was over at his house, spent
the night, we went to bed. An hour after we went
to bed, he randomly gets up. I ask him, are you
okay? He then proceeds to go to the corner of
his bedroom and piss on the floor. I was horrified.
I didn't know what to do. I yelled for him to
wake up and stop, but he didn't. He emptied the
tank completely and then just went back to bed
like it was nothing. I got up and went to the
couch to gather my thoughts. I then woke him
up. He apologized and he cleaned all of it. Since
then, I've just been completely disturbed. I
don't believe in getting the ick, but this is
definitely the closest thing I've experienced
to that. I realize this could be the mix of melatonin
and whatnot. Maybe he was sleepwalking. Who knows?
I can't look past this. I can't stop thinking
about it. It's still bothering me to this day.
It's just grossed me out so much. Am I overreacting?
Should I stay? Should I leave? Should I bother
spending the night at his house again? What should
I do? We've only been together for one month.
Well, few questions. One, how old are you? If
you're like in your 40s, 30s, and this is happening,
what the fuck? If you're in your 20s, if you're
even 19, 20. 21 25 whatever your boy does not
know how to control his liquor or maybe he just
shouldn't be drinking and taking melatonin which
fucks up a lot of people or maybe he should just
go pee before bed and break the seal i don't
know but i do feel like the way she described
it it it feels like to me like he woke like he
was sleepwalking went to the corner peed and
got back into bed and it's like I mean, at least
he was apologetic and he went and cleaned it
up. He wasn't like Mr. 12 bottled guy. Who clearly
doesn't give a fuck about anyone but himself.
But. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
Would I break up with someone over this? Would
I do it? I think so. But then it's like. I mean,
it's bad, but it could be worse. And he was apologetic.
He cleaned it up. Maybe just. Stay at his house.
It's been a month. He could be a serial killer.
I don't know. I don't know. What do you think?
To me, it sounds like he obviously makes two
things that you shouldn't have mixed. And he
thought maybe he was in the bathroom, which is
why he just went to the corner, did his business
and then went back to sleep. And he woke up and
realized what happened. And I mean, if that is
the case, then maybe he shouldn't be mixing the
two together. But at least. He was like. Oh shit.
I did do that. Let me clean up. And hopefully
she'll look past it. But obviously she can't.
And I don't blame the girl. But to me. That would
have been a funny story. To joke about later
on. But even though she said. She doesn't get
the ick. She obviously did. And it's early enough
in their relationship. That she can just be like.
Yeah. I can't move past that. That's gross. I
gotta go and find someone else that can handle
their shit. Maybe she should go date the guy
of the roommate of the other guy. 12 bottles?
Well, no, not 12 bottles, but the one that cleans
the fucking house. Not the one that pisses everywhere.
And then 12 bottles and this guy would be good
friends. But yeah, I agree. I think it was probably
just the melatonin. Either that or he was really
fucking wasted. And he thought that was the bathroom.
You know, I feel like if he would have had a
cat, he would have 10 out of 10 gone for that
fucking litter box. Oh, for sure. For sure. But,
no, I mean, I don't think it's that bad. I don't
think she's overreacting because I get it. But
I don't think it's that bad to where you need
to break up with him. I think that it was probably
just a shitty circumstance. Could have been worse.
he could have taken a dump in the corner he could
have taken a shit in the corner that would have
been really fucking nasty honestly though but
when the way she described it she made it sound
like I don't know if you remember the scene in
Big Daddy where he takes the kid on the side
of the building to pee oh yeah it literally sounds
like that's what was happening that he just ignored
her and went pee didn't care if she was there
or not But clearly he was really under the influence
and just didn't know what he was doing. Honestly,
he could have just been sleepwalking. Yeah, that's
what my thought is. Yeah, I think he was just
sleepwalking the entire time, went to the corner,
peed, but then she woke him up after she sat
on the couch and thought about life and he cleaned
it up and he was sorry. maybe we'll find out
if he's ever done that again maybe not yeah maybe
he learned his lesson to not mix alcohol and
melatonin yeah or just know your limit and if
you didn't break the seal already break the seal
yeah going to bed and push come to shove they
do so on diapers If you can't hold it. Which,
you know what? That might actually be a good
idea for a 12 -bottle guy. Yeah. That might be.
Maybe. Or they sell those portable potties, too.
Maybe he needs one of those. Well, he wouldn't
use them anyways because you have to empty those
out, too. That's true. But what's he going to
do? Just wait until there's fucking 50 bottles
under his bed? Probably. And they're in an apartment.
I would just tell the apartment. I would go to
the office and be like, listen. This guy's passing
all over. I would leave. I wouldn't even say
nothing. I'd just pack up what I brought and
dip. I wouldn't even know. I agree. I would be
out. I would bounce. I would be very gone. On
that note, we are done with episode one for tonight.
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