WEBVTT 00:00:01.390 --> 00:00:04.190 Today on Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram. 00:00:04.290 --> 00:00:07.190 How do you get God's best for your life? You 00:00:07.190 --> 00:00:09.689 know, you see some believers and you sense, boy, 00:00:09.710 --> 00:00:11.250 they're in the right relationship. They make 00:00:11.250 --> 00:00:14.029 wise decisions about money. They're getting God's 00:00:14.029 --> 00:00:17.030 best. I want that. How does it work? Today, I 00:00:17.030 --> 00:00:19.850 will give you four biblical principles that will 00:00:19.850 --> 00:00:22.969 help you discover how you can get God's best 00:00:22.969 --> 00:00:27.670 for your life. Stay with us. Holiness is a word 00:00:27.670 --> 00:00:30.640 that intimidates most of us. It's an unachievable 00:00:30.640 --> 00:00:34.079 virtue, or so it seems. What if everything you've 00:00:34.079 --> 00:00:37.100 been told about holiness is wrong? What if God's 00:00:37.100 --> 00:00:39.820 call to holy living isn't about following a list 00:00:39.820 --> 00:00:42.659 of don'ts, but about discovering the pathway 00:00:42.659 --> 00:00:45.740 to extraordinary joy, fulfilling relationships, 00:00:45.979 --> 00:00:49.299 and a life that truly works? On today's edition 00:00:49.299 --> 00:00:52.060 of Living on the Edge, Chip Ingram dismantles 00:00:52.060 --> 00:00:54.359 our misconceptions about holiness and reveals 00:00:54.359 --> 00:00:57.409 it for what it really is. wholeness, health, 00:00:57.570 --> 00:01:00.450 and the key to experiencing God's absolute best. 00:01:00.729 --> 00:01:04.209 Far from being otherworldly or strange, holy 00:01:04.209 --> 00:01:08.090 living makes us winsome, loving, pure, and unmistakably 00:01:08.090 --> 00:01:10.829 Christ -like, the kind of person others are drawn 00:01:10.829 --> 00:01:13.590 to. And after Chip's message, we'll explain how 00:01:13.590 --> 00:01:16.049 you can participate in the time -limited match 00:01:16.049 --> 00:01:19.170 that's active a short while longer. Every dollar 00:01:19.170 --> 00:01:21.650 you give will be matched and therefore doubled 00:01:21.650 --> 00:01:24.579 through December 31st. But right now, the message 00:01:24.579 --> 00:01:27.140 from Chip Ingram about leaving a legacy that 00:01:27.140 --> 00:01:31.459 lasts forever. Number one, encourage them to 00:01:31.459 --> 00:01:34.879 saturate their mind with truth. The Bible, great 00:01:34.879 --> 00:01:39.420 books, videos. All I want you to get is where 00:01:39.420 --> 00:01:44.140 do you set your mind? Where do you set your mind? 00:01:45.500 --> 00:01:48.859 First and foremost, we have to model this. And 00:01:48.859 --> 00:01:50.900 then you got to pass that on. And it's got to 00:01:50.900 --> 00:01:53.950 be passed on, not as a club. You know, okay, 00:01:54.030 --> 00:01:56.450 kids, get around the table right now. It's breakfast 00:01:56.450 --> 00:02:00.010 time or supper time. All right. Nathaniel, open 00:02:00.010 --> 00:02:01.650 Proverbs chapter one. It's the first day of the 00:02:01.650 --> 00:02:05.730 month, isn't it? Read it now. Ethel, shut up. 00:02:05.730 --> 00:02:07.209 Listen to your brother. He's reading God's word. 00:02:10.330 --> 00:02:11.889 I can tell you where these kids are going to 00:02:11.889 --> 00:02:16.430 be at about 18. It will not be in church or much 00:02:16.430 --> 00:02:20.270 to do with God. And I talk to my kids now, my 00:02:20.270 --> 00:02:22.050 one son is a pastor. I said, well, Ryan, what 00:02:22.050 --> 00:02:25.669 was it that really clicked for you in terms of 00:02:25.669 --> 00:02:27.969 how did God lead you that way? And I'm thinking, 00:02:27.990 --> 00:02:29.750 maybe it's one of my great messages, I'm sure, 00:02:29.870 --> 00:02:32.969 you know? But this is my kids. He said, well, 00:02:32.969 --> 00:02:35.409 that is really pretty easy, you know? I don't 00:02:35.409 --> 00:02:36.430 know how many times, you know, when you're a 00:02:36.430 --> 00:02:37.710 little kid and you get up and go to the bathroom 00:02:37.710 --> 00:02:38.830 and you think it's the middle of the night because 00:02:38.830 --> 00:02:40.310 it's like five o 'clock and for you it's the 00:02:40.310 --> 00:02:42.409 middle of the night and there's a light on and 00:02:42.409 --> 00:02:44.969 mom's on her knees praying or she's sitting in 00:02:44.969 --> 00:02:46.449 the chair with a cup of coffee reading God's 00:02:46.449 --> 00:02:52.419 word. I just grew up watching you and mom. That's 00:02:52.419 --> 00:02:56.180 what mattered. And so you have to create when 00:02:56.180 --> 00:02:59.099 they're little and then when they're older, saturate 00:02:59.099 --> 00:03:03.060 their mind with truth. Encourage that. The second 00:03:03.060 --> 00:03:05.000 is encourage them to hang out regularly with 00:03:05.000 --> 00:03:10.400 wise, godly people. Proverbs 13, 20, he who dwells 00:03:10.400 --> 00:03:12.699 with wise men will be wise, but the companion 00:03:12.699 --> 00:03:16.409 of a fool will suffer harm. There's a great line. 00:03:16.530 --> 00:03:19.889 I got this from the vice president of a guy that 00:03:19.889 --> 00:03:21.770 I work with and his wife was there and we were 00:03:21.770 --> 00:03:24.189 talking about the influence of kids and you're 00:03:24.189 --> 00:03:26.050 always worried about who to hang out with and 00:03:26.050 --> 00:03:27.849 she just turned to all of us and said, well, 00:03:27.949 --> 00:03:30.069 I'll tell you. You show me your friends, I'll 00:03:30.069 --> 00:03:33.270 show you your future. I mean, I don't know where 00:03:33.270 --> 00:03:34.750 she got, I wrote that down. I've been using it 00:03:34.750 --> 00:03:36.610 since and when I can remember to give her credit, 00:03:36.669 --> 00:03:42.930 I do, like now. But I mean, it's true. Think 00:03:42.930 --> 00:03:45.449 of who you're investing in. You need, if you 00:03:45.449 --> 00:03:48.370 have control, you need to be very careful about 00:03:48.370 --> 00:03:50.569 who they hang out with. You know, some guys I've 00:03:50.569 --> 00:03:52.430 had the opportunity to help and disciple. You 00:03:52.430 --> 00:03:53.650 know, I've really talked about, hey, brother, 00:03:53.810 --> 00:03:55.590 you know, I got news for you. I love you. I care 00:03:55.590 --> 00:03:57.250 for you. We're playing hoop. You're a new Christian. 00:03:57.349 --> 00:03:59.849 You're making progress. Now, tell me again about 00:03:59.849 --> 00:04:02.250 what you came out of. It was New Age and cocaine, 00:04:02.530 --> 00:04:04.710 right? Okay. And you used to smoke this stuff 00:04:04.710 --> 00:04:06.789 and sell it. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And you're telling 00:04:06.789 --> 00:04:08.270 me you're struggling, right? Okay. Why are you 00:04:08.270 --> 00:04:09.710 struggling? Great. Now, tell me who you're hanging 00:04:09.710 --> 00:04:14.319 out with. two other dealers. Now, help me with 00:04:14.319 --> 00:04:16.980 this. I mean, I'm in Santa Cruz, California. 00:04:17.180 --> 00:04:19.800 I mean, this is normal. Help me with this. You 00:04:19.800 --> 00:04:21.620 think you're not going to do that, hanging out 00:04:21.620 --> 00:04:23.759 with them? Well, they're my friends, and I want 00:04:23.759 --> 00:04:25.420 to lead them to Christ. Hey, you lead people 00:04:25.420 --> 00:04:28.360 to Christ on neutral turf. You know what? You 00:04:28.360 --> 00:04:30.279 don't go over there, and they probably are going 00:04:30.279 --> 00:04:32.339 to come to church, but let's find some neutral 00:04:32.339 --> 00:04:34.939 places where let's have them hang out, and you 00:04:34.939 --> 00:04:37.040 can influence them instead of them influence 00:04:37.040 --> 00:04:40.420 you. More than one time when my kids, I said, 00:04:40.420 --> 00:04:42.620 you can't play with those two kids anymore. But 00:04:42.620 --> 00:04:44.360 dad, dad. No, you can't play with them. They 00:04:44.360 --> 00:04:47.319 can come to our house and hang out, but you're 00:04:47.319 --> 00:04:49.220 not going to their house. No one's home. I know 00:04:49.220 --> 00:04:51.439 what happens. You're just not going to do it. 00:04:52.199 --> 00:04:55.439 Well, you do, do, do. Yeah, of course. Some of 00:04:55.439 --> 00:04:57.199 us need to be, those of you that have smaller 00:04:57.199 --> 00:04:59.800 children or teenagers, it's okay to be the bad 00:04:59.800 --> 00:05:03.560 person. It's okay. They can, I don't love you 00:05:03.560 --> 00:05:06.139 anymore. Let them slam the door, you know. Who 00:05:06.139 --> 00:05:07.600 are you to tell me who I can be friends with? 00:05:07.699 --> 00:05:13.100 Your parent. That's who. I don't love you. Now, 00:05:13.100 --> 00:05:15.319 here's what I hear. And I've got a number of 00:05:15.319 --> 00:05:17.459 cases. You know, it's anecdotal. But here's what 00:05:17.459 --> 00:05:19.759 I hear. Well, if we set those boundaries too 00:05:19.759 --> 00:05:22.980 tight, then they'll rebel. Especially in the 00:05:22.980 --> 00:05:26.339 area of teenagers dating unbelievers. And I hear, 00:05:26.360 --> 00:05:27.899 oh, we can't do that because we've got to be 00:05:27.899 --> 00:05:30.259 real careful. I've got news for you. Their heart 00:05:30.259 --> 00:05:32.399 gets connected to an unbeliever that's not walking 00:05:32.399 --> 00:05:34.000 with God. They're going to go down the tubes. 00:05:35.209 --> 00:05:38.569 So draw the line lovingly and catch it early. 00:05:39.810 --> 00:05:41.949 And I know there's a handful of success stories 00:05:41.949 --> 00:05:44.430 where that gal or that girl finally came to Christ 00:05:44.430 --> 00:05:46.610 and all the rest. Let me tell you, I got a hundred 00:05:46.610 --> 00:05:48.490 other stories for every success story you can 00:05:48.490 --> 00:05:51.990 give me. The number one thing that causes young 00:05:51.990 --> 00:05:54.589 people to fall and fall away from their faith. 00:05:54.709 --> 00:05:56.449 And when they go to college, the reason they 00:05:56.449 --> 00:05:58.550 change their morals is not they really change 00:05:58.550 --> 00:06:01.089 their theology, but they have to change their 00:06:01.089 --> 00:06:04.129 theology to adapt their lifestyle. And when your 00:06:04.129 --> 00:06:07.069 emotions kick in and you fall in love and you 00:06:07.069 --> 00:06:09.230 get to have sex, I mean, let's see, do I really 00:06:09.230 --> 00:06:10.569 believe in God and the Bible and some of this 00:06:10.569 --> 00:06:14.990 old -fashioned stuff or this? Hmm, that's a no 00:06:14.990 --> 00:06:17.970 -brainer. And we can't figure out why. I mean, 00:06:18.029 --> 00:06:21.110 the statistics are alarming of the percentage 00:06:21.110 --> 00:06:24.189 of all of our, quote, young Christian youth who 00:06:24.189 --> 00:06:27.149 go away to school, about 10 to 12 % keep their 00:06:27.149 --> 00:06:32.860 faith five years later. And I've had some deep, 00:06:32.920 --> 00:06:36.660 deep conflict with my children in that journey. 00:06:36.899 --> 00:06:40.160 And I was a really, really bad guy. And it wasn't 00:06:40.160 --> 00:06:42.500 always pretty. And I didn't always do it right. 00:06:43.680 --> 00:06:47.259 But I will tell you, that is a non -negotiable. 00:06:47.839 --> 00:06:52.259 You're the parent. With that said, you're having 00:06:52.259 --> 00:06:55.959 lots of fun investing in their life and doing 00:06:55.959 --> 00:06:57.779 lots of great things that other parents don't 00:06:57.779 --> 00:07:00.779 do with them. Because you can... You know, the 00:07:00.779 --> 00:07:04.279 bridge of truth is relationship. And the more 00:07:04.279 --> 00:07:07.600 relationship you have, the more love, the more 00:07:07.600 --> 00:07:10.360 deposits, the more truth that they can hold. 00:07:10.779 --> 00:07:12.420 Because at the end of the day, they don't want 00:07:12.420 --> 00:07:16.100 to disappoint you. They really don't, but it's 00:07:16.100 --> 00:07:19.639 in a tug of war at times. Third, model for them 00:07:19.639 --> 00:07:24.949 how to ask God for discernment and wisdom. It's 00:07:24.949 --> 00:07:26.769 really important for those you're trying to help 00:07:26.769 --> 00:07:29.050 that you don't become like the answer man or 00:07:29.050 --> 00:07:31.329 the answer woman. Well, what should I do about 00:07:31.329 --> 00:07:33.509 this? You know more than me. Well, can you tell 00:07:33.509 --> 00:07:35.689 me? And you say, well, da -da -da -da, do this 00:07:35.689 --> 00:07:37.970 or do that. Model for them, you know what? Here's 00:07:37.970 --> 00:07:41.449 a passage in James 1, verse 5, okay? If any man 00:07:41.449 --> 00:07:44.970 lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to 00:07:44.970 --> 00:07:49.730 all men generously and without reproach. But 00:07:49.730 --> 00:07:53.029 let him, when he asks, let him ask in faith. 00:07:53.759 --> 00:07:56.000 For the one who doubts is like a double -minded 00:07:56.000 --> 00:07:59.079 man who's tossed here and there by the waves. 00:07:59.879 --> 00:08:01.759 Don't let that person expect to receive anything 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:04.740 from the Lord. And then you explain to him. Wisdom 00:08:04.740 --> 00:08:08.120 is doing life God's way according to his design. 00:08:08.680 --> 00:08:11.199 He'll always show you what to do. I mean, the 00:08:11.199 --> 00:08:13.360 Bible doesn't tell you what state to live in. 00:08:13.420 --> 00:08:15.199 The Bible doesn't tell you what vocation. The 00:08:15.199 --> 00:08:16.980 Bible doesn't say you need to go to a Christian 00:08:16.980 --> 00:08:19.060 school or non -Christian school. You need wisdom 00:08:19.060 --> 00:08:21.459 from God. And so what you want to model for them 00:08:21.459 --> 00:08:23.620 is, I don't have the answer to that, but God 00:08:23.620 --> 00:08:25.959 makes a promise. And if we had time to develop 00:08:25.959 --> 00:08:28.100 that whole text, the thesis of that text of not 00:08:28.100 --> 00:08:30.120 ever doubting is not that you ever have doubts 00:08:30.120 --> 00:08:33.500 about God. Everyone has doubts. We get our word 00:08:33.500 --> 00:08:35.480 schizophrenic. It's a double -minded person. 00:08:36.120 --> 00:08:38.740 When you pray, God, will you show me your will 00:08:38.740 --> 00:08:41.039 so I can consider it as one of the options? God 00:08:41.039 --> 00:08:44.779 says no. Did you catch that? Let me just go over 00:08:44.779 --> 00:08:47.659 a little slower. Some of you went... When you 00:08:47.659 --> 00:08:50.720 pray, and you don't do it like this intentionally, 00:08:50.879 --> 00:08:52.919 but it's what we do. God, I really want to know 00:08:52.919 --> 00:08:56.399 what your will is about this relationship. And 00:08:56.399 --> 00:08:58.080 then when I know your will, I'll decide whether 00:08:58.080 --> 00:09:01.600 I'll take it or not. Guess what? God says, you 00:09:01.600 --> 00:09:03.080 know what? I don't answer those kind of prayers. 00:09:03.700 --> 00:09:07.720 But what he says is, God, I don't know about 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:09.909 what to do about this relationship. I don't know 00:09:09.909 --> 00:09:12.169 what to do about this money situation. I don't 00:09:12.169 --> 00:09:13.990 know what to do about this marriage crisis. I 00:09:13.990 --> 00:09:15.629 don't know what to do about this wayward son 00:09:15.629 --> 00:09:17.529 or wayward daughter. God, I don't know about 00:09:17.529 --> 00:09:19.570 my calling, whether I should get out of this 00:09:19.570 --> 00:09:21.509 work and go to that work. Here's the promise 00:09:21.509 --> 00:09:25.389 of James 1 .5. If I will come and say, God, I 00:09:25.389 --> 00:09:26.929 want you to know that I've signed my name on 00:09:26.929 --> 00:09:29.529 the bottom of the check and I've turned it like 00:09:29.529 --> 00:09:31.629 this and put it under the throne room of heaven. 00:09:32.730 --> 00:09:35.509 I will do, no matter what it is, whatever you 00:09:35.509 --> 00:09:37.590 tell me, you fill in the top and I'll do it. 00:09:37.629 --> 00:09:39.610 He says 100 % of the time, I'll fill in the top. 00:09:41.230 --> 00:09:44.590 And now, how is he gonna show you? It might be 00:09:44.590 --> 00:09:46.149 through a person, through the scripture, as you 00:09:46.149 --> 00:09:49.250 pray, wise counsel, but he promises he will show 00:09:49.250 --> 00:09:53.029 you what to do. 90 % of the will of God is being 00:09:53.029 --> 00:09:56.190 really willing to do whatever God says. Most 00:09:56.190 --> 00:09:59.710 of us, myself completely included, I kind of 00:09:59.710 --> 00:10:02.830 want to get God lined up to get him to do what 00:10:02.830 --> 00:10:05.909 I want because I think I know what's best. It's 00:10:05.909 --> 00:10:09.309 that surrender to be willing to do it. And you 00:10:09.309 --> 00:10:12.610 have to model that. This is where when they, 00:10:12.710 --> 00:10:15.129 you know, don't say stuff like, my kids when 00:10:15.129 --> 00:10:16.490 they were hitting the mid -teens, it'd be something 00:10:16.490 --> 00:10:19.590 like, hey, you know, I want to do this or that 00:10:19.590 --> 00:10:21.470 or go to this movie or do that. And I would think, 00:10:21.549 --> 00:10:25.029 you know, that's not good. I'm going to keep 00:10:25.029 --> 00:10:27.190 making every decision and we're going to be in 00:10:27.190 --> 00:10:29.889 trouble. And so I would often say, well, would 00:10:29.889 --> 00:10:33.029 you do me a favor? Yeah. I said, pray about it 00:10:33.029 --> 00:10:36.070 for 24 hours. And just really think it through. 00:10:36.149 --> 00:10:38.730 Do you believe God wants you to go to that? Well, 00:10:38.809 --> 00:10:41.809 Dad, you know, I know. Don't argue with me. Just 00:10:41.809 --> 00:10:44.070 talk to God about it. I'm just asking you. And 00:10:44.070 --> 00:10:47.190 again, you take that responsibility instead of 00:10:47.190 --> 00:10:49.990 the power trip. I said no. What you want to do 00:10:49.990 --> 00:10:51.809 is start helping them. You know, I want to buy 00:10:51.809 --> 00:10:54.309 this. I want to go here. I want to do that. And 00:10:54.309 --> 00:10:56.110 if you're not sure, but down deep in your heart, 00:10:56.129 --> 00:10:57.470 you think, you know, it's probably not a very 00:10:57.470 --> 00:10:59.529 good thing, but it won't kill them, whatever 00:10:59.529 --> 00:11:02.169 they do. I always wanted to give them a lot more 00:11:02.169 --> 00:11:06.610 rope and say, why don't you pray about it? We'll 00:11:06.610 --> 00:11:08.870 hear more from Chip Ingram's message in just 00:11:08.870 --> 00:11:11.149 a moment. First, we're inviting you to multiply 00:11:11.149 --> 00:11:14.230 your year -end donation through an exciting match 00:11:14.230 --> 00:11:16.529 that's active right now. 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What you want to do is not protect 00:11:55.330 --> 00:11:57.669 them from small pain so it hurts really badly. 00:11:58.169 --> 00:12:00.870 You know, like, gosh, I just spent $25 on this 00:12:00.870 --> 00:12:03.409 wacky thing and it looks seared dumb and now 00:12:03.409 --> 00:12:04.990 I wore it to school and it wasn't even cool and 00:12:04.990 --> 00:12:08.370 I blew $25. Good. Or, you know, I decided to 00:12:08.370 --> 00:12:10.110 go on this thing and, man, everyone did this 00:12:10.110 --> 00:12:11.470 terrible stuff and I wish I would have never 00:12:11.470 --> 00:12:14.450 there. And good. See, if you always tell them 00:12:14.450 --> 00:12:16.769 what to do and you always keep them inside your 00:12:16.769 --> 00:12:18.970 bounds, then what happens is they can't wait 00:12:18.970 --> 00:12:22.590 to get away to go try some stuff. So you want 00:12:22.590 --> 00:12:26.970 to develop them hearing God's voice. You want 00:12:26.970 --> 00:12:30.049 to model for them how to get wisdom, how to discern. 00:12:30.549 --> 00:12:33.750 Another practical thing with your kids is, you 00:12:33.750 --> 00:12:35.870 know that little clicker when you're watching 00:12:35.870 --> 00:12:38.809 something? As much as I'll talk a little bit 00:12:38.809 --> 00:12:41.809 later about limiting media. My kids, it was like, 00:12:41.870 --> 00:12:44.110 I believe every moment is a teachable moment. 00:12:44.250 --> 00:12:46.309 And you don't go overboard. But I mean, okay, 00:12:46.389 --> 00:12:48.389 you're watching the Super Bowl, right? And so 00:12:48.389 --> 00:12:50.889 these commercials come on. And I mean, they've 00:12:50.889 --> 00:12:53.169 spent, what, how many zillion dollars to create? 00:12:53.690 --> 00:12:55.909 This commercial, they're paying $1 .5 million 00:12:55.909 --> 00:12:58.870 for 30 seconds. And there's a girl that she's 00:12:58.870 --> 00:13:00.649 got it cut down to here and pushed up to there 00:13:00.649 --> 00:13:02.629 and pulled down to here. And another guy that's 00:13:02.629 --> 00:13:05.190 been on steroids and he's got his chorus light 00:13:05.190 --> 00:13:07.169 and this, that, this, that. And the music comes 00:13:07.169 --> 00:13:09.950 on, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam. And they stop. Okay, 00:13:10.049 --> 00:13:11.470 before we watch the rest of the game, what was 00:13:11.470 --> 00:13:14.350 the message of that? Okay, where are they coming 00:13:14.350 --> 00:13:16.129 at us and why? What are they selling to us? What 00:13:16.129 --> 00:13:17.889 do you think? Okay, why do you think she's dressed 00:13:17.889 --> 00:13:19.909 that way? Okay, why does he have that? What's 00:13:19.909 --> 00:13:22.000 the message? And you, what are you doing? You're 00:13:22.000 --> 00:13:27.090 helping him discern good from evil. And then 00:13:27.090 --> 00:13:30.090 you watch this real soaky movie and it makes 00:13:30.090 --> 00:13:32.049 you cry and it's really good and it's really 00:13:32.049 --> 00:13:33.830 warm and there's no sex in it and there's no 00:13:33.830 --> 00:13:36.250 violence in it. The only problem is in this movie, 00:13:36.350 --> 00:13:38.690 the person that you identify with is married 00:13:38.690 --> 00:13:40.909 to this not very nice person. And so this person 00:13:40.909 --> 00:13:42.809 married to the not very nice person falls in 00:13:42.809 --> 00:13:44.169 love with someone else and they have an affair 00:13:44.169 --> 00:13:47.029 and there's music and they're going out and da 00:13:47.029 --> 00:13:49.389 -da -da -da -da -da -da and we're all crying 00:13:49.389 --> 00:13:51.009 and thinking, oh, I'm glad she finally found 00:13:51.009 --> 00:13:53.230 love in her life and it was a popular movie and 00:13:53.230 --> 00:13:55.730 everyone loves it. And you stop the thing. And 00:13:55.730 --> 00:13:57.730 you say, wait a second. a second. Wait a second. 00:13:58.210 --> 00:14:00.629 I got sucked in just like you, but what did she 00:14:00.629 --> 00:14:03.330 do? I mean, we all love her, and she was the 00:14:03.330 --> 00:14:05.009 pretty one, and you know, the music was really 00:14:05.009 --> 00:14:08.409 playing, and all the violins, and you know, her 00:14:08.409 --> 00:14:13.850 life was so hard before, right? You know. Okay, 00:14:13.950 --> 00:14:18.389 let's rewind. It's called adultery. So how does 00:14:18.389 --> 00:14:21.110 that play out in real life? Let's go through 00:14:21.110 --> 00:14:23.929 some families in the church where someone committed 00:14:23.929 --> 00:14:26.690 adultery. Let's remember what that looked like. 00:14:26.850 --> 00:14:28.809 Let's remember what it did to them. Do you understand 00:14:28.809 --> 00:14:32.389 what I'm saying? That's what you do. So it's 00:14:32.389 --> 00:14:35.389 not a classroom. It's every moment. Now, by the 00:14:35.389 --> 00:14:37.110 way, don't stop at every commercial. Some of 00:14:37.110 --> 00:14:38.409 your kids are going, hey, you know, get out of 00:14:38.409 --> 00:14:41.350 here. But you get it. Finally, teach them to 00:14:41.350 --> 00:14:44.850 monitor their exposure to the media. Teach them 00:14:44.850 --> 00:14:47.720 to monitor. their exposure to the media. Romans 00:14:47.720 --> 00:14:51.039 12, 2, we touched on it earlier. Do not be conformed 00:14:51.039 --> 00:14:54.019 to this world, this present world system, not 00:14:54.019 --> 00:14:56.340 the physical world. It's the cosmos. It's the 00:14:56.340 --> 00:14:59.139 world system, and 1 John tells us what it's made 00:14:59.139 --> 00:15:00.759 of, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, 00:15:00.779 --> 00:15:04.080 and the pride of life. The way to help your kids 00:15:04.080 --> 00:15:08.559 is this is like Fortune, Cosmo, and People magazine. 00:15:08.899 --> 00:15:11.750 Okay, that's the world. If you can have her body 00:15:11.750 --> 00:15:14.669 like that, Cosmo or 17 or what else, then or, 00:15:14.769 --> 00:15:16.730 you know, Muscle Magazine, Men's Fitness, you 00:15:16.730 --> 00:15:18.889 get tight abs, baby, in six seconds a day, you 00:15:18.889 --> 00:15:24.389 know, and with the right drugs. Or people, if 00:15:24.389 --> 00:15:25.990 you can just be famous, right? The whole goal 00:15:25.990 --> 00:15:29.129 is to be an American idol. I'm going to be famous. 00:15:29.659 --> 00:15:31.539 I want people to know me. I will say ridiculous 00:15:31.539 --> 00:15:33.799 things on TV. I will go on reality shows and 00:15:33.799 --> 00:15:36.779 make a complete fool of myself doing things with 00:15:36.779 --> 00:15:38.820 a camera that I would never do privately, even 00:15:38.820 --> 00:15:40.799 in my own home. But I have to because I'm on 00:15:40.799 --> 00:15:45.139 TV. And isn't that like the epitome of all of 00:15:45.139 --> 00:15:47.919 life? I'm famous now. No, you're an idiot now. 00:15:49.299 --> 00:15:53.039 But your kids, your grandkids, the people you're 00:15:53.039 --> 00:15:55.299 discipling are getting boom, boom, boom, boom, 00:15:55.299 --> 00:15:59.240 boom. They're bombarded. And so when they go 00:15:59.240 --> 00:16:01.440 to buy something, what is it? You know, the clothes 00:16:01.440 --> 00:16:03.559 are that way. The media is that way. The magazines 00:16:03.559 --> 00:16:08.600 are that way. You will never be whole and healthy 00:16:08.600 --> 00:16:11.840 instead of being deceived and seduced unless 00:16:11.840 --> 00:16:15.000 you say, stop allowing yourself to be molded 00:16:15.000 --> 00:16:17.860 by this world system. So you gotta put a real 00:16:17.860 --> 00:16:20.480 barrier in media and how much you watch and what 00:16:20.480 --> 00:16:24.019 you watch. My kids heard it a zillion times and 00:16:24.019 --> 00:16:25.840 the people I've had an opportunity to help disciple. 00:16:26.080 --> 00:16:29.980 What you allow to go into your mind is the most 00:16:29.980 --> 00:16:33.139 important decision you make every day. Way more 00:16:33.139 --> 00:16:36.240 than what goes into your mouth. Like my wife 00:16:36.240 --> 00:16:39.139 is really healthy. This is organic and this doesn't 00:16:39.139 --> 00:16:42.039 have any pesticides. I mean, we're really into 00:16:42.039 --> 00:16:47.220 eating good, healthy things. But boy, you gotta 00:16:47.220 --> 00:16:50.450 put healthy stuff in your brain. You are the 00:16:50.450 --> 00:16:51.889 product of your thought life. You understand 00:16:51.889 --> 00:16:54.529 that. As a man thinks, as a woman thinks in his 00:16:54.529 --> 00:16:59.029 heart, so you become. You watch enough TV. You 00:16:59.029 --> 00:17:01.649 rent enough videos. You glance through enough 00:17:01.649 --> 00:17:04.470 magazines. It will create desires that you can 00:17:04.470 --> 00:17:06.849 never fulfill and you'll never be satisfied and 00:17:06.849 --> 00:17:09.529 you'll get sucked in and the lure riding and 00:17:09.529 --> 00:17:15.150 bam. And so, and by the way, when you live this 00:17:15.150 --> 00:17:16.690 kind of life, this is where people will start 00:17:16.690 --> 00:17:21.339 thinking you're weird. Because we're living in 00:17:21.339 --> 00:17:24.980 a day where, according to Barna, I don't know 00:17:24.980 --> 00:17:26.900 how accurate, but according to Barna, about one 00:17:26.900 --> 00:17:30.200 out of every 10 or one out of every 12 people 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:32.500 who say, I'm a Christian, I'm born again, I pray 00:17:32.500 --> 00:17:34.940 to receive Jesus Christ as my Savior, about one 00:17:34.940 --> 00:17:38.839 out of every 10 or 12 are living the life. The 00:17:38.839 --> 00:17:42.019 others have either a mental or, now I'm not saying 00:17:42.019 --> 00:17:43.819 they're not believers, I don't know. I'm just 00:17:43.819 --> 00:17:46.380 saying that they may have the living spirit of 00:17:46.380 --> 00:17:50.089 the living God living in them, but Their external 00:17:50.089 --> 00:17:53.130 behavior, their values, their honesty, their 00:17:53.130 --> 00:17:55.150 commitment to marriage, their lifestyle, their 00:17:55.150 --> 00:17:57.569 speech, their priorities, and their values are 00:17:57.569 --> 00:18:00.369 exactly the same as their non -Christian friends. 00:18:01.410 --> 00:18:04.829 Because you are what you eat. And if you don't 00:18:04.829 --> 00:18:07.329 believe me, this is a mature group, so I will 00:18:07.329 --> 00:18:10.369 go way out on the limb. For you younger ones 00:18:10.369 --> 00:18:12.430 who want a mild challenge, go on a three -day 00:18:12.430 --> 00:18:15.990 media fast. Okay, no rent, no TV, don't get on 00:18:15.990 --> 00:18:18.529 surf the internet, media fast. Get in the car, 00:18:18.730 --> 00:18:22.190 no talk radio. You know, you can, positive music, 00:18:22.309 --> 00:18:25.930 teaching, okay, three days, no TV, no media. 00:18:27.089 --> 00:18:29.970 You'll get antsy. Some of you will find you have 00:18:29.970 --> 00:18:32.250 an addiction because when you walk in, you turn 00:18:32.250 --> 00:18:34.349 it on. Some of you are like me that when I do 00:18:34.349 --> 00:18:37.589 watch TV and as soon as a commercial comes on 00:18:37.589 --> 00:18:39.589 board, so I can watch four shows at one time 00:18:39.589 --> 00:18:44.180 to relax, of course. And then I'm exhausted when 00:18:44.180 --> 00:18:46.579 I'm done. I mean, I have to be this game, this 00:18:46.579 --> 00:18:48.099 game, this game. Ohio State's doing this and 00:18:48.099 --> 00:18:53.900 this and part of this movie. You go on a three 00:18:53.900 --> 00:18:58.519 -day media fast. And I will tell you, you will 00:18:58.519 --> 00:19:00.500 be, one, you'll have all this time you didn't 00:19:00.500 --> 00:19:05.359 think you had. Go on a 10 -day media fast. For 00:19:05.359 --> 00:19:07.359 some of you, you'll try and it'll be scary because 00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:10.599 you can't do it. Go on a 10 -day media fast, 00:19:10.779 --> 00:19:15.490 then sit down. and watch just general primetime 00:19:15.490 --> 00:19:20.609 TV, you will be shocked. That's how desensitized 00:19:20.609 --> 00:19:23.109 we've become. You'll be shocked at what comes 00:19:23.109 --> 00:19:25.509 out of people's mouth. You'll be shocked at the 00:19:25.509 --> 00:19:28.329 sexual innuendo. You'll be shocked at, and you'll 00:19:28.329 --> 00:19:30.190 see stuff that you've grown accustomed to in 00:19:30.190 --> 00:19:33.809 terms of how people are dressed and different 00:19:33.809 --> 00:19:38.089 things that will stir your flesh that doesn't 00:19:38.089 --> 00:19:41.759 even register now. And it's the classic, what's 00:19:41.759 --> 00:19:43.539 the illustration that you put the frog in the 00:19:43.539 --> 00:19:46.099 water and if you heat it up real slowly, it won't 00:19:46.099 --> 00:19:49.200 jump out. We've got a whole generation that ain't 00:19:49.200 --> 00:19:52.799 jumping out. And here's the sadness. Then we 00:19:52.799 --> 00:19:56.980 reap the consequences. Even though it's not a 00:19:56.980 --> 00:20:00.279 willful, volitional, I hate God sin, you just 00:20:00.279 --> 00:20:04.619 reap the consequences of an unwhole and unholy 00:20:04.619 --> 00:20:09.730 life. Because holiness is the demand of God to 00:20:09.730 --> 00:20:12.630 keep his universe healthy. So there's consequences 00:20:12.630 --> 00:20:16.609 when I put junk in my mouth, junk in my head. 00:20:16.710 --> 00:20:23.019 It creates a set of desires. And so... Limiting 00:20:23.019 --> 00:20:26.299 the video games, the violence, the sexuality. 00:20:26.900 --> 00:20:29.099 I mean, you are just going to be a spiritual 00:20:29.099 --> 00:20:33.180 salmon swimming upstream with your fellow friends 00:20:33.180 --> 00:20:35.259 and other people thinking you are wired. Now, 00:20:35.299 --> 00:20:39.759 is this never watched TV? Of course not. This 00:20:39.759 --> 00:20:43.960 is really asking yourself, is this good, honorable, 00:20:44.200 --> 00:20:48.460 right, praiseworthy? Is this in Philippians 4, 00:20:48.640 --> 00:20:53.420 8? Does this draw me closer to God or pull me 00:20:53.420 --> 00:20:56.279 farther away? And by the way, for me, sometimes 00:20:56.279 --> 00:20:58.900 it's just good stuff. I just have a limit. After 00:20:58.900 --> 00:21:01.579 about two hours of TV, even a great game, I love 00:21:01.579 --> 00:21:06.460 sports. I just find I get spiritually desensitized. 00:21:06.900 --> 00:21:09.740 And I'm different than you. I don't know, maybe 00:21:09.740 --> 00:21:12.640 some of you can take a lot more than me. But 00:21:12.640 --> 00:21:17.960 if you take seriously what goes into your mind, 00:21:18.250 --> 00:21:20.809 and then substitute it, you will see dramatic 00:21:20.809 --> 00:21:24.769 life change. Dramatic life change. What's the 00:21:24.769 --> 00:21:32.750 message? Living holy lives is how we get God's 00:21:32.750 --> 00:21:37.930 best. Holy living allows you to experience God's 00:21:37.930 --> 00:21:40.829 best for your life. Let's move holiness out of 00:21:40.829 --> 00:21:45.170 this idea of the otherworldly, dark robes, something 00:21:45.170 --> 00:21:48.170 weird. And let's move it into becoming whole, 00:21:48.450 --> 00:21:54.109 healthy, pure, winsome, loving, and receiving 00:21:54.109 --> 00:21:56.769 that life that God has in every relationship, 00:21:56.930 --> 00:22:01.390 in every area of your life. This is Living on 00:22:01.390 --> 00:22:03.970 the Edge with Chip Ingram. Chip is presenting 00:22:03.970 --> 00:22:06.609 a practical teaching series called Leaving a 00:22:06.609 --> 00:22:09.690 Legacy That Lasts Forever. Have you ever walked 00:22:09.690 --> 00:22:12.230 into a full restaurant and looked around only 00:22:12.230 --> 00:22:15.069 to find every diner staring into their cell phone? 00:22:15.329 --> 00:22:18.089 Maybe notice that kids, even while gathered in 00:22:18.089 --> 00:22:20.230 a group, are preoccupied with their headphones 00:22:20.230 --> 00:22:23.450 on. 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