WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.799 Are you feeling lost? Well, you've come to the 00:00:02.799 --> 00:00:05.200 right place. Welcome to Lost -ish, where we, 00:00:05.259 --> 00:00:07.459 Rose Chachko, and Emmanuella Kathreptakis, 00:00:07.700 --> 00:00:10.160 share what it's really like navigating your twenties. 00:00:10.339 --> 00:00:12.880 We're two semi -lost girls, figuring out careers, 00:00:13.300 --> 00:00:15.779 relationships, wellness, purpose, and everything 00:00:15.779 --> 00:00:18.120 in between. Each week we dive into the highs, 00:00:18.239 --> 00:00:20.579 the lows, and the lessons of chasing your dreams, 00:00:20.800 --> 00:00:23.019 finding happiness, and learning to embrace the 00:00:23.019 --> 00:00:25.160 uncertainty. We're not here to pretend like we've 00:00:25.160 --> 00:00:27.719 loaded all together. We're simply just figuring 00:00:27.719 --> 00:00:33.219 it out with you. And action! Hi everyone, and 00:00:33.219 --> 00:00:38.159 welcome back to the Lostish podcast. Another 00:00:38.159 --> 00:00:41.320 week, another dollar. Nah, we actually don't 00:00:41.320 --> 00:00:44.899 get paid for this. So there's no dollars involved. 00:00:46.039 --> 00:00:48.780 Thank you so much. Okay guys. Today we're not 00:00:48.780 --> 00:00:51.439 in the mood for a serious one. No, we wanted 00:00:51.439 --> 00:00:54.280 to like dive in deep, but I was like, we both 00:00:54.280 --> 00:00:58.119 just had hectic days. Manuel has had three hours 00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:01.420 of sleep. I'm shaking because you're about to 00:01:01.420 --> 00:01:06.439 hear why. Um, but essentially something happened 00:01:06.439 --> 00:01:09.599 on the train with me today. Hold on. Cause this 00:01:09.599 --> 00:01:11.739 has to do with our episode. I'm about to say 00:01:11.739 --> 00:01:16.099 that something happened on the train. With me 00:01:16.099 --> 00:01:19.579 today which we will go into and it inspired our 00:01:19.579 --> 00:01:22.599 episode today, which is about putting yourself 00:01:22.599 --> 00:01:27.239 out there And you might think all like this is 00:01:27.239 --> 00:01:30.219 so cringe or yet another one putting yourself 00:01:30.219 --> 00:01:32.959 out there, you know, whatever but it like it's 00:01:32.959 --> 00:01:36.400 not enough and it's so important and you only 00:01:36.400 --> 00:01:40.579 have one life guys so we are going to be delving 00:01:40.579 --> 00:01:43.739 into that topic in every single sense of the 00:01:43.739 --> 00:01:46.500 sentence and what kind of things do we want to 00:01:46.500 --> 00:01:50.140 like cover. When it comes to like putting yourself 00:01:50.140 --> 00:01:53.200 out there with relationships with meaning when 00:01:53.200 --> 00:01:54.920 I say relationships, I'm talking about relationship 00:01:54.920 --> 00:01:58.079 building with people in general with career stuff 00:01:58.079 --> 00:02:01.359 with any opportunities that come your way really 00:02:01.359 --> 00:02:03.980 just in life because that just happens a lot, 00:02:04.140 --> 00:02:06.239 especially in your twenties. And I think like 00:02:06.239 --> 00:02:09.039 aligned action is really important and I'll talk 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:11.340 about what aligned action is in a little bit. 00:02:11.639 --> 00:02:16.479 But essentially if you Want something in your 00:02:16.479 --> 00:02:18.979 life right whether it's a relationship whether 00:02:18.979 --> 00:02:23.360 it's a career thing whether it's. Happiness like 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:26.439 whether it's just like in a pace whatever it 00:02:26.439 --> 00:02:30.219 may be. You need to take a line action in order 00:02:30.219 --> 00:02:33.639 to kind of manifest that into your life right 00:02:33.639 --> 00:02:37.020 and I feel like I kind of did that today which 00:02:37.020 --> 00:02:39.479 is like I don't know should I should I talk about 00:02:39.479 --> 00:02:42.120 now should I talk about it later just sum it 00:02:42.120 --> 00:02:47.139 up. Okay, so essentially I was on the train coming 00:02:47.139 --> 00:02:51.199 to the studio where we record at and I was already 00:02:51.199 --> 00:02:56.120 running late and anyway, I was sitting down and 00:02:56.120 --> 00:02:59.280 this group of people come onto the train there's 00:02:59.280 --> 00:03:01.159 three of them there's two guys and then this 00:03:01.159 --> 00:03:04.379 one girl and One of the guys caught my eye and 00:03:04.379 --> 00:03:06.439 I was like and I kind of looked at him and I 00:03:06.439 --> 00:03:08.159 was like Oh my goodness, like you have really 00:03:08.159 --> 00:03:10.240 beautiful eyes like I thought he was like a beautiful 00:03:10.240 --> 00:03:16.069 man and i don't know what came over me and i 00:03:16.069 --> 00:03:18.210 would never ever ever do this and this group 00:03:18.210 --> 00:03:22.250 of people like sat right next to me and i could 00:03:22.250 --> 00:03:25.509 see that he was kind of looking over but like 00:03:25.509 --> 00:03:28.169 maybe once or twice like it wasn't any anything 00:03:28.169 --> 00:03:33.669 crazy and i was listening to music and i just 00:03:33.669 --> 00:03:38.710 thought fuck it and i looked in my bag and i 00:03:38.710 --> 00:03:41.449 found a receipt just like some old receipt that 00:03:41.449 --> 00:03:46.639 i had and an eyebrow pen an eyebrow pencil and 00:03:46.639 --> 00:03:51.259 I wrote on the um on the receipt I'm shaking 00:03:51.259 --> 00:03:53.319 guys I'm literally shaking this happened like 00:03:53.319 --> 00:03:56.719 10 minutes ago um and I wrote on the receipt 00:03:56.719 --> 00:03:59.520 you have really beautiful eyes smiley face put 00:03:59.520 --> 00:04:03.500 my number and then I said from the girl sitting 00:04:03.500 --> 00:04:10.539 across from you on the train don't know If the 00:04:10.539 --> 00:04:13.539 female was his partner or a friend or a sister 00:04:13.539 --> 00:04:15.900 or a cousin, but you know what? I just thought, 00:04:15.900 --> 00:04:19.759 fuck it. I don't know what came over me. I was 00:04:19.759 --> 00:04:21.100 shaking guys. I was like, I'm going to give it 00:04:21.100 --> 00:04:22.180 to him. I'm going to give it to him. We're going 00:04:22.180 --> 00:04:25.879 to give it to give it to him. And then they kind 00:04:25.879 --> 00:04:28.759 of got up to see if that if it was their train 00:04:28.759 --> 00:04:32.810 stop and. I was like, oh my god, this is my time. 00:04:32.870 --> 00:04:35.189 But then they sat back down and I just got up 00:04:35.189 --> 00:04:36.970 and I was like, well, I have to do this. And 00:04:36.970 --> 00:04:39.970 I forced myself. I walk over and I look at him 00:04:39.970 --> 00:04:43.790 and I go, this is for you. It's like out of a 00:04:43.790 --> 00:04:45.290 movie. It's actually wild. I go, this is for 00:04:45.290 --> 00:04:46.569 you. Could you imagine if this is your husband? 00:04:46.649 --> 00:04:48.970 Oh, wow. Imagine if he's listening right now. 00:04:49.970 --> 00:04:54.410 I said, this is for you. And he goes, oh, what? 00:04:55.689 --> 00:04:58.750 What? I mean the reaction was a little underwhelming 00:04:58.750 --> 00:05:01.269 but I was like he was so confused because maybe 00:05:01.269 --> 00:05:03.329 he thought I mean as you would be as you would 00:05:03.329 --> 00:05:06.290 be really confused like rightfully so and she 00:05:06.290 --> 00:05:09.790 bolted to the next car and then I just ran away 00:05:09.790 --> 00:05:13.829 I bolted to the next carriage I got off I actually 00:05:13.829 --> 00:05:16.629 got off the train at town hall and the doors 00:05:16.629 --> 00:05:18.329 were closing and I was like wait no no I don't 00:05:18.329 --> 00:05:19.810 mean to get off the train but you know when you 00:05:19.810 --> 00:05:22.269 get that adrenaline in you and then I went back 00:05:22.269 --> 00:05:26.389 into a different carriage and I don't know What 00:05:26.389 --> 00:05:28.730 is gonna happen? And maybe if that's his partner, 00:05:28.769 --> 00:05:31.110 I will not receive a text, which is absolutely 00:05:31.110 --> 00:05:33.629 fine. But you know what, I'm really proud of 00:05:33.629 --> 00:05:36.029 myself for doing that because Rose a few months 00:05:36.029 --> 00:05:38.629 ago, Rose a few years ago would have never have 00:05:38.629 --> 00:05:44.209 done that. And for me, it was more so like, this 00:05:44.209 --> 00:05:49.449 life is so short. And for me, that was so out 00:05:49.449 --> 00:05:51.920 of my comfort zone. But you know what it was 00:05:51.920 --> 00:05:54.100 so worth it either end up being worth it or a 00:05:54.100 --> 00:05:55.939 funny story or a funny story and you literally 00:05:55.939 --> 00:05:57.759 can't know but you know what I actually feel 00:05:57.759 --> 00:06:00.779 like a boss like the fact that I walked up there 00:06:00.779 --> 00:06:03.540 and I did that and even if he was taken to be 00:06:03.540 --> 00:06:06.259 honest. I still feel like if he was a decent 00:06:06.259 --> 00:06:08.500 guy he'd be like you know what good honor good 00:06:08.500 --> 00:06:10.699 honor for doing that I would be like that I've 00:06:10.699 --> 00:06:12.920 had guys come up to me when I was in a relationship 00:06:12.920 --> 00:06:15.600 and ask me for my number or give me their numbers 00:06:15.600 --> 00:06:18.199 or social media or whatever and I've been like 00:06:18.199 --> 00:06:21.000 you know what that takes a lot of balls. But 00:06:21.000 --> 00:06:24.009 I am in a relationship, but do that. Like, keep 00:06:24.009 --> 00:06:26.850 going, do that. Because nowadays people don't 00:06:26.850 --> 00:06:29.449 do that. Yeah, it's really sad. Nowadays, she 00:06:29.449 --> 00:06:32.410 slid into my DMs. She slid into my DMs. Naps 00:06:32.410 --> 00:06:36.189 me. You know, VTS, whatever. You know, it's like 00:06:36.189 --> 00:06:39.410 crazy. But it inspired our episode today because 00:06:39.410 --> 00:06:41.829 I kind of want to discuss it and I'm still shaking 00:06:41.829 --> 00:06:44.329 from it. I actually think it's such a cool episode 00:06:44.329 --> 00:06:46.110 to talk about. Me too. It's so like, it applies 00:06:46.110 --> 00:06:48.629 to so many things. And yes, Rose has been putting 00:06:48.629 --> 00:06:50.449 herself out there a lot recently. I have, I have. 00:06:50.449 --> 00:06:52.949 I'm very proud of her. Yeah. With a lot of things, 00:06:53.129 --> 00:07:00.930 not just men. We're going to ramble a bit this 00:07:00.930 --> 00:07:02.430 episode because that's what we're kind of in 00:07:02.430 --> 00:07:05.050 the mood to do. Obviously the reasons as to why 00:07:05.050 --> 00:07:08.329 people wouldn't put themselves out there, quote 00:07:08.329 --> 00:07:12.730 unquote, fear of failing, fear of rejection, 00:07:14.550 --> 00:07:17.329 feeling like you're going to get judged by people. 00:07:17.329 --> 00:07:21.610 Maybe past trauma. Yes. A lot of things can can 00:07:21.610 --> 00:07:23.850 result in you, obviously. I mean, I know this 00:07:23.850 --> 00:07:27.310 seems pretty obvious, but this is like getting 00:07:27.310 --> 00:07:30.009 down to the deep rooted issue and then figuring 00:07:30.009 --> 00:07:32.930 out, you know, look, I think the whole moral 00:07:32.930 --> 00:07:34.889 of what we're going to end up talking about is 00:07:34.889 --> 00:07:37.990 that it's not that serious. Right. You can't 00:07:37.990 --> 00:07:40.230 lose by putting yourself out there in those situations, 00:07:40.470 --> 00:07:42.170 especially if your intentions are good. Yeah. 00:07:42.279 --> 00:07:46.439 So yeah so I mean the trauma and the you know 00:07:46.439 --> 00:07:48.620 fear of rejection fear of failure and fear of 00:07:48.620 --> 00:07:51.379 not being successful and whatever it may be is 00:07:51.379 --> 00:07:54.980 all you know good and well if that's the stage 00:07:54.980 --> 00:07:56.740 of your life that you're at right now but just 00:07:56.740 --> 00:07:59.800 take a minute and think about the cost of the 00:07:59.800 --> 00:08:04.180 what if because to me that's so much more nerve 00:08:04.180 --> 00:08:07.769 wracking then. The other way around. Absolutely. 00:08:07.769 --> 00:08:11.170 I am, we've spoken about this on an episode before 00:08:11.170 --> 00:08:12.850 about like the fear of failing and rejection 00:08:12.850 --> 00:08:16.170 and how much it means to us to be in a bit of 00:08:16.170 --> 00:08:20.529 a YOLO mindset a lot of the time, but I genuinely 00:08:20.529 --> 00:08:24.230 have like an angst when I don't do things that 00:08:24.230 --> 00:08:27.649 I feel like I can do. And it's like a real thing. 00:08:27.670 --> 00:08:30.889 And to me, that feeling is 10 times worse than 00:08:30.889 --> 00:08:33.649 the feeling of potentially being rejected in 00:08:33.649 --> 00:08:36.840 something. Yeah. And that's also something that 00:08:36.840 --> 00:08:39.419 I have something like whatever it may be that's 00:08:39.419 --> 00:08:41.440 also something that I've realized too because 00:08:41.440 --> 00:08:44.019 it's like what's the worst that can happen okay 00:08:44.019 --> 00:08:47.879 rejection right is it gonna matter. In a year's 00:08:47.879 --> 00:08:50.519 time in five years time like for example with 00:08:50.519 --> 00:08:53.399 my story I'm either never gonna see the guy again 00:08:53.399 --> 00:08:57.320 I will like honestly like the best scenarios 00:08:57.320 --> 00:09:00.120 that he you know response and he goes yeah like. 00:09:00.279 --> 00:09:02.919 Hey wanna go for coffee, you're cute or whatever 00:09:02.919 --> 00:09:05.000 it is, do you know what I mean? Worst scenario 00:09:05.000 --> 00:09:07.679 is, which is not even the worst scenario, is 00:09:07.679 --> 00:09:10.480 he doesn't message and my life goes on. Do you 00:09:10.480 --> 00:09:12.720 know what I mean? And it's like, I feel like 00:09:12.720 --> 00:09:16.279 I've gotten to a place where, where I am kind 00:09:16.279 --> 00:09:19.259 of yoloing life and I'm like, dude, okay, I'm 00:09:19.259 --> 00:09:21.480 gonna get judged. Those people might be judging 00:09:21.480 --> 00:09:23.299 me and being like, oh my God, like that's so 00:09:23.299 --> 00:09:27.250 weird or whatever it may be. but it doesn't actually 00:09:27.250 --> 00:09:30.049 like affect you or affect your life and for some 00:09:30.049 --> 00:09:33.149 people it is so so hard it's really hard for 00:09:33.149 --> 00:09:35.129 me i'm shaking guys i'm still shaking it's not 00:09:35.129 --> 00:09:38.129 like it i just wandered up there and was like 00:09:38.129 --> 00:09:40.549 yeah confidence but i was just like you know 00:09:40.549 --> 00:09:44.990 what i'm sick of okay To put it this way, I feel 00:09:44.990 --> 00:09:47.509 like I kind of would have regretted if I didn't 00:09:47.509 --> 00:09:50.049 do that. But that's the word I was looking for. 00:09:50.289 --> 00:09:52.490 The regret that you would feel for not doing 00:09:52.490 --> 00:09:54.809 something to me is a ten times worse feeling 00:09:54.809 --> 00:09:57.389 to have to deal with than the cost of you doing 00:09:57.389 --> 00:10:00.309 it in the first place. Correct. In the moment, 00:10:00.610 --> 00:10:03.299 it's like... your ego might get caught and that's 00:10:03.299 --> 00:10:05.600 what a lot of people when they want to put themselves 00:10:05.600 --> 00:10:07.559 out there they don't do it because they're like 00:10:07.559 --> 00:10:09.960 it's going to hurt their ego right rejection 00:10:09.960 --> 00:10:12.899 is hurting your ego failure is hurting your ego 00:10:12.899 --> 00:10:15.379 your self -confidence but you've got to separate 00:10:15.379 --> 00:10:19.700 ego and action really you know ego and putting 00:10:19.700 --> 00:10:21.720 yourself out there is completely two different 00:10:21.720 --> 00:10:25.320 things they obviously link but it's like you're 00:10:25.320 --> 00:10:29.500 putting yourself out there how can that go wrong 00:10:29.500 --> 00:10:32.659 it cannot go wrong. It really can if it does 00:10:32.659 --> 00:10:34.820 it won't be that serious it's a funny story to 00:10:34.820 --> 00:10:38.019 tell later on yeah kids and also like it can 00:10:38.019 --> 00:10:40.919 look different to everyone like no no one way 00:10:40.919 --> 00:10:43.179 of putting yourself out there big enough or small 00:10:43.179 --> 00:10:46.669 enough is you know. Not not good enough. I don't 00:10:46.669 --> 00:10:48.490 know what word I'm looking for again I'm rambling 00:10:48.490 --> 00:10:51.350 guys, but like there's multiple ways this can 00:10:51.350 --> 00:10:54.490 look like I'll talk about some of like my personal 00:10:54.490 --> 00:10:57.409 experiences Actually, we'll talk about our experiences 00:10:57.409 --> 00:10:59.549 with this podcast because I feel like this podcast 00:10:59.549 --> 00:11:01.710 is a big move to be honest I say all the time. 00:11:01.809 --> 00:11:03.350 I think we may have said it in the first episode 00:11:03.350 --> 00:11:05.429 I personally don't think I could have done this 00:11:05.429 --> 00:11:07.470 on my own I don't think I would have been at 00:11:07.470 --> 00:11:10.590 a place at the time that we started to be like, 00:11:10.590 --> 00:11:14.259 yeah I'm going to make a podcast and put it out 00:11:14.259 --> 00:11:16.639 on my own with my 700 followers on Instagram. 00:11:16.940 --> 00:11:18.720 I don't think I would have been in a place to 00:11:18.720 --> 00:11:22.220 do that. Or like even now, I'm trying to get 00:11:22.220 --> 00:11:24.460 more content out on my personal TikTok page. 00:11:24.580 --> 00:11:27.120 And it's been a bit like, I always constantly 00:11:27.120 --> 00:11:28.799 have this fear at the back of my head of like, 00:11:28.940 --> 00:11:30.600 oh, what if people judge? What if like, because 00:11:30.600 --> 00:11:32.840 my content now is starting to look a little bit 00:11:32.840 --> 00:11:35.059 more like influencer content or like the stuff 00:11:35.059 --> 00:11:36.340 that I plan to put out. Or our video that we 00:11:36.340 --> 00:11:39.700 posted on my page the other day. Looking like 00:11:39.700 --> 00:11:44.960 absolute rats, but like I was thinking like So 00:11:44.960 --> 00:11:46.899 what if someone looks at it for one second like 00:11:46.899 --> 00:11:48.500 even though it comes to the back of my head and 00:11:48.500 --> 00:11:50.159 I'm like, okay Maybe they'll look at it and judge 00:11:50.159 --> 00:11:53.580 and be like, oh my god guys. Sorry, but sorry 00:11:53.580 --> 00:11:57.059 Emanuella just got a buzz on her phone and I 00:11:57.059 --> 00:12:03.279 just I was like my heart dropped into my ass 00:12:09.050 --> 00:12:12.110 Sorry, I cut you off. No, I've lost track now. 00:12:12.110 --> 00:12:14.269 You're putting influencer content out. Yeah, 00:12:14.269 --> 00:12:16.590 and I was like, you know what? Worst case scenario, 00:12:16.750 --> 00:12:18.769 someone's going to look at it and go, what a 00:12:18.769 --> 00:12:20.929 joke. She thinks she's an influencer. Yeah. And 00:12:20.929 --> 00:12:23.269 then their day will go on. Exactly. And my day 00:12:23.269 --> 00:12:25.889 will go on. Exactly. And if anything, it's going 00:12:25.889 --> 00:12:28.289 to either end up being me getting three views 00:12:28.289 --> 00:12:30.950 or me blowing up. Correct. And it's going to 00:12:30.950 --> 00:12:33.129 achieve what I wanted to achieve. Correct. Get 00:12:33.129 --> 00:12:35.250 the message across. And it's a win -win situation. 00:12:35.269 --> 00:12:36.149 And what's the worst that's going to happen? 00:12:36.149 --> 00:12:40.909 You get three views. Yeah. Exactly. Wow. The 00:12:40.909 --> 00:12:43.110 world is ending. Three views. Or like, I'll give 00:12:43.110 --> 00:12:47.250 you another example. Like the other day. Give 00:12:47.250 --> 00:12:49.230 it to me. The other day, you know this example 00:12:49.230 --> 00:12:52.049 because you're part of it. I was in my bed and 00:12:52.049 --> 00:12:54.029 I was like, I want to pick up a new hobby. I'm 00:12:54.029 --> 00:12:57.049 in the mood because I'm in the mood. This is 00:12:57.049 --> 00:12:59.929 a perfect example. You know what? I have wanted 00:12:59.929 --> 00:13:02.529 to start back. Me and Rose used to dance both 00:13:02.529 --> 00:13:07.309 as like little younger girls, right? And when 00:13:07.309 --> 00:13:10.730 I started uni and work, I was like, OK, I don't 00:13:10.730 --> 00:13:13.509 have time for this anymore. And recently, I've 00:13:13.509 --> 00:13:15.950 been like, no, well, this is not good enough. 00:13:16.009 --> 00:13:18.269 I want to pick up a hobby. But I was always too 00:13:18.269 --> 00:13:19.950 scared because I thought I wouldn't be good enough 00:13:19.950 --> 00:13:22.090 to start going back into dance. I don't know 00:13:22.090 --> 00:13:23.970 if I mentioned dance before, but that's what 00:13:23.970 --> 00:13:25.809 we were talking about. So basically, I wanted 00:13:25.809 --> 00:13:28.250 to get back into dance for a while. So I started 00:13:28.250 --> 00:13:30.690 looking up places and I found a place that did 00:13:30.690 --> 00:13:32.529 like twenty five dollar classes. And I was like, 00:13:32.590 --> 00:13:34.769 you know what? I'm going to do a class. And I 00:13:34.769 --> 00:13:36.879 was about to book it. And then I went. Rose. 00:13:37.080 --> 00:13:40.120 I don't think I can do this on my own. I messaged 00:13:40.120 --> 00:13:41.500 Rose and she was like, yeah, I'll do a class 00:13:41.500 --> 00:13:45.000 with you. I've also always wanted to go back 00:13:45.000 --> 00:13:46.860 to dance. Yeah. Like, and it's not like it's 00:13:46.860 --> 00:13:48.519 competitive dance, it's beginner's hip hop or 00:13:48.519 --> 00:13:51.179 whatever it is. But it's like, you know what? 00:13:51.860 --> 00:13:56.000 Fuck it. Like I'm sick of not living my life 00:13:56.000 --> 00:13:58.320 the way that I want to live my life. And if I 00:13:58.320 --> 00:13:59.840 want to do something, I'm going to do it. And 00:13:59.840 --> 00:14:02.639 I've been talking about doing dance. Me too, 00:14:02.740 --> 00:14:04.100 how many times have we said it together? I know. 00:14:04.320 --> 00:14:06.360 So many. And this day I was like, you know what? 00:14:06.700 --> 00:14:08.179 Crazy idea, but do you want to stay around my 00:14:08.179 --> 00:14:10.159 house on Monday and we'll go to dance together? 00:14:10.759 --> 00:14:12.580 So now we've got a dance class in a couple days 00:14:12.580 --> 00:14:14.220 guys and we'll let you know how it goes in the 00:14:14.220 --> 00:14:17.779 next episode. But yeah, just like little examples 00:14:17.779 --> 00:14:22.200 like that. And yeah, I mean, it could end up 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:25.440 so much better than what you think. You never 00:14:25.440 --> 00:14:29.279 know. Like if this dance class works out well. 00:14:29.389 --> 00:14:32.149 I honestly think I'd be happy to go on my own 00:14:32.149 --> 00:14:34.070 and so would you be. And I feel like it could 00:14:34.070 --> 00:14:35.649 just like, what's the worst that could happen? 00:14:35.990 --> 00:14:37.889 You're bad at dancing and you don't go back again. 00:14:38.710 --> 00:14:41.570 Okay. Yeah. Big deal. Yeah. Literally. Like, 00:14:41.649 --> 00:14:44.110 for example, we'll talk about your, your acting. 00:14:44.870 --> 00:14:47.629 My acting? Yeah. Like putting yourself out there. 00:14:47.830 --> 00:14:50.490 Oh yeah. As an actor. Well, I mean, constant 00:14:50.490 --> 00:14:53.230 rejection, constant, constant, constant rejection. 00:14:54.070 --> 00:14:55.830 At this point, I'm used to it, to be honest. 00:14:56.370 --> 00:14:59.169 Like, I've been in the industry since I was very, 00:14:59.169 --> 00:15:02.129 very young, and you are going to get 98 % no's 00:15:02.129 --> 00:15:07.009 in this industry. And like, as thick of a skin 00:15:07.009 --> 00:15:09.990 that I have, it still hurts a little every time. 00:15:10.350 --> 00:15:14.129 Like, there's still something in you that's like, 00:15:14.169 --> 00:15:16.909 oh, am I not enough? And that's natural, right? 00:15:17.149 --> 00:15:19.710 But my life goes on. As an actor, if I don't 00:15:19.710 --> 00:15:22.950 book the role, which is 99 % of the time, my 00:15:22.950 --> 00:15:25.529 life goes on, nothing changes. If I book it, 00:15:25.899 --> 00:15:30.379 Great my life changes it's it's insane to think 00:15:30.379 --> 00:15:34.519 that like I know that it'll happen when it happens 00:15:34.519 --> 00:15:37.659 and I am working and I do book amazing things 00:15:37.659 --> 00:15:42.720 and I'm very grateful but you. You put yourself 00:15:42.720 --> 00:15:46.419 out there every single day to be honest whether 00:15:46.419 --> 00:15:49.360 you're an actor whether you're a performer whether 00:15:49.360 --> 00:15:52.259 you work in business or finance or in law you 00:15:52.259 --> 00:15:57.580 put yourself out there every day. Job basis so 00:15:57.580 --> 00:15:59.779 many other ways you put yourself out there in 00:15:59.779 --> 00:16:01.700 a relationship when you share your vulnerability 00:16:01.700 --> 00:16:04.200 with someone else when you give yourself to someone 00:16:04.200 --> 00:16:05.799 else when you're intimate with someone you are 00:16:05.799 --> 00:16:07.899 putting yourself out there you put yourself out 00:16:07.899 --> 00:16:10.539 there with family with therapists with friends 00:16:10.539 --> 00:16:14.059 constantly simple as going to the gym putting 00:16:14.059 --> 00:16:18.000 yourself out there being outside like even just 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:21.490 like we put ourselves out there. Every minute 00:16:21.490 --> 00:16:25.129 of every day and i think we forget that and we 00:16:25.129 --> 00:16:27.409 don't actually realize that because you don't 00:16:27.409 --> 00:16:29.110 know people on the street could be walking and 00:16:29.110 --> 00:16:31.090 they could be criticizing you could be the opposite 00:16:31.090 --> 00:16:33.009 people on the street could be literally looking 00:16:33.009 --> 00:16:35.250 at you and thinking you're a godsend from this 00:16:35.250 --> 00:16:39.730 like it's really really interesting to think. 00:16:40.039 --> 00:16:42.580 Wow I actually do put myself out there every 00:16:42.580 --> 00:16:45.559 day so what is it gonna do if I put myself out 00:16:45.559 --> 00:16:48.259 there a little bit more if I do something that 00:16:48.259 --> 00:16:52.340 I don't usually do. I challenge you, I challenge 00:16:52.340 --> 00:16:56.700 you guys to You know what let's start with once 00:16:56.700 --> 00:17:00.120 a month to once a month Go out there and put 00:17:00.120 --> 00:17:01.940 yourself out there and do something that you 00:17:01.940 --> 00:17:04.380 wouldn't normally do Whether it's something like 00:17:04.380 --> 00:17:06.720 me where I gave somebody my number, and I don't 00:17:06.720 --> 00:17:09.019 think I've ever done that in my life a dance 00:17:09.019 --> 00:17:12.599 class booking a dance class Whatever going to 00:17:12.599 --> 00:17:14.700 the gym if you're insecure or you know about 00:17:14.700 --> 00:17:17.380 it, and you can't go alone go with a friend like 00:17:17.380 --> 00:17:20.839 there's always things Are like this always a 00:17:20.839 --> 00:17:24.599 way around it. Yeah. You know what, for our age 00:17:24.599 --> 00:17:26.400 as well, I'm just going to say something that 00:17:26.400 --> 00:17:30.200 I feel like has helped me a lot. Being in customer 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:33.200 service before I was working a customer service 00:17:33.200 --> 00:17:36.829 job. I was the biggest shell of a human you could 00:17:36.829 --> 00:17:40.450 ever imagine. I was such a shy child. I didn't 00:17:40.450 --> 00:17:42.670 really used to speak much until people spoke 00:17:42.670 --> 00:17:44.490 to me. To an extent, I'm still like that, but 00:17:44.490 --> 00:17:46.950 I'm so much better now ever since I got a job 00:17:46.950 --> 00:17:49.470 in customer service. Even if it's for six months, 00:17:49.630 --> 00:17:52.809 I recommend everyone to try and do a job in customer 00:17:52.809 --> 00:17:55.289 service because the amount of stories and people 00:17:55.289 --> 00:17:58.890 and situations you have to put yourself in, I 00:17:58.890 --> 00:18:02.569 have become so much more. open so much more confident 00:18:02.569 --> 00:18:05.009 so much more witty in my responses to things 00:18:05.009 --> 00:18:09.029 so much more accepting of like i was always accepting 00:18:09.029 --> 00:18:11.990 but like i guess what my point is like sometimes 00:18:11.990 --> 00:18:15.309 people you might judge someone for whatever reason 00:18:15.309 --> 00:18:17.450 it might be or you might think oh i'm not going 00:18:17.450 --> 00:18:19.210 to talk to them because they look too intimidating 00:18:19.210 --> 00:18:21.990 or i'm not going to say this for whatever reason 00:18:21.990 --> 00:18:24.829 anyways you get my point but the amount of times 00:18:24.829 --> 00:18:28.460 where i for example like Seen someone that i 00:18:28.460 --> 00:18:31.059 thought was you know looked like really intimidating 00:18:31.059 --> 00:18:33.099 and then they walked past me or i was serving 00:18:33.099 --> 00:18:35.839 them at my job and they like smell really good 00:18:35.839 --> 00:18:38.460 and i was like your perfume is so nice and they 00:18:38.460 --> 00:18:42.519 instantly brighten up and thank you so much or 00:18:42.519 --> 00:18:46.000 like for instance. I feel like naturally I have 00:18:46.000 --> 00:18:49.039 a little bit of an RBF, right? What's that? Resting 00:18:49.039 --> 00:18:51.319 bitch face. Oh. So when I'm like at the gym, 00:18:51.339 --> 00:18:54.579 for example, I'm like in my zone doing my thing. 00:18:54.579 --> 00:18:56.779 And I remember a girl came up to me one day and 00:18:56.779 --> 00:18:58.500 she was just like, it was such a cute compliment. 00:18:58.539 --> 00:19:00.140 Like it was so small, but she came up and she's 00:19:00.140 --> 00:19:02.259 like, I just want to say you've been on that 00:19:02.259 --> 00:19:04.119 StairMaster for such a long time and I'm so proud 00:19:04.119 --> 00:19:07.420 of you. And I just looked down and I went, thanks. 00:19:07.579 --> 00:19:09.680 Like that's actually so nice. And at the time 00:19:09.680 --> 00:19:12.480 I was like in my zone, sweating top to bottom. 00:19:12.700 --> 00:19:14.619 Probably looked really intimidating because I 00:19:14.619 --> 00:19:17.000 catch myself looking like that sometimes you 00:19:17.000 --> 00:19:19.720 actually do have a resting bitch face Yeah, because 00:19:19.720 --> 00:19:22.180 because you've actually got really striking features 00:19:22.180 --> 00:19:25.359 and she's like And like when I when I do that 00:19:25.359 --> 00:19:27.000 sound effect and you don't actually see what 00:19:27.000 --> 00:19:28.779 I'm doing with my face right now your cheekbones 00:19:28.779 --> 00:19:30.720 And like you actually have that striking face, 00:19:30.740 --> 00:19:33.140 so I would be intimidated to come and talk to 00:19:33.140 --> 00:19:35.900 you too. So balls on that girl No, I love that 00:19:35.900 --> 00:19:38.339 just it just goes to show that like You never 00:19:38.339 --> 00:19:40.140 know how someone's gonna respond to something 00:19:40.140 --> 00:19:41.880 and a lot of the time when you're putting yourself 00:19:41.880 --> 00:19:43.519 out there you're putting yourself out there. 00:19:44.200 --> 00:19:46.640 In terms of a human connection yeah like you 00:19:46.640 --> 00:19:49.559 know what i mean like always the fear is because. 00:19:49.900 --> 00:19:52.460 of a fear of a conversation or a rejection that 00:19:52.460 --> 00:19:54.359 you'll have with another human at the end of 00:19:54.359 --> 00:19:56.880 the day. But one thought that always helps me 00:19:56.880 --> 00:19:59.259 as well is that everyone has a story. Like the 00:19:59.259 --> 00:20:01.180 amount of times that I'm walking down the street 00:20:01.180 --> 00:20:02.759 and I look across someone and I'm like, they 00:20:02.759 --> 00:20:04.460 look like such an interesting person. I would 00:20:04.460 --> 00:20:06.859 love to know what their story is. But like never 00:20:06.859 --> 00:20:09.200 ever would I go and ask them what their story 00:20:09.200 --> 00:20:11.380 was. But like it gives me a little bit of peace 00:20:11.380 --> 00:20:16.480 and like sometimes I even think like I might 00:20:16.480 --> 00:20:19.339 look intimidating, but I'm really not. Like i'm 00:20:19.339 --> 00:20:21.440 not that type of person so if i look at someone 00:20:21.440 --> 00:20:23.420 else they might be exactly the same like you 00:20:23.420 --> 00:20:25.900 can't you really can't judge a book by its cover 00:20:25.900 --> 00:20:28.119 in situations like this when it comes to putting 00:20:28.119 --> 00:20:30.519 yourself out there and you know what man you 00:20:30.519 --> 00:20:33.119 are a great example because when we first met 00:20:33.119 --> 00:20:35.880 we said this neither of us thought we were going 00:20:35.880 --> 00:20:38.180 to end up as close as we did absolutely not no 00:20:38.180 --> 00:20:46.299 okay don't be so disgusted. I just never thought 00:20:46.299 --> 00:20:49.559 that you would become. literally one of the most 00:20:49.559 --> 00:20:51.859 important people in my life. Like you are literally 00:20:51.859 --> 00:20:53.579 one of the most important people in my life and 00:20:53.579 --> 00:20:57.839 I never, stop it, and I never ever thought that 00:20:57.839 --> 00:21:00.359 that was gonna happen. Like you know I knew that 00:21:00.359 --> 00:21:02.960 like maybe we'd be uni mates or whatever it might 00:21:02.960 --> 00:21:04.740 be like very surface level. Like we are with 00:21:04.740 --> 00:21:06.619 the rest of the people at uni now. Correct. But 00:21:06.619 --> 00:21:09.599 basically it started because I mean we were both 00:21:09.599 --> 00:21:13.240 open and like we were like 18 and just starting 00:21:13.240 --> 00:21:15.440 uni and I messaged her one day and I was like 00:21:15.440 --> 00:21:18.829 hey we have a lecture. Do you want to do it together 00:21:18.829 --> 00:21:21.269 on campus? And we ended up meeting up and then 00:21:21.269 --> 00:21:24.009 I was like, so how am I going to break this out 00:21:24.009 --> 00:21:26.589 of just surface level shit? So what did you do 00:21:26.589 --> 00:21:29.690 on the weekend? What did I say? I said, what 00:21:29.690 --> 00:21:31.309 did you do on the weekend? And you said, I went 00:21:31.309 --> 00:21:33.289 on a date. And I said, I went on a date. Oh my 00:21:33.289 --> 00:21:35.089 God. And then we ended up dating those people. 00:21:35.250 --> 00:21:37.250 How funny. Yeah. Anyways, we've been through 00:21:37.250 --> 00:21:39.809 this so many times, but it's, yeah, but it just 00:21:39.809 --> 00:21:42.329 goes to show, like, imagine if I hadn't sent 00:21:42.329 --> 00:21:45.420 you that message that day. What would be the 00:21:45.420 --> 00:21:48.119 podcast right now we wouldn't have traveled with 00:21:48.119 --> 00:21:51.240 track guys we travel the world together we have 00:21:51.240 --> 00:21:53.559 a podcast together we are finishing university 00:21:53.559 --> 00:21:56.839 together we have been through so much and it. 00:21:56.890 --> 00:21:59.329 All came from that one message that Emanuela 00:21:59.329 --> 00:22:02.069 sent me. Literally. And you know what, the same 00:22:02.069 --> 00:22:04.490 thing goes now. Like I have a very small circle 00:22:04.490 --> 00:22:06.769 of friends, but one goal that I've decided to 00:22:06.769 --> 00:22:08.630 make for this year is just to put myself out 00:22:08.630 --> 00:22:10.710 there a bit more. And even though I like to keep 00:22:10.710 --> 00:22:13.650 my circle small, I feel like I could do some 00:22:13.650 --> 00:22:16.690 more socializing at times. So I'm like, I'm just 00:22:16.690 --> 00:22:19.990 going to talk to people like what what is the 00:22:19.990 --> 00:22:21.890 worst thing that can happen. I also have another 00:22:21.890 --> 00:22:25.990 story on that on that. Do you remember the South 00:22:25.990 --> 00:22:28.529 by Southwest festival that I went to by myself 00:22:28.529 --> 00:22:32.509 and I met the director and I met like like honestly 00:22:32.509 --> 00:22:35.349 oh my goodness that was huge for me so there 00:22:35.349 --> 00:22:39.069 was a really big festival in Sydney a film festival 00:22:39.069 --> 00:22:42.089 called South by Southwest and I had tickets and 00:22:42.089 --> 00:22:47.839 stuff and I. Had tickets just for one person 00:22:47.839 --> 00:22:51.140 to go to this event that i was invited to and 00:22:51.140 --> 00:22:55.359 i was like social anxiety like i was like i can't 00:22:55.359 --> 00:22:57.940 go i can't go on my own i need somebody to go 00:22:57.940 --> 00:23:01.500 with me i asked everyone to come with me and 00:23:01.500 --> 00:23:04.440 no one was free and i remember i was talking 00:23:04.440 --> 00:23:08.220 to my one of my really good friends. And, um, 00:23:08.599 --> 00:23:11.440 she said to me, she was like, Rose, this is a 00:23:11.440 --> 00:23:14.380 massive opportunity for you. It is an opportunity 00:23:14.380 --> 00:23:16.920 for you to put yourself out there, to get yourself 00:23:16.920 --> 00:23:19.339 out of your comfort zone. And the worst that 00:23:19.339 --> 00:23:21.619 can happen is you don't have a good time and 00:23:21.619 --> 00:23:24.319 then you can leave. You can go home. So I was 00:23:24.319 --> 00:23:27.920 like, fuck it. I put makeup on, got dressed nice 00:23:27.920 --> 00:23:31.859 and cute, went to the event by myself and I just 00:23:31.859 --> 00:23:35.519 met. So many people and guys actually have like 00:23:35.519 --> 00:23:39.099 social anxiety like if i feel overwhelmed i do 00:23:39.099 --> 00:23:41.299 like if i feel overwhelmed i don't i don't just 00:23:41.299 --> 00:23:44.539 go up and chat to people. But the way that everything 00:23:44.539 --> 00:23:47.000 kind of a line like i was meant to be there and 00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:49.339 i had put myself out there by showing up to this 00:23:49.339 --> 00:23:54.000 event and i met shout out to you jess i met. 00:23:55.380 --> 00:23:58.299 Jess who is like one of my really close friends 00:23:58.299 --> 00:24:01.690 now she's a. She works in like design and works 00:24:01.690 --> 00:24:04.710 for Vogue and she's incredibly talented and she's 00:24:04.710 --> 00:24:07.089 now one of my very good friends and it's like 00:24:07.089 --> 00:24:09.029 and we met you know a bunch of like we met a 00:24:09.029 --> 00:24:11.849 beautiful director called Sam and then like Jack 00:24:11.849 --> 00:24:14.789 like all these all these amazing people that 00:24:14.789 --> 00:24:18.670 like we still keep in contact to this day so 00:24:18.670 --> 00:24:22.660 honestly. Take that step. Take that leap. Who 00:24:22.660 --> 00:24:24.500 knows? Maybe the guy on the train's my future 00:24:24.500 --> 00:24:27.519 husband. That's so funny. Oh my God. Can you 00:24:27.519 --> 00:24:29.319 imagine? You know what? There's so many, I feel 00:24:29.319 --> 00:24:31.160 like we could talk about so many stories like 00:24:31.160 --> 00:24:33.599 this. Like for example, even with our traveling, 00:24:34.000 --> 00:24:36.500 some people don't do it. Some people don't feel 00:24:36.500 --> 00:24:39.380 like they can make that move because, you know, 00:24:39.940 --> 00:24:43.150 or no one wants to come with me or. No but I 00:24:43.150 --> 00:24:45.650 need to save my money or no but whatever no but 00:24:45.650 --> 00:24:48.630 no but no but no. Well you don't know till you 00:24:48.630 --> 00:24:52.369 try like I'll give you another example. No one 00:24:52.369 --> 00:24:53.910 except my close friends are going to know this 00:24:53.910 --> 00:24:56.970 but my partner just moved overseas so I'm now 00:24:56.970 --> 00:24:59.990 in a long distance relationship. Yes she is. 00:25:01.150 --> 00:25:07.609 So from his perspective he is a person that is 00:25:07.609 --> 00:25:11.920 so not scared about anything like he's so. Take 00:25:11.920 --> 00:25:14.539 things for what they are logical thinker And 00:25:14.539 --> 00:25:16.420 this was the first time that he actually expressed 00:25:16.420 --> 00:25:18.339 to me that he was a little bit scared to move 00:25:18.339 --> 00:25:21.839 to another country Because that's what this right 00:25:21.839 --> 00:25:25.599 now as you would be and he still is and he's 00:25:25.599 --> 00:25:27.720 still like going through it He had never left 00:25:27.720 --> 00:25:30.839 the country really before we started traveling 00:25:30.839 --> 00:25:34.579 together a couple years ago But it's just like 00:25:34.579 --> 00:25:37.359 something like that even no matter how much it 00:25:37.359 --> 00:25:39.079 affects you what's the worst thing that can happen 00:25:39.079 --> 00:25:41.200 because when he told me he was planning on this 00:25:41.200 --> 00:25:43.819 was a joint decision guys no one come at me but 00:25:43.819 --> 00:25:46.000 when he told me he was going I was like okay 00:25:46.000 --> 00:25:47.559 what's the worst thing that can happen either 00:25:47.559 --> 00:25:50.190 you go and you hate it and you book a flight 00:25:50.190 --> 00:25:53.049 ticket home or you go and you love it and it 00:25:53.049 --> 00:25:55.109 ends up better than it was before correct and 00:25:55.109 --> 00:25:57.150 same thing applies for and that's just one example 00:25:57.150 --> 00:26:00.109 of a current situation but same applies to like 00:26:00.109 --> 00:26:02.890 i don't regret any of my travels i really want 00:26:02.890 --> 00:26:04.890 to move elsewhere as well i may end up moving 00:26:04.890 --> 00:26:07.829 there as well and like i can't wait to put myself 00:26:07.829 --> 00:26:10.450 out there in so many more situations and you 00:26:10.450 --> 00:26:13.500 know Even like when we travel together, like 00:26:13.500 --> 00:26:15.259 putting ourselves out there with all the people 00:26:15.259 --> 00:26:18.440 that we meet, the amount of friendships and like 00:26:18.440 --> 00:26:20.920 weird interactions we've had that have ended 00:26:20.920 --> 00:26:25.180 up being, even if they're not lifelong friendships 00:26:25.180 --> 00:26:28.460 or building relationships or whatever they may 00:26:28.460 --> 00:26:31.519 be. It's like a, it's a cute story. It's a moment 00:26:31.519 --> 00:26:34.500 in that time and it becomes a memory that you 00:26:34.500 --> 00:26:36.759 will remember. There are so many moments where 00:26:36.759 --> 00:26:38.660 I've met certain people who I'm like not in touch 00:26:38.660 --> 00:26:40.839 with or whatever, but they have impacted my life 00:26:40.839 --> 00:26:43.920 in some sort of way. And, but, but you know what, 00:26:43.940 --> 00:26:46.220 there's that other side of like, which I think 00:26:46.220 --> 00:26:48.160 we should talk about is like when you put yourself 00:26:48.160 --> 00:26:50.619 out there and nothing happens, it's like, okay. 00:26:50.720 --> 00:26:52.279 And then you, you know, cause I've done that 00:26:52.279 --> 00:26:55.680 before. Right. It hurts your ego, it hurts your 00:26:55.680 --> 00:26:57.220 heart a little bit when you put yourself out 00:26:57.220 --> 00:26:59.720 there and you don't really get the result. You 00:26:59.720 --> 00:27:02.140 don't get a result, right? But I think you've 00:27:02.140 --> 00:27:05.579 just got to remember that if you don't get anything 00:27:05.579 --> 00:27:09.619 in return, like nothing bad has actually happened, 00:27:09.759 --> 00:27:12.420 but it's just your ego being like, oh, you're 00:27:12.420 --> 00:27:14.099 this, you're this, you know, it didn't happen 00:27:14.099 --> 00:27:17.380 for you. It's literally an ego thing. But also 00:27:17.380 --> 00:27:19.660 you have to reframe it because think about it 00:27:19.660 --> 00:27:22.619 in this way. Now you've got peace of mind, if 00:27:22.619 --> 00:27:25.259 anything, because there's no what ifs. Correct. 00:27:25.400 --> 00:27:27.099 You know that you put yourself out there and 00:27:27.099 --> 00:27:29.160 nothing happened. Yeah. Okay, good. That chapter 00:27:29.160 --> 00:27:33.640 can close now. Yeah. Like for me. Who knows? 00:27:33.640 --> 00:27:35.759 What were you literally saying to me when I was, 00:27:35.759 --> 00:27:37.759 I was freaking out, guys. I got in the car and 00:27:37.759 --> 00:27:40.059 I was, I'm still shaking a little bit. And guys, 00:27:40.059 --> 00:27:42.420 I'm such a nonchalant person. She was so nonchalant. 00:27:42.460 --> 00:27:44.579 I was like, do you realize what I've just done? 00:27:44.759 --> 00:27:46.599 And I literally turned around and I said, okay, 00:27:46.619 --> 00:27:48.119 what do you want me to say? Like, this is literally 00:27:48.119 --> 00:27:49.599 how we talk, guys. I was like, what do you want 00:27:49.599 --> 00:27:51.710 me to say? Two things are going to happen. Either 00:27:51.710 --> 00:27:54.269 one, he's going to message you, or two, he's 00:27:54.269 --> 00:27:56.630 not going to message you. Yep. I was like, Oh 00:27:56.630 --> 00:27:57.750 my God, what if he doesn't message me? What if 00:27:57.750 --> 00:27:59.490 they think I'm an idiot? What do they think? 00:27:59.829 --> 00:28:01.670 Oh my God, this girl's a psycho. Like da da da 00:28:01.670 --> 00:28:03.670 da da. You've done worst case scenario. You don't 00:28:03.670 --> 00:28:05.549 have to see it like best case scenario again. 00:28:05.650 --> 00:28:06.910 You don't have to see him again and you won't 00:28:06.910 --> 00:28:10.150 talk like big whoops. Yeah. It's not a big deal. 00:28:10.150 --> 00:28:14.670 No. And this is why. I'm such a good therapist 00:28:14.670 --> 00:28:17.509 friend. But you know what, I actually feel quite 00:28:17.509 --> 00:28:21.190 empowered. It's weird. I'm anxious, but I'm empowered 00:28:21.190 --> 00:28:22.630 that I did that because I was like, you know 00:28:22.630 --> 00:28:24.190 what, I kind of feel like I would have regretted 00:28:24.190 --> 00:28:26.890 it. There were so many times where I've wanted 00:28:26.890 --> 00:28:29.269 to talk to someone or somebody wanted to talk 00:28:29.269 --> 00:28:31.009 to me, but it didn't happen or you're locking 00:28:31.009 --> 00:28:33.269 eyes. You don't get that. You lock eyes and there's 00:28:33.269 --> 00:28:35.630 clearly something there. It's not that we weren't 00:28:35.630 --> 00:28:39.349 even locking eyes, but every time I just found 00:28:39.349 --> 00:28:41.529 him attractive, I found his eyes really captivating. 00:28:42.160 --> 00:28:47.730 when I've been out. And I've, whether it's on 00:28:47.730 --> 00:28:49.529 a walk or something and you lock eyes with someone 00:28:49.529 --> 00:28:52.069 and you know you want to talk to each other, 00:28:52.069 --> 00:28:54.490 but you're too scared to. The amount of times 00:28:54.490 --> 00:28:56.809 I haven't gone up to them or they haven't gone 00:28:56.809 --> 00:29:00.150 up to me, I'm like, I actually regret that. And 00:29:00.150 --> 00:29:02.789 I'm sure they do too, but we're both little pussies. 00:29:03.410 --> 00:29:06.690 And that comes with a lot of opportunities both 00:29:06.690 --> 00:29:08.609 ways. It's like, oh, I didn't take that job I 00:29:08.609 --> 00:29:10.609 wish I did. Oh, I didn't go on that trip I wish 00:29:10.609 --> 00:29:13.789 I did. Oh, I wish I put my money in this investment 00:29:13.789 --> 00:29:17.109 and I didn't. you've just got to do it like it 00:29:17.109 --> 00:29:19.710 applies to literally everything in your life 00:29:19.710 --> 00:29:26.269 and it's like yolo you only live once i live 00:29:26.269 --> 00:29:28.430 by that quote i don't care how cringe it is no 00:29:28.430 --> 00:29:31.009 it's actually not cringe at all no you do only 00:29:31.009 --> 00:29:32.890 live once unless you reincarnated to something 00:29:32.890 --> 00:29:34.190 else no i know but i'm talking about like the 00:29:34.190 --> 00:29:41.119 14 year olds that walk around like yolo I had 00:29:41.119 --> 00:29:43.519 something really good to say and now I've completely 00:29:43.519 --> 00:29:45.720 blanked about keep talking and it'll come back 00:29:45.720 --> 00:29:48.240 I think I mentioned a little bit ago aligned 00:29:48.240 --> 00:29:51.859 action and I know I keep bringing up myself and 00:29:51.859 --> 00:29:53.900 today's Circumstance and if you're annoyed at 00:29:53.900 --> 00:29:58.000 it, you can just click off the pod But when I 00:29:58.000 --> 00:30:00.640 say aligned action, like for example, like I'm 00:30:00.640 --> 00:30:02.740 not looking for a relationship. I'm never looking 00:30:02.740 --> 00:30:08.860 for one to be honest. I love my single life But 00:30:08.860 --> 00:30:12.420 I, like it would be, it would be nice. You know, 00:30:12.440 --> 00:30:14.279 it's something that I'm open to. It's something 00:30:14.279 --> 00:30:17.359 that I'm absolutely open to. And I have taken 00:30:17.359 --> 00:30:22.039 this step to opening up that opportunity today. 00:30:22.480 --> 00:30:24.960 That is what I call aligned action. Something 00:30:24.960 --> 00:30:27.980 that I'm open to, something that, you know, would 00:30:27.980 --> 00:30:32.359 be nice. I have taken that step to. Maybe have 00:30:32.359 --> 00:30:34.200 that be a possibility i'm not saying he's my 00:30:34.200 --> 00:30:36.180 future boyfriend but i'm like you know what that 00:30:36.180 --> 00:30:39.559 is how. Stop happens you know what i mean as 00:30:39.559 --> 00:30:43.700 we said in the last episode. It's all about what 00:30:43.700 --> 00:30:47.019 you do it's not what you know you know a lot 00:30:47.019 --> 00:30:49.099 of the time it's actually what you do about it 00:30:49.099 --> 00:30:51.240 because. You could not have all the skills in 00:30:51.240 --> 00:30:53.200 the world and you could know all the people in 00:30:53.200 --> 00:30:55.740 the world and if you don't take the actual steps 00:30:55.740 --> 00:30:58.319 actually make something happen from those valuable 00:30:58.319 --> 00:31:02.380 connections that you have. Nothing's gonna happen. 00:31:03.599 --> 00:31:07.799 That's literally all it's about. And 95 % of 00:31:07.799 --> 00:31:09.559 the time, and this is something I've realized 00:31:09.559 --> 00:31:12.779 and I'm still realizing, but like we said at 00:31:12.779 --> 00:31:15.460 the beginning, it's not that serious. 90 % of 00:31:15.460 --> 00:31:17.579 the time it's not that serious. That's what I 00:31:17.579 --> 00:31:20.160 was gonna say before. I want us to make a challenge 00:31:20.160 --> 00:31:23.359 for each other. Not for each other, but like 00:31:23.359 --> 00:31:26.140 a challenge that we're going to try and do. by 00:31:26.140 --> 00:31:29.440 the next episode oh my goodness okay i'll start 00:31:29.440 --> 00:31:31.759 with mine okay this is something that i have 00:31:31.759 --> 00:31:33.680 been wanting to do so you know how i keep telling 00:31:33.680 --> 00:31:35.900 you the challenge for me or for yourself no for 00:31:35.900 --> 00:31:38.140 myself oh it would be nice to do one for each 00:31:38.140 --> 00:31:41.180 other but i have okay can i just talk about what 00:31:41.180 --> 00:31:42.619 i've been wanting to do for a really long time 00:31:42.619 --> 00:31:44.759 that i haven't done yeah go for it maybe we can 00:31:44.759 --> 00:31:49.640 both do this okay so i have been recently infatuated 00:31:49.640 --> 00:31:52.000 with these youtube videos and i've told you this 00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:54.630 already or no not youtube videos TikTok videos 00:31:54.630 --> 00:31:56.390 Instagram reels whatever you want to call them 00:31:56.390 --> 00:31:58.569 of like all these people I don't know if you 00:31:58.569 --> 00:32:00.589 guys have seen them of like one of the guys names 00:32:00.589 --> 00:32:03.430 is Zach another guy is like I don't know what 00:32:03.430 --> 00:32:05.809 his name is anyways they do all these videos 00:32:05.809 --> 00:32:08.490 about where they speak to like homeless people 00:32:08.490 --> 00:32:10.769 and people in need and then like they change 00:32:10.769 --> 00:32:12.990 their lives overnight if you guys know you know 00:32:12.990 --> 00:32:16.730 but I've always been. Like recently especially 00:32:16.730 --> 00:32:19.450 I'd say within the last year and a half to two 00:32:19.450 --> 00:32:21.309 years because I've also been doing a bit of volunteering 00:32:21.309 --> 00:32:23.809 work when I go give out like food to homeless 00:32:23.809 --> 00:32:26.250 people and it's like a bit of a like five minute 00:32:26.250 --> 00:32:30.589 interaction it's like. It doesn't ever get as 00:32:30.589 --> 00:32:33.589 deep as I would like it to and I'm challenging 00:32:33.589 --> 00:32:36.750 myself and you because I've always been infatuated 00:32:36.750 --> 00:32:40.089 with how they've ended up there and how how I 00:32:40.089 --> 00:32:43.430 can help in one way or another so I really want 00:32:43.430 --> 00:32:47.119 to try. as scary as it may be because look someone 00:32:47.119 --> 00:32:49.519 these people also have trauma so if you go up 00:32:49.519 --> 00:32:51.700 to them they could be like don't talk to me but 00:32:51.700 --> 00:32:54.619 you don't know till you know right and i really 00:32:54.619 --> 00:32:56.779 want to just try and speak to someone doesn't 00:32:56.779 --> 00:32:58.480 need to be a homeless person but just someone 00:32:58.480 --> 00:33:02.940 who is evidently in need and just like see what 00:33:02.940 --> 00:33:06.259 this story is and like see if i can help in any 00:33:06.259 --> 00:33:08.519 way shape or form because i feel like stories 00:33:08.519 --> 00:33:11.099 like that make you so grateful for what you have 00:33:11.099 --> 00:33:15.109 but also like Open up your eyes to massively 00:33:15.109 --> 00:33:18.130 like it makes you feel so good. Yeah, like even 00:33:18.130 --> 00:33:21.029 like when I see someone on the street and I give 00:33:21.029 --> 00:33:23.349 them a couple dollars I think about how I feel 00:33:23.349 --> 00:33:25.329 and how good I feel for the rest of the day and 00:33:25.329 --> 00:33:27.210 I know it's not a big deal like people gonna 00:33:27.210 --> 00:33:29.190 say go Emanuel I gave a couple dollars big walk, 00:33:29.190 --> 00:33:32.690 but like I realized I've said big wolf Maybe 00:33:32.690 --> 00:33:37.450 yeah, but it's true. Hmm, but he actually makes 00:33:37.450 --> 00:33:39.470 you I've always been one of those people that 00:33:39.470 --> 00:33:43.329 always was a more like giving. I feel better 00:33:43.329 --> 00:33:45.789 when I give. I love seeing people open my gifts 00:33:45.789 --> 00:33:49.349 that I give them or whatever. So like, this is 00:33:49.349 --> 00:33:51.589 a challenge for you guys as well. Like if you 00:33:51.589 --> 00:33:53.670 want to speak to someone and find out their story, 00:33:53.690 --> 00:33:55.690 do it. Because I feel like it's like you at the 00:33:55.690 --> 00:33:57.230 end of the day, you just built another connection. 00:33:58.589 --> 00:34:01.730 Mine's a little bit more like yours is like super 00:34:01.730 --> 00:34:04.349 thoughtful and meaningful and amazing. Mine, 00:34:04.369 --> 00:34:06.710 okay. I've just thought of this because I've 00:34:06.710 --> 00:34:08.989 kind of wanted to do this for a while. Guys, 00:34:08.989 --> 00:34:16.269 I love singing. I'm not great at it. I used to 00:34:16.269 --> 00:34:20.329 train in musical theatre. Back at school I used 00:34:20.329 --> 00:34:23.070 to do all the musicals and I had a singing teacher 00:34:23.070 --> 00:34:25.889 and things like that and I loved it so much and 00:34:25.889 --> 00:34:28.449 I haven't trained in singing literally for like 00:34:28.449 --> 00:34:35.010 10 years. It's been a very, very long time. I 00:34:35.010 --> 00:34:40.179 really, really love it. and I sing with my friends 00:34:40.179 --> 00:34:44.599 sometimes and shout out to Max McDonald, my beautiful 00:34:44.599 --> 00:34:50.360 friend Max. He listens to the pod all the time 00:34:50.360 --> 00:34:56.619 and he's the best. We were driving to like see 00:34:56.619 --> 00:34:59.599 a show one time and we were just singing in the 00:34:59.599 --> 00:35:02.380 car together Like not even trying to sound good 00:35:02.380 --> 00:35:04.559 or anything. He's a professional singer. Like 00:35:04.559 --> 00:35:07.239 he's a professional performer Yeah, Max Max is 00:35:07.239 --> 00:35:11.099 insane. Like his voice is amazing. Is this Legend 00:35:11.099 --> 00:35:14.099 Max? Legend Max. Legend Max. Shout out to you 00:35:14.099 --> 00:35:16.280 Max. I did get your message. Yes. Shout out to 00:35:16.280 --> 00:35:19.880 my Maxie. And he, we were just seeing like the 00:35:19.880 --> 00:35:22.119 greatest showman in the car. We always sing in 00:35:22.119 --> 00:35:24.179 the car together. Love that. The greatest showman 00:35:24.179 --> 00:35:25.840 is amazing. We were just singing in the car together. 00:35:25.900 --> 00:35:28.639 And I was like, dude, this is so much fun. I 00:35:28.639 --> 00:35:31.280 want to sing and I want to do this more often. 00:35:31.340 --> 00:35:33.300 And you know what? I want to sing in the car 00:35:33.300 --> 00:35:35.880 or actually singing? Like actually singing. And 00:35:35.880 --> 00:35:38.000 like, I want to do a little video, like a singing 00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:40.380 video and put it up online or something. That's 00:35:40.380 --> 00:35:41.940 funny you say that because I filmed a video of 00:35:41.940 --> 00:35:47.869 me singing. No, it's actually really embarrassing 00:35:47.869 --> 00:35:49.889 but I'll show you the proof so you don't think 00:35:49.889 --> 00:35:51.989 I'm gonna show me the proof right now, but like 00:35:51.989 --> 00:35:54.909 I'll play a little clip on the pod, but I was 00:35:54.909 --> 00:35:57.829 um, oh My god, you're fully putting yourself 00:35:57.829 --> 00:36:01.389 out here right now video. I'm being dead serious 00:36:01.389 --> 00:36:03.329 guys. I am I'm putting myself out there right 00:36:03.329 --> 00:36:13.860 now It's really not that good guys but it just 00:36:13.860 --> 00:36:16.619 goes to show see i'm not lying oh my god dude 00:36:16.619 --> 00:36:19.659 that's crazy it's me listening to chasing shadows 00:36:19.659 --> 00:36:22.659 by alex warren yes i was going to do his concert 00:36:22.659 --> 00:36:26.460 yesterday but anyway yeah no i know such a shame 00:36:26.460 --> 00:36:28.239 but i really want to do that i want to post a 00:36:28.239 --> 00:36:30.599 little video and i think i don't think i'm ready 00:36:30.599 --> 00:36:32.780 to do it by myself but i want to do it with someone 00:36:32.780 --> 00:36:36.420 so max Let's do a singing video together because 00:36:36.420 --> 00:36:39.840 I want to challenge myself. Yeah. Um, or any 00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:41.619 of my really good voice. You actually do have 00:36:41.619 --> 00:36:44.139 a really good voice. Oh, thank you. You do. You 00:36:44.139 --> 00:36:47.739 do. Um, but yeah, that's my little challenge. 00:36:47.860 --> 00:36:52.480 Oh my God. I feel really like, yeah. Oh my God. 00:36:52.539 --> 00:36:56.960 It's five o 'clock. Okay. Well, that's our cue 00:36:56.960 --> 00:37:00.570 to cut. Hope this episode inspired you to actually 00:37:00.570 --> 00:37:02.349 do whatever because you know I have conversations 00:37:02.349 --> 00:37:04.389 like this with my friends a lot more recently 00:37:04.389 --> 00:37:06.510 like I've had conversations friends telling me 00:37:06.510 --> 00:37:08.949 that they like you know feel like they can't 00:37:08.949 --> 00:37:10.909 even they're not ready to go to the gym yet or 00:37:10.909 --> 00:37:13.250 like yeah we'll do a pilates class together but 00:37:13.250 --> 00:37:15.409 but I don't feel comfortable doing that until 00:37:15.409 --> 00:37:17.889 I can until I'm a bit stronger and I'm like Who 00:37:17.889 --> 00:37:21.210 cares, man? Who cares? Easier said than done, 00:37:21.409 --> 00:37:24.929 but genuinely who cares? Life is too short. Do 00:37:24.929 --> 00:37:27.690 it, go for it. Rose found her husband on the 00:37:27.690 --> 00:37:30.469 bus, on the train. And if Rose didn't find her 00:37:30.469 --> 00:37:32.030 husband on the train, her husband's somewhere 00:37:32.030 --> 00:37:33.929 else. My husband's somewhere else. It's okay. 00:37:35.590 --> 00:37:37.530 Yeah, anyways, we hope this episode inspired 00:37:37.530 --> 00:37:40.809 you and made you giggle. Yeah, I actually really 00:37:40.809 --> 00:37:43.090 enjoyed it. Oh my gosh. This was such a good 00:37:43.090 --> 00:37:45.590 episode. This might actually be one of my favorites. 00:37:45.610 --> 00:37:47.250 It might be one of my favorites too. See, it's 00:37:47.250 --> 00:37:49.110 the ones that we're not like going like fully 00:37:49.110 --> 00:37:51.409 deep in that we're like, you know, like this 00:37:51.409 --> 00:37:54.889 is people just want to hear real life, real conversations, 00:37:55.170 --> 00:37:56.929 real experiences. I know my friends are going 00:37:56.929 --> 00:37:59.550 to love this. Yeah. I know you guys are going 00:37:59.550 --> 00:38:01.230 to love this. And for those of you who aren't 00:38:01.230 --> 00:38:03.969 our friends or our family or who like whoever 00:38:03.969 --> 00:38:07.070 is watching, please, please, please. let us know 00:38:07.070 --> 00:38:09.250 what you want to hear and like anything. It actually 00:38:09.250 --> 00:38:11.090 helps us so much. A couple of the episodes we 00:38:11.090 --> 00:38:13.070 have done, I've gotten some from some of my good 00:38:13.070 --> 00:38:16.010 friends. Yeah. So we do actually take your considerations 00:38:16.010 --> 00:38:18.690 into account. We do. We absolutely do. Anyway. 00:38:19.590 --> 00:38:21.389 Anyway, thank you for listening. Thank you for 00:38:21.389 --> 00:38:23.889 listening, everyone. And we'll see you in the 00:38:23.889 --> 00:38:27.750 next episode of The Lost Fish Podcast.