WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.799 Are you feeling lost? Well, you've come to the 00:00:02.799 --> 00:00:05.559 right place. Welcome to Lostish, where we, Rose 00:00:05.559 --> 00:00:08.140 Chachko, and Emmanuella Kathreptakis, share what 00:00:08.140 --> 00:00:10.599 it's really like navigating your twenties. We're 00:00:10.599 --> 00:00:13.820 two semi -lost girls figuring out careers, relationships, 00:00:14.279 --> 00:00:16.120 wellness, purpose, and everything in between. 00:00:16.219 --> 00:00:19.140 Each week we dive into the highs, the lows, and 00:00:19.140 --> 00:00:21.579 the lessons of chasing your dreams, finding happiness, 00:00:21.820 --> 00:00:23.800 and learning to embrace the uncertainty. We're 00:00:23.800 --> 00:00:25.859 not here to pretend like we've loaded all together. 00:00:26.199 --> 00:00:30.769 We're simply just figuring it out with you. Hello 00:00:30.769 --> 00:00:36.469 and welcome back to the Lostish podcast. Thanks 00:00:36.469 --> 00:00:41.030 for coming back guys. We just literally filmed 00:00:41.030 --> 00:00:45.210 an episode just before this and we are back with 00:00:45.210 --> 00:00:49.890 another banger about friendship breakups. Because 00:00:49.890 --> 00:00:54.149 some know that they can be tough. They suck. 00:00:54.789 --> 00:00:57.049 Friendship breakups hurt sometimes even more 00:00:57.049 --> 00:01:00.409 than romantic ones. Um, and I most definitely 00:01:00.409 --> 00:01:02.350 have experienced friendship breakups in my life 00:01:02.350 --> 00:01:06.409 that have absolutely sucked. Yeah. Yeah. It's, 00:01:06.409 --> 00:01:09.670 it's been a journey. Um, but it needs to be talked 00:01:09.670 --> 00:01:13.269 about, like they're rarely discussed, but they 00:01:13.269 --> 00:01:16.349 impact our emotional lives very much. So, and 00:01:16.349 --> 00:01:19.930 you know what, like friends that who are no longer 00:01:19.930 --> 00:01:21.969 in my life anymore, who were very, very close 00:01:21.969 --> 00:01:23.849 to me at one point, I still think about them. 00:01:23.959 --> 00:01:26.799 Like exes like you still think about them, you 00:01:26.799 --> 00:01:29.540 know, like naturally not in the sense of like, 00:01:29.540 --> 00:01:31.879 oh, I miss you. Like I want to be friends again, 00:01:31.879 --> 00:01:35.260 but you just think about the experience because 00:01:35.260 --> 00:01:37.280 it was a memory in your life. It happened in 00:01:37.280 --> 00:01:40.959 your life. And I think I think it's time that 00:01:40.959 --> 00:01:44.319 we talk about it. OK, well, we'll start off with 00:01:44.319 --> 00:01:46.959 one of the biggest things. So I guess for us 00:01:46.959 --> 00:01:50.019 it. This is gonna be more of an advice episode 00:01:50.019 --> 00:01:52.359 cuz i guess you know third episode we also did 00:01:52.359 --> 00:01:54.620 cover a lot about why it's so important to be 00:01:54.620 --> 00:01:57.159 surrounded by the right people and you know make 00:01:57.159 --> 00:02:00.319 sure your circle represents what you want out 00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:02.280 of life and the type of people you wanna be surrounding 00:02:02.280 --> 00:02:05.439 yourself with but i guess will also cover sort 00:02:05.439 --> 00:02:08.479 of the difference and advice that we give between 00:02:08.479 --> 00:02:11.659 are you calling this a friendship breakup because 00:02:11.659 --> 00:02:14.780 you're growing apart naturally as life goes on 00:02:14.780 --> 00:02:18.270 or is this like. Something happened I will disrespect 00:02:18.270 --> 00:02:21.569 those sorts of things so I'll start off by talking 00:02:21.569 --> 00:02:24.110 about more. I think you can speak more about 00:02:24.110 --> 00:02:27.370 the actual friendship breakups but I think in 00:02:27.370 --> 00:02:29.930 terms of I've experienced a lot of feeling like 00:02:29.930 --> 00:02:33.689 I've outgrown a lot of friendships and feeling 00:02:33.689 --> 00:02:35.909 bad for it and feeling like I should be stuck 00:02:35.909 --> 00:02:38.810 back then and if I wasn't then I was doing something 00:02:38.810 --> 00:02:41.550 wrong and you know I think a lot of people will 00:02:41.550 --> 00:02:45.539 relate to that because. You do grow apart. You 00:02:45.539 --> 00:02:47.740 do have different interests. You do, you know, 00:02:47.800 --> 00:02:49.719 go ahead with your life. And I think for me, 00:02:49.900 --> 00:02:52.199 from personal experience, I mean, long distance 00:02:52.199 --> 00:02:54.719 friendships also made that very, very difficult. 00:02:55.599 --> 00:02:58.340 And yeah, I guess it took me a while to figure 00:02:58.340 --> 00:03:01.590 out that it was okay to outgrow. Friends it's 00:03:01.590 --> 00:03:04.969 so okay it's so normal to outgrow friends to 00:03:04.969 --> 00:03:07.289 outgrow relationships to outgrow people like 00:03:07.289 --> 00:03:09.990 it's and it undoubtedly with its guilt and like 00:03:09.990 --> 00:03:12.189 you know feeling like I was going to lose a big 00:03:12.189 --> 00:03:14.150 part of myself but you know what maybe that was 00:03:14.150 --> 00:03:16.689 just me back then and it also kind of led you 00:03:16.689 --> 00:03:20.370 to something better like sometimes. Friendship 00:03:20.370 --> 00:03:24.110 breakups lead you to people that you never thought 00:03:24.110 --> 00:03:30.540 you could have met for example you and I. Um, 00:03:30.540 --> 00:03:33.139 and yeah, you don't realize it in the moment 00:03:33.139 --> 00:03:35.080 because obviously it sucks and it hurts in the 00:03:35.080 --> 00:03:37.560 moment. And, and I just want to reiterate, like 00:03:37.560 --> 00:03:40.219 friendship breakups can happen for any reason. 00:03:40.300 --> 00:03:43.060 Like your, for you, it was more outgrowing. For 00:03:43.060 --> 00:03:45.419 some it's betrayal or trust. For some it's a 00:03:45.419 --> 00:03:47.620 one -sided thing where it's like, you feel like 00:03:47.620 --> 00:03:50.479 you're putting the effort in, but the other person 00:03:50.479 --> 00:03:52.979 is not, or there's like toxic dynamics, jealousy, 00:03:53.259 --> 00:03:58.000 control, drama, gossip. Um, I've actually experienced 00:03:58.000 --> 00:04:02.060 all of it. I've had friendships that I've outgrown. 00:04:02.259 --> 00:04:04.340 I've had friendships that have ended up in absolute 00:04:04.340 --> 00:04:07.360 betrayal. I have had friendships where it's been 00:04:07.360 --> 00:04:13.219 a bit of a toxic dynamic. And each one kind of 00:04:13.219 --> 00:04:17.100 hurts in different ways. I think the ones that 00:04:17.100 --> 00:04:21.000 hurt the most is where there's betrayal involved. 00:04:21.360 --> 00:04:24.439 And I think I really felt that within my high 00:04:24.439 --> 00:04:28.250 school. friendships and toxic dynamics as well, 00:04:28.629 --> 00:04:31.069 where there's jealousy and drama and control 00:04:31.069 --> 00:04:35.250 and trying to be popular and whatnot. That's 00:04:35.250 --> 00:04:39.649 how I felt. And I even had that happen recently 00:04:39.649 --> 00:04:43.250 in my life where you outgrow certain people and 00:04:43.250 --> 00:04:46.769 you realize, oh, that person wasn't actually 00:04:46.769 --> 00:04:49.990 serving me in my life the way that I thought 00:04:49.990 --> 00:04:52.129 that they would. And it's almost like a weight 00:04:52.129 --> 00:04:55.660 lifted off your chest where it's like, Wow why 00:04:55.660 --> 00:04:58.800 do i feel so much less anxious and so much less 00:04:58.800 --> 00:05:00.660 stressed maybe it's because i don't have this 00:05:00.660 --> 00:05:03.279 person in my life anymore. One thing that i also 00:05:03.279 --> 00:05:05.740 have always lived by when it comes to friendships 00:05:05.740 --> 00:05:10.019 specifically is let people do what they want 00:05:10.019 --> 00:05:12.740 to do and then you decide if you like it and 00:05:12.740 --> 00:05:15.019 that has been something that you know i've had 00:05:15.019 --> 00:05:17.639 a lot of people comment on how small my friendship 00:05:17.639 --> 00:05:20.620 circle is and my circle in general to be honest. 00:05:21.519 --> 00:05:24.480 But it's all come down to the fact, it is 100 00:05:24.480 --> 00:05:26.300 % better. To have a small friendship circle than 00:05:26.300 --> 00:05:29.579 50 million people in your life that have no relevance. 00:05:29.579 --> 00:05:34.699 Quality over quantity. 100%. And I think, yeah, 00:05:34.759 --> 00:05:39.139 living by sort of that quote and that, yeah, 00:05:39.220 --> 00:05:41.339 just that statement, it's helped get me through 00:05:41.339 --> 00:05:44.579 so much hardship in terms of friendships and 00:05:44.579 --> 00:05:46.740 accepting that some friendships just aren't meant 00:05:46.740 --> 00:05:50.329 to be. Because, People by nature are selfish. 00:05:50.750 --> 00:05:52.750 People only have their best interests at heart. 00:05:53.269 --> 00:05:55.490 So when it comes to a friendship, we're talking, 00:05:55.790 --> 00:05:57.709 you know, friendships are very important thing. 00:05:57.750 --> 00:06:00.889 They have a big, big effect on your mental health 00:06:00.889 --> 00:06:06.170 and a lot of your time. So letting people act 00:06:06.170 --> 00:06:10.610 and do what they want to do. And then me basing 00:06:10.610 --> 00:06:13.490 how I treat that friendship and how I act around 00:06:13.490 --> 00:06:16.579 that has been a life changer for me. I think 00:06:16.579 --> 00:06:21.019 it just depends on the situation and the circumstance 00:06:21.019 --> 00:06:25.639 and knowing when, when it's time to let go. Like 00:06:25.639 --> 00:06:29.079 when it's time, and Mel Robbins says this, this 00:06:29.079 --> 00:06:31.800 is going off of what you said. Yeah. Let them. 00:06:32.040 --> 00:06:33.860 I'm reading her book right now. I've got it in 00:06:33.860 --> 00:06:37.279 my bag. I love it. It's such a good book. Let 00:06:37.279 --> 00:06:40.920 them and. If they show you their true colors 00:06:40.920 --> 00:06:44.100 know when it's time to let go know when you're 00:06:44.100 --> 00:06:46.939 feeling drained anxious or you can't be yourself 00:06:46.939 --> 00:06:50.300 around this person to be honest that is a red 00:06:50.300 --> 00:06:53.620 flag in itself where you cannot be your authentic 00:06:53.620 --> 00:06:55.920 self because you are going to feel so beyond 00:06:55.920 --> 00:06:58.879 drained but you know what it's actually become 00:06:58.879 --> 00:07:02.500 normalized how much people put on a front in 00:07:02.500 --> 00:07:05.379 front of friends. If they think they need to 00:07:05.379 --> 00:07:08.259 make a certain impression or like same goes with 00:07:08.259 --> 00:07:10.120 partners to that. They're not their authentic 00:07:10.120 --> 00:07:13.180 self. And it's like, that is so sad because this 00:07:13.180 --> 00:07:16.720 person is literally friends with you. I say in 00:07:16.720 --> 00:07:20.420 inverted commas because of you being not who 00:07:20.420 --> 00:07:23.540 you are. Yeah. And if you reveal to them who 00:07:23.540 --> 00:07:25.779 you actually are and they don't like it, we'll 00:07:25.779 --> 00:07:29.300 let them that's on them. Yeah. You know, I think 00:07:29.300 --> 00:07:32.910 secondly as well. Efforts to communicate or setting 00:07:32.910 --> 00:07:35.750 boundaries hasn't helped in the past. If you 00:07:35.750 --> 00:07:38.870 have tried to communicate with that person and 00:07:38.870 --> 00:07:41.550 it's just not budging and it's just not working 00:07:41.550 --> 00:07:44.769 and you have told them how you feel and they've 00:07:44.769 --> 00:07:47.449 either gaslit you or said, oh yeah, yeah, like, 00:07:47.589 --> 00:07:50.389 yeah, I hear you, but then have completely done 00:07:50.389 --> 00:07:53.870 the opposite actions over words, always actions 00:07:53.870 --> 00:07:57.089 over words. Then I think it's time to consider 00:07:57.089 --> 00:08:00.519 to let that friendship go because At the end 00:08:00.519 --> 00:08:02.939 of the day you're just gonna build so much resentment 00:08:02.939 --> 00:08:07.160 towards the friendship and you're gonna be flogging 00:08:07.160 --> 00:08:10.720 a dead horse really. Yeah literally. If you feel 00:08:10.720 --> 00:08:14.180 like this person would talk behind your back 00:08:14.180 --> 00:08:16.819 in a room that you're not in that is a massive 00:08:16.819 --> 00:08:20.000 massive red flag. Maybe sit back and think is 00:08:20.000 --> 00:08:22.519 it something that I've done but if you've exhausted 00:08:22.519 --> 00:08:24.579 all those results and you're just coming back 00:08:24.579 --> 00:08:26.459 to the fact that this person is just the way 00:08:26.459 --> 00:08:30.730 they are. You just have to let it be and I think. 00:08:32.110 --> 00:08:35.429 It's not to say that people can't change people 00:08:35.429 --> 00:08:38.370 can absolutely change and sometimes same with 00:08:38.370 --> 00:08:42.669 relationships friendship breakups to is you can 00:08:42.669 --> 00:08:46.129 reconnect later like you can go and grow and 00:08:46.129 --> 00:08:49.419 the timing may not be right. But maybe in a few 00:08:49.419 --> 00:08:51.620 years time the friendship reconnects. I've actually 00:08:51.620 --> 00:08:54.580 had this happen in my own life where sometimes 00:08:54.580 --> 00:08:56.600 you outgrow a person or sometimes the friendship 00:08:56.600 --> 00:08:59.200 wasn't right at one moment or at one stage in 00:08:59.200 --> 00:09:02.220 your life to then years and years and years later 00:09:02.220 --> 00:09:05.200 the universe just kind of organically bringing 00:09:05.200 --> 00:09:07.500 you back together and you reconnect and you're 00:09:07.500 --> 00:09:09.580 better versions of yourselves and the friendship 00:09:09.580 --> 00:09:14.059 is also better. Yeah, I think that actually happens 00:09:14.059 --> 00:09:18.389 quite quite often and it's happened to me and 00:09:18.389 --> 00:09:20.429 it's and it's worked same with relationships 00:09:20.429 --> 00:09:22.450 right sometimes you outgrow sometimes you find 00:09:22.450 --> 00:09:24.990 your way back to each other yeah that's actually 00:09:24.990 --> 00:09:26.549 a really good point i didn't think of that because 00:09:26.549 --> 00:09:28.509 i think for me i definitely have seen change 00:09:28.509 --> 00:09:30.950 in people i just think i always go back to thinking 00:09:30.950 --> 00:09:32.990 oh well they were like this before no i know 00:09:32.990 --> 00:09:35.450 it's hard it's hard to outgrow but you know what 00:09:35.450 --> 00:09:38.230 i wasn't perfect either no well neither like 00:09:38.230 --> 00:09:42.320 a friendship breakup look Most of the time is 00:09:42.320 --> 00:09:46.320 a two -sided thing like sometimes like you do 00:09:46.320 --> 00:09:48.240 things that you don't necessarily think that 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:50.620 you're doing with the other person and it can 00:09:50.620 --> 00:09:54.139 be complicated right but a lot of the time it's 00:09:54.139 --> 00:09:57.500 a two -way street just like relationships and 00:09:57.500 --> 00:10:00.700 if you are reconnecting later on with that person 00:10:00.700 --> 00:10:03.379 make sure you see that growth make sure you do 00:10:03.379 --> 00:10:05.340 set those new boundaries because there's nothing 00:10:05.340 --> 00:10:08.600 worse than you know just being excited about 00:10:08.730 --> 00:10:11.769 an old friendship and reconnecting with that 00:10:11.769 --> 00:10:13.330 person and then it literally just being what 00:10:13.330 --> 00:10:14.970 it was before and then you have to go through 00:10:14.970 --> 00:10:18.529 that grieving process all over again, which sucks. 00:10:18.830 --> 00:10:23.289 It really does. Healing and moving forward. How 00:10:23.289 --> 00:10:25.830 do you do that, Emanuela? How do you heal and 00:10:25.830 --> 00:10:28.629 move forward? Well, I think you just have to 00:10:28.629 --> 00:10:31.309 remember that you can't control other adults. 00:10:31.850 --> 00:10:35.250 You can't. Again, I think we're constantly going 00:10:35.250 --> 00:10:39.389 back to this like letting people be the way they 00:10:39.389 --> 00:10:42.289 are and just deciding if that meshes with you 00:10:42.289 --> 00:10:44.909 and that works for a friendship. But healing 00:10:44.909 --> 00:10:48.750 all comes down to that acceptance and also just 00:10:48.750 --> 00:10:52.429 being okay with the, like closure doesn't have 00:10:52.429 --> 00:10:55.409 to be, you don't have to end in agreeance. You 00:10:55.409 --> 00:10:58.289 don't have to end with it being a terrible friendship 00:10:58.289 --> 00:11:02.009 breakup. It can just be amicable and that's it. 00:11:02.409 --> 00:11:06.299 Sometimes closure is just acceptance. Closure, 00:11:06.399 --> 00:11:09.080 is it? You find closure within yourself. Like 00:11:09.080 --> 00:11:11.279 a lot of the time there's no closure with anything 00:11:11.279 --> 00:11:16.960 really. Like life is so, is so unexpected and 00:11:16.960 --> 00:11:20.860 uncertain. And you have to give yourself that 00:11:20.860 --> 00:11:22.840 closure of like, okay, it's not my time now. 00:11:22.919 --> 00:11:25.120 It's not my time with this person. I shouldn't 00:11:25.120 --> 00:11:28.100 have them in my life and that's okay. And I mean. 00:11:28.360 --> 00:11:30.659 Emanuel and I are quite spiritual people so I 00:11:30.659 --> 00:11:32.320 think the way that we kind of think about it 00:11:32.320 --> 00:11:35.120 is is everything happens for a reason and if 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:36.840 they're not meant to be in my life right now 00:11:36.840 --> 00:11:39.500 they're not meant to be in my life yeah and they 00:11:39.500 --> 00:11:41.600 will be in my life if they're meant to be in 00:11:41.600 --> 00:11:43.820 my life and we'll reconnect when that time comes 00:11:43.820 --> 00:11:45.899 and you know what the reason that we're speaking 00:11:45.899 --> 00:11:48.399 so lightheartedly about this stuff and being 00:11:48.399 --> 00:11:50.600 like you know it's okay just acceptance is that 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:54.000 is because if we were to delve into the betrayal 00:11:54.000 --> 00:11:58.870 and harsh realities that some friendships have 00:11:58.870 --> 00:12:02.250 that is not a friend full stop. No. So if we're 00:12:02.250 --> 00:12:04.649 talking about, you know, people doing things 00:12:04.649 --> 00:12:06.870 behind each other's back, you know, anything, 00:12:06.970 --> 00:12:08.830 anything, think of the worst possible things 00:12:08.830 --> 00:12:11.409 that a friend happened, which I know happens 00:12:11.409 --> 00:12:14.629 a lot. But I personally don't think there's any 00:12:14.629 --> 00:12:17.629 recovering from that. Well, no, no, no, we're 00:12:17.629 --> 00:12:19.730 talking about the type of friendship where something 00:12:19.730 --> 00:12:21.529 happens and you don't want to lose this person 00:12:21.529 --> 00:12:23.389 because you know, they're a good person, or you 00:12:23.389 --> 00:12:26.210 may have just outgrown them or, or, you know, 00:12:26.330 --> 00:12:30.080 exactly. It's not Or this person went and got 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:33.539 with my ex, or this person stole stuff from me. 00:12:33.559 --> 00:12:35.679 Like that is not friendship. We're not referring 00:12:35.679 --> 00:12:37.539 to those types of friendships. No, because that's 00:12:37.539 --> 00:12:41.019 like a whole other can of worms, I think. And 00:12:41.019 --> 00:12:43.840 if that ever has happened to anyone, please don't 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:46.379 ever bring that person back into your life. Because 00:12:46.379 --> 00:12:48.740 I'm telling you now, they're going to do it again. 00:12:49.159 --> 00:12:50.960 Yeah. And it all just comes back to people are 00:12:50.960 --> 00:12:53.740 going to do what they want to do. You just have 00:12:53.740 --> 00:12:57.960 to set your healthy boundaries, except things 00:12:57.960 --> 00:12:59.960 for what they are. Yeah, say things for what 00:12:59.960 --> 00:13:02.879 they are too. Don't see it. Don't look at it 00:13:02.879 --> 00:13:04.799 for with rose colored glasses and think, Oh, 00:13:04.799 --> 00:13:06.879 I want to preserve this friendship because of 00:13:06.879 --> 00:13:11.259 the nostalgia of it or past experiences or, you 00:13:11.259 --> 00:13:13.419 know, having fun with that person. Like, like, 00:13:13.559 --> 00:13:15.519 no, see it for what it is. See it for what has 00:13:15.519 --> 00:13:19.419 just happened and take a, take a step back and 00:13:19.419 --> 00:13:21.500 have a bit of an outer body experience where 00:13:21.500 --> 00:13:25.299 pretend if your younger sibling had experienced 00:13:25.299 --> 00:13:29.500 that and had Said to you this is what has happened 00:13:29.500 --> 00:13:32.000 how protective you would be over them or your 00:13:32.000 --> 00:13:34.860 child even what advice you would give them want 00:13:34.860 --> 00:13:36.960 them to stay in this friendship out would you 00:13:36.960 --> 00:13:39.139 say you know what maybe some of it's your fault. 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:42.740 Yeah please sit back and put yourself in the 00:13:42.740 --> 00:13:45.159 other person shoes look at it from an outside 00:13:45.159 --> 00:13:48.340 perspective. Understand it and if it's not meant 00:13:48.340 --> 00:13:50.519 to be it's not meant to be and if it is something 00:13:50.519 --> 00:13:52.500 that can work on it something that can get worked 00:13:52.500 --> 00:13:55.500 on. Make sure you're expressing it, though, because 00:13:55.500 --> 00:13:57.500 it's not your fault if you're it's sorry, it 00:13:57.500 --> 00:14:00.360 is your fault if you're not changing your circumstances, 00:14:00.360 --> 00:14:02.539 because otherwise you're choosing your circumstances. 00:14:03.340 --> 00:14:05.960 So if you are sitting there talking behind someone's 00:14:05.960 --> 00:14:08.559 back, but not telling them to their face, well, 00:14:08.559 --> 00:14:10.860 maybe that's why nothing's changing. Exactly. 00:14:11.139 --> 00:14:14.980 Or if you keep complaining about the friendship 00:14:14.980 --> 00:14:17.360 and you're I'm so unhappy, I'm so unhappy, I'm 00:14:17.360 --> 00:14:19.320 so unhappy and you're still in it and you haven't 00:14:19.320 --> 00:14:21.860 communicated to that person. I think we're both 00:14:21.860 --> 00:14:23.690 so good at this. Cause I'm the type of person 00:14:23.690 --> 00:14:26.250 that I just simply do not see more than three 00:14:26.250 --> 00:14:29.210 people because I know how a lot of people are 00:14:29.210 --> 00:14:31.190 and I just can't be bothered for it. And you're 00:14:31.190 --> 00:14:32.690 the type of person that will just say it how 00:14:32.690 --> 00:14:36.029 it is. I'll say it how it is. She says it. How 00:14:36.029 --> 00:14:38.970 is it? How it is. And it's so funny because it's 00:14:38.970 --> 00:14:41.350 a nice little different little angles that we 00:14:41.350 --> 00:14:44.690 come from. Yeah. Yeah. Like I'm very honest and 00:14:44.690 --> 00:14:46.909 it's taken me a while to get to this point where 00:14:46.909 --> 00:14:49.789 I'm so honest about like if I'm being treated 00:14:49.789 --> 00:14:53.700 like crap. You will know how I feel about that 00:14:53.700 --> 00:14:57.659 and you will not be. Which is how it should be. 00:14:57.820 --> 00:15:00.039 But it's hard. It's easier said than done. It 00:15:00.039 --> 00:15:02.600 is because - Especially when it's someone that 00:15:02.600 --> 00:15:05.360 you value. Or you have valued in the past or 00:15:05.360 --> 00:15:08.659 used to look up to or have had made so many memories 00:15:08.659 --> 00:15:12.200 with. It's a lot easier said than done to move 00:15:12.200 --> 00:15:15.679 past that. But I think honestly, acceptance, 00:15:16.379 --> 00:15:20.279 time, time heals. It really does. You know when 00:15:20.279 --> 00:15:22.139 you're in it when you're deep in the breakup 00:15:22.139 --> 00:15:25.820 it feels like the world is about to end and it 00:15:25.820 --> 00:15:28.080 really is not the world is not going to end unless 00:15:28.080 --> 00:15:31.419 the sun explodes but that's not going to be happening 00:15:31.419 --> 00:15:36.580 anytime soon so just. Time time therapy if you 00:15:36.580 --> 00:15:40.679 need acceptance and go and surround yourself 00:15:40.679 --> 00:15:42.940 with the people that make you feel good and you 00:15:42.940 --> 00:15:45.240 will know the difference if you have even one 00:15:45.240 --> 00:15:47.620 person in your life that makes you feel good. 00:15:48.399 --> 00:15:51.100 Spend your time with them. Yeah. Even if it's 00:15:51.100 --> 00:15:53.659 like your mom or your dad or your brother or 00:15:53.659 --> 00:15:56.700 your sister or your cousin, like it doesn't matter 00:15:56.700 --> 00:15:58.980 who it is. If they make you feel good. They're 00:15:58.980 --> 00:16:01.539 my friends too. Yeah. My family is my best friends. 00:16:01.679 --> 00:16:04.580 I love my like literally. And my friends, my 00:16:04.580 --> 00:16:07.500 close friends are my family. I literally you're 00:16:07.500 --> 00:16:09.919 the same to me, you know, like you are family 00:16:09.919 --> 00:16:14.820 to me. Yeah. Um, yeah. Yeah. Well, we've said 00:16:14.820 --> 00:16:17.460 all we can say. I think it's hard for us. It's 00:16:17.460 --> 00:16:19.360 easy and hard for us to talk about stuff like 00:16:19.360 --> 00:16:22.120 this because we're so like, we've got our standards 00:16:22.120 --> 00:16:24.899 set. Yeah, very much so. It's like we're just 00:16:24.899 --> 00:16:27.159 pumping out advice at this point rather than 00:16:27.159 --> 00:16:28.720 being like, we went through this and we went 00:16:28.720 --> 00:16:30.620 through this and we went through this. But you 00:16:30.620 --> 00:16:33.259 know what? That's what it's about because we're 00:16:33.259 --> 00:16:37.070 all about finding ourselves in our 20s and understanding 00:16:37.070 --> 00:16:39.190 how we can become the best versions of ourselves 00:16:39.190 --> 00:16:41.289 at this time in our lives and I think it's a 00:16:41.289 --> 00:16:43.909 very friendships definitely has a big impact 00:16:43.909 --> 00:16:46.149 again within your circle with how you end up 00:16:46.149 --> 00:16:49.090 becoming as that person so it's a very important 00:16:49.090 --> 00:16:53.889 subject to touch on. Yep absolutely. It's not 00:16:53.889 --> 00:16:56.870 that difficult like it's everything we spoke 00:16:56.870 --> 00:17:00.149 about in this podcast is in this podcast episode 00:17:00.149 --> 00:17:05.220 is like a little guide. A little crash course. 00:17:05.259 --> 00:17:06.319 To how you can filter out the people you don't 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:09.680 need guys. Filter those peeps out because you 00:17:09.680 --> 00:17:11.859 are going to be a lot happier, I promise you. 00:17:13.390 --> 00:17:16.309 Yeah, thanks for tuning in guys for a short little 00:17:16.309 --> 00:17:18.390 episode. I think it's only been about, oh no, 00:17:18.490 --> 00:17:21.089 it's actually been almost 20 minutes. Oh wow. 00:17:21.410 --> 00:17:25.710 Yeah, time flies when you're having fun. But 00:17:25.710 --> 00:17:28.750 stay tuned for the next episode and thank you 00:17:28.750 --> 00:17:32.109 so much for listening and supporting the Lostish 00:17:32.109 --> 00:17:34.150 podcast. We appreciate it, absolutely. Everyone 00:17:34.150 --> 00:17:37.210 listening, everyone commenting, sharing, following, 00:17:37.589 --> 00:17:40.549 sending us beautiful messages. It's all very... 00:17:40.539 --> 00:17:43.339 Um, what's the word I'm looking for? Encouraging. 00:17:43.460 --> 00:17:45.900 Encouraging. It is very, very encouraging. It 00:17:45.900 --> 00:17:50.559 makes us love what we do. Yeah. Yeah. Anyways, 00:17:50.740 --> 00:17:52.519 we love you. Bye.