Are you feeling lost? Well, you've come to the
right place. Welcome to Lost -ish, where we,
Rose Chachko and Emanuella Kathreptakis, share
what it's really like navigating your twenties.
We're two semi -lost girls figuring out careers,
relationships, wellness, purpose and everything
in between. Each week we dive into the highs,
the lows and lessons of chasing your dreams,
finding happiness and learning to embrace the
uncertainty. We're not here to pretend like we've
got it all together. We're simply just figuring
it out with you. Hello everyone and welcome back
to episode three of the Lostish podcast. We're
very happy to be back and presenting another
episode for you guys. This is something that
we actually feel very passionate about and something
we feel that is really important to talk about
and we are going to get Straight into it. I think
this is actually going to be one of my favorite
episodes that we ever feel I think so early into
the podcast but we talk about this a lot as well
you and I about the importance of your circle
and I think that comes with friendships relationships
family the people that you surround yourself
with Inspirations people that you look up to
as well. Yeah, I'd say it's basically encompassing
nailing down to that like 10 people also that
you spend your most time around most time with
you that inspire you the most that you look up
to the most and How they can affect how you become
as a person? Yeah 100 % and I think I'm I think
it's something that we both have struggled with
along the years, you know, finding your circle,
finding your people. Oh, for sure. It's something
that, you know, you still kind of struggle with
and you keep evolving because you meet so many
people as you progress in life and sometimes
you meet the right people, sometimes you meet
the wrong people and sometimes even meeting the
wrong people can really lead you to somewhere.
Really special. Oh, yeah lessons for sure I mean
you and I how we met like we initially didn't
even think we were gonna be friends No, actually
not at all like literally we thought we are not
going to keep in touch. We thought we were going
to be friends with other people and we met. Nothing
deep. We just didn't seem like we're each other's
type of friendship. No, and we've developed into
like literally a you're my family. Iconic duo.
Iconic duo. Everyone that knows me knows her.
Correct and vice versa. So should we just get
right into it? Yeah, let's go. I think we'll
start off by kind of not going too in depth,
but giving a little bit of a backstory of the
kind of stuff that we went through and how that
helped us develop into the friendships and how
we see and value and select the people that we
spend our most time with now. You can start.
Yeah, no, I'm happy to share my little life story
when it comes to friendships and relationships
and things. I think I've always been a person
that really values and cherishes human connection.
So whenever I have someone in my life who I really
love and appreciate, whether it's a friend or
a family member or a partner, I'm like in it
deep. Like I'm like, I will literally die for
this person. I make a lot of sacrifices for this
person and or people. And I haven't always felt
like that's been reciprocated. And I think that
started for me back in high school where I actually
really, I struggled with friendships. Like I
had friends, I had people that I was friends
with. To be honest, I think it says a lot that
I don't keep in contact with a single person
from high school. I think that's very common
though. I don't think, I think a few people have
one, two or no friends from high school still.
That's so interesting you say that because I
think... All the people that I was friends in
high school with are still like friends with
each other, which is like, what, five years down
the track. But I mean, look, like each to their
own. Like it's not, it's not saying that people
don't make genuine connections in high school
like they do, but I just really struggled with
that. I think also though, which we'll expand
on for sure in this podcast episode, but people
can outgrow their high school. friendships as
well fully and it doesn't always have to be a
bad thing like props to them for staying in contact
but doesn't mean we have to no don't get me wrong
this is coming from someone who is friends with
quite a few of my high school friendships yeah
um but Yeah, I know it's very, very common that
people don't. So don't feel alone. Thanks. No,
that's that's actually nice to hear because I
still think about that till this day, like, I'll
have conversations with people about friendships
and like, you know, high school and things like
that, which which is a very big part of your
life. And I think when you're in high school,
you feel like it's kind of the bill and end all
when you're in that environment like friendships
is everything you've got your clicks you've got
your popular kids you've got you're not so popular
kids you know like it's it's there's such a group
dynamic and i remember feeling like oh my god
i always had to fit in like i always had to fit
in i always had to have this sort of i have it
all together persona when i really didn't and
i was in the same boat as you 100 um yeah no
i get it thanks I did get it. Yeah so it's one
of those things where I definitely outgrew my
high school circle and I absolutely found my
circle coming out of high school. Yeah I went
to drama school and I found like literally my
best friends there and everyone in my life right
now is people that I've met outside of that school
environment and it was hard. It was really hard
because I remember being like, like, why don't
I just connect with people back in school? Like,
why, why is everyone always wanting, you know,
to be popular or to be someone better and to
be with the cool kids and to have all these guys
and friends and parties and things like that.
And I felt like, like I was a theatre kid back
in school. Like I was like the drama girl. Like
I always, you know, was doing the shows and things
like that. And people, I think. kind of put me
in that category. And that's fine because you
put, you know, you do have categories in high
school, which sucks. And it's also, I think I
remembered what I was about to say now. Um, it's
cause you spend in high school, you spend five
days a week, every week for years on end with
the same people. Most of the time. Um, it's even
harder when you're moving from school to school,
which I fully understand as well. Um, but yeah,
I think that's what it's got to do with. And
then obviously. Yeah, you meet people along the
way, you're in different friend groups along
the way and people can betray you along the way.
Oh yeah, know about that one. Yeah. Yeah. I definitely
felt, felt like I was betrayed by my own friends
because people I've been friends with for years
and years and years, um, in school, who I thought
I would keep in contact with and I don't, and
that's okay. Like you said, you outgrow people
and that's okay. People are in your life to either,
you know, um, have you learned from something
or it could be a lesson or it could be a genuine
friendship, a genuine connection. Now, it doesn't
always have to be a friendship thing. It could
be a relationship thing as well. I mean, relationships
is something that we will absolutely get into
the podcast later on. But I think, yeah, sorry
to cut you off, but just to expand on that in
relation to this episode. I think it's one of
the most important, like friendships are friendships,
like you're my ride or die, you know that. But
like in terms of a relationship, like we're talking,
this is the person that you're potentially gonna
be living with for the rest of your life. So
the person you choose to spend your time with
is arguably one of the most important decisions
you'll ever make in your life. And you will end
up morphing into some sort of a... you know product
of this person as well so I think that's definitely
an important one but I think we'll keep this
episode based on the importance of your circle
on a friendship basis because we'll get into
the whole family and relationships thing yeah
another one I had a question for you. Yes, ask
away. I think, I personally think one of the
most important values to have is in a friend
is support. Yeah. Like a person that will support
you and genuinely be there for you in your highest
highs and your lowest lows because that's when
you will know if they're a true friend. Yeah.
How have you felt like you've been supported
by past friendships and career compared to your
like current friendships because personally,
and I'm not saying this to hype you up. but I
think you are honestly like one of probably the
best but one of three probably friends that I've
had in my life that I felt this comfortable like
that genuinely supports me that'll laugh with
me cry with me but be there for me and I think
it's very uncommon so Like, how often have you
experienced that? Did you experience it before?
How has it changed? Go on. You better hype me
up as well. Oh, dude, I will hype you up any
day, any time. And look, it's been a bit of a
struggle to get to a place where I can say, I
have friends that genuinely support me and from
a really genuine place. Because, you know, like,
you'll have friends that will be happy for you
in certain areas, but there'll always be a bit
of jealousy and a bit of like, oh, like, you
know, Don't like wish you didn't really get there
or like, you know, there's always going to be
that sort of insecurity or a jealousy thing with
friends, but I can honestly count on one hand
that I have that genuine, authentic friendship
where I have felt supported with literally like
on one hand, like three, four people. And I'm
excluding family members because family wholeheartedly
support me. And I really, really feel that from
them. High school. I don't think I ever really
felt truly supported by my circle. And it took
me, yeah, years and years and years to find people
that I felt supported me from a genuine place.
And when I say a genuine place, I know I've said
that a lot, but like, I genuinely... honestly
happy for me have no ill intent have no mal intent
have no jealousy are just like they're you know
crying for me being like oh my god she's she's
done it she's made it which i haven't really
made it but like and i feel that from you honestly
i could say like with you i feel like i can be
my authentic self i don't have to change who
i am around you i can be silly i can be goofy
i feel like you don't have to come dressed up
i'm not judgmental no we've just got that quality
which i love because we can just like take the
piss out of each other but also When it's time
to be serious, we're serious. Oh guys, Rose will
have very passionate conversations with me and
tell me if something's up. Oh, I'm a very honest
person. Like I will tell you if I'm not, you
know, if I'm like you, you're being an idiot.
Like I will tell you and I expect the same thing
from you. And I think in my past, I've always
felt very judged. I think that was the one thing
I struggled with was I was always very judged
by people, by being who I am, whether it's, you
know, being too loud or too... passionate or
you know like it's there's so many things that
I felt like I wasn't really seen or heard for
um and when I you know when I was at my highest
highs yeah people were there for me cheering
me on you know when I was succeeding in life
people were sliding to the dms and being like
oh my god it's so awesome you're doing this but
like from people that I haven't heard from in
years or people who have betrayed me back in
the day It's funny how they wanna be your friends
now, hey? It's really funny how the moment you
let go and the moment you succeed in life or
move on from them, there's always that kind of,
they always come back sort of thing. Right, karma
is a real thing. Karma is a real thing. Karma
is a very real thing. And it's like, I'm not
interested. I don't want you in my life anymore.
I found my people. You're my people. And I think
I actually want to ask you the same thing because
I think it's rare to actually feel seen, understood
and supported by a person. When when did you
feel that? Did you feel that after high school
or did you feel that in your like early 20s?
Like when did you kind of find your people? I
mean, for me, I think I had a little bit of a
different experience for you. Yeah. Because I'm
still friends with. Quite a few people from my
childhood So I always grew up like being Greek
like a lot of family friends a lot of people
that I was close to But I wouldn't even consider
them my best friends I if I was to think of my
best friends like I'm still very good friends
with you know The first person I ever met in
kindergarten because our family is very good
friends. You'll know exactly who she is if she's
listening to this I think I know who it is. Yeah,
and then we've got like I Definitely did have
some pretty bad high school experience like bullying
experiences yeah um but i i think i took it like
a champ like i'm not just saying that but i was
a strange kid like i had these friends and then
i remember like i'm not going to go into depth
in it because it's all good now um but like i
remember it happened when i was like 12 or 13
years old and i swear to god i have proof of
this i'll show you i literally went home after
the whole incident happened it wasn't an incident
specifically it was like a whole group incident
and I just remember I like stopped being friends
with these people and I went home and the first
thing I did was not cry was not I literally wrote
in my diary it feels like a weight off my shoulders
wow and for a 12 year old that's strange wow
like you think that that would change me I would
hate people I'd want to quit school yeah but
no but I'm not saying that's a universal experience
like I think that was a bit I don't know. I felt
like I, I think it comes down to the fact that
I felt so loved in my home environment that that
was just like, oh, well, like there's, I'll find
other friends. And I, and I truly did not straight
away, but I ended up staying in that school for
the rest of high school. And I'd say year 10
to 12 is where I found my high school people.
Yeah. And then obviously after high school, I
moved across the world and came back to Australia.
And then I mean, after COVID, then I went to
uni and met me. But yeah, I think my first love,
see, like meeting you was very like out of the
blue. So out of the blue. And that's when the
best friendships happen. Let's give a quick rundown
of how we met. Okay. So pretty much we had met
in day one, year one of university when we were
like 18 years old. She was 19 because she had
gone to drama school for a year before. but we
ended up being in the same degree and there were
like five other girls at the same time that were
also in our degree with us um yeah and I remember
looking at Rose and thinking oh like she's really
pretty all the girls were in all honesty like
I'm so excited to meet these girls not for that
reason sorry I don't want to make that up I'm
gonna be their friend I just remember it wasn't
a part no no it wasn't a part out of jealousy
even it was literally just oh my god these girls
are beautiful I'm so excited I'm so glad that
you know there's all these like beautiful girls
that are going to be working like close to me
they all seemed so genuine so lovely and then
but rose wasn't the first person that i was like
which i'm which we've spoken about this before
i wasn't the first person on my mind either that
we thought we would be friends with no um but
we ended up like us and these other five girls
ended up making a group chat being like you know
where the media and communications girl is and
then we would message the group chat people would
respond for maybe a week and then after that
it was just silenced. Like none of them spoke
again and I remember one day I reached out to
Rose and we had like an online lecture and I
was in the mood to go to uni and I was like hey
you on campus let's go and do this lecture together
and she was like yeah sure blah blah blah and
we sat down together and I was like okay how
am I gonna get this conversation out of just
being surface level? And I was like, so are you
seeing anyone? She's like, what have you been
up to on the weekend? Are you seeing anyone?
Yeah. And she, oh, no, sorry. I didn't say are
you seeing anyone? I said, so what are you doing
on the weekend? And you were like, well, I went
on a date and I was like, oh, I went on a date
too. And that is how we met. It's literally how
we met. And then we ended up being in relationships
with these people. I'm still with this person.
I'm no longer with that person. Rose is no longer
with this person. But yes, fun while it lasted.
But we're both very happy. We're very, very happy.
I think I'm honestly like the happiest I've been
in a very long time and I'm very proud to say
that because it has taken me a while to get to
this point. Which we will get into we're gonna
have a whole episode on happiness and breakups
and relationships and etc, but it's It's wild
to think that each each interaction each person
Leads you to something whether it's Not being
in contact with them. It'll lead you to that
or it will lead you to a genuine friendship and
a connection And I'm just really grateful that
that I've had that opportunity and looking back
like what I would say to my high school self,
I would literally be like, it's okay. It's okay.
You will find your people. High school isn't
the be all and end all. Even university isn't
the be all and end all. We don't keep in contact
with a single person from university other than
ourselves. True story. True story. Like on a
deep level. Yeah. And when I say university,
I'm talking my media degree from my drama school.
All those guys are still my absolute best friends
and I'm so grateful to have them in my life.
But Finding your people is a struggle, but it'll
happen when it happens and your people aren't
always the first people that you're friends with
from high school or university. Sometimes you'll
find them way down the track. I have friends
in my life who are... literally in their 30s,
who are literally in their late 20s. I think
that's something I had to navigate actually when
I moved back to Australia, because I have a lot
of friends that are older now. Yeah. But I was
so like, obviously, because I left high school
and all my friends were only the people in my
year. And I was like, I don't know, like it's
like. it's strange yeah but it's so refreshing
to have people that are older because you learn
so much from them and that's what i'm saying
don't be afraid to expand your horizons when
it comes to meeting people go out do different
hobbies you know go to an art class go to an
exercise class the amount of people you meet
at the gym holy heck it's even just mutual friends
mutual friends go to events i never understood
that by the way can i just say now that we're
on the topic of people being weird about bringing
their friends around other friends. If you're
scared to bring your close friend around someone
else because you think that they're gonna turn
on you and they're just gonna be besties and
leave you out of it, that's an issue. Well then
you gotta reassess your friendship. We think
having them in your life. Yeah, yeah. Because
like that would never be the case for you for
example. No, I'm like so proud to call you my
friend and I think that... is what it takes when
you actually feel like you have a real friendship
with someone you're like I'm proud to call that
person my friend I talk about you to my friends
all the time and how awesome you are and for
my friends that don't know you they know who
you are through me yeah and it's like I've always,
I have always been a bit weird about mixing certain
friend groups and things like that. I wouldn't
say I necessarily have a friend group. But knowing
you, it comes from a place of you don't want
it to be awkward rather than the jealousy thing.
Oh yeah, yeah. That's what I'm talking about
from a jealousy standpoint. Right. It's like,
oh, let's not make them... to hang out because
if, what if they hang out and leave me out, which
happens, don't get me wrong. But they're not
a good friend. And if you have to think about
that, that's an issue. Exactly. And it's okay
to like, it's okay to come to a conclusion and
be like, I don't know if I want to have this
person in my life. I don't know if I want to
be friends with them and vocalizing that, because
there are certain people in my life that I wish
I had kind of not booted out earlier, but like
been like, It's almost like a wasting of time
thing. I'm like, I don't want to waste anyone's
time nor do I want you to waste mine and make
my life just feel like, like I shouldn't feel
like a weight is lifted off my shoulders by stopping
a friendship with someone because that's when
you know it's not quite right. And when you feel
pressure or a certain expectation or, you know,
there's always something that you feel like you're
doing wrong in the friendship. It's okay to outgrow
people. It's okay to say, you know what? I don't
think this is right for me. We're on two different
wavelengths at the moment. And maybe we'll reconnect
when the time is right. It's almost like a relationship.
It's like, we'll reconnect when the time is right.
Breakups can sometimes be harder. You see, yeah,
I have heard that. I have heard that. I have
heard that, which is interesting because I'd
say my relationship heartbreak was a lot harder
than my friendship. But like, imagine. Like losing
your best friend because of something that's
out of your control or just like sabotage or
jealousy or issues. It's not good. Anyways, let's
talk about, this just came to me, but how to
avoid feeling drained in a friendship and what
that looks like. Because we've had conversations
like this before where we felt like You know,
you're just saying yes to be a good person to,
you know, going out with these people, you know,
hanging around with them. It goes into people
pleasing. I think in a lot of friendships, people
pleasing is a big thing. And the minute and I've
kind of had to tell myself the minute I find
myself people pleasing in a friendship, I need
to take a step back because it just goes into
the realm of. toxic friendship just and maybe
sometimes you need to stop and think to yourself
am i doing this because i'm a good person or
am i doing it because i would do it for them
and i'd hope that they do the same for me like
that's too am i doing it because i want to please
them and i want them to like me a lot of friendships
come from i want you to like me because you either
put that person on a pedestal or you think they're
cool or whatever i've definitely experienced
that i've met people that i'm like oh my god
you're so cool kind of subconsciously put them
on a pedestal and then feel like the friendship
is a one -way street or the relationship is a
one -way street where I'm the person making the
effort and I'm the person trying to make this
work and it's not entirely reciprocated that's
because I'm trying to people please them to liking
me yeah that's step one of knowing you're feeling
drained for sure yeah if you're just yeah exactly
if you're just saying it to please them well
yeah that's you're gonna be unhappy in your friendship
just cut them off yeah cut them off easier said
than done it is definitely easier said than done
but you'll feel a lot happier in the end so take
the step yeah take the step um yeah and let's
expand a little bit on jealousy and like sabotage
and all of that as well shit feeling oh terrible
it's really bad being sabotaged by somebody or
betrayed by somebody that you've built a friendship
with is actually a really really heart -breaking
feeling felt that i feel you i don't understand
how people have the capacity to do that to someone
who's genuinely a best friend to them like i'm
not even just saying this in like a pick me way
i'm saying it in like a i could never comprehend
like the amount of stories i've heard i'm gonna
call some people out here but the amount of stories
i've heard of people like dating their friends
ex -boyfriends and like going out and if you
Like you couldn't catch me banned. Are you kidding
me? And like it's, it happens a lot. Like my
brother was in situations like this and I'm like,
no, it's become a normal thing. That sort of
stuff where it's like, like people just don't
care about each other anymore. And they're willing
to sabotage a friendship for a chick or a guy
or, you know, to get to get laid or like, it's
really unfortunate. It's really unfortunate because
I feel like back in the day, I mean, I'm talking
like our parents era where that sort of stuff
was not normalised. Look, I think social media
and all of that has definitely changed the dynamics
of people. And it's scary. Is it only going to
get worse? Like is cheating going to become a
normal thing? Is sabotage going to become a normal
thing? Is lying going to become a normal thing?
Dishonesty? Like it's really scary. And I'm like,
no, like I've just got to a place where I've
made some meaningful connections and it's taken
me years and years and years to finally be like,
I'm so happy with the people in my life. Like
I genuinely am. And I'd want to preface, if you're
not happy with the people in your life right
now, whoever's listening, it's okay. You're not
alone. You will meet, you will meet people. And
some people, some people feel like they don't
have friends or people in their life that they
can trust or be supported by. I also know a lot
of people that have lots of friends, but no one
that they can fully... rely on yeah like they
know a lot of people like it's a quantity and
a lot of people like it exactly i feel like i've
always been i think your quantity and quality
just because you're more out there i feel like
i've become a quality person like i don't have
the biggest number of friends i'm not the most
known person out there but I'm so, so, so happy
with the people that I have around me now that
I wouldn't change it for the world. I don't care
if it's three people. Oh, I don't care if it's
one person. One person in your life can make
the biggest difference. I would rather have one
best friend, a genuine best friend, than 40.
Yeah. Close number. Exactly. But it's the truth.
It's the truth. What about, sorry, before we
move on, what about for the people that feel
like they don't? have a lot of friends or they
feel lonely or stuck or like they don't they
haven't built their circle yet. What do we want
to Okay, I think I was gonna bring this up in
the next point I was talking about but I was
actually going to start off by saying like, how
do we go about navigating friendships where you
feel like you can't be your full self around
them. Like you like these people, you hang out
with them but you can't be your full self. I
think that's my response to what you just asked.
you have to figure out what what what's the issue
to begin with like is it because you're a homebody
is it because you're you feel like you've got
a completely different mindset in like the people
your age are you the type to want to better yourself
and they're in their very much party phase and
they're inviting you places but you don't feel
like you want to go or things like that um i
think that's my answer it's like you get yourself
out there doing things that you enjoy and you
will meet people in those areas that enjoy it
just like you and it's okay if you know you meet
someone and you're different like I feel like
we're different we're very different as well
but as long as you you're being your true genuine
self you'll attract people eventually that end
up sharing the same mindset as you and it will
be the most comforting thing you've ever experienced
and then you'll be like it was worth the wait
yeah it was worth Worth the shitty friendships.
It was worth the bullying, although never bullying
is awful. We both experienced that. Don't condone
it at all. But you know what? It's made me who
I am today. It's made me stronger. It's made
me more resilient. It's made us appreciate the
friendships we now have. Correct. All right.
So I think let's move on to... the tips we can
give to people who feel like they can't fully
be themselves around even people that they would
consider their friends. Like I feel like everyone
has a couple friends here and there that they're
like, oh, you know, I need to dress up a little
bit extra around them or I can't, you know, say
my funny joke because they don't get my humor.
So let's talk about the things that people can
do to stop that or take at least a step towards.
being a little bit less filtered around people
that you shouldn't have to feel filtered around?
No, no. Especially your true friends, you should
never have to fake being somebody that you're
not. No. And I think the number one thing is
to notice when you're performing, like notice
when you're putting that on, because sometimes
you can't really notice it or you'll feel it
after the interaction with that person, but notice
it. In the moment, be like, oh, okay, in this
moment, I'm laughing at something that I don't
necessarily find funny, or I'm saying something
that... doesn't necessarily stay true to my values
or myself as a person. I used to do that all
the time. I actually used to catch myself being
like, oh, I could crack such a funny joke right
now, but I'm not going to in case they find me
cringy, for example. I think a tip that I would
give, which is what started getting me out of
that mindset, is to start... acting like your
friends, you know how people act really unfiltered
around your family? Yeah. Like act around your
friends how you would around your family. Interesting.
That's what I've started thinking and it's actually
really helped. It's like imagine this person
is like my brother or my sister. How would I
act? I wouldn't care. No. Like, you know? And
if you act that way in front of your friends
and they don't like it or they judge you or they
think you're weird or whatever, then they're
not your people. They're not your people and
that goes into my next... point about letting
go of being liked by everyone, people pleasing,
we're gonna have a whole episode on people pleasing
because I'm very passionate about that topic,
but let go of being liked by everyone because
not everyone's gonna like you. No and I actually
find what I found at least in my personal experience
that when you start acting yourself people start
finding you more relatable I think it's actually
a psychological thing and then they start Liking
you more and then feeling like and no not liking
you more in like that's not what we're trying
to achieve But it's actually just funny how people
get more drawn to you the more relatable and
more yourself you actually are Because then they
realize that people aren't robots No, and then
people will once you're yourself around people
they will be themselves around you They will
put they will put their guard down when you put
your guard down Like show up to a dinner without
wearing makeup. No one cares. Crack that funny
joke that you want to crack. No one will think
about it in 10 minutes time. No. Like, it's not
that serious. It's not. It's easier said than
done, though, when we live in such a world of
people pleasing and trying to be liked by everybody.
But just let, try and let go. Let be. Let them.
Mel Robbins says let them. Let them. If they
don't like you, let them not like you. Too bad.
So sad. Wow. I haven't heard that one in a while.
No, seriously. No, really. And also, I think
it's also about... owning your weird. Like own
your weird if somebody doesn't like you because
you're a bit weird or a bit loud you're a bit
much or you feel judged by somebody own it. Well
they're boring. Well they're boring. Exactly.
We need more weird people in this world and when
I say weird I mean like unique. We're so weird
around each other. We're so weird around each
other and I feel like and I haven't felt like
that. with a lot of people in my life where I
could literally just be my authentic self around
you and not feel judged. That's the thing. That's
what we want to try and achieve. It's like if
people are going to judge you for being yourself
and you know doing all those things that we've
just mentioned then they're not your people and
you'll start realising it along the way and you
won't want to be around them and they'll probably
start you know checking comments and not want
to be around you and that's good. And that's
good because it's filtering out who... you don't
really need in your life and sometimes that might
take a while sometimes you might build a friendship
with someone over years and years and years and
then think to yourself actually this person isn't
serving me anymore and that's okay that's okay
if they're not serving me anymore we grow apart
you don't make me feel good i can't be my authentic
self around you which also goes into my next
point about creating friendships where honesty
is safe and where being yourself is safe. You
want to attract the people into your life that...
Make you love yourself and make you love and
appreciate who you are as a person. Not make
you feel like your accomplishments shouldn't
be said because there might be an inkling of
jealousy. Not make you feel like you can't cry
because they might judge you for what you're
crying about. Yeah. We don't want that. No, no.
It's honestly very, very draining. It's so draining
and I've definitely been in friendships like
that where I feel like I'm constantly having
to put so much energy into not only trying to
be this person that I'm not, but to maintain
a friendship that's clearly not... That's one
-sided? Not, exactly, that's one -sided. You
want to save... putting too much of yourself
into that friendship and save the resentment
that can come with it along the way exactly exactly
well i think we've covered everything i think
we have practice that self -trust guys because
honestly like you are enough you really aren't
the people that make you feel like you're not
enough sack them right off yeah because life
wisdom yes life is too short you only live once
wow we're going to expand on a lot of these things
i'm pretty sure in in other episodes because
as you can tell this episode has been pretty
long and we're very passionate about it. But
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