WEBVTT 00:00:00.184 --> 00:00:01.024 How's everybody doing? 00:00:01.204 --> 00:00:01.885 My name is Dell, 00:00:02.505 --> 00:00:03.805 for most of you that do know me. 00:00:04.165 --> 00:00:05.166 For those that don't know me, 00:00:05.206 --> 00:00:06.306 my name is Arundell. 00:00:06.526 --> 00:00:09.527 Most people do call me Dell Robinson. 00:00:10.347 --> 00:00:13.448 And I have made by now 00:00:13.488 --> 00:00:14.829 probably a couple videos. 00:00:15.089 --> 00:00:16.369 I do believe this should be 00:00:16.449 --> 00:00:18.514 episode two in the series 00:00:18.534 --> 00:00:20.662 that I'm calling Dell for Dads. 00:00:20.811 --> 00:00:22.192 The reason why I am doing 00:00:22.232 --> 00:00:24.834 this is because my and my 00:00:24.914 --> 00:00:27.075 children's constitutional 00:00:27.135 --> 00:00:28.776 rights have been violated 00:00:29.217 --> 00:00:30.432 by the state of Vermont, 00:00:30.432 --> 00:00:31.458 the family division, 00:00:31.838 --> 00:00:33.185 family court division. 00:00:33.205 --> 00:00:37.047 I had a court case this past February. 00:00:37.748 --> 00:00:38.728 You'll be able to see that 00:00:38.788 --> 00:00:39.589 here in a little bit. 00:00:39.724 --> 00:00:41.785 where my children's mother, 00:00:42.045 --> 00:00:42.865 I have three children, 00:00:42.889 --> 00:00:44.929 are Cameron, Atlas, and Kai. 00:00:44.949 --> 00:00:44.996 opinion, 00:00:45.056 --> 00:00:45.997 we were supposed to be 00:00:46.057 --> 00:00:48.057 going into this case, 00:00:49.458 --> 00:00:56.440 going for fifty-fifty in the thought that 00:00:57.655 --> 00:00:58.655 This was for the best 00:00:58.795 --> 00:00:59.924 interest of our children. 00:00:59.924 --> 00:01:01.205 but didn't know until the 00:01:01.265 --> 00:01:04.026 day of that it was not the 00:01:04.066 --> 00:01:08.147 case as far as the other party concerned. 00:01:09.058 --> 00:01:10.373 party's intentions were. 00:01:10.433 --> 00:01:13.614 My kid's mother decided that 00:01:14.695 --> 00:01:18.076 it would be best for her to 00:01:18.416 --> 00:01:22.258 take my children out of a 00:01:22.418 --> 00:01:25.560 state or out of a place 00:01:26.160 --> 00:01:28.161 that they've known all their lives, 00:01:29.021 --> 00:01:32.583 have had the majority of their family 00:01:33.544 --> 00:01:35.405 be closest to them where 00:01:35.426 --> 00:01:38.388 they've been the majority of their lives, 00:01:39.349 --> 00:01:40.570 just to uproot them, 00:01:41.250 --> 00:01:42.351 move them to a completely 00:01:42.411 --> 00:01:44.092 different state where they 00:01:44.192 --> 00:01:45.473 don't really know anyone, 00:01:46.875 --> 00:01:50.678 and they wouldn't have me 00:01:51.198 --> 00:01:52.619 in their lives as much. 00:01:52.796 --> 00:01:54.918 It all really comes down to 00:01:55.358 --> 00:01:58.060 the injustice of this court system. 00:01:59.042 --> 00:02:01.123 impitting parents against 00:02:01.183 --> 00:02:02.363 each other in reality. 00:02:02.403 --> 00:02:03.883 And that's all court systems. 00:02:03.983 --> 00:02:05.564 I truly believe when it 00:02:05.584 --> 00:02:06.984 comes to custody disputes 00:02:07.044 --> 00:02:08.925 that the courts really do 00:02:08.985 --> 00:02:11.326 not have any intention of 00:02:11.386 --> 00:02:12.386 what is in the best 00:02:12.486 --> 00:02:13.815 interest for the children. 00:02:14.007 --> 00:02:15.408 And I do heavily believe 00:02:15.448 --> 00:02:17.387 that it is a financial 00:02:17.565 --> 00:02:19.046 agenda on their behalf. 00:02:19.208 --> 00:02:20.728 so let's jump right into it 00:02:20.748 --> 00:02:25.029 um i'm gonna try to say um 00:02:26.189 --> 00:02:27.269 no more times throughout 00:02:27.309 --> 00:02:28.890 this video and i do 00:02:28.930 --> 00:02:30.110 apologize if that is 00:02:30.150 --> 00:02:33.450 something i do it is kind 00:02:33.490 --> 00:02:35.771 of a bad habit as far as 00:02:35.831 --> 00:02:37.148 public speaking goes 00:02:37.308 --> 00:02:40.629 when i last made a video i 00:02:40.669 --> 00:02:42.209 do believe that it was 00:02:42.554 --> 00:02:45.295 lot of it was mostly just me 00:02:46.576 --> 00:02:48.185 going off emotion i've had 00:02:48.285 --> 00:02:49.726 some time now to kind of 00:02:49.806 --> 00:02:53.947 let this resonate and sink 00:02:54.068 --> 00:02:55.575 in and it still really 00:02:55.675 --> 00:02:56.956 doesn't make any other 00:02:57.016 --> 00:02:59.637 sense other than this being an agenda 00:03:00.032 --> 00:03:01.893 that takes precedence over 00:03:02.076 --> 00:03:03.957 the actual well-being of 00:03:04.057 --> 00:03:05.246 children that end up in 00:03:05.286 --> 00:03:06.665 this system let me go ahead 00:03:06.705 --> 00:03:11.384 and share this so right 00:03:11.425 --> 00:03:14.466 here what you have in front 00:03:14.506 --> 00:03:19.089 of you is the same document 00:03:19.109 --> 00:03:19.870 i'm going to be holding 00:03:20.050 --> 00:03:21.971 here and kind of looking off to the side 00:03:23.581 --> 00:03:24.662 As you can see in the bottom 00:03:24.682 --> 00:03:25.523 of the screen here, 00:03:27.046 --> 00:03:29.609 this is the order that I 00:03:29.629 --> 00:03:31.331 was given or that we were 00:03:31.411 --> 00:03:32.043 all given 00:03:32.195 --> 00:03:33.195 The only difference between 00:03:33.415 --> 00:03:34.696 the copy you have and the 00:03:34.756 --> 00:03:37.436 copy that I have is that I 00:03:37.476 --> 00:03:39.877 have two pages for the most 00:03:39.937 --> 00:03:42.087 part of just my own 00:03:42.207 --> 00:03:44.588 personal findings in the 00:03:44.748 --> 00:03:46.068 order that you have on your 00:03:46.128 --> 00:03:47.350 screen in front of you. 00:03:47.390 --> 00:03:48.630 For those that don't know 00:03:48.770 --> 00:03:49.950 what they're really looking 00:03:50.030 --> 00:03:51.091 at other than knowing that 00:03:51.151 --> 00:03:52.149 this came from a court, 00:03:52.252 --> 00:03:54.293 Findings of fact is 00:03:54.354 --> 00:03:56.835 something that a judge is 00:03:56.875 --> 00:03:59.401 supposed to write out based 00:03:59.621 --> 00:04:02.263 on things they found to 00:04:02.363 --> 00:04:04.072 give their final order, 00:04:04.072 --> 00:04:05.113 basically supposed 00:04:05.133 --> 00:04:06.854 to be supported by evidence 00:04:08.095 --> 00:04:09.276 that was in the case. 00:04:09.777 --> 00:04:11.078 lot of the time when you do 00:04:11.158 --> 00:04:12.339 read these what you will 00:04:12.379 --> 00:04:13.949 see is that they're 00:04:14.029 --> 00:04:15.790 numbered kind of just like 00:04:15.850 --> 00:04:16.751 showing you where they 00:04:16.791 --> 00:04:18.116 found this fact that 00:04:18.156 --> 00:04:19.766 they're kind of stating 00:04:20.008 --> 00:04:22.669 and as it goes on you end 00:04:22.709 --> 00:04:24.008 up seeing who's in 00:04:24.068 --> 00:04:25.869 favor of each one of those 00:04:25.929 --> 00:04:27.137 findings in a sense 00:04:27.444 --> 00:04:29.365 when you read this if you 00:04:29.405 --> 00:04:31.606 choose to what you'll find 00:04:31.826 --> 00:04:33.695 is it's basically a story 00:04:34.235 --> 00:04:37.132 um which then turns out 00:04:37.132 --> 00:04:38.182 like it's almost like the 00:04:38.362 --> 00:04:40.375 the judge is testifying 00:04:40.375 --> 00:04:41.494 and it's not 00:04:41.761 --> 00:04:43.299 testifying on my behalf 00:04:43.542 --> 00:04:45.263 which most would think would 00:04:45.283 --> 00:04:47.291 be weird um others would 00:04:47.489 --> 00:04:49.911 think it's normal in what 00:04:49.951 --> 00:04:51.520 they're reading had they 00:04:51.680 --> 00:04:53.781 not been told what i just 00:04:53.821 --> 00:04:57.242 said prior to hearing or 00:04:57.302 --> 00:04:59.022 seeing this right um if i 00:04:59.042 --> 00:05:00.002 had just given this to 00:05:00.042 --> 00:05:01.143 somebody they would just 00:05:01.223 --> 00:05:02.791 read it and they would say oh man 00:05:02.962 --> 00:05:03.402 All right, 00:05:03.502 --> 00:05:05.183 and they would build up their own opinion, 00:05:05.363 --> 00:05:06.084 right? 00:05:06.104 --> 00:05:07.685 Because I can't sit here and 00:05:07.765 --> 00:05:10.183 say that any random person 00:05:10.263 --> 00:05:11.823 off the street is going to 00:05:11.883 --> 00:05:13.244 read this and immediately 00:05:13.324 --> 00:05:15.885 side on the mother's behalf. 00:05:15.925 --> 00:05:17.603 So what I do think 00:05:17.889 --> 00:05:19.890 is that what I read, 00:05:19.950 --> 00:05:21.771 and whenever I hand this to somebody, 00:05:22.372 --> 00:05:23.813 I do find, I should say, 00:05:23.853 --> 00:05:25.134 that most people are more 00:05:25.154 --> 00:05:26.875 appalled by the end result 00:05:26.895 --> 00:05:27.776 of what they're reading. 00:05:28.045 --> 00:05:29.005 And I'm sure most of you 00:05:29.025 --> 00:05:31.287 have kind of gone from that 00:05:31.327 --> 00:05:32.487 page or have already read 00:05:32.507 --> 00:05:33.088 it and is probably 00:05:33.168 --> 00:05:34.809 screaming at me to flip the 00:05:34.849 --> 00:05:35.689 page at this point. 00:05:35.709 --> 00:05:36.990 So let's go ahead and do that. 00:05:37.188 --> 00:05:38.129 as you read on because i'm 00:05:38.149 --> 00:05:39.049 just going to talk over 00:05:39.509 --> 00:05:40.410 while you guys read this 00:05:40.450 --> 00:05:41.790 because there is going to 00:05:41.810 --> 00:05:43.391 be more videos and where i 00:05:43.471 --> 00:05:44.752 deep dive into what's 00:05:44.812 --> 00:05:45.353 happening 00:05:45.353 --> 00:05:46.212 um in this 00:05:46.312 --> 00:05:48.513 particular case and the 00:05:48.533 --> 00:05:49.433 reason why i have to do 00:05:49.453 --> 00:05:50.514 that is because i don't 00:05:51.414 --> 00:05:53.055 really know about any other 00:05:53.115 --> 00:05:55.056 cases other than what i 00:05:55.096 --> 00:05:57.256 have dug into while i've 00:05:57.296 --> 00:05:59.693 been trying to build my own case 00:05:59.846 --> 00:06:01.507 to appeal this particular 00:06:01.627 --> 00:06:01.958 order 00:06:02.134 --> 00:06:03.274 And I think a lot of people 00:06:03.375 --> 00:06:04.695 don't realize when it comes 00:06:04.755 --> 00:06:06.577 into court orders and going 00:06:06.737 --> 00:06:10.719 into the system, the problem really comes, 00:06:11.320 --> 00:06:13.181 the control is no longer in 00:06:13.381 --> 00:06:14.382 either of the parents' 00:06:14.422 --> 00:06:17.584 hands once it's in the actual system. 00:06:17.907 --> 00:06:19.247 i know a lot of the times 00:06:19.467 --> 00:06:21.828 where assistance is needed 00:06:22.068 --> 00:06:24.129 is not being given these 00:06:24.169 --> 00:06:25.569 things should be put in 00:06:25.629 --> 00:06:27.900 place i do feel there could 00:06:28.020 --> 00:06:29.861 always be tweaks to that 00:06:29.901 --> 00:06:32.781 particular system i guess 00:06:33.091 --> 00:06:33.831 especially in the time 00:06:33.871 --> 00:06:35.391 we're in now because where 00:06:35.451 --> 00:06:37.132 the rules and guidelines 00:06:37.152 --> 00:06:38.125 that were put in place 00:06:38.125 --> 00:06:38.810 back when 00:06:39.330 --> 00:06:41.551 support was given from the 00:06:41.672 --> 00:06:43.593 states to parents 00:06:43.953 --> 00:06:45.754 predominantly the mother uh 00:06:45.874 --> 00:06:47.015 where mother where fathers 00:06:47.095 --> 00:06:49.417 were looked at as the ones 00:06:49.437 --> 00:06:50.858 that went off to work to 00:06:50.958 --> 00:06:52.239 make money for the family 00:06:52.579 --> 00:06:54.761 their mothers almost were expected 00:06:55.421 --> 00:06:56.322 to stay home, 00:06:56.462 --> 00:06:58.844 whereas now there's so many 00:06:58.924 --> 00:06:59.644 fathers that are 00:06:59.724 --> 00:07:02.066 stay-at-home fathers and so 00:07:02.106 --> 00:07:03.187 many more fathers that are 00:07:03.207 --> 00:07:04.748 just involved in their 00:07:04.808 --> 00:07:06.249 children's lives regardless 00:07:06.289 --> 00:07:08.711 of their stay-at-home or if 00:07:08.911 --> 00:07:11.453 they're just an average 00:07:11.693 --> 00:07:13.949 working American parent. 00:07:14.009 --> 00:07:16.351 On this second page, again, 00:07:16.411 --> 00:07:17.712 what you're going to be seeing, 00:07:18.212 --> 00:07:19.413 and I'm sorry that I jump a 00:07:19.453 --> 00:07:20.374 lot back and forth. 00:07:20.394 --> 00:07:21.855 This is just how my brain works. 00:07:23.000 --> 00:07:24.660 as far as trying to get a 00:07:24.740 --> 00:07:26.901 lot of thoughts out into a 00:07:27.001 --> 00:07:28.009 small amount of time. 00:07:28.252 --> 00:07:29.652 You're again reading a lot 00:07:29.872 --> 00:07:32.911 of the findings of fact on 00:07:32.931 --> 00:07:34.051 the second portion. 00:07:34.302 --> 00:07:34.962 And I'm going to go ahead 00:07:34.982 --> 00:07:36.283 and get to that next slide 00:07:36.303 --> 00:07:38.072 so you guys can see that third page. 00:07:38.085 --> 00:07:41.499 I'll get back to how I feel the system 00:07:41.915 --> 00:07:43.596 could be better utilized for 00:07:43.656 --> 00:07:45.616 parents that really cannot 00:07:45.656 --> 00:07:48.124 get along when it comes to co-parenting, 00:07:48.124 --> 00:07:49.913 I myself am in a 00:07:49.973 --> 00:07:52.894 situation where the other 00:07:52.934 --> 00:07:55.155 parent of my children and myself, 00:07:55.215 --> 00:07:57.537 we just do not get along. 00:07:57.753 --> 00:07:59.835 the minute we we we have a 00:08:00.075 --> 00:08:01.516 second of just knowing 00:08:01.536 --> 00:08:03.417 there's an issue we 00:08:03.497 --> 00:08:05.979 immediately have anxiety i 00:08:06.019 --> 00:08:07.100 feel like when it comes to 00:08:07.120 --> 00:08:07.980 having to talk to each 00:08:08.020 --> 00:08:08.405 other 00:08:08.749 --> 00:08:10.230 mostly because anytime i go 00:08:10.250 --> 00:08:13.092 to voice my opinion it's 00:08:13.253 --> 00:08:15.934 always shot back with 00:08:16.795 --> 00:08:17.805 finger pointing 00:08:17.971 --> 00:08:20.392 if the kids come sick to my house, 00:08:20.735 --> 00:08:22.355 there's always a reason why 00:08:25.297 --> 00:08:27.057 they came home to their 00:08:27.117 --> 00:08:28.518 mother sick before. 00:08:29.638 --> 00:08:30.899 And it must be something 00:08:30.919 --> 00:08:32.219 that's just still lingering 00:08:32.579 --> 00:08:33.480 once they come back. 00:08:33.880 --> 00:08:35.824 Even down to sleep routines 00:08:35.884 --> 00:08:38.305 where I personally don't 00:08:38.345 --> 00:08:39.646 co-sleep with my children, 00:08:40.306 --> 00:08:42.527 where at their mother's house, 00:08:42.882 --> 00:08:43.162 You know, 00:08:43.543 --> 00:08:45.847 there's times that they do and 00:08:45.927 --> 00:08:46.848 times that they don't. 00:08:46.868 --> 00:08:48.569 There's no real consistency 00:08:48.609 --> 00:08:49.530 as far as I know. 00:08:49.818 --> 00:08:51.806 But when I do bring up these issues, 00:08:51.893 --> 00:08:54.008 they're reciprocated back 00:08:54.028 --> 00:08:55.569 with defense mechanisms. 00:08:56.510 --> 00:08:57.671 And a lot of the time, 00:08:58.411 --> 00:09:00.153 once that is brought up, 00:09:01.057 --> 00:09:04.198 it's always fired back with some 00:09:04.298 --> 00:09:06.247 type of reasoning 00:09:06.478 --> 00:09:09.543 There's just no remedy. 00:09:09.543 --> 00:09:10.788 there's either, 00:09:11.708 --> 00:09:13.909 like it's not brought up or 00:09:14.209 --> 00:09:15.749 the remedy was just figured 00:09:15.869 --> 00:09:16.004 out 00:09:16.259 --> 00:09:18.500 the situation then just dissipates. 00:09:19.159 --> 00:09:21.400 where in my mind an ideal situation, 00:09:21.560 --> 00:09:23.241 because I'm sure people would say, well, 00:09:23.701 --> 00:09:24.342 you figured it out. 00:09:24.462 --> 00:09:25.382 What are you complaining about? 00:09:25.525 --> 00:09:25.557 situation, 00:09:25.638 --> 00:09:29.259 if I had co-slept with my 00:09:29.319 --> 00:09:31.570 children and their mother 00:09:31.770 --> 00:09:33.451 would say something like, hey, 00:09:33.820 --> 00:09:35.400 Kids are waking up middle of the night, 00:09:35.460 --> 00:09:36.480 having a really hard time. 00:09:36.740 --> 00:09:38.261 They're trying to squeeze my bed. 00:09:38.521 --> 00:09:40.742 Are you co-sleeping by chance with them? 00:09:41.094 --> 00:09:41.614 I am. 00:09:41.634 --> 00:09:44.115 I'm sorry. 00:09:44.636 --> 00:09:47.077 I thought you guys were doing that there. 00:09:47.157 --> 00:09:47.837 Are you not? 00:09:48.090 --> 00:09:49.457 No, definitely not. 00:09:49.699 --> 00:09:52.281 Okay, well, cool. 00:09:52.361 --> 00:09:53.422 Give me a little bit of time 00:09:53.882 --> 00:09:56.707 and I will wean that situation off, 00:09:56.723 --> 00:09:58.064 Because in the end, 00:09:58.104 --> 00:10:00.085 that child won't always 00:10:00.145 --> 00:10:01.125 sleep in your bed. 00:10:01.514 --> 00:10:02.415 And I also get, 00:10:03.355 --> 00:10:04.976 because please don't get me wrong, 00:10:05.277 --> 00:10:07.078 that again, every family is different. 00:10:07.143 --> 00:10:07.909 that some people 00:10:08.350 --> 00:10:09.953 believe that co-sleeping 00:10:10.514 --> 00:10:12.197 benefits a child and 00:10:12.297 --> 00:10:15.455 benefits the relationship between parents 00:10:15.645 --> 00:10:17.766 I personally was just not raised that way. 00:10:18.054 --> 00:10:21.756 And I also believe that is 00:10:21.816 --> 00:10:23.977 how germs really do spread. 00:10:24.277 --> 00:10:28.480 And if my kid is sick, I will snuggle him, 00:10:28.900 --> 00:10:30.141 I will snuggle her, 00:10:30.508 --> 00:10:32.970 But to minimize, you know, is, 00:10:33.670 --> 00:10:35.231 is the best effort and what 00:10:35.411 --> 00:10:37.433 is in the best interest of my child. 00:10:37.473 --> 00:10:39.053 Like I don't, if I get sick, 00:10:39.454 --> 00:10:40.754 I'm no use to my kid. 00:10:41.195 --> 00:10:42.355 I'm the biggest baby when it 00:10:42.375 --> 00:10:43.156 comes to being sick. 00:10:43.556 --> 00:10:44.877 I want to lay down and I 00:10:44.917 --> 00:10:46.378 don't want anybody near me. 00:10:46.738 --> 00:10:50.240 I just want, just want to be sick. 00:10:50.454 --> 00:10:51.372 silence but when 00:10:51.392 --> 00:10:54.635 there's two brains trying to work in 00:10:56.030 --> 00:10:58.491 ultimately raise a human to 00:10:58.531 --> 00:10:59.992 be the best human that they 00:11:00.012 --> 00:11:00.932 can possibly be, 00:11:01.973 --> 00:11:03.153 opinions are going to be had. 00:11:03.213 --> 00:11:04.074 And that's fine. 00:11:04.134 --> 00:11:05.994 Not everybody has to agree. 00:11:06.595 --> 00:11:08.155 And I also believe that. 00:11:08.215 --> 00:11:09.236 I think if we all agreed, 00:11:09.256 --> 00:11:10.697 we would have the craziest, 00:11:10.737 --> 00:11:17.280 boringest world in the world. 00:11:17.300 --> 00:11:18.320 Think about that for a second. 00:11:18.940 --> 00:11:20.421 So I'm going to move on to page four, 00:11:20.478 --> 00:11:21.182 in the end, 00:11:21.442 --> 00:11:23.168 what you're getting here is 00:11:23.681 --> 00:11:26.602 I was in favor to the court 00:11:27.342 --> 00:11:29.169 at the end of reading all of this, 00:11:29.284 --> 00:11:30.418 two to one. 00:11:30.571 --> 00:11:30.771 Now, 00:11:30.891 --> 00:11:32.993 this is where the problem really sets in. 00:11:33.052 --> 00:11:35.634 especially for fathers, just anywhere, 00:11:35.714 --> 00:11:36.174 everywhere, 00:11:36.594 --> 00:11:37.875 because I know that Vermont is 00:11:38.115 --> 00:11:41.637 not the only state that has 00:11:41.677 --> 00:11:42.478 these guidelines, 00:11:42.518 --> 00:11:44.479 that follows these 00:11:45.220 --> 00:11:47.461 regulations and rules and 00:11:48.382 --> 00:11:49.316 secretly 00:11:49.716 --> 00:11:51.297 disaster for families. 00:11:51.617 --> 00:11:55.059 And when you really are 00:11:55.159 --> 00:11:56.540 finally in the thick of it 00:11:57.020 --> 00:11:59.041 is when you realize this is, 00:11:59.802 --> 00:12:00.722 this is what it is. 00:12:02.143 --> 00:12:03.284 And everybody else on the 00:12:03.444 --> 00:12:05.605 outside does not understand 00:12:06.065 --> 00:12:08.046 that this is what it is. 00:12:08.527 --> 00:12:09.547 And then the people that 00:12:09.567 --> 00:12:10.448 have gone through it, 00:12:10.808 --> 00:12:12.129 just throw their hands up, 00:12:12.329 --> 00:12:14.110 because they go, this is what it is. 00:12:14.690 --> 00:12:16.071 And I 00:12:16.750 --> 00:12:17.150 don't know. 00:12:17.330 --> 00:12:20.132 I just I just know that this is not okay. 00:12:20.192 --> 00:12:21.352 And I know that there's so 00:12:21.372 --> 00:12:24.293 many smaller amounts of 00:12:24.333 --> 00:12:26.866 people that have come out on top of this. 00:12:27.606 --> 00:12:28.647 But still, 00:12:28.667 --> 00:12:30.828 there's no no one because 00:12:30.868 --> 00:12:32.288 because once they come out on top, 00:12:32.829 --> 00:12:34.129 they're happy they have their family, 00:12:34.149 --> 00:12:35.049 they don't realize that 00:12:35.070 --> 00:12:36.030 there's so many other 00:12:36.270 --> 00:12:37.771 families out there besides there's, 00:12:38.051 --> 00:12:39.351 you know, the small movements, 00:12:39.371 --> 00:12:40.792 the father's rights movements, and, 00:12:41.392 --> 00:12:41.552 you know, 00:12:41.592 --> 00:12:43.293 these small groups that are out there, 00:12:43.733 --> 00:12:44.894 it's not enough. 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:46.421 to make a change because 00:12:46.441 --> 00:12:47.842 there's no change that has 00:12:47.902 --> 00:12:50.817 really been truly made to 00:12:50.857 --> 00:12:52.018 look at both parents. 00:12:52.298 --> 00:12:54.706 Like, hey, you guys are in it. 00:12:54.858 --> 00:12:56.038 You gotta figure out how to 00:12:56.178 --> 00:12:57.119 just both parent. 00:12:57.388 --> 00:13:00.630 It's a winner-loser scenario, 00:13:00.710 --> 00:13:01.490 and that is it. 00:13:01.530 --> 00:13:02.491 I'm gonna flip the page for y'all. 00:13:02.826 --> 00:13:05.371 when it becomes this immediately, 00:13:05.728 --> 00:13:06.849 Parents are pitted against 00:13:06.889 --> 00:13:09.993 each other to do and find 00:13:10.314 --> 00:13:11.956 the dirtiest dirt that they 00:13:11.996 --> 00:13:13.781 can because they are 00:13:13.921 --> 00:13:15.143 thinking that this is in 00:13:15.163 --> 00:13:17.144 the best interest of the child. 00:13:17.144 --> 00:13:18.470 there's a lot... 00:13:19.347 --> 00:13:21.149 people that do understand that part. 00:13:21.449 --> 00:13:22.630 We're going to court. 00:13:23.191 --> 00:13:24.572 It's me against you. 00:13:25.192 --> 00:13:27.394 I'm going to make sure that 00:13:27.875 --> 00:13:30.482 I look better than you do. 00:13:30.707 --> 00:13:33.670 And I honestly think that 00:13:34.110 --> 00:13:35.792 that partly in this 00:13:35.852 --> 00:13:37.814 particular case was my 00:13:37.874 --> 00:13:39.766 downfall because I didn't do that. 00:13:39.906 --> 00:13:41.828 I didn't go there and show 00:13:42.257 --> 00:13:44.237 the immense amount of times 00:13:44.738 --> 00:13:46.738 I was trying to be and was 00:13:47.158 --> 00:13:48.979 at times successfully 00:13:49.319 --> 00:13:51.849 alienated from my children by their mom. 00:13:52.008 --> 00:13:53.188 My daughter, for instance, 00:13:53.228 --> 00:13:55.108 her whole first year of her life, 00:13:56.449 --> 00:13:58.189 I rarely got to see her. 00:13:58.209 --> 00:13:59.369 I got to see her for pickups 00:13:59.429 --> 00:14:00.410 because I did pickups in 00:14:00.450 --> 00:14:03.270 the morning for my boys for 00:14:03.350 --> 00:14:04.510 school and daycare. 00:14:05.151 --> 00:14:07.451 And that's every day after we split up. 00:14:08.131 --> 00:14:10.812 And then when I was allowed, 00:14:11.962 --> 00:14:13.664 And then for drop-off, same thing. 00:14:13.724 --> 00:14:14.585 I would get to sit there at 00:14:14.605 --> 00:14:15.926 the door or I would be 00:14:16.006 --> 00:14:17.969 allowed into her house. 00:14:18.284 --> 00:14:18.852 point, 00:14:19.052 --> 00:14:21.775 I stopped going into her house. 00:14:21.815 --> 00:14:24.838 It was not ideal for me, one. 00:14:25.178 --> 00:14:26.280 Two, in theory, 00:14:26.300 --> 00:14:27.282 it really wasn't safe for 00:14:27.322 --> 00:14:28.263 me to do that because at 00:14:28.383 --> 00:14:29.284 any point in time, 00:14:29.930 --> 00:14:32.852 you know, more so looking back at it. 00:14:32.932 --> 00:14:33.893 At any point in time, 00:14:33.913 --> 00:14:36.415 she could have played the, 00:14:36.475 --> 00:14:38.496 he's in my home and could have, 00:14:38.636 --> 00:14:40.337 and I know that there's a 00:14:40.417 --> 00:14:41.498 lot of people that can say 00:14:42.139 --> 00:14:42.939 it didn't happen. 00:14:42.979 --> 00:14:44.580 So what are you like complaining about? 00:14:45.941 --> 00:14:46.922 But it could have, 00:14:47.983 --> 00:14:49.684 and maybe it didn't because 00:14:49.924 --> 00:14:51.765 I didn't allow it to happen 00:14:52.226 --> 00:14:54.030 for too long or so long 00:14:54.070 --> 00:14:55.371 where it did become an issue. 00:14:56.084 --> 00:15:00.136 But what I do know is that had I stayed, 00:15:00.877 --> 00:15:02.238 the situation would have 00:15:02.438 --> 00:15:04.379 always been what it was. 00:15:04.939 --> 00:15:06.500 If I stayed going to her 00:15:06.600 --> 00:15:08.681 house and playing the nice 00:15:08.721 --> 00:15:11.403 guy just because I wanted to see my kids, 00:15:11.662 --> 00:15:13.443 that's no way to live. 00:15:13.483 --> 00:15:17.188 And ultimately, the control was hers. 00:15:17.188 --> 00:15:18.757 have with me just laying down. 00:15:18.958 --> 00:15:21.185 And the crazier part was 00:15:21.350 --> 00:15:23.910 that all of that time, 00:15:24.129 --> 00:15:26.570 there was still never a 00:15:26.710 --> 00:15:30.676 means or a thought of how to make it work, 00:15:31.017 --> 00:15:31.937 fifty-fifty. 00:15:31.977 --> 00:15:33.519 There's always that 00:15:34.313 --> 00:15:34.693 okay, 00:15:34.973 --> 00:15:38.416 how am I going to make this work on 00:15:38.676 --> 00:15:39.595 my behalf? 00:15:39.811 --> 00:15:40.952 And that right there is 00:15:40.972 --> 00:15:42.453 where I think the biggest 00:15:42.814 --> 00:15:44.875 issues come into play 00:15:44.975 --> 00:15:49.802 because when you know that the ref, 00:15:49.962 --> 00:15:51.163 or in this case the judge, 00:15:51.567 --> 00:15:52.447 already is looking for 00:15:52.507 --> 00:15:53.608 something in particular. 00:15:54.508 --> 00:15:57.049 And I think when any mother 00:15:57.109 --> 00:15:59.030 knows that the court system 00:15:59.410 --> 00:16:00.550 is already kind of, 00:16:00.910 --> 00:16:02.291 and I hate using this word, 00:16:02.971 --> 00:16:06.394 but it's already rigged in their favor, 00:16:06.434 --> 00:16:07.214 they kind of 00:16:08.332 --> 00:16:09.733 It's like they already know 00:16:09.753 --> 00:16:10.933 they can walk in with a 00:16:11.153 --> 00:16:12.514 certain disposition 00:16:12.913 --> 00:16:13.594 is just not right. 00:16:13.873 --> 00:16:16.515 And that's ultimately where 00:16:16.939 --> 00:16:20.081 I come into play as far as this goes. 00:16:20.221 --> 00:16:21.822 And not just for my family, 00:16:22.303 --> 00:16:24.364 but for other families that 00:16:24.385 --> 00:16:25.545 are just being again, 00:16:25.686 --> 00:16:27.127 this is families that are 00:16:27.147 --> 00:16:28.541 being ripped apart. 00:16:28.762 --> 00:16:29.563 We finally reached the 00:16:29.603 --> 00:16:30.744 conclusions a lot here. 00:16:30.784 --> 00:16:32.944 So what you're gonna be seeing is, 00:16:33.223 --> 00:16:35.524 final answer from the judge. 00:16:35.678 --> 00:16:37.146 And I do want to rewind back 00:16:37.166 --> 00:16:38.046 just for two seconds. 00:16:39.038 --> 00:16:41.219 Going into this hearing, 00:16:42.319 --> 00:16:47.973 I brought evidence based on the thought 00:16:48.548 --> 00:16:50.430 We presented evidence, I should say. 00:16:50.610 --> 00:16:52.591 My lawyer decided that we 00:16:52.651 --> 00:16:53.992 would go the angle because 00:16:54.012 --> 00:16:55.153 it was kind of one of the 00:16:55.293 --> 00:16:56.394 options that was up in the 00:16:56.514 --> 00:16:58.316 air for different avenues 00:16:58.356 --> 00:16:59.616 of how we would go ahead 00:16:59.656 --> 00:17:01.538 and base our case. 00:17:02.306 --> 00:17:04.428 But we went in, in the end, 00:17:04.800 --> 00:17:05.720 basing it off of... 00:17:06.215 --> 00:17:08.376 their mom, their children's mom, 00:17:08.396 --> 00:17:09.357 my children's mom, 00:17:10.015 --> 00:17:12.316 trying to paint me as this absent father. 00:17:12.821 --> 00:17:14.742 And I know that there was a 00:17:15.602 --> 00:17:17.904 small underlying layer of 00:17:18.188 --> 00:17:20.169 we possibly thought she was 00:17:20.189 --> 00:17:21.790 gonna try to play an abuse card, 00:17:22.195 --> 00:17:24.396 which did not happen in the end. 00:17:24.436 --> 00:17:26.017 She stated numerous times 00:17:26.037 --> 00:17:27.338 that there was never abuse. 00:17:28.041 --> 00:17:30.623 I have numerous texts where 00:17:30.899 --> 00:17:32.781 she tells me that I'm abusive, 00:17:32.861 --> 00:17:35.963 tells me I've mentally abused her, 00:17:36.224 --> 00:17:38.366 I've verbally abused her. 00:17:38.719 --> 00:17:40.141 And I do want to point out 00:17:40.241 --> 00:17:42.403 as well that her evidence 00:17:42.727 --> 00:17:44.988 that she presented was 00:17:45.167 --> 00:17:47.288 photos of the children's 00:17:47.308 --> 00:17:48.468 bedroom of the house that 00:17:48.508 --> 00:17:49.888 they currently are residing 00:17:49.948 --> 00:17:51.729 at there at her place, 00:17:51.982 --> 00:17:54.041 the photos of where she 00:17:54.101 --> 00:17:54.406 plans on 00:17:54.546 --> 00:17:56.407 moving them to uh into a 00:17:56.467 --> 00:17:57.567 house with people that 00:17:57.587 --> 00:17:58.828 they've never even really 00:17:58.888 --> 00:18:00.768 met after reading the 00:18:00.888 --> 00:18:02.249 top portion of the page 00:18:02.269 --> 00:18:05.291 that you're on right now you'll see that 00:18:06.106 --> 00:18:09.996 I was in favor at this point, two to one. 00:18:09.996 --> 00:18:10.442 word. 00:18:10.482 --> 00:18:11.983 So we finally reached the 00:18:12.103 --> 00:18:13.703 end of this and we're at 00:18:13.863 --> 00:18:15.926 the conclusions of law. 00:18:16.346 --> 00:18:16.946 Parental rights and 00:18:16.966 --> 00:18:18.006 responsibilities and 00:18:18.046 --> 00:18:19.233 parent-child contact 00:18:19.233 --> 00:18:19.327 reads. 00:18:20.127 --> 00:18:21.948 It's who gets to make the decisions, 00:18:22.243 --> 00:18:24.076 for the kids on a day-to-day 00:18:24.116 --> 00:18:26.329 basis and a final basis. 00:18:26.329 --> 00:18:27.492 parent says, all right, 00:18:27.632 --> 00:18:29.504 I want to sign one of our 00:18:29.544 --> 00:18:31.556 kids up to do parachuting. 00:18:31.829 --> 00:18:33.250 And the other parent can say, well, 00:18:33.330 --> 00:18:34.170 I don't think that's a good 00:18:34.230 --> 00:18:36.182 idea because five thousand 00:18:36.222 --> 00:18:36.989 different reasons. 00:18:37.062 --> 00:18:37.742 The other parent, 00:18:38.383 --> 00:18:40.184 if they have sole 00:18:40.244 --> 00:18:42.265 responsibilities and rights 00:18:42.544 --> 00:18:45.206 can literally look at the parent and go, 00:18:45.552 --> 00:18:46.433 great, 00:18:46.453 --> 00:18:47.703 thanks for telling me and go ahead 00:18:47.743 --> 00:18:48.644 and sign them or do 00:18:48.684 --> 00:18:49.705 whatever it is that they 00:18:49.765 --> 00:18:52.277 feel is right for their child. 00:18:52.457 --> 00:18:54.619 A huge problem in my case 00:18:54.819 --> 00:18:57.779 and why I know that my 00:18:57.879 --> 00:19:00.161 rights are being violated 00:19:00.614 --> 00:19:03.235 is mostly because this is 00:19:03.355 --> 00:19:04.755 all based off of maybe. 00:19:05.018 --> 00:19:06.939 In one of these videos, 00:19:06.999 --> 00:19:10.387 I will be playing out the 00:19:11.047 --> 00:19:13.179 audio of our case in which 00:19:13.219 --> 00:19:16.090 you can hear everything my kid's mother, 00:19:16.694 --> 00:19:18.275 said and then everything 00:19:18.295 --> 00:19:21.243 that my side said um i did 00:19:21.449 --> 00:19:23.697 bring two people along with 00:19:23.737 --> 00:19:25.424 me to testify on my behalf 00:19:25.620 --> 00:19:27.981 one is a a friend of mine 00:19:28.001 --> 00:19:30.102 uh also has children that 00:19:30.122 --> 00:19:31.083 are friends with both my 00:19:31.203 --> 00:19:32.643 older and my middle child 00:19:32.934 --> 00:19:35.083 in this relationship and um 00:19:35.083 --> 00:19:36.698 as you probably read 00:19:36.893 --> 00:19:38.593 my kids love my wife and 00:19:38.893 --> 00:19:41.274 and i do believe that here 00:19:41.294 --> 00:19:42.915 is where we come into that 00:19:42.955 --> 00:19:45.920 like area of spiteful 00:19:45.920 --> 00:19:48.951 know ex-partners and why 00:19:49.111 --> 00:19:51.175 these things happen i can't 00:19:51.195 --> 00:19:52.595 even say that this is the 00:19:52.635 --> 00:19:54.356 reason that this is happening 00:19:55.911 --> 00:19:57.572 And the reason why I partly 00:19:57.612 --> 00:19:59.513 feel like it can't be this 00:19:59.573 --> 00:20:01.014 is because she's also 00:20:01.034 --> 00:20:03.335 having another child by another man. 00:20:03.635 --> 00:20:05.657 And, you know, great, that's good. 00:20:05.797 --> 00:20:06.297 I'm happy. 00:20:06.523 --> 00:20:08.144 But it shouldn't come at a 00:20:08.184 --> 00:20:09.405 cost of the children that 00:20:09.425 --> 00:20:10.666 are already here. 00:20:10.853 --> 00:20:12.394 So that's kind of her game 00:20:12.414 --> 00:20:14.694 plan as you may have be 00:20:14.774 --> 00:20:15.715 catching up at this point 00:20:15.788 --> 00:20:17.881 she wants to take my kids, 00:20:17.981 --> 00:20:18.881 move them to a completely 00:20:18.941 --> 00:20:21.042 different state with a man 00:20:21.062 --> 00:20:22.043 that they've only met three 00:20:22.083 --> 00:20:23.743 or four times at that point in time. 00:20:24.163 --> 00:20:24.683 Since then, 00:20:25.045 --> 00:20:26.885 I've only heard maybe another 00:20:27.065 --> 00:20:28.466 three times that they've 00:20:28.506 --> 00:20:29.506 seen this human being. 00:20:29.604 --> 00:20:30.629 And somebody might say, 00:20:30.649 --> 00:20:31.275 what's the big deal? 00:20:31.275 --> 00:20:31.900 the big deal 00:20:32.257 --> 00:20:34.341 is you are grooming my 00:20:34.401 --> 00:20:35.216 children 00:20:35.317 --> 00:20:37.418 Because after this order, page flip, 00:20:38.078 --> 00:20:38.639 was given, 00:20:38.871 --> 00:20:42.213 my lawyer and I decided that we would, 00:20:42.521 --> 00:20:43.662 we wanted to know, 00:20:43.682 --> 00:20:45.064 because there was a question I asked, 00:20:45.271 --> 00:20:46.692 if this order goes into 00:20:46.732 --> 00:20:47.833 effect immediately, 00:20:48.213 --> 00:20:49.254 which part of me already 00:20:49.294 --> 00:20:51.255 kind of knew that the answer was yes, 00:20:51.758 --> 00:20:53.319 my kid's mother has only known... 00:20:53.789 --> 00:20:56.050 the father of this child for 00:20:56.070 --> 00:20:58.886 a year and a half is what they stated. 00:20:59.081 --> 00:21:00.582 So there's, in my brain, 00:21:01.242 --> 00:21:03.746 no real way that a year and 00:21:03.806 --> 00:21:05.527 a half lapsed enough for 00:21:05.567 --> 00:21:08.508 you to have a child and make a decision 00:21:08.864 --> 00:21:10.645 to move three of your own 00:21:10.685 --> 00:21:12.344 children from a place that 00:21:12.364 --> 00:21:13.886 they've known forever to a 00:21:13.946 --> 00:21:14.806 place that they have to 00:21:14.926 --> 00:21:18.349 relearn without one of the most stable, 00:21:18.813 --> 00:21:20.399 stable humans in their life. 00:21:20.656 --> 00:21:22.498 Crazier part is she owns a 00:21:22.538 --> 00:21:24.359 house that was given to her 00:21:24.617 --> 00:21:25.263 by her mother. 00:21:25.263 --> 00:21:25.477 y'all. 00:21:25.577 --> 00:21:25.957 So yeah, 00:21:25.997 --> 00:21:29.178 going back to the court and how it 00:21:29.238 --> 00:21:31.179 doesn't really look out for 00:21:31.199 --> 00:21:32.600 the best interest of the children. 00:21:32.640 --> 00:21:34.700 So once that hearing was over, 00:21:34.740 --> 00:21:36.121 the order was given out. 00:21:36.701 --> 00:21:38.022 And mind you, this happened in February, 00:21:38.062 --> 00:21:38.650 February seventh. 00:21:38.891 --> 00:21:40.011 We received the order 00:21:40.045 --> 00:21:41.623 The twenty-fifth of February. 00:21:41.623 --> 00:21:42.953 want to do something real quick. 00:21:43.554 --> 00:21:45.895 I just want you to understand. 00:21:45.955 --> 00:21:49.718 On the seventh of one of the shortest, 00:21:49.758 --> 00:21:52.113 not one of, the shortest month. 00:21:52.153 --> 00:21:52.600 The seventh. 00:21:52.762 --> 00:21:53.243 One weekend. 00:21:53.743 --> 00:21:56.144 One true, full work weekend. 00:21:56.184 --> 00:21:57.005 We had this hearing. 00:21:57.512 --> 00:22:01.176 It took less than the amount 00:22:01.216 --> 00:22:02.977 of time that I was in a 00:22:03.037 --> 00:22:05.852 temporary order to make a 00:22:06.093 --> 00:22:08.415 life-changing decision for my children. 00:22:08.866 --> 00:22:11.448 when the order was given i 00:22:11.728 --> 00:22:13.769 asked if it went into place 00:22:13.809 --> 00:22:16.351 immediately again kind of 00:22:16.431 --> 00:22:18.916 knowing the answer to that 00:22:18.936 --> 00:22:21.478 the very i believe the very 00:22:22.839 --> 00:22:25.017 next day so the reason why 00:22:25.137 --> 00:22:26.778 i asked if this went into 00:22:26.819 --> 00:22:28.119 place immediately is prior 00:22:28.139 --> 00:22:29.180 to this we had a temporary 00:22:29.300 --> 00:22:30.501 order because we had 00:22:30.521 --> 00:22:31.450 finally gone into court 00:22:31.596 --> 00:22:34.251 because their mother decided to file. 00:22:34.554 --> 00:22:36.715 And a lot of people ask why 00:22:37.095 --> 00:22:40.035 I didn't file first. 00:22:40.055 --> 00:22:42.236 Part of me does truly 00:22:42.256 --> 00:22:43.256 believe that there was a 00:22:43.356 --> 00:22:46.076 small portion that hoped still, 00:22:47.256 --> 00:22:48.877 even after the way that 00:22:50.077 --> 00:22:51.537 things were going as far as 00:22:51.597 --> 00:22:52.677 me only getting to see the 00:22:52.697 --> 00:22:55.178 kids if I was playing nice. 00:22:55.329 --> 00:22:56.430 mother, 00:22:56.450 --> 00:22:57.951 there was a small hope that 00:22:57.971 --> 00:23:00.272 there was a chance that she 00:23:00.592 --> 00:23:07.074 would want both parents in 00:23:07.154 --> 00:23:07.855 our kids' lives. 00:23:08.152 --> 00:23:12.761 with my 00:23:13.302 --> 00:23:15.824 own kind of suggested order 00:23:16.224 --> 00:23:17.105 that it would still be 00:23:17.425 --> 00:23:18.906 split as close to 00:23:18.946 --> 00:23:20.167 fifty-fifty as possible. 00:23:20.527 --> 00:23:20.974 Nonetheless, 00:23:21.519 --> 00:23:24.700 We finally got a hearing for 00:23:24.720 --> 00:23:26.801 a temporary order that was 00:23:26.941 --> 00:23:29.042 only supposed to last until 00:23:29.202 --> 00:23:29.923 school started. 00:23:30.543 --> 00:23:32.525 And that happened in June, 00:23:32.743 --> 00:23:34.023 And at that point, 00:23:34.744 --> 00:23:37.085 the split was forty seven, fifty three, 00:23:37.685 --> 00:23:39.466 forty seven percent of the 00:23:39.506 --> 00:23:41.286 time my kids were with me 00:23:42.287 --> 00:23:43.187 and fifty three percent of 00:23:43.207 --> 00:23:44.633 the time they were with their mother. 00:23:44.764 --> 00:23:45.624 And that worked beautifully. 00:23:45.905 --> 00:23:47.125 I had no issues with that. 00:23:47.555 --> 00:23:49.816 If anything, the only issue I had, 00:23:50.416 --> 00:23:53.638 which was very silly in my mind, I guess, 00:23:53.718 --> 00:23:55.879 long term, 00:23:56.373 --> 00:23:57.194 was that I didn't get to see 00:23:57.214 --> 00:23:58.638 them every single day, 00:23:58.803 --> 00:24:00.945 Theoretically, I still kind of did. 00:24:01.005 --> 00:24:03.286 I still went and saw them at 00:24:03.387 --> 00:24:05.048 lunch or I would see them 00:24:05.338 --> 00:24:07.840 right after school when 00:24:07.860 --> 00:24:09.021 their mom would be picking them up. 00:24:09.041 --> 00:24:09.697 But 00:24:09.912 --> 00:24:10.872 just asking how their day was. 00:24:11.153 --> 00:24:12.347 It wasn't FaceTime. 00:24:12.526 --> 00:24:15.248 and I was like face to face, 00:24:15.968 --> 00:24:17.430 person to person versus 00:24:17.470 --> 00:24:19.031 just like over the screen. 00:24:19.512 --> 00:24:20.833 Huge difference when I'm not 00:24:20.873 --> 00:24:22.154 talking to them on the 00:24:22.194 --> 00:24:24.416 phone versus on the phone. 00:24:24.864 --> 00:24:25.784 They don't seem so 00:24:25.804 --> 00:24:28.405 standoffish when we're in person. 00:24:28.465 --> 00:24:30.146 I get huge hugs where they 00:24:30.246 --> 00:24:31.947 know they can't hug me over the phone. 00:24:32.570 --> 00:24:34.751 We can't wrestle, can't do other things. 00:24:35.608 --> 00:24:37.408 There's no real connection 00:24:37.488 --> 00:24:39.149 other than just staring at a screen, 00:24:39.781 --> 00:24:40.462 let me switch that page. 00:24:40.502 --> 00:24:41.616 I know y'all definitely got there. 00:24:41.616 --> 00:24:46.473 there is slowly, 00:24:46.513 --> 00:24:48.574 and that's a stressful slowly. 00:24:49.914 --> 00:24:53.476 is there this uprise of parental rights, 00:24:53.856 --> 00:24:54.156 right? 00:24:54.196 --> 00:24:54.936 For fathers, 00:24:55.036 --> 00:24:58.418 especially because now for so long, 00:24:58.619 --> 00:25:00.096 this was kind of the standard. 00:25:00.259 --> 00:25:01.539 Oh, you got every other weekend? 00:25:01.619 --> 00:25:02.885 Dude, that's awesome. 00:25:02.885 --> 00:25:03.630 It's good. 00:25:04.303 --> 00:25:06.284 But the standard is so 00:25:06.444 --> 00:25:07.945 ingrained in us that we 00:25:07.985 --> 00:25:09.206 just immediately assume 00:25:09.226 --> 00:25:10.246 that when a parent gets 00:25:10.570 --> 00:25:12.591 every other weekend, mostly a dad, 00:25:12.591 --> 00:25:13.036 oh, 00:25:13.056 --> 00:25:14.137 you get them for the summer. 00:25:14.177 --> 00:25:15.097 That's so cool. 00:25:15.323 --> 00:25:16.037 That is cool. 00:25:16.189 --> 00:25:19.687 But why is it just the whole 00:25:19.747 --> 00:25:21.907 summer after getting every other weekend? 00:25:22.092 --> 00:25:24.153 And again, don't get me wrong. 00:25:24.713 --> 00:25:26.234 Kids love their parents. 00:25:26.715 --> 00:25:29.536 And most parents love their kids. 00:25:29.775 --> 00:25:32.297 So any amount of time is a great time. 00:25:32.607 --> 00:25:35.189 But when the ability to have 00:25:35.269 --> 00:25:36.771 more time is there and the 00:25:36.971 --> 00:25:39.423 willingness to have more time is there, 00:25:39.710 --> 00:25:42.056 why are the courts stepping 00:25:42.096 --> 00:25:44.098 in the way and dismantling 00:25:44.178 --> 00:25:46.407 that based off of anything 00:25:46.747 --> 00:25:49.830 other than another parent not wanting 00:25:51.282 --> 00:25:52.483 So that forty seven fifty 00:25:52.523 --> 00:25:54.083 three temporary order was 00:25:54.103 --> 00:25:55.384 in place and it was only 00:25:55.424 --> 00:25:56.285 supposed to be in place 00:25:56.325 --> 00:25:57.295 until school started. 00:25:57.413 --> 00:25:59.174 That order ran all the way 00:25:59.234 --> 00:26:00.338 until February 00:26:00.611 --> 00:26:02.488 Technically, until February twenty fifth. 00:26:02.608 --> 00:26:03.288 So we asked, 00:26:03.360 --> 00:26:04.361 is there any way we can just 00:26:04.381 --> 00:26:05.642 keep this temporary order 00:26:06.382 --> 00:26:08.043 until that maybe happens? 00:26:08.383 --> 00:26:09.024 Page for you. 00:26:09.799 --> 00:26:14.891 the judge i think took hours 00:26:15.231 --> 00:26:17.327 maybe hours on that one to 00:26:17.367 --> 00:26:20.352 deny and the reason why 00:26:20.452 --> 00:26:22.553 they denied it was because 00:26:22.593 --> 00:26:25.834 it left the opportunity to 00:26:25.894 --> 00:26:28.455 go back to court in the 00:26:28.515 --> 00:26:31.369 event they had not moved 00:26:31.569 --> 00:26:34.756 Let that sink in for a second. 00:26:34.776 --> 00:26:37.169 They did not want to keep a 00:26:37.249 --> 00:26:38.869 temporary order in place 00:26:39.149 --> 00:26:40.090 even though it was working 00:26:40.371 --> 00:26:41.711 and had both parents 00:26:42.031 --> 00:26:43.443 involved in the children's lives. 00:26:43.598 --> 00:26:45.058 because then it left the 00:26:45.178 --> 00:26:46.618 opportunity for us to go 00:26:46.658 --> 00:26:48.572 back to court had they not moved. 00:26:48.572 --> 00:26:49.651 somehow that is in the 00:26:49.711 --> 00:26:50.932 best interest of my children. 00:26:51.255 --> 00:26:52.203 I'm going to flip this page. 00:26:52.644 --> 00:26:54.625 You can pause it, rewind, whatever. 00:26:54.665 --> 00:26:55.930 You got to go back. 00:26:55.970 --> 00:26:58.232 So yeah. 00:26:58.252 --> 00:27:01.255 That is a court order. 00:27:01.480 --> 00:27:02.581 I just wanted to get that out there. 00:27:02.701 --> 00:27:03.735 Hopefully I can, 00:27:03.932 --> 00:27:04.953 break this down enough so it 00:27:04.993 --> 00:27:06.214 doesn't seem too boring. 00:27:06.607 --> 00:27:07.528 the reason why I'm sharing 00:27:07.568 --> 00:27:08.769 this is because I'm not the 00:27:08.809 --> 00:27:10.050 only father going through this. 00:27:10.320 --> 00:27:12.042 I'm not the only person with 00:27:12.142 --> 00:27:14.747 children who are going through this. 00:27:14.747 --> 00:27:17.825 I know that there are tons of parents 00:27:18.349 --> 00:27:21.622 that do not want to actually be parents, 00:27:21.662 --> 00:27:22.242 that's fine. 00:27:22.902 --> 00:27:23.862 That's a choice that they 00:27:23.882 --> 00:27:24.970 have made for themselves. 00:27:25.149 --> 00:27:25.689 Is it right? 00:27:26.329 --> 00:27:26.529 No. 00:27:26.929 --> 00:27:27.509 Is it fine? 00:27:28.109 --> 00:27:29.730 Has to be because that's a 00:27:29.770 --> 00:27:30.730 choice that only they can 00:27:30.770 --> 00:27:32.062 make for themselves and for 00:27:32.082 --> 00:27:33.862 that child because it's their child, 00:27:34.622 --> 00:27:34.894 right? 00:27:35.015 --> 00:27:36.195 But for the ones that wanna 00:27:36.235 --> 00:27:37.435 be a part of their kids' lives, 00:27:37.475 --> 00:27:38.355 have the ability to be a 00:27:38.395 --> 00:27:39.536 part of their kids' lives 00:27:39.836 --> 00:27:40.776 and should be a part of 00:27:40.796 --> 00:27:41.556 their kids' lives, 00:27:41.866 --> 00:27:42.847 This is it right here. 00:27:43.027 --> 00:27:44.172 This is why we're doing this one. 00:27:44.192 --> 00:27:46.593 So I really do hope that, again, 00:27:46.934 --> 00:27:49.275 this reaches enough people 00:27:49.316 --> 00:27:51.239 to know that there are people trying. 00:27:51.239 --> 00:27:52.207 any help helps. 00:27:52.907 --> 00:27:55.089 So again, I thank y'all for watching this, 00:27:55.129 --> 00:27:55.990 taking the time. 00:27:56.110 --> 00:27:56.170 Oh, 00:27:56.619 --> 00:27:57.320 There's one more page. 00:27:57.360 --> 00:27:58.741 I'll let you get to the signing stuff. 00:27:59.582 --> 00:28:01.404 And my name is Del Robinson. 00:28:01.969 --> 00:28:03.091 For those that you don't know me, 00:28:03.385 --> 00:28:04.366 and I really do appreciate 00:28:04.386 --> 00:28:06.048 you taking the time to listen, watch, 00:28:06.485 --> 00:28:08.908 however you decided to help by sharing, 00:28:09.408 --> 00:28:10.169 just because someone asked 00:28:10.189 --> 00:28:10.990 you to share it. 00:28:11.010 --> 00:28:11.390 Thank you. 00:28:11.842 --> 00:28:12.903 Thank you from the bottom of my heart. 00:28:13.324 --> 00:28:14.319 My kids thank you. 00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:15.200 I hope you all have a good night.