How's everybody doing?
My name is Dell,
for most of you that do know me.
For those that don't know me,
my name is Arundell.
Most people do call me Dell Robinson.
And I have made by now
probably a couple videos.
I do believe this should be
episode two in the series
that I'm calling Dell for Dads.
The reason why I am doing
this is because my and my
children's constitutional
rights have been violated
by the state of Vermont,
the family division,
family court division.
I had a court case this past February.
You'll be able to see that
here in a little bit.
where my children's mother,
I have three children,
are Cameron, Atlas, and Kai.
opinion,
we were supposed to be
going into this case,
going for fifty-fifty in the thought that
This was for the best
interest of our children.
but didn't know until the
day of that it was not the
case as far as the other party concerned.
party's intentions were.
My kid's mother decided that
it would be best for her to
take my children out of a
state or out of a place
that they've known all their lives,
have had the majority of their family
be closest to them where
they've been the majority of their lives,
just to uproot them,
move them to a completely
different state where they
don't really know anyone,
and they wouldn't have me
in their lives as much.
It all really comes down to
the injustice of this court system.
impitting parents against
each other in reality.
And that's all court systems.
I truly believe when it
comes to custody disputes
that the courts really do
not have any intention of
what is in the best
interest for the children.
And I do heavily believe
that it is a financial
agenda on their behalf.
so let's jump right into it
um i'm gonna try to say um
no more times throughout
this video and i do
apologize if that is
something i do it is kind
of a bad habit as far as
public speaking goes
when i last made a video i
do believe that it was
lot of it was mostly just me
going off emotion i've had
some time now to kind of
let this resonate and sink
in and it still really
doesn't make any other
sense other than this being an agenda
that takes precedence over
the actual well-being of
children that end up in
this system let me go ahead
and share this so right
here what you have in front
of you is the same document
i'm going to be holding
here and kind of looking off to the side
As you can see in the bottom
of the screen here,
this is the order that I
was given or that we were
all given
The only difference between
the copy you have and the
copy that I have is that I
have two pages for the most
part of just my own
personal findings in the
order that you have on your
screen in front of you.
For those that don't know
what they're really looking
at other than knowing that
this came from a court,
Findings of fact is
something that a judge is
supposed to write out based
on things they found to
give their final order,
basically supposed
to be supported by evidence
that was in the case.
lot of the time when you do
read these what you will
see is that they're
numbered kind of just like
showing you where they
found this fact that
they're kind of stating
and as it goes on you end
up seeing who's in
favor of each one of those
findings in a sense
when you read this if you
choose to what you'll find
is it's basically a story
um which then turns out
like it's almost like the
the judge is testifying
and it's not
testifying on my behalf
which most would think would
be weird um others would
think it's normal in what
they're reading had they
not been told what i just
said prior to hearing or
seeing this right um if i
had just given this to
somebody they would just
read it and they would say oh man
All right,
and they would build up their own opinion,
right?
Because I can't sit here and
say that any random person
off the street is going to
read this and immediately
side on the mother's behalf.
So what I do think
is that what I read,
and whenever I hand this to somebody,
I do find, I should say,
that most people are more
appalled by the end result
of what they're reading.
And I'm sure most of you
have kind of gone from that
page or have already read
it and is probably
screaming at me to flip the
page at this point.
So let's go ahead and do that.
as you read on because i'm
just going to talk over
while you guys read this
because there is going to
be more videos and where i
deep dive into what's
happening
um in this
particular case and the
reason why i have to do
that is because i don't
really know about any other
cases other than what i
have dug into while i've
been trying to build my own case
to appeal this particular
order
And I think a lot of people
don't realize when it comes
into court orders and going
into the system, the problem really comes,
the control is no longer in
either of the parents'
hands once it's in the actual system.
i know a lot of the times
where assistance is needed
is not being given these
things should be put in
place i do feel there could
always be tweaks to that
particular system i guess
especially in the time
we're in now because where
the rules and guidelines
that were put in place
back when
support was given from the
states to parents
predominantly the mother uh
where mother where fathers
were looked at as the ones
that went off to work to
make money for the family
their mothers almost were expected
to stay home,
whereas now there's so many
fathers that are
stay-at-home fathers and so
many more fathers that are
just involved in their
children's lives regardless
of their stay-at-home or if
they're just an average
working American parent.
On this second page, again,
what you're going to be seeing,
and I'm sorry that I jump a
lot back and forth.
This is just how my brain works.
as far as trying to get a
lot of thoughts out into a
small amount of time.
You're again reading a lot
of the findings of fact on
the second portion.
And I'm going to go ahead
and get to that next slide
so you guys can see that third page.
I'll get back to how I feel the system
could be better utilized for
parents that really cannot
get along when it comes to co-parenting,
I myself am in a
situation where the other
parent of my children and myself,
we just do not get along.
the minute we we we have a
second of just knowing
there's an issue we
immediately have anxiety i
feel like when it comes to
having to talk to each
other
mostly because anytime i go
to voice my opinion it's
always shot back with
finger pointing
if the kids come sick to my house,
there's always a reason why
they came home to their
mother sick before.
And it must be something
that's just still lingering
once they come back.
Even down to sleep routines
where I personally don't
co-sleep with my children,
where at their mother's house,
You know,
there's times that they do and
times that they don't.
There's no real consistency
as far as I know.
But when I do bring up these issues,
they're reciprocated back
with defense mechanisms.
And a lot of the time,
once that is brought up,
it's always fired back with some
type of reasoning
There's just no remedy.
there's either,
like it's not brought up or
the remedy was just figured
out
the situation then just dissipates.
where in my mind an ideal situation,
because I'm sure people would say, well,
you figured it out.
What are you complaining about?
situation,
if I had co-slept with my
children and their mother
would say something like, hey,
Kids are waking up middle of the night,
having a really hard time.
They're trying to squeeze my bed.
Are you co-sleeping by chance with them?
I am.
I'm sorry.
I thought you guys were doing that there.
Are you not?
No, definitely not.
Okay, well, cool.
Give me a little bit of time
and I will wean that situation off,
Because in the end,
that child won't always
sleep in your bed.
And I also get,
because please don't get me wrong,
that again, every family is different.
that some people
believe that co-sleeping
benefits a child and
benefits the relationship between parents
I personally was just not raised that way.
And I also believe that is
how germs really do spread.
And if my kid is sick, I will snuggle him,
I will snuggle her,
But to minimize, you know, is,
is the best effort and what
is in the best interest of my child.
Like I don't, if I get sick,
I'm no use to my kid.
I'm the biggest baby when it
comes to being sick.
I want to lay down and I
don't want anybody near me.
I just want, just want to be sick.
silence but when
there's two brains trying to work in
ultimately raise a human to
be the best human that they
can possibly be,
opinions are going to be had.
And that's fine.
Not everybody has to agree.
And I also believe that.
I think if we all agreed,
we would have the craziest,
boringest world in the world.
Think about that for a second.
So I'm going to move on to page four,
in the end,
what you're getting here is
I was in favor to the court
at the end of reading all of this,
two to one.
Now,
this is where the problem really sets in.
especially for fathers, just anywhere,
everywhere,
because I know that Vermont is
not the only state that has
these guidelines,
that follows these
regulations and rules and
secretly
disaster for families.
And when you really are
finally in the thick of it
is when you realize this is,
this is what it is.
And everybody else on the
outside does not understand
that this is what it is.
And then the people that
have gone through it,
just throw their hands up,
because they go, this is what it is.
And I
don't know.
I just I just know that this is not okay.
And I know that there's so
many smaller amounts of
people that have come out on top of this.
But still,
there's no no one because
because once they come out on top,
they're happy they have their family,
they don't realize that
there's so many other
families out there besides there's,
you know, the small movements,
the father's rights movements, and,
you know,
these small groups that are out there,
it's not enough.
to make a change because
there's no change that has
really been truly made to
look at both parents.
Like, hey, you guys are in it.
You gotta figure out how to
just both parent.
It's a winner-loser scenario,
and that is it.
I'm gonna flip the page for y'all.
when it becomes this immediately,
Parents are pitted against
each other to do and find
the dirtiest dirt that they
can because they are
thinking that this is in
the best interest of the child.
there's a lot...
people that do understand that part.
We're going to court.
It's me against you.
I'm going to make sure that
I look better than you do.
And I honestly think that
that partly in this
particular case was my
downfall because I didn't do that.
I didn't go there and show
the immense amount of times
I was trying to be and was
at times successfully
alienated from my children by their mom.
My daughter, for instance,
her whole first year of her life,
I rarely got to see her.
I got to see her for pickups
because I did pickups in
the morning for my boys for
school and daycare.
And that's every day after we split up.
And then when I was allowed,
And then for drop-off, same thing.
I would get to sit there at
the door or I would be
allowed into her house.
point,
I stopped going into her house.
It was not ideal for me, one.
Two, in theory,
it really wasn't safe for
me to do that because at
any point in time,
you know, more so looking back at it.
At any point in time,
she could have played the,
he's in my home and could have,
and I know that there's a
lot of people that can say
it didn't happen.
So what are you like complaining about?
But it could have,
and maybe it didn't because
I didn't allow it to happen
for too long or so long
where it did become an issue.
But what I do know is that had I stayed,
the situation would have
always been what it was.
If I stayed going to her
house and playing the nice
guy just because I wanted to see my kids,
that's no way to live.
And ultimately, the control was hers.
have with me just laying down.
And the crazier part was
that all of that time,
there was still never a
means or a thought of how to make it work,
fifty-fifty.
There's always that
okay,
how am I going to make this work on
my behalf?
And that right there is
where I think the biggest
issues come into play
because when you know that the ref,
or in this case the judge,
already is looking for
something in particular.
And I think when any mother
knows that the court system
is already kind of,
and I hate using this word,
but it's already rigged in their favor,
they kind of
It's like they already know
they can walk in with a
certain disposition
is just not right.
And that's ultimately where
I come into play as far as this goes.
And not just for my family,
but for other families that
are just being again,
this is families that are
being ripped apart.
We finally reached the
conclusions a lot here.
So what you're gonna be seeing is,
final answer from the judge.
And I do want to rewind back
just for two seconds.
Going into this hearing,
I brought evidence based on the thought
We presented evidence, I should say.
My lawyer decided that we
would go the angle because
it was kind of one of the
options that was up in the
air for different avenues
of how we would go ahead
and base our case.
But we went in, in the end,
basing it off of...
their mom, their children's mom,
my children's mom,
trying to paint me as this absent father.
And I know that there was a
small underlying layer of
we possibly thought she was
gonna try to play an abuse card,
which did not happen in the end.
She stated numerous times
that there was never abuse.
I have numerous texts where
she tells me that I'm abusive,
tells me I've mentally abused her,
I've verbally abused her.
And I do want to point out
as well that her evidence
that she presented was
photos of the children's
bedroom of the house that
they currently are residing
at there at her place,
the photos of where she
plans on
moving them to uh into a
house with people that
they've never even really
met after reading the
top portion of the page
that you're on right now you'll see that
I was in favor at this point, two to one.
word.
So we finally reached the
end of this and we're at
the conclusions of law.
Parental rights and
responsibilities and
parent-child contact
reads.
It's who gets to make the decisions,
for the kids on a day-to-day
basis and a final basis.
parent says, all right,
I want to sign one of our
kids up to do parachuting.
And the other parent can say, well,
I don't think that's a good
idea because five thousand
different reasons.
The other parent,
if they have sole
responsibilities and rights
can literally look at the parent and go,
great,
thanks for telling me and go ahead
and sign them or do
whatever it is that they
feel is right for their child.
A huge problem in my case
and why I know that my
rights are being violated
is mostly because this is
all based off of maybe.
In one of these videos,
I will be playing out the
audio of our case in which
you can hear everything my kid's mother,
said and then everything
that my side said um i did
bring two people along with
me to testify on my behalf
one is a a friend of mine
uh also has children that
are friends with both my
older and my middle child
in this relationship and um
as you probably read
my kids love my wife and
and i do believe that here
is where we come into that
like area of spiteful
know ex-partners and why
these things happen i can't
even say that this is the
reason that this is happening
And the reason why I partly
feel like it can't be this
is because she's also
having another child by another man.
And, you know, great, that's good.
I'm happy.
But it shouldn't come at a
cost of the children that
are already here.
So that's kind of her game
plan as you may have be
catching up at this point
she wants to take my kids,
move them to a completely
different state with a man
that they've only met three
or four times at that point in time.
Since then,
I've only heard maybe another
three times that they've
seen this human being.
And somebody might say,
what's the big deal?
the big deal
is you are grooming my
children
Because after this order, page flip,
was given,
my lawyer and I decided that we would,
we wanted to know,
because there was a question I asked,
if this order goes into
effect immediately,
which part of me already
kind of knew that the answer was yes,
my kid's mother has only known...
the father of this child for
a year and a half is what they stated.
So there's, in my brain,
no real way that a year and
a half lapsed enough for
you to have a child and make a decision
to move three of your own
children from a place that
they've known forever to a
place that they have to
relearn without one of the most stable,
stable humans in their life.
Crazier part is she owns a
house that was given to her
by her mother.
y'all.
So yeah,
going back to the court and how it
doesn't really look out for
the best interest of the children.
So once that hearing was over,
the order was given out.
And mind you, this happened in February,
February seventh.
We received the order
The twenty-fifth of February.
want to do something real quick.
I just want you to understand.
On the seventh of one of the shortest,
not one of, the shortest month.
The seventh.
One weekend.
One true, full work weekend.
We had this hearing.
It took less than the amount
of time that I was in a
temporary order to make a
life-changing decision for my children.
when the order was given i
asked if it went into place
immediately again kind of
knowing the answer to that
the very i believe the very
next day so the reason why
i asked if this went into
place immediately is prior
to this we had a temporary
order because we had
finally gone into court
because their mother decided to file.
And a lot of people ask why
I didn't file first.
Part of me does truly
believe that there was a
small portion that hoped still,
even after the way that
things were going as far as
me only getting to see the
kids if I was playing nice.
mother,
there was a small hope that
there was a chance that she
would want both parents in
our kids' lives.
with my
own kind of suggested order
that it would still be
split as close to
fifty-fifty as possible.
Nonetheless,
We finally got a hearing for
a temporary order that was
only supposed to last until
school started.
And that happened in June,
And at that point,
the split was forty seven, fifty three,
forty seven percent of the
time my kids were with me
and fifty three percent of
the time they were with their mother.
And that worked beautifully.
I had no issues with that.
If anything, the only issue I had,
which was very silly in my mind, I guess,
long term,
was that I didn't get to see
them every single day,
Theoretically, I still kind of did.
I still went and saw them at
lunch or I would see them
right after school when
their mom would be picking them up.
But
just asking how their day was.
It wasn't FaceTime.
and I was like face to face,
person to person versus
just like over the screen.
Huge difference when I'm not
talking to them on the
phone versus on the phone.
They don't seem so
standoffish when we're in person.
I get huge hugs where they
know they can't hug me over the phone.
We can't wrestle, can't do other things.
There's no real connection
other than just staring at a screen,
let me switch that page.
I know y'all definitely got there.
there is slowly,
and that's a stressful slowly.
is there this uprise of parental rights,
right?
For fathers,
especially because now for so long,
this was kind of the standard.
Oh, you got every other weekend?
Dude, that's awesome.
It's good.
But the standard is so
ingrained in us that we
just immediately assume
that when a parent gets
every other weekend, mostly a dad,
oh,
you get them for the summer.
That's so cool.
That is cool.
But why is it just the whole
summer after getting every other weekend?
And again, don't get me wrong.
Kids love their parents.
And most parents love their kids.
So any amount of time is a great time.
But when the ability to have
more time is there and the
willingness to have more time is there,
why are the courts stepping
in the way and dismantling
that based off of anything
other than another parent not wanting
So that forty seven fifty
three temporary order was
in place and it was only
supposed to be in place
until school started.
That order ran all the way
until February
Technically, until February twenty fifth.
So we asked,
is there any way we can just
keep this temporary order
until that maybe happens?
Page for you.
the judge i think took hours
maybe hours on that one to
deny and the reason why
they denied it was because
it left the opportunity to
go back to court in the
event they had not moved
Let that sink in for a second.
They did not want to keep a
temporary order in place
even though it was working
and had both parents
involved in the children's lives.
because then it left the
opportunity for us to go
back to court had they not moved.
somehow that is in the
best interest of my children.
I'm going to flip this page.
You can pause it, rewind, whatever.
You got to go back.
So yeah.
That is a court order.
I just wanted to get that out there.
Hopefully I can,
break this down enough so it
doesn't seem too boring.
the reason why I'm sharing
this is because I'm not the
only father going through this.
I'm not the only person with
children who are going through this.
I know that there are tons of parents
that do not want to actually be parents,
that's fine.
That's a choice that they
have made for themselves.
Is it right?
No.
Is it fine?
Has to be because that's a
choice that only they can
make for themselves and for
that child because it's their child,
right?
But for the ones that wanna
be a part of their kids' lives,
have the ability to be a
part of their kids' lives
and should be a part of
their kids' lives,
This is it right here.
This is why we're doing this one.
So I really do hope that, again,
this reaches enough people
to know that there are people trying.
any help helps.
So again, I thank y'all for watching this,
taking the time.
Oh,
There's one more page.
I'll let you get to the signing stuff.
And my name is Del Robinson.
For those that you don't know me,
and I really do appreciate
you taking the time to listen, watch,
however you decided to help by sharing,
just because someone asked
you to share it.
Thank you.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
My kids thank you.
I hope you all have a good night.