WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.899 I remember coming to you and saying, look, you 00:00:01.899 --> 00:00:04.200 came from a failed marriage. I came from a failed 00:00:04.200 --> 00:00:07.320 marriage. You grew up in a broken home. I grew 00:00:07.320 --> 00:00:09.759 up in a broken home. You had a lot of trauma 00:00:09.759 --> 00:00:11.919 as a kid. I had a lot of trauma as a kid. We 00:00:11.919 --> 00:00:14.080 don't really know how to do this right. We don't 00:00:14.080 --> 00:00:16.120 know what we don't know. Let's figure out how 00:00:16.120 --> 00:00:18.620 to communicate properly. Let's learn the tools 00:00:18.620 --> 00:00:22.199 and techniques that we, neither of us were taught 00:00:22.199 --> 00:00:25.039 it. Not to mention we weren't taught it, but 00:00:25.039 --> 00:00:29.460 we didn't have role models. Yeah. role model 00:00:29.460 --> 00:00:47.159 that type of behavior. Welcome to The Erase Show. 00:00:47.740 --> 00:00:50.200 This is going to be a very special episode because 00:00:50.200 --> 00:00:53.840 we have no guests. We are the guests. We have 00:00:53.840 --> 00:00:57.899 no format. We have no guests. We have no agenda. 00:00:58.670 --> 00:01:02.149 No agenda. No. Just to get to know us. Right? 00:01:02.170 --> 00:01:06.409 Just to get to know us. We want you to know the 00:01:06.409 --> 00:01:09.750 David and Layla Settner before they try to erase 00:01:09.750 --> 00:01:12.069 and cancel us. Who are these people? Yes. Who 00:01:12.069 --> 00:01:14.930 are they? And you might see a little quirky, 00:01:15.069 --> 00:01:17.030 silly, because that's who we are by nature. But 00:01:17.030 --> 00:01:20.870 you might also be inspired a little bit about 00:01:20.870 --> 00:01:23.150 our journey. I think our journey. I would be 00:01:23.150 --> 00:01:25.689 inspired by us. I'm inspired by you. I'm inspired 00:01:25.689 --> 00:01:29.430 by you. That's because I love you. So we often 00:01:29.430 --> 00:01:32.010 get asked a lot of questions. And I thought maybe 00:01:32.010 --> 00:01:36.250 we can use this as an opportunity to, like, go 00:01:36.250 --> 00:01:38.030 over some of those common questions that are 00:01:38.030 --> 00:01:41.069 asked. You know, we've been together for 14 years. 00:01:41.549 --> 00:01:43.750 It's been a beautiful journey. We've had our 00:01:43.750 --> 00:01:48.069 ups and downs. Crazy journey. Yep. And, you know, 00:01:48.109 --> 00:01:51.129 really. When people see us now, we've been together 00:01:51.129 --> 00:01:54.390 for 14 years, they go, like, wow, you guys are 00:01:54.390 --> 00:01:57.030 always hugging on each other, kissing each other, 00:01:57.090 --> 00:01:59.709 loving on each other. Has it always been like 00:01:59.709 --> 00:02:03.069 that? Do you have moments where you want to strangle 00:02:03.069 --> 00:02:05.510 each other? How did you get your relationship 00:02:05.510 --> 00:02:08.409 to where it is today? And I often tell people, 00:02:08.490 --> 00:02:13.169 like, it hasn't always been this amazing. You 00:02:13.169 --> 00:02:18.360 know, you grew up in a household that... was 00:02:18.360 --> 00:02:21.000 untraditional and had a lot of trauma and drama. 00:02:21.199 --> 00:02:24.080 I grew up in a household that had a lot of drama 00:02:24.080 --> 00:02:29.580 and we didn't have so much of a functional, peaceful 00:02:29.580 --> 00:02:33.780 household. And so I think one of the things that 00:02:33.780 --> 00:02:38.860 makes us work so hard at having a peaceful, loving 00:02:38.860 --> 00:02:42.180 relationship with one another, first and foremost, 00:02:42.300 --> 00:02:44.960 but also in our home. is the fact that we didn't 00:02:44.960 --> 00:02:47.740 have it. It's so important to us. I mean, it's 00:02:47.740 --> 00:02:53.099 super important that we... Peace is very important 00:02:53.099 --> 00:02:56.080 individually, within ourselves first and foremost, 00:02:56.379 --> 00:02:58.120 and then with each other, and then within our 00:02:58.120 --> 00:03:00.979 household, and then with the kids, and all of 00:03:00.979 --> 00:03:06.680 humanity, I sort of see it like that. I disagree 00:03:06.680 --> 00:03:10.500 with you a little bit. We were always super affectionate 00:03:10.500 --> 00:03:13.259 with each other from the beginning. Yeah. A hundred 00:03:13.259 --> 00:03:15.020 percent. I'm not disagreeing about that, but 00:03:15.020 --> 00:03:17.800 I'm saying like we had some major bumps in the 00:03:17.800 --> 00:03:20.680 road just because of what we were dealing with 00:03:20.680 --> 00:03:24.159 in our personal lives. So what I'm saying is 00:03:24.159 --> 00:03:26.560 like, for example, the first six months when 00:03:26.560 --> 00:03:28.939 we were in a massive honeymoon phase, you know, 00:03:28.979 --> 00:03:31.719 constantly kissing, hugging, loving, not one 00:03:31.719 --> 00:03:33.860 argument, not one fight. Well, except for the 00:03:33.860 --> 00:03:35.599 time that you dumped me for 40 days, but we won't 00:03:35.599 --> 00:03:39.340 talk about that today. That'll be another episode 00:03:39.340 --> 00:03:47.120 just about that. You know, we would meet people 00:03:47.120 --> 00:03:49.039 in that first six months and they'd go like, 00:03:49.180 --> 00:03:52.219 oh, I'd love to see you in 10 years. I remember 00:03:52.219 --> 00:03:55.620 we were on our second date all over each other 00:03:55.620 --> 00:03:58.919 in the Hamptons. Yeah. And we met this lady at 00:03:58.919 --> 00:04:02.259 the bar. Her name was Joan. We will find her 00:04:02.259 --> 00:04:04.819 one day. She was awesome. I liked her. And she's 00:04:04.819 --> 00:04:07.680 like, exactly, let's see you 10 years from now. 00:04:07.740 --> 00:04:09.500 And we wanted to find her at the 10 -year mark 00:04:09.500 --> 00:04:11.280 because we were like super into each other. We're 00:04:11.280 --> 00:04:15.879 looking for you. You're out there, Joan. You 00:04:15.879 --> 00:04:18.959 know, we were just together this weekend. We 00:04:18.959 --> 00:04:21.740 went out dancing, having a great time. Great 00:04:21.740 --> 00:04:24.040 time. And again, all over each other. All over 00:04:24.040 --> 00:04:26.560 each other. Like as if it was when we first met. 00:04:26.839 --> 00:04:29.100 I hope we're like that when we're 80, 90. We 00:04:29.100 --> 00:04:30.740 will. There's no hope. It's going to happen. 00:04:30.740 --> 00:04:32.639 We've already written it in stone. It's written 00:04:32.639 --> 00:04:34.540 in stone. Right? Manifestation, visualization, 00:04:34.860 --> 00:04:37.019 that's what we do. That's what we do. That's 00:04:37.019 --> 00:04:39.220 our thing. That's our thing. Yeah. And so, like, 00:04:39.220 --> 00:04:42.339 people tell me, like, you know, what are your 00:04:42.339 --> 00:04:44.480 secrets? What did you do? And it's kind of funny 00:04:44.480 --> 00:04:48.040 because after the six -month mark, when we started 00:04:48.040 --> 00:04:53.199 to experience some miscommunications. When you 00:04:53.199 --> 00:04:56.589 moved to. new york when i moved to new york okay 00:04:56.589 --> 00:05:00.550 and we were in very close proximity on a daily 00:05:00.550 --> 00:05:03.810 basis we started to knock heads a little you 00:05:03.810 --> 00:05:06.149 know getting a few arguments right out of the 00:05:06.149 --> 00:05:09.089 gate and i'm like okay you know i remember i 00:05:09.089 --> 00:05:11.930 remember my one of my flaws is i remember all 00:05:11.930 --> 00:05:17.290 of our arguments and one of my um what would 00:05:17.290 --> 00:05:20.589 you say not flaws one of my What would you call 00:05:20.589 --> 00:05:22.589 it? Superpowers? Superpowers is that I forget 00:05:22.589 --> 00:05:26.329 all of our arguments. That's better your way. 00:05:27.029 --> 00:05:30.089 And so I remember coming to you and saying, look, 00:05:30.230 --> 00:05:32.550 you came from a failed marriage. I came from 00:05:32.550 --> 00:05:35.189 a failed marriage. You grew up in a broken home. 00:05:35.470 --> 00:05:38.230 I grew up in a broken home. You had a lot of 00:05:38.230 --> 00:05:40.170 trauma as a kid. I had a lot of trauma as a kid. 00:05:40.230 --> 00:05:42.589 We don't really know how to do this right. We 00:05:42.589 --> 00:05:45.509 don't know what we don't know. So I came to you 00:05:45.509 --> 00:05:48.069 with the proposal of hiring a relationship coach. 00:05:49.270 --> 00:05:53.550 It's very, yeah. We didn't, well, the relationship 00:05:53.550 --> 00:05:55.870 coach. How did you react in the beginning? Probably 00:05:55.870 --> 00:05:58.209 negative. Probably negative. I didn't feel like 00:05:58.209 --> 00:06:01.790 we needed it, I guess. Your exact words? I don't 00:06:01.790 --> 00:06:02.709 remember. Because I do remember that. I don't 00:06:02.709 --> 00:06:06.350 remember. Do you have to be such an overachiever? 00:06:07.889 --> 00:06:10.269 There's no problems yet. Why are we trying to 00:06:10.269 --> 00:06:12.769 have a coach and there are no problems? You are 00:06:12.769 --> 00:06:14.790 an overachiever. I am an overachiever. In every 00:06:14.790 --> 00:06:17.069 which way. And I'm proud of that. Yeah. And I 00:06:17.069 --> 00:06:20.680 said to you. I say, one of my expressions, why 00:06:20.680 --> 00:06:24.199 get an A plus when an A is good enough? Yeah, 00:06:24.240 --> 00:06:27.000 and I say, why not get an A plus if you can, 00:06:27.160 --> 00:06:30.560 right? Yeah. And so I said to you, listen, let's 00:06:30.560 --> 00:06:33.360 have this person in place because the day is 00:06:33.360 --> 00:06:35.379 going to come where we are going to bump heads 00:06:35.379 --> 00:06:38.420 really hard. Let's figure out how to communicate 00:06:38.420 --> 00:06:41.079 properly. Let's learn the tools and techniques 00:06:41.079 --> 00:06:44.980 that we, neither of us were taught it, not to 00:06:44.980 --> 00:06:47.610 mention. We weren't taught it, but we didn't 00:06:47.610 --> 00:06:52.509 have role models to role model that type of behavior. 00:06:52.810 --> 00:06:55.689 And for context, this was way before we did our 00:06:55.689 --> 00:06:58.629 journey of healing and spirituality. Yes. Way 00:06:58.629 --> 00:07:01.889 before. Way before. This was like you and I were 00:07:01.889 --> 00:07:05.829 on a conscious level, probably at the bottom. 00:07:05.910 --> 00:07:09.009 Yeah. Very unconscious. Well, I knew that when 00:07:09.009 --> 00:07:12.069 we first met that we started talking about the 00:07:12.069 --> 00:07:15.120 importance of personal development. Yeah. We 00:07:15.120 --> 00:07:18.600 were at the top of the first inning of our journey 00:07:18.600 --> 00:07:20.300 of personal development. But you were really 00:07:20.300 --> 00:07:22.959 into it, and I was really into it. And that's 00:07:22.959 --> 00:07:25.180 going to make us sustainable. Well, I mean, what's 00:07:25.180 --> 00:07:28.139 fascinating about you is that when you were 18, 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:31.060 you started a personal journey. I did. You started 00:07:31.060 --> 00:07:33.740 a course. I did. I did the forum, the landmark 00:07:33.740 --> 00:07:35.939 forum. That's what they call it now. And when 00:07:35.939 --> 00:07:38.699 I was 18, I had started Tony Robbins' cassette 00:07:38.699 --> 00:07:42.439 tapes. That's right. Yes, while we were new, 00:07:42.579 --> 00:07:46.420 we were both open because on our own, we were 00:07:46.420 --> 00:07:48.899 like, no, no, no, we want an amazing life and 00:07:48.899 --> 00:07:51.720 we know that we need to work on ourselves. And 00:07:51.720 --> 00:07:55.100 that was totally independent. Sure. But what's 00:07:55.100 --> 00:07:58.779 amazing is that when we found each other, we 00:07:58.779 --> 00:08:01.779 were able to continue the personal journey together 00:08:01.779 --> 00:08:05.379 versus when we weren't together and we were in 00:08:05.379 --> 00:08:08.420 different relationships. It takes two. to want 00:08:08.420 --> 00:08:12.220 to be on that journey. And I think that being 00:08:12.220 --> 00:08:15.319 together was a first time as a partnership. We 00:08:15.319 --> 00:08:17.699 both were excited to do that together. And I 00:08:17.699 --> 00:08:19.860 think that made a big difference. Yeah, I mean, 00:08:19.879 --> 00:08:21.939 to this day, we go to these workshops and we 00:08:21.939 --> 00:08:25.300 see one of the spouses and we never see the other 00:08:25.300 --> 00:08:27.339 one. It's just not sustainable. If one person's 00:08:27.339 --> 00:08:28.800 working on themselves and the other one's not. 00:08:29.379 --> 00:08:31.480 Yes, and one person is going up and up and up. 00:08:31.699 --> 00:08:34.480 The other person is staying here. They're staying 00:08:34.480 --> 00:08:38.009 completely... unconscious of their actions, while 00:08:38.009 --> 00:08:40.049 the other one is evolving and evolving. It's 00:08:40.049 --> 00:08:41.690 just, it's not sustainable. I don't think so. 00:08:41.889 --> 00:08:44.669 I tell people all the time, if we didn't do this 00:08:44.669 --> 00:08:46.870 journey together, it would have been completely 00:08:46.870 --> 00:08:49.389 unsustainable. Our relationship wouldn't have 00:08:49.389 --> 00:08:52.149 lasted. As much as we love each other, as much 00:08:52.149 --> 00:08:54.129 as the fact that you are beyond my soulmate, 00:08:54.230 --> 00:08:56.549 I've been with you for many lives. I know it. 00:08:56.769 --> 00:08:59.309 I know it. You know, we talk about, we reminisce 00:08:59.309 --> 00:09:01.850 all the time. Like when I first heard your voice, 00:09:02.049 --> 00:09:05.269 you know, we met online. That's back in the day 00:09:05.269 --> 00:09:07.769 when Match .com used to be, like, super cool. 00:09:07.909 --> 00:09:09.669 I don't know what's cool now because we're not 00:09:09.669 --> 00:09:15.269 on any apps. No idea. Hey, you read my... So... 00:09:15.269 --> 00:09:19.370 In one of your previous lives, you were a malevolent 00:09:19.370 --> 00:09:21.769 dictator. It was probably. You know, that's what 00:09:21.769 --> 00:09:26.210 they say. But back to what I was saying is that... 00:09:26.919 --> 00:09:29.419 When I heard your voice for the first time on 00:09:29.419 --> 00:09:31.059 the phone, you were in New York and California, 00:09:31.340 --> 00:09:33.879 I was like, I got butterflies in my stomach instantly. 00:09:33.919 --> 00:09:36.399 I was like, oh my God, I've heard this voice 00:09:36.399 --> 00:09:40.899 before. And then later on through some different 00:09:40.899 --> 00:09:45.039 hypnotherapy, past life regression stuff, you 00:09:45.039 --> 00:09:47.639 and I had been together many times. I think so 00:09:47.639 --> 00:09:53.279 too, yeah. On our first date, when you arrived, 00:09:53.460 --> 00:09:57.470 pulled up. Your car at the valet at the hotel 00:09:57.470 --> 00:09:59.389 where I was staying to meet you for the first 00:09:59.389 --> 00:10:03.429 time, literally five minutes later, we were making 00:10:03.429 --> 00:10:06.950 out hard. Yeah. Like, that doesn't happen. That 00:10:06.950 --> 00:10:09.570 doesn't happen. No. No, I mean, it was like a 00:10:09.570 --> 00:10:13.230 reunion, right? Even though you and I are beyond 00:10:13.230 --> 00:10:17.889 soulmates, had we not done the hard work, we 00:10:17.889 --> 00:10:20.110 might not be together today. And so I tell people 00:10:20.110 --> 00:10:24.370 is love isn't going to be the only thing that, 00:10:24.649 --> 00:10:26.750 keeps you and your relationship together. You 00:10:26.750 --> 00:10:29.750 need to work hard on your relationship, but most 00:10:29.750 --> 00:10:32.649 importantly, we need to work hard on ourselves. 00:10:33.610 --> 00:10:36.330 Yeah. Really work hard. I mean, we have enough 00:10:36.330 --> 00:10:41.350 insight now that we know it's amazing we kept 00:10:41.350 --> 00:10:42.909 it together at the beginning. Amazing. Because 00:10:42.909 --> 00:10:45.710 I approached a relationship from a suffering, 00:10:45.830 --> 00:10:48.710 massively traumatized individual, and I know 00:10:48.710 --> 00:10:50.610 that you did as well, and then we meet. You were 00:10:50.610 --> 00:10:51.909 a little bit more traumatized than me because 00:10:51.909 --> 00:10:54.470 you're... 11 years older, so it's like, by nature, 00:10:54.549 --> 00:10:55.850 you're going to be more traumatized. I've had 00:10:55.850 --> 00:10:58.470 more years. You've had more years of life, which 00:10:58.470 --> 00:11:00.230 equals more years of trauma. Well, I like that 00:11:00.230 --> 00:11:04.269 we have the debate who has a more jacked up childhood. 00:11:04.610 --> 00:11:06.730 Yeah. And I think I probably won. Oh, you won 00:11:06.730 --> 00:11:09.370 for sure. Yeah. For sure. And yours is not a 00:11:09.370 --> 00:11:12.649 pretty picture. No, but you know. Yeah. We can 00:11:12.649 --> 00:11:15.629 get into those details later. But the point is, 00:11:15.629 --> 00:11:18.450 is that, I mean, it was a great thing that we 00:11:18.450 --> 00:11:21.990 hired the relationship coach because. He was 00:11:21.990 --> 00:11:26.029 almost like training wheels, right? So he helped 00:11:26.029 --> 00:11:29.690 us keep it together. He helped us communicate. 00:11:30.929 --> 00:11:35.029 He helped us really like calm situations. I mean, 00:11:35.070 --> 00:11:38.909 I remember on our honeymoon, we were on the phone 00:11:38.909 --> 00:11:43.730 with him. Jeff. Yes. Jeff. In the airport, on 00:11:43.730 --> 00:11:50.490 the floor, before we even left New York. Then 00:11:50.490 --> 00:11:53.490 we... arrive at our honeymoon and we're on the 00:11:53.490 --> 00:11:55.970 phone with this guy again. So the honeymoon... 00:11:55.970 --> 00:11:57.690 We had the worst beginning to our marriage. We 00:11:57.690 --> 00:12:00.649 had the worst beginning, but the ending was the 00:12:00.649 --> 00:12:03.659 best. Day three, we pulled it together. Day three, 00:12:03.659 --> 00:12:05.240 we pulled it together. I really have to commend 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:07.620 you. I mean, it was such an unconventional idea 00:12:07.620 --> 00:12:12.600 to get a relationship coach that we didn't necessarily 00:12:12.600 --> 00:12:17.179 need who was on speed dial. To this day, we never 00:12:17.179 --> 00:12:20.460 met him face -to -face. But the deal was that 00:12:20.460 --> 00:12:23.559 if we need him, that he would make himself available 00:12:23.559 --> 00:12:27.019 within a couple of hours if possible. And he 00:12:27.019 --> 00:12:28.460 always was. And we were on the phone with him 00:12:28.460 --> 00:12:32.070 many times. That's really clever. Very, very 00:12:32.070 --> 00:12:34.809 clever. You know, relationship coach on demand. 00:12:35.070 --> 00:12:38.090 And we would have a really bad argument, and 00:12:38.090 --> 00:12:42.370 you would say, I think we should call Jeff. And 00:12:42.370 --> 00:12:44.470 I'd be like, oh, yeah, we definitely should call 00:12:44.470 --> 00:12:46.730 Jeff. We've got to get Jeff on the phone. And 00:12:46.730 --> 00:12:47.769 we would get him on the phone, and he would talk 00:12:47.769 --> 00:12:50.710 us off the ledge. Our skills now, I mean, we 00:12:50.710 --> 00:12:52.970 don't necessarily need a Jeff, but he was super, 00:12:53.049 --> 00:12:55.450 super helpful. Jeff, if you're out there, love 00:12:55.450 --> 00:12:57.990 you, brother. Thank you so much. You helped our 00:12:57.990 --> 00:13:01.250 marriage tremendously. Yeah, and then, you know, 00:13:01.350 --> 00:13:04.129 so some of the things in those arguments, I'd 00:13:04.129 --> 00:13:07.330 be like, Jeff, he's so freaking sensitive, you 00:13:07.330 --> 00:13:09.750 know? Which I take as a compliment. He used to 00:13:09.750 --> 00:13:11.649 take as a compliment. You don't anymore. We can 00:13:11.649 --> 00:13:15.269 talk about why. And then you would be like, Jeff, 00:13:15.330 --> 00:13:17.470 she gets angry. She goes from here to here, right? 00:13:17.950 --> 00:13:20.590 And so he would basically teach you how to cope 00:13:20.590 --> 00:13:22.490 with me and me to cope with you. We know now 00:13:22.490 --> 00:13:24.090 that's not the right approach. That's not the 00:13:24.090 --> 00:13:26.490 right approach, no. But that was really like 00:13:26.490 --> 00:13:29.779 step one and level one. Until we found level 00:13:29.779 --> 00:13:35.559 2. Which was India. That was India. And I'll 00:13:35.559 --> 00:13:38.519 never forget. We were on a Tony Robbins trip. 00:13:38.759 --> 00:13:41.940 In Abu Dhabi. Started in Abu Dhabi. And ended 00:13:41.940 --> 00:13:49.220 in India. India. And we had sold our company 00:13:49.220 --> 00:13:52.120 already. We had sold our company. This was 2018. 00:13:53.100 --> 00:13:56.940 And we're in the taxi. With a couple of friends. 00:13:58.379 --> 00:14:01.279 And we're supposed to go home. We've been out 00:14:01.279 --> 00:14:03.559 there for three weeks. We are all ready to go 00:14:03.559 --> 00:14:06.059 home. We had a little baby at the time. Adina 00:14:06.059 --> 00:14:09.139 was what, one? Aviva. No, Adina. Yeah, but Adina 00:14:09.139 --> 00:14:11.860 was a baby. She was still maybe 10 months. Oh, 00:14:11.879 --> 00:14:14.779 okay. Super little. Aviva was what, three? They 00:14:14.779 --> 00:14:17.059 were with us, no? They were with us. Yeah, yeah, 00:14:17.100 --> 00:14:19.360 yeah. We had a whole entourage, right? Everybody 00:14:19.360 --> 00:14:21.659 was tired. Everybody wanted to go home. We're 00:14:21.659 --> 00:14:25.559 in the cab. A couple of our friends are there, 00:14:25.720 --> 00:14:26.840 and they're like, oh, we're going to be here 00:14:26.840 --> 00:14:28.019 for another two weeks. And I'm like, another 00:14:28.019 --> 00:14:30.059 two weeks? Are you crazy? What are you doing? 00:14:30.960 --> 00:14:34.399 And so she started explaining to me what she 00:14:34.399 --> 00:14:38.080 was going to do, and I literally started crying. 00:14:38.159 --> 00:14:41.039 Started crying. Out of nowhere, no reason. I'm 00:14:41.039 --> 00:14:44.080 like, what is going on here? And you felt very, 00:14:44.179 --> 00:14:45.940 very pulled to stay. I felt pulled to stay. To 00:14:45.940 --> 00:14:49.440 go to this program in Chennai, southern India. 00:14:49.679 --> 00:14:53.720 Yeah. For another, what, 10? 10 days, two weeks? 00:14:54.019 --> 00:14:57.559 12 days. Yeah. I'm like, I'm out. I'll see you 00:14:57.559 --> 00:14:59.820 when we get home. Yeah, you were like, get me 00:14:59.820 --> 00:15:01.460 out of here. Yeah, I was ready to go home. Get 00:15:01.460 --> 00:15:04.440 me out of here. So you split. You went home. 00:15:04.559 --> 00:15:10.340 Home. I changed everything and stayed. And out 00:15:10.340 --> 00:15:14.340 of 12 days, I cried hysterically every single 00:15:14.340 --> 00:15:18.740 day. But the thing that was most incredible to 00:15:18.740 --> 00:15:22.110 me is that on day one, When they started talking 00:15:22.110 --> 00:15:25.950 about the principles of looking within and not 00:15:25.950 --> 00:15:29.289 blaming others, and if you're angry and if you're 00:15:29.289 --> 00:15:31.990 enraged and if you're annoyed or you're frustrated, 00:15:32.129 --> 00:15:35.769 it's all you. It's not the other person. I just 00:15:35.769 --> 00:15:38.769 remember crying like a baby going, oh, my God. 00:15:39.970 --> 00:15:42.610 I used to say words like I'm not a victim, but 00:15:42.610 --> 00:15:46.690 I was 100 % a victim. I'd be angry with you, 00:15:46.710 --> 00:15:50.080 and I would blame you for my anger. I know. You 00:15:50.080 --> 00:15:51.960 would be overly sensitive and you would blame 00:15:51.960 --> 00:15:56.019 me for your sensitivities. I apologize for being 00:15:56.019 --> 00:15:59.299 hyper reactionary to you. Exactly. What you used 00:15:59.299 --> 00:16:05.419 to say. And I'd be like. And so it was like the 00:16:05.419 --> 00:16:09.960 biggest aha moments of my life. And I'm still 00:16:09.960 --> 00:16:13.559 to this day. I'm just so appreciative of. that 00:16:13.559 --> 00:16:15.639 experience and I remember when I was in India 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:19.019 you kept calling me like acting weird like you 00:16:19.019 --> 00:16:23.039 you felt me shifting and you were like calling 00:16:23.039 --> 00:16:26.820 um Kumar G uh and you were like what's going 00:16:26.820 --> 00:16:28.919 on there what's going on there I mean we were 00:16:28.919 --> 00:16:31.480 doing some deep breath work some deep meditations 00:16:31.480 --> 00:16:34.100 and some deep trauma clearing yeah you remember 00:16:34.100 --> 00:16:37.139 that I had the weirdest dreams like I remember 00:16:37.139 --> 00:16:40.279 it's like Bizarre dreams, which makes sense now. 00:16:40.340 --> 00:16:43.279 It's very, very connected. You and I. Connected. 00:16:43.279 --> 00:16:46.419 So connected. Yeah. So I'm, like, healing. You're 00:16:46.419 --> 00:16:49.279 feeling my healing. Like, we are, like, you know, 00:16:49.279 --> 00:16:53.960 we're one pretty much. And I remember talking 00:16:53.960 --> 00:16:59.159 to Kumarji, and I remember saying, David really 00:16:59.159 --> 00:17:02.360 needs to come here. Like, he's an amazing person. 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:06.440 He's got a beautiful heart. He is by far. The 00:17:06.440 --> 00:17:08.700 most amazing man I've ever met. He is my soulmate. 00:17:08.799 --> 00:17:12.319 We've been with each other many lives, but he's 00:17:12.319 --> 00:17:15.559 got a lot of junk. Just as much more than I do. 00:17:15.660 --> 00:17:18.880 Yeah, he's like, you know, I go, I just, you 00:17:18.880 --> 00:17:21.940 know, he needs to work on himself as well. I 00:17:21.940 --> 00:17:23.759 can't teach him this stuff. And then he's like, 00:17:23.819 --> 00:17:27.119 listen, you shouldn't teach him this stuff. You 00:17:27.119 --> 00:17:31.680 go home and just be your new self, your upgraded 00:17:31.680 --> 00:17:35.970 self, your more aware and conscious self. And 00:17:35.970 --> 00:17:38.609 he will feel it, and he will ask you if he can 00:17:38.609 --> 00:17:40.309 come here. And I was like, really? Is that how 00:17:40.309 --> 00:17:42.990 this works? He goes, trust me. He goes, one or 00:17:42.990 --> 00:17:46.150 two things happen. Either that happens, or you'll 00:17:46.150 --> 00:17:48.269 go home and you guys will break up. Did he say 00:17:48.269 --> 00:17:49.910 that? He said that. And I'm like, I don't want 00:17:49.910 --> 00:17:52.930 to break up with him. He's like, from everything 00:17:52.930 --> 00:17:54.710 that you're telling me about him, trust me, he's 00:17:54.710 --> 00:17:56.970 going to want to be here. You never told me that. 00:17:57.230 --> 00:18:00.009 He goes, but he's seen people that the other 00:18:00.009 --> 00:18:03.569 person does not want to involve, and their relationships 00:18:03.569 --> 00:18:06.130 end up splitting up. which might be a good thing 00:18:06.130 --> 00:18:08.710 also for them on their own sometimes that needs 00:18:08.710 --> 00:18:11.630 to happen until they can evolve their souls and 00:18:11.630 --> 00:18:14.210 maybe find a true match that's willing to vibrate 00:18:14.210 --> 00:18:16.589 at the same frequency right and so i was like 00:18:16.589 --> 00:18:19.450 okay but i i was high on life i was feeling good 00:18:19.450 --> 00:18:23.630 i mean we would do past life trauma breath work 00:18:23.630 --> 00:18:28.170 releases we did in your mother's womb from the 00:18:28.170 --> 00:18:34.099 childhood we did I never meditated so much in 00:18:34.099 --> 00:18:38.099 my life in like a 12 -day period. I came back 00:18:38.099 --> 00:18:40.440 feeling light as a feather. We weren't meditators, 00:18:40.460 --> 00:18:43.140 period. No, we never meditated prior to this. 00:18:43.220 --> 00:18:45.980 I didn't even know what that was. You were 41 00:18:45.980 --> 00:18:52.099 and you had a heart attack. Yes. I was, you know, 00:18:52.240 --> 00:18:56.440 38 with chest pains, right? Like not knowing 00:18:56.440 --> 00:18:59.250 how to deal with stress. not knowing how to deal 00:18:59.250 --> 00:19:02.569 with anxiety. I mean, it was just when you don't 00:19:02.569 --> 00:19:04.369 know how to deal with these things, it impacts 00:19:04.369 --> 00:19:07.349 your body significantly. Yeah, absolutely. So 00:19:07.349 --> 00:19:09.450 what was it like when I came home? So you came 00:19:09.450 --> 00:19:13.650 home, and I definitely noticed a shift. Something 00:19:13.650 --> 00:19:16.309 had shifted in you, and I didn't know what it 00:19:16.309 --> 00:19:19.140 was. I mean, you leveled something. in a positive 00:19:19.140 --> 00:19:22.759 way you shifted. And I just kind of lied in wait 00:19:22.759 --> 00:19:26.039 to see, waiting for you to regress back to who 00:19:26.039 --> 00:19:32.160 you were before. Thanks for having faith. Well, 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:33.480 it's just natural, you know. A lot of people 00:19:33.480 --> 00:19:35.339 go to these things or whatever and they come 00:19:35.339 --> 00:19:37.539 back and they're high in life and they come back 00:19:37.539 --> 00:19:40.519 and it's temporary. And the days and weeks went 00:19:40.519 --> 00:19:43.779 by and nothing, you didn't regress. And after 00:19:43.779 --> 00:19:46.859 literally about a month, I said to you, you know, 00:19:48.109 --> 00:19:49.730 Maybe this is something that I should look into. 00:19:50.349 --> 00:19:54.549 And you just started crying like crazy. I was 00:19:54.549 --> 00:19:58.109 like waiting for that day. You were just waiting. 00:19:58.390 --> 00:20:03.750 And then I went, and they did it in the levels 00:20:03.750 --> 00:20:06.789 back in the day. This is, by the way, the program 00:20:06.789 --> 00:20:10.869 is called ACAM, E -K -A -M. O &O Academy. It's 00:20:10.869 --> 00:20:14.430 gone by several names. O &O Academy, Oneness, 00:20:14.490 --> 00:20:19.769 or ACAM. It's genius what they do there. And 00:20:19.769 --> 00:20:22.869 so I went and I did levels one and two back to 00:20:22.869 --> 00:20:26.569 back. 21 days. We did two together. Oh, you joined 00:20:26.569 --> 00:20:29.650 me for two. Yeah, I did. And I did them back 00:20:29.650 --> 00:20:33.250 to back. And literally 19 out of the 21 days, 00:20:33.369 --> 00:20:37.990 I was bawling, crying, puddle of tears, screaming. 00:20:38.069 --> 00:20:40.319 You remember you're like. Popped a blood vessel 00:20:40.319 --> 00:20:43.180 in your eye from crying so much? This is not 00:20:43.180 --> 00:20:46.099 a cheap program. 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Is 00:21:59.630 --> 00:22:03.660 there an emotional... a negative emotional connection 00:22:03.660 --> 00:22:05.859 with any of these things any longer. And they 00:22:05.859 --> 00:22:09.480 were gone. It's not that I forgot them, but it 00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:11.039 didn't have the emotional charge that it used 00:22:11.039 --> 00:22:13.900 to. Well, it's a clearing. We save this trauma 00:22:13.900 --> 00:22:17.299 in our cells. And when you do these meditations 00:22:17.299 --> 00:22:19.599 and the processes and the breath work, you're 00:22:19.599 --> 00:22:25.259 healing the trauma in your cells. Would you like 00:22:25.259 --> 00:22:28.539 to share any of these childhood incidents that 00:22:28.539 --> 00:22:31.049 you... You know, you went through, like, maybe 00:22:31.049 --> 00:22:33.950 share some. Well, I, you know, the bullet points 00:22:33.950 --> 00:22:40.069 are poverty, physical abuse, verbal abuse, suicidal 00:22:40.069 --> 00:22:42.769 behaviors in my household, not me. From your 00:22:42.769 --> 00:22:46.109 parent, your mom. Terminal illness. Your dad. 00:22:47.250 --> 00:22:51.910 Yeah. Yeah. It's just really, really messed up. 00:22:51.910 --> 00:22:57.940 Not good. And it wasn't a house full of... I 00:22:57.940 --> 00:23:01.440 mean, a lot of people grow up with, you know, 00:23:01.460 --> 00:23:04.579 don't have a lot, but they have love in their 00:23:04.579 --> 00:23:09.759 homes. My home was very nutty and dysfunctional. 00:23:10.859 --> 00:23:15.099 So a lot of fear. I lived in a lot of fear. And 00:23:15.099 --> 00:23:17.039 we know what happens when you're in the state 00:23:17.039 --> 00:23:19.920 of fear. Can you imagine? From the moment I woke 00:23:19.920 --> 00:23:22.240 up to the moment I went to bed at night, I had 00:23:22.240 --> 00:23:26.720 fear throughout my entire day. I also, to complicate 00:23:26.720 --> 00:23:30.099 matters, I couldn't see worth shit. You know, 00:23:30.160 --> 00:23:32.079 I wear contact lenses as, you know, my vision 00:23:32.079 --> 00:23:35.579 is terrible. And my father, ironically, was an 00:23:35.579 --> 00:23:38.960 optometrist. And back in the day, they had this 00:23:38.960 --> 00:23:41.319 crazy idea that if you under -prescribe a child, 00:23:41.539 --> 00:23:44.920 then their vision, the deterioration of their 00:23:44.920 --> 00:23:49.140 vision will level out and they won't need, at 00:23:49.140 --> 00:23:52.359 some point it'll just stop deteriorating. Worst 00:23:52.359 --> 00:23:54.589 idea ever. Disproven. You couldn't see anything. 00:23:55.029 --> 00:23:57.410 I mean, not only did my vision get worse and 00:23:57.410 --> 00:23:59.970 worse and worse from the time I was five until 00:23:59.970 --> 00:24:03.390 15, I finally got contact lenses. But I couldn't, 00:24:03.390 --> 00:24:05.829 every single year in school, first day of school, 00:24:05.930 --> 00:24:07.630 I couldn't even see the chalkboard. I literally 00:24:07.630 --> 00:24:09.730 couldn't see the board. So I had to have this 00:24:09.730 --> 00:24:11.829 super awkward conversation. You know, I'm dude 00:24:11.829 --> 00:24:14.450 center. Could you sit me really close to the, 00:24:14.529 --> 00:24:17.460 can you imagine? No. You're the cutest little 00:24:17.460 --> 00:24:20.359 boy. Well, we can disagree on that. You're adorable. 00:24:20.599 --> 00:24:22.480 Yeah, thank you. I love you, too. I would have 00:24:22.480 --> 00:24:24.039 fell in love with you if I was a little girl 00:24:24.039 --> 00:24:28.440 in your class. Maybe. You're the best. With your 00:24:28.440 --> 00:24:32.220 little bow ties. Too cute. So it was pretty. 00:24:32.539 --> 00:24:34.720 Maybe, Alex, we can put some pictures up of how 00:24:34.720 --> 00:24:39.019 cute he was when he was little. In a leisure 00:24:39.019 --> 00:24:41.880 suit. I had plenty of those. I wore hand -me 00:24:41.880 --> 00:24:44.400 -down clothes. It was, like, you know, not good. 00:24:44.660 --> 00:24:48.960 So I had a lot to work on. Yeah, I remember you 00:24:48.960 --> 00:24:53.259 sharing a story with me once where your mom took 00:24:53.259 --> 00:24:56.519 your head and your sister's head and bashed them 00:24:56.519 --> 00:24:58.720 together. And I was just like, oh my God, you 00:24:58.720 --> 00:25:01.960 know, that's definitely trauma. That's trauma. 00:25:02.640 --> 00:25:05.759 Yeah, yeah. Like I could feel the pain in your 00:25:05.759 --> 00:25:09.299 soul just describing that. I mean, it's... No 00:25:09.299 --> 00:25:13.059 parent should do that. It's not okay. No, your 00:25:13.059 --> 00:25:14.579 parents are there to protect you and keep you 00:25:14.579 --> 00:25:18.420 safe. You don't take your kids' heads and grab 00:25:18.420 --> 00:25:20.619 them by the hair and smash them. That happened 00:25:20.619 --> 00:25:23.579 on more than one occasion, actually. Crazy. Crazy. 00:25:24.400 --> 00:25:28.799 Insane. Insane, yeah. But, you know, I'm resolved 00:25:28.799 --> 00:25:31.420 on it now. I have a tremendous amount of compassion 00:25:31.420 --> 00:25:35.079 for my parents because their childhoods were... 00:25:35.420 --> 00:25:37.779 super messed up as well and who knows how many 00:25:37.779 --> 00:25:40.039 generations this goes this goes back the same 00:25:40.039 --> 00:25:42.920 thing we learned is that from the day we're born 00:25:42.920 --> 00:25:47.960 we carry trauma that goes back from past lives 00:25:47.960 --> 00:25:51.119 and generational trauma literally gets passed 00:25:51.119 --> 00:25:54.519 down you know from your from your great -great 00:25:54.519 --> 00:25:56.720 -grandma you know all the way down the chain 00:25:56.720 --> 00:25:58.759 to your parents so then you you get that and 00:25:58.759 --> 00:26:01.180 then we have the opportunity to break the cycle 00:26:02.019 --> 00:26:05.240 To break it and not pass it down to our kids. 00:26:05.440 --> 00:26:08.119 Sure, I'd like to think so. We're raising our 00:26:08.119 --> 00:26:10.960 kids with relatively little trauma. The time 00:26:10.960 --> 00:26:13.140 will tell, but I'm pretty sure they've got a 00:26:13.140 --> 00:26:16.460 good track record so far. So far. So, you know, 00:26:16.460 --> 00:26:21.319 the ironic backhanded benefit of this kind of 00:26:21.319 --> 00:26:24.150 upbringing is it put a fire in my belly. Oh, 00:26:24.150 --> 00:26:26.690 my God, did it put a fire in my belly to get 00:26:26.690 --> 00:26:28.710 out of the household and make money? Money was 00:26:28.710 --> 00:26:32.049 the answer. Money, money, money. And so I started 00:26:32.049 --> 00:26:34.849 working at a very early age. I mean, if you count 00:26:34.849 --> 00:26:38.690 my newspaper route at 10 years old, which I took 00:26:38.690 --> 00:26:42.130 very, very seriously, to my first real job, which 00:26:42.130 --> 00:26:45.990 was at 12 years old as a dishwasher at... International 00:26:45.990 --> 00:26:48.529 House of Pancakes, and four jobs simultaneously 00:26:48.529 --> 00:26:53.829 when I was 16. Pizza Boy, Frankie's Pizza, still 00:26:53.829 --> 00:26:58.269 alive and well. 70 years anniversary, Frankie's 00:26:58.269 --> 00:26:59.950 Pizza in Miami. And their pizza's good. Really 00:26:59.950 --> 00:27:02.769 good. So Fluffy, anybody in Miami, go to Frankie's 00:27:02.769 --> 00:27:04.890 Pizza. You're going to love it. Yeah, 92nd Avenue. 00:27:05.490 --> 00:27:08.910 So it put a fire in my belly, and I just started 00:27:08.910 --> 00:27:11.670 this relentless pursuit of making money. And, 00:27:11.710 --> 00:27:16.670 hey, it worked out pretty good. But I had a heart 00:27:16.670 --> 00:27:20.250 attack along the way, failed marriage. But I 00:27:20.250 --> 00:27:22.670 put my shoulder down and ran through walls, and 00:27:22.670 --> 00:27:27.170 I got what I wanted. But then we had a big exit. 00:27:28.309 --> 00:27:35.150 And then I was lost. What do I do now? I'm rudderless. 00:27:35.670 --> 00:27:39.269 What's my passion going to be now? I must sort 00:27:39.269 --> 00:27:41.690 this out. Well, I'll remember the day like yesterday. 00:27:43.019 --> 00:27:45.700 Transaction closed, and you and I were so eager 00:27:45.700 --> 00:27:48.039 to log into our bank accounts and see the deposit. 00:27:48.200 --> 00:27:52.839 Yeah, it was crazy. Wow. We never imagined seeing 00:27:52.839 --> 00:27:58.380 numbers like we saw, but yet we both felt something 00:27:58.380 --> 00:28:00.759 missing. Empty, a little emptiness. It was an 00:28:00.759 --> 00:28:05.559 emptiness. Because, again, these are things you 00:28:05.559 --> 00:28:08.220 and I have in common. I did the same thing. Pedal 00:28:08.220 --> 00:28:12.619 to the metal. I knew that the key. was to be 00:28:12.619 --> 00:28:15.140 able to have the financial independence, right? 00:28:15.240 --> 00:28:18.140 And so I was a total bookworm when I started 00:28:18.140 --> 00:28:21.380 college. High school, I didn't care about high 00:28:21.380 --> 00:28:23.579 school because I just didn't feel it was for 00:28:23.579 --> 00:28:25.839 me. But the second I stepped foot in college, 00:28:26.099 --> 00:28:30.220 straight A's. Turned it on. Scholarship to University 00:28:30.220 --> 00:28:33.720 of Southern California. Graduated magna cum laude. 00:28:34.440 --> 00:28:37.599 I worked for Arthur Anderson and the Deloitte 00:28:37.599 --> 00:28:39.839 & Touche, the top accounting firms, and I was 00:28:39.839 --> 00:28:44.619 like, I am determined to succeed at all costs. 00:28:46.140 --> 00:28:49.579 29, the youngest CFO in California for a billion 00:28:49.579 --> 00:28:52.619 -dollar real estate firm, and I'm like, this 00:28:52.619 --> 00:28:55.279 is the key to success. Work hard and make money. 00:28:55.839 --> 00:28:59.480 Yet, now that we know what we know, that doesn't 00:28:59.480 --> 00:29:02.920 define success. Money will never make you happy. 00:29:03.259 --> 00:29:07.920 Money will never heal your soul. You can buy 00:29:07.920 --> 00:29:10.940 a Lamborghini, a Ferrari. It's fun for a minute. 00:29:11.140 --> 00:29:14.859 And then after that, it's like, huh. But when 00:29:14.859 --> 00:29:19.019 you work on your soul and you level up your soul, 00:29:19.279 --> 00:29:24.880 that's bliss. That's real happiness. And that's 00:29:24.880 --> 00:29:27.940 something money can't buy. But most importantly, 00:29:28.200 --> 00:29:33.089 it's attainable for everyone. Amen. Everyone. 00:29:33.509 --> 00:29:36.750 It's free. It's free. Yeah. So much, so many 00:29:36.750 --> 00:29:39.349 resources out there for people to work on themselves. 00:29:39.730 --> 00:29:41.190 So many free resources. And that's our passion. 00:29:41.490 --> 00:29:43.930 Free resources. They don't need to go and join 00:29:43.930 --> 00:29:46.910 the program. Yeah, there's online courses. Right. 00:29:47.089 --> 00:29:49.849 You know, there are so many things that people 00:29:49.849 --> 00:29:52.269 can do to level up their soul, to go within, 00:29:52.509 --> 00:29:55.569 and to really work on themselves. Right? We see 00:29:55.569 --> 00:29:59.460 it all the time. We see people in relationships 00:29:59.460 --> 00:30:02.319 and they come to us for advice and they're like, 00:30:02.420 --> 00:30:06.200 my husband is this, my husband is that, he does 00:30:06.200 --> 00:30:08.680 this, he does that, and he makes me so angry 00:30:08.680 --> 00:30:11.460 all the time. And I'm just sitting there like, 00:30:11.740 --> 00:30:15.640 you know, why don't you stop focusing on your 00:30:15.640 --> 00:30:20.380 husband and focus on yourself? Remember that 00:30:20.380 --> 00:30:24.420 time where I was really upset? You probably even 00:30:24.420 --> 00:30:25.539 know what I'm going to tell you. Oh, which time? 00:30:25.640 --> 00:30:30.599 Tell me. Which time? I was really mad at you 00:30:30.599 --> 00:30:34.079 about something. And then you just stopped and 00:30:34.079 --> 00:30:37.940 you said, what's really going on? Remember that 00:30:37.940 --> 00:30:41.619 one? Oh, yeah. We've had a few of those. But 00:30:41.619 --> 00:30:43.680 you've also done it to me. You've done it to 00:30:43.680 --> 00:30:47.339 me. You know, you've had times where I'm angry. 00:30:47.779 --> 00:30:51.460 Because this doesn't mean it rids your anger. 00:30:51.599 --> 00:30:56.059 What it means is you become more aware. So I've 00:30:56.059 --> 00:30:59.559 had moments where I'm like losing my shit, and 00:30:59.559 --> 00:31:02.099 then you just hug me, squeeze me tight, and go, 00:31:02.259 --> 00:31:06.420 same thing. That's really going on. Because it's 00:31:06.420 --> 00:31:09.299 never about the other person. It's not. And we 00:31:09.299 --> 00:31:11.859 leak our energy. Something over here could be 00:31:11.859 --> 00:31:13.559 really bothering me, and I'm going to take it 00:31:13.559 --> 00:31:17.000 out on you. Everybody does that. And you do it 00:31:17.000 --> 00:31:20.200 to the person you love the most. You feel the 00:31:20.200 --> 00:31:24.500 safest to be able to let that. shit out. Yeah. 00:31:24.579 --> 00:31:26.519 But you shouldn't really dump on your spouse. 00:31:26.839 --> 00:31:29.500 And then your spouse comes right back at you. 00:31:29.839 --> 00:31:30.980 And he just dumps right back at you. And ratchets 00:31:30.980 --> 00:31:32.980 it up and makes you know after the race. Some 00:31:32.980 --> 00:31:35.759 relationships, they get super nasty with each 00:31:35.759 --> 00:31:39.359 other and they say really, really hurtful things 00:31:39.359 --> 00:31:41.400 that it's hard to recover from. You made that 00:31:41.400 --> 00:31:43.940 rule very early on in our relationship to never, 00:31:44.019 --> 00:31:50.019 ever call each other names. Yeah, so what I said 00:31:50.019 --> 00:31:52.690 is, listen. We're going to be in heated moments, 00:31:52.930 --> 00:31:58.170 and we never want to jeopardize the integrity 00:31:58.170 --> 00:32:02.470 of our relationship. And when you fire off mean 00:32:02.470 --> 00:32:05.250 and nasty words, you can never take it back. 00:32:05.809 --> 00:32:08.769 You can say, I'm sorry, but that person will 00:32:08.769 --> 00:32:10.750 feel it in their soul, and they will remember 00:32:10.750 --> 00:32:13.450 it to the day they die. We've never done that. 00:32:13.450 --> 00:32:16.329 We've never done that. You and I basically... 00:32:16.599 --> 00:32:19.319 Shook and hug on it that we would never do that 00:32:19.319 --> 00:32:21.079 to each other. Yeah. And the other thing that 00:32:21.079 --> 00:32:26.279 we refined is never leave the room. Yeah. You 00:32:26.279 --> 00:32:30.000 know, because I was a door slammer. I'm out of 00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:32.599 here. You were a runner. I am a runner. You were 00:32:32.599 --> 00:32:34.319 a runner. And you were under the covers, you 00:32:34.319 --> 00:32:37.279 know. Yeah. I was in the corner, girl. Go in 00:32:37.279 --> 00:32:40.960 the corner and pout. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm out. 00:32:41.099 --> 00:32:42.779 You're out. And that's not constructive. You're 00:32:42.779 --> 00:32:45.200 the getaway car. I would rather stay in a room. 00:32:45.860 --> 00:32:49.119 Mad as could be, you know, but we're together. 00:32:49.319 --> 00:32:50.980 I think that was your rule. That was my rule. 00:32:51.099 --> 00:32:52.720 That was your rule. I had a rule, you had a rule. 00:32:52.880 --> 00:32:57.140 Yeah. And yours was... Do not leave. Don't leave 00:32:57.140 --> 00:32:58.880 the room. We must keep the connection. And we 00:32:58.880 --> 00:33:02.980 learned that from India. You can be angry, but 00:33:02.980 --> 00:33:07.019 that connection still has to stay there. Yeah, 00:33:07.039 --> 00:33:09.339 because every time you sever that connection, 00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:13.750 you create distance. And then you create further 00:33:13.750 --> 00:33:15.930 distance and further distance, further distance. 00:33:16.029 --> 00:33:19.430 And next thing you know, like you're miles away 00:33:19.430 --> 00:33:21.369 and I'm miles away. And how do you get that back? 00:33:21.849 --> 00:33:24.250 Yeah. But if you never create that distance, 00:33:24.549 --> 00:33:27.410 yes, sometimes we need space. Like we've had 00:33:27.410 --> 00:33:29.910 situations where like, you know, we hug, we kiss. 00:33:30.029 --> 00:33:32.769 I love you. OK, but, you know, I need a few minutes 00:33:32.769 --> 00:33:35.190 to go and meditate and breathe. And one of us 00:33:35.190 --> 00:33:37.289 might go sit outside and do a 15 minute meditation. 00:33:38.529 --> 00:33:41.799 But like. We've already hugged before we left 00:33:41.799 --> 00:33:44.279 the room. Yeah, yeah, because we deeply love 00:33:44.279 --> 00:33:47.599 each other and don't want to ever jeopardize 00:33:47.599 --> 00:33:51.339 that for sure. Yeah, and it's like, you know, 00:33:51.380 --> 00:33:55.160 the fact that you and I are able to do this and 00:33:55.160 --> 00:33:58.000 never had it role modeled I think is a real blessing 00:33:58.000 --> 00:34:07.299 because this stuff isn't, it's not intuitive. 00:34:08.329 --> 00:34:11.989 Yet somehow you and I figured it out. And I feel 00:34:11.989 --> 00:34:14.809 like, you know, one of the things that could 00:34:14.809 --> 00:34:17.170 be a real benefit to anybody watching this show 00:34:17.170 --> 00:34:22.630 is like, if somebody watching this show can listen 00:34:22.630 --> 00:34:25.989 and go, wait a minute, every single time I argue, 00:34:26.070 --> 00:34:30.250 I'm blaming my spouse. And just become aware 00:34:30.250 --> 00:34:34.110 of that. You are literally retraining your brain 00:34:34.110 --> 00:34:40.309 to stop being a victim. And take ownership. And 00:34:40.309 --> 00:34:43.989 the more you do it, the arguments get less and 00:34:43.989 --> 00:34:47.050 less and less. You know, it's like in the beginning 00:34:47.050 --> 00:34:48.929 of our relationship, we argued all the time. 00:34:49.949 --> 00:34:55.050 Now, we hardly ever argue. And if we do argue, 00:34:55.309 --> 00:34:59.289 what, it's over in an hour? It's not stretched 00:34:59.289 --> 00:35:03.349 out for a couple days? No, right. And I think 00:35:03.349 --> 00:35:06.300 that's key. Yeah. It's key because you and I 00:35:06.300 --> 00:35:09.719 want to grow super old together. You and I, you 00:35:09.719 --> 00:35:13.940 know, want to, you know, be grandma, grandpa 00:35:13.940 --> 00:35:16.800 one day. You know, we want to have a lot of grandkids, 00:35:16.900 --> 00:35:18.980 maybe great grandkids. We just want to, like, 00:35:19.760 --> 00:35:23.400 we want to go the rest of our life with just 00:35:23.400 --> 00:35:26.980 love and peace. Yeah. You know? Yeah, exactly. 00:35:27.420 --> 00:35:32.920 And the only way to create that because it wasn't 00:35:32.920 --> 00:35:37.900 natural for us. is to be very intentional with 00:35:37.900 --> 00:35:43.000 it very intentional and you and i visualize a 00:35:43.000 --> 00:35:44.699 lot like what do we want what do we want our 00:35:44.699 --> 00:35:46.920 family to look like what do we want you know 00:35:46.920 --> 00:35:48.619 how do we want this relationship with our kids 00:35:48.619 --> 00:35:53.159 to look like and we we do a lot of things very 00:35:53.159 --> 00:35:56.579 intentional because we want to create that beautiful 00:35:56.579 --> 00:35:59.679 peaceful happy family well everything you do 00:35:59.679 --> 00:36:03.440 is intentional yeah it's true But it's fun. It 00:36:03.440 --> 00:36:05.960 works, right? It works. It does work. It works. 00:36:06.019 --> 00:36:07.880 I used to be annoyed by it back in the days, 00:36:07.940 --> 00:36:09.840 but now you see there's a method to my madness. 00:36:10.239 --> 00:36:15.659 Yeah. Yeah, sure. Definitely. Yeah. What do you 00:36:15.659 --> 00:36:18.599 think? Think about it. I don't know what to say. 00:36:21.179 --> 00:36:23.280 Shall I continue then? Because, you know, I always 00:36:23.280 --> 00:36:26.159 have a lot to say. And, of course, this is my 00:36:26.159 --> 00:36:29.360 beautiful Monica here. Monica, you're so tall 00:36:29.360 --> 00:36:31.039 you might want to scoot down and say hi to everybody. 00:36:31.260 --> 00:36:34.179 Oh, hello. This is what we do. This is my beautiful 00:36:34.179 --> 00:36:36.760 boss right here. Thank you. And this is my beautiful 00:36:36.760 --> 00:36:39.619 boss's husband over here. That's right. She's 00:36:39.619 --> 00:36:42.219 my Monica. I have to share her sometimes. I get 00:36:42.219 --> 00:36:44.760 5 % of you. She does. You know, I don't mind 00:36:44.760 --> 00:36:46.300 sharing. You can do what you want. I know, but 00:36:46.300 --> 00:36:48.260 sometimes I'm like, that's my Monica. I'm on 00:36:48.260 --> 00:36:50.800 your time, but I'm definitely labeled as Layla's 00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:53.260 Monica for sure with the community. Yeah, she 00:36:53.260 --> 00:36:56.519 makes sure magic happens. I don't know if you 00:36:56.519 --> 00:36:58.760 noticed this, but I am not late to meetings anymore 00:36:58.760 --> 00:37:00.840 because of her. Did you notice? Like before, 00:37:01.000 --> 00:37:02.780 you used to always be like, where's Layla? I 00:37:02.780 --> 00:37:05.420 see. I'm not late to meetings because of her. 00:37:05.780 --> 00:37:08.039 No, you have all the credit. Are you kidding 00:37:08.039 --> 00:37:10.639 me? Sweet. Before I hired her, I was losing my 00:37:10.639 --> 00:37:13.579 mind. I'm like, I cannot keep track of all these 00:37:13.579 --> 00:37:16.780 meetings. Like yesterday, boom, boom, boom. I 00:37:16.780 --> 00:37:19.159 had meetings all day long. I didn't miss one. 00:37:19.300 --> 00:37:21.900 I wasn't late to one because of her. Let's talk 00:37:21.900 --> 00:37:24.579 about how self -sufficient I am. Oh, my God. 00:37:24.639 --> 00:37:27.480 You are very self -sufficient. I don't know how 00:37:27.480 --> 00:37:29.199 you do it. I barely need anybody. No offense 00:37:29.199 --> 00:37:32.420 to how handsome and smart you are. Go on. But 00:37:32.420 --> 00:37:34.780 let's talk about why you are so self -sufficient. 00:37:35.760 --> 00:37:41.039 Why? I have way more jobs than you. Oh, I have 00:37:41.039 --> 00:37:43.579 a lot. Way more. I have a lot going on. Oh, okay. 00:37:43.639 --> 00:37:46.559 You have a lot going on, but I have like a super 00:37:46.559 --> 00:37:48.739 duper lot going on. You do. It's true. You have 00:37:48.739 --> 00:37:52.400 a lot. So it's easier for you to manage a meeting 00:37:52.400 --> 00:37:57.250 here and there. I'm meeting here and there. Oh, 00:37:57.289 --> 00:38:00.570 really? Is that what my life looks like to you? 00:38:01.309 --> 00:38:05.730 Hanging out? Yes. Working out. I see your Instagram 00:38:05.730 --> 00:38:09.030 posts. I see your Instagram posts. Well, you 00:38:09.030 --> 00:38:10.710 know, it makes sense. You know, because for somebody 00:38:10.710 --> 00:38:13.349 who's moving at light speed, everything else 00:38:13.349 --> 00:38:15.710 around them looks like it's crawling like a snail. 00:38:15.869 --> 00:38:18.969 So I'm your snail to your light speed, probably. 00:38:20.139 --> 00:38:22.920 I wouldn't call you a snail. I would just say 00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:26.260 you have a lot more control over the amount of 00:38:26.260 --> 00:38:30.039 projects you take on. And I want to take on everything 00:38:30.039 --> 00:38:33.519 because I love it and I enjoy it. Maybe because 00:38:33.519 --> 00:38:35.699 I'm also 11 years younger. I mean, I'm not sure 00:38:35.699 --> 00:38:39.300 to brag that I'm 11. I'm just saying. You've 00:38:39.300 --> 00:38:41.480 been in the work life for 11 years longer than 00:38:41.480 --> 00:38:43.920 I have. So you're kind of like, you know, hey, 00:38:44.059 --> 00:38:47.019 I don't want as much on my plate as yours. That's 00:38:47.019 --> 00:38:49.119 true. Which is fine. That's how I feel. I love 00:38:49.119 --> 00:38:50.940 it and enjoy it. And I know the things you're 00:38:50.940 --> 00:38:53.119 working on, you love and enjoy. I do. I know 00:38:53.119 --> 00:38:56.280 you love working on the farm so much and your 00:38:56.280 --> 00:38:59.219 cafes. We are working on the farm and the cafes 00:38:59.219 --> 00:39:02.460 together. We are. But, you know, and I love, 00:39:02.500 --> 00:39:05.039 you know, you love working on Erased and you're 00:39:05.039 --> 00:39:08.190 having a lot of fun with it. And, you know, I 00:39:08.190 --> 00:39:10.650 really love the Wellness Center. I love my schools. 00:39:11.010 --> 00:39:14.309 I just, I enjoy the farm and the ranch. And, 00:39:14.329 --> 00:39:20.010 you know, I think that because you and I have 00:39:20.010 --> 00:39:24.170 gone through this healing journey, at least for 00:39:24.170 --> 00:39:27.510 me, I want to share it with the world. You know? 00:39:28.070 --> 00:39:33.219 And, of course, in 2020, you know, I... I got 00:39:33.219 --> 00:39:36.219 the Lyme disease diagnosis. Do you remember? 00:39:36.420 --> 00:39:38.960 I do. We were walking in the woods. We both got 00:39:38.960 --> 00:39:42.500 bit by ticks. Ticks in 2013. Exactly the same 00:39:42.500 --> 00:39:45.840 place. 2013. Except your tick was a nasty, filthy 00:39:45.840 --> 00:39:48.099 tick. My tick was nasty. Yeah, mine was clean. 00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:52.000 Or my immune system was better and stronger to 00:39:52.000 --> 00:39:55.119 not allow it to take root. It's possible. It's 00:39:55.119 --> 00:40:01.480 possible. But 2020 was just that moment where... 00:40:01.949 --> 00:40:05.869 I felt like all the cards came crashing down 00:40:05.869 --> 00:40:10.449 because, as you can remember, I couldn't keep 00:40:10.449 --> 00:40:13.710 my eyes open past 7. Yeah, I know. You would 00:40:13.710 --> 00:40:17.489 go to sleep early every single night. And it 00:40:17.489 --> 00:40:20.809 was really weird because I'd be up for hours 00:40:20.809 --> 00:40:24.449 and hours every single night alone. Yeah, and 00:40:24.449 --> 00:40:27.489 I had massive brain fog. Yeah. I had memory loss. 00:40:28.590 --> 00:40:31.389 And I'm just like, oh, my God. It's during COVID, 00:40:31.489 --> 00:40:34.710 too, no less. Yeah. So we were isolated a lot 00:40:34.710 --> 00:40:37.530 in the first place. Yeah, and it was like we 00:40:37.530 --> 00:40:39.829 had all this financial success, but without your 00:40:39.829 --> 00:40:43.929 health, what is money? Health is everything. 00:40:44.710 --> 00:40:48.289 And I was now losing my health. And we had a 00:40:48.289 --> 00:40:51.469 little baby at home at the time that needed me 00:40:51.469 --> 00:40:55.809 specifically, you know, needed me to put her 00:40:55.809 --> 00:40:58.610 to sleep, but I couldn't even. keep my eyes open 00:40:58.610 --> 00:41:02.469 enough to put her asleep, you know? And so I 00:41:02.469 --> 00:41:07.110 feel like that was another opportunity for us 00:41:07.110 --> 00:41:10.889 to level up our relationship because when one 00:41:10.889 --> 00:41:14.869 person's sick, you know, and the other person 00:41:14.869 --> 00:41:18.030 is now having to, you know, almost be like a 00:41:18.030 --> 00:41:20.739 caregiver. At the same time, you know, you traveled 00:41:20.739 --> 00:41:23.320 the world with me. You went to Spain. You went 00:41:23.320 --> 00:41:26.239 to Lyme, Mexico. You were there by my side while 00:41:26.239 --> 00:41:27.860 I was going through all these treatments, being 00:41:27.860 --> 00:41:30.800 super supportive, having to step into being, 00:41:30.860 --> 00:41:34.179 you know, like mom and dad while I'm getting 00:41:34.179 --> 00:41:36.019 these treatments because the kids really needed 00:41:36.019 --> 00:41:40.280 you. You know, I might be in these treatments 00:41:40.280 --> 00:41:43.699 for six to eight hours a day, right? And so, 00:41:43.719 --> 00:41:45.760 one, I want to thank you for that, for being 00:41:45.760 --> 00:41:48.849 a super awesome husband. And being very patient 00:41:48.849 --> 00:41:51.829 and caring through that process. But I really 00:41:51.829 --> 00:41:55.050 feel like India helped us. It wasn't hard. It 00:41:55.050 --> 00:41:56.429 wasn't hard for you because you're just full 00:41:56.429 --> 00:42:00.190 of love. And you had gone through this journey 00:42:00.190 --> 00:42:03.750 in India where you just were, your soul was complete. 00:42:04.789 --> 00:42:07.690 And you were not feeling a deficiency because 00:42:07.690 --> 00:42:11.130 you were just full of love. So you were able 00:42:11.130 --> 00:42:14.789 to just jump in and go, okay, my wife needs us. 00:42:15.309 --> 00:42:19.369 And I'm going to do whatever it takes. You know, 00:42:19.369 --> 00:42:23.429 and that was a tough time. It was a bunch of 00:42:23.429 --> 00:42:25.750 years. That was a tough time because, you know, 00:42:25.769 --> 00:42:30.090 it was 2020, 2021, traveling around the world 00:42:30.090 --> 00:42:34.150 trying to figure this out. 2022, still trying 00:42:34.150 --> 00:42:36.650 to figure it all out, traveling within the U 00:42:36.650 --> 00:42:38.789 .S. I mean, it's just a lot of time. And then 00:42:38.789 --> 00:42:42.329 building a school at the same time, which required 00:42:42.329 --> 00:42:45.719 a lot of work. Especially on my shoulders. It 00:42:45.719 --> 00:42:48.260 required a lot of effort. Because it was in a 00:42:48.260 --> 00:42:51.500 state of chaos as well. Because of COVID and 00:42:51.500 --> 00:42:53.900 all the, you know, you could watch the erased 00:42:53.900 --> 00:42:57.280 episode about Layla's experience being canceled 00:42:57.280 --> 00:43:00.159 and how we lost all our teachers and most of 00:43:00.159 --> 00:43:04.619 the families. And you had to go on a tour just 00:43:04.619 --> 00:43:07.219 to recruit teachers and families while you're 00:43:07.219 --> 00:43:10.030 not feeling well. Nonstop. podcasts like i had 00:43:10.030 --> 00:43:12.789 to like nobody really knew what i was going through 00:43:12.789 --> 00:43:15.190 except you and my family and a few of the leaders 00:43:15.190 --> 00:43:18.210 at school because i would literally be in school 00:43:18.210 --> 00:43:22.110 with ivs connected to my arms i was doing all 00:43:22.110 --> 00:43:25.829 these iv treatments like at school during meetings 00:43:25.829 --> 00:43:29.650 and um you know if everybody anybody's ever opened 00:43:29.650 --> 00:43:33.190 the school it's it's harder than a regular startup 00:43:33.190 --> 00:43:36.530 the requirements on you it's just extremely taxing 00:43:36.530 --> 00:43:39.500 and and then of course going through the big 00:43:39.500 --> 00:43:45.760 scandal of not wanting teachers to get the COVID 00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:48.679 shot, it added a lot of stress. And when you're 00:43:48.679 --> 00:43:51.599 trying to heal, that's the last thing you need 00:43:51.599 --> 00:43:54.179 is stress on your body. We've been through a 00:43:54.179 --> 00:43:57.340 lot. We've been through a lot. I mean, a lot 00:43:57.340 --> 00:44:02.119 of people look at us and are impressed by where 00:44:02.119 --> 00:44:06.849 we are at this moment, but it took a lot. along 00:44:06.849 --> 00:44:10.130 the way these past 14 years of highs and lows 00:44:10.130 --> 00:44:12.690 and hard work and keeping us tight and together 00:44:12.690 --> 00:44:17.550 and aligned and you helping me and me helping 00:44:17.550 --> 00:44:23.329 you. Oh, yeah. It's been a pretty crazy journey. 00:44:23.469 --> 00:44:27.329 But I also feel, by the same token, we're only 00:44:27.329 --> 00:44:30.880 just beginning. Yeah. Right? I agree. Freaking 00:44:30.880 --> 00:44:32.820 energized. Well, you're the best you've ever 00:44:32.820 --> 00:44:34.860 looked. Thank you. I mean, physically, but in 00:44:34.860 --> 00:44:39.139 every way. Outside and inside, right? Like your 00:44:39.139 --> 00:44:41.900 mind is stronger than ever. Yeah. You could handle 00:44:41.900 --> 00:44:45.079 so much more. I feel, and I use this metaphor, 00:44:45.119 --> 00:44:46.960 that all the work that we did was sort of like. 00:44:47.739 --> 00:44:49.539 Like we're ships going through the ocean with 00:44:49.539 --> 00:44:52.139 a bunch of barnacles on the bottom, and all this 00:44:52.139 --> 00:44:55.219 healing that we've done and liberation, spiritual 00:44:55.219 --> 00:44:57.559 liberation, just releases those barnacles, and 00:44:57.559 --> 00:44:59.920 now the ship can go easier, faster. I literally 00:44:59.920 --> 00:45:02.980 feel like a smarter human being. That's right. 00:45:03.059 --> 00:45:05.119 And you know what? Krishnaji used to say that 00:45:05.119 --> 00:45:10.900 to us in 2018, seven years ago, that when your 00:45:10.900 --> 00:45:15.530 mind is calmer, when you are at peace, you can 00:45:15.530 --> 00:45:19.269 go faster and smoother. And in the beginning, 00:45:19.449 --> 00:45:21.489 you and I did not understand that. We're like, 00:45:21.590 --> 00:45:24.530 what is this guy talking about? Right? Yeah. 00:45:24.690 --> 00:45:27.510 Until we started having moments of feeling, oh 00:45:27.510 --> 00:45:30.409 my God, like I just got so much done today and 00:45:30.409 --> 00:45:33.250 it felt like nothing. Yeah. I feel now, like 00:45:33.250 --> 00:45:37.329 most of the time, my brain is in a peaceful state, 00:45:37.530 --> 00:45:41.030 whereas before my brain was like way more chaotic 00:45:41.030 --> 00:45:44.010 most of the time. Well, shameless plug. What? 00:45:44.510 --> 00:45:47.269 To Centner Wellness. Tell me all about it. You 00:45:47.269 --> 00:45:49.610 do enjoy our Theta machine at Centner Wellness. 00:45:49.610 --> 00:45:51.030 The Theta Chamber, one of my favorites. Which 00:45:51.030 --> 00:45:53.409 drops you into Theta. Yeah, it's this coffin 00:45:53.409 --> 00:45:56.230 -like contraption that you get in. Yes. Connect 00:45:56.230 --> 00:46:00.150 music to your... Yeah, to sounds, to your ears, 00:46:00.369 --> 00:46:02.110 to your eyes. And electrodes and stuff. Darkness, 00:46:02.449 --> 00:46:05.820 light show. close the lid, and it starts spinning 00:46:05.820 --> 00:46:07.699 around. Slowly, and you don't feel it. You don't 00:46:07.699 --> 00:46:10.099 even know you're spinning. Yes. You cannot help 00:46:10.099 --> 00:46:13.139 but drop in. So you are an amazing client of 00:46:13.139 --> 00:46:14.860 Sentinel Wellness, and that does help drop you 00:46:14.860 --> 00:46:17.460 in more. Absolutely. Love that place. Of course, 00:46:17.460 --> 00:46:19.619 the immortal chamber. Love that. I love all the 00:46:19.619 --> 00:46:21.559 toys. The fancy -looking spaceship that's like 00:46:21.559 --> 00:46:23.699 a red light bed with a beautiful meditation. 00:46:24.820 --> 00:46:28.239 And also, one little funny thing, another shameless 00:46:28.239 --> 00:46:30.980 plug for Sentinel Wellness, but it was funny. 00:46:31.059 --> 00:46:33.800 I was on a call with our marketing team. And 00:46:33.800 --> 00:46:36.400 we're going through ads of like, you know, level 00:46:36.400 --> 00:46:39.460 up your body. And it was a picture of a 60 -year 00:46:39.460 --> 00:46:42.880 -old. And it was like, biohack yourself to look 00:46:42.880 --> 00:46:46.900 like this. And I'm like, I'm looking at the team 00:46:46.900 --> 00:46:49.920 on Zoom and I'm like, have you guys seen my husband? 00:46:50.800 --> 00:46:53.380 Like, really? Are you going to put the stock 00:46:53.380 --> 00:46:57.739 photo of this random guy who looks 70? Like, 00:46:57.840 --> 00:47:00.809 no. Like, let's put my husband. So we did that 00:47:00.809 --> 00:47:03.489 awesome photo shoot of you, which I think Alex. 00:47:03.590 --> 00:47:07.869 And my age. Yes, you're turning 60. Next February. 00:47:08.449 --> 00:47:11.309 That's a real biohacker. And I'm like, so marketing 00:47:11.309 --> 00:47:14.570 team, get rid of those stock photos. My husband 00:47:14.570 --> 00:47:19.849 is the new male face of a true biohacker. Longevity. 00:47:20.010 --> 00:47:23.889 Well, but longevity, same thing, right? And then 00:47:23.889 --> 00:47:25.909 what did we do last week, which we're super excited 00:47:25.909 --> 00:47:29.440 about? harvested your stem cells from your own 00:47:29.440 --> 00:47:32.679 body. Fat cells out of our butts, right? You 00:47:32.679 --> 00:47:34.820 can spin it down into stem cells. That's right. 00:47:34.900 --> 00:47:36.199 That's right. They're going to harvest them, 00:47:36.340 --> 00:47:38.219 cultivate them, and then we're going to have 00:47:38.219 --> 00:47:41.179 a lifetime supply of stem cells that we're going 00:47:41.179 --> 00:47:43.420 to do how often? Your own stem cells. Every month. 00:47:43.420 --> 00:47:45.480 Once a month. The rest of our lives. IVs of our 00:47:45.480 --> 00:47:48.679 stem cells. So excited. So in like a year from 00:47:48.679 --> 00:47:50.400 now, I want you to look at us and tell us if 00:47:50.400 --> 00:47:52.800 you think we look younger. You can put it in 00:47:52.800 --> 00:47:54.739 your head. You can put it in your face. You can 00:47:54.739 --> 00:47:57.329 put it in an IV bag. Our own stem cells. Nasal 00:47:57.329 --> 00:47:59.750 spray. Not someone else's. That's right. And 00:47:59.750 --> 00:48:02.030 then I got a new machine. What? Again, another 00:48:02.030 --> 00:48:05.050 shameless plug. The ExoMind, which I cannot wait. 00:48:05.130 --> 00:48:07.829 ExoMind? Yes. What is it? It's all about the 00:48:07.829 --> 00:48:11.389 brain. It's like TMS on steroids. So TMS, you 00:48:11.389 --> 00:48:13.809 have to do it for like 30 days straight. ExoMind, 00:48:13.889 --> 00:48:16.769 which helps reverse addictions. It helps just 00:48:16.769 --> 00:48:18.769 make you smarter. It helps with all of these 00:48:18.769 --> 00:48:21.269 things. All you need is six treatments. So as 00:48:21.269 --> 00:48:23.550 soon as we're trained on it next week, I cannot 00:48:23.550 --> 00:48:26.619 wait to get you in it. Even though you're super 00:48:26.619 --> 00:48:28.559 smart now, your brain's going to be even smarter. 00:48:28.619 --> 00:48:31.239 I can't even imagine. Me either. Just don't outsmart 00:48:31.239 --> 00:48:32.960 me. So if you do six, I'll do eight. I don't 00:48:32.960 --> 00:48:34.900 think that's possible. Well, you are pretty smart. 00:48:35.039 --> 00:48:38.500 I am pretty smart. And handsome. I'll give you 00:48:38.500 --> 00:48:43.860 a little kiss. Okay. So anyways, back to the 00:48:43.860 --> 00:48:48.199 journey. I feel like all of these things that 00:48:48.199 --> 00:48:49.880 have been thrown at us in life, you know, you 00:48:49.880 --> 00:48:51.900 mentioned like at that time you were... It was 00:48:51.900 --> 00:48:54.179 your turn to help me because the first four years, 00:48:54.199 --> 00:48:57.500 five years, I was the one to jump in to help 00:48:57.500 --> 00:48:59.679 you. I helped you clean up the company we sold 00:48:59.679 --> 00:49:03.079 seven days a week. I was in that. You had some 00:49:03.079 --> 00:49:05.280 other personal things going on. I helped jump 00:49:05.280 --> 00:49:08.619 in. So that's part of life, you know? When one 00:49:08.619 --> 00:49:11.480 person's down, the other person is up to help 00:49:11.480 --> 00:49:14.800 pull the other person up. And that's, you know, 00:49:14.800 --> 00:49:16.340 that's just the way life is. That's how it's 00:49:16.340 --> 00:49:18.179 going to be. That's how it's going to be. You 00:49:18.179 --> 00:49:20.280 know, when my brother passed away, it was a super 00:49:20.280 --> 00:49:22.539 traumatic time for me. And you were there for 00:49:22.539 --> 00:49:24.460 me. You were helping me, consoling me. I think 00:49:24.460 --> 00:49:27.699 the best thing, you know, I plan on living a 00:49:27.699 --> 00:49:31.000 super long time, as you know. Yes. Like, half 00:49:31.000 --> 00:49:33.579 -jokingly, 450. Yeah, but that's not going to 00:49:33.579 --> 00:49:36.099 happen. That's not going to happen for me. It 00:49:36.099 --> 00:49:38.300 will. I don't want to live that long. I want 00:49:38.300 --> 00:49:41.579 you to. Please, try. I don't want to look like 00:49:41.579 --> 00:49:43.239 Christy Prune. You have to have stretch goals. 00:49:44.760 --> 00:49:49.400 Listen, listen. Okay, so. I'm anti -botox and 00:49:49.400 --> 00:49:52.480 fillers. I use the plasma from my body to inject 00:49:52.480 --> 00:49:54.920 in my face. And now stem cells are coming. I 00:49:54.920 --> 00:49:57.360 will be injecting that into my face. I don't 00:49:57.360 --> 00:49:59.760 know if that's going to last me until 450. Because 00:49:59.760 --> 00:50:05.599 I don't want to be like, you know, I don't want 00:50:05.599 --> 00:50:07.300 to do that. No, we're going to look the same. 00:50:07.519 --> 00:50:09.539 How? We will. We'll figure it out? Yeah, we'll 00:50:09.539 --> 00:50:11.400 figure it out. If you can figure it out, then 00:50:11.400 --> 00:50:15.039 maybe. Right now, I'm thinking 125. That's like 00:50:15.039 --> 00:50:16.800 where I'm at right now. Start with that. Fine. 00:50:16.880 --> 00:50:20.079 So anyway, if we're going to live a super long 00:50:20.079 --> 00:50:22.139 time, what is our role in life for each other? 00:50:22.219 --> 00:50:25.639 And I think that for me, my role in life is to 00:50:25.639 --> 00:50:28.539 just hold space for others, just to be fully 00:50:28.539 --> 00:50:31.079 present with them as they go through whatever 00:50:31.079 --> 00:50:33.300 it is in their journey in life. That's what my 00:50:33.300 --> 00:50:39.059 mission in life is for other people. Well, first 00:50:39.059 --> 00:50:41.480 of all, you're amazing at it. I mean, everybody 00:50:41.480 --> 00:50:43.880 can be. And our 10 -year -old acknowledges that 00:50:43.880 --> 00:50:47.219 all the time. Oliver, your son, acknowledges 00:50:47.219 --> 00:50:51.119 that all the time. We'll be joking in the family 00:50:51.119 --> 00:50:54.159 setting, and that's the one thing that their 00:50:54.159 --> 00:50:57.840 eyes light up when they say, like, you listen. 00:50:57.960 --> 00:51:00.300 You listen to everything, and you stop, and you're 00:51:00.300 --> 00:51:02.900 present. And it's something that, like, I need 00:51:02.900 --> 00:51:04.420 to work a little bit harder on because I get 00:51:04.420 --> 00:51:06.019 so distracted with all the things that I have 00:51:06.019 --> 00:51:07.840 going on. I'm 11 years ahead of you also. Yeah, 00:51:07.840 --> 00:51:10.920 it's true. It's true. I'm 11 years younger. Yeah. 00:51:11.420 --> 00:51:20.130 But the point is. The point is that you hold 00:51:20.130 --> 00:51:22.869 space very well for people. I see you do it with 00:51:22.869 --> 00:51:24.849 your friends. I think it's just a beautiful thing. 00:51:24.989 --> 00:51:27.010 I love that about you. You hold space for me. 00:51:27.670 --> 00:51:30.690 And I love that our kids, they recognize that. 00:51:30.909 --> 00:51:32.829 That's more important than money. It's more important 00:51:32.829 --> 00:51:36.170 than things. It's to be present to another human 00:51:36.170 --> 00:51:42.550 being. biggest gift that you can give somebody 00:51:42.550 --> 00:51:45.289 you know you know yesterday there was a lot going 00:51:45.289 --> 00:51:48.730 on a lot and i was like running around and somebody 00:51:48.730 --> 00:51:50.969 was talking to me and i was like and then all 00:51:50.969 --> 00:51:52.949 of a sudden i went wait a minute i am not being 00:51:52.949 --> 00:51:56.809 present to this person so i like stopped i put 00:51:56.809 --> 00:51:59.130 down my phone i could i said i'm sorry can you 00:51:59.130 --> 00:52:02.349 repeat what you were just saying i was not present 00:52:02.349 --> 00:52:05.730 i was not even here in the room my mind was completely 00:52:05.730 --> 00:52:09.730 somewhere else but i think about you Like, you 00:52:09.730 --> 00:52:13.329 inspire me to be more of that. It's not as easy 00:52:13.329 --> 00:52:17.849 for me as it is for you. You know? You did really 00:52:17.849 --> 00:52:20.250 well. It wasn't always that way, though, to be 00:52:20.250 --> 00:52:22.610 honest. I know, trust me. Yeah. I know that, 00:52:22.630 --> 00:52:26.050 too. Yeah. You definitely weren't that way when 00:52:26.050 --> 00:52:27.349 we first met. Well, I think the moral of the 00:52:27.349 --> 00:52:29.389 story is we inspire each other and we make each 00:52:29.389 --> 00:52:34.000 other better in every which way. Yeah. And so 00:52:34.000 --> 00:52:37.340 that's why I love our journey together. And even 00:52:37.340 --> 00:52:39.539 if you don't look exactly the way that you look 00:52:39.539 --> 00:52:43.440 today when you're 125 or 450, I know that I'm 00:52:43.440 --> 00:52:46.780 in this for the long haul. I'm in love with your 00:52:46.780 --> 00:52:49.559 soul. If I have to change your diapers, I'll 00:52:49.559 --> 00:52:54.360 do it. I will do it. I will do it. Because I 00:52:54.360 --> 00:52:56.880 love you. You wipe me good. I will wipe you so 00:52:56.880 --> 00:53:01.920 good. Because you're my baby. I know. Thank you, 00:53:01.920 --> 00:53:02.969 honey. I'm your baby.