WEBVTT 00:00:08.819 --> 00:00:12.080 Hey folks, I'm Matt Major. Welcome to Good News 00:00:12.080 --> 00:00:16.280 York. I'm joined as always by my, you're not 00:00:16.280 --> 00:00:19.500 super spiky -haired. No, no. I'm like halfway. 00:00:19.980 --> 00:00:22.539 It is almost like we coordinated shirts and I 00:00:22.539 --> 00:00:24.079 feel weird. I know. It looks like we need to 00:00:24.079 --> 00:00:26.239 start a band called The Plaid Dads. I did not 00:00:26.239 --> 00:00:28.440 coordinate my watch like you, though. All right, 00:00:28.440 --> 00:00:30.839 you're really on this coordinating watch. I thought 00:00:30.839 --> 00:00:32.899 you would appreciate that I coordinate my watches 00:00:32.899 --> 00:00:35.299 to my own. I do appreciate it. It's the funniest 00:00:35.299 --> 00:00:40.179 thing that I've ever seen. Anyway, Plad Dads. 00:00:40.320 --> 00:00:42.359 That's our band. Happy Veterans Day before anything 00:00:42.359 --> 00:00:44.640 else. Yes, absolutely. Happy Veterans Day to 00:00:44.640 --> 00:00:47.140 all the veterans out there, men and women, that 00:00:47.140 --> 00:00:49.479 have served and that do serve and protect our 00:00:49.479 --> 00:00:53.520 stupid asses. They deserve more than a death. 00:00:53.979 --> 00:00:58.159 Yes, more than a death. It's also 1111, which 00:00:58.159 --> 00:00:59.920 is something that we're going to talk about with 00:00:59.920 --> 00:01:03.500 our guest, which is a great way to introduce 00:01:03.500 --> 00:01:06.879 our incredible guest. And when I say introduce... 00:01:07.829 --> 00:01:11.950 Mike has been working on this introduction. There's 00:01:11.950 --> 00:01:14.730 some time now. As a producer, you're supposed 00:01:14.730 --> 00:01:18.689 to edit things. And I went to edit this intro 00:01:18.689 --> 00:01:20.890 and I went, but all of this is relevant. So this 00:01:20.890 --> 00:01:23.790 is officially the longest intro in the history 00:01:23.790 --> 00:01:27.569 of the show. And every word is meant to be there. 00:01:28.109 --> 00:01:31.049 We have the former CEO of Hematology Oncology 00:01:31.049 --> 00:01:34.599 Associates of CNY. and author of many books, 00:01:34.719 --> 00:01:36.980 including Building the Team from the Inside Out. 00:01:37.260 --> 00:01:39.840 She has over 30 years of healthcare experience 00:01:39.840 --> 00:01:42.099 and senior leadership positions. She is a board 00:01:42.099 --> 00:01:44.959 certified fellow in the American College of Medical 00:01:44.959 --> 00:01:47.939 Practice Executives and maintains an active role 00:01:47.939 --> 00:01:50.140 in leadership development through various speaking 00:01:50.140 --> 00:01:53.180 engagements. She has a new podcast with us here 00:01:53.180 --> 00:01:55.739 at Growth Mode Content that will be debuting 00:01:55.739 --> 00:01:59.959 soon called The Transition of Hope. She has earned 00:01:59.959 --> 00:02:01.780 her bachelor's degree from the Albany College 00:02:01.780 --> 00:02:03.879 of Pharmacy and her master's degree from Upstate 00:02:03.879 --> 00:02:06.439 Medical University. She obtained a doctoral degree 00:02:06.439 --> 00:02:08.960 in divinity from the American Institute of Holistic 00:02:08.960 --> 00:02:10.680 Theology and just when you thought it was over, 00:02:11.099 --> 00:02:13.599 she serves as a board member and advisor to several 00:02:13.599 --> 00:02:15.599 community organizations and is the co -founder 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:17.639 and president of the board of directors of Cancer 00:02:17.639 --> 00:02:21.199 Connects Incorporated. She is a Reiki master 00:02:21.199 --> 00:02:24.479 certified heart -centered hypnotherapist and 00:02:24.479 --> 00:02:28.710 a senior Chi running instructor. Maryann Raffaro, 00:02:28.849 --> 00:02:35.449 Raffaro, Raffaro. I mean, wow. I'm tired. I'm 00:02:35.449 --> 00:02:37.969 just gonna call her Maryann. Or you could call 00:02:37.969 --> 00:02:39.870 me Mary like the horse. That's what my friends 00:02:39.870 --> 00:02:42.650 call me. Is it possible I left anything out? 00:02:42.930 --> 00:02:45.310 Did I get everything was in there? Oh, well, 00:02:45.409 --> 00:02:46.930 you know, I've been a busy girl for a lot of 00:02:46.930 --> 00:02:48.990 years, but no, I think that pretty much covered 00:02:48.990 --> 00:02:51.400 it. I didn't wear plaid today, but I do have 00:02:51.400 --> 00:02:54.740 my love t -shirt on because I really like that. 00:02:54.840 --> 00:02:57.199 Well, you know, I had to I had to, you know, 00:02:57.439 --> 00:02:59.099 make it long sleeves. It's a little chilly here, 00:02:59.099 --> 00:03:02.280 but I have to say this is all about L .O .V .E. 00:03:02.280 --> 00:03:04.699 love. It's the only thing that there's too little 00:03:04.699 --> 00:03:08.340 of. Yeah. Well, we need more of that. Yeah. So, 00:03:08.340 --> 00:03:12.159 Marianne, I want to get into the book, obviously, 00:03:12.180 --> 00:03:13.599 that we have here. It's one of the reasons we're 00:03:13.599 --> 00:03:15.919 spoiler alert. She's got a new book that we're 00:03:15.919 --> 00:03:19.039 going to be talking about. But I'd like to give 00:03:19.039 --> 00:03:22.259 people a little background on you first. So aside 00:03:22.259 --> 00:03:24.860 from your resume that our man just read here, 00:03:26.099 --> 00:03:27.620 just tell us a little bit about yourself and 00:03:27.620 --> 00:03:31.199 how your career kind of progressed to where we're 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:35.219 at today. Well, I actually started out as a medical 00:03:35.219 --> 00:03:37.479 technologist in the clinical microbiology lab. 00:03:38.419 --> 00:03:41.340 And I had total plans on getting a PhD in clinical 00:03:41.340 --> 00:03:45.120 micro. But I had a poster one day. I was 29 years 00:03:45.120 --> 00:03:47.969 old. I looked at all the people coming by my 00:03:47.969 --> 00:03:50.030 poster and I thought, I'm really nothing like 00:03:50.030 --> 00:03:52.189 these people. This is not a good move for me. 00:03:52.930 --> 00:03:55.810 So on the way home, I told my mentor, you know 00:03:55.810 --> 00:03:57.830 what? I'm not going to get that PhD. I'm going 00:03:57.830 --> 00:04:02.050 to be an administrator. And then he said, well, 00:04:02.150 --> 00:04:03.409 this is your whole life. And what do you know 00:04:03.409 --> 00:04:05.050 about administration? And I said, well, honestly, 00:04:05.189 --> 00:04:08.460 how hard could it be? I'm a born leader, it's 00:04:08.460 --> 00:04:12.460 all gonna work out. And from there, I did remarkably 00:04:12.460 --> 00:04:16.160 exciting things in this community. Set up the 00:04:16.160 --> 00:04:18.759 first urgent care that ever existed, met with 00:04:18.759 --> 00:04:21.680 an ex -cellist to try to convince them what an 00:04:21.680 --> 00:04:25.540 urgent care was. Thanks to a John Merola MD. 00:04:25.540 --> 00:04:27.680 It was over at North Medical Center It was his 00:04:27.680 --> 00:04:30.459 brainchild and then I was the administrator of 00:04:30.459 --> 00:04:34.040 his practice and I before that I was a lab manager 00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:37.459 a Supervisor and then I was the VP at Kraus hospital 00:04:37.459 --> 00:04:40.740 for seven years corporate VP of ambulatory services 00:04:40.740 --> 00:04:44.300 And then I took my hematology oncology associates. 00:04:44.300 --> 00:04:47.680 I was there 23 years Wow, so it's a long time 00:04:47.680 --> 00:04:52.120 But that everything I've ever done all has led 00:04:52.120 --> 00:04:55.699 really you know, it creates who you are and it 00:04:55.699 --> 00:04:59.540 sets up the future for you. And I would say Hematology 00:04:59.540 --> 00:05:01.740 Oncology Associates was, you know, I stayed there 00:05:01.740 --> 00:05:03.879 a long time, which I never did before that. They 00:05:03.879 --> 00:05:05.439 used to make a joke, you know, don't write your 00:05:05.439 --> 00:05:07.439 contact info in pen because you'll only have 00:05:07.439 --> 00:05:10.959 to white it out, use pencil. But yeah, I stayed 00:05:10.959 --> 00:05:13.779 there because first of all, cancer care in and 00:05:13.779 --> 00:05:17.459 of itself has had dramatic changes. We had so 00:05:17.459 --> 00:05:20.220 many wonderful opportunities to create new programs. 00:05:20.970 --> 00:05:27.350 But I would say one of the key objectives that 00:05:27.350 --> 00:05:31.470 I had was my own self mastery journey and also 00:05:31.470 --> 00:05:35.230 bringing that self mastery journey to the employees 00:05:35.230 --> 00:05:37.990 because there's about 350 employees there today. 00:05:38.589 --> 00:05:40.430 And you know, when you look at all these people, 00:05:40.689 --> 00:05:43.069 you think what can I bring them? You know, I'm 00:05:43.069 --> 00:05:46.850 a very service oriented leader. So every day 00:05:46.850 --> 00:05:49.069 I would be like, what can I do to make these 00:05:49.069 --> 00:05:52.660 lives better? and help people see the divinity 00:05:52.660 --> 00:05:55.040 and the preciousness and the beauty within themselves. 00:05:55.180 --> 00:05:57.199 Because when someone brings their best self, 00:05:58.120 --> 00:06:00.000 everything else kind of takes care of itself, 00:06:00.000 --> 00:06:03.899 you know? So that's really what, and it's interesting. 00:06:04.279 --> 00:06:06.180 You'll find out from this book and some of my 00:06:06.180 --> 00:06:09.959 others. You know, I'm very intuitive. My mom 00:06:09.959 --> 00:06:12.819 was the world to me. She died when I was 14. 00:06:13.680 --> 00:06:16.920 And from seven to 14, which I tell a lot in this 00:06:16.920 --> 00:06:20.759 book about me, we had the most precious mother 00:06:20.759 --> 00:06:23.779 daughter relationship, unlike probably most mothers 00:06:23.779 --> 00:06:27.180 and daughters. It was a very had a lot of spiritual 00:06:27.180 --> 00:06:30.540 communication and a lot of communication about 00:06:30.540 --> 00:06:34.420 the absence of death and merely taking on another 00:06:34.420 --> 00:06:38.220 form in which she promised me she would be with 00:06:38.220 --> 00:06:42.240 me always guide me help me. And I really was 00:06:42.240 --> 00:06:46.279 able to hear her from the day that she died when 00:06:46.279 --> 00:06:49.259 I was 14. And through the years, you know, when 00:06:49.259 --> 00:06:53.459 you open yourself to what most people would think 00:06:53.459 --> 00:06:57.740 is kind of crazy, as long as you do it in a way 00:06:57.740 --> 00:07:00.899 that is completely consistent with goodness and 00:07:00.899 --> 00:07:05.279 light and all that is divine. You know, I look 00:07:05.279 --> 00:07:08.500 at that intuition as another sense. that other 00:07:08.500 --> 00:07:10.639 people don't always have. And it's not only helped 00:07:10.639 --> 00:07:13.180 me through my career, which I would talk about 00:07:13.180 --> 00:07:15.139 things now that I wouldn't when I was a CEO, 00:07:15.319 --> 00:07:18.199 hence my former book, A Human's Purpose by Millie 00:07:18.199 --> 00:07:22.019 the dog. I was still a CEO and I didn't want 00:07:22.019 --> 00:07:25.199 to spill all of my beans. So I wrote that book 00:07:25.199 --> 00:07:29.959 through the voice of a dog, my dog Millie. However, 00:07:30.910 --> 00:07:33.149 This is actually very interesting. My stepmom, 00:07:33.189 --> 00:07:34.769 my husband were sitting at the kitchen table 00:07:34.769 --> 00:07:38.050 waiting for me to finish my 10 mile run. I think 00:07:38.050 --> 00:07:42.389 this was October of 2023. And while I was running, 00:07:42.750 --> 00:07:46.470 I heard next book, transitions of hope, told 00:07:46.470 --> 00:07:48.290 me a little bit about it while I was running, 00:07:48.430 --> 00:07:50.709 because you know, running puts you in an altered 00:07:50.709 --> 00:07:52.870 state of consciousness where you can really connect. 00:07:53.470 --> 00:07:56.790 And, and it's funny because my career, you know, 00:07:56.889 --> 00:07:59.439 I mean, I had to be very good in finance and 00:07:59.439 --> 00:08:01.860 business and operations and healthcare is so 00:08:01.860 --> 00:08:05.500 complex. And, you know, I lived in this other 00:08:05.500 --> 00:08:11.060 world through my really entire career and sought 00:08:11.060 --> 00:08:17.300 guidance from, from whomever. And yeah, so I 00:08:17.300 --> 00:08:18.879 walked in the door and I said, Oh my gosh, my 00:08:18.879 --> 00:08:20.600 next book is going to be called Transitions of 00:08:20.600 --> 00:08:22.399 Hope. And there was a tag that I have to write 00:08:22.399 --> 00:08:25.279 down because I will never remember it. And that 00:08:25.279 --> 00:08:28.860 tag was using the power of the mind to replace 00:08:28.860 --> 00:08:32.279 fear with love to navigate life's challenges 00:08:32.279 --> 00:08:35.460 because really love is what it's all about. And 00:08:35.460 --> 00:08:38.039 it's funny that I don't even, I didn't memorize 00:08:38.039 --> 00:08:40.700 that. I have to look at it. And I look at it 00:08:40.700 --> 00:08:42.340 every time. I tell people, yeah, and then there's 00:08:42.340 --> 00:08:44.600 a tag, but I can't really remember it. And so, 00:08:44.720 --> 00:08:46.639 you know, my stepmother, my husband, they're 00:08:46.639 --> 00:08:49.000 used to, you know, me living on the edge of the 00:08:49.000 --> 00:08:51.240 envelope. So they weren't like completely shocked. 00:08:52.779 --> 00:08:56.720 But yeah, and then I, You know, I was inspired 00:08:56.720 --> 00:08:58.779 with a lot of this book, but I really actually 00:08:58.779 --> 00:09:00.659 wrote this one myself. The Millie book is really 00:09:00.659 --> 00:09:03.639 a divine download. And even my leadership book, 00:09:03.759 --> 00:09:05.659 which is called Building the Team from the Inside 00:09:05.659 --> 00:09:08.200 Out, that's like a self -help book and a leadership 00:09:08.200 --> 00:09:11.419 book head on collision. Because truthfully, to 00:09:11.419 --> 00:09:15.340 build teams and to eliminate dysfunction can 00:09:15.340 --> 00:09:17.340 only come from when people clear the clutter 00:09:17.340 --> 00:09:20.360 within them. But if people can work on their 00:09:20.360 --> 00:09:22.720 own self mastery journey, everything just proceeds 00:09:22.720 --> 00:09:24.759 beautifully. You don't have toes to step on. 00:09:25.039 --> 00:09:27.000 When someone says something, you're not offended 00:09:27.000 --> 00:09:29.580 because you understand. This is one of my key 00:09:29.580 --> 00:09:32.700 principles that every relationship we have depends 00:09:32.700 --> 00:09:35.159 on the relationship we have with ourselves, everything. 00:09:35.620 --> 00:09:37.960 So everything someone says and does is a reflection 00:09:37.960 --> 00:09:41.440 from the inside out. And so when you acknowledge 00:09:41.440 --> 00:09:46.200 that you don't take things personally. And I 00:09:46.200 --> 00:09:48.059 talk a lot in this book about how, you know, 00:09:48.120 --> 00:09:50.299 we don't have the whole data set of our lives. 00:09:51.320 --> 00:09:52.840 And actually, Mike and I were chatting a little 00:09:52.840 --> 00:09:55.460 before this, and we talked about hypnotherapy. 00:09:55.840 --> 00:09:58.820 And I talk about that in this book, how eight 00:09:58.820 --> 00:10:01.279 to nine out of 10 of my clients would go to another 00:10:01.279 --> 00:10:04.840 lifetime to solve issues from today. Now, I grew 00:10:04.840 --> 00:10:08.539 up this Catholic Italian girl. However, I have 00:10:08.539 --> 00:10:10.899 to say my mother my grandmother extremely spiritual 00:10:10.899 --> 00:10:13.659 very connected to the other side Very much, you 00:10:13.659 --> 00:10:15.679 know talking to dead people and all of that kind 00:10:15.679 --> 00:10:21.620 of stuff so I was always immersed in the other 00:10:21.620 --> 00:10:27.200 side and So in any event the first time someone 00:10:27.200 --> 00:10:30.019 went to a former lifetime, you know I was a little 00:10:30.019 --> 00:10:34.049 like because I was in my early 40s I'm 66 now 00:10:34.049 --> 00:10:35.330 in case you're interested just to let you know 00:10:35.330 --> 00:10:37.669 how much experience I've had in all of this. 00:10:39.309 --> 00:10:42.649 I remember having my own self mastery journey 00:10:42.649 --> 00:10:46.809 really expanding because no matter, regardless 00:10:46.809 --> 00:10:49.190 of how much we think we know, there's always 00:10:49.190 --> 00:10:53.830 something out of our sphere of knowledge. Having 00:10:53.830 --> 00:10:56.909 an open mind and always accepting that your premise 00:10:56.909 --> 00:11:00.970 of everything could be flawed. is really important 00:11:00.970 --> 00:11:04.129 because then it helps you really grow. And where 00:11:04.129 --> 00:11:07.330 you grow is from the inside out. You know, I 00:11:07.330 --> 00:11:09.029 was running one day a whole bunch of years ago. 00:11:10.169 --> 00:11:12.129 I mean, this is so simple, but when the sun was 00:11:12.129 --> 00:11:15.769 shining on me, my shadow was behind me. And I 00:11:15.769 --> 00:11:18.970 remember thinking on Route 5, where all the cars 00:11:18.970 --> 00:11:21.190 were flying by, I remember thinking, you know, 00:11:21.350 --> 00:11:25.360 this is so poignant. This is life. When we put 00:11:25.360 --> 00:11:29.139 light or love into any of our issues, then all 00:11:29.139 --> 00:11:31.539 that clutter and crap that we work on within 00:11:31.539 --> 00:11:35.639 the shadows of ourself are behind. And I remember 00:11:35.639 --> 00:11:38.440 thinking, oh, I must include that in one of my 00:11:38.440 --> 00:11:41.419 books and then when I speak. And so, you know, 00:11:41.419 --> 00:11:44.759 those are the things that I talk about. I think 00:11:44.759 --> 00:11:46.960 I just went off on a tangent. I can't even remember 00:11:46.960 --> 00:11:48.500 originally what I was going to talk about. That's 00:11:48.500 --> 00:11:52.399 all right. But yeah, so that book is just filled 00:11:52.399 --> 00:11:58.700 with a lot. And so it's interesting also like 00:11:58.700 --> 00:12:01.320 Hematology Oncology Associates were founded by 00:12:01.320 --> 00:12:04.639 the best oncologists. And I remember thinking 00:12:04.639 --> 00:12:07.860 to myself, so now I'm very early in my 40s. And 00:12:07.860 --> 00:12:10.879 I remember thinking, what can I bring to this 00:12:10.879 --> 00:12:13.279 group? You know, there's already incredible doctors, 00:12:13.460 --> 00:12:16.539 wonderful staff. I mean, the culture really needed 00:12:16.539 --> 00:12:20.159 rehab, like a total 180 rehab. And I knew that 00:12:20.159 --> 00:12:23.179 I had to work on that. But I heard the word self 00:12:23.179 --> 00:12:25.299 -mastery and it's funny at that time. I didn't 00:12:25.299 --> 00:12:27.460 even know what self -mastery really meant. And 00:12:27.460 --> 00:12:29.600 I was like, self -mastery, okay, well I better 00:12:29.600 --> 00:12:31.080 do a little research, figure out what the heck 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:33.059 this is. Oh, I know we were talking about previous 00:12:33.059 --> 00:12:36.860 lives. So the first time I was shocked when someone 00:12:36.860 --> 00:12:38.759 went to a previous life to solve their issues, 00:12:39.220 --> 00:12:43.000 the 50th time, you're just going with the flow. 00:12:43.340 --> 00:12:47.259 And I was, I felt very privileged that I could 00:12:47.259 --> 00:12:50.519 journey with these people in their healing journey. 00:12:50.809 --> 00:12:54.049 but also it was almost like I would know what 00:12:54.049 --> 00:12:57.210 to say and what to do. And so for 10 years, I 00:12:57.210 --> 00:13:00.029 had my private practice of reiki and hypnotherapy 00:13:00.029 --> 00:13:03.669 on Tuesday, it was Mondays and Wednesday evenings 00:13:03.669 --> 00:13:08.919 until I got too seasoned. old to want to come 00:13:08.919 --> 00:13:11.139 home at 8 o 'clock every night. So I thought, 00:13:11.299 --> 00:13:12.980 okay, I've been doing this for 10 years. I've 00:13:12.980 --> 00:13:15.019 taught a lot of people Reiki. And so I don't 00:13:15.019 --> 00:13:16.539 really do any of that anymore because I will 00:13:16.539 --> 00:13:18.539 have people say, oh, can't you do a hypnotherapy 00:13:18.539 --> 00:13:20.879 for me? Oh, can't you do a Reiki? But I think 00:13:20.879 --> 00:13:24.700 what my role is now, besides little individual 00:13:24.700 --> 00:13:26.559 things, perhaps for good friends or whatever, 00:13:27.179 --> 00:13:31.799 is I want the message of making the world a better 00:13:31.799 --> 00:13:35.460 place one person at a time from the inside out. 00:13:35.600 --> 00:13:40.080 I really want that message to be embedded in 00:13:40.080 --> 00:13:43.779 the hearts of people because we have a lot of 00:13:43.779 --> 00:13:48.419 anger in this world. We have people who can't 00:13:48.419 --> 00:13:52.039 get along, various opinions where there's a lack 00:13:52.039 --> 00:13:55.120 of tolerance. There's a lack of accountability 00:13:55.120 --> 00:13:58.360 that I've seen even in the workforce over the 00:13:58.360 --> 00:14:02.309 last Five to seven years the candidates are different. 00:14:02.570 --> 00:14:05.090 They have different goals They you know, not 00:14:05.090 --> 00:14:07.610 that it's anything bad. It's just different sure 00:14:07.610 --> 00:14:11.690 and You know, we have disruptors in this world 00:14:11.690 --> 00:14:15.470 that are put here to disrupt and some people 00:14:15.470 --> 00:14:17.629 love the disruptors and some people hate them 00:14:17.629 --> 00:14:20.129 But nonetheless, there's this great purpose that 00:14:20.129 --> 00:14:23.110 a lot of times we don't see Because we're thinking 00:14:23.110 --> 00:14:27.080 very humanly So another objective of writing 00:14:27.080 --> 00:14:29.879 this book was to be able to you know, weather 00:14:29.879 --> 00:14:32.200 those storms to have hope through everything 00:14:32.200 --> 00:14:35.919 hope is something you can always have because 00:14:35.919 --> 00:14:40.200 happiness hope their decisions that you make 00:14:40.200 --> 00:14:43.899 and you know You can't ever hold anybody else 00:14:43.899 --> 00:14:46.659 responsible for being happy or any of that. It's 00:14:46.659 --> 00:14:49.419 all an inside job. And so really this book goes 00:14:49.419 --> 00:14:51.860 into a lot of that. And then there's also some 00:14:51.860 --> 00:14:55.019 very helpful exercises that I've included in 00:14:55.019 --> 00:14:58.620 here, like just practical exercises to help people 00:14:58.620 --> 00:15:01.759 forgive, to help people assess their level of 00:15:01.759 --> 00:15:04.840 self mastery, to be able to be more resilient, 00:15:05.440 --> 00:15:08.240 to be able to be more hopeful. And, you know, 00:15:08.240 --> 00:15:11.179 there's a slope of hope that is constantly moving. 00:15:11.549 --> 00:15:14.149 And one of the examples I use in the book is 00:15:14.149 --> 00:15:18.049 my former husband, very dear to me. I went through 00:15:18.049 --> 00:15:20.649 his cancer journey with him. And I talk about 00:15:20.649 --> 00:15:25.470 how the level, the high level of hope that we 00:15:25.470 --> 00:15:28.230 had at the beginning and at the end were equivalent, 00:15:28.710 --> 00:15:32.250 but what we were hopeful for was completely different. 00:15:32.690 --> 00:15:35.549 You start out hopeful that someone will be cured. 00:15:36.000 --> 00:15:38.440 And what we ended was we hoped that he had a 00:15:38.440 --> 00:15:41.120 beautiful and peaceful transition. And he landed 00:15:41.120 --> 00:15:44.039 on the other side, you know, filled with love. 00:15:44.379 --> 00:15:46.720 And I talk a little bit about that journey because 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:48.860 the slope of hope goes like this all day long. 00:15:48.879 --> 00:15:51.440 And we don't really focus on that as people. 00:15:51.539 --> 00:15:53.299 We don't say like, oh, it's my level of hope 00:15:53.299 --> 00:15:57.659 today. But hope and resilience are so intertwined 00:15:57.659 --> 00:16:02.059 that we really need that to keep moving forward, 00:16:02.059 --> 00:16:04.299 to get ourselves through all the muck. Because 00:16:04.299 --> 00:16:06.000 there's a ton of it. And I don't care how bright 00:16:06.000 --> 00:16:09.940 you are, how rich you are, successful, what your 00:16:09.940 --> 00:16:13.240 titles are, nobody gets away unscathed. Nobody. 00:16:13.919 --> 00:16:16.679 And what, you know, the life that people see 00:16:16.679 --> 00:16:19.860 in social media are so snippets. Young people 00:16:19.860 --> 00:16:22.299 don't realize everybody's got so much clutter 00:16:22.299 --> 00:16:25.220 that they're working on. And, you know, the more 00:16:25.220 --> 00:16:28.740 clutter you clear, the more you're a conduit 00:16:28.740 --> 00:16:33.379 to be able to traverse life. in a more global 00:16:33.379 --> 00:16:36.299 sense, not being affected by the moment to moment. 00:16:37.159 --> 00:16:40.659 That's incredible. Wow. Wow. So yeah, I talked 00:16:40.659 --> 00:16:43.159 a lot. I'm going to have a drink now. No one's 00:16:43.159 --> 00:16:46.000 ever going to ask us why we thought you'd be 00:16:46.000 --> 00:16:49.240 good on a podcast. Right. Marianne, one of the 00:16:49.240 --> 00:16:52.299 things I want to ask you is, throughout your 00:16:52.299 --> 00:16:55.210 career, you spent all this time at... Hematology 00:16:55.210 --> 00:16:59.049 and oncology surrounded by doctors and scientists 00:16:59.049 --> 00:17:03.490 and and very very traditional professionals the 00:17:03.490 --> 00:17:06.829 type of folks that I maybe incorrectly perceive 00:17:06.829 --> 00:17:11.230 as being Not into some of the spiritual things 00:17:11.230 --> 00:17:13.190 and everything that you're talking about Can 00:17:13.190 --> 00:17:16.630 you tell us how all of this was received in that 00:17:16.630 --> 00:17:20.009 group of professionals? Well, I was in the perfect 00:17:20.009 --> 00:17:23.430 place with the perfect group of people to accept 00:17:25.240 --> 00:17:30.299 my ideas and I think it's partly because every 00:17:30.299 --> 00:17:34.380 one of those people are a beacon of hope to cancer 00:17:34.380 --> 00:17:38.599 patients and families and some people make it 00:17:38.599 --> 00:17:42.079 and some people don't and when you deal with 00:17:42.079 --> 00:17:48.180 the fragility of life and when you see people 00:17:48.180 --> 00:17:53.160 you know fighting with everything they have or 00:17:53.440 --> 00:17:56.920 you see that it's time for them to accept that 00:17:56.920 --> 00:17:59.380 there's just no more. There's something that 00:17:59.380 --> 00:18:02.039 happens to you inside. And people would say to 00:18:02.039 --> 00:18:04.839 me, oh my God, how are you? How do you handle 00:18:04.839 --> 00:18:07.740 being around all these cancer patients and death? 00:18:08.420 --> 00:18:12.359 And I have always said, you learn so much more 00:18:12.359 --> 00:18:15.940 about life from those people than you ever could 00:18:15.940 --> 00:18:18.799 about death. You see resilience in its truest 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:22.609 form. And when I first started, I didn't talk 00:18:22.609 --> 00:18:26.490 about spiritual things off the bat. So we used 00:18:26.490 --> 00:18:28.109 to have staff meetings, and when I first started, 00:18:28.109 --> 00:18:32.109 they were every month. And this is kind of funny, 00:18:32.230 --> 00:18:33.690 because those people who know me will be like, 00:18:33.710 --> 00:18:35.569 oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, I used to love those. Or, 00:18:35.569 --> 00:18:38.329 oh, yeah, I had to listen to those. And I used 00:18:38.329 --> 00:18:40.890 to call them eight and a half by elevens. And 00:18:40.890 --> 00:18:43.109 the reason is, is because when I first started, 00:18:43.329 --> 00:18:45.829 24 years ago, I used to hold up a piece of paper 00:18:45.829 --> 00:18:48.150 with a word on it. In the beginning, they were 00:18:48.150 --> 00:18:50.650 business things. You know good to great had just 00:18:50.650 --> 00:18:52.730 come out. So we talked about some of those things 00:18:52.730 --> 00:18:55.450 You know the enemy of great is good and you know, 00:18:55.509 --> 00:18:58.049 just a lot of business terminology talked about 00:18:58.049 --> 00:19:00.910 how to be successful how to be You know not so 00:19:00.910 --> 00:19:04.250 task -oriented be more process oriented and then 00:19:04.250 --> 00:19:07.950 you know slowly as I was accepted as a good leader 00:19:07.950 --> 00:19:12.170 and We were successful and really building a 00:19:12.170 --> 00:19:15.470 team culture. I Interjected things and I want 00:19:15.470 --> 00:19:19.519 to say one of my the first was love on a piece 00:19:19.519 --> 00:19:23.220 of paper that wasn't business oriented. And then 00:19:23.220 --> 00:19:25.599 those eight and a half by 11s, even though it 00:19:25.599 --> 00:19:28.259 went to nice PowerPoint, you know, sometimes 00:19:28.259 --> 00:19:30.099 it'd be a phrase, it normally would be a word 00:19:30.099 --> 00:19:32.279 though. And then I would go off on this whole 00:19:32.279 --> 00:19:38.000 little thing. And I was very involved in things 00:19:38.000 --> 00:19:40.359 that were going on in the practice. So I would 00:19:40.359 --> 00:19:45.109 know pockets of struggle. And I would Always 00:19:45.109 --> 00:19:47.549 do a little meditation with myself and I'd be 00:19:47.549 --> 00:19:49.230 like, what's the eight and a half by 11 for this 00:19:49.230 --> 00:19:51.430 month? And it was amazing. I'd have people be 00:19:51.430 --> 00:19:53.390 like, can you please send that to me? Oh my god, 00:19:53.390 --> 00:19:55.750 were you at my house this weekend? Oh my gosh, 00:19:55.750 --> 00:19:58.369 you have helped me like so much. So the tag it 00:19:58.369 --> 00:20:00.809 was eight and a half by 11. It was it would say 00:20:00.809 --> 00:20:02.549 the month and it would be making the world a 00:20:02.549 --> 00:20:04.509 better place one person at a time from the inside 00:20:04.509 --> 00:20:09.730 out. And so slowly, we interjected a lot of self 00:20:09.730 --> 00:20:14.240 mastery and That was really the premise of how 00:20:14.240 --> 00:20:18.640 I functioned as a leader. And so my team, my 00:20:18.640 --> 00:20:23.460 key leaders, you know, I guess maybe in the beginning 00:20:23.460 --> 00:20:25.400 they had to buy into it because I was the CEO, 00:20:25.500 --> 00:20:28.900 but I really believe they embraced it. And and 00:20:28.900 --> 00:20:31.759 one of the things that I why I wrote the first 00:20:31.759 --> 00:20:34.359 book is I remember somebody came to my office, 00:20:34.480 --> 00:20:37.299 one of my key leaders and said, you know, another 00:20:37.299 --> 00:20:40.259 key leader said something that would normally 00:20:40.259 --> 00:20:43.740 really upset me, but I did something that we've 00:20:43.740 --> 00:20:46.779 learned together. I wondered what was going on 00:20:46.779 --> 00:20:50.440 inside of them that they should say that. Because 00:20:50.440 --> 00:20:53.599 I used to say, is that person loving? Are they 00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:56.740 going to sabotage us? They wouldn't even be here 00:20:56.740 --> 00:20:59.880 if they had those characteristics. So do you 00:20:59.880 --> 00:21:03.259 trust them? So there has to be another reason, 00:21:03.660 --> 00:21:05.599 something that you don't know. Because let's 00:21:05.599 --> 00:21:08.890 face it, you can react differently Today and 00:21:08.890 --> 00:21:12.609 tomorrow on on something that happens Depending 00:21:12.609 --> 00:21:16.750 on your fuse of like what happened 100 % right 00:21:16.750 --> 00:21:20.789 so You got a cup people slack and if you trust 00:21:20.789 --> 00:21:23.690 them and believe that their intentions are always 00:21:23.690 --> 00:21:26.109 good Then that's what you got to do when somebody 00:21:26.109 --> 00:21:28.089 says some crappy stuff. You got to think to yourself 00:21:28.089 --> 00:21:30.750 What's going on here? You know their intention 00:21:30.750 --> 00:21:33.130 would never be to hurt me would never be to embarrass 00:21:33.130 --> 00:21:35.549 me would never be so there's got to be something 00:21:35.549 --> 00:21:38.000 else And I really started writing my book shortly 00:21:38.000 --> 00:21:40.140 after that person came in my office because I 00:21:40.140 --> 00:21:44.819 was like so happy. I thought, oh my gosh, we 00:21:44.819 --> 00:21:49.180 have really people really understand that everything's 00:21:49.180 --> 00:21:51.779 a reflection from the inside out. So you can't 00:21:51.779 --> 00:21:53.740 take this stuff personally when you pick the 00:21:53.740 --> 00:21:55.440 right people. Now, believe me, I've terminated 00:21:55.440 --> 00:21:57.960 many a people in my bazillion years of health 00:21:57.960 --> 00:22:02.000 care. But sometimes I got thank you cards. Everybody's 00:22:02.000 --> 00:22:04.920 life got went because. I used to tell people 00:22:04.920 --> 00:22:08.539 if you're holding up a wall of ocean water, one 00:22:08.539 --> 00:22:12.200 of these days it's just going to come down and 00:22:12.200 --> 00:22:14.599 flatten you out. So if you're the square peg 00:22:14.599 --> 00:22:17.079 in the round hole, get somewhere that you know 00:22:17.079 --> 00:22:22.039 the sweater fits where you you know where you 00:22:22.039 --> 00:22:25.759 can be successful. So believe it or not, we journeyed 00:22:25.759 --> 00:22:27.480 through this. And I mean, some of the eight and 00:22:27.480 --> 00:22:29.839 a half by elevens were awesome, like gratitude, 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:32.640 like I did a whole thing on water crystals, and 00:22:32.640 --> 00:22:35.660 how you can change the morphology of water crystals. 00:22:37.480 --> 00:22:40.640 Whose book was that? Was it Masaru Omodo, maybe, 00:22:40.779 --> 00:22:42.500 who wrote the water crystals? Very good. You 00:22:42.500 --> 00:22:46.390 could just Google water crystals. And so Did 00:22:46.390 --> 00:22:48.450 that whole presentation then handed out t -shirts 00:22:48.450 --> 00:22:50.269 that said gratitude on it had everybody wearing 00:22:50.269 --> 00:22:53.369 the next day and on the back between gratitude 00:22:53.369 --> 00:22:56.430 was every employees name and You know, we did 00:22:56.430 --> 00:22:59.369 fun things like that and you know I might do 00:22:59.369 --> 00:23:01.490 one of the eight and half beloved eight and half 00:23:01.490 --> 00:23:04.609 by 11s on a book like the four agreements you 00:23:04.609 --> 00:23:07.349 know, they were always things that precipitated 00:23:07.349 --> 00:23:15.000 thought and So, you know I really think, and 00:23:15.000 --> 00:23:18.079 the doctors just knew that the culture was shifting 00:23:18.079 --> 00:23:20.200 to be very efficient. We would have patients 00:23:20.200 --> 00:23:22.279 come and say, would you put happy pills in these 00:23:22.279 --> 00:23:25.220 people's water? Why is this like this? You're 00:23:25.220 --> 00:23:30.599 like Patch Adams. And the doctors, I don't know, 00:23:30.700 --> 00:23:33.059 they're just an extremely special group of people. 00:23:33.200 --> 00:23:36.480 And so they embrace that. And then when we moved 00:23:36.480 --> 00:23:39.240 out of our Med Center West building, there was 00:23:39.240 --> 00:23:44.029 a flood. I said, don't do anything with the flood 00:23:44.029 --> 00:23:46.509 because it was a building that had a vault and 00:23:46.509 --> 00:23:50.170 for market preservation, we didn't want to lose 00:23:50.170 --> 00:23:52.849 that site, but we didn't use it. So I said to 00:23:52.849 --> 00:23:54.569 the docs, you know, I'll do it on a shoestring 00:23:54.569 --> 00:23:56.329 budget, but let me make a wellness center there. 00:23:57.029 --> 00:23:59.009 You know, now this is going back 20 something 00:23:59.009 --> 00:24:02.750 years when Reiki and all of that, you know, acupuncture 00:24:02.750 --> 00:24:04.890 was probably more accepted. Massage was, you 00:24:04.890 --> 00:24:07.910 know, Probably more accepted but Reiki and energy 00:24:07.910 --> 00:24:09.509 work and all of that and I can remember there 00:24:09.509 --> 00:24:11.910 were doctors like well Don't do any of that stuff 00:24:11.910 --> 00:24:15.450 an infusion, you know and and through the years 00:24:15.450 --> 00:24:18.170 It's just everything changed people began to 00:24:18.170 --> 00:24:20.910 be more open patients wanted this they realized 00:24:20.910 --> 00:24:24.069 I mean I talk about one of the few of my Reiki 00:24:24.069 --> 00:24:26.029 clients because all I ever really treated for 00:24:26.029 --> 00:24:29.579 cancer patients. Yeah Which was a real privilege 00:24:29.579 --> 00:24:31.400 for me, you know, you're the CEO in the daytime 00:24:31.400 --> 00:24:33.980 and now you're part of the team, right? You're 00:24:33.980 --> 00:24:36.779 part of the healing team Even though because 00:24:36.779 --> 00:24:38.940 the most important thing though that I don't 00:24:38.940 --> 00:24:41.180 want anybody to ever forget is you don't throw 00:24:41.180 --> 00:24:44.569 out Conventional wisdom you blend it You blend 00:24:44.569 --> 00:24:47.289 what we've learned and what we can do conventionally 00:24:47.289 --> 00:24:50.390 with ancient wisdom because we are beings of 00:24:50.390 --> 00:24:53.589 electrical energy You know, we I mean I talk 00:24:53.589 --> 00:24:55.690 about science the science of it in here I talk 00:24:55.690 --> 00:24:58.529 about Ampere's law when there's any kind of electricity 00:24:58.529 --> 00:25:01.450 going through cells There's you know an electromagnetic 00:25:01.450 --> 00:25:03.990 field and we do tons of things with that electromagnetic 00:25:03.990 --> 00:25:07.069 field It's some things we don't even think about 00:25:07.069 --> 00:25:09.650 but you know, I mean, I'm sure you've sat down 00:25:09.650 --> 00:25:12.460 and somebody's walked in the room You know they're 00:25:12.460 --> 00:25:14.579 there. You know, you've said, oh my God, you 00:25:14.579 --> 00:25:16.400 could cut the tension with a knife. Oh my gosh, 00:25:16.400 --> 00:25:18.500 what is the mood? Well, where does all that come 00:25:18.500 --> 00:25:21.299 from? It's all the energies and the patterns, 00:25:21.519 --> 00:25:24.440 right? So anyways, that's how those physicians, 00:25:24.519 --> 00:25:27.319 and then when we did the new building in Camillus 00:25:27.319 --> 00:25:30.380 the year last year, because I just retired this 00:25:30.380 --> 00:25:33.720 February, we moved our wellness center. So now, 00:25:33.720 --> 00:25:36.400 you know, it's a very busy place and it has Tai 00:25:36.400 --> 00:25:40.200 Chi and yoga and, you know, reiki and energy 00:25:40.200 --> 00:25:43.190 work. these doctors give it out of the goodness 00:25:43.190 --> 00:25:47.509 of their heart. So all the practitioners will 00:25:47.509 --> 00:25:49.329 bill for their own services, none of them are 00:25:49.329 --> 00:25:51.289 employees, and we don't charge them anything, 00:25:51.769 --> 00:25:53.849 but they have to charge less, like 20 % less 00:25:53.849 --> 00:25:56.150 than what the traffic bears out in the community. 00:25:56.869 --> 00:25:59.150 Because I felt like you can spend a ton of money 00:25:59.150 --> 00:26:01.329 on billboards, you can spend a ton of money on 00:26:01.329 --> 00:26:03.809 whatever, but when those people go to that wellness 00:26:03.809 --> 00:26:06.210 center and they have profound experiences and 00:26:06.210 --> 00:26:09.500 go tell all their friends, And they know that 00:26:09.500 --> 00:26:11.660 those practitioners are charging less because 00:26:11.660 --> 00:26:16.740 those doctors have supported that. I mean, that's 00:26:16.740 --> 00:26:20.660 a huge marketing tool. You know, it's amazing 00:26:20.660 --> 00:26:25.940 to me that you're you. I live in the world of 00:26:25.940 --> 00:26:28.880 like I believe in science and medicine very much, 00:26:29.000 --> 00:26:32.039 but I'm also spiritual. And it's rare that we 00:26:32.039 --> 00:26:35.119 find somebody with your resume. who is able to 00:26:35.119 --> 00:26:38.420 play both sides and incorporate it together. 00:26:38.519 --> 00:26:41.960 It's really, really refreshing that you don't 00:26:41.960 --> 00:26:45.180 really see science and spirituality together. 00:26:45.420 --> 00:26:49.829 It's pretty cool. No, it's great. the red flag 00:26:49.829 --> 00:26:52.289 you see with some folks in why you think they're 00:26:52.289 --> 00:26:55.890 selling snake oil. None of these doctors and 00:26:55.890 --> 00:26:58.589 experts in medicine that we've had, they're a 00:26:58.589 --> 00:27:02.289 joke. It's this one magic plant. You're not doing 00:27:02.289 --> 00:27:05.190 anything of that sort. So I talk about a beautiful 00:27:05.190 --> 00:27:07.349 human being that I did reiki on for, geez, I 00:27:07.349 --> 00:27:11.269 don't know, years every week. And she had... 00:27:11.339 --> 00:27:14.839 she had lung cancer with metastatic tumors to 00:27:14.839 --> 00:27:17.819 her head. And so she had 11 of them, bam, bam, 00:27:17.920 --> 00:27:20.559 bam, bam, bam, bam, bam. And they had done as 00:27:20.559 --> 00:27:22.539 much radiation, whole brain as they could, whatever. 00:27:22.960 --> 00:27:24.839 And her radiation oncologist, we were, you know, 00:27:24.940 --> 00:27:26.380 had beautiful relationships with these docs. 00:27:26.539 --> 00:27:30.359 He reaches out and he says, Mare, I mean, I'm 00:27:30.359 --> 00:27:32.339 kinda in mental loss, you know, that thing you 00:27:32.339 --> 00:27:33.940 do, that reiki thing, do you think that could 00:27:33.940 --> 00:27:35.500 help? I said, well, it certainly wouldn't hurt. 00:27:36.190 --> 00:27:38.269 I mean, is it a coincidence that as soon as we 00:27:38.269 --> 00:27:39.890 started Reiki, she never had another brain met 00:27:39.890 --> 00:27:42.990 in her head, and she lived like 10, 11, 12 more 00:27:42.990 --> 00:27:45.769 years? I mean, I saw her in the grocery store, 00:27:45.990 --> 00:27:48.390 like probably a couple years after we stopped 00:27:48.390 --> 00:27:50.589 doing Reiki, and she had braces on, and I'm like, 00:27:50.630 --> 00:27:52.150 oh my gosh, you got braces. She goes, yeah, had 00:27:52.150 --> 00:27:53.509 I known I was gonna live this long, I would have 00:27:53.509 --> 00:27:56.519 got them a long time ago. I had no idea. and 00:27:56.519 --> 00:27:59.519 uh but there was profound healing because she 00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:02.079 also did a lot of work from the inside out but 00:28:02.079 --> 00:28:04.019 i've had other clients like maryann you know 00:28:04.019 --> 00:28:06.119 i don't see the radiation beam i don't know how 00:28:06.119 --> 00:28:08.599 it works but i know it's killing this tumor and 00:28:08.599 --> 00:28:10.880 i don't know what you're doing but for a week 00:28:10.880 --> 00:28:13.740 after i have no diarrhea and i have no nausea 00:28:13.740 --> 00:28:17.440 for five days after this reiki treatment so you 00:28:17.440 --> 00:28:21.160 know And then that's one of the one of the reasons 00:28:21.160 --> 00:28:23.579 why I set up cancer connects because one of the 00:28:23.579 --> 00:28:26.940 things that cancer connects does is It has this 00:28:26.940 --> 00:28:29.779 voucher program because I also knew while these 00:28:29.779 --> 00:28:31.200 people were going through this cancer journey 00:28:31.200 --> 00:28:33.759 It could be very expensive and even though back 00:28:33.759 --> 00:28:36.900 then a Reiki treatment was $40 people didn't 00:28:36.900 --> 00:28:39.980 have an extra $40 hanging around. So I was like 00:28:39.980 --> 00:28:43.380 we need a foundation That will raise money to 00:28:43.380 --> 00:28:45.059 be able to pay for these integrative therapies 00:28:45.800 --> 00:28:48.180 and never in my wildest dreams when I filled 00:28:48.180 --> 00:28:50.900 out that 50133 paperwork for Cancer Connects 00:28:50.900 --> 00:28:54.380 did I ever imagine that today and it's for the 00:28:54.380 --> 00:28:57.859 entire community not just hematology oncology 00:28:57.859 --> 00:29:01.079 associates primarily because it's not legal to 00:29:01.079 --> 00:29:04.440 have a foundation for a for -profit company so 00:29:04.440 --> 00:29:07.539 it's for everyone it's in five counties Cancer 00:29:07.539 --> 00:29:11.289 Connects orchestrates the vouchers for integrative 00:29:11.289 --> 00:29:13.789 therapies, Reiki, acupuncture, all of that. It 00:29:13.789 --> 00:29:16.150 has a mentoring program where we hook people 00:29:16.150 --> 00:29:20.930 up one -to -one, try to even find the people 00:29:20.930 --> 00:29:22.950 that would really connect with other people. 00:29:23.890 --> 00:29:27.549 And then there's also a program that will distribute 00:29:27.549 --> 00:29:31.490 money to help people pay their copays, pay supplemental 00:29:31.490 --> 00:29:34.410 insurance, pay their car payment, pay their daycare. 00:29:35.309 --> 00:29:38.480 And there's... There's a there's an angel fund 00:29:38.480 --> 00:29:41.619 for all non breast cancer. And then there's a 00:29:41.619 --> 00:29:45.539 breast cancer fund that is funded in total by 00:29:45.539 --> 00:29:49.299 my dear friend Lori Mezalingua's foundation that 00:29:49.299 --> 00:29:55.460 she started. And, you know, it's it's just, you 00:29:55.460 --> 00:29:58.950 know, it's the St. Agatha Foundation. Lori, I'll 00:29:58.950 --> 00:30:00.950 never forget her telling me the big secret that 00:30:00.950 --> 00:30:03.930 she was going to start it, named after the patron 00:30:03.930 --> 00:30:07.890 saint of breast health. And St. Agatha's funds 00:30:07.890 --> 00:30:12.009 so much in this community. And Cancer Connects 00:30:12.009 --> 00:30:14.589 is like the conduit to be able to distribute 00:30:14.589 --> 00:30:19.190 these funds. And Lori and I, you know, she was 00:30:19.190 --> 00:30:22.990 actually the person that I did my 100 hours before 00:30:22.990 --> 00:30:26.730 I became a Reiki master. And I learned a lot. 00:30:26.990 --> 00:30:31.250 from her cancer journey. So, you know, these 00:30:31.250 --> 00:30:34.950 are very profound things. I've been so blessed. 00:30:35.029 --> 00:30:37.529 I've been so fortunate to be able to do all this. 00:30:37.630 --> 00:30:39.809 But thank God, I also have a really great science 00:30:39.809 --> 00:30:43.509 brain and I am very grounded in science and medicine 00:30:43.509 --> 00:30:47.390 so that I understand, you know, because physicians 00:30:47.390 --> 00:30:50.349 don't have that training. You know, they want 00:30:50.349 --> 00:30:53.390 to see data. They want to make sure they don't 00:30:53.390 --> 00:30:57.660 want to. The most important thing is is that 00:30:57.660 --> 00:30:59.740 they don't say I think you should go for Reiki 00:30:59.740 --> 00:31:02.140 treatment But if someone says doc, what do you 00:31:02.140 --> 00:31:05.980 think of this? They don't say Don't do it. They'll 00:31:05.980 --> 00:31:08.920 say sure it could be very helpful. So they're 00:31:08.920 --> 00:31:12.799 more just They're they're just neutral. Yeah, 00:31:12.960 --> 00:31:16.359 but they support it and You know big huge cancer 00:31:16.359 --> 00:31:19.359 centers 20 something years ago. We're doing You 00:31:19.359 --> 00:31:20.859 know Reiki and all of that kind of stuff and 00:31:20.859 --> 00:31:22.920 when upstate built their cancer center, you know 00:31:22.920 --> 00:31:25.200 They incorporated it and I had a laugh because 00:31:25.200 --> 00:31:27.539 our docs were like we've had this program for 00:31:27.539 --> 00:31:30.619 17 years and I wanted to say yeah Remember how 00:31:30.619 --> 00:31:33.099 open you were about it big men, but you know 00:31:33.099 --> 00:31:36.220 They are they're very open and it's a it's a 00:31:36.220 --> 00:31:38.460 very and I think that's what makes HOA special 00:31:38.460 --> 00:31:42.000 and I made sure that my successor And I worked 00:31:42.000 --> 00:31:43.859 together a couple years. She's cut of the same 00:31:43.859 --> 00:31:46.339 cloth and I don't anticipate that culture and 00:31:46.339 --> 00:31:49.609 that self mastery Um, you know, we even had a 00:31:49.609 --> 00:31:52.029 consultant who will be on my, uh, one of my podcasts, 00:31:52.150 --> 00:31:54.710 Mary Schecter. She runs the intuitive organization. 00:31:55.109 --> 00:31:57.670 She's absolutely awesome. Has done so much work 00:31:57.670 --> 00:32:00.390 through the years with hematology oncology associates, 00:32:00.410 --> 00:32:03.430 um, helping people in their self mastery journey. 00:32:03.809 --> 00:32:06.289 So we did a lot of work and we spent some money 00:32:06.289 --> 00:32:10.450 for groups, teams that were having issues to 00:32:10.450 --> 00:32:14.349 really appreciate what was inside of each other. 00:32:14.730 --> 00:32:17.069 That's incredible. That's incredible. Marion, 00:32:17.109 --> 00:32:19.369 we can talk to you for years and years and years. 00:32:19.390 --> 00:32:22.329 Yeah, but we're probably done. Which is why we're 00:32:22.329 --> 00:32:23.809 making a podcast. We are. So let's just talk 00:32:23.809 --> 00:32:25.930 about that for a quick minute. Yes. And then 00:32:25.930 --> 00:32:27.990 we're actually going to get to making it. OK. 00:32:28.109 --> 00:32:30.309 A little behind the scenes. Yeah, yeah. So, yes, 00:32:30.470 --> 00:32:32.089 I'm very excited about it. What are we talking 00:32:32.089 --> 00:32:35.650 about on the podcast? Well, I think down the 00:32:35.650 --> 00:32:39.529 road, I will have people as guests on this podcast. 00:32:39.769 --> 00:32:44.549 But. For a while, I really want to focus on some 00:32:44.549 --> 00:32:48.150 of the concepts in this book. It won't follow 00:32:48.150 --> 00:32:51.130 it along, but the most important things, like 00:32:51.130 --> 00:32:52.990 every relationship we have depends on the one 00:32:52.990 --> 00:32:54.970 with herself. Well, how do we know? What does 00:32:54.970 --> 00:32:57.269 that mean exactly? And how do we clear the clutter? 00:32:57.970 --> 00:33:00.289 And how do you even assess your level of clutter? 00:33:00.430 --> 00:33:05.390 How do you do that? Unconditional love is an 00:33:05.390 --> 00:33:08.490 act of being, not an act of doing. You know, 00:33:08.670 --> 00:33:10.569 for how many years of my life I was like, you 00:33:10.569 --> 00:33:12.049 know, I'm sorry, I can't unconditionally love 00:33:12.049 --> 00:33:13.750 that person. I can't unconditionally, oh no, 00:33:13.769 --> 00:33:16.410 that's not gonna happen. Well, I'm failing severely 00:33:16.410 --> 00:33:19.569 on this unconditional love thing. Until I was 00:33:19.569 --> 00:33:21.470 actually writing Millie Book and I was in a chapter 00:33:21.470 --> 00:33:24.569 and I just got a divine download, you know, unconditional 00:33:24.569 --> 00:33:27.640 love is not an act of. doing. It's an act of 00:33:27.640 --> 00:33:29.779 being. It's understanding that we were created 00:33:29.779 --> 00:33:32.460 from unconditional love and we are unconditional 00:33:32.460 --> 00:33:36.160 love. So you don't have to ask yourself, what 00:33:36.160 --> 00:33:38.019 do I got to do to love these people? You say 00:33:38.019 --> 00:33:40.099 to yourself, what would love do? How would love? 00:33:40.619 --> 00:33:43.619 So, okay, you think very differently from me, 00:33:43.720 --> 00:33:47.900 but you have that prerogative and I have, if 00:33:47.900 --> 00:33:49.900 I live in a world where I'm not going to judge, 00:33:50.059 --> 00:33:52.720 what is my place? You know, and then I want to 00:33:52.720 --> 00:33:54.579 talk about things like why we have the limited 00:33:54.579 --> 00:33:58.049 data set. How do I what are some of the experiences 00:33:58.049 --> 00:33:59.809 I've had that have proven to me that there are 00:33:59.809 --> 00:34:01.970 other lifetimes? And what do we bring into these 00:34:01.970 --> 00:34:03.910 lifetimes? And what do we need to do to make 00:34:03.910 --> 00:34:05.710 sure that we don't have these recurrent themes 00:34:05.710 --> 00:34:09.530 over and over and over? You know, those are all 00:34:09.530 --> 00:34:11.269 the kinds of things I want to talk about. And 00:34:11.269 --> 00:34:14.789 when we have enough podcasts that I feel that 00:34:14.789 --> 00:34:18.309 that people will have a foundation, then I do 00:34:18.309 --> 00:34:19.989 want to have some guests on there. But I'm hoping 00:34:19.989 --> 00:34:22.429 that these guests are extraordinarily different 00:34:22.429 --> 00:34:26.329 living on the fringe. You know, I heard the other 00:34:26.329 --> 00:34:28.369 day that there was an individual who's a death 00:34:28.369 --> 00:34:31.389 doula Who's a medium who helped a young man in 00:34:31.389 --> 00:34:34.269 a coma communicate with his family? I want people 00:34:34.269 --> 00:34:36.929 like that on my podcast. I want like a medium 00:34:36.929 --> 00:34:39.690 I have absolutely, you know I want I because 00:34:39.690 --> 00:34:41.869 people say well that's supernatural Well, I've 00:34:41.869 --> 00:34:45.130 had a ton of things happen to me and it's not 00:34:45.130 --> 00:34:47.929 supernatural. It's natural. It's just out of 00:34:47.929 --> 00:34:51.940 our realm of thought and you know, we I'm going 00:34:51.940 --> 00:34:53.679 to spend some time in these podcasts talking 00:34:53.679 --> 00:34:57.179 about ego and spirit, the world of structure 00:34:57.179 --> 00:35:00.099 that we live in. And when you allow structure 00:35:00.099 --> 00:35:02.980 to dominate your whole life, what you get yourself 00:35:02.980 --> 00:35:05.639 into as opposed to when you really allow spirit 00:35:05.639 --> 00:35:08.400 and put your ego aside. You know, it doesn't 00:35:08.400 --> 00:35:10.380 mean that you you know, I have to give away all 00:35:10.380 --> 00:35:12.119 your stuff and you got to be poor and you got 00:35:12.119 --> 00:35:15.360 to know, you know, we are modern day mystics. 00:35:15.460 --> 00:35:18.449 Okay, we are people who You have to live in this 00:35:18.449 --> 00:35:21.349 world. You have to, you know, national grids, 00:35:21.449 --> 00:35:23.289 nobody, not going to give anybody a discount 00:35:23.289 --> 00:35:26.250 for, you know, and so we have to be able to. 00:35:26.650 --> 00:35:29.230 And, you know, you don't, you know, people need, 00:35:29.469 --> 00:35:32.190 they have to have their needs met, but they got 00:35:32.190 --> 00:35:34.309 to have some of the wants met too. Otherwise, 00:35:34.369 --> 00:35:37.369 you know, what's, what are you doing? What are 00:35:37.369 --> 00:35:41.159 you doing? So yeah, so I hope to really have 00:35:41.159 --> 00:35:43.360 a good time with people with this podcast. Talk 00:35:43.360 --> 00:35:45.039 about all those things. This is going to be fun. 00:35:45.380 --> 00:35:47.239 Yeah. I'm going to actually ask people if they 00:35:47.239 --> 00:35:48.820 want to write in, but they're going to have to 00:35:48.820 --> 00:35:50.579 do something very old fashioned. They're going 00:35:50.579 --> 00:35:53.139 to have to write, put a stamp on an envelope 00:35:53.139 --> 00:35:56.800 and send it to my PO box. Marianne, real quick. 00:35:57.159 --> 00:35:58.960 She's going to read real letters. You're talking 00:35:58.960 --> 00:36:01.000 about previous lives. What do you think Matt 00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:02.980 and I were in our previous lives? I would have 00:36:02.980 --> 00:36:05.480 no idea. I think I was a deer, because watch. 00:36:05.960 --> 00:36:08.219 My wife tells me I look like a deer. I'm eating. 00:36:08.460 --> 00:36:11.639 I'm eating. Yeah. There you go. You definitely 00:36:11.639 --> 00:36:12.860 got the whole headlight thing. Do I look like 00:36:12.860 --> 00:36:14.219 a deer? Yeah, could be. What do you think you 00:36:14.219 --> 00:36:15.840 were in your previous life, dude? This is fun. 00:36:15.840 --> 00:36:17.699 I want to figure this out. Well, now I can't 00:36:17.699 --> 00:36:21.860 say hunter. Oh, that would be awkward. But you 00:36:21.860 --> 00:36:24.730 know what? What you could do is tonight, Okay. 00:36:25.349 --> 00:36:27.590 You go and you evaluate some of the things that 00:36:27.590 --> 00:36:30.349 haunt you. Like, you know, do you have something 00:36:30.349 --> 00:36:33.309 that you just can't seem to understand? Yes. 00:36:33.909 --> 00:36:37.849 And sometimes those things come from... Hold 00:36:37.849 --> 00:36:41.050 over but when we come to this world We we have 00:36:41.050 --> 00:36:43.309 amnesia because it certainly wouldn't be anything 00:36:43.309 --> 00:36:44.969 without free will right you have to make those 00:36:44.969 --> 00:36:46.909 decisions Is it time to clear the clutter or 00:36:46.909 --> 00:36:49.110 is it not? Some people love living living in 00:36:49.110 --> 00:36:52.030 the density of their fear and their anger and 00:36:52.030 --> 00:36:54.349 it's where they're happy Okay, no problem. You'll 00:36:54.349 --> 00:36:56.210 just probably come back with that same bullshit 00:36:56.210 --> 00:36:59.949 until you figure out that you know Love is the 00:36:59.949 --> 00:37:02.230 answer. So might as well figure it out now. You 00:37:02.230 --> 00:37:04.349 know, there's also people think you die and you 00:37:04.349 --> 00:37:05.869 know, you just float into this beautiful place 00:37:05.869 --> 00:37:08.710 and all your problems are gone. And you know, 00:37:08.849 --> 00:37:12.010 I say it in the book, I use jerk, but you know, 00:37:12.010 --> 00:37:14.090 I have a very foul mouth, but I'm gonna try to 00:37:14.090 --> 00:37:16.289 control it. But if you're a jerk, you know, you 00:37:16.289 --> 00:37:18.530 die with jerk like qualities. You know, you have 00:37:18.530 --> 00:37:22.530 to heal the jerk because you know, you take when 00:37:22.530 --> 00:37:25.170 you die, no matter what you had here, everybody 00:37:25.170 --> 00:37:28.809 takes the same stuff with them. Their soul. transfers, 00:37:29.570 --> 00:37:32.329 combines, spirit. Now they know everything. They 00:37:32.329 --> 00:37:34.230 know all their other lifetimes. They know all 00:37:34.230 --> 00:37:35.969 the things they put in their path to try to learn 00:37:35.969 --> 00:37:38.130 and grow. And then you say, well, shit, I didn't 00:37:38.130 --> 00:37:41.969 do that. I missed that mark. And you can grow 00:37:41.969 --> 00:37:44.170 on that side. You can grow on this side. But 00:37:44.170 --> 00:37:48.550 these two worlds are so intertwined and they're 00:37:48.550 --> 00:37:52.039 so much closer than people think. You know, that 00:37:52.039 --> 00:37:55.960 veil, and as really the world turns, and we evolve 00:37:55.960 --> 00:38:00.960 through time, and celestial patterns, it's getting 00:38:00.960 --> 00:38:03.460 thinner and thinner. And more and more people, 00:38:03.599 --> 00:38:05.380 and I even have an exercise in here, and how 00:38:05.380 --> 00:38:07.539 do you know when spirit's talking to you and 00:38:07.539 --> 00:38:10.159 it's not your imagination? That's a great question. 00:38:10.360 --> 00:38:11.840 Somebody taught me that when I was 30 -something 00:38:11.840 --> 00:38:14.320 years old. It's in the book, and I'm like... 00:38:14.269 --> 00:38:16.250 I've got to put this in here because that was 00:38:16.250 --> 00:38:18.789 a game. You know, I've had a few real game changers 00:38:18.789 --> 00:38:20.210 in my life. It's worth the book by itself. Yeah, 00:38:20.210 --> 00:38:22.489 yeah. That was a game changer. And honestly, 00:38:23.210 --> 00:38:27.550 understanding that we are, we are unconditional 00:38:27.550 --> 00:38:30.309 love. It's a, it's a, it's a state of being, 00:38:30.449 --> 00:38:32.489 not a state of doing. That was a life changer 00:38:32.489 --> 00:38:35.230 for me because then I thought, oh yeah, I just 00:38:35.230 --> 00:38:37.889 have to really accept that that opinion is very 00:38:37.889 --> 00:38:40.550 different and that they're doing the best they 00:38:40.550 --> 00:38:42.809 can with what they have. Because you know, we 00:38:42.809 --> 00:38:47.760 all have, you know, like we're doing the best 00:38:47.760 --> 00:38:50.800 we can for the most part. And, you know, we're 00:38:50.800 --> 00:38:53.300 living within that set of the gifts that we have. 00:38:53.800 --> 00:38:56.300 And so when you understand that about someone, 00:38:56.699 --> 00:38:59.840 you respect them for, okay, I'll respect you 00:38:59.840 --> 00:39:01.320 for what you believe. It's totally different 00:39:01.320 --> 00:39:02.739 than me. I don't really get it. And I could never 00:39:02.739 --> 00:39:05.260 really think like that, but. You know, may you 00:39:05.260 --> 00:39:07.860 have a successful co -created journey and maybe 00:39:07.860 --> 00:39:10.380 figure things out and I'll figure my own crap 00:39:10.380 --> 00:39:12.860 out and I'll try to effectuate the world that 00:39:12.860 --> 00:39:16.639 I can that's here and make it a better place. 00:39:16.980 --> 00:39:21.029 One person at a time from the inside out. Man, 00:39:21.029 --> 00:39:24.309 Mary Raffero is, you are one of the most interesting 00:39:24.309 --> 00:39:26.750 people I've ever met and I mean that in a very 00:39:26.750 --> 00:39:27.869 good way. Well, thank you so much. I can see 00:39:27.869 --> 00:39:29.630 the smoke coming out of his ears. Well, I have 00:39:29.630 --> 00:39:31.309 a hundred questions. His mind is blown. Yeah, 00:39:31.469 --> 00:39:33.730 I mean, was I a deer in the past life? What happens 00:39:33.730 --> 00:39:35.789 when we die? And it makes sense that you're a 00:39:35.789 --> 00:39:37.070 jerk, if you're a jerk in your real life and 00:39:37.070 --> 00:39:38.610 then you're past, remember the guy in Ghost? 00:39:38.769 --> 00:39:41.389 Get off my train! He was a jerk when he died 00:39:41.389 --> 00:39:43.309 and he was a jerk in his afterlife. Yeah, that's 00:39:43.309 --> 00:39:46.719 it. Sometimes, you know, sometimes Hollywood 00:39:46.719 --> 00:39:50.059 does blend with real life, right? Sometimes. 00:39:50.800 --> 00:39:52.679 Well, I still am not getting good at pottery, 00:39:53.059 --> 00:39:55.840 but. Yeah, I just want you to know that it's 00:39:55.840 --> 00:39:58.179 been a privilege to be on your podcast. You guys 00:39:58.179 --> 00:40:01.000 are awesome. I'm so grateful. And thank you so 00:40:01.000 --> 00:40:03.199 much for having me. We really appreciate this, 00:40:03.380 --> 00:40:05.380 Marianne. And we're very excited because, like 00:40:05.380 --> 00:40:07.460 I said, it's obviously everything that we've 00:40:07.460 --> 00:40:11.000 talked is something that needs to be. delved 00:40:11.000 --> 00:40:13.440 very deep into, which is the whole reason that 00:40:13.440 --> 00:40:15.880 people do podcasts. So this is one that we're 00:40:15.880 --> 00:40:17.940 very excited to make. Me too. And we're excited 00:40:17.940 --> 00:40:19.820 to have you here. Our client portfolio just got 00:40:19.820 --> 00:40:21.659 way more interesting. You know what I mean? It 00:40:21.659 --> 00:40:23.579 did. And it's not a knock on anybody else. No. 00:40:23.940 --> 00:40:29.059 This is a whole new world, literally. Yeah. And 00:40:29.059 --> 00:40:32.500 I'm very excited. In all honesty, while we might 00:40:32.500 --> 00:40:36.260 not get nearly as spiritual or anything like 00:40:36.260 --> 00:40:38.900 that, the whole reason we exist, Good News York, 00:40:39.119 --> 00:40:43.380 is very much along the same lines. I am a huge, 00:40:43.380 --> 00:40:46.880 huge proponent of positivity and empathy for 00:40:46.880 --> 00:40:49.519 people in many of the same ways. Attitude's everything, 00:40:49.760 --> 00:40:52.059 right? Absolutely. It really is. I love hearing 00:40:52.059 --> 00:40:55.579 an expert sort of quantify these things. that 00:40:55.579 --> 00:40:56.340 I've already subscribed to or something. Well, 00:40:56.340 --> 00:40:58.219 I'm on my own journey. I wouldn't really call 00:40:58.219 --> 00:41:00.360 me an expert, but let's just say I've been working 00:41:00.360 --> 00:41:01.960 at it a long, long time. I mean, you're writing 00:41:01.960 --> 00:41:04.980 books, so. You're doing something right. Yeah. 00:41:05.380 --> 00:41:08.940 Yeah. Marianne Raffero, health professional, 00:41:09.159 --> 00:41:12.980 Reiki master, author, and now host of her own 00:41:12.980 --> 00:41:14.980 podcast that's going to be powered by growth 00:41:14.980 --> 00:41:17.400 mode content, Transitions of Hope. You can catch 00:41:17.400 --> 00:41:20.380 it right here. Thank you so much for joining 00:41:20.380 --> 00:41:22.739 the show. Thank you. And thanks, everybody, for 00:41:22.739 --> 00:41:25.860 tuning in. You know, I mean, love. It's all you 00:41:25.860 --> 00:41:29.639 need. Love is all you need. Exactly. It's going 00:41:29.639 --> 00:41:32.019 to be our new standard. I think so. Good News 00:41:32.019 --> 00:41:35.760 York, sponsored by ads on the go. Quick plug 00:41:35.760 --> 00:41:40.519 for tomorrow's show. Oh, I don't know. Should 00:41:40.519 --> 00:41:43.719 I give this away? Buddy, this is... Should we 00:41:43.719 --> 00:41:45.519 make it a surprise? I always get worried when 00:41:45.519 --> 00:41:46.960 there's something exciting that they're going 00:41:46.960 --> 00:41:49.179 to cancel on us the last second and then I'm 00:41:49.179 --> 00:41:52.659 going like a schmuck. I canceled on CNN a couple 00:41:52.659 --> 00:41:55.119 times. You're like, yeah, we're going to go live 00:41:55.119 --> 00:41:57.219 in a half hour. And they're like, oh, yeah, we 00:41:57.219 --> 00:41:59.739 actually want to talk about something much more 00:41:59.739 --> 00:42:03.119 boring. Sorry. You're out of luck. You do your 00:42:03.119 --> 00:42:04.300 thing. So I stopped telling people that I was 00:42:04.300 --> 00:42:06.980 going to be on. I'll tell you, there's a new 00:42:06.980 --> 00:42:08.820 restaurant coming to town that's got a lot of 00:42:08.820 --> 00:42:12.420 buzz. And it's a chain restaurant. It's the most 00:42:12.420 --> 00:42:14.539 buzz I've seen for a chain restaurant that isn't 00:42:14.539 --> 00:42:18.980 Chick -fil -A. A new Taco Bell Cantina is opening 00:42:18.980 --> 00:42:22.699 up in Manlius, and this is a merger of a Taco 00:42:22.699 --> 00:42:27.679 Bell and a bar. Yeah, this is wild to me. Spoiler 00:42:27.679 --> 00:42:29.360 alert, we're getting a preview of it before it 00:42:29.360 --> 00:42:31.519 opens. You will be able to see all this fun stuff 00:42:31.519 --> 00:42:35.039 on Good News York tomorrow, Thursday. Thursday. 00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:36.760 I don't know what day it is. It's coming up. 00:42:37.210 --> 00:42:42.110 We can also edit this out. What do we got? Oh, 00:42:42.110 --> 00:42:45.190 tomorrow we've got a bunch of questions. Alec, 00:42:45.190 --> 00:42:49.090 Alec, that's right. From social media, he's a 00:42:49.090 --> 00:42:51.489 real estate guy, but he does these really cool 00:42:51.489 --> 00:42:52.389 videos. Local guys have been killing it on social 00:42:52.389 --> 00:42:54.090 media. Killing it on social media. We've got 00:42:54.090 --> 00:42:56.110 a lot of exciting things. I've got tacos in the 00:42:56.110 --> 00:43:00.349 brain, but stay tuned to the show all week. And 00:43:00.349 --> 00:43:03.119 also... Check out our boy ads on the go. Did 00:43:03.119 --> 00:43:05.320 you realize yesterday he had the he had the truck 00:43:05.320 --> 00:43:06.840 with the the graphics and everything outside 00:43:06.840 --> 00:43:09.000 I didn't even realize oh till it till he was 00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:10.880 leaving. I'm like, oh shoot. He had it all we 00:43:10.880 --> 00:43:13.659 should have got pictures Yeah, but that's all 00:43:13.659 --> 00:43:16.300 right. He'll be around Taco Bell Cantina. Here 00:43:16.300 --> 00:43:19.679 we come. That's right. That's right That's good 00:43:19.679 --> 00:43:21.139 news. You are sponsored by ads on the go get 00:43:21.139 --> 00:43:24.719 ads on the go calm Mary and Raffero Thank you 00:43:24.719 --> 00:43:26.920 for being here and we'll see you on your podcast. 00:43:27.139 --> 00:43:28.219 Oh peace out