WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.219 Number two was feeling pursued, which got me 00:00:04.219 --> 00:00:06.780 thinking like, yeah, that is, you know, I don't 00:00:06.780 --> 00:00:10.359 really often do that these days, you know, with 00:00:10.359 --> 00:00:12.560 the kids and stuff, but it is something to kind 00:00:12.560 --> 00:00:16.579 of think about. And do you ever like pursue your 00:00:16.579 --> 00:00:19.320 husband? No, but I think just like what we want, 00:00:19.559 --> 00:00:22.079 like you look good in that outfit or you look 00:00:22.079 --> 00:00:23.920 pretty or it's going to date night and different 00:00:23.920 --> 00:00:25.920 things like that. They also probably want that 00:00:25.920 --> 00:00:33.259 as well, right? Welcome back to Keep It Good. 00:00:33.399 --> 00:00:36.840 I'm your host, Emily. And I'm your host, Carly. 00:00:37.359 --> 00:00:41.079 So Father's Day was just this past Sunday, and 00:00:41.079 --> 00:00:43.960 we thought, you know, with all the big hype about 00:00:43.960 --> 00:00:47.240 Mother's Day and the episode about mothers, we 00:00:47.240 --> 00:00:50.140 thought we need to give a little shout out. So 00:00:50.140 --> 00:00:54.359 this episode is all about husbands and relationships. 00:00:54.960 --> 00:00:58.479 Can't wait. Because we love them, right? Yes. 00:01:00.009 --> 00:01:03.310 I mean, we said previous episodes that mom is 00:01:03.310 --> 00:01:06.530 the CEO, usually. Not always. But that's usually 00:01:06.530 --> 00:01:08.769 the case. That's true. I mean, there are some 00:01:08.769 --> 00:01:11.549 guys who step up and do that role. For the most 00:01:11.549 --> 00:01:15.890 part, yeah, mom's CEO. But like any working team, 00:01:16.230 --> 00:01:19.510 everybody needs a balance in life. And there's 00:01:19.510 --> 00:01:23.189 certain jobs that moms just can't do, you know? 00:01:24.349 --> 00:01:26.349 And fathers really step up to the plate these 00:01:26.349 --> 00:01:29.530 days. And we wanted to highlight what they contribute. 00:01:29.709 --> 00:01:33.269 in the household that often goes unseen as well. 00:01:33.709 --> 00:01:38.049 Yes. I mean, I do not want to be getting rid 00:01:38.049 --> 00:01:42.430 of the dead mice and the traps. Yeah. Or like 00:01:42.430 --> 00:01:45.849 the gutters, cleaning the gutters. Yeah. I feel 00:01:45.849 --> 00:01:49.170 like they have all the dirty work. They are the 00:01:49.170 --> 00:01:52.230 plumbers, the pest control, the heavy lifters, 00:01:52.349 --> 00:01:56.010 the garbage men, the handyman. They offer a sense 00:01:56.010 --> 00:01:59.810 of security, I think, that just makes everyone 00:01:59.810 --> 00:02:04.549 in the house feel safe, you know? 100%. I don't 00:02:04.549 --> 00:02:06.849 worry or think about any of that. That's like 00:02:06.849 --> 00:02:10.669 on his plate, right? Yeah. I'm doing a lot more 00:02:10.669 --> 00:02:14.729 of that cruise director type stuff, and there's 00:02:14.729 --> 00:02:16.930 not even a conversation. He plays his role and 00:02:16.930 --> 00:02:20.129 I play mine, and that's kind of how it works, 00:02:20.189 --> 00:02:23.330 you know? I don't touch anything dirty, basically. 00:02:23.750 --> 00:02:27.169 Yeah. We love them for that. I mean, that makes 00:02:27.169 --> 00:02:30.569 our life a hell of a lot easier. So if you don't 00:02:30.569 --> 00:02:35.330 feel appreciated, guys, we love you. Thank you. 00:02:35.590 --> 00:02:38.069 Thank you. Yeah. I mean, my husband's great. 00:02:38.169 --> 00:02:40.569 If anything goes wrong in the house, like plumbing, 00:02:40.949 --> 00:02:44.990 electricity, anything that is outside my scope 00:02:44.990 --> 00:02:47.770 of practice, like he figures it out. He handles 00:02:47.770 --> 00:02:52.580 it. He makes our house our home, you know? and 00:02:52.580 --> 00:02:57.560 keeps it safe and I mean thinking about you know 00:02:57.560 --> 00:03:01.840 all the things that mom carries and and has in 00:03:01.840 --> 00:03:04.379 her mind I can't imagine what it's like to be 00:03:04.379 --> 00:03:09.740 a guy because I feel like they hold a whole different 00:03:09.740 --> 00:03:12.900 sense of responsibility for the family yes a 00:03:12.900 --> 00:03:17.110 lot of times they are the providers or Not always 00:03:17.110 --> 00:03:20.030 but you know, they just have that protective 00:03:20.030 --> 00:03:23.550 character or that role that they kind of are 00:03:23.550 --> 00:03:27.789 meant to step into or Expected to step into and 00:03:27.789 --> 00:03:30.129 I think that puts a lot of pressure on somebody, 00:03:30.129 --> 00:03:32.710 you know you're overnight you have this whole 00:03:32.710 --> 00:03:36.930 family to kind of protect and It oftentimes just 00:03:36.930 --> 00:03:39.550 goes unnoticed. Like I said, yeah, absolutely. 00:03:39.569 --> 00:03:42.849 I totally agree with you and I think when that 00:03:42.849 --> 00:03:44.590 baby does come, because even like when you do 00:03:44.590 --> 00:03:46.629 have a baby and you're pregnant and they know 00:03:46.629 --> 00:03:48.250 they're becoming a father and they're excited 00:03:48.250 --> 00:03:50.889 and all of that, but they don't get to feel the 00:03:50.889 --> 00:03:53.990 feels that you do through those basically 10 00:03:53.990 --> 00:03:57.770 months, you know? And so it maybe isn't real 00:03:57.770 --> 00:04:00.169 until that happens. And I think that for a lot 00:04:00.169 --> 00:04:03.860 of them, there is a switch of like, okay. Now 00:04:03.860 --> 00:04:07.139 I got the real family unit and I got to protect. 00:04:07.340 --> 00:04:08.979 You know, we always talk about mama bear, but 00:04:08.979 --> 00:04:11.199 there's definitely a papa bear thing too. And 00:04:11.199 --> 00:04:13.259 yeah, they do a lot of the things that, I mean, 00:04:13.259 --> 00:04:15.139 I don't even know maybe all the things he does 00:04:15.139 --> 00:04:17.939 because he just does it. And just like us, I 00:04:17.939 --> 00:04:20.220 know we like to think that everybody's 50 50 00:04:20.220 --> 00:04:22.699 and how, you know, we run our relationship and 00:04:22.699 --> 00:04:25.639 our households, but things are kind of split. 00:04:26.100 --> 00:04:28.740 Like, mom does this, dad does that, you know? 00:04:29.019 --> 00:04:31.420 Yeah, I know we kind of stepped into that role, 00:04:31.540 --> 00:04:34.350 not even realizing it, but Like Jacqueline said 00:04:34.350 --> 00:04:37.250 in the Struggles of Motherhood episode, the evolution 00:04:37.250 --> 00:04:43.370 of fathers really has come a long way. There's 00:04:43.370 --> 00:04:46.430 so many dads who do dive in and do diapers or 00:04:46.430 --> 00:04:51.410 do the overnight bottle feeds. My husband was 00:04:51.410 --> 00:04:53.990 fantastic through all of that. I could not have 00:04:53.990 --> 00:04:57.470 asked for a better partner in such a chaotic 00:04:57.470 --> 00:05:01.670 part of my life. Absolutely same. Well, and I 00:05:01.670 --> 00:05:04.550 think, too, to have that good partner who knows, 00:05:04.769 --> 00:05:07.569 like, okay, it is definitely my turn to step 00:05:07.569 --> 00:05:09.829 in because, you know, without even having to 00:05:09.829 --> 00:05:12.069 be asked, right, especially in those baby months, 00:05:12.089 --> 00:05:14.829 but that's what's making him a dad and getting 00:05:14.829 --> 00:05:18.569 to enjoy a Father's Day himself. I know. I hope 00:05:18.569 --> 00:05:20.490 they all had a really good Father's Day because 00:05:20.490 --> 00:05:23.449 you do, you all mean so much to us. We could 00:05:23.449 --> 00:05:27.829 not make our lives and the kids' lives. The way 00:05:27.829 --> 00:05:30.490 that they are without you. It's a family unit 00:05:30.490 --> 00:05:33.670 and you are an equal part of that that unit So 00:05:33.670 --> 00:05:36.870 we did a fun little poll with our friends and 00:05:36.870 --> 00:05:40.550 families and co -workers Just a random little 00:05:40.550 --> 00:05:43.930 bunch of guys and we asked them ways that make 00:05:43.930 --> 00:05:48.810 them feel appreciated I'm I mean everyone can 00:05:48.810 --> 00:05:52.550 kind of guess what number one was right That 00:05:52.550 --> 00:05:56.389 goes unspoken but moving on down the list uh 00:05:56.389 --> 00:05:58.689 here are a few things that they they had mentioned 00:05:58.689 --> 00:06:04.930 so yeah number two was feeling pursued which 00:06:04.930 --> 00:06:09.250 got me thinking like yeah that is you know i 00:06:09.250 --> 00:06:13.310 don't really uh often do that these days you 00:06:13.310 --> 00:06:15.250 know with the kids and stuff but it is something 00:06:15.250 --> 00:06:19.110 to kind of think about and do you ever like pursue 00:06:19.110 --> 00:06:22.860 your husband No, but I think just like what we 00:06:22.860 --> 00:06:25.779 want like, oh, you look good in that outfit or 00:06:25.779 --> 00:06:27.720 you look pretty or, you know, it's going to date 00:06:27.720 --> 00:06:29.480 night and different things like that. They also 00:06:29.480 --> 00:06:31.480 probably want that as well, right? They want 00:06:31.480 --> 00:06:34.000 to know that you're still attracted to them and 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:37.620 that sort of thing where it's kind of an unsaid. 00:06:37.800 --> 00:06:40.720 I think most people just are married to you. 00:06:40.720 --> 00:06:43.360 So I love you and you should know that, you know, 00:06:43.519 --> 00:06:47.120 but we all like to feel like, oh, yeah, I'm noticed 00:06:47.120 --> 00:06:52.410 again. Yep. So, I mean, I got to step up my game. 00:06:52.949 --> 00:06:56.149 Yes, I mean, I don't we all but yeah So that 00:06:56.149 --> 00:06:58.370 was that was an interesting point of view from 00:06:58.370 --> 00:07:01.269 a guy's perspective is feeling pursued And I 00:07:01.269 --> 00:07:04.009 think a lot of women kind of let that slide because 00:07:04.009 --> 00:07:08.410 that he pursued Yeah, we don't want to do the 00:07:08.410 --> 00:07:13.290 chasing Number three was just kind of helping 00:07:13.290 --> 00:07:18.139 out with certain things like yard work or You 00:07:18.139 --> 00:07:22.139 know any kind of task that's a lot for like the 00:07:22.139 --> 00:07:26.759 house You know just helping out right like weeding 00:07:26.759 --> 00:07:30.180 or yeah something that tends to sometimes fall 00:07:30.180 --> 00:07:33.540 on them or Yeah, and I totally get that. I mean 00:07:33.540 --> 00:07:37.060 who doesn't want to feel Helped, you know, right? 00:07:37.879 --> 00:07:40.620 And that goes hand -in -hand with kind of number 00:07:40.620 --> 00:07:44.889 four acknowledgement so like You know, wow, you 00:07:44.889 --> 00:07:46.829 did a really great job with that. I love how 00:07:46.829 --> 00:07:51.129 you thought of this or You know great idea. I 00:07:51.129 --> 00:07:53.889 loved how this came out This was I would have 00:07:53.889 --> 00:07:56.350 never thought of it and you know kind of a Bravo 00:07:56.350 --> 00:08:01.329 to you type of yeah. Yeah. Yeah, definitely and 00:08:01.329 --> 00:08:03.990 then number five like along with kind of helping 00:08:03.990 --> 00:08:09.949 out outside sort of Say they're you know outside 00:08:09.949 --> 00:08:14.540 working on Some kind of a project just thinking 00:08:14.540 --> 00:08:17.180 oh, you know what he could use a coffee or a 00:08:17.180 --> 00:08:19.480 little snack Just being thoughtful and bringing 00:08:19.480 --> 00:08:22.740 him out something without him asking or maybe 00:08:22.740 --> 00:08:25.199 something that you think he could use in the 00:08:25.199 --> 00:08:31.019 time Do you ever do that Emily? I mean, I don't 00:08:31.019 --> 00:08:34.480 know I don't know if I do. I like to think I 00:08:34.480 --> 00:08:37.200 take care of him pretty good, but Well, the next 00:08:37.200 --> 00:08:39.669 time he's outside doing yard work get him a freaking 00:08:39.669 --> 00:08:43.230 snack. I'll get a fresh lemonade, freshly squeezed. 00:08:44.269 --> 00:08:47.490 Yeah. Bring the boy a snack. It's so funny though, 00:08:47.490 --> 00:08:49.990 because these things are like things that women 00:08:49.990 --> 00:08:53.970 want too, right? So it's just, it's what you 00:08:53.970 --> 00:08:56.769 want. Assume your partner also wants that. Yeah. 00:08:56.769 --> 00:08:59.509 It's a good lesson, right? Treat others the way 00:08:59.509 --> 00:09:04.769 you want to be treated. Yes. Yes. And then the 00:09:04.769 --> 00:09:07.929 last two is show interest, encouragement, and 00:09:07.929 --> 00:09:12.009 compliments. compliment that boy, he wants it. 00:09:12.190 --> 00:09:15.149 Gotta feed the ego a little bit. Yeah, yeah, 00:09:15.149 --> 00:09:19.330 water it, feed it, and then back off a little 00:09:19.330 --> 00:09:23.730 bit so that it keeps him guessing. Yeah, I love 00:09:23.730 --> 00:09:26.730 it. It keeps it interesting still. It's like 00:09:26.730 --> 00:09:28.690 you always have to be dating, right? Like you 00:09:28.690 --> 00:09:31.230 gotta keep, it can't, things can get stagnant 00:09:31.230 --> 00:09:34.289 and that's life, like we're busy, but I think 00:09:34.289 --> 00:09:38.269 you have to keep it fun and exciting. Like my 00:09:38.269 --> 00:09:40.850 husband is so good with spontaneity and surprising 00:09:40.850 --> 00:09:44.250 me with different things and I have just become 00:09:44.250 --> 00:09:46.610 I think is he's so good I've just become like 00:09:46.610 --> 00:09:50.429 a bad gift giver and you know I when we did that 00:09:50.429 --> 00:09:52.289 Mother's Day one I'm like I had to step up my 00:09:52.289 --> 00:09:57.409 game I gotta you know like I don't know I know. 00:09:57.809 --> 00:10:00.409 Like as much as we're offering different ideas 00:10:00.409 --> 00:10:03.210 for people, listening back, it's like, oh wow, 00:10:03.450 --> 00:10:05.750 like I kind of have to, you know, it makes you 00:10:05.750 --> 00:10:08.090 second guess it, even though we're making these 00:10:08.090 --> 00:10:11.029 episodes. Yeah. We have to practice what we preach. 00:10:11.789 --> 00:10:15.149 Yeah. Yeah. And a lot of them are like, you know, 00:10:15.210 --> 00:10:16.929 oh my God, I can't even believe I said that. 00:10:16.929 --> 00:10:18.990 Where did that come from? But that's great advice 00:10:18.990 --> 00:10:22.350 and I need to do it. Yeah. Like, do you flirt? 00:10:22.409 --> 00:10:26.159 Do you flirt with your husband still? Yes. I 00:10:26.159 --> 00:10:28.440 would like to think that there's definitely some 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:32.399 flirting going on when there's time You know 00:10:32.399 --> 00:10:36.320 we with our jobs we kind of won for many years 00:10:36.320 --> 00:10:38.399 gotten better, but we passed in the night It 00:10:38.399 --> 00:10:40.799 was literally that the ships passing in the night 00:10:40.799 --> 00:10:45.100 and so you got to try to do that when when you 00:10:45.100 --> 00:10:51.340 can and Don't be lazy about it. Yeah well like 00:10:51.450 --> 00:10:54.669 Me and my husband flirt all the time. I love 00:10:54.669 --> 00:10:57.289 that about us, you know constantly every day 00:10:57.289 --> 00:11:00.190 It's just it's just fun. It keeps it, you know 00:11:00.190 --> 00:11:03.129 electric and no that's but that's like that spark 00:11:03.129 --> 00:11:06.210 is still always alive and Like I said, some people 00:11:06.210 --> 00:11:08.809 don't have the time together. But like even if 00:11:08.809 --> 00:11:12.690 you're not right, it's through text or A phone 00:11:12.690 --> 00:11:15.690 call or a funny little emoji it can be even just 00:11:15.690 --> 00:11:17.809 something simple like that doesn't have to be 00:11:18.080 --> 00:11:20.659 Yeah, right. A face to face. It's funny because 00:11:20.659 --> 00:11:22.580 when we were in high school, we would pass each 00:11:22.580 --> 00:11:25.200 other notes and like little things here and there. 00:11:25.639 --> 00:11:28.740 And now that technology is involved, like the 00:11:28.740 --> 00:11:31.279 texts are our new love notes that we passed. 00:11:31.659 --> 00:11:33.100 So, you know, like... So cute. I want to save 00:11:33.100 --> 00:11:37.320 it. Yeah. You know, like you have to keep it 00:11:37.320 --> 00:11:40.480 fun. You have to keep it fresh. Yes, we've been 00:11:40.480 --> 00:11:44.360 together for 20 plus years, but he still gives 00:11:44.360 --> 00:11:47.179 me the butterflies. He still gives me, you know... 00:11:47.179 --> 00:11:51.320 Right. It's exciting for a date night and yeah, 00:11:52.360 --> 00:11:56.919 yeah So definitely prioritize date night. I mean 00:11:56.919 --> 00:12:01.039 get even if you can't get a babysitter one of 00:12:01.039 --> 00:12:04.500 our favorite things is You know, we put in a 00:12:04.500 --> 00:12:06.360 lot of hard work in our house. We've been here 00:12:06.360 --> 00:12:09.600 for like 11 years now We just kind of walk around 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:12.240 once the kids go to bed. We get like a glass 00:12:12.240 --> 00:12:15.820 of wine or coffee It's like a Tuesday night. 00:12:16.000 --> 00:12:18.279 You make it work and you walk around the yard 00:12:18.279 --> 00:12:21.360 and we just kind of like Look at where we've 00:12:21.360 --> 00:12:24.179 been and where we are now, you know and kind 00:12:24.179 --> 00:12:28.899 of give recognition about this project or that 00:12:28.899 --> 00:12:32.059 part of the garden or this and oh What are we 00:12:32.059 --> 00:12:34.360 gonna do with this area for the future? And it 00:12:34.360 --> 00:12:37.139 it just kind of it's my favorite date night with 00:12:37.139 --> 00:12:39.919 him because it's like you just appreciate each 00:12:39.919 --> 00:12:41.639 other You appreciate where you've been where 00:12:41.639 --> 00:12:45.120 you're going Where you are now? Yeah, the life 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:48.000 you've built. Yeah. You know, to think back like, 00:12:48.120 --> 00:12:50.620 oh my gosh, remember when it was this and now 00:12:50.620 --> 00:12:54.580 look what we've done. And yeah, it's such a nice, 00:12:54.600 --> 00:12:57.120 nice thing. Yeah, it's like walking down memory 00:12:57.120 --> 00:13:00.379 lane. Yeah. That's my favorite. And it doesn't 00:13:00.379 --> 00:13:02.940 cost us anything. I mean, we're enjoying the 00:13:02.940 --> 00:13:05.399 fruits of our labor. It's just, it's one of my 00:13:05.399 --> 00:13:07.840 favorites. So if you can't, you don't have the 00:13:07.840 --> 00:13:10.700 extra money to go out for dinner or You don't 00:13:10.700 --> 00:13:12.639 have the time to get a sitter or any of that. 00:13:12.679 --> 00:13:16.419 You can make anything into a date night. It's 00:13:16.419 --> 00:13:18.659 just about spending that quality time together 00:13:18.659 --> 00:13:21.500 and really just seeing each other for who they 00:13:21.500 --> 00:13:25.659 are and, you know, set time together. That's 00:13:25.659 --> 00:13:28.139 really all you need. Right. It's like it's one 00:13:28.139 --> 00:13:32.779 of those love language, right? We look into like 00:13:32.779 --> 00:13:36.200 really kind of understanding your love language 00:13:36.200 --> 00:13:39.539 and what your partner's love language is. and 00:13:39.539 --> 00:13:44.139 recognizing how to kind of show the love that 00:13:44.139 --> 00:13:47.759 they're going to reciprocate or accept, you know? 00:13:48.100 --> 00:13:51.500 Right. So there's five different types of love 00:13:51.500 --> 00:13:55.000 languages. I want to know which one you are after 00:13:55.000 --> 00:13:59.240 we're done. Okay. First one, quality time, words 00:13:59.240 --> 00:14:03.580 of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, 00:14:03.820 --> 00:14:08.830 and then receiving gifts. So... I mean, I would 00:14:08.830 --> 00:14:12.649 sign up for all five. Yes, I think so too. I'm 00:14:12.649 --> 00:14:15.649 like a little bit of each one. I can't say that 00:14:15.649 --> 00:14:18.789 I'm definitely just one of those. I mean, quality 00:14:18.789 --> 00:14:20.830 time is probably at the top of my list because 00:14:20.830 --> 00:14:24.389 like I've shared my husband's job and we don't 00:14:24.389 --> 00:14:26.950 always get time together. So whatever we can 00:14:26.950 --> 00:14:28.809 get, even if it's an hour, once the kids are 00:14:28.809 --> 00:14:31.129 asleep, like you said, the date night thing, 00:14:31.190 --> 00:14:33.190 like just at home, that's so important to me. 00:14:33.190 --> 00:14:34.610 And I know that it's important to my husband 00:14:34.610 --> 00:14:37.490 too. let's have some time sometimes it is just 00:14:37.490 --> 00:14:39.529 us talking sometimes it's us watching a show 00:14:39.529 --> 00:14:41.669 or having a glass of wine together or something 00:14:41.669 --> 00:14:44.990 like that but i think that's probably my top 00:14:44.990 --> 00:14:49.710 one but yeah so you like all five as well i want 00:14:49.710 --> 00:14:52.750 all the love languages i want yeah i'm very fluent 00:14:52.750 --> 00:14:57.889 in all the love languages uh no i would say yeah 00:14:57.889 --> 00:15:02.149 same quality time just having that minute you 00:15:02.149 --> 00:15:05.570 know also words of affirmation I think because 00:15:05.570 --> 00:15:10.629 I love to hear like encouragement or you know 00:15:10.629 --> 00:15:14.389 like I love you it's something so simple those 00:15:14.389 --> 00:15:17.049 three little words but they mean a lot in a relationship 00:15:17.049 --> 00:15:20.590 it's comforting it's you know words are a big 00:15:20.590 --> 00:15:23.049 deal and I think my husband definitely knows 00:15:23.049 --> 00:15:26.730 that yeah about me by now yeah and I know him 00:15:27.659 --> 00:15:32.139 His is definitely physical clutch I was gonna 00:15:32.139 --> 00:15:34.559 say I think Matt's is I don't know if I had to 00:15:34.559 --> 00:15:36.519 guess I would say his is probably quality time 00:15:36.519 --> 00:15:41.500 too, but I mean lucky they're all They're all 00:15:41.500 --> 00:15:45.120 good, of course, but yeah, what what would be 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:47.259 your favorite date? I know your favorite date 00:15:47.259 --> 00:15:49.519 night with the kids, but like what would you 00:15:49.519 --> 00:15:53.779 want to do if you had a date night? Oh Kids are 00:15:53.779 --> 00:15:57.159 with a sitter. I like experiences. Yeah, right 00:15:57.289 --> 00:16:02.389 I love experiences. So, um, we sometimes, you 00:16:02.389 --> 00:16:06.149 know, we'll do like a mid day where like if the 00:16:06.149 --> 00:16:08.370 kids are at school and he has the day off, we'll 00:16:08.370 --> 00:16:12.149 go for a hike or one time the four of us went 00:16:12.149 --> 00:16:15.570 for, you know, the cooking class. Like, I just 00:16:15.570 --> 00:16:17.850 love doing things that are different. I don't 00:16:17.850 --> 00:16:20.190 really want to go and sit across from him and 00:16:20.190 --> 00:16:24.070 have dinner and talk about the kids. Yeah. Well, 00:16:24.090 --> 00:16:26.649 it's a memory and that's kind of fun too. It's 00:16:26.649 --> 00:16:29.049 like, Yeah, I don't know and you could play off 00:16:29.049 --> 00:16:30.769 of each other's hobbies like maybe you could 00:16:30.769 --> 00:16:33.350 rotate like oh my god I've always wanted to try 00:16:33.350 --> 00:16:35.230 this and even though that might not be your favorite 00:16:35.230 --> 00:16:37.529 thing because it's his or something He wants 00:16:37.529 --> 00:16:40.490 to do you should want to do it, too. Yeah, definitely 00:16:40.490 --> 00:16:44.610 Yeah, whatever makes them happy and like glow 00:16:44.610 --> 00:16:48.309 from the inside for sure. Absolutely. I know 00:16:48.309 --> 00:16:51.669 he would You know, I'd have to drag him to a 00:16:51.669 --> 00:16:55.169 sip and paint But at the end of the day, he would 00:16:55.169 --> 00:16:59.269 do it because he wants to make me happy and he 00:16:59.269 --> 00:17:02.730 would drag me to a shooting range or something 00:17:02.730 --> 00:17:05.829 very manly. And I would just kind of suck it 00:17:05.829 --> 00:17:08.630 up and do it because he thought of it, he wanted 00:17:08.630 --> 00:17:13.029 to do it. And yeah, I'll encourage whatever makes 00:17:13.029 --> 00:17:16.990 that man smile, I'm up for. Have you ever seen 00:17:16.990 --> 00:17:20.460 those cards? It's like game. like, date cards. 00:17:20.619 --> 00:17:21.940 I don't know exactly what they are. I don't know 00:17:21.940 --> 00:17:24.039 if it's specifically a game or, like, you just 00:17:24.039 --> 00:17:25.980 pick from this deck of cards and it gives you 00:17:25.980 --> 00:17:29.299 ideas to do for a date night, something spontaneous. 00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:31.599 You have to, like, do whatever's on the card. 00:17:32.460 --> 00:17:34.279 Oh, I would love that. That sounds really cool. 00:17:34.579 --> 00:17:36.200 Yeah. I think they're fun. I haven't really looked 00:17:36.200 --> 00:17:38.160 into them, but just something kind of different 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:40.740 where you're not like, oh, okay. I think, too, 00:17:41.039 --> 00:17:43.950 we always do things... I mean, as you know, because 00:17:43.950 --> 00:17:46.130 you're our friend, but we do things a lot as 00:17:46.130 --> 00:17:48.490 groups. And that's so fun, too, as a group with 00:17:48.490 --> 00:17:51.609 everybody so everyone can get together. And it's 00:17:51.609 --> 00:17:54.029 so wonderful. But sometimes I think it does need 00:17:54.029 --> 00:17:57.250 to be just the two of you. Yeah. You got to bring 00:17:57.250 --> 00:18:00.609 it back to like where it started. Yeah. What 00:18:00.609 --> 00:18:03.990 was your first date or the first time that you 00:18:03.990 --> 00:18:08.509 like knew he was the one, you know? Oh, well, 00:18:08.509 --> 00:18:10.970 I feel like I knew he was the one before he was 00:18:10.970 --> 00:18:14.779 my man. So that goes back like a couple years 00:18:14.779 --> 00:18:16.859 before we actually started dating. It was just 00:18:16.859 --> 00:18:19.599 not kind of working. I just always had this connection 00:18:19.599 --> 00:18:23.099 to him for like a few years before we actually 00:18:23.099 --> 00:18:27.480 started dating. So I feel like I knew for a while. 00:18:27.500 --> 00:18:29.119 And then it was great because once we were dating, 00:18:29.140 --> 00:18:32.599 it was like, this is it. You know, this is it. 00:18:34.119 --> 00:18:39.079 First date, we went out to dinner. It was like 00:18:39.079 --> 00:18:42.400 actually just him and I. because in the beginning 00:18:42.400 --> 00:18:44.940 I feel like it was still a lot of group stuff 00:18:44.940 --> 00:18:50.400 and yeah it's hard to explain our situation at 00:18:50.400 --> 00:18:53.880 the time but yeah no I get it. What about you? 00:18:54.380 --> 00:18:56.500 Well ours was different because we were in high 00:18:56.500 --> 00:18:59.740 school you know so but I remember first seeing 00:18:59.740 --> 00:19:02.720 him when I was in sixth grade we got our yearbooks 00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:05.059 I was sitting in the gym going through the yearbook 00:19:05.059 --> 00:19:07.950 and then all of a sudden I saw this little Tiny, 00:19:08.190 --> 00:19:11.250 you know those like collage pages with like just 00:19:11.250 --> 00:19:13.809 random pictures of everybody from this from the 00:19:13.809 --> 00:19:18.529 class Yeah, I saw this Like little tiny picture 00:19:18.529 --> 00:19:21.329 of him and my heart stopped and I was like who 00:19:21.329 --> 00:19:25.809 is that? Oh my god, like I had this weird Connection 00:19:25.809 --> 00:19:28.089 right off the bat as soon as I saw this kid and 00:19:28.089 --> 00:19:31.049 you know, he was two years older than me So that 00:19:31.049 --> 00:19:32.730 was it that was like the last day school and 00:19:32.730 --> 00:19:35.309 I didn't see him again until I was in ninth grade 00:19:35.690 --> 00:19:38.910 And then I saw him in the hall and my heart literally, 00:19:39.829 --> 00:19:43.109 it was crazy. And then he would like flirt because 00:19:43.109 --> 00:19:45.470 he thought I looked like Neve Campbell. So he'd 00:19:45.470 --> 00:19:48.049 be like, hey, Neve. As I walked down the, and 00:19:48.049 --> 00:19:49.990 I'm like, oh my God, I can't believe he's talking. 00:19:50.329 --> 00:19:55.029 No, freaking out. And then our first date, I 00:19:55.029 --> 00:19:59.109 knew he was the one that day because I mean, 00:19:59.150 --> 00:20:01.730 I come up with some wild ideas, right? And so 00:20:01.730 --> 00:20:04.950 he's like, what do you want to do? And we picked 00:20:04.950 --> 00:20:07.829 wild flowers and we went to this old Civil War 00:20:07.829 --> 00:20:10.190 cemetery and we read everybody's name and put 00:20:10.190 --> 00:20:14.630 a flower down and just honored them. Why? I don't 00:20:14.630 --> 00:20:18.450 know. We were just living life in the moment. 00:20:19.250 --> 00:20:22.029 And he was game. He was literally game for anything. 00:20:22.170 --> 00:20:25.349 And I was like, wow, this guy's cool. Typical 00:20:25.349 --> 00:20:30.069 guys wouldn't do this. But yeah, it was a very 00:20:30.069 --> 00:20:34.299 out of the box first date. And he's been game 00:20:34.299 --> 00:20:36.980 for all my wild ideas ever since. That's one 00:20:36.980 --> 00:20:39.200 of the things I love about him. I could literally 00:20:39.200 --> 00:20:41.240 tell him like, oh, so I read this will bring 00:20:41.240 --> 00:20:46.000 us good luck if we bury a doll's arm under the 00:20:46.000 --> 00:20:48.759 third bush in our front yard. And he'd be like, 00:20:48.819 --> 00:20:52.000 well, how far do I have to dig the hole? He is 00:20:52.000 --> 00:20:54.700 so like that. That's so funny. My husband would 00:20:54.700 --> 00:20:58.000 be like, absolutely not. What are you talking 00:20:58.000 --> 00:21:01.160 about? Yeah, he's just, he goes along with my 00:21:01.160 --> 00:21:05.180 wild ideas. I love it. I love it. And you, you 00:21:05.180 --> 00:21:07.140 know, you just got to find that person that kind 00:21:07.140 --> 00:21:10.779 of just like the yin and yang, you know, he is 00:21:10.779 --> 00:21:14.279 the yin and yang. No, I love that. And to the 00:21:14.279 --> 00:21:16.039 yin and yang, I thought this was kind of cool 00:21:16.039 --> 00:21:19.799 because we like, you say that about things, right? 00:21:19.819 --> 00:21:22.400 Like, oh, you're the yin to my yang or, you know, 00:21:22.400 --> 00:21:25.240 with your friends or whatever. But I looked into 00:21:25.240 --> 00:21:30.059 it and the yin. and the yang have different personality 00:21:30.059 --> 00:21:40.059 qualities. So yin people are emotional, empathetic, 00:21:40.519 --> 00:21:44.519 calm, nurturing, intuitive. So that's like one 00:21:44.519 --> 00:21:49.559 side of it. Yang people are protective, decisive, 00:21:50.019 --> 00:21:54.609 energetic, strong, logical. So like They're two 00:21:54.609 --> 00:21:57.009 totally different people. And Steve is Yang. 00:21:57.230 --> 00:22:00.930 I mean, yeah. And it's just kind of funny because 00:22:00.930 --> 00:22:04.150 don't get me wrong, moms or women or whatever 00:22:04.150 --> 00:22:09.289 could be Yang for sure. But I think most people 00:22:09.289 --> 00:22:13.190 would feel like, like us moms, we're the in and 00:22:13.190 --> 00:22:19.630 dad is Yang. Oh, happy Yang day, guys. It's so 00:22:19.630 --> 00:22:22.670 cute. That was so cute. I mean, I remember drawing. 00:22:23.440 --> 00:22:27.059 Like that like, you know, yeah, I just it's so 00:22:27.059 --> 00:22:29.440 funny. I don't even know what I means I never 00:22:29.440 --> 00:22:31.640 knew what it means until today. That's really 00:22:31.640 --> 00:22:33.519 cool to think about Yeah, so I just thought it 00:22:33.519 --> 00:22:35.859 was like puzzle piece, you know, you're supporting 00:22:35.859 --> 00:22:38.519 each other Yeah, like you're lifting each other 00:22:38.519 --> 00:22:40.819 up and I think that that's huge in a relationship 00:22:40.819 --> 00:22:43.960 What you lack hopefully your partner is giving 00:22:43.960 --> 00:22:48.140 you. Yeah. Yeah, exactly Like you're just constantly 00:22:48.140 --> 00:22:53.279 supporting. Yeah, I am 100 % Ian Yeah. Oh, yeah. 00:22:53.500 --> 00:22:56.299 I mean, all the way. But that is really cool. 00:22:56.400 --> 00:22:59.460 I mean, you have to, what you lack, your partner 00:22:59.460 --> 00:23:02.640 has, you know, and vice versa. Like, and that's 00:23:02.640 --> 00:23:06.359 what just makes, makes it fit perfect. And it's 00:23:06.359 --> 00:23:09.079 just like a strong connection, you know? Yeah, 00:23:09.079 --> 00:23:13.900 it is. What about, like, do you remember when 00:23:13.900 --> 00:23:17.279 you first saw your husband hold a baby? Not even 00:23:17.279 --> 00:23:19.700 your own baby, just like any baby. Oh, yeah. 00:23:20.519 --> 00:23:23.200 Yeah, I think the first time I really at least 00:23:23.200 --> 00:23:25.859 noticed it was with one of our best friends I 00:23:25.859 --> 00:23:28.579 had twins and He was sitting this chair and he 00:23:28.579 --> 00:23:31.740 had both the babies in his arm and I was like, 00:23:31.740 --> 00:23:36.980 oh my god, it was just a softness to him and 00:23:36.980 --> 00:23:41.299 it was it was incredible and You know come to 00:23:41.299 --> 00:23:43.039 find out we were, you know pregnant probably 00:23:43.039 --> 00:23:45.960 the next month with our first but it was just 00:23:45.960 --> 00:23:48.779 it was really cool to see I know, it just makes 00:23:48.779 --> 00:23:52.000 you freaking fall apart. There's just something 00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:54.119 about, especially your own kid, when you see 00:23:54.119 --> 00:23:58.579 that, you're just like, whoa. I was coming out 00:23:58.579 --> 00:24:01.960 of surgery, so I was really a little messed up. 00:24:02.059 --> 00:24:03.880 My eyes were swollen shut. You were swollen. 00:24:04.019 --> 00:24:05.940 You definitely were a little puffy. I didn't 00:24:05.940 --> 00:24:08.240 see it for a couple of weeks afterwards, but 00:24:08.240 --> 00:24:11.539 when I came to and I looked up. But it is. It 00:24:11.539 --> 00:24:15.019 is something to behold. Yeah. It is special. 00:24:15.019 --> 00:24:18.599 It's just like, oh my god. I didn't think you 00:24:18.599 --> 00:24:22.579 could be any more handsome or cute or irresistible, 00:24:22.660 --> 00:24:25.180 but it's just like something with a man holding 00:24:25.180 --> 00:24:29.500 a baby. You're like, my God, I love you. I love 00:24:29.500 --> 00:24:34.000 you. I know. It's so great. I hope that they 00:24:34.000 --> 00:24:39.299 know how much we appreciate them. And just like 00:24:39.299 --> 00:24:41.980 for the moms, just feel the love all year round 00:24:41.980 --> 00:24:45.039 and know that we're grateful for all that they 00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:48.839 do, too. Yeah. They're incredible. We couldn't 00:24:48.839 --> 00:24:52.319 do anything without them. I couldn't. I sure 00:24:52.319 --> 00:24:54.619 as hell couldn't. I mean, I feel like me and 00:24:54.619 --> 00:24:58.900 Steve have been together for past lives. Do you 00:24:58.900 --> 00:25:02.619 believe in past lives? I sure do. And I 1 ,000 00:25:02.619 --> 00:25:06.859 % agree with you. You two are like, yeah, you've 00:25:06.859 --> 00:25:12.859 done this before. This is like old news. Yeah. 00:25:13.279 --> 00:25:17.339 I feel like, I don't know. Believe in past lives 00:25:17.339 --> 00:25:20.240 and I feel like I've been with this guy for hundreds 00:25:20.240 --> 00:25:24.140 of years, you know It's just old souls. I think 00:25:24.140 --> 00:25:29.480 too Yeah Yeah, I just love it. I love I can't 00:25:29.480 --> 00:25:31.279 think you were people or do you think you were 00:25:31.279 --> 00:25:42.039 like cats? Oh Interesting Okay, next person on 00:25:42.039 --> 00:25:45.400 here we need someone who can do a regression 00:25:45.400 --> 00:25:49.039 of some sort. Yeah, past life regression. Anybody 00:25:49.039 --> 00:25:51.359 out there want to come and talk with us, that 00:25:51.359 --> 00:25:53.759 would be a really cool episode. I'd love to find 00:25:53.759 --> 00:25:55.900 out my past lives. I've been told that I was 00:25:55.900 --> 00:25:59.619 like an herbalist, an alchemist. Yeah, I can 00:25:59.619 --> 00:26:02.559 see that. I think I got my something read in 00:26:02.559 --> 00:26:07.900 P -Town. And yeah, I had like my own apothecary, 00:26:08.059 --> 00:26:09.920 which I was like, oh my god, yeah, that makes 00:26:09.920 --> 00:26:13.259 so much sense. That's my dream. Yeah, like how 00:26:13.259 --> 00:26:16.359 can, can I like, I don't know, tap into that 00:26:16.359 --> 00:26:18.440 old hidden knowledge that I had before and like 00:26:18.440 --> 00:26:21.220 make this happen in this life too. Yeah. But 00:26:21.220 --> 00:26:23.220 yeah, I would love to know all about the past 00:26:23.220 --> 00:26:26.440 lives. Do you think you were with Matt in past 00:26:26.440 --> 00:26:28.440 lives? Or you think this is like fresh? I've 00:26:28.440 --> 00:26:30.460 never thought about it. I don't, I don't know. 00:26:31.700 --> 00:26:34.160 I don't know. I definitely think I've lived another 00:26:34.160 --> 00:26:37.759 life. Well, we know that we were together in 00:26:37.759 --> 00:26:39.960 past lives. Right. We did just find that out. 00:26:40.380 --> 00:26:42.240 We just found that out. That I now believe, since 00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:47.099 we were told. I agree with that. I would say 00:26:47.099 --> 00:26:51.400 no. I would say no, but not in a bad way. I feel 00:26:51.400 --> 00:26:54.519 like we have so much newness. You like to play 00:26:54.519 --> 00:26:59.440 the field. My old souls. I might have been a 00:26:59.440 --> 00:27:06.970 cat. That's funny. You're probably like... Well, 00:27:06.970 --> 00:27:09.529 we know you don't like to fly. I don't. Maybe 00:27:09.529 --> 00:27:11.529 you were a bird and that's why you died and that's 00:27:11.529 --> 00:27:14.750 why you don't like to fly. That would make so 00:27:14.750 --> 00:27:20.869 much sense. Yeah, mystery solved. Done. All right, 00:27:20.869 --> 00:27:23.829 cool. I mean, I don't really know what else to 00:27:23.829 --> 00:27:27.970 add after that. I mean, Nancy Drew figured it 00:27:27.970 --> 00:27:29.869 out. We don't need anyone to come on anymore. 00:27:29.869 --> 00:27:34.029 Never mind. No, I still want somebody to come 00:27:34.029 --> 00:27:39.230 and talk to us. Yeah, so I mean, bottom line, 00:27:39.549 --> 00:27:42.309 guys are awesome. We love them. We hope you all 00:27:42.309 --> 00:27:46.529 had a really amazing Father's Day. Nourish your 00:27:46.529 --> 00:27:50.109 relationship. Yeah, keep it fresh, keep it light, 00:27:50.430 --> 00:27:53.829 keep it fun, flirt, date. You need to date, for 00:27:53.829 --> 00:27:58.049 sure. Date your husband. And persuade him, or 00:27:58.049 --> 00:28:01.410 not pursue him. Not persuade him. You can persuade 00:28:01.410 --> 00:28:02.950 him too, if you want. You could persuade him 00:28:02.950 --> 00:28:05.619 to like... Finish that project and then you'll 00:28:05.619 --> 00:28:10.019 pursue him Maybe yeah goes at the end. Yeah, 00:28:10.400 --> 00:28:13.019 no, but I have a fun little quote that kind of 00:28:13.019 --> 00:28:17.119 corresponds with just You know who you pick as 00:28:17.119 --> 00:28:22.220 a partner in life, right? So it's a it says life 00:28:22.220 --> 00:28:27.740 hack by Justin Welsh. I don't I found it on on 00:28:27.740 --> 00:28:32.279 his page, but It says, marry someone that if 00:28:32.279 --> 00:28:35.019 you had no friends at all, you'd gladly spend 00:28:35.019 --> 00:28:39.420 every waking moment with. And yeah, I found that 00:28:39.420 --> 00:28:43.259 one. I will spend every lifetime with him, and 00:28:43.259 --> 00:28:45.980 I will try and learn his love language a little 00:28:45.980 --> 00:28:49.039 bit more. Hoping he switches his love language. 00:28:49.339 --> 00:28:52.759 Yeah, can we make quality time or words of affirmation? 00:28:52.779 --> 00:28:57.390 I'm really good at that one. Yeah, same. Yeah, 00:28:57.690 --> 00:28:59.930 no, that's perfect. Love the one you're with 00:28:59.930 --> 00:29:03.930 Yeah, and if and if it's not driving then kind 00:29:03.930 --> 00:29:06.049 of re -examine that you want to be with your 00:29:06.049 --> 00:29:08.910 best friend You want them to talk good about 00:29:08.910 --> 00:29:10.990 you behind your back, you know, you should be 00:29:10.990 --> 00:29:13.170 your ultimate hype man. Yeah, you're hype man. 00:29:13.650 --> 00:29:17.990 Exactly Always well, I think that's all for today, 00:29:18.130 --> 00:29:27.809 right? Yeah, I think so All right. Well, we hope 00:29:27.809 --> 00:29:31.750 you have a really great week and as always, keep 00:29:31.750 --> 00:29:32.069 it good.