WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.399 She is your everything. You know it deep down. 00:00:02.740 --> 00:00:04.879 You'd be a lost little puppy without her. So 00:00:04.879 --> 00:00:08.220 just show her. Show her in a unique and out -of 00:00:08.220 --> 00:00:11.359 -the -box way this year. And I guarantee it's 00:00:11.359 --> 00:00:21.239 gonna be really, really appreciated. Welcome 00:00:21.239 --> 00:00:24.199 back to Keep It Good. I'm your host Carly. And 00:00:24.199 --> 00:00:27.699 I'm your host Emily. Today's episode is dedicated 00:00:27.699 --> 00:00:31.050 to all the amazing mamas out there. We see you 00:00:31.050 --> 00:00:33.750 and we are here for you. Yeah. So dads, listen 00:00:33.750 --> 00:00:36.570 up because although this episode is focused on 00:00:36.570 --> 00:00:40.149 moms, we are about to tell you what mothers really 00:00:40.149 --> 00:00:43.509 want for Mother's Day. So, Emily, you're a mom 00:00:43.509 --> 00:00:46.130 of two girls. Have you always wanted to be a 00:00:46.130 --> 00:00:49.609 mom? I did. Absolutely. I used to say when I 00:00:49.609 --> 00:00:52.950 was younger, like, if being a mom was an actual... 00:00:52.859 --> 00:00:55.320 I know it's a job, but like a paying job, that's 00:00:55.320 --> 00:00:57.899 what I would have wanted to do. I wanted a ton 00:00:57.899 --> 00:01:00.740 of kids, five, six, seven kids, and I just couldn't 00:01:00.740 --> 00:01:02.460 wait. I could not wait to be a mom. What about 00:01:02.460 --> 00:01:06.439 you? I originally wanted four kids, but I was 00:01:06.439 --> 00:01:09.280 just happy having my two healthy little boys. 00:01:09.400 --> 00:01:11.799 If I could have more, I would, but that's just 00:01:11.799 --> 00:01:14.200 not the case. So I'm going to take my two and 00:01:14.200 --> 00:01:17.219 run with it, you know? Just, yeah, always wanted 00:01:17.219 --> 00:01:20.439 to be a mom, ever since like playing dolls and... 00:01:20.030 --> 00:01:23.430 Barbies and it was always mom focused. I also 00:01:23.430 --> 00:01:26.430 never realized how hard it would be being a mom, 00:01:26.670 --> 00:01:30.969 right? Yeah, it is it is the hardest job but 00:01:30.969 --> 00:01:34.209 so fulfilling and You just don't realize how 00:01:34.209 --> 00:01:36.629 much you could love something. It's like this 00:01:36.629 --> 00:01:40.549 incredible. It's a journey for sure yeah, lots 00:01:40.549 --> 00:01:44.379 of stages, but yeah good days bad days, but For 00:01:44.379 --> 00:01:47.920 the most part, it's just, wow, what a gift. So 00:01:47.920 --> 00:01:50.120 we started talking about gifts that we got for 00:01:50.120 --> 00:01:53.719 Mother's Day and what made us feel special. And 00:01:53.719 --> 00:01:57.019 looking back on the last 50 years, I bet everyone 00:01:57.019 --> 00:01:59.200 can guess what the number one gift is for Mother's 00:01:59.200 --> 00:02:04.000 Day. Hmm, let me take a stab. Yeah, right? Flowers 00:02:04.000 --> 00:02:07.000 and a card. Right. And I'm sorry, but I mean, 00:02:07.280 --> 00:02:09.400 step it up a little bit this year. Think outside 00:02:09.400 --> 00:02:14.050 the box. Personalize it. I mean... Mothers are 00:02:14.050 --> 00:02:17.889 just incredible human beings. So I think this 00:02:17.889 --> 00:02:21.169 year, maybe we all just like switch it up. The 00:02:21.169 --> 00:02:23.530 flowers are a little played out and they don't 00:02:23.530 --> 00:02:26.889 last, right? It's so true. And maybe, you know, 00:02:27.050 --> 00:02:29.909 the woman in your life, the mom, your wife, your 00:02:29.909 --> 00:02:33.289 own mom, isn't vocal about some of the things 00:02:33.289 --> 00:02:36.210 that we're going to share. So we thought it would 00:02:36.210 --> 00:02:40.009 be fun to give you a little idea. Yeah. I mean, 00:02:40.050 --> 00:02:42.800 so every mom is unique. We all... We're not into 00:02:42.800 --> 00:02:45.139 the same things. We are not a one -size -fits 00:02:45.139 --> 00:02:49.819 -all. But it reminds me of the SNL skit. I mean, 00:02:49.939 --> 00:02:51.400 even though it's Mother's Day, it reminds me 00:02:51.400 --> 00:02:53.479 of the Christmas one where it's like, they're 00:02:53.479 --> 00:02:55.840 going around showing everything that they got, 00:02:55.879 --> 00:02:58.900 and the kids are like, I got an Xbox. And the 00:02:58.900 --> 00:03:01.599 girl's like, I got Barbie Dream House. And the 00:03:01.599 --> 00:03:04.740 dad's like, I got a new lawnmower. And the mom's 00:03:04.740 --> 00:03:10.330 like, and I got a robe. Yeah. Why? Why? Why is 00:03:10.330 --> 00:03:12.530 it the one person who makes the magic happen 00:03:12.530 --> 00:03:15.710 for everybody just kind of gets a little toss 00:03:15.710 --> 00:03:19.389 to the side, you know? Yeah. We have enough robes. 00:03:19.610 --> 00:03:21.229 We have enough robes. Let's just start there. 00:03:22.250 --> 00:03:25.030 We definitely have enough robes. So, I mean, 00:03:25.050 --> 00:03:27.289 before we get into the gifts, we wanted to shine 00:03:27.289 --> 00:03:29.930 a little light on all the glorious things that 00:03:29.930 --> 00:03:33.610 happen as moms. Because maybe, like she said, 00:03:34.210 --> 00:03:38.169 your wife isn't very vocal. and hides a little 00:03:38.169 --> 00:03:40.729 bit of these things, but let me tell you guys, 00:03:41.090 --> 00:03:44.030 we are savage and we deal with a lot and it's 00:03:44.030 --> 00:03:46.550 not pretty. It's not pretty. And I'm sure that 00:03:46.550 --> 00:03:50.250 most of the dads do know about some of these 00:03:50.250 --> 00:03:54.270 things, but yeah, it's a lot. I mean, starting 00:03:54.270 --> 00:03:56.490 with just the pregnancy, not only are you carrying 00:03:56.490 --> 00:03:59.789 this human life form in your stomach, for nine 00:03:59.789 --> 00:04:02.150 months, which gets bigger and bigger. But you 00:04:02.150 --> 00:04:05.110 have heartburn all of a sudden. You have nausea. 00:04:05.189 --> 00:04:08.509 You have headaches. You have no sleep because 00:04:08.509 --> 00:04:11.849 that little baby is just kicking you from the 00:04:11.849 --> 00:04:14.509 inside out, which is an indescribable feeling. 00:04:14.710 --> 00:04:17.689 In all the things. All the things. It's a lot. 00:04:17.709 --> 00:04:20.810 Then you think, OK, I'm at the finish line. I'm 00:04:20.810 --> 00:04:24.110 about to deliver. Now you're talking stitches, 00:04:24.569 --> 00:04:27.259 a pad. that is the biggest thing you've ever 00:04:27.259 --> 00:04:30.240 seen in your life. Essentially a diaper. Yeah, 00:04:30.540 --> 00:04:35.819 a diaper. Bleeding out clots. You're not only 00:04:35.819 --> 00:04:37.959 leaking out that hole, you're leaking out every 00:04:37.959 --> 00:04:40.139 hole. I mean, no one tells you that because now 00:04:40.139 --> 00:04:42.699 your breasts are engulfed with milk that you 00:04:42.699 --> 00:04:47.220 have to feed every two hours and they crack. 00:04:48.680 --> 00:04:51.779 Crack nipples is a thing and it's not cool. No, 00:04:51.779 --> 00:04:54.959 it is not. It's navigating a whole new life. 00:04:54.959 --> 00:04:57.279 You have a new body. Yeah, there's I mean, I'm 00:04:57.279 --> 00:05:01.000 not gonna say names, but if you were also rewarded 00:05:01.000 --> 00:05:03.819 with this newfound growth on your body called 00:05:03.819 --> 00:05:07.480 a hemorrhoid then I mean that I mean that alone 00:05:07.480 --> 00:05:09.839 Deserves its own gift on Mother's Day because 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:16.500 what the fuck is that right? No And listen I 00:05:16.500 --> 00:05:21.000 had to see sections and I didn't know that I 00:05:21.000 --> 00:05:23.420 was still gonna have all of that like You still 00:05:23.420 --> 00:05:26.259 got to do all the other things. You're cut in 00:05:26.259 --> 00:05:29.139 a different area, too. Yeah, not only now you 00:05:29.139 --> 00:05:34.360 have stretch marks or saggy skin or whatever 00:05:34.360 --> 00:05:39.439 the case is, postpartum is huge. Yeah. Because 00:05:39.439 --> 00:05:42.800 you're just giving this baby and go home. Now 00:05:42.800 --> 00:05:45.100 you're dealing with two hours of sleep. You're 00:05:45.100 --> 00:05:48.139 trying to pump. You're trying to feed. You have 00:05:48.139 --> 00:05:52.470 the pressures of producing milk. Right. And not 00:05:52.470 --> 00:05:56.050 only like, no one told me how isolating it would 00:05:56.050 --> 00:05:58.649 feel. Yeah, everyone comes over like the day 00:05:58.649 --> 00:06:00.089 you bring them home and they're all excited. 00:06:00.269 --> 00:06:03.250 But I gave birth twice in the winter and I felt 00:06:03.250 --> 00:06:07.170 trapped. I could not do anything. I just couldn't, 00:06:07.170 --> 00:06:10.709 you know? And it's a whole, it's a shock. It's 00:06:10.709 --> 00:06:14.089 a whole world change. Yeah, everything changes. 00:06:14.110 --> 00:06:17.769 Very drastic. They might not vocalize that to 00:06:17.769 --> 00:06:19.610 you because you can have this kind of guilty. 00:06:20.060 --> 00:06:22.319 Feeling in the back your mind like I should be 00:06:22.319 --> 00:06:25.000 enjoying this but really I'm like am I being 00:06:25.000 --> 00:06:28.240 selfish because I can't Even take a shower now 00:06:28.240 --> 00:06:31.540 without worrying is the baby. Okay, you know, 00:06:31.540 --> 00:06:34.879 it's like your whole world your whole world just 00:06:34.879 --> 00:06:38.279 changed in the blink of an eye and looking back 00:06:38.279 --> 00:06:40.959 like the people who my husband was amazing he 00:06:40.959 --> 00:06:44.680 really was but Like my mom and my aunt and my 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:48.360 grandma the other moms in my world were the ones 00:06:48.360 --> 00:06:52.370 that were Like, okay, let's change your bed sheets. 00:06:52.470 --> 00:06:54.889 Take care of yourself, too. You know, go take 00:06:54.889 --> 00:06:57.370 a shower. It was my friends coming over and, 00:06:57.589 --> 00:07:00.089 you know, I'll watch the baby. Take a nap. Because 00:07:00.089 --> 00:07:03.290 for the dads, too, it's a whole new thing. So 00:07:03.290 --> 00:07:06.410 moms just get it, right? They just come and they 00:07:06.410 --> 00:07:08.589 do. My girlfriends helped. You know, you guys 00:07:08.589 --> 00:07:12.870 were all there. It's just, it's... Moms are superheroes. 00:07:13.129 --> 00:07:16.920 They're amazing. Yeah. We sit here and we joke 00:07:16.920 --> 00:07:18.399 that like, yeah, we have to go through all these 00:07:18.399 --> 00:07:22.920 things. But I mean, you just kind of do it. Absolutely. 00:07:23.879 --> 00:07:25.800 Yeah. I mean, now I can complain about it. But 00:07:25.800 --> 00:07:27.899 before I was like, all right, this is it. I mean, 00:07:27.899 --> 00:07:30.680 I have to pad my bra now with pads because I'm 00:07:30.680 --> 00:07:34.100 leaking. Like Carly, there's a little something 00:07:34.100 --> 00:07:39.360 on your shirt. Gosh. You just kind of roll with 00:07:39.360 --> 00:07:41.699 the punches. But I mean, this is your one day 00:07:41.699 --> 00:07:45.449 a year to really show. That special woman how 00:07:45.449 --> 00:07:48.750 much she means to you and the family and maybe 00:07:48.750 --> 00:07:51.949 it's not Maybe it's just your own mom, you know, 00:07:51.949 --> 00:07:53.829 because she went through this too. She didn't 00:07:53.829 --> 00:07:57.009 tell you about it, but it was not cool It was 00:07:57.009 --> 00:08:01.850 you know, everyone says like oh You know, you're 00:08:01.850 --> 00:08:04.430 gonna miss these days. I don't I don't miss some 00:08:04.430 --> 00:08:09.230 of those days Some of those days, yeah, I know 00:08:09.230 --> 00:08:13.129 I do miss the little baby snuggles. Yeah, so 00:08:13.310 --> 00:08:16.670 Like, let's fill mom's cup this year. Let's fill 00:08:16.670 --> 00:08:19.629 mom's cup. Absolutely. You know that saying, 00:08:19.649 --> 00:08:22.430 you can't pour from an empty cup, but she'll 00:08:22.430 --> 00:08:24.189 do it anyway. She'll give you the last couple 00:08:24.189 --> 00:08:27.910 of drops in her cup if it means everyone's happy. 00:08:28.329 --> 00:08:31.970 So fill her cup up. She was somebody before she 00:08:31.970 --> 00:08:35.889 had kids, so dive in and really explore pulling 00:08:35.889 --> 00:08:38.049 out that side of her again. You kind of lose 00:08:38.049 --> 00:08:40.230 yourself becoming a mom, you put everybody else 00:08:40.230 --> 00:08:44.429 first, you put your own ideas or hobbies on the 00:08:44.429 --> 00:08:47.490 back burner, and maybe one day you'll get back 00:08:47.490 --> 00:08:49.909 to it. Well, this year, kind of encourage her 00:08:49.909 --> 00:08:52.870 to do that. Well, especially since we're not 00:08:52.870 --> 00:08:55.759 all the same. You know, she needs to be celebrated 00:08:55.759 --> 00:08:59.919 in her own way and finding what she cares about 00:08:59.919 --> 00:09:03.120 or what she enjoys, her hobbies. Yeah, we're 00:09:03.120 --> 00:09:07.279 all different. So dads, here are some unique 00:09:07.279 --> 00:09:09.679 gifts that you can kind of think about this year, 00:09:09.960 --> 00:09:14.000 all right? Starting off with, say your wife used 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:17.340 to be an artist and she just kind of stopped 00:09:17.340 --> 00:09:20.059 because like I said, life got really crazy and 00:09:20.059 --> 00:09:22.879 hectic or she always wanted to do it. Why not 00:09:22.879 --> 00:09:26.279 do like an art basket? New brushes, new paints, 00:09:26.399 --> 00:09:28.899 some canvases, or if she doesn't know what she's 00:09:28.899 --> 00:09:32.799 doing, sign her up for an art class. Just really 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:35.639 anything that'll just bring out that special 00:09:35.639 --> 00:09:38.820 little side of her that she forgot about. How 00:09:38.820 --> 00:09:41.059 about like a sip and paint? Those are fun. Oh, 00:09:41.059 --> 00:09:43.360 I love that. Yeah. Sip and paint. Who doesn't 00:09:43.360 --> 00:09:45.980 love doing that? I mean, maybe not everybody, 00:09:46.259 --> 00:09:50.320 but that's a great idea. Yeah, I'd love sip and 00:09:50.320 --> 00:09:53.080 paints. That would be a cute little outing for 00:09:53.080 --> 00:09:55.919 the two of you or maybe her and her friend, like 00:09:55.919 --> 00:09:58.379 whatever. It's something different, right? Yes, 00:09:58.379 --> 00:10:01.179 for sure. How about like a spa basket? I mean, 00:10:01.320 --> 00:10:03.639 I love because that's the industry that I'm in. 00:10:03.899 --> 00:10:07.879 I would love a nice eye mask or a gift certificate 00:10:07.879 --> 00:10:10.580 for her to get her nails done or her hair. And 00:10:10.580 --> 00:10:12.240 it doesn't have to be these don't have to be 00:10:12.240 --> 00:10:15.379 huge monetary things. It could be thirty dollars 00:10:15.379 --> 00:10:18.879 to something. helps with the cost and cryo and 00:10:18.879 --> 00:10:21.779 red light and or a massage or a facial or something. 00:10:22.139 --> 00:10:25.039 I mean, that's on the, you know, higher end of 00:10:25.039 --> 00:10:27.059 things, but something that just lets her kind 00:10:27.059 --> 00:10:29.740 of get that relaxation and downtime, you know, 00:10:29.899 --> 00:10:32.970 sometimes for herself. Yeah, absolutely. Maybe 00:10:32.970 --> 00:10:35.350 if she's always wanted to try Reiki, get her 00:10:35.350 --> 00:10:38.090 that. Just anything that she's talked about before. 00:10:38.149 --> 00:10:40.870 If she loves spa, then sign her up for a different 00:10:40.870 --> 00:10:42.990 treatment that she's never had but always wanted. 00:10:43.149 --> 00:10:46.149 A mud bath. The zero -gravity bath. Like, there's 00:10:46.149 --> 00:10:48.830 so many cool things out there. Because when she 00:10:48.830 --> 00:10:51.470 has the time, guaranteed she's going to get a 00:10:51.470 --> 00:10:54.330 massage because she maybe doesn't have the time 00:10:54.330 --> 00:10:57.470 to kind of venture off a lot. So give her that, 00:10:57.610 --> 00:11:02.210 you know? What about... I love gardening. So 00:11:02.210 --> 00:11:07.389 if your girl is into gardening, I love like new 00:11:07.389 --> 00:11:10.970 garden gloves, a new kneeling pad, seeds, new 00:11:10.970 --> 00:11:14.190 pots, even a gift card to like your local nursery 00:11:14.190 --> 00:11:17.629 to get, you know, perennials or whatever else. 00:11:17.850 --> 00:11:22.629 Like that is specific to her and her hobby. And 00:11:22.629 --> 00:11:25.309 it's just something different. Like flowers, 00:11:25.490 --> 00:11:28.259 yeah, they're really sweet. They don't last, 00:11:28.279 --> 00:11:31.759 right? These are things that'll kind of keep 00:11:31.759 --> 00:11:34.879 her busy, give her a day to just kind of do her 00:11:34.879 --> 00:11:39.399 thing. And it's just, like I said, it's specific 00:11:39.399 --> 00:11:43.100 and it's thoughtful. Right. If she's into working 00:11:43.100 --> 00:11:46.620 out, it could be new running shoes or new yoga 00:11:46.620 --> 00:11:49.480 blocks. Again, doesn't have to be high -priced 00:11:49.480 --> 00:11:53.230 items. It can be, I know shoes can be, but. you 00:11:53.230 --> 00:11:56.470 know, bands to work out with or slides for the 00:11:56.470 --> 00:11:58.710 floor for her feet. What is she into and what 00:11:58.710 --> 00:12:02.850 can you do to help with that? Maybe she won't 00:12:02.850 --> 00:12:05.389 spend the time to go get these things for herself, 00:12:05.450 --> 00:12:07.570 but if she has them, I bet you she'll use them. 00:12:08.090 --> 00:12:11.470 Even a new water bottle. You can get her like... 00:12:11.470 --> 00:12:15.190 A yoga mat. Yeah, and you can find all this at 00:12:15.190 --> 00:12:17.429 like TJ Maxx. You could put together a cute little 00:12:17.429 --> 00:12:21.330 basket for 40 bucks. but it's personalized and 00:12:21.330 --> 00:12:23.309 it just showed that you went the extra mile. 00:12:23.750 --> 00:12:26.950 The basket idea I think is so great. I love getting 00:12:26.950 --> 00:12:29.289 baskets and I love giving baskets. It's just 00:12:29.289 --> 00:12:31.529 my favorite gift because you have a little bit 00:12:31.529 --> 00:12:35.850 of just everything. So even like new experiences, 00:12:36.309 --> 00:12:39.090 we've been giving our kids instead of presents 00:12:39.090 --> 00:12:41.389 a lot of time for like birthdays, we give them 00:12:41.389 --> 00:12:45.149 an experience. So last year my mom gave my boys 00:12:45.149 --> 00:12:47.789 horseback riding, you know, a day horseback riding. 00:12:48.750 --> 00:12:53.129 that is so cool because you would never schedule 00:12:53.129 --> 00:12:57.429 yourself for horseback riding or visiting a salt 00:12:57.429 --> 00:13:00.789 cave or you know it's just like all these cool 00:13:00.789 --> 00:13:04.710 things that are out there that guarantee mama 00:13:04.710 --> 00:13:07.809 is not going to sign up for because again she's 00:13:07.809 --> 00:13:10.889 going to put everybody else first but if you 00:13:10.889 --> 00:13:14.690 are just I don't know just sign her up for it 00:13:14.690 --> 00:13:18.320 you know maybe she's like me and very spiritual 00:13:18.320 --> 00:13:20.460 and into all these things, you can sign up for 00:13:20.460 --> 00:13:23.059 a house cleansing from a shaman. You know, like 00:13:23.059 --> 00:13:27.200 that gift really excited me more than you think 00:13:27.200 --> 00:13:31.419 it would. You know, it's just, yeah. Yeah, it 00:13:31.419 --> 00:13:33.960 did. But that's like why we're all different, 00:13:34.000 --> 00:13:36.519 right? Right, totally. What excites me is not 00:13:36.519 --> 00:13:40.600 going to excite you. But, you know, maybe she's, 00:13:40.600 --> 00:13:42.740 she could be a comic book nerd and want to go 00:13:42.740 --> 00:13:45.200 to Comic -Con or, you know what I mean? Totally. 00:13:45.559 --> 00:13:47.620 I would love my car to be cleaned, that sounds 00:13:47.620 --> 00:13:52.399 nice. Yeah, a car detail. There's so many things 00:13:52.399 --> 00:13:54.659 that you can literally just look at your wife 00:13:54.659 --> 00:13:57.860 or your girlfriend or your mom and just be like, 00:13:58.580 --> 00:14:02.500 you know, I haven't seen mom write in a long 00:14:02.500 --> 00:14:05.259 time. She used to be such a good writer. I'm 00:14:05.259 --> 00:14:07.500 going to get her a new notebook, a really nice 00:14:07.500 --> 00:14:12.620 pen, or just bring out whatever she loved to 00:14:12.620 --> 00:14:15.710 do at one point. and just forgot because she's 00:14:15.710 --> 00:14:19.009 got 5 ,000 things on her brain, you know? Yes. 00:14:19.429 --> 00:14:26.509 That's exactly the point. Yeah. So say money 00:14:26.509 --> 00:14:29.090 is tight and you can't afford writing lessons 00:14:29.090 --> 00:14:32.370 or paint lessons or pottery or all these things. 00:14:32.470 --> 00:14:35.669 Even just writing a really thoughtful love note. 00:14:35.789 --> 00:14:37.509 Oh my gosh, absolutely. There's so many things 00:14:37.509 --> 00:14:42.330 that you don't need to give her physically something. 00:14:42.519 --> 00:14:45.259 like a gift. It can be like a memory. It can 00:14:45.259 --> 00:14:47.779 be a family picnic or you guys like to take a 00:14:47.779 --> 00:14:52.279 family hike. Like that's so special to have that 00:14:52.279 --> 00:14:55.480 memory as a family as well. Put thought into 00:14:55.480 --> 00:14:58.259 it and be like, okay, at 12 o 'clock, put these 00:14:58.259 --> 00:15:01.120 shoes on, meet me and the kids, like make it 00:15:01.120 --> 00:15:03.679 fun, you know, make a plan, a little picnic, 00:15:04.360 --> 00:15:06.360 write her a beautiful love note, expressing how 00:15:06.360 --> 00:15:09.659 much you love her or even writing in the note, 00:15:09.840 --> 00:15:13.820 like, okay. I know you want to do yoga. You never 00:15:13.820 --> 00:15:16.720 make that a priority. So every Thursday, I'm 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:19.820 going to take the kids. You got an hour or two 00:15:19.820 --> 00:15:23.059 to just do you. Like, give her the gift of time. 00:15:24.159 --> 00:15:26.779 That doesn't cost you anything. And it's letting 00:15:26.779 --> 00:15:30.159 her just kind of release whatever's been built 00:15:30.159 --> 00:15:32.720 up on the weekly basis. That's one of the coolest 00:15:32.720 --> 00:15:35.360 gifts, you know? I totally agree. Yeah. The gift 00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:38.419 of time is incredible. Even if she just wants 00:15:38.419 --> 00:15:41.159 to Netflix and chill. Just give her a break, 00:15:41.360 --> 00:15:43.399 you know? Yeah. Give her a little break if she 00:15:43.399 --> 00:15:46.259 needs it. Absolutely. If she wants to go for 00:15:46.259 --> 00:15:50.399 a walk or get her nails done or whatever it does 00:15:50.399 --> 00:15:53.600 to fill up her cup. That's the point of all of 00:15:53.600 --> 00:15:59.179 this is to fill up mom's cup. Because happy wife, 00:15:59.440 --> 00:16:03.419 happy life. If mom's mad or stressed, I'm telling 00:16:03.419 --> 00:16:05.539 you no one in the house is going to be happy. 00:16:06.039 --> 00:16:09.840 But if mom is peaceful... and not stressed at 00:16:09.840 --> 00:16:13.080 all for even just a day. The house is magical, 00:16:13.379 --> 00:16:16.299 right? Yeah, absolutely. Well, they're everything. 00:16:16.500 --> 00:16:19.799 They are the private chef, the chauffeur, personal 00:16:19.799 --> 00:16:23.500 shopper, therapist, event planner. They, you 00:16:23.500 --> 00:16:25.679 know, it's kind of a big job. And I think we 00:16:25.679 --> 00:16:29.179 like to take that all on. But it's a lot. So 00:16:29.179 --> 00:16:32.000 just knowing that they're appreciated is, I think, 00:16:32.059 --> 00:16:36.519 what most most mommies want. Yeah. And half the 00:16:36.519 --> 00:16:39.990 time, Every mom questions if she's doing it right 00:16:39.990 --> 00:16:43.169 and if she's doing it well. So this year, you 00:16:43.169 --> 00:16:46.649 know, go above and beyond to tell her, to show 00:16:46.649 --> 00:16:51.629 her that, yeah, you are our world. I mean, if 00:16:51.629 --> 00:16:53.950 I didn't have my mom, I don't know. She's my 00:16:53.950 --> 00:16:59.190 everything and my in -law. I love them. It's 00:16:59.190 --> 00:17:01.730 just good every once in a while to really shout 00:17:01.730 --> 00:17:04.730 it from the rooftops. This goes for celebrating 00:17:04.730 --> 00:17:09.190 stepmoms, grandmas, aunts. Anyone in your world 00:17:09.190 --> 00:17:11.329 who was maybe a mother figure or is a mother, 00:17:11.410 --> 00:17:13.650 even if it's something tiny, doesn't obviously 00:17:13.650 --> 00:17:17.690 have to get everybody a basket. You know, just 00:17:17.690 --> 00:17:20.289 like a thank you and I appreciate, you know, 00:17:20.509 --> 00:17:22.890 what you did kind of thing. Not to downplay, 00:17:22.890 --> 00:17:25.069 you know, other parents or other positions either, 00:17:25.150 --> 00:17:29.329 but moms thrive as the CEO of the family. You 00:17:29.329 --> 00:17:32.849 know, so they do it because they want to. Yeah. 00:17:33.470 --> 00:17:36.269 Not saying that there are dads who don't take 00:17:36.269 --> 00:17:39.549 on 50%. My husband's amazing. Matt is amazing. 00:17:40.250 --> 00:17:42.349 They're incredible. We couldn't have asked for 00:17:42.349 --> 00:17:46.170 better husbands, right? Yes. when I turn over 00:17:46.170 --> 00:17:48.150 at night and I see my husband fall asleep in 00:17:48.150 --> 00:17:51.490 30 seconds, and I'm sitting there micromanaging 00:17:51.490 --> 00:17:54.890 tomorrow's schedule, there's a difference. It's 00:17:54.890 --> 00:17:56.410 going to take me 20 minutes to get everything 00:17:56.410 --> 00:18:01.569 off my head first. Yeah. There's a different 00:18:01.569 --> 00:18:05.750 vibe between moms and dads. Even if you're a 00:18:05.750 --> 00:18:09.349 single mom, fill your own cup. You deserve it. 00:18:09.500 --> 00:18:14.039 You, my dear, are a rock star above us all because 00:18:14.039 --> 00:18:17.539 I know I couldn't do it. I know I couldn't do 00:18:17.539 --> 00:18:19.700 it. You deserve it. Like if you have a friend 00:18:19.700 --> 00:18:22.059 who's a single mom, give her a little shout out 00:18:22.059 --> 00:18:23.740 or take the kiddos to the park for an hour and 00:18:23.740 --> 00:18:25.500 a half with yours to give her a little break. 00:18:25.700 --> 00:18:29.500 Yeah. And some guys are not going to listen to 00:18:29.500 --> 00:18:32.019 this and get the ideas, right? So you kind of 00:18:32.019 --> 00:18:34.980 have to tell them and set the ball in motion 00:18:34.980 --> 00:18:37.700 as to what you're interested in, right? Like 00:18:37.700 --> 00:18:41.750 I... I have totally eliminated ever being disappointed 00:18:41.750 --> 00:18:45.410 on Mother's Day because I'm pretty easy. And 00:18:45.410 --> 00:18:48.630 I have told my husband, I want a fern, and I 00:18:48.630 --> 00:18:50.710 want to go on a family hike. Those are my two 00:18:50.710 --> 00:18:54.230 requirements for Mother's Day. And so far, every 00:18:54.230 --> 00:18:57.130 year I've gotten my beautiful fern, which lasts 00:18:57.130 --> 00:19:00.390 until just about winter outside. It gets huge. 00:19:00.769 --> 00:19:03.130 And I get to admire it and look at it every single 00:19:03.130 --> 00:19:05.910 day by my front door. And we go on our family 00:19:05.910 --> 00:19:09.420 hike. You know, it's not expensive. It's not 00:19:09.420 --> 00:19:12.440 very drastic of me to ask for. So if there's 00:19:12.440 --> 00:19:15.700 something like that that just makes you so happy, 00:19:16.059 --> 00:19:17.859 then just say it. Spell it out, because some 00:19:17.859 --> 00:19:19.559 guys are not going to get it. You know, it's 00:19:19.559 --> 00:19:23.460 OK. It's OK to ask for what you want. Yeah, that's 00:19:23.460 --> 00:19:26.640 a great idea. We tend to do like a breakfast 00:19:26.640 --> 00:19:28.799 or a brunch. Yeah. Maybe we'll do that this year. 00:19:28.880 --> 00:19:32.480 Could use a hike. Oh, it's like soul food, you 00:19:32.480 --> 00:19:36.069 know. Yes, for sure. But so say you. So you already 00:19:36.069 --> 00:19:38.170 got your girl gift this year, right? And you're 00:19:38.170 --> 00:19:41.470 like, damn it. Well, use this for next year. 00:19:42.009 --> 00:19:45.170 And I want you to practice this year active listening. 00:19:45.390 --> 00:19:47.369 And this is something I started doing with my 00:19:47.369 --> 00:19:51.329 husband, and it's worked wonders. Like, he has 00:19:51.329 --> 00:19:54.009 come very far, let me tell you. Because I'm telling 00:19:54.009 --> 00:19:56.829 you guys, they're throwing hints throughout the 00:19:56.829 --> 00:19:59.509 whole year of certain things that they like, 00:19:59.670 --> 00:20:03.880 or they would love to do, or they need. you know 00:20:03.880 --> 00:20:06.559 and you're just like kind of oh yeah okay and 00:20:06.559 --> 00:20:10.119 then you move on put a note in your phone today 00:20:10.119 --> 00:20:13.859 of just active listening right just say that 00:20:13.859 --> 00:20:18.099 and every time you hear an idea or a hint of 00:20:18.099 --> 00:20:21.980 something she would love to do love to try anything 00:20:21.980 --> 00:20:24.180 just make a note and then next year guess what 00:20:24.180 --> 00:20:26.579 instead of panicking the day before Mother's 00:20:26.579 --> 00:20:29.359 Day you're gonna have like 20 ideas of things 00:20:29.359 --> 00:20:31.839 she's really interested in and things that she 00:20:31.839 --> 00:20:35.359 would just absolutely love that you took the 00:20:35.359 --> 00:20:38.079 time and she'll be like oh my god he was listening 00:20:38.079 --> 00:20:41.579 that alone right you have ideas for birthday 00:20:41.579 --> 00:20:45.299 Christmas just a surprise absolutely because 00:20:45.299 --> 00:20:47.299 really at the end of the day every girl just 00:20:47.299 --> 00:20:49.769 wants to be heard And so for you to show that 00:20:49.769 --> 00:20:52.470 you were listening and you heard her, that is 00:20:52.470 --> 00:20:55.309 a gift in itself. Yeah, you were thoughtful and 00:20:55.309 --> 00:20:57.529 put some effort in. Bottom line, that's all we 00:20:57.529 --> 00:21:00.210 ever ask for is something thoughtful. Doesn't 00:21:00.210 --> 00:21:02.829 seem like it's last minute. Doesn't seem like 00:21:02.829 --> 00:21:05.690 it's forced. That doesn't really make you feel 00:21:05.690 --> 00:21:09.190 special or appreciated or anything, you know, 00:21:09.250 --> 00:21:11.809 other than a burden. Like, OK, it's Mother's 00:21:11.809 --> 00:21:14.009 Day. They feel like they have to kind of. They 00:21:14.009 --> 00:21:18.410 just went to Walgreens. Yeah, got me M &Ms and, 00:21:18.450 --> 00:21:22.690 you know, like whatever. No, guys. Fill her cup. 00:21:23.410 --> 00:21:26.069 Yeah, fill her cup. She is your everything. You 00:21:26.069 --> 00:21:28.549 know it deep down. You'd be a lost little puppy 00:21:28.549 --> 00:21:31.470 without her. So just show her. Show her in a 00:21:31.470 --> 00:21:34.609 unique and out of the box way this year and I 00:21:34.609 --> 00:21:37.150 guarantee it's gonna. It's going to be really, 00:21:37.150 --> 00:21:41.430 really appreciated. So I hope that you got a 00:21:41.430 --> 00:21:43.650 little bit of ideas from this one. It's a short 00:21:43.650 --> 00:21:47.289 and sweet little episode. But yeah, moms, I hope 00:21:47.289 --> 00:21:50.089 you all have a beautiful Mother's Day. Happy 00:21:50.089 --> 00:21:52.970 Mother's Day to the mamas. Happy Mother's Day 00:21:52.970 --> 00:21:57.069 to all the mamas. So our quote this week is by 00:21:57.069 --> 00:22:01.630 Mitch Album. Behind all your stories is always 00:22:01.630 --> 00:22:04.730 your mother's story, because hers is where yours 00:22:04.730 --> 00:22:09.849 begins. And I love that because, like, it's so 00:22:09.849 --> 00:22:12.890 true. Like, she was a woman before she gave birth, 00:22:12.970 --> 00:22:15.269 right? So she has a whole other story before 00:22:15.269 --> 00:22:18.109 even becoming a mom. And it just kind of makes 00:22:18.109 --> 00:22:20.509 you think of her. That was a perfect one. I love 00:22:20.509 --> 00:22:22.970 it. Well, happy Mother's Day, Emily, if I don't 00:22:22.970 --> 00:22:25.349 see you. Happy Mother's Day to you too, babe. 00:22:25.569 --> 00:22:28.109 We hope you have a very special week. And as 00:22:28.109 --> 00:22:29.130 always, keep it good.