She is your everything. You know it deep down.
You'd be a lost little puppy without her. So
just show her. Show her in a unique and out -of
-the -box way this year. And I guarantee it's
gonna be really, really appreciated. Welcome
back to Keep It Good. I'm your host Carly. And
I'm your host Emily. Today's episode is dedicated
to all the amazing mamas out there. We see you
and we are here for you. Yeah. So dads, listen
up because although this episode is focused on
moms, we are about to tell you what mothers really
want for Mother's Day. So, Emily, you're a mom
of two girls. Have you always wanted to be a
mom? I did. Absolutely. I used to say when I
was younger, like, if being a mom was an actual...
I know it's a job, but like a paying job, that's
what I would have wanted to do. I wanted a ton
of kids, five, six, seven kids, and I just couldn't
wait. I could not wait to be a mom. What about
you? I originally wanted four kids, but I was
just happy having my two healthy little boys.
If I could have more, I would, but that's just
not the case. So I'm going to take my two and
run with it, you know? Just, yeah, always wanted
to be a mom, ever since like playing dolls and...
Barbies and it was always mom focused. I also
never realized how hard it would be being a mom,
right? Yeah, it is it is the hardest job but
so fulfilling and You just don't realize how
much you could love something. It's like this
incredible. It's a journey for sure yeah, lots
of stages, but yeah good days bad days, but For
the most part, it's just, wow, what a gift. So
we started talking about gifts that we got for
Mother's Day and what made us feel special. And
looking back on the last 50 years, I bet everyone
can guess what the number one gift is for Mother's
Day. Hmm, let me take a stab. Yeah, right? Flowers
and a card. Right. And I'm sorry, but I mean,
step it up a little bit this year. Think outside
the box. Personalize it. I mean... Mothers are
just incredible human beings. So I think this
year, maybe we all just like switch it up. The
flowers are a little played out and they don't
last, right? It's so true. And maybe, you know,
the woman in your life, the mom, your wife, your
own mom, isn't vocal about some of the things
that we're going to share. So we thought it would
be fun to give you a little idea. Yeah. I mean,
so every mom is unique. We all... We're not into
the same things. We are not a one -size -fits
-all. But it reminds me of the SNL skit. I mean,
even though it's Mother's Day, it reminds me
of the Christmas one where it's like, they're
going around showing everything that they got,
and the kids are like, I got an Xbox. And the
girl's like, I got Barbie Dream House. And the
dad's like, I got a new lawnmower. And the mom's
like, and I got a robe. Yeah. Why? Why? Why is
it the one person who makes the magic happen
for everybody just kind of gets a little toss
to the side, you know? Yeah. We have enough robes.
We have enough robes. Let's just start there.
We definitely have enough robes. So, I mean,
before we get into the gifts, we wanted to shine
a little light on all the glorious things that
happen as moms. Because maybe, like she said,
your wife isn't very vocal. and hides a little
bit of these things, but let me tell you guys,
we are savage and we deal with a lot and it's
not pretty. It's not pretty. And I'm sure that
most of the dads do know about some of these
things, but yeah, it's a lot. I mean, starting
with just the pregnancy, not only are you carrying
this human life form in your stomach, for nine
months, which gets bigger and bigger. But you
have heartburn all of a sudden. You have nausea.
You have headaches. You have no sleep because
that little baby is just kicking you from the
inside out, which is an indescribable feeling.
In all the things. All the things. It's a lot.
Then you think, OK, I'm at the finish line. I'm
about to deliver. Now you're talking stitches,
a pad. that is the biggest thing you've ever
seen in your life. Essentially a diaper. Yeah,
a diaper. Bleeding out clots. You're not only
leaking out that hole, you're leaking out every
hole. I mean, no one tells you that because now
your breasts are engulfed with milk that you
have to feed every two hours and they crack.
Crack nipples is a thing and it's not cool. No,
it is not. It's navigating a whole new life.
You have a new body. Yeah, there's I mean, I'm
not gonna say names, but if you were also rewarded
with this newfound growth on your body called
a hemorrhoid then I mean that I mean that alone
Deserves its own gift on Mother's Day because
what the fuck is that right? No And listen I
had to see sections and I didn't know that I
was still gonna have all of that like You still
got to do all the other things. You're cut in
a different area, too. Yeah, not only now you
have stretch marks or saggy skin or whatever
the case is, postpartum is huge. Yeah. Because
you're just giving this baby and go home. Now
you're dealing with two hours of sleep. You're
trying to pump. You're trying to feed. You have
the pressures of producing milk. Right. And not
only like, no one told me how isolating it would
feel. Yeah, everyone comes over like the day
you bring them home and they're all excited.
But I gave birth twice in the winter and I felt
trapped. I could not do anything. I just couldn't,
you know? And it's a whole, it's a shock. It's
a whole world change. Yeah, everything changes.
Very drastic. They might not vocalize that to
you because you can have this kind of guilty.
Feeling in the back your mind like I should be
enjoying this but really I'm like am I being
selfish because I can't Even take a shower now
without worrying is the baby. Okay, you know,
it's like your whole world your whole world just
changed in the blink of an eye and looking back
like the people who my husband was amazing he
really was but Like my mom and my aunt and my
grandma the other moms in my world were the ones
that were Like, okay, let's change your bed sheets.
Take care of yourself, too. You know, go take
a shower. It was my friends coming over and,
you know, I'll watch the baby. Take a nap. Because
for the dads, too, it's a whole new thing. So
moms just get it, right? They just come and they
do. My girlfriends helped. You know, you guys
were all there. It's just, it's... Moms are superheroes.
They're amazing. Yeah. We sit here and we joke
that like, yeah, we have to go through all these
things. But I mean, you just kind of do it. Absolutely.
Yeah. I mean, now I can complain about it. But
before I was like, all right, this is it. I mean,
I have to pad my bra now with pads because I'm
leaking. Like Carly, there's a little something
on your shirt. Gosh. You just kind of roll with
the punches. But I mean, this is your one day
a year to really show. That special woman how
much she means to you and the family and maybe
it's not Maybe it's just your own mom, you know,
because she went through this too. She didn't
tell you about it, but it was not cool It was
you know, everyone says like oh You know, you're
gonna miss these days. I don't I don't miss some
of those days Some of those days, yeah, I know
I do miss the little baby snuggles. Yeah, so
Like, let's fill mom's cup this year. Let's fill
mom's cup. Absolutely. You know that saying,
you can't pour from an empty cup, but she'll
do it anyway. She'll give you the last couple
of drops in her cup if it means everyone's happy.
So fill her cup up. She was somebody before she
had kids, so dive in and really explore pulling
out that side of her again. You kind of lose
yourself becoming a mom, you put everybody else
first, you put your own ideas or hobbies on the
back burner, and maybe one day you'll get back
to it. Well, this year, kind of encourage her
to do that. Well, especially since we're not
all the same. You know, she needs to be celebrated
in her own way and finding what she cares about
or what she enjoys, her hobbies. Yeah, we're
all different. So dads, here are some unique
gifts that you can kind of think about this year,
all right? Starting off with, say your wife used
to be an artist and she just kind of stopped
because like I said, life got really crazy and
hectic or she always wanted to do it. Why not
do like an art basket? New brushes, new paints,
some canvases, or if she doesn't know what she's
doing, sign her up for an art class. Just really
anything that'll just bring out that special
little side of her that she forgot about. How
about like a sip and paint? Those are fun. Oh,
I love that. Yeah. Sip and paint. Who doesn't
love doing that? I mean, maybe not everybody,
but that's a great idea. Yeah, I'd love sip and
paints. That would be a cute little outing for
the two of you or maybe her and her friend, like
whatever. It's something different, right? Yes,
for sure. How about like a spa basket? I mean,
I love because that's the industry that I'm in.
I would love a nice eye mask or a gift certificate
for her to get her nails done or her hair. And
it doesn't have to be these don't have to be
huge monetary things. It could be thirty dollars
to something. helps with the cost and cryo and
red light and or a massage or a facial or something.
I mean, that's on the, you know, higher end of
things, but something that just lets her kind
of get that relaxation and downtime, you know,
sometimes for herself. Yeah, absolutely. Maybe
if she's always wanted to try Reiki, get her
that. Just anything that she's talked about before.
If she loves spa, then sign her up for a different
treatment that she's never had but always wanted.
A mud bath. The zero -gravity bath. Like, there's
so many cool things out there. Because when she
has the time, guaranteed she's going to get a
massage because she maybe doesn't have the time
to kind of venture off a lot. So give her that,
you know? What about... I love gardening. So
if your girl is into gardening, I love like new
garden gloves, a new kneeling pad, seeds, new
pots, even a gift card to like your local nursery
to get, you know, perennials or whatever else.
Like that is specific to her and her hobby. And
it's just something different. Like flowers,
yeah, they're really sweet. They don't last,
right? These are things that'll kind of keep
her busy, give her a day to just kind of do her
thing. And it's just, like I said, it's specific
and it's thoughtful. Right. If she's into working
out, it could be new running shoes or new yoga
blocks. Again, doesn't have to be high -priced
items. It can be, I know shoes can be, but. you
know, bands to work out with or slides for the
floor for her feet. What is she into and what
can you do to help with that? Maybe she won't
spend the time to go get these things for herself,
but if she has them, I bet you she'll use them.
Even a new water bottle. You can get her like...
A yoga mat. Yeah, and you can find all this at
like TJ Maxx. You could put together a cute little
basket for 40 bucks. but it's personalized and
it just showed that you went the extra mile.
The basket idea I think is so great. I love getting
baskets and I love giving baskets. It's just
my favorite gift because you have a little bit
of just everything. So even like new experiences,
we've been giving our kids instead of presents
a lot of time for like birthdays, we give them
an experience. So last year my mom gave my boys
horseback riding, you know, a day horseback riding.
that is so cool because you would never schedule
yourself for horseback riding or visiting a salt
cave or you know it's just like all these cool
things that are out there that guarantee mama
is not going to sign up for because again she's
going to put everybody else first but if you
are just I don't know just sign her up for it
you know maybe she's like me and very spiritual
and into all these things, you can sign up for
a house cleansing from a shaman. You know, like
that gift really excited me more than you think
it would. You know, it's just, yeah. Yeah, it
did. But that's like why we're all different,
right? Right, totally. What excites me is not
going to excite you. But, you know, maybe she's,
she could be a comic book nerd and want to go
to Comic -Con or, you know what I mean? Totally.
I would love my car to be cleaned, that sounds
nice. Yeah, a car detail. There's so many things
that you can literally just look at your wife
or your girlfriend or your mom and just be like,
you know, I haven't seen mom write in a long
time. She used to be such a good writer. I'm
going to get her a new notebook, a really nice
pen, or just bring out whatever she loved to
do at one point. and just forgot because she's
got 5 ,000 things on her brain, you know? Yes.
That's exactly the point. Yeah. So say money
is tight and you can't afford writing lessons
or paint lessons or pottery or all these things.
Even just writing a really thoughtful love note.
Oh my gosh, absolutely. There's so many things
that you don't need to give her physically something.
like a gift. It can be like a memory. It can
be a family picnic or you guys like to take a
family hike. Like that's so special to have that
memory as a family as well. Put thought into
it and be like, okay, at 12 o 'clock, put these
shoes on, meet me and the kids, like make it
fun, you know, make a plan, a little picnic,
write her a beautiful love note, expressing how
much you love her or even writing in the note,
like, okay. I know you want to do yoga. You never
make that a priority. So every Thursday, I'm
going to take the kids. You got an hour or two
to just do you. Like, give her the gift of time.
That doesn't cost you anything. And it's letting
her just kind of release whatever's been built
up on the weekly basis. That's one of the coolest
gifts, you know? I totally agree. Yeah. The gift
of time is incredible. Even if she just wants
to Netflix and chill. Just give her a break,
you know? Yeah. Give her a little break if she
needs it. Absolutely. If she wants to go for
a walk or get her nails done or whatever it does
to fill up her cup. That's the point of all of
this is to fill up mom's cup. Because happy wife,
happy life. If mom's mad or stressed, I'm telling
you no one in the house is going to be happy.
But if mom is peaceful... and not stressed at
all for even just a day. The house is magical,
right? Yeah, absolutely. Well, they're everything.
They are the private chef, the chauffeur, personal
shopper, therapist, event planner. They, you
know, it's kind of a big job. And I think we
like to take that all on. But it's a lot. So
just knowing that they're appreciated is, I think,
what most most mommies want. Yeah. And half the
time, Every mom questions if she's doing it right
and if she's doing it well. So this year, you
know, go above and beyond to tell her, to show
her that, yeah, you are our world. I mean, if
I didn't have my mom, I don't know. She's my
everything and my in -law. I love them. It's
just good every once in a while to really shout
it from the rooftops. This goes for celebrating
stepmoms, grandmas, aunts. Anyone in your world
who was maybe a mother figure or is a mother,
even if it's something tiny, doesn't obviously
have to get everybody a basket. You know, just
like a thank you and I appreciate, you know,
what you did kind of thing. Not to downplay,
you know, other parents or other positions either,
but moms thrive as the CEO of the family. You
know, so they do it because they want to. Yeah.
Not saying that there are dads who don't take
on 50%. My husband's amazing. Matt is amazing.
They're incredible. We couldn't have asked for
better husbands, right? Yes. when I turn over
at night and I see my husband fall asleep in
30 seconds, and I'm sitting there micromanaging
tomorrow's schedule, there's a difference. It's
going to take me 20 minutes to get everything
off my head first. Yeah. There's a different
vibe between moms and dads. Even if you're a
single mom, fill your own cup. You deserve it.
You, my dear, are a rock star above us all because
I know I couldn't do it. I know I couldn't do
it. You deserve it. Like if you have a friend
who's a single mom, give her a little shout out
or take the kiddos to the park for an hour and
a half with yours to give her a little break.
Yeah. And some guys are not going to listen to
this and get the ideas, right? So you kind of
have to tell them and set the ball in motion
as to what you're interested in, right? Like
I... I have totally eliminated ever being disappointed
on Mother's Day because I'm pretty easy. And
I have told my husband, I want a fern, and I
want to go on a family hike. Those are my two
requirements for Mother's Day. And so far, every
year I've gotten my beautiful fern, which lasts
until just about winter outside. It gets huge.
And I get to admire it and look at it every single
day by my front door. And we go on our family
hike. You know, it's not expensive. It's not
very drastic of me to ask for. So if there's
something like that that just makes you so happy,
then just say it. Spell it out, because some
guys are not going to get it. You know, it's
OK. It's OK to ask for what you want. Yeah, that's
a great idea. We tend to do like a breakfast
or a brunch. Yeah. Maybe we'll do that this year.
Could use a hike. Oh, it's like soul food, you
know. Yes, for sure. But so say you. So you already
got your girl gift this year, right? And you're
like, damn it. Well, use this for next year.
And I want you to practice this year active listening.
And this is something I started doing with my
husband, and it's worked wonders. Like, he has
come very far, let me tell you. Because I'm telling
you guys, they're throwing hints throughout the
whole year of certain things that they like,
or they would love to do, or they need. you know
and you're just like kind of oh yeah okay and
then you move on put a note in your phone today
of just active listening right just say that
and every time you hear an idea or a hint of
something she would love to do love to try anything
just make a note and then next year guess what
instead of panicking the day before Mother's
Day you're gonna have like 20 ideas of things
she's really interested in and things that she
would just absolutely love that you took the
time and she'll be like oh my god he was listening
that alone right you have ideas for birthday
Christmas just a surprise absolutely because
really at the end of the day every girl just
wants to be heard And so for you to show that
you were listening and you heard her, that is
a gift in itself. Yeah, you were thoughtful and
put some effort in. Bottom line, that's all we
ever ask for is something thoughtful. Doesn't
seem like it's last minute. Doesn't seem like
it's forced. That doesn't really make you feel
special or appreciated or anything, you know,
other than a burden. Like, OK, it's Mother's
Day. They feel like they have to kind of. They
just went to Walgreens. Yeah, got me M &Ms and,
you know, like whatever. No, guys. Fill her cup.
Yeah, fill her cup. She is your everything. You
know it deep down. You'd be a lost little puppy
without her. So just show her. Show her in a
unique and out of the box way this year and I
guarantee it's gonna. It's going to be really,
really appreciated. So I hope that you got a
little bit of ideas from this one. It's a short
and sweet little episode. But yeah, moms, I hope
you all have a beautiful Mother's Day. Happy
Mother's Day to the mamas. Happy Mother's Day
to all the mamas. So our quote this week is by
Mitch Album. Behind all your stories is always
your mother's story, because hers is where yours
begins. And I love that because, like, it's so
true. Like, she was a woman before she gave birth,
right? So she has a whole other story before
even becoming a mom. And it just kind of makes
you think of her. That was a perfect one. I love
it. Well, happy Mother's Day, Emily, if I don't
see you. Happy Mother's Day to you too, babe.
We hope you have a very special week. And as
always, keep it good.