WEBVTT 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:08.580 Welcome to the 1920s dating experience. It's 00:00:08.580 --> 00:00:17.620 my house and I am the lovely Dr. Bar. Hi Dr. 00:00:17.760 --> 00:00:23.739 Bar! This is the dating season girls. This 00:00:23.739 --> 00:00:27.899 is the time of year when we have our special edition. 00:00:28.039 --> 00:00:34.479 We have five girls. We have Darlene, 00:00:35.119 --> 00:00:43.700 Mary-Ann, Melissa, Isabel and Isabella. We 00:00:43.700 --> 00:00:47.380 are your dating experts. What we don't know 00:00:47.380 --> 00:00:53.859 we will research it for you. Girls! This letter 00:00:53.859 --> 00:01:02.979 is concerning to all involved. You gave 00:01:02.979 --> 00:01:08.480 me this email, it says Dear girls, Dear Dr. 00:01:08.700 --> 00:01:20.579 Bar; I have been dating a man for seven years. 00:01:20.579 --> 00:01:27.319 We meet sometimes three times a week or once 00:01:27.319 --> 00:01:30.939 a week, depending. He would call me three 00:01:30.939 --> 00:01:36.260 times a day. The reason it continued for seven 00:01:36.260 --> 00:01:40.879 years is because he asked me to marry him, after 00:01:40.879 --> 00:01:48.219 the fifth date. She said' every time she tried to arrange 00:01:48.219 --> 00:01:54.400 the wedding, he would tell her, it is very old -fashioned 00:01:56.119 --> 00:02:05.239 then change the topic. He has this presence from 00:02:05.239 --> 00:02:09.780 what the email said! There is his presence. It is 00:02:09.780 --> 00:02:13.460 almost impossible for her to get away from him. 00:02:13.460 --> 00:02:17.800 He calls three times a day. They meet three 00:02:17.800 --> 00:02:21.900 times a week, sometimes two. She has no idea where 00:02:21.900 --> 00:02:26.210 he lives. She has no idea where he works. He knows 00:02:26.210 --> 00:02:39.050 everything about her. What do you think? About this guy? 00:02:39.050 --> 00:02:45.650 What should I do? Okay girls! This is an open 00:02:45.650 --> 00:02:51.849 situation for me to listen to all the opinions. 00:02:51.849 --> 00:02:56.060 I am going to give my answer. Well, I am 00:02:56.060 --> 00:03:02.800 going to give the Dr. Barr answer! What 00:03:02.800 --> 00:03:06.860 I think is happening here is, 00:03:06.860 --> 00:03:10.840 the blueprint. This is the master of Blueprints. 00:03:10.840 --> 00:03:14.840 When people are dating. I think they should 00:03:14.840 --> 00:03:22.560 hear this...! This is a guy that lives in his mother's 00:03:22.560 --> 00:03:26.879 basement or live with his mother. Maybe not the 00:03:26.879 --> 00:03:29.879 basement, but he is in the house living with his mother. 00:03:30.699 --> 00:03:37.259 Okay? He replaced his mother. This lady is now 00:03:37.259 --> 00:03:41.379 his surrogate mother, just in case his mother 00:03:41.379 --> 00:03:55.900 died or dies. Yeah...! I Think he went in search 00:03:55.900 --> 00:03:59.919 of, to replace his mother. He was concerned 00:03:59.919 --> 00:04:03.300 that in the event one day he would wake up and 00:04:03.300 --> 00:04:07.680 the mother would die. He is going to be stuck on 00:04:07.680 --> 00:04:14.360 his own. Here she comes! The consolation 00:04:14.360 --> 00:04:18.699 is however if the mother should die he will never 00:04:18.699 --> 00:04:24.490 marry her. He will probably go out and find another 00:04:24.490 --> 00:04:29.850 person. Just in case this one, something would 00:04:29.850 --> 00:04:33.389 happen to this one. He would never move her into 00:04:33.389 --> 00:04:37.509 that house where he lived with his mother. 00:04:37.509 --> 00:04:42.350 He has not developed that part of his spiritual 00:04:42.350 --> 00:04:46.189 being. His sexuality was never developed. I am 00:04:46.189 --> 00:04:50.089 sure his testicles, they're underdeveloped. I 00:04:50.089 --> 00:04:54.250 do not think he has any kind of sexual erosion, 00:04:54.730 --> 00:05:00.529 sexual eroticism, any sexual...! I think 00:05:00.529 --> 00:05:06.370 something happened to him when he was five. 00:05:06.370 --> 00:05:09.750 He got trapped into this mother -spirit thing. 00:05:10.850 --> 00:05:15.970 Even, if he went to university. He returned 00:05:15.970 --> 00:05:19.639 home to his mommy. He did not get a wife. He 00:05:19.639 --> 00:05:23.620 did not get anybody. That part of him 00:05:23.620 --> 00:05:28.519 was never developed. I think it is 00:05:28.519 --> 00:05:32.300 over caring from the mother. Mothers have to be careful. 00:05:32.300 --> 00:05:41.120 There is this thing, a mother's love 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:47.230 is a great thing. When we are raising somebody's. 00:05:47.230 --> 00:05:50.189 When we are given the task. When we have 00:05:50.189 --> 00:05:54.750 children we are raising somebody's wife or somebody's 00:05:54.750 --> 00:06:00.610 husband. we have to be careful how we execute 00:06:00.610 --> 00:06:05.230 our responsibility. This is a guy that 00:06:05.230 --> 00:06:10.250 the only outcome of this situation. He will either 00:06:10.250 --> 00:06:13.930 kill his mother or the mother will kill him eventually. 00:06:14.410 --> 00:06:19.269 They are both trapped in this bubble of 00:06:19.269 --> 00:06:27.370 'I just can't get rid of my mother kind of thing' He is 00:06:27.370 --> 00:06:32.709 probably over 35. Ladies ! When we meet a guy. This 00:06:32.709 --> 00:06:39.329 listen very carefully Please listen to this Melissa 00:06:39.329 --> 00:06:49.459 Darlene, Mary-Anne Isabel and Isabella. do you 00:06:49.459 --> 00:06:53.560 see where we're going with this! If we meet a 00:06:53.560 --> 00:07:03.379 man, he said, 'I am 35 and I have never been 00:07:03.379 --> 00:07:06.819 married but I am open to the idea. That is why 00:07:06.819 --> 00:07:10.579 I am here on this date. We are getting excited 00:07:10.579 --> 00:07:15.199 NO! please.. do not we should get the hell out of 00:07:15.199 --> 00:07:20.480 Dodge....! He is 35. He has never been married. 00:07:21.240 --> 00:07:25.879 He has no kids. He has nothing. He is living with 00:07:25.879 --> 00:07:29.939 his mother. His sexual sensibility has not 00:07:29.939 --> 00:07:33.860 been developed. He Is there to replace his 00:07:33.860 --> 00:07:37.800 mommy. That is why he is with her for seven years. 00:07:38.420 --> 00:07:42.670 If she try's to escape... It could become deadly 00:07:42.670 --> 00:07:46.470 for her. This lady that wrote, this letter. I 00:07:46.470 --> 00:07:50.610 think she wrote the letter because she's getting 00:07:50.610 --> 00:07:54.430 suspicious about her situation. Her safety! 00:07:55.550 --> 00:07:58.470 She cannot get out of his bubble that he dropped 00:07:58.470 --> 00:08:02.050 her in. He is not interested in marrying her. 00:08:02.050 --> 00:08:06.850 She is now his surrogate mother. He has no sexual 00:08:06.850 --> 00:08:11.759 erosion for women. It was never developed. 00:08:11.759 --> 00:08:21.139 I am sure his penis probably has never gotten a 00:08:21.139 --> 00:08:25.199 hard erection. He has never had 00:08:25.199 --> 00:08:30.980 an erection. If a man was healthy in that 00:08:30.980 --> 00:08:34.679 department! He would have brought women into his mother's 00:08:34.679 --> 00:08:37.399 house. That would offend the mother. The mother 00:08:37.399 --> 00:08:40.440 probably would throw them out. He would be 00:08:40.440 --> 00:08:44.419 forced to go get his own place. Since he is 00:08:44.419 --> 00:08:50.179 living so peacefully with his mommy. His nuts 00:08:50.179 --> 00:08:54.799 is the size of a five -year -old kid. I am sure...! 00:08:54.799 --> 00:09:01.899 This is just something...! I know okay...! We could 00:09:01.899 --> 00:09:05.379 discuss this with my grandmother for a professional medical assessment but it is unnecessary. 00:09:05.379 --> 00:09:10.500 It is very evident that his nuts was never developed. 00:09:10.500 --> 00:09:15.360 He would have test and bend the bar in 00:09:15.360 --> 00:09:18.899 his mother's house by sneaking women in. When 00:09:18.899 --> 00:09:22.620 he was a teenager or just somethings healthy teenager's 00:09:22.620 --> 00:09:26.200 would do. This would have really upset the mommy. 00:09:26.200 --> 00:09:31.409 She would have kicked them out so, Which would have been 00:09:31.409 --> 00:09:41.730 good for him. the moral of the story is Girls! 00:09:41.730 --> 00:09:44.289 based on what the lady said, we brought James in. 00:09:44.289 --> 00:09:49.889 As a emergency case....!James was briefed on the 00:09:49.889 --> 00:09:54.309 situation. James agreed that he understood this situation. 00:09:54.309 --> 00:09:58.690 When I explained to James! I said James 00:09:58.690 --> 00:10:03.840 if he's manhood was developed beyond five. He 00:10:03.840 --> 00:10:06.799 would have bend the bar at his mother's house. 00:10:06.799 --> 00:10:11.779 With her house rules, it is human nature. He would 00:10:11.779 --> 00:10:17.000 have sneaked girls in, get caught, offend the mother. 00:10:17.519 --> 00:10:20.299 The mother would have probably by now throw 00:10:20.299 --> 00:10:23.279 them out. Which would have been good for him. He would 00:10:23.279 --> 00:10:27.519 have gone and gotten himself his own apartment or 00:10:27.519 --> 00:10:31.340 something and become a man. These things 00:10:31.340 --> 00:10:35.120 never happen. This lady said, she has been dating 00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:39.039 him for seven years. They meet three times for 00:10:39.039 --> 00:10:42.879 lunch or whatever per week, sometimes two, sometimes 00:10:42.879 --> 00:10:45.700 one. He called her three times a day, every day 00:10:45.700 --> 00:10:50.720 for seven years. They have never gone to nowhere. 00:10:50.840 --> 00:10:53.980 He never moved to the sexual zone human urges. He said he wanted to get married. 00:10:53.980 --> 00:10:58.070 He ask to her on the fifth date when they met to marry him. She 00:10:58.070 --> 00:11:01.009 agreed that is why she is stuck in this hellhole 00:11:01.009 --> 00:11:06.629 with him. The relationship has not moved beyond that moment. She asked 00:11:06.629 --> 00:11:09.049 him if he would like them to be best friends. 00:11:09.049 --> 00:11:14.429 He said no! I want you to be my wife. Every 00:11:14.429 --> 00:11:17.690 time she tried to get a wedding planner. He would 00:11:17.690 --> 00:11:27.389 change the topic, citing marriages are so old fashion. 00:11:27.470 --> 00:11:31.950 She said he has never try to get her to go to a hotel 00:11:31.950 --> 00:11:35.610 with him, for just a man maneuva. She started thinking he is married. 00:11:35.610 --> 00:11:40.610 He is satisfied down there in his sex life. Her thoughts' maybe he was 00:11:40.610 --> 00:11:43.389 trying to get a divorce to marry her. That is 00:11:43.389 --> 00:11:49.090 why it was taking so long. We told her, he is 00:11:49.090 --> 00:11:52.090 not married. His down there is not developed. 00:11:52.800 --> 00:11:55.679 That is why he is so happy to see her. He will talk 00:11:55.679 --> 00:12:01.039 about anything freely. She said 00:12:01.039 --> 00:12:05.000 it's almost like her girl buddies. 00:12:05.000 --> 00:12:13.539 They are like two girls talking. He is not gay. 00:12:13.539 --> 00:12:16.240 We explained that her life should she try's to leave 00:12:16.240 --> 00:12:19.919 this guy. He is going to become a stalker. He 00:12:19.919 --> 00:12:24.759 could become deadly and kill her. We are not trying 00:12:24.759 --> 00:12:27.539 to put the fear of anything in her. We are being 00:12:27.539 --> 00:12:31.899 clear. Even his mother's life is not safe 00:12:31.899 --> 00:12:36.179 anymore. I am sure he is over 35 and he 00:12:36.179 --> 00:12:40.600 cannot stand his mother. He hates her.ยด..! He 00:12:40.600 --> 00:12:4 is in a black hole. 00:12:44.220 --> 00:12:48.659 he cannot go left, 00:12:48.659 --> 00 right, in or out. He' is just :12:58.460 stuck in time. How can we fix it? We do not think 00:12:58.460 --> 00:13:02.500 it can be fixed. His nuts...!, they are not 00:13:02.500 --> 00:13:06.179 developed. I mean it is over. His brain 00:13:06.179 --> 00:13:09.899 has moved on. The brain has no more interest 00:13:09.899 --> 00:13:13.860 to fix that department. To make it becomes mature. The brain 00:13:13.860 --> 00:13:18.639 has accepted that this situation was not necessary. 00:13:18.639 --> 00:13:22.309 Since he is going to be living with his mother. 00:13:22.309 --> 00:13:24.909 See what I mean? The universe is very kind to 00:13:24.909 --> 00:13:28.190 him. Because if he was live with his mother. he was getting 00:13:28.190 --> 00:13:31.710 his manhood arose. He cannot find anybody. 00:13:31.909 --> 00:13:36.129 He probably would rape his mother. The universe 00:13:36.129 --> 00:13:40.450 is a very kind instrument. The universe says..! look...!this 00:13:40.450 --> 00:13:43.389 is the guy. He is doing things by living with his mother. Let's 00:13:43.389 --> 00:13:47.529 just cut that thing off. It is unnecessary. 00:13:47.529 --> 00:13:50.230 No one can accuse him of being a rapist. 00:13:50.230 --> 00:13:54.289 He is not interested there is nothing. There is 00:13:54.289 --> 00:14:00.750 no arousal..! no sensibility..! no urges..! oh my goodness 00:14:00.750 --> 00:14:08.889 wow..! Okay girls..! Who said, we have to come 00:14:08.889 --> 00:14:15.090 up with a plan. A sophisticated plan to help 00:14:15.090 --> 00:14:21.539 her exit, This situation. She waste 00:14:21.539 --> 00:14:24.100 seven years of her life. She could have been 00:14:24.100 --> 00:14:28.139 happily married with a family. She has been listening 00:14:28.139 --> 00:14:35.100 to our program. She would like to get into that 00:14:35.100 --> 00:14:40.399 frame of mind. She just cannot get rid of 00:14:40.399 --> 00:14:49.120 him. I hear all the opinions about 00:14:49.120 --> 00:14:56.960 how she should escape. She asked him if he would 00:14:56.960 --> 00:15:00.220 like to be her best friend. He said NO! It was 00:15:00.220 --> 00:15:04.039 very straightforward. The only thing I can see 00:15:04.039 --> 00:15:07.860 her doing is to apply for a job in a different 00:15:07.860 --> 00:15:16.570 state. She probably will have to move 00:15:16.570 --> 00:15:19.289 leave her furniture and everything behind. 00:15:19.289 --> 00:15:26.370 while creating a front like she is still living her house. To escape, I do not know 00:15:26.370 --> 00:15:31.230 if she owns her house or not. Even so she cannot put 00:15:31.230 --> 00:15:34.409 it up her house on the market. she will have to 00:15:34.409 --> 00:15:37.190 paying her rent for 00:15:37.190 --> 00:15:39.370 at least another six months. 00:15:39.370 --> 00:15:44.669 For him to think that she is still living there. 00:15:49.430 --> 00:15:52.450 Girl! see, this is why I said that a man should 00:15:52.450 --> 00:15:56.590 never know a ladies address. He should never know where 00:15:56.590 --> 00:16:00.330 a lady lives unless a lady is married to a gentleman. See 00:16:00.330 --> 00:16:04.250 ,I know my girls, 00:16:04.250 --> 00:16:09.029 sometimes think that I am, AI malfunction, 00:16:09.029 --> 00:16:14.090 see how this is coming into play. This 00:16:14.090 --> 00:16:18.500 guy knows where she live. The only thing for her 00:16:18.500 --> 00:16:23.980 to do is to move to a different state? 00:16:23.980 --> 00:16:29.399 We are talking about her safety. 00:16:29.399 --> 00:16:35.179 He is going to become a stalker. 00:16:38.519 --> 00:16:49.070 James what...! 00:16:49.070 --> 00:16:54.090 James is thinking. That is a good idea. That is 00:16:54.090 --> 00:16:59.370 the only idea. She is going to become missing. she is 00:16:59.370 --> 00:17:02.669 going to become missing. He is not going to just 00:17:02.669 --> 00:17:07.470 let her escape just Like that. He has a routine that 00:17:07.470 --> 00:17:10.769 is in his head. It is working. He has his mother 00:17:10.769 --> 00:17:15.450 he has his surrogate, anybody that try's to break 00:17:15.450 --> 00:17:22.109 that up will face hell. He will be the one to 00:17:22.109 --> 00:17:26.049 do the killing or the removal of limbs or anything 00:17:26.049 --> 00:17:30.930 or removal of a person in the group. He has a 00:17:30.930 --> 00:17:34.670 nice little routine. He calls her three times 00:17:34.670 --> 00:17:40.410 a day. They have lunch three times a week. 00:17:40.410 --> 00:17:52.049 I would say Dear listener from 00:17:52.049 --> 00:17:55.690 where we are sitting the only way out of this 00:17:55.690 --> 00:18:00.190 and since you have been following our teaching then 00:18:00.190 --> 00:18:03.730 you are on a good stand. You know exactly what 00:18:03.730 --> 00:18:12.750 to look for in a relationship. We are advising you to apply for 00:18:12.750 --> 00:18:17.599 a job in a different state leave your apartment 00:18:17.599 --> 00:18:21.359 for at least six months rent paid it up. You will have to 00:18:21.359 --> 00:18:26.680 keep it current. Maybe move your aunt in there for 00:18:26.680 --> 00:18:30.440 six months. Do you have an aunt? do you have a 00:18:30.440 --> 00:18:36.599 someone like ? When 00:18:36.599 --> 00:18:39.660 he comes to the house. They can talk to him. 00:18:40.720 --> 00:18:43.839 I would say, someone liken to a nosy aunt that can 00:18:43.839 --> 00:18:47.259 make conversation and just talk to death, 00:18:47.259 --> 00:18:50.079 don't care whether, you are listening or not. Someone like 00:18:50.079 --> 00:18:55.359 that. When visits and he is trying to ask where you are? 00:18:56.700 --> 00:19:00.319 she can tell him that you are given a special 00:19:00.319 --> 00:19:03.579 assignment overseas because of your job and you'll 00:19:03.579 --> 00:19:13.539 be back in a year. That is a good idea. 00:19:14.500 --> 00:19:19.460 Yeah! So just call him and tell him that you 00:19:19.460 --> 00:19:22.539 have on an assignment overseas. Then simply move to a different 00:19:22.539 --> 00:19:27.759 state. That is a brilliant idea. Keep your 00:19:27.759 --> 00:19:31.640 aunt at this house for at least six months or 00:19:31.640 --> 00:19:35.160 somebody that can talk the hell out of him. 00:19:35.160 --> 00:19:38.539 she will get on his nerves. He will not return. 00:19:39.019 --> 00:19:41.900 They need to be able to get on his nerves. 00:19:41.900 --> 00:19:45. he will leave and forget you because you are overseas. 00:19:45.119 --> 00:19:49.319 You will never call him after you have given him 00:19:49.319 --> 00:19:57.700 the call with a burner phone. Yes..! use a burner 00:19:57.700 --> 00:19:58.299 phone. We will be again!