WEBVTT 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:08.560 Welcome to the 1920s dating experience. It's 00:00:08.560 --> 00:00:17.620 my house and I am the lovely Dr. Barr. Hi Dr. 00:00:17.739 --> 00:00:23.739 Barr. This is the dating season girls and this 00:00:23.739 --> 00:00:27.100 is the time of year when we have our special 00:00:27.100 --> 00:00:32.020 edition. We have five girls. We have 00:00:32.020 --> 00:00:42.960 Darlene, Mary-Anne, Isabella, Isabel and Melissa. 00:00:43.920 --> 00:00:50.299 Melissa is our special attribution today 00:00:50.299 --> 00:00:54.460 because Melissa is our what -if GIRL and she 00:00:54.460 --> 00:00:59.320 has some what -if questions. Since we are all 00:00:59.320 --> 00:01:03.579 love doctors, right Girl? This question is going 00:01:03.579 --> 00:01:13.640 to Dr. Bar, the host of this Love Magnet 00:01:13.640 --> 00:01:19.400 show. This is the time of year when, whosoever 00:01:19.400 --> 00:01:24.939 you meet and greet, it's okay to say yes to marriage, 00:01:25.019 --> 00:01:29.769 it's okay to say yes to forever. It's okay to 00:01:29.769 --> 00:01:35.650 be a romantic. It's okay to be in the clouds. It's 00:01:35.650 --> 00:01:41.510 okay to be in fantasy land If you're a romantic, 00:01:41.510 --> 00:01:44.569 and even if you're not. You can still join the party 00:01:44.569 --> 00:01:48.030 and say yes! it's okay as well because feeling 00:01:48.030 --> 00:01:55.170 good, has no label, with marriage you feel so 00:01:55.170 --> 00:02:00.400 good. It's When you really get the hang of it 00:02:00.400 --> 00:02:05.280 It just has a hundred percent feel -good factor 00:02:05.280 --> 00:02:10.659 right girls and this season we want Everyone 00:02:10.659 --> 00:02:13.740 to experience it. We want them to become a part 00:02:13.740 --> 00:02:25.719 of our Marriage club forever Okay, Melissa Hit 00:02:25.719 --> 00:02:30.860 us hard with the question. This special edition 00:02:30.860 --> 00:02:36.759 is attributed to spring and summer and the pleasure 00:02:36.759 --> 00:02:42.900 of the dating season. It's such an institution, 00:02:43.139 --> 00:02:47.840 isn't it girls? Yeah!, I think the dating season 00:02:47.840 --> 00:02:54.050 is an institution that must be respected. Hi 00:02:54.050 --> 00:02:58.469 girls, Melissa, Darlene, Mary-Anne, Isabel and 00:02:58.469 --> 00:03:03.530 Isabella. Welcome girls. Today's topic as we 00:03:03.530 --> 00:03:07.710 celebrate and welcome springtime and of course 00:03:07.710 --> 00:03:10.669 you know it's the dating season for marriage 00:03:10.669 --> 00:03:15.969 and we're excited about it because we love marriages. 00:03:17.569 --> 00:03:23.590 Melissa is our what -if Girl! She's always been. 00:03:24.449 --> 00:03:27.449 Oh, what if girls? So, at least this question 00:03:27.449 --> 00:03:35.150 is. Girls? Hey, uh, Dr. Barr. What if someone 00:03:35.150 --> 00:03:40.490 goes around/about his or her business, they're already married, they 00:03:40.490 --> 00:03:44.889 would meet someone during the dating season, outside of their marriage! 00:03:48.930 --> 00:03:52.229 And it feels so good. It feels like how it felt 00:03:52.229 --> 00:03:58.449 with their husband, that kind of feeling. How 00:03:58.449 --> 00:04:05.169 should they address this situation? And so before 00:04:05.169 --> 00:04:09.090 I answer the question, Melissa, I would like 00:04:09.090 --> 00:04:15.469 to ask you. So that is scenario one. Do you have 00:04:15.469 --> 00:04:21.439 another scenario? before I answer because I'm 00:04:21.439 --> 00:04:28.939 sure many married people meet and have had this 00:04:28.939 --> 00:04:33.180 kind of interaction with opposite sexes during 00:04:33.180 --> 00:04:39.000 the time for date for marriage and they go home 00:04:39.000 --> 00:04:43.019 to their husbands or their wives and nothing 00:04:43.019 --> 00:04:49.920 become of it. So the person that would entertain 00:04:49.920 --> 00:04:55.220 this to the point where they would try to even 00:04:55.220 --> 00:05:00.459 kind of invade their marriage with the situation. 00:05:03.439 --> 00:05:08.800 You see what I mean? This is a situation of greed 00:05:08.800 --> 00:05:15.319 and it will get ugly because I think in a technical 00:05:15.319 --> 00:05:20.970 way, for this to get drawn out because you meet 00:05:20.970 --> 00:05:24.790 people every day and for you to take it into 00:05:24.790 --> 00:05:30.829 your home. Oh! then it becomes like a parasite 00:05:30.829 --> 00:05:34.990 in the marriage. I'm not happy anymore. I'm not 00:05:34.990 --> 00:05:38.470 fulfilled anymore just because you went and you 00:05:38.470 --> 00:05:43.790 found this new feeling and You're thinking but 00:05:43.790 --> 00:05:47.839 that's how I felt when I met my husband. It 00:05:47.839 --> 00:05:51.459 must be the correct thing to go and ask my husband 00:05:51.459 --> 00:05:59.800 for a divorce to go forth with this person. Right, 00:05:59.959 --> 00:06:12.560 Melissa? You said that it's a case where... It's 00:06:12.560 --> 00:06:14.860 just, it's just one of those like a springtime 00:06:14.860 --> 00:06:20.509 moment where it feels so good. Yeah! but to disrupt 00:06:20.509 --> 00:06:24.870 your marriage to go after a bird in the bush. 00:06:24.870 --> 00:06:31.329 Hey give a dog a bone! All right It's craziness 00:06:31.329 --> 00:06:35.870 and it should not be entertained this guy, that lady 00:06:35.870 --> 00:06:41.689 met! this guy she cannot stop thinking about him 00:06:41.689 --> 00:06:46.120 he never asked her to marry him. He asked nothing, 00:06:46.180 --> 00:06:49.459 he just wanted to enter her marriage to destroy 00:06:49.459 --> 00:06:53.180 it. This guy is either two things, 1. he's married, 00:06:53.259 --> 00:06:59.279 2. he's living with his mother, And 00:06:59.279 --> 00:07:02.339 he's destined to destroy everything he touches 00:07:02.339 --> 00:07:08.519 because he is not getting his way at home. His 00:07:08.519 --> 00:07:12.759 wife is ignoring him and/or his mother... and maybe he is between 00:07:12.759 --> 00:07:15.959 35, 40, with his mother telling him what to do like he's a little 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:19.899 five year old kid. I would suggest that this 00:07:19.899 --> 00:07:24.100 person go home to her husband and make a nice 00:07:24.100 --> 00:07:30.540 meal with candle light and ask her body, mind 00:07:30.540 --> 00:07:35.959 and soul to forgive that moment and let it go. 00:07:37.480 --> 00:07:41.610 Let it go, let it be, let it be gone. This is 00:07:41.610 --> 00:07:44.569 not something you want to go and tell 00:07:44.569 --> 00:07:49.550 your husband you need a divorce. Really? This 00:07:49.550 --> 00:07:52.310 has got to be insanity, Melissa. Could you please 00:07:52.310 --> 00:08:09.300 tell that person? to make her husband, a nice meal? and 00:08:09.300 --> 00:08:11.860 take care of her husband and her home and her 00:08:11.860 --> 00:08:15.680 family and forget this garbage. She's a married 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:18.819 woman and she's not supposed to meet anyone. 00:08:19.620 --> 00:08:21.740 It doesn't matter the feeling that she's having. 00:08:21.800 --> 00:08:23.939 she's a human, of course she's going to have 00:08:23.939 --> 00:08:30.459 feelings. And as long as she's alive and healthy, 00:08:30.500 --> 00:08:33.980 it's the healthy thing to have feelings. But 00:08:33.980 --> 00:08:36.620 it's the healthy thing to go home to her husband. 00:08:36.740 --> 00:08:40.019 she is married, and it is non -negotiable. This 00:08:40.019 --> 00:08:46.279 guy is a demon and he should leave his mother's 00:08:46.279 --> 00:08:50.799 basement and go get his own apartment and get 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:54.779 his own wife. On the other hand if he's married 00:08:54.779 --> 00:08:57.299 he should go home and have respect for his home 00:08:57.299 --> 00:09:00.039 and his wife, maybe his wife will sleep with 00:09:00.039 --> 00:09:03.340 him if he start having respect for her because 00:09:03.340 --> 00:09:06.179 if he did he would not be out and about trying 00:09:06.179 --> 00:09:10.450 to find a girl to take to bed, because that's 00:09:10.450 --> 00:09:13.529 what he wants. He just wants one moment with 00:09:13.529 --> 00:09:17.009 this lady. And she's going to destroy her marriage 00:09:17.009 --> 00:09:25.210 for this. The answer is no. Right girls? We all 00:09:25.210 --> 00:09:32.769 voted. Melissa? You agree? No? Okay. Mary-Anne? 00:09:32.990 --> 00:09:40.440 No. Darlene? No. Isabella, no! Isabel, no! 00:09:41.799 --> 00:09:50.659 We all, our loyalty belongs to marriage. I am 00:09:50.659 --> 00:09:53.240 Dr. Barr. We'll be again.