WEBVTT 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:08.580 Welcome to the 1920s dating experience. It's 00:00:08.580 --> 00:00:17.620 my house and I am the lovely Dr. Bar. Hi Dr. 00:00:17.780 --> 00:00:23.739 Bar. This is the dating season girls and this 00:00:23.739 --> 00:00:27.899 is the time of year when we have a special edition. 00:00:28.039 --> 00:00:32.840 We have five girls. We have Darlene, 00:00:33.219 --> 00:00:44.079 Mary-Anne, Isabella, Isabel and Melissa. 00:00:44.079 --> 00:00:50.1 James is our special attribution today because 00:00:50.179 --> 00:00:57.659 James is searching for his wife and we are on 00:00:57.659 --> 00:01:03.490 the bus. Yes! indeed. We will be helping, James 00:01:03.490 --> 00:01:13.650 in his quest. Welcome, James! James would like 00:01:13.650 --> 00:01:20.609 to know... On his first date, What is the first conversation. We speak 00:01:20.609 --> 00:01:27.310 of...! after knowing this is his wife from the first seconds of meeting. 00:01:28.340 --> 00:01:38.859 Sitting down in that arena one -on -one the proper 00:01:38.859 --> 00:01:43.140 hearing yes! Darlene, I remember we discussed that 00:01:43.140 --> 00:01:47.939 to decipher, that in a mall could be compromising 00:01:47.939 --> 00:01:51.900 so it's best you get a correct hearing in the form 00:01:51.900 --> 00:01:57.629 of a lunch or breakfast and James now as we move 00:01:57.629 --> 00:02:03.950 closer to spring, James would like to know, right 00:02:03.950 --> 00:02:08.669 Melissa, what if? Now he would like to know what 00:02:08.669 --> 00:02:14.409 to say after the spiritual connection when it 00:02:14.409 --> 00:02:19.789 is very clear that this is indeed my wife. What 00:02:19.789 --> 00:02:30.310 do I say? Of course he... can hold off on his 00:02:30.310 --> 00:02:34.150 dream and aspiration. In this case, as we analyze 00:02:34.150 --> 00:02:38.629 the situation, and to be fair. We said 00:02:38.629 --> 00:02:44.009 that a man is 1. He is responsible for the 00:02:44.009 --> 00:02:47.310 bills because he's practicing to be a husband. 00:02:48.409 --> 00:02:53.229 2. He must be employed before he started to 00:02:53.229 --> 00:02:58.129 seek a wife. That's non -negotiable. okay those 00:02:58.129 --> 00:03:03.669 things must be ironed out and very clear so with 00:03:03.669 --> 00:03:11.409 a woman a man should never marry a lady unless. 00:03:11.409 --> 00:03:16.069 She's able to make three square meals breakfast 00:03:16.069 --> 00:03:25.569 lunch and dinner at least and basic needlework experience. 00:03:26.319 --> 00:03:31.840 In the event she needs to repair a button, a 00:03:31.840 --> 00:03:39.300 snap seam or something, or put a little bit of 00:03:39.300 --> 00:03:42.020 accessory on the Christmas tree that require 00:03:42.020 --> 00:03:45.740 needlework. It's not everything you need to 00:03:45.740 --> 00:03:50.300 outsource labor. Those little intimate things 00:03:50.300 --> 00:03:56.430 should be done by the wife. Okay. But above all 00:03:56.430 --> 00:04:03.509 James, above all, I can promise you that the 00:04:03.509 --> 00:04:11.509 spirit will not align you with a soul, an opposite 00:04:11.509 --> 00:04:16.889 soul unless she's ready for marriage. But certain 00:04:16.889 --> 00:04:21.129 little things like! She must be shiny as grandpa 00:04:21.129 --> 00:04:25.350 said, shiny meaning Her hair must be well groomed. 00:04:25.490 --> 00:04:30.829 Her skin must be very clean and healthy. Her 00:04:30.829 --> 00:04:36.209 nails must be done. She must be properly dressed, 00:04:36.589 --> 00:04:39.610 look well rested like she has had a good night's 00:04:39.610 --> 00:04:49.129 sleep. And, above all, when you speak, she should 00:04:49.129 --> 00:04:56.610 be quiet, listening to you. Okay! Mary-Anne, you 00:04:56.610 --> 00:05:03.629 ask why she has to be quiet. You said that you 00:05:03.629 --> 00:05:06.709 understood that but for people who are listening 00:05:06.709 --> 00:05:13.850 and they wanted to have all the little nuances 00:05:13.850 --> 00:05:19.009 of answers and reasoning. Okay! This is a clear 00:05:19.009 --> 00:05:23.889 sign that she will not have respect for her husband. 00:05:25.389 --> 00:05:30.930 when they're married. When they go out in a public 00:05:30.930 --> 00:05:35.110 scenario, even at home. He will not be given 00:05:35.110 --> 00:05:41.490 respect when he's speaking and she's overshutting 00:05:41.490 --> 00:05:46.829 the conversation, meaning she disrupts him, she's 00:05:46.829 --> 00:05:50.810 going to be doing that in public. While in public 00:05:50.810 --> 00:05:55.009 as a couple, you unite and close rank. It's non 00:05:55.009 --> 00:05:59.529 -negotiable. You're just in public, you're together, 00:05:59.730 --> 00:06:03.790 you close rank. It's both of you against the 00:06:03.790 --> 00:06:18.470 world. Well, in this case... Well, in this case... 00:06:18.470 --> 00:06:22.899 When it's... when she would behave like this. 00:06:25.100 --> 00:06:30.959 She is practicing how to be a wife, a mother 00:06:30.959 --> 00:06:39.839 and a caregiver. And if she's not groomed properly 00:06:39.839 --> 00:06:42.120 there's no way she will be able to take care 00:06:42.120 --> 00:06:48.389 of the kids or take care of her husband. She 00:06:48.389 --> 00:06:50.569 didn't, for instance, if she didn't bother to 00:06:50.569 --> 00:06:53.050 brush her hair, she couldn't care less. She's 00:06:53.050 --> 00:06:56.670 these kind of thing. It's a telltale sign that 00:06:56.670 --> 00:06:59.649 this lady's not ready for marriage and should 00:06:59.649 --> 00:07:04.089 not be on an interview for marriage because a 00:07:04.089 --> 00:07:08.750 date is an interview for marriage. Let's not 00:07:08.750 --> 00:07:14.310 misunderstand the situation here, girls! And... 00:07:14.329 --> 00:07:17.290 constantly interrupting your husband when he's 00:07:17.290 --> 00:07:23.029 speaking. It means that this lady grew up in 00:07:23.029 --> 00:07:26.529 a household that has no masculine influence inside 00:07:26.529 --> 00:07:31.250 of it. She probably was raised by three generations 00:07:31.250 --> 00:07:38.209 of women. It's a very vulgar soul you're having 00:07:38.209 --> 00:07:45.199 a meal with and I would not... want to see her 00:07:45.199 --> 00:07:50.560 again and James don't be worried about it because 00:07:50.560 --> 00:07:54.379 the spirit will not align you with someone that 00:07:54.379 --> 00:07:59.500 is not ready for you but the question you should 00:07:59.500 --> 00:08:05.439 ask her is her hobbies just ask what are your 00:08:05.439 --> 00:08:12.160 hobbies and her hobbies should be cooking, a 00:08:12.160 --> 00:08:16.180 little sewing, things like that, feminine stuff. 00:08:19.040 --> 00:08:22.319 Yes, of course she can play tennis and all those 00:08:22.319 --> 00:08:29.100 things, but the basic things that makes life 00:08:29.100 --> 00:08:35.580 function is the things you do in the house. And 00:08:35.580 --> 00:08:39.919 as the house manager, James, she's going to be 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:48.419 the house manager. She must be able to be up 00:08:48.419 --> 00:08:52.100 two hours before you in the morning, get herself 00:08:52.100 --> 00:08:55.159 ready, get downstairs to make your breakfast, 00:08:55.820 --> 00:08:59.740 get the kids ready if there are any kids, whether 00:08:59.740 --> 00:09:02.759 they're 0 to 20, so they sit at the table with 00:09:02.759 --> 00:09:05.960 you for breakfast, and when you go off to work. They can go 00:09:05.960 --> 00:09:11.019 back to bed. But they must be there at the table 00:09:11.019 --> 00:09:14.840 and she must be prepared and prepare your meal 00:09:14.840 --> 00:09:18.919 for you to go to work. When you come home 00:09:18.919 --> 00:09:23.080 the kids must be clean and lined up to greet 00:09:23.080 --> 00:09:28.240 Papa Okay! she's the house manager. A helper in 00:09:28.240 --> 00:09:34.340 the house, the role of a helper Is not supposed 00:09:34.340 --> 00:09:38.970 to make the meal the helper should be fed by 00:09:38.970 --> 00:09:42.970 the lady of the house. After that, they should start to 00:09:42.970 --> 00:09:46.409 do their cleaning work. That's how it's done. 00:09:47.070 --> 00:09:50.169 The helper is not supposed to be cooking because 00:09:50.169 --> 00:09:53.990 the helper is not a chef. A household helper 00:09:53.990 --> 00:09:57.250 supposed to organize the kitchen and get it ready 00:09:57.250 --> 00:09:59.570 for the wife. When she's ready to make the meal 00:09:59.570 --> 00:10:06.389 again. Of course you can have a chef but your 00:10:06.389 --> 00:10:11.629 wife supposed to be in charge at least two days 00:10:11.629 --> 00:10:20.330 when the chef is on his or her day off. That's 00:10:20.330 --> 00:10:24.490 what it is a house manager. She organized the 00:10:24.490 --> 00:10:28.590 gardener, the helper, the chef, everything and 00:10:28.590 --> 00:10:34.049 she is in charge of the kitchen. And it is non 00:10:34.049 --> 00:10:37.090 -negotiable James, a man is not supposed to come 00:10:37.090 --> 00:10:43.529 home and make a meal and bath time for the kids 00:10:43.529 --> 00:10:47.409 and all these things when he is working outside 00:10:47.409 --> 00:10:49.750 of the house and he's not the house manager. 00:10:50.309 --> 00:11:00.909 She is. So, please do not see or ask to see a 00:11:00.909 --> 00:11:04.730 lady that the spirit did not give you that, 00:11:04.730 --> 00:11:10.289 signal that green light. And she must 00:11:10.289 --> 00:11:15.370 be very well groomed. That is non -negotiable. 00:11:18.970 --> 00:11:24.769 Okay girls! What do you think? Okay. You girls! 00:11:24.769 --> 00:11:29.429 just love it, don't you? You just love it. Right 00:11:29.429 --> 00:11:34.610 James? So James, you're first. Now you're ready 00:11:34.610 --> 00:11:38.429 and totally. With our blessing to go on your 00:11:38.429 --> 00:11:42.870 first date and keep us posted. As usual, and 00:11:42.870 --> 00:11:47.929 I must say ladies remember, James is an ALPHA 00:11:47.929 --> 00:11:51.250 male. He has sorted things out with his family, 00:11:51.490 --> 00:11:56.129 his mama. He's the perfect husband. We wish you 00:11:56.129 --> 00:12:00.110 well, James, and keep us posted. Bye, James. 00:12:00.809 --> 00:12:09.159 Bye, boy. I am Dr Bar! We'll be again. We'll be again.