Welcome to the 1920s dating experience. It's
my house and I am the lovely Dr. Bar. Hi Dr.
Bar. This is the dating season girls and this
is the time of year when we have a special edition.
We have five girls. We have Darlene,
Mary-Anne, Isabella, Isabel and Melissa.
James is our special attribution today because
James is searching for his wife and we are on
the bus. Yes! indeed. We will be helping, James
in his quest. Welcome, James! James would like
to know... On his first date, What is the first conversation. We speak
of...! after knowing this is his wife from the first seconds of meeting.
Sitting down in that arena one -on -one the proper
hearing yes! Darlene, I remember we discussed that
to decipher, that in a mall could be compromising
so it's best you get a correct hearing in the form
of a lunch or breakfast and James now as we move
closer to spring, James would like to know, right
Melissa, what if? Now he would like to know what
to say after the spiritual connection when it
is very clear that this is indeed my wife. What
do I say? Of course he... can hold off on his
dream and aspiration. In this case, as we analyze
the situation, and to be fair. We said
that a man is 1. He is responsible for the
bills because he's practicing to be a husband.
2. He must be employed before he started to
seek a wife. That's non -negotiable. okay those
things must be ironed out and very clear so with
a woman a man should never marry a lady unless.
She's able to make three square meals breakfast
lunch and dinner at least and basic needlework experience.
In the event she needs to repair a button, a
snap seam or something, or put a little bit of
accessory on the Christmas tree that require
needlework. It's not everything you need to
outsource labor. Those little intimate things
should be done by the wife. Okay. But above all
James, above all, I can promise you that the
spirit will not align you with a soul, an opposite
soul unless she's ready for marriage. But certain
little things like! She must be shiny as grandpa
said, shiny meaning Her hair must be well groomed.
Her skin must be very clean and healthy. Her
nails must be done. She must be properly dressed,
look well rested like she has had a good night's
sleep. And, above all, when you speak, she should
be quiet, listening to you. Okay! Mary-Anne, you
ask why she has to be quiet. You said that you
understood that but for people who are listening
and they wanted to have all the little nuances
of answers and reasoning. Okay! This is a clear
sign that she will not have respect for her husband.
when they're married. When they go out in a public
scenario, even at home. He will not be given
respect when he's speaking and she's overshutting
the conversation, meaning she disrupts him, she's
going to be doing that in public. While in public
as a couple, you unite and close rank. It's non
-negotiable. You're just in public, you're together,
you close rank. It's both of you against the
world. Well, in this case... Well, in this case...
When it's... when she would behave like this.
She is practicing how to be a wife, a mother
and a caregiver. And if she's not groomed properly
there's no way she will be able to take care
of the kids or take care of her husband. She
didn't, for instance, if she didn't bother to
brush her hair, she couldn't care less. She's
these kind of thing. It's a telltale sign that
this lady's not ready for marriage and should
not be on an interview for marriage because a
date is an interview for marriage. Let's not
misunderstand the situation here, girls! And...
constantly interrupting your husband when he's
speaking. It means that this lady grew up in
a household that has no masculine influence inside
of it. She probably was raised by three generations
of women. It's a very vulgar soul you're having
a meal with and I would not... want to see her
again and James don't be worried about it because
the spirit will not align you with someone that
is not ready for you but the question you should
ask her is her hobbies just ask what are your
hobbies and her hobbies should be cooking, a
little sewing, things like that, feminine stuff.
Yes, of course she can play tennis and all those
things, but the basic things that makes life
function is the things you do in the house. And
as the house manager, James, she's going to be
the house manager. She must be able to be up
two hours before you in the morning, get herself
ready, get downstairs to make your breakfast,
get the kids ready if there are any kids, whether
they're 0 to 20, so they sit at the table with
you for breakfast, and when you go off to work. They can go
back to bed. But they must be there at the table
and she must be prepared and prepare your meal
for you to go to work. When you come home
the kids must be clean and lined up to greet
Papa Okay! she's the house manager. A helper in
the house, the role of a helper Is not supposed
to make the meal the helper should be fed by
the lady of the house. After that, they should start to
do their cleaning work. That's how it's done.
The helper is not supposed to be cooking because
the helper is not a chef. A household helper
supposed to organize the kitchen and get it ready
for the wife. When she's ready to make the meal
again. Of course you can have a chef but your
wife supposed to be in charge at least two days
when the chef is on his or her day off. That's
what it is a house manager. She organized the
gardener, the helper, the chef, everything and
she is in charge of the kitchen. And it is non
-negotiable James, a man is not supposed to come
home and make a meal and bath time for the kids
and all these things when he is working outside
of the house and he's not the house manager.
She is. So, please do not see or ask to see a
lady that the spirit did not give you that,
signal that green light. And she must
be very well groomed. That is non -negotiable.
Okay girls! What do you think? Okay. You girls!
just love it, don't you? You just love it. Right
James? So James, you're first. Now you're ready
and totally. With our blessing to go on your
first date and keep us posted. As usual, and
I must say ladies remember, James is an ALPHA
male. He has sorted things out with his family,
his mama. He's the perfect husband. We wish you
well, James, and keep us posted. Bye, James.
Bye, boy. I am Dr Bar! We'll be again. We'll be again.