WEBVTT 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:08.580 Welcome to the 1920s dating experience. It's 00:00:08.580 --> 00:00:17.620 my house and I am the lovely Dr. Bar. Hi Dr. 00:00:17.780 --> 00:00:23.739 Bar. This is the dating season girls and this 00:00:23.739 --> 00:00:27.899 is the time of year when we have a special edition. 00:00:28.039 --> 00:00:32.840 We have five girls. We have Darlene, 00:00:33.240 --> 00:00:46.219 Mary-Ann, Isabella, Isabel and Melissa. The attribution 00:00:46.219 --> 00:00:53.820 today is Isabella. This global political party 00:00:53.820 --> 00:00:59.240 special that we're doing dating in the 1920s 00:00:59.240 --> 00:01:08.980 and it is springtime and we are preparing one 00:01:08.980 --> 00:01:13.760 and all to find that special someone for marriage, 00:01:14.019 --> 00:01:28.409 right girls? And Isabella wanted to know How 00:01:28.409 --> 00:01:34.950 do you... After meeting, This is a question and 00:01:34.950 --> 00:01:39.790 I think it's a good one. I must say that 00:01:39.790 --> 00:01:46.370 Dr. Bar does not approach questions on feelings. 00:01:47.409 --> 00:01:50.409 I have no feelings in the matter and I have no 00:01:50.409 --> 00:01:55.209 opinion. I am going to do it based on facts and 00:01:55.209 --> 00:02:02.719 practicality. So that's why Melissa, Mary-Anne, 00:02:03.060 --> 00:02:06.959 Darlene, Isabel and Isabella can always ask 00:02:06.959 --> 00:02:11.960 Dr. Barr anything and the girls collect the questions 00:02:11.960 --> 00:02:16.939 from the emails and ask Dr. Barr to deal with 00:02:16.939 --> 00:02:22.840 it. So Dr. Barr has no connection with the harvesting 00:02:24.989 --> 00:02:30.110 of the question. I am given the question and 00:02:30.110 --> 00:02:33.990 I will handle the question as how they were given 00:02:33.990 --> 00:02:39.550 to me. Okay, so let's go girls. The question 00:02:39.550 --> 00:02:44.990 is. It is very important for us to define the 00:02:44.990 --> 00:02:50.770 protocols of dating and procedure. So okay, it's 00:02:50.770 --> 00:02:56.759 the protocol and the procedure. All right. Isabella, 00:02:57.620 --> 00:03:02.740 you said that, for instance, you would meet someone 00:03:02.740 --> 00:03:06.080 in the right time. It's the dating season, and 00:03:06.080 --> 00:03:11.960 you meet someone. The dating 1920s protocol that we 00:03:11.960 --> 00:03:18.120 govern by here, we do not use modern technology. 00:03:18.340 --> 00:03:21.879 It has to be an old organizer. It has to be an 00:03:21.879 --> 00:03:29.000 old calendar. It's just pen and paper and no 00:03:29.000 --> 00:03:34.419 telephone, no computers, none whatsoever. Okay? 00:03:34.900 --> 00:03:40.099 Got that. Clear. The situation is that the girls 00:03:40.099 --> 00:03:44.300 are saying that the questions are coming in asking, 00:03:45.479 --> 00:03:49.919 so how do you communicate? That's a totally excellent 00:03:49.919 --> 00:03:54.909 question. Okay, you meet someone, let's just 00:03:54.909 --> 00:04:01.310 say in the mall. Okay, you agree to go on a date 00:04:01.310 --> 00:04:08.069 in seven days. You will pull out a little organizer 00:04:08.069 --> 00:04:14.310 and write the date there. This person should 00:04:14.310 --> 00:04:18.610 not know if you have a telephone or not. Okay, 00:04:18.829 --> 00:04:21.589 if it's for dating. If it's for other reasons sure you 00:04:21.589 --> 00:04:25.550 can Give or whatever, but when it comes on 00:04:25.550 --> 00:04:31.029 to dating. Let us be clear. This is the 1920s 00:04:31.029 --> 00:04:39.009 dating style and That the situation is older time, but You 00:04:39.009 --> 00:04:43.009 see where we're going with this. So okay. 00:04:43.009 --> 00:04:50.459 okay is about the question is What is the protocol 00:04:50.459 --> 00:05:02.740 and procedure for timeline inspired by the 1920s? 00:05:03.560 --> 00:05:10.319 Meaning, step one, you meet, follow up procedures, 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:24.060 guidelines and protocol. up to the wedding 00:05:24.060 --> 00:05:31.860 day and beyond? That's the question, right? That's 00:05:31.860 --> 00:05:36.439 the answers you need, okay? So, in this video 00:05:36.439 --> 00:05:41.860 we will be addressing this and James will join 00:05:41.860 --> 00:05:49.240 us because James needs to know step one... we 00:05:49.240 --> 00:05:57.519 will not be overwhelming. We will do it slowly 00:05:57.519 --> 00:06:02.819 so it's easier to adopt, adaptation is very important 00:06:02.819 --> 00:06:12.959 if it must be a success because as we move into 00:06:12.959 --> 00:06:17.160 our current situation where it's so easy for 00:06:17.160 --> 00:06:21.180 us to give a number, do this, and invade your 00:06:21.180 --> 00:06:26.420 personal space. If a gentleman would like to 00:06:26.420 --> 00:06:30.519 have that time with you, he should ask you to 00:06:30.519 --> 00:06:35.220 marry him. When you say goodbye at the restaurant, 00:06:36.300 --> 00:06:42.720 that's it. If there wasn't an initiation, okay, 00:06:42.740 --> 00:06:46.860 Can we see again? Because again means marriage. 00:06:47.920 --> 00:06:51.180 There's no need for you to entertain the same 00:06:51.180 --> 00:06:58.399 person twice. For what? This is what happened. 00:07:00.139 --> 00:07:07.879 It gets disrespectful. It gets pregnancy without 00:07:07.879 --> 00:07:17.759 marriage. It gets kids that no one wants. abuse 00:07:17.759 --> 00:07:25.879 and disrespect so timeline is very important 00:07:25.879 --> 00:07:35.339 so let us focus on Isabella and girls we will be 00:07:35.339 --> 00:07:39.779 addressing the appointment the first appointment 00:07:39.779 --> 00:08:03.129 the scenario as you know girls James will be 00:08:03.129 --> 00:08:09.709 joining us today so the scenario is: Boy goes to 00:08:09.709 --> 00:08:14.970 the mall girl goes to the mall, boy meet girl, 00:08:14.970 --> 00:08:21.689 boy ask girl for a date, girl says, yes okay! the 00:08:21.689 --> 00:08:28.629 timeline is okay. They agreed to meet for breakfast 00:08:29.959 --> 00:08:35.740 And breakfast is a very sure sign that he's employed 00:08:35.740 --> 00:08:41.019 because you will both be in a hurry. You have 00:08:41.019 --> 00:08:45.639 maybe one hour for breakfast. Lunch, he could 00:08:45.639 --> 00:08:49.539 be unemployed and pretending that he is, but 00:08:49.539 --> 00:08:55.379 usually breakfast is the sure sign. The presentation 00:08:55.379 --> 00:08:59.980 is going to be... elegant, sophistication, and 00:08:59.980 --> 00:09:02.720 clean. He's on his way to work, you're on your 00:09:02.720 --> 00:09:07.559 way to work, or maybe not, maybe you got dolled 00:09:07.559 --> 00:09:09.820 up just for the occasion, but you're a girl, 00:09:10.000 --> 00:09:17.059 it's okay! Breakfast, I would recommend, 00:09:17.259 --> 00:09:22.279 because it tells you he's employed, or he's a 00:09:22.279 --> 00:09:29.049 great pretender. You'll see how he would... be 00:09:29.049 --> 00:09:37.370 dressed on his way to work. Okay? And you should 00:09:37.370 --> 00:09:40.370 make your way there independently. He should 00:09:40.370 --> 00:09:42.470 not know your address. You should not know his 00:09:42.470 --> 00:09:44.610 address. You should not know where he works. 00:09:45.009 --> 00:09:48.190 He should not know where you work. The mystery 00:09:48.190 --> 00:09:53.610 of the situation is the diamond in the rough. 00:09:54.379 --> 00:09:58.639 You want to maintain that mystery, it's the lady, 00:09:59.759 --> 00:10:03.820 and you command that mystery. Every man wants 00:10:03.820 --> 00:10:13.320 one. You make sure you are so shiny, he cannot 00:10:13.320 --> 00:10:21.960 do without you, when you present yourself. The 00:10:21.960 --> 00:10:27.080 fine print is... Ladies and gentlemen, you should 00:10:27.080 --> 00:10:31.080 make your way there 15 minutes early. You should 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:36.320 arrive independently. This is the first date. 00:10:36.960 --> 00:10:41.139 And I must tell you, ladies, if you're unable 00:10:41.139 --> 00:10:44.460 to prepare three meals, breakfast, lunch, and 00:10:44.460 --> 00:10:48.519 dinner, you're unable to do basic needlework, 00:10:50.980 --> 00:10:54.000 and you're a bummer at... basic conversation 00:10:54.000 --> 00:10:58.360 you're not ready to go on a date you're not ready 00:10:58.360 --> 00:11:13.000 to be married and you should have That experience okay! Isabelle 00:11:13.000 --> 00:11:18.860 , Isabella second question is after the 00:11:18.860 --> 00:11:24.230 first date is done. We will address this in part 00:11:24.230 --> 00:11:29.850 two. You would have already agreed 00:11:29.850 --> 00:11:35.809 on the next date. Before you leave the restaurant 00:11:35.809 --> 00:11:41.190 That's why you never give your telephone number 00:11:41.190 --> 00:11:44.549 Because if he wants your telephone number he 00:11:44.549 --> 00:11:48.909 should ask you to marry him. In the second date 00:11:49.840 --> 00:11:57.519 This means that you both had this spiritual connection 00:11:57.519 --> 00:12:01.539 that you can feel it because a man usually knows 00:12:01.539 --> 00:12:05.080 his wife already, from the first date, the first 00:12:05.080 --> 00:12:10.059 seconds of meeting. So in the second date 00:12:10.059 --> 00:12:15.879 we will address the protocol of a second date 00:12:15.879 --> 00:12:22.850 moving forward. this is the first date. If after 00:12:22.850 --> 00:12:27.970 the first date, there is no initiation of another meet-up 00:12:27.970 --> 00:12:31.889 for a second date. then you say your goodbyes 00:12:31.889 --> 00:12:37.470 and you go on your merry ways. Please do not take 00:12:37.470 --> 00:12:43.830 any continuation, like telephone number, no it's 00:12:43.830 --> 00:12:47.059 unnecessary, then clearly! it's not your guy and it's not your 00:12:47.059 --> 00:12:54.100 girl. You must let it be and move on, to another date. 00:12:54.100 --> 00:13:05.620 My Girls already knows this! ladies you should have an inside look that he 00:13:05.620 --> 00:13:10.940 will only discover this look after marriage because 00:13:10.940 --> 00:13:15.899 that's a look that you will need for the pool 00:13:15.899 --> 00:13:23.440 breakfast, pool parties. The weekend pool parties. 00:13:23.440 --> 00:13:31.179 Your inside look is that breakfast sophistication 00:13:31.179 --> 00:13:40.059 you must acquire an inside look that is your 00:13:40.059 --> 00:13:46.139 signature look in the house You have to be shiny 00:13:46.139 --> 00:13:53.480 at home. Sparkling, actually. And that is non 00:13:53.480 --> 00:13:57.120 -negotiable. What I'm doing, girls? James, do 00:13:57.120 --> 00:14:02.980 you like it? Yeah! I am Dr. Bar. we will be again!